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Self-Carved

by Ivana Vuletic

Self-Carved is the podcast for women with disorganized attachment (fearful avoidant) who are done with toxic cycles, self-doubt, and settling for breadcrumbs. If you crave deep love but constantly push it away, overgive, or second-guess yourself—this is where you break the pattern. Expect psychological deep dives, raw truths, and no-fluff strategies that help you build unshakable self-worth, trust yourself fully, and finally attract the secure, high-caliber love you deserve. It’s time to step out of survival mode and into your power. The Self-Carved woman doesn’t beg for love—she chooses it.

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Episodes

  1. Poor Boundaries vs. Too Firm: The Hidden Wound Behind Both

    Are your boundaries too soft… or too strict? Most women fall into one of two extremes: They either give too much and lose themselves… Or push everyone away to protect themselves. But underneath both? The same root wound: “I’m not worthy of love as I am.” In this episode, I break down the...

  2. It Was Never You — It Was Their Projection

    Ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Did I do something wrong?” even though you were just being honest? That’s the hidden weapon of projection—and it’s how toxic people transfer their unhealed wounds onto you. In this episode, we unpack: - What projection really is (and why it’s so...

  3. You’re Not Procrastinating—You’re Protecting Yourself: The Real Reason You’re Still Playing Small

    This message will hit different if you’ve ever been called “too much” or felt afraid to be seen. In this episode, we go deep into why healing doesn't always mean you're growing—and how your inner child might be the one calling the shots.

  4. Why You Were Taught to Tone It Down — And How It’s Still Controlling Your Life

    Were you celebrated for who you truly were as a little girl… or quietly taught to tone it down? In this episode, we’re going straight to the root—the moments in childhood when you learned it wasn’t safe to be fully you. Not to stay stuck in the past, but to uncover the exact point you…

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  5. Why You Still Feel Off (Even After Doing Everything Right)

    You journaled. You prayed. You did the work. So why does your body still feel heavy? This episode is the truth most coaches won’t tell you: You can do all the “healing work” and still feel broken if your nervous system hasn’t caught up. You can apply every strategy, and still feel stuck—because…

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  6. You’re Not Broken—You’re Just Finally Feeling Everything

    You thought you were past the worst of it… But then, when the chaos quieted down—everything crashed. In this episode, I break down what actually happens when your nervous system is no longer in survival mode—and why it might feel like you’re falling apart even though you’ve “done the work.”…

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  7. When Doing the Work Still Leaves You Broken

    You’re meditating. You’re journaling. You’re doing everything “right”… So why does it still feel like you’re falling apart? In this episode, I share the truth about what happens when high-functioning women finally slow down after survival mode—and why the healing tools stop working unless your...

  8. The Crash You Don’t Expect: What Happens After You Hold It Together

    You held it all together... until your body started falling apart. This is the part of healing no one warned you about: when the chaos ends, the crash begins. In this episode, I reveal the emotional aftermath of high-functioning survival mode—how it disguises itself as discipline, delays grief…

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  9. Did My Manifestation Fail Because I Got Divorced?

    You can manifest something… and still let it go.You can live the dream… and later outgrow it. This episode unpacks the real reason your manifestation didn’t fail—your soul simply evolved. Let’s talk about shame, self-reclamation, and what it means to be brave enough to pivot. I’m sharing a deeply...

  10. The Wounded Little Girl vs. The Empowered Woman

    Are you healing—or still waiting to be saved? In this episode, we unpack the trauma response keeping high-value women stuck in survival mode. ✨ Want the deeper work? Instagram: @selfcarved Self-Talk Reset Guide: www.selfcarved.com/self-talk-reset-guide

  11. Narcissistic Parents, Trauma Bonds & the Riverdale Metaphor You Didn’t Know You Needed

    This isn’t just a Riverdale scene—it’s a masterclass in trauma bonds, emotional caregiving, and why powerful women stay in toxic love. ✨ Want the deeper work? Instagram: ⁠@selfcarved⁠ Self-Talk Reset Guide: ⁠www.selfcarved.com/self-talk-reset-guide

  12. When You Put Your Worth in His Hands, You Lose Yourself

    When a woman disconnects from her worth, she tends to go one of two ways: ➡️ She becomes performative and approval-hungry—living for his texts, his validation, his breadcrumbs... OR ➡️ She pretends she doesn’t care at all—masking her pain with arrogance, shutdown energy, and “whatever” vibes....

  13. The Healing Woman: Seeking Understanding over Judgment

    In this episode, we dive into the first essential trait of the healing woman—her ability to seek understanding rather than rush to judgment. True healing starts from within, and that begins when we open ourselves to deeper awareness, empathy, and compassion. Connect with me on social media:...

  14. Embodying the 'Wife' Archetype Energy in Dating and Relationships

    In this episode, we dive deep into the 'Wife' Archetype, a powerful blend of the Wise Woman and Wonder Woman. Whether you're single or in a relationship, understanding and embodying this archetype can transform how you navigate dating and relationships. Learn how to balance feminine wisdom with...

  15. Dissect Your Past Dating Experiences

    The first step to transforming your dating experiences and relationships with my DESIRE method is to dissect your past. In this episode, we'll explore how understanding your past can unlock the door to the love life you truly desire. Connect with me on social media: Instagram:...

  16. Reconnecting with Your Inner 'Wise Woman'

    In this episode we dive into the Wise Woman archetype (feminine energy), and why it's crucial to embody "HER." Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@IvanaSelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal:...

  17. Addressing & Breaking Your Patterns

    In this episode, we discuss the importance of addressing and breaking patterns in your life to unlock your full potential. Whether it's repetitive behaviors, negative thoughts, or limiting beliefs, toxic patterns can keep you stuck in cycles that hinder healing, personal growth, healthy...

  18. Redefining Success through Healing (ft. Yadira Maldonado)

    In this episode, you'll hear about Yadira's journey; where she was when we first started working together; how her experience was coaching with me; her breakthroughs; where she is today, and so much more! Yadira went from: Business-focused only to self-focused, first. People pleasing to healthy...

  19. Are You Attracted to Possessive People?

    This podcast episode delves into why you may be drawn to possessive people in dating. We highlight factors like familiarity with controlling dynamics, seeking security, struggles with self-esteem, fear of abandonment, and the reinforcement of roles in relationships. Connect with me on social…

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  20. It's Time to Activate Your Inner Wonder Woman

    There are three important 'female archetypes' to embody when you're desiring to manifest a partner. One of them is the Wonder Woman. However, if your inner Wonder Woman is too dominate, you will attract men you continually are dissatisfied with. Connect with me on social media: Instagram:...

  21. Love is Blind: Participants' Perpetuation of Trauma

    In this episode we dive into how LIB participants' attachment styles and underlying subconscious patterns is the driving force of the choices they make regardless of what they say they want. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠ Facebook:...

  22. From Hopeless to Powerful (ft. Carrie Hickey)

    In this empowering episode, we delve into my client Carrie's journey of overcoming codependency, reclaiming her sense of self, and establishing healthy boundaries amidst the challenges of caring for her husband after a traumatic brain injury. Through a transformative process of self-discovery and...

  23. Why Dating with Disorganized Attachment Is Tricky

    The tricky part about having a disorganized attachment style is that the desire for closeness is as strong as the desire for independence. But when you meet a person that activates the desire for closeness, you’ll often overlook red flags due to inner child wounding. And because you grew up in an...

  24. Body Image Meditation Exercise

    Disclaimer: DO NOT perform this meditation if you're driving or operating heavy machinery. Only to be exercised if you're in a safe space where closing your eyes won't put you or anyone else in danger. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠ Facebook:...

  25. Starting the Healing Process

    In this podcast episode, we embark on the journey of starting the healing process. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠@IvanaSelfCarved⁠⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal: ⁠⁠https://amazon.com/dp/B0BV1F3BYV⁠⁠ - Couples'…

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  26. Why Rushing into Marriage in 55 Days Was a Big Mistake

    In this episode, I'm vulnerably sharing a few lessons about what I learned about dating and marrying at a fast speed. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠@SelfCarved⁠ TikTok: ⁠@SelfCarved⁠ Facebook: ⁠@IvanaSelfCarved⁠ Order my books: - Self-Love Healing Journal:...

  27. How Upbringing & Patriarchy Impacts Body Image

    Our childhood upbringing, media, and patriarchy—all of it programmed us to believe our body is not good enough. In this episode, I'm breaking down how our relationship with our body has much more to do with how we feel about ourselves than how our body actually looks and what it can do. Connect...

  28. The Importance of Worthiness

    In this episode, we dive into the profound significance of worthiness in our lives. Exploring the core concept of worthiness and its impact on our self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

  29. When They Tell You Your Looks Don't Matter

    Gaslighting can happen in many forms, one of them is a more subtle manipulation tactic where a person downplays your best features to trigger your insecurities. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IvanaSelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get my...

  30. Why You Can't Heal Your Father Wound

    In this epsiode, we delve into the complexities of healing the Father Wound, exploring the reasons why it can be such a challenging journey Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IvanaSelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠...

  31. It's Time to Be Brutally Honest

    Let's look ourselves in the mirror and acknowledge what we really think and feel. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠⁠ Get my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://amazon.com/dp/B0BV1F3BYV

  32. How the Trust Wound Shows up in Your Relationships

    In this episode, we explore how the lack of self-trust leads to mistrusting others. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠ Get my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠⁠https://amazon.com/dp/B0BV1F3BYV

  33. From Daddy Issues to a Worthy Queen

    In this masterclass, we dive into the Father Wound and how to shift from operating as a wounded little girl to a worthy queen. Connect with me on social media: Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠ TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠⁠@SelfCarved⁠⁠⁠ Get my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon:...

  34. The Line between Arrogance & the Need to Prove Yourself

    When you don't feel worthy, you either become super independent with an "I don't care what anyone thinks" attitude, or you become codependent and feel the need to constantly prove with your worth. When you DO feel worthy, you don't sway to either side--instead you walk the straight path knowing…

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  35. 9 Signs Your Inner Child is Wounded

    In this episode, we explore nine key signs that indicate your inner child may be wounded. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: @ivanaselfcarved Instagram: @selfcarved Pinterest: @selfcarved Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: amazon.com/dp/1095721828 Don't forget to subscribe, so...

  36. Are You Feeling Guilty?

    Guilt is tied to something that happened in the past where you feel/see yourself as a failure. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: @ivanaselfcarved Instagram: @selfcarved Pinterest: @selfcarved Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: amazon.com/dp/1095721828 Don't forget to…

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  37. Beware of What Others Project onto You

    Projection is a form of manipulation that often goes unnoticed. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: @ivanaselfcarved Instagram: @selfcarved Pinterest: @selfcarved Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: amazon.com/dp/1095721828 Don't forget to subscribe, so you don't miss any future...

  38. Why It Feels Like Nothing is Changing

    Change requires an upgrade in identity that can only happen if you're willing to let go of the stories you're telling yourself and limiting beliefs you're holding onto. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my...

  39. The Enemy Within

    Blaming someone or something else on our circumstances keeps our trauma identity alive. Recognizing that you hold the power to transform yourself and your life by taking responsibility is a big game changer. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram…

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  40. Tap Into Your Psychic Gifts (with Karla Luster)

    Are you clairvoyant, clairsentient, clairaudient, or maybe claircognizance? In this episode, Karla shares how you can recognize your own psychic abilities. Connect with Karla: Facebook: @coachkarlaluster Instagram: @karlaruth Facebook group: bit.ly/karlascommunity Connect with me on social media:...

  41. Why You Struggle to Connect with Your Intuition vs. Take Action

    Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Join my exclusive community, ⁠⁠Self-Carved⁠⁠, on Facebook. Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠amazon.com/dp/1095721828⁠⁠ Don't forget to...

  42. Self-Trust: A Key Aspect of Feminine Energy

    In this episode we explore what it means to trust yourself. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠amazon.com/dp/1095721828⁠⁠ Don't forget to subscribe, so you don't miss...

  43. Is Boredom a Trauma Symptom?

    Constantly feeling the need to be over productive and stimulated? In this episode we'll dive into what boredom is rooted in. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon:...

  44. How to Level Up in Your Healing Journey

    In this masterclass, we explore the different levels of healing. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠amazon.com/dp/1095721828⁠⁠ Don't forget to subscribe, so you don't...

  45. How We Cause Anxiety to Ourselves + Tips to Self-Regulate & Soothe

    We can experience anxiety for various reasons, but in this episode we will explore how we oftentimes cause it to ourselves with our thoughts. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on...

  46. 7 Types of Boundaries

    A thought-provoking masterclass on seven types of boundaries that are necessary in your life. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠amazon.com/dp/1095721828⁠⁠ Don't…

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  47. Your Soul Is Boundless, but Your 'Human' Needs Boundaries

    Your soul is ever-expansive and doesn't have boundaries, but your human self needs them for mental and emotional health and expansion reasons. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal…

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  48. Next-Level Boundaries That Work For You

    Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on Amazon: ⁠⁠amazon.com/dp/1095721828⁠⁠ Don't forget to subscribe, so you don't miss any future episode. Love this podcast? Please rate us/leave…

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  49. Healing Requires Courage

    Healing isn't for the weak--it actually takes immense courage to look at your trauma, pains, and insecurities and do something about it. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal on...

  50. When Your Boundaries Are Too Rigid

    Sometimes you don't need firmer boundaries, sometimes you need to loosen them up or else you won't be able to connect with people nor yourself. Connect with me on social media: Facebook: ⁠⁠@ivanaselfcarved⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Pinterest: ⁠⁠@selfcarved⁠⁠ Order my Self-Love Healing Journal…

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ABOUT THIS SHOW

Self-Carved is the podcast for women with disorganized attachment (fearful avoidant) who are done with toxic cycles, self-doubt, and settling for breadcrumbs. If you crave deep love but constantly push it away, overgive, or second-guess yourself—this is where you break the pattern. Expect psychological deep dives, raw truths, and no-fluff strategies that help you build unshakable self-worth, trust yourself fully, and finally attract the secure, high-caliber love you deserve. It’s time to step out of survival mode and into your power. The Self-Carved woman doesn’t beg for love—she chooses it.

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Ivana Vuletic

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Self-Carved is the podcast for women with disorganized attachment (fearful avoidant) who are done with toxic cycles, self-doubt, and settling for breadcrumbs. If you crave deep love but constantly push it away, overgive, or second-guess yourself—this is where you break the pattern. Expect...

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