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What happens when the world stops saying their name… but your heart still whispers it every day?In this deeply raw episode of Soulfire, I open up about a conversation that shattered my heart wide open. My 7-year-old son, who was only two years old when his grandmother passed away from addiction, broke down crying and confessed something devastating:“My only memory of grandma is when she was dead.”He told me he wants to invent a ghost finder and identifier so he can find her again… because he deserves a grandma.This episode explores the kind of grief nobody prepares us for:helping children grieve someone they barely got to knowcarrying memories for the people who cannot rememberthe loneliness that comes when everyone else stops talking about the person you lostwhat happens when grief evolves years laterhow children revisit loss as they grow olderthe ache of mourning not only a person… but the relationship that never fully got to existI share the realization that my son isn’t searching for a ghost. He’s searching for connection. For identity. For belonging. For the experience of being loved by someone he only knows through fragments, photos, and pain.This episode is not about “moving on.”It’s about learning how to keep someone alive through story, memory, truth, and love.Because maybe healing isn’t learning how to stop talking about them.Maybe healing is finally allowing their name to exist in the room again._____________________________________________________________Soulfire Work 🔥“Keeping Their Name Alive”Tonight’s soul work is simple… but powerful.Out loud.Not in your head.Not silently.Say their name into the room.Grief shrinks in silence.Tell one story about them:something funnysomething imperfecta memory that makes you laughsomething only you rememberEspecially if there’s a child connected to that loss.Children build identity through repeated stories.Choose one:cook their favorite mealplay their favorite songwear their perfume/colognevisit a place they lovedwrite them a lettermake a memory jarlook through old photos and narrate the moments behind themTurn memory into experience.“Have I mistaken silence for healing?”A lot of us stopped talking because we thought it would hurt less.But sometimes silence becomes another funeral.Step 1: Say Their NameStep2: Share One StoryStep 3: Create a Living MemoryStep 4: Ask Yourself......Listener Reflection QuestionsWhat memory are you afraid will disappear?Who in your life still needs stories about the person you lost?What part of your grief have you hidden because others seemed “over it”?If your loved one could speak to your grieving inner child right now… what would they say?

There comes a moment in grief that no one really prepares you for.The pain isn’t as loud.The ache doesn’t consume every breath.The survival mode starts to loosen its grip.And instead of relief… you feel unsure.Maybe even scared.In this episode of Soulfire, Jesica explores the tender, disorienting space that comes after grief quiets — the moment when you realize pain has been leading you for so long that you’re not quite sure who you are without it.When grief becomes part of our identity, healing can feel like loss all over again. We wonder if easing the pain means forgetting. We fear that peace might distance us from the ones we loved. We question whether our depth, our meaning, or our connection disappears if the suffering softens.This episode gently reminds you of the truth:You are not empty without pain.You are expansive.Jesica shares her own experience of meeting herself beyond survival — the confusion, the guilt, the quiet fear of not recognizing who she was becoming. She speaks to the courage it takes to live without armor, to stop bracing for impact, and to allow space for a self that exists beyond grief.This episode is for anyone who has asked:• “Why doesn’t it hurt like it used to?”• “Am I moving on too much?”• “Who am I now that I’m not in survival mode?”• “Can I still honor them without carrying this pain?”Healing does not erase love.It gives love room to breathe.🔥 Soulfire WorkWrite:“Who am I becoming now that I don’t need pain to survive?”Let this be honest, messy, curious — there is no right answer.Reflect:“What part of me feels unfamiliar as the pain softens — and how can I meet that part with compassion instead of fear?”Affirm:“I am allowed to grow beyond my pain.My love remains.My healing is not betrayal.”If this episode resonated with you, know this: you are not lost — you are emerging. Learning who you are without pain is not a sign that you’ve left anyone behind. It is a sign that you are integrating your love in a new way.💌 You’re invited into this space.If you feel called to share your grief journey, your healing, or your story of becoming on Soulfire, I would be honored to hold space for you. Send me a DM on Instagram and let’s talk. This podcast is a place for real voices, real stories, and real healing.You are not alone in this chapter.Your story matters.And your Soulfire is still alive.

There comes a moment in grief that no one prepares you for.The tears slow down.The panic softens.The ache isn’t as loud as it once was.And instead of relief… you feel fear.In this episode of Soulfire, Jesica speaks to the quiet side of grief — the phase where healing begins to settle in and many people feel confused, guilty, or afraid. Afraid that the quiet means they’re forgetting. Afraid that peace somehow equals distance from the one they lost. Afraid that if the pain isn’t as sharp, the love must be fading.This episode gently reminds you of the truth:Quiet grief does not mean less love.It means your heart has learned how to hold it.Jesica shares her own experience of noticing grief soften and the unexpected emotions that came with it — the guilt, the questions, and the realization that love doesn’t live in suffering. She explores how grief evolves over time, how love changes form, and how learning to trust the quiet is part of integration, not abandonment.This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves:• “Why doesn’t it hurt like it used to?”• “Am I dishonoring them by feeling okay?”• “Does this mean I’m moving on?”• “Why does the silence feel scary?”You are not doing grief wrong.You are not leaving them behind.You are learning how to live with love instead of loss.🔥 Soulfire WorkWrite:“What does my grief sound like now?”Is it quieter? Softer? Different? There is no right answer — only honesty.Reflect:“What am I afraid will happen if I allow peace to exist alongside my love?”Affirm:“I can honor my love without living in pain.Quiet does not mean forgetting.I am allowed to heal.”If this episode resonated with you, take a breath and let it land. Healing isn’t loud. Sometimes it whispers. And those whispers are still sacred.You are not alone in this phase of grief.Your love is still alive.And your Soulfire still burns — steady, warm, and true.🎧 Listener Reflection Prompts:• “When did you notice your grief start to feel quieter?”• “What emotions surprised you when the intensity faded?”• “What does honoring your loved one look like now?”“Have you ever felt scared when grief got quiet?🕊️ Invitation to Share:If this episode resonated, I’d love to hear your story.DM me SOULFIRE on Instagram or facebook— your voice matters here.”🔥 Community Prompt:“What would it feel like to let peace and love exist at the same time?”

The last full supermoon of the year carries a powerful energy — an energy of release, renewal, and emotional clearing. In this episode of Soulfire, we step into a sacred full moon ritual created especially for those grieving, those missing someone, and those carrying weight they no longer want to hold.Whether this is your first holiday season without your loved one, your tenth, or your twentieth… the ache still finds its way in. And I want you to know — you are not alone. I’m sitting with you. I’m breathing with you. And tonight, we release together.This episode guides you through a gentle but deeply healing full moon ritual designed to help you let go of what no longer serves your heart: guilt, heaviness, old stories, old versions of yourself, resentment, avoidance, anger, and the pain you’ve been carrying in silence.✨ FULL MOON RITUAL STEPS ✨1. Prepare Your SpaceFind a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Light a candle if you can. Bring a journal, a piece of paper, and something to write with.2. Ground YourselfPlace one hand on your heart, one on your belly.Breathe in for four counts… hold… exhale completely.Repeat until you feel your body soften.3. Write What You’re ReleasingOn your paper, write:“What am I ready to let go of tonight?”Let it pour out.The grief. The guilt. The thoughts that haunt you at night.The expectations. The pressure. The versions of yourself built from pain.4. Give Your Grief a VoiceWrite a message to your loved one — whatever your heart has been holding.A goodbye, an apology, a memory, a moment you’re afraid to forget.Let them sit with you in this moment.5. Speak Your ReleaseRead your release list out loud or silently.Then say:“Under this full moon, I release what was never meant to stay. I honor my grief, and I make space for healing.”6. Let It GoTear the paper. Burn it safely if you can.Or place it in water and let it dissolve.Imagine the moon carrying it off your shoulders.7. Call in What You NeedWrite a new page:“I am ready to receive…”Fill it with what your healing heart deserves — peace, rest, connection, strength, clarity, gentleness.Write:Your Release List + Your Receive ListReflect:“What part of me felt lighter after this release?”Affirm:“I am allowed to heal. I am allowed to feel. I am allowed to begin again.”This episode is for anyone grieving under tonight’s moon. Anyone who has felt heavy this holiday season. Anyone who hasn’t felt like themselves. Anyone who needs a moment of permission to rest, release, and begin again.You are not alone.Your grief is valid.Your love is forever.And your Soulfire — even dim — is still alive.

The days after the holidays can be the heaviest. In this tender episode, I Share the truth about navigating Thanksgiving without a loved one — whether it’s the first year, fourth year, or the twentieth. This is a soft place to land when the grief hits, a reminder that you’re not alone, and a gentle call to honor the ache and your strength.🔥 Soulfire Work — Gentle Holiday Edition1. WriteFinish these two sentences:“The moment I missed them most yesterday was…”“If they could sit with me today, they would tell me…”2. GroundPlace your hand over your heart and whisper:“I survived yesterday. I’m allowed to feel today.”3. ConnectHonor them.If it feels right, light a candle and say their name out loud.Invite them into today’s quiet.If you ever feel called to share you story here on Soulfire- YOU ARE INVITED - DM me on IG: @thejesicabush FaceBook - Jesica BushI love you- remeber that your Soulfire still burns. until next time. know that you are seen and you are not alone.

Sometimes the hardest part of healing is when the people who left during your pain try to come back. In Episode 12 of Soulfire, Jesica Bush opens her heart about forgiveness, boundaries, and the complex emotions that surface when old wounds are reopened.She shares her personal story of reconnection, explains why forgiveness doesn’t always require reunion, and offers gentle guidance for protecting your peace while honoring your growth.🔥 Soulfire WorkWrite ✍️Write a letter you’ll never send. Let it say everything you never got to say — the anger, the love, the disappointment, the truth.Reflect 💭Ask yourself: “If they reached out today, what part of me would want to answer — the healed me or the hurting me?”Affirm 🌬️Whisper this:“I can forgive without reopening old doors. I honor my peace more than my past.”💌 Want to share your story on Soulfire? DM Jesica on Instagram — you’re invited

When you start healing, nobody tells you how much you’ll change.You stop chasing chaos, you crave stillness, and sometimes that peace feels like loneliness.In Episode 11 of Soulfire, Jesica Bush explores the quiet transformation that happens when healing shifts your identity. She shares how letting go of old versions of yourself can feel like grief — and how that process creates space for peace, purpose, and alignment.✨ Soulfire Work:Write three ways you’ve changed through healing.Reflect on what parts of yourself you’re afraid to release.Affirm: “I honor every version of me — the one who broke, the one who healed, and the one who’s still becoming.”💌 Want to share your story on Soulfire? DM Jesica on Instagram — you’re invited. @thejesicabush

Nobody really talks about this part of healing — the exhaustion that comes once your body finally feels safe. When your nervous system comes out of survival mode, rest isn’t laziness — it’s recovery.In this episode of Soulfire, Jesica Bush dives into the calm after the storm — the silence your body craves when it’s no longer fighting to survive. She shares how exhaustion is actually the body’s way of healing and how to give yourself permission to rest without guilt.✨ Soulfire Work: Write how your body has been asking for rest. Reflect on what guilt you feel about slowing down. Breathe and remind yourself: “I am safe now. It’s okay to rest. My healing is not behind — it’s arriving.”💌 Want to share your story on Soulfire? DM @theJesicaBush on Instagram — you’re invited.

You’ve heard of the 5 stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. But what if they were never meant to be a map—just a guide? In Episode 9 of Soulfire, we dig deep into the origin of the 5 stages, what they got right, where they fail, and why grief doesn’t follow neat steps.I share how I tried to force myself through stages, how shame crept in when grief looped back, and how I’ve learned that grief speaks in spirals, not straight lines. You’re invited to release the pressure to “complete” grief and instead lean into a journey of love, pain, and your own path.✨ Soulfire Work: Create a two-column list of “expected stage” vs “my truth.” Reflect on what you resisted. Breathe: “I honor my grief on my own path. There is no wrong way to love.”💌 Want to share your story on Soulfire? DM me on Instagram—you’re invited. @thejesicabush

After loss, forgiveness can feel impossible—especially when the person you need to forgive isn’t another human, but life itself. In this episode of Soulfire, Jesica Bush explores the sacred process of forgiving life, rebuilding trust, and learning to breathe again after heartbreak.✨ Soulfire Work: Write a letter to Life. Tell it the truth—your anger, your questions, your heartbreak. Then, write a second paragraph beginning with, “And yet…” to express what you’re ready to release. Reflect on where you’ve placed blame and what it might feel like to trust again.Breathe 🌬️Inhale hope, exhale resistance. Whisper: “I forgive life for not going the way I planned. I trust that love still leads me forward.”💌 Want to share your story on Soulfire? DM Jesica on Instagram—you’re invited. @thejesicabush

After loss, even happiness can feel wrong. We fear that if we laugh, love, or feel joy, we’re betraying the memory of the one we lost. But healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means remembering with love.In this episode of Soulfire, we explore the courage it takes to feel again, to open your heart without guilt, and to welcome life back in.✨ Soulfire Work: Journal about a moment you felt joy after your loss. Reflect on what your loved one would say if they saw you smiling again.Breathe: Hand on heart and hand on your belly- Whisper: “It’s safe to feel. My love and my healing can exist together.”💌 Want to share your story on Soulfire? DM me on Instagram—you’re invited. @thejesicabushI love you all - keep going i believe in you and you are not in this grief alone

Avoidance feels safe in grief. We stay busy, distract ourselves, or numb the pain, convincing ourselves that if we don’t look at it, it won’t hurt as much. But avoidance doesn’t heal us—it delays the pain, strains our relationships, and keeps our wounds open.In this episode of Soulfire, I share how avoidance showed up in my journey, the hidden cost it carried, and how I finally learned that facing my grief was the only way to move forward.✨ Soulfire Work: 1. Write down the ways you avoid your grief. 2. Reflect on what you’re afraid will happen if you stop avoiding. 3. Breathe deeply and whisper: “I give myself permission to stop running. My Soulfire can hold this.” 💌 Want to share your own story on Soulfire? DM me on Instagram—you’re invited. @thejesicabush

Grief doesn’t always show up as tears—sometimes it shows up as anger. In this episode, I sit down with Guinevere Smith to talk about her grief journey, the fire of anger that rose after her loss, and the ways she is learning to honor her Soulfire through it all.This conversation is raw, real, and a reminder that there is no right way to grieve. Anger, silence, laughter, pain—it’s all part of love.✨ Soulfire Work: Write one thing you wish you could tell your loved one. Reflect on what truth lies beneath your anger. Breathe in, hand on your heart, and whisper: “I honor my grief. I honor my love. My Soulfire is still alive.”💌 Want to share your own story on Soulfire? DM me on Instagram—you’re invited. @thejesicabush

Guilt is one of the heaviest chains in grief. It whispers “I should have…” and “If only I had…” until we start believing the lie that we failed the people we loved most.For me, the loudest guilt came from the last day I saw my mom alive. I set boundaries to protect my kids, and when she asked to come home with me, I said no. Hours later, she was gone. For months, I replayed that moment, punishing myself with the belief that if I had chosen differently, she might still be here. That guilt drove me deeper into drinking, anger, and isolation. It nearly destroyed me.But what I’ve learned is this: guilt isn’t proof of failure—it’s proof of love. We feel guilty because we cared, because we wanted to do more, because our hearts cannot accept that some things were never in our control.In this episode of Soulfire, I open up about my own battle with guilt, how it twisted my grief, and how I finally found the courage to begin releasing it. Through forgiveness letters, raw self-reflection, and learning to honor love over punishment, I discovered that guilt doesn’t have to keep us chained forever.If you’ve been carrying the weight of guilt in your grief, this conversation is for you. You are not alone. You did the best you could with what you had in that moment. And your loved one sees the love in you, not the blame.🔥 Soulfire Work — Episode 4Write: Write a forgiveness letter—to your loved one or to yourself. Don’t hold back. Say the words you’ve been carrying in silence.Reflect: Ask yourself: “What would my loved one say to me if they saw the guilt I’m carrying?”Breathe: Place your hand on your heart, close your eyes, and whisper:“I forgive myself. I did the best I could. Love is what remains.”then i want you to Burn that letter, bury it, shred it up and flush it- but you need to release this. then i want you to shake your body. shake your arms and hands out, do jump n jacks.. the point is to ensure this energy doesn't stay stagnant in out body. remember i love you and you are not alone. Your SoulFire is still alive . you can always DM me if you have questions or want to be a guest on the show to share your journey.

Anger shows up in grief like a shield. For me, it felt easier to rage than to feel the unbearable truth that my mom was gone. Anger kept me moving when the weight of my pain threatened to crush me. It gave me something to hold on to when silence felt like too much.But here’s what I’ve learned: anger is grief’s armor. It isn’t weakness. It isn’t wrong. It’s a way our hearts try to protect us when the loss feels too heavy to carry. The problem is, if we stay there too long, we can get stuck in the fire and never touch the love beneath it.In this episode of Soulfire, I share what it was like to live in that anger—the moments I lashed out, the times I felt consumed by rage, and the lessons I discovered about what was really hiding underneath. This conversation is raw, real, and for anyone who has ever felt safer mad than broken.Because anger isn’t your enemy. It’s part of your love. And when you learn to honor it, you’ll start to uncover the healing that waits beneath the fire.🔥 Soulfire Work — Episode 3: When Anger Feels Safer Than PainStep 1 – Write ✍️Grab your journal and write down: “Who or what am I most angry at in my grief?” Don’t censor it. Let it spill out raw and unfiltered.Step 2 – Reflect 💭Ask yourself: “If I look underneath this anger, what pain is hiding there? What am I afraid to feel?”Step 3 – Breathe 🌬️Place your hand on your heart, close your eyes, and take three slow breaths. As you exhale, whisper:“My anger is not my enemy. It is part of my love.”as always you can dm me on IG @thejesicabush

In this episode of Soulfire, I take you into the foggy days after my mom’s passing—the days where nothing made sense but life refused to stop. I was numb, broken, and still expected to plan a funeral I couldn’t afford, all while trying to keep traditions alive for my boys and hold my family together.I share the story with you about my estranged sister and her roll in the funeral after not seeing her or hearing from her for almost 2 decades.This is the part of grief no one prepares you for: when the world keeps spinning, holidays arrive, bills pile up, and you’re just trying to breathe through the heaviness. I share what it felt like to be in that walking coma, drowning in regret and anger, and the small moments of survival that kept me moving when I didn’t want to.If you’ve ever felt like you were on autopilot in grief—showing up for everyone else while silently falling apart—this episode is for you. You’re not alone in the fog.🔥 Soulfire Work (Reflection Practice)Step 1 – Write ✍️Write about the funeral- or leading up to it- did you go? did you plan it. What was it like to go through it?Step 2 – Reflect 💭What feelings stand out most from that moment—anger, numbness, guilt, exhaustion, or even small glimpses of joy?now I want you to write a forgiveness letter to yourself- refer back to end of episode to gain insight on how I walk you through this process - remember to burn that biootchStep 3 – Remember 🌹Choose one ritual, song, or tradition from that time. Sit with it. What did it stir in you then, and what does it stir in you now?Step 4 – Release 🌬️Close your eyes, place your hand on your heart, and one on your belly, and breathe deeply three times, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Whisper: “I don’t have to be okay today. but I am safe. My Soulfire is enough. I love you, I'm sorry, I forgive you , thank you”remember you are not alone in this journey. if you have any questions or want a topic talked about or just want to connect you can DM me on IG @thejesicabushhttps://www.instagram.com/thejesicabush?igsh=MXh0dGdhdHl0anQzNg%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

Grief doesn’t send a warning. It arrives like a storm, ripping through your world and leaving you standing in the wreckage of a life you no longer recognize.In this very first episode of Soulfire, I take you to the day my life split in two—the day I got the call that my mom was gone. October 22nd started like any other Friday. My husband and I were ironworkers, cut loose from the yard early, ready to enjoy an unexpected afternoon of freedom. But then my phone rang. I saw my dad’s missed call. When I called back, his voice was hollow, carrying words that would forever change me: “Jes, it’s your mom. She’s gone.”In those moments, time collapsed. My body went numb, my spirit cracked wide open, and all I could do was whisper “It’s okay” when nothing would ever be okay again. Grief tunneled my vision, consumed my thoughts, and hurled me back into a version of myself I thought I’d left behind—the reckless, raging woman who knew how to survive the streets. That weekend, fueled by desperation and pain, I found myself on a manhunt, knocking on doors, chasing answers, and stepping into the trailer where my mom took her last breath. I gathered her belongings, her car, her clothes, anything I could hold onto—because I couldn’t hold her.This episode isn’t easy to tell, but it’s where my story begins. It’s where grief became real, raw, and relentless. It’s where I realized that grief isn’t something you “get over.” It isn’t something you can fit into five stages and check off like a to-do list. It’s messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. There is no one way to grieve—there is only your way.Launching this podcast on my mom’s heavenly birthday is my way of keeping her spirit alive. This episode is a dedication to her, but it’s also an offering to you. If you’ve ever felt broken by loss, silenced by grief, or abandoned in your pain, this is your space. You are not alone.Through Soulfire, I’ll share my journey of grief, sobriety, healing, and purpose. I’ll tell you the truth about what it’s like to lose someone you love and to find yourself in the rubble. Each episode will carry raw stories, honest reflections, and practices that helped me keep going. And at the end of every episode, I’ll give you Soulfire Work—simple reflections and practices to help you honor your own journey.In this first episode, I leave you with this: take a moment today to write down one memory of your loved one that still makes you smile. Let that memory become your Soulfire, even if just for today.My mom’s story—and mine—isn’t about tragedy alone. It’s about love, survival, and the fire that grief can’t take from us. That fire lives in me. And I believe it lives in you, too.So join me, as I begin this journey. This one’s for you, Mom. And for every soul who needs to be reminded: your Soulfire is still alive.🔥 Soulfire Work — Grief can feel like chaos, but even in the storm there are threads of connection. Today, I want you to pause and write.Memory Capture: Write down one memory of your loved one that makes you smile. Don’t overthink—just let it come.Anchor Object: If you have one of their belongings, hold it in your hand as you write. Notice what feelings rise up.Letter to Self: Write a short letter to the version of you who first got “the call.” What do you wish you could tell them now?Breath Practice: After you write, place your hand on your heart and take three deep breaths, reminding yourself: “I survived that day. I am still here. My Soulfire is alive.”You can always DM me on IG to connect : You are not alone in this. @TheJesicaBushhttps://www.instagram.com/thejesicabush?igsh=MXh0dGdhdHl0anQzNg%3D%3D&utm_source=qr