Sounds Fake But Okay

Hey what's up hello! This week, we talk about recent examples of queer people enforcing the patriarchy upon other queer people. Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week, we are BACK from break, and we're talking about all the things we're afraid to admit as aspecs. Inspired by this delightful TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@pipedownimtt/video/7660292362014412062r=1&t=ZP-97sWANlNBGxEpisode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/things-were-afraid-to-admit-as-aspecs   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week, inspired by the Scottish having a very roudy visit in Boston for the World Cup, we talk about the phenomenon of sex bucket lists and only having sex with someone because of their nationality. There truly are so many reasons to have sex.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-world-cup-sex-boom-and-sex-bucket-lists   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! You know we're back scrolling through the depths of Reddit. This week: idiot step-fathers, too many blow jobs, saving skulls, incompatible sex drives, and getting the ick bad.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbithole-pt-25   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we’re back with a follow-up to something we touched on last week: ✨yearning✨. Why do queer folks do so much of it and the straights.... don't?Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/why-do-the-straights-hate-yearning   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we’re back with some listener lore, where we hit all the important topics: mustard gas, toilet feuds, should soup, and straight people’s apparent disinterest in yearning. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/listener-lore-pt-9   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about body trends. What's up with everyone suddenly trying to go for the emaciated look? What does it mean? Do queer people also fall victim? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/body-trends   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about Hyles-Anderson College, an unaccredited college in Indiana that teaches young women how to be proper wives and mothers. They really went out and made an MRS degree real.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-college-for-tradwives-and-mrs-degrees   Sources:https://www.vanityfair.com/news/story/the-college-for-trad-wives?srsltid=AfmBOoqXA7NBslDqe-U0sRwK2jEbppYA2qZnKm4EwIZ7HGtRrYkSRAkp   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week, we're chatting with Ashley Koch, who recently got their Master's degree in Counseling! Ash shares their experience in their Master's program, asexuality in the DSM-5-TR, counselor competency as an asexual person, and the lack of LGBTQ+ education in counseling courses.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/therapy-and-asexuality-feat-ashley-koch   Follow Ashley: @ash_artworkListen to Ashley's podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5ItTyifF7DAyNOMxxKFM9F?si=O31P9ICrQVC4Qs9Z1EmONQDonate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we're reaching deep into the archives and pulling out a concept we haven't done since 2021. Should we have left it there? Who knows! We play our version of fuck, marry, kill - elevator, QPR, kill.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/fuck-marry-kill-but-aspec-pt-2  Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! You know it, you love it. Sarah is back from Ireland, and Reddit is back in town. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbithole-aita-pt-24   Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/special-report-live-from-the-aroace-capital-of-the-world   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the high percentage of aspecs that are under the trans umbrella. We try to figure out why so many aspecs are trans and discuss how the identities interact. Also, unrelated: Sarah's insurance beef.No episode next week while Sarah is abroad but we'll be back the week after!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/the-overlap-between-trans-and-aspec-identities   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! Today we answer the question can I still be asexual or aromantic if I have sex? If I'm in a romantic relationship? If I have trauma? The answer is basically always yes but let's talk about it!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/can-i-still-be-asexual/aromantic-if  Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what’s up hello! It’s time for another listener lore, where we answer pressing questions like what the hell is up with Nick? How did we end up on a sidebar about the BTS members’ alpha/omega fanfiction statistics? And… YOUR TONGUES TOUCH WHEN YOU KISS????Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/listener-lore-pt-8   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! Today we're learning about sex toys. Specifically, the ones that are defined by google as "weird" but... good? Look, we don't know either. Just come on this journey with us. Or don't! (Sorry, this is what happens when Sarah writes the pod descriptions.)CW: Explicit discussion of sex toys and how they're usedEpisode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/sex-toys   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! Today we dive into research that shows strong links between someone's birth order and sibling composition and their sexuality. We are not scientists; we are just two girls trying to figure it out. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/birth-order-determines-sexuality   Sources:https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39627649/Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week ask ourselves the age-old question: just what IS happening over on Reddit? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbithole-aita-pt-23   Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we dive into Heteropessimism and make the case for MORE attention to be paid to heterosexuality? We know how it sounds, but hear us out.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/heteropessimism   Sources:https://thenewinquiry.com/on-heteropessimism/   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we learn that there's apparently a libido crisis going on. News to us. We read what Them has to say about the crisis and rate their 69 dating and sex tips that are supposed to "help us navigate love and sex during decidedly unsexy times." Much to unpack.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/dating-tips-for-the-libido-crisis   Sources:https://www.them.us/story/libido-crisis-dating-sex-in-real-life   https://www.them.us/story/69-hard-and-fast-rules-for-dating-in-real-life   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we're recapping the 2026 Winter Olympics and talking about everything from cheating scandals (the romantic and sports kinds) to queer icons to penis injections. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/winter-olympics-recap   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what’s up hello! You know it. You love it. This week we’re back on Reddit and asking the important questions: can I sue my friend for no-showing to my wedding? Why the hell would you bring a sex worker as your plus one to a baby shower? Where did my brother’s loose prosthetic leg come from? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbithole-aita-pt-22   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week, in honor of Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, we're chatting with aromantic artist Zachary Trebellas about his new exhibit "Shot With a Lead Arrow"  and his experience as someone who is aro but not ace.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aromantic-art-feat-zachary-trebellas   Check out Shot With a Lead Arrow: www.zacharytrebellas.com/leadarrow   Follow Zachary: www.instagram.com/zacharytrebellas   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we're exploring aplatonicism — what it is, what the aplatonic experience might feel like, and why it can be so hard for even aspecs to wrap their minds around. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aplatonic   Sources:https://www.tumblr.com/aromagni/629112378923122688/aplatonic-masterpost   https://medium.com/@rockytrondle/friendship-is-not-a-universal-language-8c0376b3f1a2   https://www.reddit.com/r/aplatonic/   https://www.aromanticism.org/en/news-feed/aplatonicism-101   https://aplatonicinformation.com/index.php   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! We're back reading YOUR wild Reddit-style stories. This week - Alfredo disasters, accidental relationships, and more car troubles.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/listener-lore-pt-7   Submit Your Lore: https://forms.gle/rYVDYf4em9dexwvd7 Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk Queerbaiting - what's the real definition is, what queerbaiting isn't, and if celebrities themselves can queerbait with their actual sexuality.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/queerbaiting   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! Second episode of the year and we're already back in the Reddit trenches. This time - wedding seating chart mayhem and insecure husbands. Oh we are soooo back.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbit-hole-aita-pt-21   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! We are BACK and we are talking about GAY HOCKEY — why is everyone (including us) obsessed with it? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/heated-rivalry   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! For our last episode of the year we're returning to our annual tradition of recording the same episode one year apart, a la the Billie Eilish Vanity Fair interviews.Thank you for another fantastic year! We are so grateful for you all and will be back in your ears in 2026!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/same-podcast-one-year-apart-the-sixth-year   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about what it's like being aromantic or asexual at work. We discuss whether being aspec puts you at a disadvantage when trying to bond with coworkers and the pros and cons of coming out at work.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aromanticism-and-asexuality-at-work   Article on benevolent intentions toward coworkers: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41599-025-05963-w    Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we look at harrowing posts from r/menwritingwomen and talk about what it takes for straight people to successfully write queer characters and for allos to successfully write aspec characters.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/writing-aspecs   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about spooky horror movies. Why do the characters who have sex always get killed? And what does it mean? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/sex-in-horror-movies-feat-stepdean  Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we're talking about ~money~, and the evergreen question: are aspecs, single folks, and those in non-normative relationships punished financially in our society for their way of life? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/are-single-folks-punished-financially   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! We're back on Reddit, and you can't stop us.Content warning: graphic descriptions of poop and unhygienic behavior (we’re so sorry)Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbit-hole-aita-pt-20   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/bookBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! More listener lore m'lord? This week we've got large game, horrifying gifts from crushes, pepper spray, annoying dudebros, and more!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/listener-lore-pt-6    Submit Your Lore: https://forms.gle/rYVDYf4em9dexwvd7 Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Happy Ace Week! This week’s ep could not be less about that. It IS, however, about heteronormativity in how we talk about queer sex, and also a Twitter fight Sarah got in. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/tops-bottoms-and-queer-heteronormativity   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/bookBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss the mythos of "true love's first kiss," why it's a lazy plot device, and why humans like kissing so dang much in the first place.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/true-loves-kiss-and-the-science-of-kissing    Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! We're back with Reddit stories about hair bears, vegan drama, and picking up the check. Plus, a passionate rant about Magic 8 Balls.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbit-hole-aita-pt-19   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we explore the modern-day influx (or is it?) of sexualized music. Somehow that also turns into a discussion of how some helicopter parents these days aren’t even helicopter parenting right, and also the world’s most pressing question: was Jesus a guitar guy? Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/sexualized-music  Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/bookBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we explore why acespecs are so good at writing smut and why arospecs are so good at writing romance.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/aspec-smut-writers   Pre-Order Dear Luke, Love, Me: https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/dear-luke-love-me/umc.cmc.6qer6q311z5e60jz3s8drkyvm?l=pt   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! Today we're sharing our hot takes and yours! Feel the burn of the hottest takes about evolution, lesbianism, historical friendships, and more.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/hot-takes-2   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we talk about how people who are in relationships are treated differently than single people. It's like couple privledge but for the individual. We hate it!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/people-in-relationships-are-treated-better    Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we are back on our Reddit Rabbithole BS. Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/reddit-rabbit-hole-aita-pt-18    Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/bookBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss people having AI partners.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/ai-relationships Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! We're back telling YOUR wild stories from high school relationship drama to pigeon rescues.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/listener-lore-pt-5   Submit your own listener lore: https://forms.gle/HNE2XpfnQkVVV9ha6Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! We are back and it is time for a Q&A for SFBO's 8th birthday! Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/8th-birthday-qa   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/bookBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! As June wraps up, we reflect on Pride 2025 - the lack of corporate pride, aspecs at pride events, and rampant biphobia. And do we get a little bit off topic sometimes? Of course we do.See you in August!Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/pride-2025-and-biphobia   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we look at examples of times when changing your interests or look for the sake of a crush actually turned out to be a good thing. We know it's shocking and gross, but could changing yourself for a crush actually be good??Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/could-changing-for-a-crush-be-a-good-thing   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we play romance and dating choose your own adventure stories on chooseyourstory.com! Spoiler alert: it goes about as well as you think it will.Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/choose-your-own-adventure   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book

Hey what's up hello! This week we discuss how society's current conception of womanhood clashes with asexual and aromantic identities. Can gender and sexuality be separated? What does it mean to be a woman when you don't desire or want to be desired? All that and more (after 10 minutes of girlhood and yapping at the top of the episode of course).Episode Transcript: www.soundsfakepod.com/transcripts/can-womanhood-and-aspec-identities-coexist   Donate: patreon.com/soundsfakepod  Follow: @soundsfakepod    Join: https://discord.gg/W7VBHMt  www.soundsfakepod.comBuy our book: www.soundsfakepod.com/book