Sexology

Welcome to Episode 490 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Dr. Jordan Barber, who speaks to me about pain during sex.In this episode, Dr. Barber and I discuss why so many people are told that “everything looks normal” when they are experiencing very real pain during sex. He explains how standard medical testing often misses muscle and nerve function, and why painful sex is rarely caused by one single factor.Dr. Jordan Barber is a Doctor of Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine (DAOM) specializing in integrative pain care with a focus on pelvic floor dysfunction, chronic pelvic pain, and complex musculoskeletal conditions. His clinical work centers on advanced dry needling and neuromodulation-based acupuncture, targeting both tissue and nervous system drivers of pain. With over two decades of experience, he works at the intersection of traditional Chinese medicine and modern pain science to help patients restore function and break persistent pain patterns.In this episode, you will hear:Understanding Painful SexMuscle Pain Versus Nerve PainWhy Tests Can Look NormalPelvic Floor Physical TherapyTrauma And Pelvic PainDry Needling ExplainedVagus Nerve StimulationHormones And LubricationBuilding The Right Care TeamA Woman’s Guide to Reviving Sex Drivehttps://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/ Book An Appointment With Dr. Nazanin Moalihttps://oasis2care.clientsecure.me  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 489 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Elana Auerbach, who speaks to me about navigating sexless marriages and reviving physical intimacy.It is incredibly common for long-term relationships to experience a decline in physical intimacy over time. Often, couples fall into a routine where life gets busy, and cultivating a sexual spark drops to the bottom of the priority list. During our conversation, we explore why this happens and how unspoken frustrations and rejections can build up over time like invisible panes of glass between partners. Elana Auerbach is a lover, mother, mentor, activator, and priestess. She spent her childhood and young adulthood on what she calls 'the conveyor belt of life,' being the good girl and doing what others expected of her. This looked like graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street for a Japanese investment bank, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry.It all fell apart in 2001 when Elana realized she’d been living a lie and found the courage to leave her marriage. She entered a world of sensuality and sex in a San Francisco pleasure-centered community. This is where she met Bill, who would become her loverman for life.In this episode, you will hear:Defining Sexless RelationshipsThe Myth of Spontaneous DesireUnderstanding Responsive DesireNavigating Discrepancies in LibidoThe Impact of Unspoken RejectionIntroducing the Sure Thing PracticeExploring Sensuality Without PressureHonoring Boundaries and Communicating NosOvercoming the Burden of Sexual ShameTaking Accountability for Intimacy GoalsElana's guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire!https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-selfForeplay Check List https://exciting-builder-8729.kit.com/2690c062c9Book An Appointment With Dr. Nazanin Moalihttps://oasis2care.clientsecure.me  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 488 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Arthur Burnett who speaks to me about delayed ejaculation and loss of penile sensitivity.In this episode Dr. Burnett and I discuss a topic that has been highly requested by many of our listeners and clients. We look at the complicated factors behind delayed ejaculation and the annoying loss of sensitivity some men experience. Dr. Burnett shares his urologic expertise on the role of physical health conditions such as diabetes or sensory neuropathies as well as the much-debated role of testosterone levels.Arthur L. “Bud” Burnett II, M.D., MBA, FACS, is a trail-blazing and globally recognized urologist, educator, and researcher at Johns Hopkins University, where he has worked for more than 40 years. He serves as the Patrick C. Walsh Professor of Urology, Director of the Male Consultation Clinic. As a barrier-breaking leader, he is recognized as the first Black person to have achieved milestones in the urology profession as professor of urology at Johns Hopkins University, President of the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA), and Board Member of the American Urological Association. In this episode, you will hear: Multilayered Causes of Delayed EjaculationImpact of Diabetes and Neuropathy on Sexual HealthThe Role of Testosterone in Ejaculatory FunctionPotential Side Effects of Weight Management DrugsRetraining Sensitivity Altered by Masturbation HabitsHow Alpha Blockers and Antidepressants Affect ClimaxThe Connection Between OCD and Ejaculatory ControlDebunking Myths About Attraction and PerformanceConstructive Ways Partners Can Offer Meaningful SupportSafe Practices for Using Constrictive Devices and ToysForeplay Check ListSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 487 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Courtney Faye Long, who speaks to me about understanding and resolving lost desire in long-term relationships. In this episode, we talk about a common problem that many couples in long-term relationships have: the natural change and sometimes loss of sexual desire. When a partner's interest seems to fade, it's easy for our minds to jump to the worst possible conclusions. But in reality, it's often because of mismatched expectations, not a lack of attraction. Courtney and I talk about the myth of rushing through physical intimacy and why treating sex like a race often makes people feel disconnected.  Courtney Fae Long, MSW, LC, CHt, is the creator of Sex Life Makeover and TEDx speaker whose work has been featured in NBC, Forbes, MSN, and Psychology Today. She specializes in highly sexual women who feel frustrated and unfulfilled. She holds a Master’s Degree in Social Work (MSW) and certificates in Sexuality Education and Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan and has been teaching for 25+ years. Courtney brings a lighthearted, joyful approach to sex. In this episode, you will hear: ●      The Myth of Sex in Football Style●      Physiological Requirements for Extended Warm-ups●      Going from Hustle Culture to Presence●      The Idea of Foreplay All Day●      Changing the Way We Do Date Night●      How Mothering Changes Kill Sexual Desire●      The Risks of Pretending to Enjoy and Have Orgasms●      Talking About Changing Sexual Preferences●      Growing the Parasympathetic Nervous System●      The Twenty-Minute Cuddle and Connect Exercise Ebook Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 486 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Juliane Maxwald who speaks to me about understanding our sexual symptoms as deeper unconscious communications. In this episode, we talk about how sexual problems are rarely just about sex. In this day and age, people are always looking for a quick fix or a medical solution to their personal problems. Julianne beautifully explains that symptoms like low desire or trouble getting an erection are often our bodies telling us about deeper emotional needs, unresolved trauma, or hidden worries.  Juliane Maxwald, MA, LP, CST, is a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist based in New York City. She has over fifteen years of experience working with individuals and couples across a wide range of concerns, including sexuality and intimacy, trauma, addiction and compulsive behaviors, mood and anxiety disorders, and relational and family-of-origin dynamics. Her work is grounded in contemporary psychoanalysis and informed by trauma theory, somatic awareness, and relational, sex-positive frameworks. Juliane specializes in helping people move beyond symptom-focused treatment—whether the symptom shows up as sexual difficulty, burnout, overwork, emotional numbing, or relational conflict—and toward a deeper understanding of the unconscious patterns shaping their lives. In this episode, you will hear: ·      Reconceptualizing Sexual Dysfunction as Emotional Communication·      The Risk of Excessive Medicalization of Personal Issues·      Getting to Know the Unconscious Messages Behind Low Desire·      Anxiety about performance and the need for approval·      Using Relaxation Techniques Such as Beach Showers·      How Repetition Compulsion Relates to Past Trauma·      Examining the Underlying Factors of Compulsive Sexual Behaviors·      Unpacking the Hidden Themes in Pornography Usage·      Sexual Behavior That Is Out of Control as a Way to Control Emotions·      Getting over sexual shame with curiosity and kindness Book an Appointment with Dr. Nazanin Moali Hard Penis Check ListSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 485 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Sienna Sinclaire, who speaks to me about the art of oral sex and navigating the mental blocks that often surround it. In this episode, we talk about real ways to improve your skills and boost your confidence. The goal is to treat sexual encounters like a playground for exploration. You can do this by using your hands as a tool and trying out different temperatures, like ice and warm water. We also talk about common worries about smell and body image, stressing the importance of being able to read and write about health issues and accepting yourself instead of feeling ashamed.  Sienna Sinclaire is an award-winning author, creative director, certified sex coach, and lifestyle entrepreneur redefining modern sensuality through storytelling, design, and immersive brand experiences. As the visionary behind Sienna Sinclaire Studios, Naughty Girl Shop, and Naughty Girl Motel, she has built a world where fashion, travel, artistry, and empowerment collide. Her work celebrates women who want to live boldly, merging glamour, self-love, and sensual confidence into an unapologetic lifestyle. Through her signature blend of luxury branding, cinematic storytelling, and experiential design, Sienna invites audiences into a universe that blurs fantasy and reality, inspiring others to create a life that turns them on. In this episode, you will hear: ·      Unlearning Outdated Sexual Scripts·      Navigating Performance Anxiety Blocks·      Importance Of Active Feedback·      Utilising Hands For Enhanced Pleasure·      Addressing Body Image Insecurity·      Facts About Natural Scent·      Experimenting With Temperature Sensations·      Limitations Of Pornographic Education·      Exploring Diverse Genital Anatomy·      Integrating Pleasure Enhancement Tools Afternoon Delight Workshop Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 484 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Genevieve Lejeune, who speaks to me about the evolution of sexual identity and the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration. In this episode, we discuss the emotional complexities that arise when a partner begins to question or redefine their sexual orientation. This journey can often feel destabilizing for both individuals in a relationship, triggering fears of inadequacy or the worry that the relationship might be coming to an end. Genevieve and I discuss how to navigate these transitions by prioritizing emotional safety and curiosity over panic and control.  Genevieve Lejeune is the founder of Skirt Club, a private members club for bi-curious & bisexual women. With more than 25,000 members globally, women are more interested in each other than ever. She was the first to curate luxurious global events where women can put their own desires first, and gain confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom. A leading figure in the movement for women’s sexual empowerment, Genevieve has been interviewed for high-profile publications such as Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Cosmo, Bloomberg, Rolling Stone and the Sunday Times. In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Sexual Identity Evolution·      Managing Relationship Fears And Insecurity·      The Origin Of Skirt Club·      Benefits Of Women Only Spaces·      Avoiding Performative Sexual Pressure·      Communication Strategies For Couples·      The Role Of Emotional Safety·      Exploring Physical Desire And Affection·      Navigating Monogamy And Fluidity·      Resources For Bisexual Exploration Steady Freddy Thank you to our sponsor! ​Steady Freddy​ is here to bring men’s sexual health out of the shadows and into everyday conversation. Their ​Delay Spray​ created for men who experience premature ejaculation or just want to last a bit longer in bed. It’s simple. Spray on. Play on. Enjoy! Use the code SEXOLOGY and enjoy 15% off.  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 483 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to have Courtney Boyer on the show. In this episode, Courtney talks to me about how she transitioned from living in a strict purity culture to living in a polyamorous lifestyle. Courtney discusses her childhood in a strict religious setting where her worth and safety were closely linked to her ability to control her sexual urges. We talk about the "myth of the perfect Christian wife" and how many women in these communities feel pressured to keep up the act of sacrifice.  Courtney Boyer, M.Ed., M.S., is a therapist-turned-relationship coach, writer, and speaker whose work centers on love, desire, and authenticity. She has been featured in The New York Post, Cosmopolitan, The Huffington Post, and BBC Radio Live. Drawing on her background in mental health and sex therapy, she brings a unique blend of professional expertise and lived experience to conversations around relationships and identity. When she isn’t writing or coaching, Courtney can be found chasing joy—traveling, reading, or savoring delicious coffee and deep conversation. She is passionate about helping women break free from shame, reclaim their bodies and voices, and create relationships rooted in honesty and autonomy. In this episode, you will hear: ·      How Purity Culture Affects How You Feel About Yourself·      Disputing The Myth Of The Ideal Christian Wife·      Going From Being Monogamous To Being Polyamorous·      How To Handle The Dynamics Of A Mono-poly Relationship·      Setting Limits In Parallel Polyamory·      The Significance Of Representation In Non-monogamy·      Reclaiming Joy Through Bodily Embodiment·      Building Self-trust After Being Controlled By Religion·      Why Women Should Date Men Who Are Older Than Them·      Finding Your Own Reason To Open Up Thank you to our sponsor! ​Steady Freddy​ is here to bring men’s sexual health out of the shadows and into everyday conversation. Their ​Delay Spray​ created for men who experience premature ejaculation or just want to last a bit longer in bed. It’s simple. Spray on. Play on. Enjoy! Use the code SEXOLOGY and enjoy 15% off.  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 482 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jessica Idoine who speaks to me about the role of the nervous system in erotic connection and how couples can move from the stress of daily life into a state that supports intimacy and foreplay. Jessica and I talk about why a lot of people find it difficult to shift from the hectic nature of daily obligations to erotic connection. We examine how the nervous system is crucial to sexual responsiveness and why arousal and pleasure depend on a transition from a fight-or-flight response to a more relaxed, present-moment state.Jessica is a licensed and certified relationship and sex therapist, retreat facilitator, and founder of Expansive Connections Retreats. She helps couples and individuals cultivate deeper intimacy, emotional safety, and honest communication through a trauma-informed, somatic, and evidence-based approach. With specialized experience supporting LGBTQIA+ clients, neurodivergent couples, and non-traditional relationships, Jessica is known for reframing relationship myths, normalizing complex dynamics, and offering practical, accessible tools for navigating intimacy, conflict, and long-term connection. In this episode, you will hear: ·      The Nervous System’s Role In Sexual Arousal·      Why Stress Blocks Erotic Connection·      Moving From Fight Or Flight To Rest And Digest·      Practical Co-Regulation Rituals For Couples·      The Power Of Non-Demand Touch And Connection·      Navigating Desire Mismatch In Relationships·      How To Communicate A Loving “No” To Sex·      Recognizing Signs Of Nervous System Shutdown·      Using Rituals To Transition Into Intimacy·      Small Shifts That Help Couples Feel Safer And More Connected Thank you to our sponsor! ​Steady Freddy​ is here to bring men's sexual health out of the shadows and into everyday conversation. Their ​Delay Spray​ created for men who experience premature ejaculation or just want to last a bit longer in bed. It's simple. Spray on. Play on. Enjoy! Use the code SEXOLOGY and enjoy 15% off. Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 481 of the Sexology Podcast! I'm thrilled to have Gigi Engle join me today as she talks about kink, how it's frequently misinterpreted, and how people can explore their desires with open communication, curiosity, and safety. Gigi and I discuss what kink actually entails and why it is much more expansive than the preconceived notions that many people have about it. She describes how the term "kink" serves as a catch-all for a variety of relational and sensory experiences, ranging from more symbolic forms of erotic expression to power dynamics and sensation play.  Gigi Engle is a COSRT-registered, MNCIP, ACS, CSE, CSC, GSRD-accredited, award-winning author, certified sex & relationships psychotherapist, and sex educator. She works clinically as an associate clinician at The Therapy Yard, where she specializes in supporting GSRD (Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diverse) clients, including members of the LGBTQIA+ community, kinky folx, and people in polyamorous and open relationships.  Gigi is the author of two books: Kink Curious and All The F*cking Mistakes. Kink Curious is available for pre-order and comes out January 21st. In this episode, you will hear: ·      The True Meaning of Kink·      Distinctions Between Fetish and Kink·      Reasons Behind Many People's Unrealized Kinkiness·      The Evolution of Kinks·      Psychology of Symbolic and Sensory Play·      Kink Exploration's Emotional Safety·      The Significance of Safe Words and Consent·      Comprehending the Concept of an Enthusiastic Maybe·      Managing Shame Regarding Sexual Desires·      How Couples Can Respectfully Discuss Kinks Thank you to our sponsor! ​Steady Freddy​ is here to bring men's sexual health out of the shadows and into everyday conversation. Their ​Delay Spray​ created for men who experience premature ejaculation, or just want to last a bit longer in bed. It's simple. Spray on. Play on. Enjoy! Use the code SEXOLOGY and enjoy 15% off. Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 480 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Taylor P. Kohn who speaks to me about the impact of GLP-1 receptor agonists on sexual health and erectile function.In this episode, we discuss the growing curiosity around GLP-1 medications and whether they influence erectile dysfunction, libido, and overall sexual performance. Dr. Kohn shares insights from his large claims database study examining young men without diabetes who initiated GLP-1 treatment. We also talk about reassuring findings, including the low overall rate of new erectile dysfunction diagnoses, while also unpacking the difference between correlation and causation.Dr. Taylor P. Kohn, MD, M.Phil. is an Assistant Professor in the Scott Department of Urology at Baylor College of Medicine, specializing in Male Infertility and Sexual Dysfunction. Dr. Kohn began his academic career at Baylor University where he developed a love for biomedical research. In 2013, he was awarded a prestigious Fulbright Scholarship, enabling him to pursue a Master of Philosophy (M.Phil.) in Instrumentation at the University of Manchester in the United Kingdom, studying protein distribution in Alzheimer’s disease using imaging mass spectrometers. In this episode, you will hear: ·      GLP-1 Medications And Erectile Dysfunction Risk·      Libido Changes And Reward System Questions·      Microvascular Health And Cardiovascular Links·      Weight Loss, Muscle Mass, And Hormone Regulation·      Testosterone Optimization Through Lifestyle·      Psychological Contributors To Erectile Challenges·      Treatment Ladder For Erectile Dysfunction·      Shockwave Therapy And Regenerative Options·      Penile Injections And Prosthesis Outcomes·      Stress Reduction And Sexual Confidence Building Thank you to our sponsor! ​Steady Freddy​ is here to bring men's sexual health out of the shadows and into everyday conversation. Their ​Delay Spray​ created for men who experience premature ejaculation, or just want to last a bit longer in bed. It's simple. Spray on. Play on. Enjoy! Use the code SEXOLOGY and enjoy 15% off. Hard Penis Check List Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 479 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Zach Brittle who speaks to me about negative sentiment override and how relationship dynamics shape our erotic connection. In this episode, Zach and I discuss how the emotional tone of a relationship deeply influences intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. We look at the concept of Negative Sentiment Override, a term from John Gottman’s research, and discuss how couples can find themselves stuck in patterns where even neutral moments feel charged with criticism or defensiveness. Zach has been teaching, coaching, mentoring and counseling couples for nearly 20 years. He is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington and a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT) and Relational Life Therapist. He is the host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the best selling relationship guide The Relationship Alphabet and the Marriage Therapy Journal. His writings and insights have also been featured in Vanity Fair, Men’s Health, Real Simple, The New York Times and the Washington Post. Zach has been happily married to his wife Rebecca for 25 of 28 years. They live in Seattle with their two adulting daughters. In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Negative Sentiment Override·      Positive Versus Negative Emotional Filters·      The Pasta Example And Neutral Events·      Emotional Safety And Sexual Vulnerability·      Gender Socialization And Desire Patterns·      Slowing Down Between Impulse And Response·      Taking Responsibility In Relationship Conflict·      Contempt And The Illusion Of Superiority·      Redefining What Sex Is For·      Scheduling Erotic Play And Expanding Intimacy Work With Dr. Nazanin Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 478 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by EJ and Tarah Kerwin who speak to me about sex and parenting, how becoming parents reshaped their intimacy, desire, and how they maintain their emotional connection to each other. In this episode, EJ and Tarah speak to me about what it was like to go from a playful, spontaneous sex life to feeling completely overwhelmed after the birth of their twins; navigating sleep deprivation, and the resurfacing of past trauma. They also talk openly about the grief that can accompany shifts in identity, libido, and partnership, and how isolating that transition can feel when couples are not talking about it. EJ and Tarah Kerwin are the founders of Relationship Renovation and hosts of the Relationship Renovation Podcast, where they share raw honesty, humor, and decades of combined experience as relationship coaches to help couples deepen intimacy, build emotional safety, and navigate the complexities of long-term partnership. Known for their vulnerability and willingness to share their own relationship challenges, EJ and Tarah offer practical tools, research-backed insights, and real-life stories that resonate with couples around the world. In this episode, you will hear: ·      The Impact Of Parenting On Sexual Desire·      Navigating Postpartum And Identity Shifts·      Grief Around Changing Intimacy·      Higher And Lower Desire Dynamics·      Emotional Safety In Long Term Relationships·      Pressure Windows And Sexual Expectations·      Rebuilding Intimacy Through Communication·      Processing Trauma Within Partnership·      Non Sexual Affection And Erotic Connection·      Creating Systems To Prioritize Your Relationship FREE Foreplay Checklist IdeasSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 477 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Laurie Gerber, who speaks to me about how to communicate about sex, sexual preferences, and talking about difficult topics like STIs with more confidence and clarity. In this episode, Laurie and I discuss why silence is one of the biggest obstacles to fulfilling sexual and romantic relationships. Laurie shares powerful insights from her work with clients, especially around why sex is a key differentiator between friendship and romantic partnership, and why ongoing conversations matter more than crisis-driven ones. Laurie Gerber is the creator of Master the Art of Love, an online digital course for women over 50 who are ready to date like they mean it. She’s the host of the podcast “Love at Any Age,” through which she coaches the audience, based on the wholehearted belief that everyone deserves healthy, lasting love, and it’s never too late. For over 20 years, first as President of the Life Coaching division at Handel Group® and then as founder of Laurie Gerber Coaching Inc. she has been life and love coaching thousands of individuals and couples. Laurie is currently licensing The Handel Method® and uses it in her online and one-on-one coaching to help people achieve their dreams, with a focus on love.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Why Silence Is The Biggest Mistake·      Sex As A Learnable Skill·      Making Sex An Ongoing Conversation·      Choosing The Right Time And Setting·      Asking Permission To Talk About Sex·      Practical Hacks To Start Conversations·      Navigating STI Disclosure With Confidence·      Setting Sexual Boundaries Early·      Desire Mismatches And Rejection·      Rituals, Scheduling, And Prioritizing Sex Get The How To Be The Man She Desires Guide HERE Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 476 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Ally Iseman, who speaks to me about desire discrepancy, long-term intimacy, and how travel can become a powerful doorway back to erotic connection. In this episode, Ally and I discuss one of the most common struggles couples bring into therapy: loving their partner while feeling disconnected from sex and intimacy. We talk about why desire naturally shifts over time, how novelty + security can feel like they are pulling in opposite directions, and why sexless periods are often symptoms rather than the core issue. Ally Iseman is a non-monogamy educator, erotic lifestyle consultant, and ICF-certified relationship coach who has spent over a decade helping individuals, couples, and moresomes create authentic, fulfilling relationships on their own terms. As the founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, an inclusive relationship education platform, Ally champions open communication and conscious connection within sex-positive and non-traditional relationship dynamics.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Desire Discrepancy·      Why Novelty Fuels Erotic Energy·      Sexless Relationships As A Symptom·      Reframing Masturbation And Shame·      Travel As Foreplay For Connection·      Escape Versus Exploration In Trips·      Sensuality Beyond Sexual Acts·      Creating Mystery Through Planning·      Managing Expectations And Pressure·      Curiosity As A Relationship SkillPassport2Pleasure: Use our link HERE to save $100 on the course “ENM 101: Open Up Without Breaking Up” Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 475 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I am excited to be joined by Caitlin V, who speaks to me about erectile unpredictability, performance anxiety, and supporting men’s sexuality through a holistic, shame-free lens. A quick note for my single listeners in California, if you're craving intentional, psychologically grounded ways to meet people. We have a beautiful offering coming up through LALOVELAB.com; a company I co-created with my colleague Dr. Richard Espinoza. Our next matchmaking event is Saturday February 7th at 4:00pmhosted at the Craft Contemporary Museum in LA. It's thoughtfully curated experience designed by us to help you connect with intention, not apps. In this episode, Caitlyn and I discuss how many men are struggling with sexual performance earlier in life and why this is not a personal failure or a flaw. We also talk about how cultural expectations, lack of accurate sex education, and constant exposure to unrealistic sexual imagery can shape anxiety around erections, desire, and confidence.  Caitlin V is one of today’s leading voices in modern sexuality and the host of the HBO Max series Good Sex. A researcher and coach with a background in public health, she has empowered millions to transform their sex lives through her coaching, courses, and viral online content. Her evidence-based, shame-free approach bridges clinical research with real-world intimacy, showing how better sex can make us better humans. Featured in O Magazine, GQ, Variety, and more, Caitlin champions a vision of sexuality that makes us not only better lovers--but more compassionate humans.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Erectile Unpredictability·      Performance Anxiety And Its Root Causes·      Porn, Arousal, And Unrealistic Expectations·      Treating Men’s Sexuality Holistically·      Breaking Shame And Silence Around Sex·      Talking To A Partner With Confidence·      Rebuilding Erotic Connection As A Couple·      Reducing Pressure And Outcome Focus·      Sex Toys And Supportive Tools For Men·      Practical Exercises For Emotional IntimacySpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 474 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Amy Quinn and Malia Carvallo, who speak to me about healing sexuality, pleasure, and connection through embodiment, community, and altered states of consciousness. A quick note for my single listeners in California, if you're craving intentional, psychologically grounded ways to meet people. We have a beautiful offering coming up through LALOVELAB.com; a company I co-created with my colleague Dr. Richard Espinoza. Our next matchmaking event is Saturday February 7th at 4:00pmhosted at the Craft Contemporary Museum in LA. It's thoughtfully curated experience designed by us to help you connect with intention, not apps. In this episode, we explore how pleasure and erotic energy can be deeply healing when approached with intention, safety, and compassion. Amy and Malia share their personal journeys into healing work, including dolphin-assisted experiences, somatic practices, and psychedelic-informed therapy.Amy Ruffolo Quinn, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Eating Disorder Specialist with a private practice in El Segundo, California. She is also the founder of Your Beautiful Beginning, LLC, where she leads Wild Dolphin Wellness Retreats that weave together somatic healing, nature, and the medicine of joy. Malia Carvalho is a somatic guide, trauma-informed tantra educator, and founder of The Dreamweaver Collective. Through a unique blend of Kundalini Fusion, somatic yoga, nervous-system regulation, sound healing, microdosing support, and integrative embodiment work, she helps women reconnect with their pleasure, creativity, and personal power.In this episode, you will hear: ●      Healing Sexuality Through Embodiment●      Releasing Shame Around Pleasure●      Dolphin-Assisted Healing Experiences●      Psychedelic-Informed Therapy And Integration●      The Role Of Breath In Pleasure●      Presence, Surrender, And Letting Go●      Relational Healing And Community Support●      Erotic Energy As A Healing Force●      Creating Safe Containers For Exploration●      Joy As A Pathway To WholenessSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 473 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Nicole Thompson, who speaks to me about psychedelic-informed sexuality, chemsex, and harm reduction in erotic spaces.A quick note for my single listeners in California, if you're craving intentional, psychologically grounded ways to meet people. We have a beautiful offering coming up through LALOVELAB.com; a company I co-created with my colleague Dr. Richard Espinoza. Our next matchmaking event is Saturday February 7th at 4:00pm hosted at the Craft Contemporary Museum in LA. It's thoughtfully curated experience designed by us to help you connect with intention, not apps. In this episode, we discuss how psychedelics intersect with sexuality, pleasure, and relationships, beginning with a reframe of what we even mean by “drugs” and altered states. We also talk about how substances such as MDMA, psilocybin, and ketamine can act as non-specific amplifiers, and why intention, set, and setting matter so deeply when people are exploring erotic connection in altered states.  Dr. Nicole Thompson is a queer sex and relationship psychotherapist providing psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy, researcher, and host of the top-5% global podcast Modern Anarchy. As the founder of The Pleasure Practice, she supports individuals in crafting expansive sex lives and intimate relationships grounded in desire, freedom, and authenticity. Her work weaves together psychology and embodiment, exploring how pleasure, psychedelics, and relational healing open pathways to liberation.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Psychedelics And Erotic States·      Chemsex And Harm Reduction·      Set, Setting, And Intention·      Consent In Altered States·      Managing Jealousy And Activation·      Grounding And Co-Regulation Tools·      Comparing MDMA, Psilocybin, And Ketamine·      Safety, Dosing, And Preparation·      Integration After Psychedelic Sex·      Sober Psychedelic Sex PracticesSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 472 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Anya Laeta, August McLaughlin, Bel Di Lorenzo, Dr. Elliot Justin, Dr. Evan Goldstein, Dr. Maria Sophocles, Nicoletta Heidegger and Suzannah Weiss as part of this special episode on setting goals for sexual health in 2026. As we move into the new year, I want to slow things down a bit and move away from rigid resolutions that are often rooted in pressure, shame, or performance. In this episode, I’m bringing together voices you already know and trust to help reframe sexual health goals as supportive practices rather than benchmarks to pass or fail. Throughout this episode, we discuss your capacity for pleasure, enhancing communication, and letting go of narrow definitions of what sex is supposed to look like. We also look at nervous system safety, pelvic floor health, pleasure practices, sex technology, and intimacy in midlife. This episode aims to remind you that great sex isn’t about fixing yourself; it's about developing skills, remaining connected to your body, and allowing yourself the freedom to grow at your own pace.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Setting Shame Free Sexual Intentions·      Using Your Voice In Intimacy·      Expanding Pleasure Capacity·      Building Nervous System Safety·      Body Acceptance And Arousal·      Pelvic Floor Health And Pleasure·      Pleasure Over Performance·      Normalizing Change Across Life Stages·      Creating Sustainable Pleasure Practices·      Redefining What Counts As SexTrack Your Sexual Health AND Keep IT UP with Firm Tech Save 15% Sex Goh!dess Vaginal Gymnastics Save $100 HERE Sexual Skills WorkshopSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 471 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Ita O’Brien, who speaks to me about intimacy coordination, embodied consent, and creating safety and authenticity in intimate storytelling.In this episode, I sit down with Ita to discuss what an intimacy coordinator actually does and why this role has become so essential in film, television, and theatre. We talk about how intimacy coordination brings structure, clarity, and care to intimate scenes, not only to protect performers, but to serve the story, the characters, and the creative vision. Ita O’Brien is an intimacy coordinator and movement director for film, television, and theater. For more than a decade, she has been developing “intimacy on set” guidelines: best practices for working on scenes with sexual content and nudity in film, TV, and theater. O’Brien pioneered the role of intimacy coordinator, which is used in production companies including HBO and Netflix. Her work has been featured in publications such as The Guardian, The New York Times, and NBC. She’s contributed to the intimate content praised in shows such as Normal People, Sex Education, and I May Destroy You.In this episode, you will hear: ·      What An Intimacy Coordinator Does·      Creating Safety On Set·      Consent As A Creative Foundation·      Embodiment And Somatic Awareness·      Choreographing Intimate Scenes·      Anatomy And Authentic Storytelling·      Power Dynamics And Character Choice·      Training And Professional Standards·      Emotional Safety In Long Term Relationships·      Bringing Intimacy Practices Into Daily LifeThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Get your FREE Sex Bucket ListBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 470 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Margeaux Feldman, who speaks to me about trauma, chronic illness, intimacy, and pleasure, inspired by their book Touch Me. I’m Sick.In this episode, we discuss the personal and academic journey that led them to write Touch Me. I’m Sick., which began as a PhD dissertation and evolved into a deeply human book about sickness, trauma, disability, and love. Margeaux shares how their own experience with chronic illness shifted their work away from purely academic analysis and toward something more accessible, relational, and rooted in lived experience. Margeaux Feldman is a writer, a public educator, and an artist. They hold an MFA in Creative Writing from CalArts and a PhD in English Literature and Sexual Diversity Studies from the University of Toronto. Margeaux's first book Touch Me, I'm Sick: A Memoir in Essays was just published with Beacon Press. They also created the popular meme account @softcore_trauma on Instagram, where they share memes and writing that testifies to their experiences living with trauma and chronic illness.In this episode, you will hear: ·      The Origin Story Of Touch Me. I’m Sick.·      Chronic Illness And Trauma Connections·      Redefining Intimacy And Care·      Independence, Codependence, And Interdependence·      Wellness Culture And Performativity·      Trauma, Pleasure, And Ambivalence·      Dissociation As A Survival Strategy·      “Ugly Sex” And Sexual Healing·      Somatic Therapy And Embodiment·      Pleasure As A Political ActThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Get your FREE Sex Bucket ListBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 469 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Laura Federico and Morgan Miller who speak to me about cycle tracking, hormones, and the mind body connection in sexuality and health. In this episode, we discuss what inspired Laura and Morgan to write their book “The Cycle Book” and how their personal and professional experiences shaped their approach. We talk about the profound gaps in education around hormones, menstruating bodies, and sexual health, and how this lack of information often leaves people feeling confused, dismissed, or disconnected from their own bodies. Laura Federico is a psychotherapist and AASECT-certified sex and relationship therapist in private practice, and Morgan Miller is a certified professional midwife, lactation consultant, activist, and birth center founder in private practice. Developed by Laura & Morgan, The Cycle Book helps you find clarity, the right treatment, and real relief, so you can finally feel like yourself again. We’re in the midst of a hormonal health awakening. For too long, those navigating PCOS, perimenopause, endometriosis, PMDD, and other hormonal symptoms have been dismissed and left without real support. The Cycle Book’s effective and trusted approach helps decode your body’s patterns. Rooted in science and beautifully crafted, this 12-month undated workbook blends expert insight with clean, functional design.In this episode, you will hear: ·      What Cycle Tracking Really Means·      Hormones And The Mind Body Connection·      Personal Journeys Into Cycle Awareness·      Endometriosis And Medical Dismissal·      Tracking Desire And Sexual Arousal·      Understanding Vaginal Dryness And Lubrication·      Perimenopause And Hormonal Shifts·      Tracking What Feels Good Not Just Pain·      Using Data To Advocate In Healthcare·      Why Analog Tracking Can Be PowerfulThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 468 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Dr. Alyssa Yee, who speaks to me about the realities of vulvar and vaginal pain, the challenges of diagnosis, and how partners can offer meaningful support. In this conversation, we discuss the wide range of painful symptoms many vulva owners experience, from burning and sharp stinging at the vestibule to deeper pelvic discomfort that can appear during or after sexual activity. Dr. Yee helps clarify how conditions such as vestibulodynia, hormonal disruptions, pelvic venous disorders, and endometriosis often go unrecognized or are dismissed in medical settings, leaving patients feeling isolated and unsure where to turn for help. Dr. Alyssa Yee is a Sexual Medicine Physician and Reconstructive Urologist who completed her clinical fellowship at San Diego Sexual Medicine in 2021-2022 under the mentorship of Dr. Irwin Goldstein. In her fellowship, she was awarded the SMSNA Foundation Research grant to investigate the pathophysiology of neuroproliferative vestibulodynia–a painful sexual condition of the vulva. Drawing from her research, Dr. Yee innovated the first sub-epithelial complete vestibulectomy surgery, allowing for decreased blood loss and post-operative pain with excellent response.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding Vulvar And Vaginal Pain·      Why Pain During Sex Is Often Normalized·      Common Symptoms Of Vestibulodynia·      How Hormones Influence Genital Pain·      Inflammation And Nerve Related Causes·      Endometriosis Symptoms And Misdiagnosis·      Why Patients Feel Gaslighted In Medical Settings·      How Partners Can Offer Support And Validation·      Effective Treatment Options And Hormonal Therapies·      Resources For Finding Knowledgeable ProvidersThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 467 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Suzannah Weiss who speaks to me about understanding and addressing the orgasm gap in long term relationships.In this conversation, we look at why orgasm inequality persists even among couples who consider themselves progressive, communicative, and sexually informed. We discuss how cultural narratives, media scripts, and outdated beliefs continue to shape expectations around women’s pleasure, often leaving vulva owners feeling inadequate or unseen in intimate relationships. Suzannah Weiss is a writer, sexologist, and psychotherapist in Los Angeles. She is the author of Eve's Blessing: Uncovering the Lost Pleasure Behind Female Pain and Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. She runs a psychotherapy practice focused on sex and couples' therapy and neurodiversity. She is also a certified sex educator, sexual assault counselor, and birth doula.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Understanding the Origins of the Orgasm Gap·      Cultural Versus Biological Explanations·      How Porn Shapes Early Sexual Scripts·      Prioritizing Clitoral Stimulation·      Working With Vibrators and Sexual Aids·      Techniques for Sharing Pleasure Preferences·      The Role of Fantasy in Partnered Sex·      Mindfulness and Embodiment Practices·      Reducing Performance Pressure for Both Partners·      Building Relaxation and Trust Before SexThank you to our sponsor Filthy Milfs! Your podcast lineup is about to get filthy. Get ready for a completely uncensored, outspoken, dirty-minded, and eye-opening look from the most adventurous milfs on the block, Ellen Ancui and Sophie Levine. From ways to spice up your sex life at any age, to insightful wellness tips to keep you feeling happy, healthy, and hot in and out of the bedroom, they have got you covered. They're filthy. They're milfy. And they’re waiting for you on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you catch your favorite podcasts.Get your FREE Woman's Guide to Reviving Your Sex DriveBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 466 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to be joined by Jessica Fern who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, secure attachment, and the inner work required to build healthy open relationships.In this conversation, Jessica shares her personal journey into non-monogamy and the ways her clinical work pushed her to explore the topic more deeply. We talk about emotional exclusivity, the origins of Polysecure, and how people can distinguish between personal triggers, relational dynamics, and the messages they have absorbed from society. Jessica offers thoughtful insights on insecurity, jealousy, and the importance of intentional repair when conflict arises. Jessica Fern holds a Master’s degree in Conflict Resolution, is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, a trained Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, and an integrative therapist drawing on 25 years of experience in somatic, narrative, psychotherapeutic, and spiritual healing modalities. She is the internationally recognized author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Nonmonogamy, The Polysecure Workbook, and Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this episode, you will hear: • Jessica’s Early Exploration Of Non Monogamy• Unconscious Beginnings And Identity Formation• How Clinical Work Sparked Conscious Alignment• Emotional Exclusivity And Realistic Expectations• Origins And Meaning Of The Term Polysecure• Hearts Model For Secure Attachment• Differentiating Me We Or Society• Conflict Repair And Nervous System Regulation• Assessing Readiness For Opening Relationships• Misconceptions Around Jealousy And CompersionThank you to our sponsor Hily! Hily is a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally.Book an Appointment with Dr. MoaliSpice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us On InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 465 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Jessica Baum, who speaks to me about how attachment styles shape our sexual connection and intimacy within long-term relationships. In this episode, we explore how attachment theory helps us understand why so many couples struggle with maintaining desire over time. We discuss how patterns rooted in early childhood, such as anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment, influence not only our emotional connection but also our erotic lives. Jessica explains how couples often repeat familiar relational scripts, sometimes mistaking intensity or chaos for passion, and how real intimacy requires safety, awareness, and conscious effort.Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist whose journey began with a lifelong curiosity about the “Whys” of life, why we feel, connect, and experience the world the way we do. This passion led her to specialize in trauma, attachment theory, and interpersonal neurobiology. Jessica believes that connection to ourselves and others is at the heart of healing, and she uses a range of modalities to help individuals and couples return to wholeness. She is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, a private group practice, and she leads a global coaching company offering support to clients worldwide. In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding Attachment and Sexuality·      The Link Between Love and Desire·      How Attachment Forms in Infancy·      Traits of Anxious and Avoidant Styles·      Recognizing Pockets of Disorganization·      How Childhood Shaped Adult Intimacy·      Repairing Attachment Through Awareness·      Creating Safety for Passionate Sex·      Somatic Tools for Healing·      Moving Toward Secure AttachmentThank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 464 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Riana Milne, who speaks to me about emotional disconnection, communication breakdowns, and their impact on sexual desire in relationships. In this episode, Riana and I explore how emotional safety and communication are at the heart of sexual connection. We discuss why unresolved conflicts and stress responses, like fight, flight, or freeze, can suppress desire, and how couples can learn to reconnect through conscious communication and emotional regulation. Riana Milne MA is a Certified, Global Life and Love Trauma Recovery Coach, a Cert. Clinical Trauma & Addictions Professional, a Certified Mindfulness Coach, #1 Bestselling Author, the Host of her Podcast called Lessons in Life & Love'', an Educational Speaker, and Licensed Mental Health Counselor for over 21 years living in Palm Beach County, Florida. Riana specializes in helping those who have had past Childhood or Love Relationship Trauma to Heal, Transform & Thrive; leading them to Create the Life They Desire & to Have the Love They Deserve! She offers Coaching programs for both Straight & LGBTQ Singles & Couples globally for ages 16-76.In this episode, you will hear:·      Emotional Safety As The Foundation Of Desire·      Why Communication Comes Before Sexuality·      How The Brain Reacts To Conflict And Stress·      Understanding Fight, Flight, And Freeze In Relationships·      The “Tea Break” Technique For Conflict Resolution·      Why Couples Must Approach Problems As A Team·      The Role Of Fun And Dating In Rekindling Intimacy·      Healing Childhood And Love Trauma Patterns·      Balancing Household Roles To Create Partnership·      How To Rebuild Connection After DisconnectionThank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 463 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by, Hily Dating App's sexologist and sexuality educator, Dr. Mindy DeSeta, who speaks to me about flirting, sexting, and the art of digital consent in modern dating.In this conversation, we discuss how to move from casual conversations to more intimate ones, without it feeling awkward or forced. Dr. DeSeta shares how flirting and sexting are forms of vulnerable communication, not just sexual expression, and why pacing, consent, and emotional awareness are vital. We also touch upon the nuances of reading digital signals, how to avoid common mistakes like jumping ahead too soon, and what healthy, sexy communication looks like in both text and real life. Dr. Mindy DeSeta has a Doctorate in Clinical Sexology and is a Board Certified Sex Therapist and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has been in private practice since 2017 when she founded her concierge and bespoke mental health practice, Insight Counseling Center Miami. From 2025, Dr. DeSeta works with Hily Dating App as sexologist and sexuality educator consulting on product development, research and communication with the users.In this episode, you will hear:·      The Art Of Transitioning From Flirting To Sexting·      How To Gauge Interest And Enthusiasm Digitally·      Why The Lost “Courting Process” Still Matters·      Recognizing Red Flags During Text Conversations·      Handling Awkward Gray Zones In Online Dating·      The Psychology Behind Unsolicited Explicit Photos·      Understanding Digital Consent And Its Importance·      Introducing Hily’s “Consent Guard” Feature·      How Asking For Consent Can Be Sexy And Empowering·      Tips To Create More Authentic And Respectful ConnectionsThank you to our sponsor Hily a dating app that connects singles with new people while supporting them in remaining authentic. Short for “Hey, I Like You,” it encourages users to be themselves, focusing on real connections over competition. With features like Icks&Clicks compatibility check and Consent Guard, Hily supports more genuine and safer interactions. Launched in 2017, it ranks among the top 10 US dating apps, with over 40 million users globally. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 462 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Ali Mezey, who speaks to me about ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, a powerful framework she uses to help clients understand how love, desire, and trauma shape our most intimate connections.In this conversation, we explore the concept of ‘The Heart Sexuality Split’, how many people find themselves loving but not desiring their partners. Ali explains her Personal Geometry model, which uses physical mapping to externalize inner dynamics, offering profound insight into where we may feel emotionally blocked or disconnected. She also shares her own story of growing up in a sexualized environment, the early disconnection between heart and body, and her journey toward reintegrating love, desire, and authenticity.Ali Mezey is a Body Therapist, Family Constellation Work Facilitator, Sexologist and Media Maker with over 40 years of experience. Ali has worked in renowned rehab centers in Los Angeles for sex, drug, and alcohol addiction. She developed her groundbreaking body-based method Personal Geometry® to address the challenges of working with sexual trauma, compulsivity, dysfunctions and discontents. She works internationally with individuals, couples, in groups, speaking publicly and as a teacher of Personal Geometry® and hosts The Brilliant Body Podcast.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Heart–Sexuality Split·      How Early Experiences Shape Our Erotic Blueprint·      The Role Of Trauma And Cultural Conditioning·      Religion, Shame, And Disconnection From The Body·      Using Personal Geometry To Map Relationships·      How Emotional Incest Impacts Adult Intimacy·      Bridging Love, Lust, And Long-Term Relationships·      Integrating Spirituality With Sexuality·      A Guided Mapping Practice You Can Try At Home·      Finding Wholeness Through Embodied AwarenessDownload the sex therapist approved list of 101 different ways to spice up your sex life NOW and to turn up the heat in the bedroom.  Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 461 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Alicia Sinclair a renowned sex coach and founder of several leading sexual wellness brands, including B Vibe and Le Wand. Alicia and I explore how sex toys can be a tool for enhancing both psychological and physical arousal, whether through role play, sensation play, or simply adding novelty to the bedroom. We also unpack the common fears and misconceptions couples have when introducing toys into their relationship, and how to approach these conversations with openness and curiosity rather than insecurity.Alicia is a multi-award-winning Sex Tech CEO, founder, and renowned sex coach. She brings over two decades of expertise in designing innovative products, leading transformative training programs, and advocating for sex positivity.Her mission is to champion sexual wellness as a vital part of a healthy lifestyle, empowering people to explore pleasure without shame. Prior to founding her three brands, Alicia was the VP of worldwide sales and business development at a luxury intimate wellness brand, where she created and developed a sex education boot-camp to help educate retailers, and worked with the Dept. of Justice to help the FBI develop communication channels between the government and the adult industry as part of the Child Protection & Obscenity Enforcement Act.In this episode, you will hear:·      Importance Of Communication Before Introducing Sex Toys·      How Sex Toys Can Enhance Intimacy And Pleasure·      Overcoming Feelings Of Inadequacy Or Jealousy Around Toys·      Starting With Beginner-Friendly Products Like Bullet Vibrators·      Why Material Safety Matters In Sex Toy Selection·      Exploring Role Play And Fantasy Through Props·      Common Mistakes Couples Make When Introducing Toys·      Latest Innovations: AI And Suction Technology In Sex Tech·      The Role Of Sex Toys In Empowering Sexual Equality·      Alicia’s Journey And Mission To Make Pleasure AccessibleDownload the sex therapist approved list of 101 different ways to spice up your sex life NOW and to turn up the heat in the bedroom. Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 460 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Lianna Walden, who speaks to me about how men and couples can deepen intimacy and connection through embodiment, sexual energy work, and practical worship rituals.In this conversation, Lianna and I explore the often-overlooked challenges men face in today’s evolving sexual landscape. We discuss her concept of “lingham activation”, a tantric-inspired approach to connecting with sexual energy through breathwork, embodiment, and intentional control. Lianna explains how many men have become disconnected from their bodies due to technology, stress, and societal conditioning.  Lianna Walden works in the intimate and sexual realm - guiding individuals and couples through deep, embodied transformation in their relationships, sexuality, and sense of self. With over 20 years of experience in transformation, relationship healing, and embodied leadership, she brings a multidimensional approach to personal growth and empowerment.Her work is far from conventional. Lianna works outside the box - supporting sexual exploration, theexpression of taboo desires, and radical self-acceptance. She helps clients open to new ways of experiencing and expressing who they truly are - emotionally, erotically, and energetically. In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Concept Of Lingham Activation·      How Men Can Reconnect With Sexual Energy Through Breathwork·      Overcoming Disconnection Caused By Technology And Stress·      The Importance Of Embodiment In Deepening Intimacy·      Step-By-Step Ejaculation Control Practice For Men·      Using The “One To Ten” Scale To Build Awareness During Self-Pleasure·      Exploring The Million Dollar Point And Squeeze Technique·      The Power Of Practical Worship And Genital Adoration·      Creating Rituals And Shrines To Honor Sexual ConnectionGet Your Stress Reduction Toolkit HERE Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 459 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Matthew Bennett, who speaks to me about life as a porn creator, the realities of OnlyFans, and how kink skills can translate into everyday life and even the workplace.In this conversation, Matthew opens up about his unexpected journey into adult content creation, sharing both the challenges and rewards of working on platforms like OnlyFans and JustForFans. We talk about how fetish and kink content often push against mainstream limitations, the misconceptions around creator earnings, and the importance of understanding consent and boundaries when producing explicit material.English Leather Master (often known as ELM), also known to friends and family as Matthew, is an ICF (International Coach Federation) PCC-accredited life and executive coach and a BSCH (British Society of Clinical Hypnosis) registered hypnotherapist. He also trains individuals in both coaching and hypnosis. Matthew works extensively with LGBTQ+ and kinky communities around the world, supporting people in creating more fulfilling lives. His passion lies in helping others unlock the skills they already possess to enhance their chances of success and happiness across all areas of life.In this episode, you will hear:·      Matthew’s Journey Into Porn Creation·      The Rise And Limitations Of OnlyFans·      Why Fetish Content Pushes Against Mainstream Rules·      Myths About How Much Money Creators Make·      The Pros And Cons Of Porn Consumption·      How Kinks Like Balloons And Car Pedals Find Their Audience·      The Difference Between Studio Porn And Creator Porn·      Why Communication Is Key To Being A Good Lover·      Using BDSM Consent Models In The Workplace·      Creating A Life Without Shame Around SexualityThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 458 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Sarah Intelligator, a divorce attorney and author who brings such a fascinating perspective on dating, relationships, and why so many marriages end the way they do.Sarah shares how two decades in family law, and her own journey through divorce and remarriage, have shaped her perspective on why relationships break down. She has seen the same patterns repeat themselves in countless cases, and she is passionate about helping people understand those pitfalls before it’s too late. Sarah Intelligator is a divorce attorney in Los Angeles, California. She earned a Juris Doctorate from Southwestern Law School. She graduated from UCLA, cum laude, with a Bachelor of Arts in English. Practicing Family Law since 2008, Sarah has also been a yoga instructor since 2000. She organically bridged her two worlds, coining the term: “Holistic Divorce and Family Law.” In helping others through their divorces, Sarah realised that she could help them avoid divorce altogether.In this episode, you will hear:·      Common Patterns Behind Divorce·      The Importance Of Sexual Compatibility·      Resentment As A Hidden Relationship Killer·      How Children Shift Intimacy In Marriage·      Emotional Needs And The Roots Of Affairs·      Changing Old Dating Patterns·      Core Values Versus Shifting Needs·      The Trap Of Fairy Tale Expectations·      How Communication Protects Connection·      Choosing Partners From A Place Of WorthThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 457 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Kevin Patterson who speaks to me about polyamory, representation, and emotional literacy.In this conversation, Kevin shares his journey into consensual non-monogamy and the inspiration behind Poly Role Models, a project designed to broaden representation of polyamory beyond narrow stereotypes. Kevin Patterson is an active member of the Philadelphia polyamory community. He's been practicing ethical nonmonogamy since August of 2002 after opening up a relationship that eventually became his marriage. In April of 2015, Kevin was inspired to start Poly Role Models, an interview series for people describing their experiences with polyamory. Poly Role Models was part of a drive and a desire to change the way our lives and communities are viewed. To continue that discussion of polyamorous representation, Kevin has extended the blog's work into the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. In this episode, you will hear:·      Origins Of Poly Role Models·      Breaking Stereotypes In Polyamory·      Representation Beyond White Narratives·      Cheating Versus Consensual Non-Monogamy·      The Pitfalls Of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell·      Race And Identity In Non-Monogamy·      Navigating Jealousy With Emotional Literacy·      Building Healthier Conversations In Relationships·      Creating Safer And More Inclusive Spaces·      Kevin’s Work In Fiction And Superhero StorytellingThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 456 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Allana Pratt, Annette Benedetti, Caitlin V, Dr. Margaret Cochran, Rob Kancler, Susan Bratton, and Sylvia Solit who help me answer one powerful question: What’s one thing women wish men knew about sex, but almost never say out loud?Across this conversation, our guests share profound insights into how women truly experience desire and intimacy. You’ll hear why slowing down, building safety, and creating emotional connection are essential foundations for passion. We discuss the hidden fantasies and longings that many women never voice, the importance of curiosity and play, and how sex is far more than just physical technique, it’s a whole-body, mind, and spirit experience. Our guests also emphasize how communication itself can be deeply erotic, and that balancing sensitivity with power opens the door to deeper intimacy.In this episode, you will hear:·      Allana Pratt On Safety And Slow Build-Up·      Annette Benedetti On Hidden Desires·      Caitlin V On Whole-Body Sex·      Dr. Margaret Cochran On Why Talk Is Sexy·      Rob Kancler On Sensitivity And Power·      Susan Bratton On Seduction And Play·      Sylvia Solit On Sex As A Continuum·      Women’s Bodies And Arousal Timing·      Overcoming Shame And Cultural Scripts·      Integrating Emotional And Spiritual ConnectionTake My Optimal Performance Course and Say Goodbye to Erectile Unpredictability and Unlock Endless Potential in the Bedroom! Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 455 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff who speaks to me about consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and soloamory.In this episode, Dr. Eli shares her personal journey navigating relationships with both monogamous and polyamorous partners, and how those experiences shaped her professional research. We talk in-depth about "soloamory" which refers to prioritizing one's relationship with themselves, often in the form of self-love. It is a form of autosexuality/autoromance and a conscious choice to live a single life, valuing autonomy and personal growth over traditional relationship milestones like marriage or cohabitation. Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy·      Understanding Polyamory And Soloamory·      How Early Relationships Shape Our Beliefs·      Mono-Poly Relationship Dynamics·      Distinguishing Between Jealousy And Insecurity·      Why Some People Are Wired For Multiplicity·      The Role Of Autonomy In Healthy Relationships·      Healing Through Solo Amory And Self-Love·      The Importance Of Therapy And The Right Therapist Fit·      Resources And Tools From Dr. Elizabeth SheffThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 454 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Sam L. Feldman, who speaks to me about ethical non-monogamy, swinging, and the evolution of sexual liberation across the decades.In this episode, Sam shares insights from his book Hookups, Hiccups and Happenstances, which reflects on the changing landscape of sexuality from the 1960s and 70s through to today. We discuss the social shifts that empowered women during this period, the origins of swinging, and how personal boundaries and communication have shaped Sam’s own 62-year marriage.Married for 61 years and counting, Sam is an excellent spokesperson on love and the many ways it can be explored. A number of the “hookups” he writes about in his book come from his real experiences of being in “the right place at the right time” during the Sexual Revolution. He also says he invented a sex position in this era. The position he's dubbed "the corkscrew” takes three people, unlike his other favorite position: 69.In this episode, you will hear:·      Evolution Of Sexual Liberation In The 60s And 70s·      Origins Of Swinging And Key Clubs·      Women’s Empowerment And Reproductive Rights·      Sam’s 62-Year Marriage And Communication Pact·      Seven Rules For Navigating Non-Monogamy·      Boundaries Between Love And Sex·      Transparency And Openness In Long-Term Relationships·      How Date Nights Strengthen Connection·      Addressing Jealousy In Non-Monogamy·      Swinging Culture And Common MisconceptionsThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 453 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Serenity Cox and partner Timothy of WIFEY, who speak with me about their journey into the hotwifing lifestyle and how it has shaped their relationship.In this episode, Serenity and Timothy share how their interest in hotwifing began as fantasy and roleplay, before eventually evolving into real-life exploration. We discuss the turning point in their relationship during the pandemic, how they navigated their first experiences, and the emotional challenges and growth that came with moving from imagination into reality.Serenity Cox is a Canadian adult performer and content creator who transitioned from a successful career as an ER nurse to becoming one of the industry’s most sought-after stars. Since starting her career, she has gained massive popularity through independent content creation and collaborations with major studios, earning multiple awards, including the 2024 xHamster Creator of the Year and the 2025 XBIZ XMA Fan Award for ‘Favorite MILF Performer’.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Hotwifing·      Fantasy vs. Reality in Relationships·      The Pandemic as a Turning Point·      Emotional Challenges and Surprises·      Importance of Reconnection Rituals·      Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy·      Safety Practices and STI Testing·      Communicating Fantasies with a Partner·      Managing Cultural Stigma Around CNM·      Resources for Exploring HotwifingThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 452 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Roy Graff who speaks to me about relationship anarchy, consensual non-monogamy, and the importance of communication in alternative relationship structures.In this episode, Roy shares his deeply personal journey from decades of serial monogamy to embracing polyamory as an orientation and ultimately finding resonance in the philosophy of relationship anarchy. We explore the difference between open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, the role of emotional maturity, and how boundaries and communication can transform romantic connections. Roy Graff is a Psychosynthesis Relationship Counsellor based in London, UK. Drawing on his training and over nine years of experience facilitating workshops and group work, Roy supports clients in exploring the full spectrum of their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual dimensions. His practice is inclusive and affirming of Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD), welcoming LGBTQ+ individuals and those in non-monogamous relationships. In addition to his counselling work, Roy is a relationship coach specializing in alternative and non-traditional relationship dynamics, helping individuals and partners build resilience, improve communication, manage conflict, and deepen empathetic, conscious connections.In this episode, you will hear:·      Roy’s Journey From Serial Monogamy To Polyamory·      How Relationship Anarchy Challenges Social Norms·      The Difference Between Ethical And Unethical Non-Monogamy·      Why Communication Is The Foundation Of Alternative Relationships·      Navigating Jealousy And Emotional Triggers·      The Role Of Boundaries In Polyamorous Dynamics·      Strategies For Sharing Information About Other Partners·      Understanding The “Relationship Escalator”·      How Solo Polyamory Works In PracticeThank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 451 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton who speaks to me about navigating non-monogamy, jealousy, and building healthy polyamorous relationships.In this conversation, I invite Joli to share the very human, very messy path she took from a long-term monogamous marriage into consensual non-monogamy. We talk about how a simple crush, paired with new language for polyamory, sparked courageous but complicated conversations, the pitfalls of working with clinicians who default to monogamy, and the painful social narratives that cast open-relationship exploration as “cheating” even when no boundaries are crossed. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines & founder of The Year of Opening. She is a depth psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT (pronounced ay-sect) certified sex educator. Joli co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, CNN, Vogue, Cosmo, and NPR. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.In this episode, you will hear:·      From Monogamy To Non-Monogamy: A Real-Life Origin Story·      Why Honesty Without Skills Still Hurts·      The Therapist Fit Problem In CNM·      Naming Feelings vs. Trying To Erase Them·      Jealousy Happens - Bans Make It Worse·      Agreements, Not Assumptions·      Breakup And Aftercare In Polyamory·      Parenting And Cohabitation Considerations·      Nervous System Tools For Regulation·      Defining Your Own CNM Script Over Time Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 450 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Carrie Jeroslow who speaks to me about exploring monogamish relationships, communication, and relationship diversity.In this conversation, Carrie unpacks the term “Monogamish,” originally coined to describe a space between strict monogamy and fully open relationships, and shares how transparency, not secrecy, became the cornerstone of her own early experiences with non‑monogamy. We talk through the realities behind the “ish”: clunky starts, learning curves, aftercare, and the deep inner work that jealousy often invites.International Best-Selling Author and Relationship Diversity Advocate, Carrie Jeroslow, is passionate about bringing intentionality into intimate relationships by releasing the programming of what we’re taught relationships SHOULD be and shifting to what we really WANT them to be. This highly personal process requires getting to know one's ever-evolving self as intimately as possible. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we can be more authentic in our relationships with others, which brings an unparalleled sense of joyfulness and fulfillment to our lives as a whole.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Monogamish·      Honesty Over Secrecy·      Aftercare And Debriefs·      Becoming Intimate With Jealousy·      Updating Inherited Beliefs·      Boundaries You Can Revisit·      Move At The Slowest Partner’s Pace·      Culture, Labels, And Flexibility·      Communication As A Core Skill Thank you to our sponsor WIFEY, the premiere adult entertainment platform that breaks down stigmas around modern relationships, and fosters an open, shame-free space to talk about love, trust, and sex.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 449 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Jackie Goldschneiderwho speaks to me about eating disorders, body image, recovery, and how all of this intersects with sexuality and pleasure.In this conversation, Jackie shares the raw, unglamorized realities of living with anorexia for two decades, much of it while in the public eye. We explore her “inherited food trauma,” the cultural pressure of the 90s, and how secrecy, rules, and constant tracking kept her illness alive. Jackie opens up about the pivotal moment at 45 when health scares and a second rock bottom pushed her to choose recovery, tell her husband, and assemble a true treatment team to address the mental, physical, and emotional layers of healing.Jackie Goldschneider is an author, activist, speaker and a longtime cast member of The Real Housewives of New Jersey.  Before joining the show, Jackie was an attorney and freelance journalist, and has contributed extensively to publications including Good Housekeeping, HuffPost and Scary Mommy, and wrote a weekly parenting column for New Jersey's The Record newspaper for several years. Her debut memoir, The Weight of Beautiful, was published by ‎Simon and Schuster in September 2023. Since then, Jackie has been a nationally recognized advocate for eating disorder recovery.In this episode, you will hear:·      Inherited Food Trauma And Early Body Shame·      Fifteen Years Of Anorexia Hidden In Plain Sight·      Strategic Eating To Outsmart Cameras And Castmates·      Recovery As A Lifelong, Nonlinear Commitment·      Malnutrition’s Toll On Hormones, Estrogen, And Libido·      Therapy, Dietitian, And MD: A Three-Person Care Team·      Boundaries Around Body And Food Comments Are Essential·      Reclaiming Pleasure, Playfulness, And Nakedness In Sex·      Breaking Secrecy By Confiding In A Loved One Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Spice Up Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 448 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Kate Balestrieri, who speaks to me about navigating low desire and reigniting intimacy in long‑term relationships.In this conversation, Kate and I normalize the reality that everyone, including sex therapists, experiences fluctuations in sexual desire. She shares the multifaceted story behind her own temporary drop in libido, touching on burnout, perimenopause, pandemic stress, and relationship “growing pains.” Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples’ therapist. The Founder of Modern Intimacy, a nationwide therapy practice, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. Dr. Balestrieri is the author of What Happened to My Sex Life? A Sex Therapist’s Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection and Pleasure, and is the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast.In this episode, you will hear:·      Normalizing Fluctuating Desire·      Multifaceted Roots Of Low Libido·      Love–Lust Divide In Long‑Term Bonds·      Stress And Burnout As Desire Dampeners·      Role Of Novelty And Mystery·      Dangers Of Obligatory Or “Pity” Sex·      The 30% Orgasm Gap Explained·      Embodiment And Pleasure Practices·      Rekindling Passion With Intentional Effort It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 447 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Dr. Patti Britton, who speaks to me about her new memoir Chasing Sex, the life events that shaped her as a pioneer in sex coaching, and how we can all cultivate pleasure and transcendent intimacy at any age.In this heartfelt conversation, Patti traces the winding path from her “little girl named Patti” to the globally known “Dr. Patti.” She opens up about the matriarchs who modeled sexual confidence, the traumas she survived, and the counter-culture influences that called her to sexology. You’ll hear how writing her memoir became a race against time to preserve her stories, and why she now gifts readers “52 Lessons for Life” drawn from those pages.Dr. Patti Britton is a nationally board-certified, world recognized Clinical Sexologist, known as the “Mother of Sex Coaching”. She’s the author of hundreds of articles, book chapters, forewords, and five major books in sexology. She is a proud member of the LA writers’ community, having studied Method Writing for over 20 years. She is published in several anthologies with a variety of her stories. Her memoir, Chasing Sex, Wanting Love, Finding Myself was released in 2024 from Balboa Press.In this episode, you will hear:·      Dr. Patti Britton’s Matriarchal Role Models·      From Trauma to Thriving: Finding an Authentic Sexual Voice·      Why She Wrote Chasing Sex in Her Seventies·      Pleasure Framed as a Fundamental Human Right·      The Five-Level Touch Continuum Explained·      Transcendent Sex vs. “Good Enough” Sex·      Aging, Orgasm, and Embracing New Erotic Scripts·      Tips for Men: Shift From Performance to Sensation·      Keeping Desire Alive Through Novelty and Play·      Patti’s Free “52 Lessons for Life” and Ongoing Legacy It’s back, our L.A. Love Lab – Matchmaking Event! Happening Saturday, October 4, 2025 in Manhatten Beach, California with Dr. Moali and Dr. E…we hope you can join us and let us work our matchmaking magic on you! Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on InstagramPodcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 446 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I’m excited to be joined by Inka Winter, who speaks to me about her journey from surviving a sex cult to pioneering feminist, female-gaze erotica that centers women’s pleasure and authentic consent.Inka Winter is an erotic filmmaker and founder of ForPlay Films, an independent, all-woman porn production company. Spending her formative years living in an alternative artist commune in Austria gave Inka a critical eye for what constitutes sexy, consensual female pleasure and set the foundation for her creative endeavors in erotic filmmaking. Her background in costume design and styling informs her aesthetic and translates to the editorial feel of her films.In our conversation, Inka opens up about growing up in an Austrian commune that devolved into an authoritarian sex cult. She describes the rigid hierarchy, the separation of children from parents, and the constant pressure to conform to cult-mandated ideas of “free love.” We discuss the lingering impact of early exposure to sexual activity, the leader’s eventual arrest, and the complex process of unraveling trauma, reclaiming agency, and seeking reparations decades later.In this episode, you will hear:·      Childhood In Authoritarian Sex Cult·      Leader’s Arrest & Commune Collapse·      Processing Trauma Through Therapy·      Documentary Mirror Of Lived Reality·      From Fashion Design To Erotic Filmmaking·      Defining The Female Gaze On Screen·      Consent-Driven, Performer-Led Scenes·      Holistic Porn As Sex Education·      Debunking Porn “Addiction” Myths·      Empowering Women’s Pleasure & Fantasy Free Resources for Your Erotic Awakening: If you are searching for Dr. Moali’s recommendations for steamy reads, erotic audio, and ethical porn that will help you feel sexually energized, this is for you.Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 445 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Darshana Avila, who speaks to me about mindful masturbation as a form of self-care and erotic exploration. In this conversation, Darshana and I dive into why so many of us default to the same quick, goal-oriented masturbation routine and how that habit is wired into our neural pathways. We explore the power of slowing down, setting an intention, and treating solo pleasure as a ritual, complete with an opening, body-centered exploration, and a conscious closing.Best known for her contributions to Netflix's Sex, Love & goop, trauma informed,pleasure centric, culturally relevant erotic education is Darshana's sweet spot. Supporting women & queer community, individually or alongside their partners, is her deepest passion She's a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker, guiding & serving through her private practice, public speaking & online offerings.In this episode, you will hear:·      Defining Mindful Masturbation·      Neural Pathways And Habit Loops·      Intentional Rituals For Solo Sex·      Full-Body Touch Before Genitals·      Navigating Boredom And Plateaus·      Sensate Focus Vs. Visual Stimulation·      Fantasy As A Creative Arousal Tool·      Scheduling Familiar And New Practices·      Challenging Inner Critic Narratives·      Pleasure As Personal And Collective Liberation Check out our YouTube for new videos dropping twice a weekBook an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 444 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, I'm excited to be joined by Lisa Schaefer VP of Marketing at Promescent, who speaks to me about the biggest trends reshaping sexual-health products and sex-tech innovation. In the first half of the episode, I dive into three listener questions and unpack why fantasy is perfectly healthy, offer concrete scripts for sharing kinks without shame, and celebrate self-pleasure as a lifelong birth-right, while sprinkling in resources, exercises, and confidence-building tips you can try tonight. Then, Lisa joins me to map out the fast-evolving landscape of pleasure products, from wearable vibrating rings that turn penis-owners into “hands-free” vibrators, to blood-flow-boosting arousal gels that help close the orgasm gap, to tech-driven “pleasure-mapping” apps and menopause-friendly solutions. In this episode, you will hear:·      Listener Q&A On Fantasy & Orgasm·      Talking Cross-Dressing With Your Partner·      Celebrating A High Midlife Libido·      Why Fantasy Is Totally Normal·      Scripts To Share Your Kink Shame-Free·      Rise Of Wearable Male Vibrators·      Arousal Gels That Boost Blood Flow·      Pleasure-Mapping Apps & Sex Tech·      Menopause-Focused Products On The Horizon·      Communication As The Ultimate Toy Tell Us Your Bedroom Secret (Anonymously) + Win a Sexy Prize! 1)    Record a short audio clip (no need to include your name—we’ll keep it completely anonymous) 2)    Answer this question: What’s something you secretly wish your partner would do in bed...but have never told them?3)    Email it to us at by July 15th: [email protected] We’ll be selecting a few submissions to anonymously feature in an upcoming episode of the podcast. And yes—you’ll be entered to win a pleasure-boosting gift box from our friends at Promescent!Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 443 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Epiphany Jordan who speaks to me about  the essential role of nonsexual, nurturing touch in our lives and how it intersects with wellness, relationships, and even trauma recovery. In this rich and deeply personal conversation, Epiphany shares her journey from studying sacred sexuality to creating structured touch experiences aimed at fostering connection and healing. We explore the cultural, religious, and psychological factors that shape how we experience touch, especially in societies where physical affection is often conflated with sexuality. Epiphany Jordan, MPH, CPH, is on a mission to rebrand human touch. From 2013-2020, she provided platonic touch therapy in a ritualized setting with her business, the Austin-based Karuna Sessions. She is also the author of Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person's Guide to Nurturing Human Touch. Somebody Hold Me addresses the touch deficit singles face, and offers multiple solutions. She has appeared on several podcasts discussing human touch, and spoke about solving loneliness with human touch at Austin’s SXSW Interactive Festival in 2019. In 2023, she completed her Master of Public Health with a concentration in Social Marketing from the University of South Florida, and researched rebranding human touch as part of her program.In this episode, you will hear:·      Why Touch Is A Mammalian And Biological Need·      How Nonsexual Touch Can Heal Emotional Wounds·      Cultural And Religious Impacts On How We View Touch·      The Problem With Conflating Touch And Sex·      The “Branding Problem” Of Physical Touch In Society·      Four Reimagined Touch Archetypes For Modern Relationships·      How Touch Supports Trauma Healing And Psychedelic Integration·      Structured Ways To Practice Safe, Intentional Touch·      The Four S’s Framework: Safe, Slow, Specific, Structured·      Why Asking For Touch Can Be A Radical Act Of Vulnerability Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 442 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Eleanor O’Brien who speaks to me about exploring erotic fantasies through creativity, theater, and self-expression. In this conversation, Eleanor shares how her personal journey with fantasy evolved from taboo-fueled curiosity to embodied empowerment. We explore the fascinating world of erotic storytelling, from her theater adaptations of fantasy monologues to the value of devising your own erotic scenes through selfies, writing prompts, and roleplay. Eleanor O’Brien is the artistic director of Dance Naked Creative, a sex-positive theater and event company. She is a writer, performer and facilitator. She is the creator of solo shows Plan V, How to Really, Really? Really! Love a woman, GGG: Dominatrix for Dummies and Lust & Marriage. She directed and starred in the Inviting Desire series, ensemble productions that include A Theatrical Aphrodisiac, Lubricate Your Libido, Pleasure, Permission, Possibility...and The Dawn of Sex. She has produced & directed the community cabarets What Is Erotic?, Revelations, and Sex We Can! and is the founder of the biennial sex and culture theater festival Come Inside. She hosts the monthly erotic open mic Stand Up Smut, and teaches workshops exploring the intersection between sexuality and creativity. She is the captain of the Erotic Creators Club on Patreon.In this episode, you will hear:·      Erotic Fantasy As A Tool For Self-Discovery·      How Nancy Friday’s Work Sparked A Creative Revolution·      The Healing Power Of Erotic Theater·      Ways To Cultivate An Erotic Inner Life·      How To Use Fantasy As Connection, Not Escape·      Role Of Taboo And Power Dynamics In Desire·      Creating Erotic Rituals With A Partner·      Why Investment Behaviors Are Arousing·      Moving Beyond Porn To Create Personal Erotica·      How Set And Setting Can Enhance Arousal Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo ProductionsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to Episode 441 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who speaks to me about cultivating intimacy in long-term relationships, navigating sexless marriages, and reigniting erotic connection between partners. In this episode, we explore what truly keeps the spark alive in long-term relationships and why the common advice of compromise may actually undermine deep connection. Dr. Stockwell introduces her approach of Uncompromising Intimacy, which champions full self-expression over self-suppression in partnerships. Alexandra Stockwell, MD, aka “The Intimacy Doctor,” is widely known for her ability to catalyze immediate and profound shifts in high achieving couples who want it all–genuine emotional connection, sensual passion, and erotic intimacy. A physician coach and Intimate Marriage Expert, Dr. Alexandra is the best-selling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy,” creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program,  host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, a wife of 28 years and a mother of 4. Couples who work with her discover the key to passion, fulfillment, intimacy, and success isn’t compromise–it’s being unwilling to compromise--because when both people feel free to be themselves, the relationship is juicy, erotically alive, and deeply nourishing.In this episode, you will hear:·      Understanding The Concept Of Uncompromising Intimacy·      Why Compromise May Hinder Erotic Connection·      Recognizing Early Signs Of A Sexless Marriage·      Emotional Safety As A Foundation For Sexual Intimacy·      How Curiosity Revives Connection Outside—and Inside—the Bedroom·      Practical Tips For Couples Who Feel Like Roommates Or Siblings·      The Power Of Slowing Down And Tuning Into Arousal·      How To Rebuild Sexual Connection After Years Of Disconnection·      Navigating Past Hurts, Affairs, And Emotional Wounds In Intimacy Work·      Why Ongoing Communication About Sex Is Essential For Lasting Passion Thanks to our sponsor Promescent! Enhance your confidence and elevate your partner's pleasure. Go HERE to save 15% off your first order. Book an Appointment with Dr. Moali  Upgrade Your Social Media Feed AND Your Sex Life: Follow Us on Instagram Podcast Produced by Vaudeo Productions Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy