SEX COMMUNICATION

An interview with Steve, a bisexual man from Australia who was inspired to reach out to me after hearing Episode 57: Straight Talk With A Bisexual Man. Today's guest has truly "tasted the rainbow" when it comes to sexual experiences and has a host of tales to share in detail, including his frustration with having to defend his sexuality because he is married to a woman. When Steve messaged me about doing an interview and sharing his identification with my previous guest, he validated all of the hopes and dreams I have for this show. As you've surely heard me say before, my motivation for this podcast is to provide the opportunity for listeners to hear something that tells them they are normal and not alone; that allows them to be more accepting of themselves and others.Additionally, today's episode is the last of Season 2 as I've made the decision to extend the break between seasons from one month to two. Season 3 will premiere in February 2021 and I wish you all a wonderful and safe winter until then. As always, please reach out if you would like to be a part of the show or share some audio recordings.Til next season...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Our new anonymous and hot married couple returns! You may remember this duo from Episode 124 ["She Is A Screamer" Audio Porn] -- they return here with a recording of: "another fun afternoon of worshiping pussy...a great fuck from behind, a back shot, bit of spanking & then more pussy licking until a great screaming orgasm"Again, this couple is giving me exactly what I want, be it only through my ears! Anyway, enjoy :)Til next week...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with one of the founding members of the Berlin Strippers Collective... A bit of a throwback to July of this year, today's conversation was the first one recorded as part of the Black Sex Workers Collective [BSWC] fundraiser promotion but my guest requested it be withheld temporarily due to privacy concerns and so here we are publishing today. My guest is originally from Italy but currently lives and works in Berlin. She is someone who waited a long time to have sex, having held onto romantic ideals for many years, and now, having let go of those ideas, lives a full life studying for her Master's Degree, doing sex work and fighting for a better existence and future for other sex workers. Also she considers herself to be vanilla, but after you hear some details about her personal life you might disagree! Find out more about the Berlin Strippers Collective and their events:Berlin Strippers Collective Website / Patreon / InstagramAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with author Priscilla Agosto-Jernigan. We discuss how she learned about sex from a porn channel, coming out to her Catholic family, exploring her sexuality, and how she and her wife navigate both identifying as sexually dominant...Check out Priscilla's book on Amazon!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to the audio porn episode for October! And a big, big thank you to our anonymous couple, C and L, for submitting this month's recording!!! Not only did C and L record some hot sex, they also submitted a big write-up describing the fantasy that they're acting out! Here it is:***"FROM SECRETLY THINKING ABOUT FANTASY SITUATIONS - TO DESCRIBING A HOTWIFING SESSION AND THREESOME! MY, HOW FAR WE’VE COME!For the first 30 years of our marriage, our sex life was routinely structured with very little deviation towards anything even remotely kinky. Probably deep rooted from our Catholic upbringing; but more my wife than mine.We have been together for 40 years! We have been high school sweethearts since I was 17 and she was 15. Before you get to thinking that we are old farts let me say with pride and confidence that we keep ourselves in good shape. While a few pounds heavier than we were in our twenties, my wife constantly gets mistaken for 15 years younger than she actually is. She’s a natural beauty of Irish and Italian decent. She looks more Irish than Italian and one of those women with light coloring who needs no makeup to look VERY attractive. To paint a picture for your listeners – she has strawberry blonde hair about shoulder length, green eyes, and beautiful and natural D size breasts. Her looks get compared to Michelle Pfeiffer and a young Linda Hamilton all the time.I’m not sure what got me started on fantasizing about threesomes or cuckolding, but I know it’s been a constant for me for about the last twenty years. We started experimenting with toys over the past 10 years where I could get her to come with a good vibrator. Then we incorporated variations where I would have her sucking my dick while she was riding a dildo, or she would ride me while sucking on the dildo, to simulate the threesome effect; but anytime I brought up trying a real threesome with another guy, it was met with a hard NO. Over the last four years or so I have been able to muster up the courage to slightly whisper it during our love making. At first it was kind of under my breath as if I was the only one who was supposed to hear it, until one night while she was jerking me off, she whispered in my ear, “Tell me what you’re thinking.”From there it was SEX COMMUNICATION GAME ON! And now, I have her playing along in full fantasy mode, telling stories of our imaginary “friend” who is standing by the door watching us, then climbing onto the bed, with my wife sucking his dick, spreading her legs, and him fucking her while I watch from a chair in a hotel room. Sometimes we simulate that with a dildo and her on the bed all alone while I watch as she comes.TONIGHT I THINK WE MAY HAVE HAD A COMMUNICATION BREAKTHROUGH!!!This clip is a fantasy about getting my wife naked on the bed and inviting a male masseuse into the room who takes over for me. He gradually works his way from her feet to her thighs. He reaches in between her legs and massaging her clit. He gets her worked up and then climbs on top of her back and slowly glides his big dick into her. She plays along! She comes like crazy, burying her face into the bedsheets to keep the volume down (we live in a luxury apartment complex). After she came the first time, you’ll hear her roll over on her back as I rubbing her clit while discussing the experience she just had and she was so aroused at the thought of me watching her, that she came hard again as our “friend” left the room! After she caught her breath, she gets on top of me and mentions that our “friend” has come back “because he forgot something” and describes how he is coming onto the bed and spreading her ass cheeks. She describes a full DP threesome fantasy that SHE INITIATED!!! It was her on top of me, and our “friend” entering her from the rear! Talk about strides in COMMUNICATION!!!!My wife was fully into it on this night and listening back to the recording I’m wondering if the reality of actually living out one of these fantasies isn’t too far off. I have posed the question since then. The answer was is still no, but, there was a slight pause this time. It was still no, but it wasn’t the hard NO response she used to give. So, maybe. Either way, she really took the role-playing to another level on this night and I can’t wait to see what our next session brings! Enjoy!"***Til next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An unflinching, intimate interview with Kenneth, a registered sex offender, sex podcast host, author and graduate student in Sociology...Kenneth and I connected over Instagram because of our shared interest in destroying the stigma of sex and discussing sexuality openly. We decided to trade interviews on each other's shows to share our individual perspectives and it was in that planning that I was introduced to Kenneth's past. He was very open in disclosing his history; his conviction and status as a sex offender, and I am grateful he was willing to speak so honestly about the events leading to his incarceration, his experiences coming to terms with his sexuality, and what life has been like since his release. This conversation may be difficult for some of you to hear but that is precisely why it is so important. We must not shy away from challenging conversations; embracing honesty, especially when it comes to all matters of sex, can only improve lives in the long run. As I mentioned, Kenneth is also the host of a sex podcast, his show is called Unspeakable Vice. You can listen to my appearance on his show here: Episode 7 of the Unspeakable Vice PodcastAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Where the fuck have I been?!?!? I know some of you have been wondering and I appreciate your patience during the show’s unexpected hiatus — which was unexpected to me too! The short answer is: work, the long answer is: work, plus burnout, plus searching for a new hosting platform after being thrown off Buzzsprout for posting pornographic material, then searching again after losing confidence in my next choice, Simplecast, and now finalizing our place with RedCircle, and DID I MENTION THE BURNOUT. So yeah, a lot has been going on. But anyway! I started dating again via apps (OMG SO AWFUL) so I have a juicy-ish(??) story about physical contact with someone I just met despite still being in the middle of a pandemic. I get into the tricky decision to include the detail of my being a size queen in my dating profiles; good idea? Bad idea? We’ll see!Also! A brief heads-up on some new episodes to come and some background info/updates on the state of the new GRAPHICPAINT.comAlso also! Here are the two written pieces about penis size I reference:The Most Disappointing Dicks I've EncounteredMust Have Thick Skin And Big DickTil next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A new audio porn contributor has joined the fold! Today's clip comes from another hot married couple; here is the description that accompanied the submission:"This recording has a bit of everything, blowjob, pussy licking, me fucking her & her tapping out only to get on top to have an explosive orgasm!"All right then! I know I could use some explosive orgasms in my life, maybe you could as well? Enjoy ;)And hey, why not submit your own recording? Especially to my non-hetero folks, poly peeps and anyone else getting busy -- press record on the sexytimes! And then email it to the show: [email protected] next week...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with Safi and Fifi... Safi and Fifi are two twentysomething LGBTQ polyam commentators and spouses to be. They host a YouTube channel offering sex-positive conversation and education from their perspective as young people of color.Much like this show and GRAPHICPAINT, their mission is to offer a safe, judgment-free space for the exploration of sexuality. They cover everything from gender identity, kink, polyamory and more. Today's conversation covers those same topics while also getting into their backgrounds and experiences that led to them being the people they are today. How were they introduced to sex, kink and polyamory; how did they find each other; and why is their YouTube channel so important, especially right now.Links to Safi and Fifi:YouTubeInstagramAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with Sultry Sitara, a phone sex operator on NiteFlirt. She describes herself online as the "dominant nerdy Indian girlfriend" you're looking for. We discuss the nuances and challenges of offering a virtual girlfriend experience, providing sensual domination over the phone, and why phone sex is so important right now, during this pandemic. We also dive into what it’s like being an Indian woman of color in the sex industry and the racism she faces at work and in life.Find out more about Sitara:♥ Website: https://sultrysitara.net/♥ NiteFlirt: https://niteflirt.com/Sultry%20Sitara♥ AVNStars: https://stars.avn.com/sultrysitara♥ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SultrySitara♥ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/SultrySitaraAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today's episode features Malva Gasowski, international best selling author, business coach, trainer, family counselor and parenting coach. Malva is also the creator of Coaching - Mother and All, an online resource for parents and caregivers.In today’s interview, we discuss the very practical need for open communication about sex with partners and with children. As a mother, wife and experienced coach in all matters of family relationships, Malva has a great deal of expertise to share about how biology and socialization play into our understanding of sex. And of course, as with all my guests, we discuss her intimate, personal experiences, specifically as they relate to motherhood and long-term monogamy.Links to our guest and her work:https://www.coaching-mother-and-all.com/https://www.facebook.com/coaching.mother.and.all/https://www.facebook.com/malva.gasowski.coaching/aboutAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It's the audio porn episode for July! Today's audio submission is from "Anonymous Couple #2" who you may remember from Episode 101: A Couple Uses Toys (And Oral, And Oil, And Toe Sucking...) Said couple included a handy description along with their recording to give some context:"Hello Brianne. It's us again from episode 101. We had some fun today and I actually remembered to hit record, lol. I have become very interested in rope play lately so I've been reading and researching it. Today was our first attempt at bringing it into playtime. I did a tie that secured her Hitachi magic wand up to her pussy for hands-free play. I also used our under bed restraints to secure her hands and feet down. I tried edging her but she's such an easy cum I had to be fast with turning it off and on. I had the best luck with the setting that starts off low and ramps up to high then back down over and over. Then I'd turn the wand up to solid high vibe which would force her to cum over and over. At the end of the audio, there's a short blowjob and I fucked her from behind for a short time but she was ready for a break. I stopped recording at that time. We picked up again after a short break. I'll send that recording and description in a separate email. Use them if you want, if not that's ok too." This recording is fire and another demonstration of how hot sex can be in a long-term relationships (they've been married for 28 years!!!). Enjoy!***Submit your own audio! Send files to [email protected] -- all submissions are 100% anonymous *unless you want your identity to be shared. As host and producer, I am the only person who will ever have access to your message or files.Until next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The final episode in our 5-show series produced in collaboration with The Black Sex Worker Collective. Next week, July 22nd, the collective will host a 22-hour event called Who’s Allowed To Make Money? Workers In Solidarity, to support sex workers and other freelance artists directly impacted by COVID-19. Please pick up some tickets to the events now if you haven’t already done so. Today’s interview is with the founder of The Black Sex Worker Collective, Akynos. July 22nd is also Akynos’ 43rd birthday, hence the 22 hours of events and $43,000 financial goal. My guest has worked in the sex industry for nearly 30 years and has plenty of experience to share. In this episode, we discuss how and why she created the Black Sex Worker Collective, why she is personally celibate, what we can expect from her appearances at the fundraiser, and future BSWC projects.Event information:Tickets / Info: Black Sex Workers Collective 22-Hour Fundraiser EventThe Opening Party (by donation)Tickets to The Psychosis of WhitenessGeneral information:The Black Sex Worker CollectiveBSWC Twitter / InstagramSome information about the fight for Sex Worker rights:https://www.hrw.org/news/2020/05/04/sex-workers-struggle-survive-covid-19-pandemichttps://www.hrw.org/news/2019/08/07/why-sex-work-should-be-decriminalizedMore information about today's guest:Akynos WebsiteTwitter / InstagramAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This is the fourth episode in our 5-show series produced in collaboration with The Black Sex Worker Collective. On July 22nd, the collective will host a 22-hour event called Who’s Allowed To Make Money? Workers In Solidarity, to support sex workers and other freelance artists directly impacted by COVID-19. Starting with Episode 115, each weekly episode up until the event will feature some of the many performers and activists who are scheduled. You can catch up on this series, and all of our episodes, at anytime on sexcompod.com. The stigma of sex affects many things and the treatment of sex workers is but one example. Sex workers face discrimination, prosecution and an absence of basic labor rights. As we approach the close of this series, I hope these interviews have created awareness and inspired not only compassion, but supportive action as well. Today’s interview is with Antonia Crane and AM Davies, two members of Soldiers of Pole, a Stripper Union Movement. During the July 22nd fundraiser, Soldiers of Pole will host Strippers Unite; a performance and Q&A about organizing and strippers in the midst of a pandemic during an uprising. In this episode we discuss the lack of labor rights facing sex workers in the U.S., visions for a better future, misconceptions about the work, and some personal details about our guests.Event information:Tickets / Info: Black Sex Workers Collective 22-Hour Fundraiser EventTickets to the Soldiers of Pole Event: Strippers Unite — Performance and Q&AGeneral information:The Black Sex Worker CollectiveSome information about the fight for Sex Worker rights:https://www.hrw.org/news/2020/05/04/sex-workers-struggle-survive-covid-19-pandemichttps://www.hrw.org/news/2019/08/07/why-sex-work-should-be-decriminalizedMore information about today's guests and their personal projects:Soldiers Of Pole WebsiteAntonia Crane WebsiteAM Davies WebsiteAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today is the third episode in our 5-show series produced in collaboration with The Black Sex Worker Collective. On July 22nd, the collective will host a 22-hour event called Who’s Allowed To Make Money? Workers In Solidarity, to support sex workers and other freelance artists directly impacted by COVID-19. As of June 18th, each weekly episode up until the event will feature some of the many performers and activists who are scheduled. You can catch up on this series, and all of our episodes, at anytime on sexcompod.com. This show is about destroying the stigma of sex, and the fact of sex workers facing discrimination, prosecution and an absence of basic labor rights, is a demonstration of this stigma. It is my hope, that with every episode in this series, you, the listener, become more informed, compassionate, and inspired to take supportive action.In today’s show, I speak with Arabella Allure, a burlesque performer, advocate, and event organizer. Arabella and Salty Bisch Creations will be presenting a performance showcase of the top BIPOC Artists from Western Canada. Like our last guest, Arabella is also originally from Australia, though now based in Calgary Canada. We discuss the challenges and benefits of stripping, along with how engaging in sex work challenges cultural patriarchy. Event information:Tickets / Info: Black Sex Workers Collective 22-Hour Fundraiser EventTickets to Arabella's Event: Salty Bisch Creations — The Patio Below; BIPOC Performer ShowcaseGeneral information:The Black Sex Worker CollectiveSome information about the fight for Sex Worker rights:https://www.hrw.org/news/2020/05/04/sex-workers-struggle-survive-covid-19-pandemichttps://www.hrw.org/news/2019/08/07/why-sex-work-should-be-decriminalizedMore information about today's guest:Arabella Allure: Instagram / TwitterSalty Bisch Creations: Facebook / Instagram / TwitterAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today is the second episode in our 5-show series produced in collaboration with The Black Sex Worker Collective. On July 22nd, the collective will host a 22-hour event called Who’s Allowed To Make Money? Workers In Solidarity, to support sex workers and other freelance artists directly impacted by COVID-19. As of June 18th, each weekly episode up until the event will feature some of the many performers and activists who are scheduled. You can catch up on this series, and all of our episodes, at anytime on sexcompod.com. It can not be said enough that sex workers are under attack and in need of our support. As this show is about destroying the stigma of sex, the issue of sex worker rights is absolutely in alignment with our mission, and I am pleased to offer the platform of this podcast to raise awareness and affect positive change.In this episode, I speak with PJ Starr, a documentary filmmaker and sex workers’ rights activist. During the fundraiser, PJ and the New Jersey Red Umbrella Alliance (NJRUA) will host Goddesses in the Garden State; a 2-hour block of cocktail recipes, music, film and a panel discussion of Black sex workers in film. PJ is originally from Australia but currently based in New Jersey, and we discuss why the plight of sex workers is so important to her, how she became interested in the subject of sex work, and why she self-describes as having “transcended kink.”Event information:Tickets / Info: Black Sex Workers Collective 22-Hour Fundraiser EventTickets to PJ's Event: Goddesses In The Garden StateGeneral information:The Black Sex Worker CollectiveSome information about the fight for Sex Worker rights:https://www.hrw.org/news/2020/05/04/sex-workers-struggle-survive-covid-19-pandemichttps://www.hrw.org/news/2019/08/07/why-sex-work-should-be-decriminalizedThe New Jersey Red Umbrella Alliance (NJRUA)More information about today's guest:PJ's website of professional workJune 28th Film ScreeningAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today is the first of a series of episodes I’m doing with The Black Sex Worker Collective to promote their upcoming fundraiser next month. On July 22nd, the collective will host a 22-hour event called Who’s Allowed To Make Money? Workers In Solidarity. It is both a celebration and grassroots fundraising campaign to support sex workers and other freelance artists directly impacted by current circumstances, who are all too often Black, and people of color.This collaboration is but one of the many ways the SEX COMMUNICATION Podcast, and GRAPHICPAINT, are offering support to the Black community and sex workers everywhere — I encourage you to do the same. If you are a listener of this show, you know that the goal is to destroy the stigmatization around sex through honest exploration of its reality. Sex work is necessary, useful, and deserves as much discussion, respect and exploration as any other topic.In today’s episode, I speak with Dan of Kinky in Wonderland, who will be hosting an online Introduction to Bondage during the July 22nd event. Dan is also based in Berlin and we discuss his experiences with sex-based work, kink, discrimination and activism.Event information:Tickets / Info: Black Sex Workers Collective 22-Hour Fundraiser EventTickets to Dan's Event: Bondage OnlineGeneral information:The Black Sex Worker CollectiveSome information about the fight for Sex Worker rights:https://www.hrw.org/news/2020/05/04/sex-workers-struggle-survive-covid-19-pandemichttps://www.hrw.org/news/2019/08/07/why-sex-work-should-be-decriminalizedMore information about today's guest:https://www.gay-BDSM.clubhttps://www.kinky-in-wonderland.de/https://www.kinky-in-wonderland.de/bondage-onlineIn preparation: www.bondage-online.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Some audio porn for the month of June -- here's hoping this crowdsourced clip will bring some much-needed levity and light to the world.This episode features "C" and "H" who you may remember from Episode 91: When "C" Met "H" And Then Got "Freaky" "C" appeared earlier on this show when we discussed differing opinions about the importance of dick size; catch up with Episode 65: The Great Tiny Penis Debate Till next week...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In honor of George Floyd's memorial, I am using the platform of this show to support those protesting systemic racism around the world. Today's episode features a segment of audio recorded at a peaceful protest in New York City followed by 8 minutes and 46 seconds of silence dedicated to George Floyd. This fight needs your support. Below is a list of organizations battling racial injustice; please donate your time and funding.The Bail Project: A national non-profit organization designed to combat mass incarceration by disrupting the money bail system, one person at a time.Black Lives Matter: A global organization in the US, UK and Canada, whose mission is to eradicate white supremacy and build local power to intervene in violence inflicted on Black communities by the state and vigilantes. Campaign Zero: Utilizes research-based policy solutions to end police brutality in the U.S. Color Of Change: The nation’s largest online racial justice organization. The Innocence Project: Exonerates the wrongly convicted through DNA testing and reforms the criminal justice system to prevent future injustice.Movement for Black Lives: Supports Black-led rapid response efforts and long-term strategy, policy and infrastructure investments in the movement ecosystem. NAACP: NAACP’s mission is to secure the political, educational, social and economic equality of rights in order to eliminate race-based discrimination and ensure the health and well-being of all persons. National Bail Fund Network: A full directory of bail funds by stateNational Bail Out:  A Black-led and Black-centered collective of abolitionist organizers, lawyers and activists building a community-based movement to support our folks and end systems of pretrial detention and ultimately mass incarceration.***Don't forget June is also Pride month -- visit GRAPHICPAINT for links to LGBTQ+ organizations supporting people of colorTill next week...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My conversation with Jonas, a grad student and photographer who has already come to know more about himself sexually at the age of 24 than most people do in a lifetime. We talk about what being queer means to him and all the many many things he's explored so far. If you'd like to connect with Jonas, here are his social profiles and links to his photography:FetLife ProfileInstagramPhotography Til next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

For those of you who are unaware, May has come to be known as Masturbation Month. In honor of this, I am sharing with you 4 brief clips personal, masturbation audio porn. But first! I answer the most frequently asked questions I've gotten about masturbation, and specifically, masturbation during quarantine.Enjoy! Til next week...Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with a woman in her late 20s... Do intimacy, relationships and sex all go together? Does one negate the other? Does waiting to have sex really matter? Is a deep connection more important than sexual compatibility and vice versa? We talk about all these things and more.And just a reminder, whatever your opinion, and however you live your life, if it works for you, then that's all that matters.Til next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My interview with Tom, a gentleman with a traumatic brain injury who struggles with maintaining sexual health. We talk about the challenges that come from living with a disability, the toll of mental stress, and the importance of sharing one's story.Sex and disability are both spoken about far too little -- if you are struggling with your own challenges, reach out to the show at [email protected] and let's talk about it...Til next week Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey! Guess who just found out that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? It's me... I guess it was good ol' serendipity that prompted my publishing an interview with an LCSW who focuses on sexual assault awareness last week! Anyway!Today I read (yes read) two essays I wrote within the last few years detailing a handful of the sexual assaults I've experienced so far and then give some candid background and followup after each. The links for the essays are below along with a 3rd bonus essay detailing some more assault but also some thoughts on consent.If you have a sexual assault/abuse story, I'd love to talk to you -- either on the show or otherwise. These experiences need to be shared! [email protected] (via Medium):Rapist Vs. Partner"Stealthing," A ReviewOn Consent And Being Bullied As A Grown-Ass WomanAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with Andrew Pari, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker, and psychotherapist. He is also the founder of Sexual Assault Awareness, an organization dedicated to treating and raising awareness of sexualized violence. I met Andrew earlier this year at the Positive Sexuality Conference in California where he gave a presentation titled Guided Rape Exposure Treatment, A Proposed Model.Andrew focuses his work on the controversial & taboo topics that most in his field won’t address, including specialized populations in the sex trade and human trafficking. He is also writing the first book on the arousal experience in sexual assault to help rape victims and therapists understand this response, hence the subject of his conference presentationAs you might expect, given the nature of his work, Andrew and I have a shared interest in discussing the things most people won’t - so who better to interview for this show!We talk in depth about his professional work but of course, we also get into the intimate nitty gritty of his personal, sexuality as is customary on this show. LINKSSexual Assault AwarenessCenter for Positive SexualityAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today's audio porn episode features masturbation with a butt plug (and a vibrator, and a squirting orgasm). My inspiration for this episode was a couple I interviewed a few months ago, C & H. Listen to their episode, Episode 91: When "C" Met "H" And Then Got FreakyThe episode that inspired C & H: Episode 101: A Couple Uses Toys (And Oral, And Oil, And Toe Sucking...)PSA: We need more audio porn!! Please help!***Also! Our new home on the interwebs! www.sexcompod.com - and on Twitter: https://twitter.com/sexcompodcastTill next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with a 20-something guy about his feelings on pornography. Is it addictive? Is it bad? We get into all the things! Along with personal sex stuff because that’s how we do here. Enjoy!And here is a great post with lots of links to independent, ethical and feminist porn — give it a look!Till next week…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My interview with local sex-positive hero, Effy Blue. We discuss relationship and sexual histories, trauma, healing, and the work she does around relationships and sex.Effy Blue is a relationship expert specializing in non-monogamy and other alternative structures. Her coaching philosophy, Relationship by Design, abandons the one-size-fits-all relationship structure that is heavily prescribed by our society. Instead, it advocates conscious and active design of relationships in service of those in it. Effy guides and facilitates this creative process by fearlessly asking the tough questions while constructively offering thoughtful insights. Besides coaching, Effy builds a growing community of Curious Foxes, leads panels and workshops, and speaks at relationship and sexuality conferences around the country.Find and connect with Effy:Instagram/Facebook/Twitter: @coacheffyblue / @wearecuriousfoxeseffyblue.comwearecuriousfoxes.comaloha@effyblue.comTill next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey folks! Special edition of “How I Got Off” to share some helpful tips on sexual satisfaction in the time of Coronavirus AND a link to a Zoom interview I’m doing later tonight (3/26 at 7pm EST).UPDATE Interview ended - link removed***Here are some tips for how to enjoy sex and to avoid spreading COVID-19 from nyc.govKnow how COVID-19 spreads.You can get COVID-19 from a person who has it.The virus can spread to people who are within about 6 feet of a person with COVID-19 when that person coughs or sneezes.The virus can spread through direct contact with their saliva or mucus.We still have a lot to learn about COVID-19 and sex.COVID-19 has been found in feces of people who are infected with the virus.COVID-19 has not yet been found in semen or vaginal fluid.We know that other coronaviruses do not efficiently transmit through sex.Have sex with people close to you.You are your safest sex partner. Masturbation will not spread COVID-19, especially if you wash your hands (and any sex toys) with soap and water for at least 20 seconds before and after sex.The next safest partner is someone you live with. Having close contact — including sex — with only a small circle of people helps prevent spreading COVID-19.You should avoid close contact — including sex — with anyone outside your household. If you do have sex with others, have as few partners as possible.If you usually meet your sex partners online or make a living by having sex, consider taking a break from in-person dates. Video dates, sexting or chat rooms may be options for you.Take care during sex.Kissing can easily pass COVID-19. Avoid kissing anyone who is not part of your small circle of close contacts.Rimming (mouth on anus) might spread COVID-19. Virus in feces may enter your mouth.Condoms and dental dams can reduce contact with saliva or feces, especially during oral or anal sex.Washing up before and after sex is more important than ever.Wash hands often with soap and water for at least 20 seconds.Wash sex toys with soap and warm water.Disinfect keyboards and touch screens that you share with others (for video chat, for watching pornography or for anything else).Skip sex if you or your partner is not feeling well.If you or a partner may have COVID-19, avoid sex and especially kissing.If you start to feel unwell, you may be about to develop symptoms of COVID-19, which include fever, cough, sore throat or shortness of breath.If you or your partner has a medical condition that can lead to more severe COVID-19, you may also want to skip sex.Medical conditions include lung disease, heart disease, diabetes, cancer or a weakened immune system (for example, having unsuppressed HIV and a low CD4 count).Prevent HIV, other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unplanned pregnancy.HIV: Condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and having an undetectable viral load all help prevent HIV. For more information, visit nyc.gov/health and search HIV.Other STIs: Condoms help prevent other STIs. Visit nyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My interview with Dr. Kerry Kott… join us for a conversation about discovery, communication, healing, experimentation and optimism in the face of trauma.Afterward, check out my guest’s podcast: The Universe Made Me Do ItTo find out more about her work, visit her website and check out her InstagramTill next week, stay safe!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Listen to a woman cum many, many times as her partner licks her feet, sucks her toes, massages her with oil, eats her out and uses multiple vibrators over the course of 20+ minutes…Btw, this is a couple married for 28 fucking years. Don’t even try to say married sex can’t be hot AF!Many thanks to the sexy listeners who submitted this clip!Here are the two toys used in the audio:Njoy Pure WandMagic Wand**Update on SXSW: the event was cancelled (thank you to all the listeners who wrote in to comfort me!) but unfortunately the trip was non-refundable so I’m still flying to Austin, heading out today. I’ve been working hard to arrange alternate events to get some value out of the excursion — I will be doing a webcast (or two!) plus I’ve booked an in-person slot at Grit Daily House for tomorrow, Friday March 13 at 12:30pm at this event:Grit Daily House Live!More to come as things become definite… I will be sharing the webcast with you all so stay tuned!Till next week…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

100 EPISODES CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?!?!?Today’s show is one of my all-time favorite conversations — an interview with Lydia, an artist, content creator, sex worker, trans woman, etc… She has so many wonderful experiences to share and does so with such insight and humor that I just know you’ll love this episode as much as I do.And stay tuned till the very end when I share some very important updates regarding this show!!!Till next week…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey folks! Welcome to the audio porn follow-up to last weeks’s interview, Episode 98: All About Attending Sex PartiesNOTE: this is not a recording of a sex party, but of my guest from the last episode, “BlackKnight,” masturbating in front of an audience for the first time.Till next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today’s interview is Part 1 of a 2-part series — next week’s episode will be audio porn featuring the same guestThe conversation I have with “BlackKnight” centers around the reality of attending sex parties. It just so happens my guest has been to quite a few and as a self-identified shy and anxious person, I think a lot of folks out there will relate to his perspective.Our talk also covers race play; the first event my guest attended was an interracial swingers party. Race also factors into his personal explorations and porn use.Till next week!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Season 2!Updates on what’s new for the season ahead — new intro, new schedule format, etc…Also! Two speaking engagements coming up REAL SOON! My topic is “Using Sex And Porn Online To Change The World IRL”The first, the Positive Sexuality Conference, February 21-23, 2020I am speaking Sunday, February 23, at 10:15am — registration closes February 19!The second, SXSW!!!! March 13-22, 2020I am speaking Friday, March 13, at 12:45pmAlso also!! GRAPHICPAINT is relaunching in March! Have you signed up yet for a chance to win a free month of unlimited access?? Visit https://www.graphicpaint.com/ to enter for early access.***If you’re interested in being a beta user, please email me at [email protected] and I’ll hook you up!And… tomorrow is Valentine’s Day! You should masturbate.Till next week…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

A look back at Season 1 and a look ahead at what’s in store for Season 2… a special thank you to everyone who participated in the content for the last 96 episodes - this show wouldn’t exist without you!Happy New Year everyone :)***If you’d like to show your support with a financial donation, please visit our donation page on GRAPHICPAINT***Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The last audio porn of the year! This month’s selection could be considered wholesome given that it is a recording made by a VERY loving couple. Enjoy!I’ll be back Monday with the last episode of Season 1…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Guess who beat off most days this past week?!?!?!? That’s right, I’ve finally overcome my mental block and gotten down with my bad self successfully and without porn four out of the last seven days. But this positivity is not without some downsides! I would tell you more here but you’ll just have to listen to find out details.Till Thursday — our last regular episode of both the season and year… and Happy Festivus!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Throwback episode featuring archival sound footage of a pre-play conversation with “The Brit,” who has appeared in four other episodes from the early days of this show:Episode 3: Yes Daddy Audio—A Husband Dominates His WifeEpisode 7: Interview 1—”The Brit”Episode 13: Play Session 1—”The Brit”Episode 27: Play Session 2—”The Brit”This recorded discussion documents two people navigating the terms of an internet-based Dom/sub (D/s) relationship as well as a reverse interview of sorts… here “the Brit” asks me the types of probing, private questions I typically ask of guests in other episodes…Till Monday!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This week I was heavy-duty cranky pants, battling a cold and in no mood for anyone’s shit BUT I somehow beat off two days in a row! So impressive, which is not what I can say about the porn I watched the second day which was all shitty shit and I am in a real porn-hating space right now. Anyway! Holidays! Ugh.Also: FestivusBoob-Heavy Porn I DO NOT Recommend:Two Asian girls, too much noiseCheerleader and girl, too much talking, too stupid, no buildup or sensitivityMeh guy-on-girl fake, girl too ridiculous, who even does this shit Meh guy-on-girl fake, boring, no buildup or sensitivityAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with “C” and “H” about all the sexy sex stuff happening in their new relationshipYou may remember “C” from Episode 65: The Great Tiny Penis Debate — he kept in touch after the recording to let me know that after all his pessimism about finding a sexually compatible partner, the miracle finally happened and so here we are today…And, here are the two orgy-describing episodes mentioned:Episode 60: [QUICKIE] How I Got Off 8/19 - 8/25/19Episode 86: [QUICKIE] How I Got Off 11/18 - 11/24/19Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Improved sexual activity! I masturbated Thursday and watched someone else masturbate Saturday… Also! The bad porn I watched while beating off Thursday has inspired a new segment: “UNSOLICITED ADVICE.” Do with it what you will because it may very well be bad advice as it is based solely on my own opinion and personal feelings. But also it may just save you from some future embarrassment so give it a listen?As to the subject of said segment of “UNSOLICITED ADVICE,” the topics at hand are: sunglasses on naked people doing sexy things and young men bringing magnum condoms to new sexual encounters.Now for the porn…Inspiration for my PSA of unsolicited advice, i.e., here is a dude wearing sunglasses and ruining an otherwise decent clip of a man sucking on some natural titsA ridiculous storyline, decent looking male participant, and unfortunate presence of breast implantsProbably a decent clip of nipple sucking but I was so frustrated at this point I turned it off after a few secondsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

An interview with Karen, a listener I connected with on Instagram and who agreed to do an interview to share all the juicy stories of her life so far… We talk about how she basically educated herself when it came to sex, a story all too common. So many of us grow up like Karen, where sex isn’t spoken about openly at home or in school and much of our knowledge about the act comes from the media. Some other topics include, what makes sex good? what makes a partner good? and the value of openness in relationships and social circles in terms of discussing what we want and who we are. Enjoy!Till Monday…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

No sex, no orgasms, just stress, stress, STRESS! Too stressed to do anything, but for good reason! I’ve been grinding out the architecture and design of the new, custom GRAPHICPAINT.com which will be launching January 31, 2020!!! Of course, I’m stressed because I procrastinated, but that’s kind of my M.O. — I swing between the same extremes of stress/work/activity and relief in nearly every area of my life but why? I believe it is because amplified stress equals amplified reward, i.e., relief, but maybe that’s just me?Anyway! I fixed the GoFundMe campaign for the podcast — apparently the campaign paused because of some admin detail, anyway! It’s up and running so please support us if you can!Till Thursday!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

THANK YOU to each and every one of you have listened, shared the show, shared audio, agreed to interviews, commented, subscribed and taken the time to write me about how this project has affected you.Our publishing schedule will remain the same over Christmas but we will be taking the entire month of January off for a much needed break before launching Season 2!While we are on hiatus in January, please share any feedback, thoughts or requests regarding topics, guests, or anything else that you’d like to hear in our next season.Much love and gratitude to all of you!Till Monday…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 orgasms for the week! 2 at the mid-week orgy, 2 with #57, 3 masturbating with toys sans porn…So that orgy — pretty sure this was my last one. Listen to find out why and how playing separately later in the week with #57 [masturbation party guy] was actually more satisfying. But! Neither was satisfying to my soul and I have been left with an even bigger craving for a real partner so how about that.Catch up on what happened at the first orgy I attended back in August with Episode 60 and the essay, Attending My First Orgy, SoberTill Thursday!Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Remember the mention of Mr. Baggy Magnum Condom? [Episode 56] Well here is the audio of me going two rounds with that guy, showing up like a champ to get mine as best I could despite the underwhelming material I had to work with. A big plus: this guy is VERY vocal and enthusiastically expressive so that was fun. He’s a good kid just not the one for me. Take a listen.Do you have underwhelming experiences of your own to share? Hit me up: [email protected] a more serious and urgent note, this episode is airing the day after Transgender Day Of Remembrance but it’s worth duplicating the remembrance given that there were at least 331 murders of trans and gender-diverse people between October 1, 2018 and September 30, 2019. Please take the time to acknowledge their passing and the work that remains end the violence. You can view the full list of reported deaths here along with more information on the importance of this day.Till Monday…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

One orgasm to report! And lucky you, I recorded the event. BUT, it was extremely brief and underwhelming, though still true and real and all that so give it a listen. I’ve included the clip at the end of my rambling about the past week and my hopes and dreams for the orgy I’ll be attending this Wednesday.And hey! It’s Trans Awareness Week and it just so happens that Episodes 81 and 83 detail the journey of one woman’s transition and all that the experience entails. Check out Parts 1 and 2 of my interview with “C” as she describes coming out to her friends, family and colleagues, as well as what it’s been like sexually now that she is living her truth.Episode 81: “C” Comes Out As A Woman, Part 1Episode 83: “C” Comes Out As A Woman, Part 2Till Thursday…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The conclusion of my 2-part interview with “C.” Please listen to Episode 81 before diving into this one so that you’ve got some context for the conversation.“C” is in her early 50s and only recently came out as a trans woman — which means she spent decades struggling to come to terms with herself; her identity, orientation and sexual pleasure.In Part 2 we discuss the specifics of coming out to her family, especially to her son. We talk about social media, the physical details of her transition, body dysmorphia, the paradox of appearance, the idea of being a gender hybrid or “third sex,” and what her current sexual experiences are like. Some heavy stuff!Till Monday…***The SEX COMMUNICATION Podcast equipment fundraiser continues! Please support the project by contributing to our GoFundMe campaign.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My notes for the past week: RAGE. The end.Ok fine, there were other things like STRESS and INSECURITY. Listen for the details on how feeling like shit about my outsides keeps my insides sex free! Specifically what it was like attending a fancy schmancy event while feeling like a hideous troll and how this all connects to my shaved head and vanity and needing outside validation to make up for the lack of internal validation. Blah blah blah!OH WAIT! Actually something amazing did happen but I had so much rage I forgot! SXSW!!!! I AM SPEAKING AT SXSW AFTERALL!!! A slot opened up and I am now giving the 15-minute solo presentation I had applied for! THANK YOU to every single ounce of support, I am so fucking humbled and blown away that this is happening, so much so that I fucking forgot in my rage!!Until Thursday…Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy