Table for 9: An Enneagram Podcast

In this weeks episode, we are talking about AUTOMATIC PREOCCUPATIONS - what automatically preoccupies our inner world, how it serves us ... and ultimately, how it doesn't serve us at all.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠ or ⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

In this weeks episode, we are talk through "subtypes without the Enneagram types"... aka INSTINCTS or Instinctual Variants. We break down the self-preservation subtype, social subtype, and sexual subtype. Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect! ⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠ or ⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠03:44 Instincts vs Subtypes Explained 05:45 The Three Instincts Overview 14:09 Self Preservation Deep Dive 19:17 Social Instinct Deep Dive 24:39 Sexual Instinct Deep Dive31:31 Stacking and Repressed Instinct

A bonus from yesterday's episode- we are FINISHING the question in our Q&A: what is the difference between a main type, I typed that goes there in stress, and the type that goes there in health?Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠ or ⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Our first Q&A! Today we go over two questions... 1) Am I a 7 or a 9? and 2) what is the difference between an Enneagram type, a type going there in stress, and a type reaching there in health?Types 2-9 are in part 2, episode 18Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠ or ⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in the last of this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE NINES: Disengagement... and if you say lazy I might just throw a fit.We talk about disengagement, what PEACE really is, and what happens to the confidence about future effort when Nines stay too disengaged for too long.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE EIGHTS: Dominance and insensitivity... and really, they're not what you think they are.We talk about what insensitivity really is, the actual meaning of dominance, and pissing (yes, seriously).Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE SEVENS: Frustration and impatience.We talk about where these feelings start, what activity really means, and the anticipation cycle.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE SIXES: Projection.We talk about how one cycle pings another, what happens when we don't own that the call is coming from inside the house, and how we can shift that to the intuition-gift of the 6.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE FIVES: WithholdingWe talk about the deep terror of running out, what is "really" a resource, and what IS and isn't renewable.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE FOURS: Sense of inner deficiency.We talk about the deep sense that something is missing, what happens when envy gets its hands on it, and the cycle fours go through trying to figure out what is going on with the foundation of their house.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE THREES: (Self) Deceit.We talk about the why the (self) distinction matters, what purpose vanity serves for them, and what happens when we can't find the line between who we really are and the image we present.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE TWOS: Unclaimed needs.We talk about the gap between their pride and reality, what happens when we refuse to connect with what we need, and how to actually be a person in relationships (well, it's a start).Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

Today and in this series we're unpacking a common coaching theme when working with TYPE ONES: Self Over-control.We talk about the gap between ideals and reality, unclaimed and repressed anger, and what the FRICK to do with our standards.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠ or ⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠

In part 2 of this weeks episode, we are going into your Enneagram defense mechanism: what is it, how do we start to practically get over it, and will Jackie ever pronounce that word correctly? Types 5-9 are covered in this episode.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!⁠Instagram.com/tablefor9co⁠ or ⁠jackiecontessa.com⁠00:23 Type Five Isolation06:33 Type Six Projection12:22 Type Seven Idealization (note, traditionally rationalization, though in coaching I find rationalization is a symptom of idealizing)17:48 Type Eight Denial24:47 Type Nine Dissociation

In this weeks episode, we are going into your Enneagram defense mechanism: what is it, how do we start to practically get over it, and will Jackie ever pronounce that word correctly? Types 1-4 are covered in this episode.Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart List of 87 Emotions and Experiences https://brenebrown.com/resources/atlas-of-the-heart-list-of-emotions/Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!Instagram.com/tablefor9co or jackiecontessa.com02:33 What Are Defense Mechanisms08:22 Type One Reaction Formation14:27 Type Two Repression22:55 Type Three Identification28:40 Type Four Introjection

In today's episode, we're going over the 3 conflict coping styles of the Enneagram.Got questions? Text/Call  201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!Instagram.com/tablefor9co or jackiecontessa.com02:17 What Conflict Really Means10:43 Positive Outlook Types 11:49 Type Two 14:14 Type Seven 16:15 Type Nine 18:56 Logical Types19:25 Type One 22:21 Type Three 25:43 Type Five 28:54 Reactive Types Overview30:07 Type Four 34:18 Type Six 37:06 Type Eight

In this weeks episode, we get into PART 2 of De-MEME-ifying our Enneagram core fears. In this episode we go through types 5-9. Get your ass off Pinterest and get to work.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!Instagram.com/tablefor9co or jackiecontessa.com01:37 Type Five Core Fear Basics13:45 Type Six Core Fear Overview22:15 Type Seven Core Fear Intro31:12 Type Eight Core Fear39:17 Type Nine Beyond Conflict

In this weeks episode, we get into PART 1 of De-MEME-ifying our Enneagram core fears. In this episode we go through types 1-4. Get your ass off Pinterest and get to work.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!Instagram.com/tablefor9co or jackiecontessa.com02:15 Core Fears Explained09:01 Core Fears Overview11:52 Type One Deep Dive19:53 Type Two Deep Dive27:28 Type Three Core Fear35:59 Type Four Core Fear

Let's unpack the common excuse 'This is just who I am,' and the necessity of shifting from Enneagram information to action. Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!Instagram.com/tablefor9co or jackiecontessa.com01:06 Breaking the Cycle of Recurring Patterns01:55 Understanding the Enneagram's Role in Personal Growth05:05 Neutrality and Choice in Personal Development07:52 The Trap of Automatic Behaviors13:52 Personal Journey and Realizations25:25 Exploring Enneagram Types and Patterns31:10 The Obsession with Winning32:25 Romanticizing the Past and Idealizing the Future36:31 The Analytical Mind of Type Five39:29 Overthinking and Contingency Planning in Sixes42:57 The Optimism and Restlessness of Sevens46:42 The Independence and Vulnerability of Eights51:24 Avoiding Conflict: The Struggle of Nines55:27 The Brutal Honesty of Self-Work01:01:02 Let Go or Be Dragged

Let's go around the table. In the first episode of the pod, we're diving into the nine personality types, my approach to using the Enneagram for self-improvement and breaking free from recurring bullshit personality patterns and a discussion around the core fears, motivations, and behaviors of the 9 types.Got questions? Text/Call ( 201) 749-4490 to contribute questions to Q&A Episodes (voicemails will not be played on air)Let's connect!Instagram.com/tablefor9co or jackiecontessa.com00:00 Welcome to The Table for 9 Podcast01:45 Introduction to the Enneagram02:06 Understanding the Nine Types02:41 The Core of the Enneagram13:25 Type One20:15 Type Two28:10 Type Three35:22 Type Four43:19 Type Five50:28 Type 659:41 Type 701:07:14 Type 801:16:07 Type 901:21:48 Final Thoughts and Resources

Welcome to the Table for 9 Podcast, an Enneagram podcast where everything is an invitation to do things differently than we would automatically do them.I’m Jackie Contessa, Enneagram coach, life coach, and I specialize in what comes after you learn about your enneagram type, which is breaking up with your recurring, bullsh*t, personality patterns. Week after week I help people answer the only two questions that drive change in their lives: Why do I do that?How do I stop?Who knows, maybe today’s the day you get to answer those questions.Who you really really REALLY are is really really really welcome around my table. LOVE YOU MEAN IT!_Call in number for Q&A: +1201-749-4490START HEREWebsite: jackiecontessa.comInstagram: @tablefor9co