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Self-Represented in Family Court
by Tracey Bee, Pro Se Family Court Strategist
Your lawyer is gone, or the money to keep paying one is running out, but your Family Court case is not over yet and honestly, there seems to be no end in sight. Self-Represented in Family Court is the strategy and trial-preparation podcast for people representing themselves in high-conflict divorce, custody, child support and related contested family law matters. Hosted by Tracey Bee, a former family-law attorney and the founder of The Divorce Solutionist®, this podcast helps you understand what it takes to become a strategically prepared pro se litigant. We specifically focus on topics relevant to you if your attorney has withdrawn, your retainer has become unsustainable, you cannot afford continued representation or trial is approaching and you do not know what to do next. This is NOT generic legal information, motivational encouragement or another podcast telling you simply to “believe in yourself.” Tracey examines the hi
Episodes
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What Really Makes a Family Court Case High Conflict? | Season 3 Episode 23
862.800.7850 One of the phrases litigants overuse in Family Court is: "High Conflict. "Someone disagrees with you? They’re high conflict. Someone enforces a boundary? They're high conflict. Someone refuses to give you what you want? They're high conflict. But what if they're not? In this episode…
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Is Your Family Law Attorney Solving Problems or Just Billing You? | Episode 22
862.800.7850 Having a lawyer does not automatically mean your case is moving forward. In fact, one of the biggest frustrations people experience in Family Court is wondering whether their attorney is actually solving problems, or simply managing conflict while the legal bills continue to grow. In...
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Litigation Panic in Family Court: Why Smart People Make Bad Decisions | Episode 21
862.800.7850 Litigation Panic is real. And it affects far more people than most ot us realize. In high-conflict Family Court cases, even highly capable, emotionally regulated, intelligent people can start second-guessing themselves, making impulsive decisions, and losing the strategic thinking...
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The Truth About Delays in Family Court (What Nobody Tells You) | Season 3 Episode 20
862.800.7850 Delays in Family Court can be discouraging. The continuances. The canceled hearings. The months of silence. The feeling that your case is going nowhere while your life stays stuck. Here's something to acknowledge: Not every delay is accidental. In high-conflict divorce and custody...
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Going Pro Se in Family Court? What You Need to Know Before Hiring a Lawyer | Episode 19
862.800.7850 Most people think hybrid legal representation is the “best of both worlds” and guarantees better results in their divorce or custody case. You represent yourself, but still use a lawyer for guidance, strategy, filings, or specific court appearances. Sounds like the perfect setup,...
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Pro Se vs Lawyer in Family Court: Which Is Better for Your Case? | Season 3 Episode 18
862.800.7850 One of the biggest decisions you’ll make in your case? Do you represent yourself…or hire a lawyer? It’s not as simple as most think. Because switching between pro se and lawyer can completely change: ✔️ How your case moves; ✔️ How the court responds to you; ✔️ How the other side...
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Divorce AI Tools: What NOT to Use in Family Court (Costly Mistakes) | Season 3 Episode 17
862.800.7850 AI tools are everywhere right now, especially in Family Court. ✔️Helping you organize your case. ✔️Prepare your documents. ✔️Even “build” your legal argument. And for someone going through Family Court…that can feel like exactly what you need. But unfortunately not everything that...
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Gray Areas in Family Court: What to Do When There’s No Clear Answer | S3 Episode 16
862.800.7850 Family Court would be easier if every situation had a clear answer. An identifiable rule to follow. A direction on which motion to file. A fair judge to decide. But that’s not how it works, not in Family Court. In reality, some of the most important moments in your case happen in...
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Five Alimony Scenarios and Strategies: What Courts Actually Look For | Season 3 Episode 15
862.800.7850 More people are asking for alimony right now than ever before. And it makes sense, based on: Economic uncertainty. Job instability. Rising costs. Financial dependence after divorce. But here’s what you probably don't realize: Just because you need alimony… doesn’t mean you’ll…
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The 5 Types of Clients Lawyers Work With (Which One Are You?) | Season 3 Episode 14
862.800.7850 Season 3 Episode 14 Most people think hiring a lawyer means they can step back and let the professional handle everything… I meant to say EVERYTHING. But that’s not how strong cases are built. In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee breaks down something…
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Choosing Peace in Family Court: When Settling Your Case is the RIGHT Move | Season 3 Episode 13
862.800.7850 Settling your case can feel like the fastest path to having the peace you once enjoyed. Less stress. Less conflict. Less time in court. And sometimes… settling is absolutely the right move. But settling just to end the stress without understanding what you're giving up can create new...
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Financial Abuse Gets WORSE During Divorce: Here's What Works in Court | Season 3 Episode 12
862.800.7850 In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee goes deep on one of the most misunderstood and frustrating dynamics in divorce: Financial abuse. And the same patterns from the marriage begin to play out inside the divorce process, making it more expensive, more...
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The House Mistake Family Courts See Every Day | Season 3 Episode 11
862.800.7850 Can You Keep the House? | Family Court Strategy In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee addresses one of the most emotionally motivated (and often misunderstood) questions in divorce and custody cases: “Can I keep the house?” In this episode, Tracey walks...
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Can Bad Timing RUIN Your Family Court Case? | Season 3 Episode 10
862.800.7850 In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey Bee dives into one of the most overlooked elements of family court strategy: timing. Most litigants focus on what to file, what evidence to present, or what arguments to make. But the truth is, when you make your move can be...
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Family Court NIGHTMARES! How Judges LABEL Litigants | Season 3 Episode 8
862.800.7850 In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court,” Tracey Bee breaks down a reality most litigants don’t realize until it’s too late: Family Court is overloaded, overworked and overwhelmed…no matter where the court is. Judges just don’t have the time to give the necessary…
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Season 3. Episode 9 You Might be Ready, But You're NOT Prepared
862.800.7850 You are not prepared for Family Court. You might be ready, but you are NOT prepared, at least most of you aren’t. You might have gathered all the proof you can, gotten familiar with the laws, might have even hired the best lawyer for the job. But NONE of these things actually prepare...
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Your Case is Losing Traction & You Have No Idea Why | Season 3 Episode 7
862.800.7850 In this episode of “Self-Represented in Family Court”, Tracey Bee breaks down a common (and frustrating) reality: your case can lose traction even when you have “strong evidence.” Why? Because in Family Court, outcomes often hinge less on how much you have, and more on how you…
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Season Break
862.800.7850 This time of year I usually take a break to decompress. So right now I am working on clearing my mind while at the same time gearing up for 2026. I am still working though so if you need to schedule a strategy session, need help preparing for court or want me to assist with trial...
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Season 3. Ep 6. The Perils of Over-Documenting Evidence
862.800.7850 Most people think the more evidence you bring to court, the better. But in family court? That approach can destroy your credibility. In this episode, Tracey explains why judges ignore evidence, how opposing counsel gets it thrown out, and how to present your case strategically so…
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Season 3. Ep 5. Reframing: It IS What You Said AND HOW You Said It
862.800.7850 Ever walked out of a courtroom thinking, “What just happened in there?” You told the truth. You stayed calm. You presented your evidence — and somehow, the judge still didn’t get it. If that sounds like you, this episode is your reality check — and your roadmap out. In this episode,...
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Season 3. Ep 4. Analyzing Court Rulings to Move Your Case Forward
862.800.7850 Tracey Bee breaks down how to turn court rulings, whether wins, losses, or partial decisions, into strategic data points you can actually use to finally move your case forward. She explains how to read between the lines of your judge’s orders, spot behavioral patterns, and use those...
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Season 3. Ep 3. How to Get — and Keep — a Restraining Order That Actually Protects You
862.800.7850 Tracey Bee breaks down civil vs. criminal restraining orders as it relates to Family Court issues. She also goes into things like why requests get denied, and how to build a stronger application if you’re self‑represented or working with counsel. Learn what judges need to see, how to...
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Season 3 - Episode 2: Strategy Destroyed: How the Blind Spots in Family Court Ruins Your Case
862.800.7850 Most litigants lose in Family Court for reasons they never even see coming. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden blind spots that can quietly sabotage your case—even when you think it’s airtight. Whether you’re representing yourself, stuck between attorneys, or even working...
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Season 3 Kickoff: Empowerment, Strategy & Beating the Rigged Family Court System
862.800.7850 Welcome back to Self-Represented in Family Court! In this Season 3 opener, Tracey Bee (your host, former family law attorney, mediator, and strategist) sets the stage for the most empowering season yet. After a summer of building new tools, connecting with advocates, and expanding…
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Season 2 - Episode 18: Using Mediation Strategically in Family Court
862.800.7850 In this insightful episode your host, Tracey Bee, founder of The Divorce Solutionist, former family law attorney, and your go-to pro se strategist — pulls back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood tools in the family court system: mediation. Though often seen as a peaceful...
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Season 2 - Episode 17: Workarounds for When You Can't Afford to Work with Divorce Professionals
862.800.7850 The family court battlefield can feel overwhelming, but in this episode, Tracey Bee is arming you with a secret weapon: workarounds. Designed for pro se litigants and anyone looking to take charge of their case, we’re unpacking clever, strategic alternatives to navigate the system...
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Season 2 - Episode 16: AI In Family Law
862.800.7850 In this compelling episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, host Tracey Bee —the only pro se family court strategist — dives into a transformative topic: Artificial Intelligence and its potential in the hands of self-represented litigants. Tracey breaks down how AI is being used...
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Season 2 - Episode 15: You've Just Been Served? Key Things to Look for to Check the Legal Document Validity
862.800.7850 If you've just been served, don’t panic—know what to look for. In this episode, Tracey B breaks down the essential elements to examine when you receive a legal document, motion, or petition in a family court case. Whether you're the petitioner or respondent, it's critical to…
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Season 2 - Episode 14: The Self Employed, Business Owner or 1099 Pro
862.800.7850 Are you a business owner, freelancer, or 1099 contractor navigating divorce without a lawyer? In this episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, Tracey B. dives into the unique challenges—and real opportunities—for self-employed individuals handling their own divorce or custody...
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Season 2- Episode 12: The Changing Landscape of Divorce: What You Need to Know
862.800.7850 The way divorce services are delivered is evolving, and in this episode, we’re diving into the major shifts happening in the industry. From legal professionals and paralegals to divorce coaches and financial organizers, we explore the different types of support available and how they...
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Season 2- Episode 11: When to (or Not) Self-Represent in Family Court
862.800.7850 Have you ever wondered if representing yourself in family court is the right move for you, your family or your goals ? In this episode, I dive into the complexities of self-representation in family court cases. Using my experience as a former family law attorney and mediator, I’ll...
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Season 2 - Episode 10: Ethical or Unethical Practices of Lawyers in Family Court
862.800.7850 Is Your Lawyer Crossing the Line? Ethical or Unethical Practices in Family Court Do you trust your lawyer's motivations and methods? It's time to take a deeper look. In today’s episode, we dissect the fine line between ethical and unethical practices by lawyers in family courts,...
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Season 2 - Episode 9: Having Support Systems during Your Family Court Experience: A Strategic Approach
862.800.7850 In this episode of Self Represented in Family Court, I’m diving deep into the power of strategy in family court proceedings. Whether you're representing yourself or working with legal counsel, having a solid strategy—and the right support—is key to navigating this complex system...
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Season 2 Episode 8: The Legal Costs & Fees in Family Law-An In-Depth Look
862.800.7850 Navigating family court can deplete you of every ounce of energy, every sense of sanity and every dime you have, especially when you're representing yourself. In my latest episode of Self Represented in Family Court, I spend time going into details about the realities of managing…
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Season 2 Episode 7: Navigating Family Court as a Pro Se Litigant
862.800.7850 Do you think representing yourself in family court is an uphill battle or a strategic advantage? Well, it's both—and more. In this episode, I’m going to uncover the nuances of navigating family court as a pro se or self-represented litigant. I’ll dive deep into the concept of pro se...
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Season 2 - Episode 6: The "Real" of Coercive Control & Its Application in Family Court
862.800.7850 In this episode, we confront a critical yet often overlooked aspect of domestic violence: coercive control. As a form of abuse that manipulates an individual's freedom and decision-making, coercive control includes behaviors like monitoring spending, isolating victims from social...
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Season 2 - Episode 5: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
862.800.7850 This week, in recognition of October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we're dedicating the next few episodes to all the brave survivors of domestic violence. We take a look into the challenges of presenting domestic violence cases in family court and their impact on the overall...
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Season 2 Episode 4: Ten Things to Avoid Wasting Your Life Savings on Legal Fees
862.800.7850 Today we're exploring a crucial topic: how to avoid wasting your life savings on legal fees. We'll discuss strategic approaches to settling disputes independently, performing cost-benefit analyses, and leveraging tools to make informed decisions. We'll also discuss alternative legal...
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Season 2 Episode 3: Being Strategic with Parenting Plans
862.800.7850 Do you think creating a parenting plan is an easy, straightforward process? Or that even having one is an absolute MUST? Well, think again. Discover how overly lengthy and generic parenting plans can do more harm than good, especially in high-conflict situations, in this week's...
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S2E2: Choosing to File Contempt in Family Court
862.800.7850 Think you know how Family Courts operate when it comes to enforcing, punishing or even taking action when there is uncooperation between the parties? Think again. In this eye-opening episode, I pull back the curtain to reveal the strategic nuances and intricate challenges that...
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Season 2 - Episode 1: Perjury in Family Court - An Honest Look at its Impact & Use
862.800.7850 Welcome back, listeners! Did you miss your favorite family court strategist? Well, season two kicks off with a bang as we dive into an often misunderstood but critically important topic: perjury in family court. In this enlightening episode, I pull back the curtain to uncover the...
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Family Court Strategy for Dads (Father's Day Edition)
862.800.7850 **Think Family Court is Simple? Think Again. A Reality Check for Dads Navigating Custody Battles.** Welcome back to another eye-opening episode of Self-Represented in Family Court, with your host Family Court Strategist™ Tracey Bee. If you've ever thought family court was...
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Parent Visitation or Access in High Conflict Cases
862.800.7850 Do you think Family Court can simply restrict the non-custodial parent's access to their child under any circumstances? Think again. Discover the real nuances behind parental visitation or access and what courts consider before making those tough decisions. In this episode, Tracey…
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Family Court Strategy for the Stay-at-Home Parent
862.800.7850 Navigating the murky waters of Family Court can be daunting, especially for stay-at-home parents. This episode Tracey brings you right into the thick of it, demystifying the complex and sometimes unsettling realities of family court, particularly for those who’ve spent years out of…
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Episode 22 - Our NEW A.D.V.O.C.A.T.E.™ Method
862.800.7850 Today, I've got something truly groundbreaking to share with you—my newly launched, proprietary A.D.V.O.C.A.T.E.™ Method. This meticulously crafted process is your comprehensive guide to navigating the intricate and often daunting world of family court, especially if you're a...
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Episode 21 - Being Strategic with Biased Judges
862.800.7850 Today we delve into the complex world of family court and tackle the challenge of navigating biased judges. As many of you know, the discretion and minimal oversight in family courts often give judges an unfortunate ability to "run amok." This lack of accountability can deeply affect...
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Episode 20 - Firing & Hiring Family Law Attorneys
862.800.7850 Today, we dive into the often overlooked challenge of hiring and firing attorneys in family law. We'll explore why switching lawyers too frequently could leave you vulnerable and possibly hinder your case, as frequent changes can annoy judges and lead to adverse decisions. It's your...
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Episode 19 - Strategy & Parental Alienation
862.800.7850 Today, we're shining a light on a difficult yet critical topic that many families face: parental alienation. This phenomenon can strike any family, irrespective of background or status, often leading to grueling legal battles and profound emotional distress. In recognition of…
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Episode 18: Levels of Conflict in Family Court
862.800.7850 Are you caught up in a web of conflict in family court? Tracey Bee is back to tackle the levels of conflict you may encounter. This episode doesn't shy away from the tough realities of fighting for your family's future. We're going deep into the high, medium, and low ends of the...
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Episode 17: The "Real" Impact of Having Legal Custody
862.800.7850 In this eye-opening episode, I take listeners on a deep dive into the overlooked yet crucial aspect of legal custody or decision-making in family court. With my signature straightforward approach and strategic insights, I peel back the layers to reveal the significant impact that…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Your lawyer is gone, or the money to keep paying one is running out, but your Family Court case is not over yet and honestly, there seems to be no end in sight.
Self-Represented in Family Court is the strategy and trial-preparation podcast for people representing themselves in high-conflict divorce, custody, child support and related contested family law matters.
Hosted by Tracey Bee, a former family-law attorney and the founder of The Divorce Solutionist®, this podcast helps you understand what it takes to become a strategically prepared pro se litigant. We specifically focus on topics relevant to you if your attorney has withdrawn, your retainer has become unsustainable, you cannot afford continued representation or trial is approaching and you do not know what to do next.
This is NOT generic legal information, motivational encouragement or another podcast telling you simply to “believe in yourself.” Tracey examines the hi
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