Somebody’s Dad (Just Figuring It Out)

As the song writer said, "It Goes Down in the DL"...or was that "DM"? Y'all, if ever you wanted to know what we see every morning while you drop your kids off for school, give this one a listen.The Driveline is a beautiful combination of relationships, ratchedness, special moments and safety protocols... and a few laughs too.Find out the Do's and Do Not's, the rights and Wrongs, the Awesome and absolutely Ridiculous -when it comes to "The DriveLine". And the cool thing is, you dont have to be a parent to understand that it does in fact "Go Down in the DL"!

Hey Y'all. Do you even know what your "Best" looks like?Well, how are you gonna be something when you've got no clue what you're looking for?I don't think anyone wants to be mediocre. But its hard to put in your best performance when standards aren't in place and you're too worried about your best being good enough for anyone other than you.

Y'all. Sometimes the thing that sucks can turn out to be the least suckiest thing in your life. The curse can become a gift; and vice versa. Sometimes you gotta go lookin' for it. Other times, its starring you right in the face. In either case, don't get too hung up on either - because sudden change has an undefeated record. lol And a sense of humor.

Regrets get a bad rep. I mean, are they comfortable? Not really. Are they frustrating? Perhaps. Are they Universal? Absolutely... So clearly you're not alone.I might be a bit difficult to think of Regrets as teachers and clarifiers. But they are more than just that thing from your past you don't like to think about.We give Regrets a bad reputation. But if we sit with them, sift through them, and send them away, we may find cause to change that.

Its all over! The World Cup is Done.What a wild ride. The small countries making a big impact. The on field decisions, phone-call-interference, and off the field unity! What a time!And then there was Belgium vs. USA. We took the L, but i think there's more we can take from what we all watched (for as long as we could before we turned the channel or exited the bars, watch parties, and stadiums).Listen in and see if you can pick up a few wins from such an embarrassing loss.

You let em stay up later than usual, you stop and get em a little something at the gas station, you let em' have desert on a week night...And how do they repay you?They tell your wife!!!!Give a listen to a few lessons I learned when dealing with kids who commit the crime, but don't do the crime lol

Summa Summa Summa Summer Time!!! We're halfway through the 12 months, and, generally speaking, around this time of year, folks actually have a second to reflect.And if you are gonna look back, do it the right way.Listen up, you might learn something - and maybe UNlearn some things too!#Reflection #Evaluation #Chocolate #Perspective #Sexy #Comparison #Grace #SmallWins

I'm all in my feels ya'll... They grow up so fast; its no wonder we get attached to who they were just in time to look up and see them become who they'll be.The last day of school was a trip; but a trip not without its take aways. Listen in and see if you can find meaning in the midst of all the mushy stuff lol.

Crap can come outta nowhere!!!And when it does, you gotta figure out how to handle the fallout. You have deal with what has to be put on pause, adjust what you can and can't do while dealing with whatever it is; and somehow still keep it moving - cause life doesn't stop.All the while, you're wondering, "Is this gas or something else? And do I wanna risk it"?

Thursday IS OUR DAY!!!! It must be.Aston Villa vs Nottingham Forest in the Europa League Semi-Final second leg.Momentum, Familiarity, Set backs and come backs, Leadership...Even down 1-0, it aint over til its over.Take a listen to how you and Aston Villa are not so different. And maybe the boys from Birmingham wont be the only ones to win big!

So you're BUILT DIFFERENT huh?Sure you're not just saying that because of the company you keep?Maybe you are a cut above, but don't forget, there's no such thing as self-made. And come to think of it, who have you built up lately.This episode takes a look at a statement we here quite often... and 3 things we might wanna consider before we use it again.

Ya'll... This week has been hectic, confusing, frustrating, productive, tiring, and after you throw in a dash of awesome... It's been a lot.And yet...Maybe, just maybe, "A Lot" of week is exactly what we need (not every week tho).

Ya'll, Helping with driveline every morning has definitely taught me one thingYou can Feel How You Wanna Feel....literally.See how "acting" a little different can change more than you think.

Ya'll, I'm Old SchoolSome things just don't make sense. But hey, just because I don't get it doesn't mean its not a thing.Just a quick bonus episode with a concise, possibly confusing ending.

A lot can change in 16 weeks.But not with half effort.Not with inconsistency.And not by trying to fix everything at once.Plan it.Write it.See it.Execute it.Make mistakes.Fall down...but Finish!Let’s get to work.

I know something you don't know. A hypothetical future talk with my daughters about men, the internet, the perspective of women they've hurt, and the awesomeness of a confident woman...and some things about their dad that they may or may not care to know.

Another Weekend, Another Competition/Convention Sprinkle in a little St. Patty's day cleavage, crazy kids, highway headaches, and a dash of bad pizza, and you've got the makings of an interesting weekend...with a few lessons for added flavor.#DanceCompetition #Parenting #OnTheroad #Grace #pizza #ChooseYourBattles

Being a Dance Dad isn’t for everyone.There are the big emotions. The miles of travel.The money, the time, and the never-ending schedule.You’re part chauffeur, part life coach, part emotional support system… and somehow also expected to keep your sanity.But somewhere in all the chaos, you're teaching lessons about commitment, resilience, and showing up for yourself and the people you love.Like I said…The Dance Dad life ain't for everyone.#DadLife #Sports #YouthSports #Parenting #Sacrifice #commitment #Growth #Hormones #DanceCompetition

Is it really that hard?Or are we just thinking about it too much?At some point, you’ve got to stop analyzing and start doing.And even if it is hard…Since when did that mean you shouldn’t do it?Hard things build better people.

As an Aston Villa Fan, my focus is on seeing our club rise to higher heights season upon season. But this year's January transfer window brought both transfers and take-aways; not least of which, from the firing of Tottenham Hotspur manager, Thomas Frank. Life lessons can come from anywhere, including the Premier League.

"Most people aren’t scared of failing… they’re scared of looking stupid."Embarrassment is rarely talked about — but it controls more of our decisions than we admit.Maybe the solution isn’t avoiding embarrassment.Maybe it’s risking it more often.Learn the "Embarrassment Equation" and see if it can help you solve a few problems once and for all.

Sometimes the smallest moments carry the biggest lessons.In this episode, a simple haircut turns into a reminder about time, empathy, gratitude, and the quiet gift of being present with the people we love — especially our parents.If you’re lucky enough to still have them, cherish the now.If you don’t, may this episode take you to the moments and memories you hold so dear.

This episode breaks down how excellence is found in the details, why playing small never works, and why running from hard decisions only delays real growth.

This episode challenges you to begin with the end in mind and treat today like what it is: the first step toward the life you imagine.

There needs to be a standard for men.We will talk about our feelings instead of burying them.We will hold women in the highest regard — no debate.We will take care of ourselves mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically.And we will forgive ourselves.Not just for us — but for everyone who loves us, and everyone whose life we haven’t even impacted yet.We are worth the standard.We need the standard.Because we must be the standard.

Fear thrives in hesitation. Confidence grows in motion.In this episode, we talk about why action — even imperfect, inconvenient action — is the fastest way forward. Action gives clarity, builds resilience, and prepares you for what’s ahead.If you’ve been waiting for the “right time,” this episode might be it.

Just because you have something to say doesn’t mean you need to say it.Yes, you might be right. Yes, your advice might be solid.But if it’s negative, unrequested, or unhelpful… silence might be the better choice.Freedom of speech is real.But necessity of speech? Not so much.A reminder for all of us — who’ve ever left an essay in the comment section, laid down an opinion that no body wanted to pick up, or typed a long text they had no business sending.

Imagine giving a wedding speech to your future kids that actually lasts longer than the reception night.Here are the 3 lessons I hope they carry through life:Control your attitude and your actions; cause you can't control anything else.Your partner will grow and change — accept it, embrace it.Be a peninsula, not an island — stay connected.These reminders aren’t just for newlyweds. They’re for anyone working on love, partnership, growth, or simply becoming a better version of themselves.

Thanksgiving brings travel, family, good food, and plenty of chaos—but it also brings space for reflection.In this episode, we dive into the real things we don’t always talk about:• The BS that missed us• The people who love us• The hard things we overcame• The distance we’ve traveled between who we were and who we are• The future we can shape—and the peace that comes with releasing what we can’t controlThis message is for everyone—young or old, single or married, friends, coworkers, teammates, and the people in your corner.Take a breath. Give thanks. Give grace. And enjoy this season with a new perspective.Comment below: What’s something you’re grateful for this year?#Thanksgiving #Gratitude #LifeLessons #GrowthMindset #GiveThanks

Difficult conversations, especially with people you care about, aren’t just hard for the person listening — they’re tough for the one speaking too.But avoiding them doesn’t protect you. It often creates more distance, more assumptions, more misunderstandings, and more silent pressure.Even if a conversation doesn’t end with smiles or solutions, clarity is still better than confusion.Sometimes it’s better to speak and feel uncomfortable than stay silent and stay uncertain.

We’ve all done it — made a promise to ourselves, hit a small win, and then let off the gas. But here’s the truth: your growth doesn’t stop at the victory.Remember why we started — and who benefits when we stay committed. Because the results, the progress, the fruit of your effort… it’s not just for you.Stop breaking promises to yourself. Keep pushing, keep showing up, and remember: the fruit of the tree isn’t for the tree.

Simplifying your thoughts, your process, and your communication can bring order to chaos, speed to progress, and clarity to confusion.Whether you’re leading a team, a family, or just yourself — your greatest strength might be in making the complex simple.

"Watching my wife laugh at a Jo Koy show in Durham gave me a clear picture of what it looks like when intentionality meets marriage."In this episode, Blaze dives into how husbands can create space for joy — through date nights, laughter, and moments that help their wives breathe again. Don't think about date nights as luxuries - think of them as maintenance.Because when life gets busy, stress piles up, and routines take over, joy isn’t automatic — it’s intentional.A real, relatable conversation for couples, parents, and anyone who wants to make their relationships stronger through presence and purpose.

Politics can feel ridiculous, exhausting, and all-consuming — but they don’t have to control your peace of mind.In this episode, Blaze dives into how we’ve let politics become entertainment, how algorithms keep us angry, and why it’s time to unplug and remember we’re one nation, not two teams.Eye-opening, funny, and real — this conversation challenges us to think for ourselves and take back our attention.Think "Polarizing politics" vs "Unity". Picture "Unplugging from the nonsense" vs "Being under the influence(r)"

This episode’s all about the grind — the kind that shapes you while you’re chasing a dream. Using Maurice Whitfield’s story as an example, we talk about how growth and preparation go hand in hand. It’s a reminder that everybody’s got a village, even if it’s just one person who shows up for you — and that’s enough. You already have the tools, people, and resources you need; you just have to appreciate what’s right in front of you instead of worrying about what you don't have, or what someone else has. Because when it’s all said and done, the journey itself will shape you in ways you can’t even imagine… and when that dream finally becomes real, the feeling will be beyond words.

In this episode, Blaze breaks down why consistency, communication, and a little vulnerability aren’t just buzzwords—they’re the glue that keeps relationships (and sanity) intact. He shares real stories, a few laughs, and honest moments about the power of a four-word phrase, the value of honest communication, how doing what you have to do not only creates peace of mind, but allows you the space to do what you want to do. So tune in, take notes, and remember: no matter how wild life gets, everything’s gonna be alright.

*Don't forget to check out the YouTube version of this weeks episode, "Hey Coach". - Blaze takes us inside his journey into coaching youth sports, sharing the highs, the lessons, and yes—the occasional chaos that comes with being both a coach and a parent. He dives into the responsibility of shaping young athletes while making sure the game stays fun (because if the kids aren’t smiling, what’s the point?). Blaze also touches on the wild world of sports parents—you know, the ones who try to relive the glory days of their illustrious high school career via their 6 year old 🤦🏾‍♂️. He emphasizes how important it is for parents to cheer, support, and maybe sit down once in a while instead of pacing the sidelines like NFL scouts. Along the way, he reminds us why letting kids explore different activities matters, and how sports can be an incredible classroom for mentorship, teamwork, and life skills.

SummaryIn this episode, Ahbleza Sellars shares insights on personal growth and the journey of self-improvement. He emphasizes the importance of reflecting on one's life, acknowledging the desire for more, and taking actionable steps towards bridging the gap between current circumstances and future aspirations. The conversation covers the significance of setting goals, being patient, and trusting the process while navigating life's challenges.

Sometimes people are a part of a wonderful experience, and sometime people are the reason an experience is wonderful. Evelyn is the later. On a trip to Cozumel, with good people, phenomenal service, fun activities, and time to reconnect and reset, Aimee and I made memories, no doubt. But Evelyn, every bit of 75 (allegedly🤨) was unforgettable. We brought back souvenirs and life lessons. And I share a few in this weeks podcast. Take a listen...

How an argument...well, lets call it a "High Volume Text Exchange" showed me I wasn't runing my day, my day was running me; and that can't happen 😤

Who am I and what’s this all about?What's the Road to 100?Current Life Update (Cause it’ll be different at 100)ABCs of meLife Lessons from Aston Villa's tough times