She Is Here™
by Charlotte Bailey
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough. Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it. That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough. Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate. I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ e
Episodes
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Starting Again in Your 40s: It Can Be More Colourful Than You Think
If you’ve been struggling with the path you’re currently on, or worrying that it’s too late to change careers or create a different kind of life, I encourage you to listen to Michelle’s inspiring story of starting over in her forties. Now a colour analyst and stylist, Michelle shares how she...
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Lonely in a Room Full of People: Why You Feel Alone Even When You’re Not
Have you ever felt lonely in a room full of people, even when you’re surrounded, included, and socially “fine”? In this episode, I talk about my time working with ITV on their Dance Away Loneliness campaign and explore why loneliness isn’t always about the absence of people, but the absence of...
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Why People Call You ‘Too Sensitive’ (and why they're wrong) - a spoken word poem
If you’ve ever wondered “why do people call me too sensitive?” or questioned whether your feelings are “too much”, this spoken word piece is for you. I explore how sensitivity gets misunderstood, how shame gets attached to it, and why sensitivity isn’t the problem - the meaning assigned to it is....
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Why You Overthink Messages (and What It Says About Safety)
Ever received a message that made your stomach drop… and your brain instantly filled in the blanks with “They’re annoyed” or “I’ve done something wrong”? In today’s episode I share a real moment from my Instagram DMs that could have easily led to shame, confrontation or avoidance - and how...
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What I Actually Mean by ‘Safe Enough to Be Seen’ (and Why It’s Not About Confidence)
In this episode, I’m breaking down what I actually mean when I say “safe” and “safe enough to be seen” because it’s not about confidence, mindset tricks, or forcing yourself to speak louder. We hear the word safety everywhere now, especially in conversations about visibility, boundaries,...
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Why Insight Isn’t Enough: Why You Still Feel Anxious Even When You Understand It
You can understand your anxiety and know where it comes from. And still feel anxious. If you’ve ever thought “I get it… so why does this still feel so hard?”, this episode is for you. I explore why insight alone isn’t enough to stop anxiety and why feeling anxious doesn’t always mean you’re stuck...
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Why January and New Year’s Resolutions Make You Feel Like You’re Failing
January and New Year’s resolutions leave many women feeling like they’re failing -even when they’re trying their best. In this trauma-informed episode, we explore why January so often triggers self-criticism, shame, and the sense that you’re “not consistent enough” or “not disciplined enough”…
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The Christmas You Carry
A few spoken words for Mums at Christmas. Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and relatable content and feel free to DM me any subjects you'd like me to cover: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/ Visit my website for more information, FREE resources and details…
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She Is Here: Remembering Who You Were Before You Were Taught to Be Less
This opening episode of She Is Here™, marks the beginning of a new chapter - not a reinvention from Let's talk People-Pleasing , but a continuation of a remembering. People-pleasing was never your personality. It was a nervous-system response. A clever adaptation to environments where it felt…
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When Your Body Makes You Stop And listen To What It Has To Say - It Might Just Surprise You | Ep 53
Have you ever told yourself you’re fine, only to find your body proving otherwise? In this short, honest episode, I reflect on how ignoring my own body’s signals turned a simple cough into a chest infection… and what it reminded me about pausing, listening, and letting the body lead - something a...
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It’s Not a Rebrand — It’s a Remembering | Ep 52
I wanted to sit down and share honestly where my head and heart are at as I reflect on where this podcast and my message are heading. I've noticed that when I started the podcast I was - sometimes unconsciously -following marketing type “rules” of what I should and shouldn’t cover, how much I...
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How To Stop Feeling Guilty For Saying No | Ep 51
Last episode focused on identifying the real reason you feel guilty when you say no or put yourself first - in this episode we are exploring those internalised rules like “if I rest then i’m lazy,” or “if I say no then I’m selfish.” I walk you through some reflective prompts and a simple practice...
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Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Saying No? (And What It Really Means) | Ep 50
If you’re a people-pleaser then chances are that on the rare occasion you do say “no” to someone, cancel plans, or set a boundary — you find yourself feeling guilty. In this episode I talk about how guilt doesn’t always mean you’ve done something wrong. Often, it shows up because you’ve broken an...
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As An Anxious People-Pleaser I Used To Think I Wasn’t Confident Enough — But It Was Never About Confidence | Ep 49
For years, I told myself the reason I couldn’t speak up, share my thoughts, or truly let myself be seen was because I wasn’t confident enough. Maybe you’ve told yourself the same thing — that you just need to “push through,” “fake it till you make it,” or somehow be braver. But recently…
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Why Shame Fuels People-Pleasing - and How to Break the Cycle | Ep 48
Do you often put everyone else’s needs before your own - and feel bad if you don’t? In this episode, I’m joined by Kay from Place to Talk Therapy Practice to explore the deep connection between shame and people-pleasing. We talk about how shame begins, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it...
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The People-Pleasing Path That Leads You Away From Yourself | Ep 47
I share what it’s really like to walk the well-worn path of people-pleasing - the one that promises peace, acceptance, and connection, but actually leaves you feeling lost and disconnected from yourself. I talk about the hidden costs of always saying yes, the silent panic when you even think…
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From Overthinking People-Pleaser to Solo Festival Raver | Ep 47
Past me would NEVER have done this. This weekend I went to Creamfields on my own, volunteered with Blink Mental Health, gave therapy sessions in the middle of the thumping bass - and then did something that reminded me how liberating it is when you break free from people-pleasing. When I was in…
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Does My Writing Still Sound Like Me? On AI, Sameness, and Finding Our Human Voice | Ep 46
Have you noticed that so much content online sounds the same? Lately, I’ve found myself scrolling and thinking, “this looks like AI wrote it.” And then the worry hits: what if people think the same about my content ? In this episode, I’m talking honestly about: Why so much content feels…
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People-Pleasing in the Bedroom: Let’s Talk About Sex | Ep 45
A lot of people hadn’t realised I’m trained in Psychosexual Therapy and Sex and Porn ‘Addiction’ Counselling, and when I recently shared a post talking about my credentials, I was asked to do an episode on the subject of people-pleasing and sex. And I’m really glad they asked, because it’s a…
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I Thought I Was Being 'Professional'... But I Was Actually Avoiding Being Visible | Ep 44
In this episode I reflect on 8 years ago, when I started my business, my private practice. At that time I had a Facebook Page... and no other way to market myself. I rarely shared the Facebook Page because - I told myself I was being 'professional' - I didn't want to 'push' my services on to...
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What is People-Pleasing? and Why don't you realise you're a people-pleaser? | Ep 43
What is people-pleasing? and why do so many of us not realise we’re doing it? In this episode I talk about what people-pleasing really looks like - from the outside and the inside. Because I never used to call it people-pleasing either. I just thought I was being “nice,” “easy,” “helpful.” But...
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Is Your Teenager a People-Pleaser? Early Warning Signs and How to Help | Ep 42
In this episode, I’m covering a question I've been asked on Instagram a few times now: “How do I know if my child is a people-pleaser and what can I do to help?” To do this episode justice, I’ve invited the brilliant Becky—an Anxiety Coach for Teenagers and fellow recovering people-pleaser—to…
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What Another Therapist Posted Shocked Me into Speaking Up Online - And I Didn't Spiral! | Ep 41
Have you ever read something online that didn't sit right with you? Maybe you noticed your heart race and the real pull to say something - but after re-reading your response so many times, worrying it doesn't sound 'right' ... it just felt easier not to post it, to stay silent. Or maybe it didn't...
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People-Pleasing and the Postpartum Period | Ep. 40
There are so many layers to people-pleasing and when you become a Mum it can bring up so much for you! In this episode I've got Erin joining me - a somatic therapist from Baltimore who also works with people-pleasers, whilst we've followed each other on Instagram for a while, this is the first…
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How To Start Breaking Free From Imposter Syndrome | Ep 39
In this episode, I talk you through how to recognise when imposter syndrome is showing up in your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. I highlight the common signs that you’re caught in the imposter spiral (like over-preparing, avoidance, or constantly doubting yourself), and I guide you through…
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Why You Feel Like an Imposter and Out of Your Depth in Business—Even When You 'Know' You’re Credible | Ep 38
Feeling out of your depth doesn’t mean you are. I'm talking about that all-too-familiar feeling of being out of your depth - even when you know logically you’re experienced and credible. If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your abilities when stepping into something less familiar - be…
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Why Is It So Hard To Say No? A People-Pleasing Therapist Explains. | Ep 37
If you often find yourself saying 'yes' when you want to say no - despite 'knowing' it's ok to say no and to set healthy boundaries, then this episode will help you understand why it feels so difficult. Because despite the advice out there to 'just let them' 'let them be upset with you.. ' 'just...
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The Little Girl Who Learned How To Mask | Ep 36
This episode is for the girl you used to be - the one who learned to be agreeable, quiet, and easy so she could stay accepted and feel safe. The one who was called “shy” but was actually scanning the room. The one who hid her bigness to avoid being “too much.” If you became what others needed…
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You’re Self-Aware… But Are You Sure You’re Seeing Things Clearly? | Ep 35
In today’s episode, I’m sharing a really personal moment that completely caught me off guard - and shifted something deep within me. Despite all the therapy, training, and self-awareness I’ve built over the years… it took one conversation with someone else to help me see a belief I’d been…
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Don't Miss These Signs | Ep 34
You might be making more progress than you think. I’m talking about the shifts we often overlook - the subtle signs that show you’re breaking old patterns and building something new, even if the big transformation hasn’t happened yet. If you’re someone who tends to downplay your growth or only...
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Why You Cringe at Putting Yourself Out There | Ep 33
You’ve learnt the marketing strategies. You know what to do. Rationally you know you'd be encouraging your friend to go for it - that she should shout about her achievements, that she deserves to. So why are you still cringing when it’s time to show up? Why do you feel so uncomfortable about...
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From Burnout and Breakdown to Finding You Again with Vicki Gilby | Ep 32
When Vicki hit burnout as a primary school teacher, she realised she had lost her sense of self. In this honest chat, she shares how years of people-pleasing led to a breakdown that ultimately became a turning point. We explore identity loss, good girl conditioning, self-worth struggles, and how...
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How Personal Style and Mindset Can Transform Your Business Confidence | Ep 31
In today’s episode, I’m joined by a very special guest — mindset and personal stylist and founder of The Success Stylist Co, Emma — for a real and relatable conversation about confidence, self-expression, and breaking free from old patterns. So many women describe confidence as feeling out of...
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How to Feel Comfortable Being Photographed: Overcoming Self-Doubt and People-Pleasing | Ep 30
I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering. I wanted to chat to Victoria because so much of what I cover on the podcast is about stepping into who you really are, letting go of…
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Are You As Kind As You Think? The Truth About People-Pleasing vs Kindness | Ep 29
You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise? In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by...
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How to Recognise if You're An Overcomitting People-Pleaser (and how to stop the cycle) | Ep 28
If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running around, squeezing everything in, and quietly carrying the...
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The Hidden Problem with the ‘Let Them' Theory | Ep 27
Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice? In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the idea that we aren’t responsible for managing other people’s emotions...
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Do you really like that as much as you say you do? The Chameleon Pleaser - a chat with Hannah McLachlan | Ep 26
Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others, it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People-Pleasing Personality - take my free quiz and discover more about how people-leasing is showing up for you... and what to do about it click here In this...
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Breaking the Cycle of Over-giving & Finding Your Worth Beyond Your Actions - with Nicola Jayne | Ep 25
In this episode, Nicola joins me to share her personal journey from over-giving and over-doing in relationships to recognising her worth was beyond what she gave and achieved and provides insights on how to start receiving as much as you give. We talk about how people-pleasing tendencies often…
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Living Life by Others’ Expectations vs. Living in Line with Your Values - with Natasha Scullane | Ep 24
Do you feel like you've been following all the 'right' steps in life - being the good girl, ticking off the achievements, doing what’s expected - only to realise something still feels off? In this episode, I chat to fellow therapist Natasha about her personal journey of realising she wasn’t…
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From People-Pleasing to Living Life on Your Own Terms - with Matt Hassan | Ep 23
In this episode, Matt Hassan (@veggie_gardener_matt) shares his story of breaking free from people-pleasing and approval seeking tendencies to that of embracing life on his own terms. You'll find lots of relatable examples of how people-pleasing can show up - in often subtle ways - and how…
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Why You Often Feel Like You Don't Have a Choice | Ep 22
Have you ever felt like you had no choice but to say yes? Like you had to go along with something, even when every part of you really didn’t want to? You might just think, "I have to do this," or, "There’s no way I can say no." Or it might not even be a conscious thought and you just…
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Juggling Life Without the Overwhelm: The Power of Boundaries with Eve Cale | Ep 21
In this episode, I speak to Eve Cale, a busy mum, wife, and business owner (@giftwrappedbyeve), about the vital importance of setting boundaries in everyday life. Eve shares her experience of realising she was spreading herself too thin and how she began to say 'no' to break free from a cycle of...
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Why You Flip Between Feeling 'You're Too Much' and 'Not Enough' | Ep 20
Different to the usual episodes - this is for all you if you often find yourself flipping between feeling like you are 'too much' and 'not enough'. I'm sharing with you an audio from an ad-libbed reel I posted to Instagram. These words come straight from the heart. If this resonates please share...
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From People-Pleaser to Confidently Authentic: What I Learned in 2024 and What’s Next | Ep 19
2024 has been a year of transformation, personally, professionally, and authentically. Tune in for inspiration, honest reflections, and invites to reflect on your own growth and set meaningful intentions for the year ahead. In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes to reflect on the...
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Things Aren’t Bad Enough for Therapy? Myths, Benefits, and How It Can Transform Your Life | Ep 18
Ever thought, “My problems aren’t bad enough for therapy,” or perhaps you know you could do with some help but aren't sure what you would actually want therapy for. Maybe deep down you know you want to stop people-pleasing but worried about becoming mean or selfish? You’re not alone. In this...
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12 Practical Ways to Start Tackling Day-to-Day People-Pleasing Habits | Ep 17
In this episode, I’m sharing 12 practical ways to begin tackling people-pleasing habits. As I describe some relatively simple but powerful ideas, I'll talk about the importance of learning how to observe your habits with curiosity - paying attention to when people-pleasing shows up, why certain...
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Is People-Pleasing Sabotaging your Career? | Ep 16
If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes to things at work when you really want to say no, avoiding conflict at all costs, or struggling to set boundaries, then this episode is for you. I explore how people-pleasing might be holding you back in your career, even in ways you might not expect, and...
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Why Boundaries Are Good For Your Health - with Sheena, The Pain Therapist | Ep 15
My first guest on the podcast! Sheena joins me to talk about her work with people living with long term health conditions and chronic pain, the importance of learning to set boundaries, communicating your needs and finding balance - for your emotional AND physical health! This is a must listen…
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Is Parentification Behind Your People-Pleasing? | Ep 14
In this episode, I talk about parentification - when you were made to take on adult responsibilities as a child and how that can shape your beliefs, boundaries, and relationships as an adult and people-pleasing behaviours. I talk about practical steps to help you start breaking free from these...
About this show
Formerly titled 'Let's Talk People-Pleasing! with Charlotte Bailey' - She Is Here™ is a podcast for women who feel they're 'too much' too sensitive, too emotional, too dramatic....and never quite enough.
Maybe you’ve read the self-help books, listened to the personal development podcasts, or previously had therapy. You understand your patterns — but something still hasn’t shifted. You get it… but you don’t always feel it.
That’s because insight alone isn’t always enough.
Patterns like people-pleasing, overthinking, perfectionism, masking, anxiety, and self-doubt aren’t mindset failures. They’re intelligent survival responses shaped by trauma, attachment, conditioning, relationships, and the environments we’ve had to navigate.
I’m Charlotte Bailey, an accredited trauma-informed psychotherapist, speaker, and spoken-word poet. Through psychology, neuroscience, lived experience, and poetry, She Is Here™ e
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