The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
by Natalie Lue
All humans have emotional baggage, and yet, so many of us are unaware of what we're carrying until we hit a low point, experience a health crisis, or recognise that we're in a painful pattern with our relationships or how we feel about and treat ourselves. Natalie Lue expands her popular blog Baggage Reclaim into podcast form with a weekly show about how to live and love with more self-esteem by unpacking, decluttering and tidying up our excess emotional baggage. It's time to reclaim yourself and experience more love, care trust and respect.
Episodes
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Ep. 312 You: A Beginner's Guide with Toni Jones of Shelf Help
Natalie chats with Toni Jones, founder of Shelf Help book club and author of "You: A Beginner's Guide." They explore the shame stories we carry from childhood, why doing self-help in community matters, learning to hear your inner wisdom, and how slowing down creates space for life-saving…
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Ep. 311 Life's Inevitables: Why Stress, Conflict, Criticism, Disappointment, Rejection, and Loss are Not the Enemy
Natalie explores life's inevitables — stress, conflict, criticism, disappointment, loss, and rejection — and explains why trying to avoid them is what's really keeping you stuck. She breaks down each one, what it signals, and how facing them is where real self-esteem is built. Episode show notes:...
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Ep. 310 How to Know If Someone Is Trustworthy (And Why Safe People Don't Demand Trust)
Natalie answers a question that weighs on lots of us: "How do I know if I can trust people?" She breaks down what trust actually means, why ease can feel suspicious when you're used to struggle, the difference between healthy and unhealthy familiar, and why safe people don't feel entitled to your...
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Ep. 309: How to Stop Letting the Fear of Disapproval and Conflict Run Your Life
Natalie shares what she's learned from managing her fear of disapproval, criticism, and conflict. Where it comes from, how it plays out, and how to shift your relationship with these inevitable parts of life. She shares four key reframes and practical guidance on what to do when criticism…
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Ep. 308: How to Be Selfish: Reclaiming the Right to Self with Suzy Reading
Natalie talks with psychologist Suzy Reading about her book "How to Be Selfish" and reclaiming the right to self-care and self-advocacy. They explore childhood conditioning, toxic resilience messaging, why resentment signals guilt and obligation, and how depletion serves no one while…
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Ep. 307: Why Resentment Shows Up and What to Do About It
Natalie explores resentment as a signal from your body that you've crossed your own boundaries. She shares two personal stories - one where resentment led to a necessary conversation, another where it didn't show up at all - and explains what to do when resentment appears in your life. Embrace...
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Ep. 306 Quiet ADHD in Midlife: When You Don't Fit the Stereotype with Gabrielle Treanor
Natalie talks with coach Gabrielle Treanor about ADHD in midlife, particularly for quieter, introverted women who don't see themselves in stereotypical presentations. They explore late diagnosis, shame, coping mechanisms, grief, and why understanding your brain differently is about…
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Ep. 305: The Beginning of the End: Spotting Your Jump the Shark Moment
Natalie explores 'jumping the shark' moments in relationships, those incidents of disrespect or disconnect that signal the beginning of the end. Episode show notes: Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip:...
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Between the Sessions: It's JUST Christmas/the Holidays. Stay off the Relationship/Drama Crack!
Read the article and comments (2012). 2011 version and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Relevant links and resources on the topic Be careful of going on a Regret Binge as it...
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Between the Sessions: We Can't Keep Trying to Recapture the Beginning
Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. In this minisode, Natalie talks about the issue of wanting to go back to the beginning of a relationship instead of recognising the reality of who we're involved with…
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Between the Sessions: Blessings in Disguise - Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For)
Read the original articles and comments #1 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For) #2 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For) Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim...
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Between the Sessions: When Someone's Imposing Something on You, They're Overstepping Your Boundaries
Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Sign up to get first dibs on How to Say No: The Scripts, including special extras Relevant links and resources…
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Between the Sessions - Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup
Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Sign up for the free Clear the Path to Love Sessions Relevant links and resources on the topic Podcast Ep. 216:...
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Ep. 304: Truth-Telling and Healing: Rewriting Your Life's Narrative with GG Renee Hill
Natalie chats with writer GG Renee Hill, author of Story Work, about the stories we tell ourselves and how they shape our lives. They discuss the impact of growing up with a mentally ill parent, estrangement, the way we humans judge ourselves in general, and how to rewrite narratives that leave...
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Between the Sessions: Future Fakers and Future Faking 👀
Read the original article and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip: https://baggagereclaim.ck.page/products/podcast Break the Cycle of Emotional Unavailability course Book Natalie for a private session Relevant links and…
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Ep. 303: Tired of Chasing: How to Tell if You're Ambitious or Just Activated
Natalie reflects on being tired of chasing and how it masquerades as ambition, tenacity and persistence. She explores people-pleasing patterns, over-identification with roles, why we believe things must be hard, and how to recognise when you're trying to meet old needs rather than pursuing what's...
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Between the Sessions: Why Do They Keep Having Sex With Me If They're Not Interested?
Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. Today, she shares another top 5 most-read. Read the original blog post and comments here. Sign up for the free Clear the Path to Love Sessions Leave a voice note:...
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Ep. 302 Your Attention is Sacred: How Social Media Makes You Shop for Flaws with Amelia Hruby"
Natalie chats with Amelia Hruby about social media and why our attention is sacred. They explore how platforms make our subconscious "shop for flaws and failures," the parallels between social media and toxic relationships, and practical steps for reclaiming your attention.…
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Between the Sessions: 30 Signs Someone Isn't Interested
Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. Today, she shares the #1 post of all time. Read the original blog post and comments here Break The Cycle Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim...
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Ep. 301 Self-Leadership with Ruthie Zerai: How to Stop Living at the Mercy of Others
Natalie chats with coach Ruthie Zerai about self-leadership—taking responsibility for managing yourself rather than deferring that power to others. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/301 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a...
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Ep. 300: The Non-Linear Path: Celebrating 20 Years of Baggage Reclaim
Recorded on Baggage Reclaim's 20th birthday and the eve of her daughter leaving for university, Natalie reflects on trusting your instincts, major life transitions, and how much can change in ways we never see coming. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/300 Leave a voice note:...
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Ep. 299: The Underdog Advantage: Breaking Cycles with Keeley Taverner
Natalie talks with psychotherapist Keeley Taverner about her journey from Ikea checkout to successful therapy practice, narcissism, social mobility when dating, and why being the underdog can be your greatest advantage in creating the life you want. Episode show notes:...
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Ep. 298: Stop Feeding Your Worry Goldfish: Finding Calm in Uncertain Times
Natalie talks about managing anxiety, breaking worry cycles, and returning to yourself after difficult times. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/298 Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast and leave a tip:...
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Ep. 297: Breaking the Control Habit: Why I wrote my new book LET GO
Natalie talks with her publisher, JP, about her new mini memoir Let Go, exploring what it really means to release control, why vulnerability in storytelling matters, and how writing about letting go became exactly what she needed while navigating and processing surgery and the cancer diagnosis....
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Ep. 296 Navigating Modern Romance with the Flirt Coach, Benjamin Camras
Natalie chats with Benjamin Camras about why modern dating feels so overwhelming, how apps have normalised intensity, and why flirting should be about genuine connection rather than manipulation or outcome. Episode show notes: https://baggagereclaim.co.uk/296 Leave a voice note:...
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Ep. 295: Time for a Quick Recalibrate and Reset
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Ep. 294: Finding Work Tough? It's Not All On You (A Pep Talk)
Natalie challenges the exhausting habit of self-blame when things go wrong, exploring why we make everything about our "unworthiness" rather than recognising systemic issues or others' responsibility. A compassionate reminder that it's not all on you. Episode show notes:...
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Ep. 293: It's Not Too Late: Karen Arthur on Reinventing Yourself in Midlife and Beyond
Natalie chats with her friend Karen Arthur about their 16-year "age-gap" friendship and how Karen reinvented herself after 50, becoming a model, designer, podcaster and author after leaving a 28-year teaching career. A joyful reminder that it's never too late to bloom. Episode show notes:...
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Ep. 292: Overextended and Overwhelmed: The Real Reason You Procrastinate
Natalie talks with coach Tiffany Han about why procrastination isn't about laziness but a response to being chronically overextended. Learn how to stop beating yourself up and start working with your natural capacity rather than against it. Episode show notes: Tiffany Han's website: Tiffany Han...
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Ep. 291: Trusting Myself Through an Unexpected Health Journey
Natalie shares her recent diagnosis and how listening to her intuition about needing surgery likely saved her life. A powerful reminder that trusting ourselves - even when it's messy and imperfect - is one of the most important skills we can develop. Episode show notes: Leave a voice note:...
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Ep. 290: People-Pleasing Styles: What Your Pattern Reveals About Your Past and Present
Natalie breaks down the five styles of people pleasing (gooding, efforting, avoiding, saving, and suffering) helping you identify your pattern and understand how it's blocking your happiness. Discover why you people-please and how to finally start breaking free from this exhausting cycle. Episode...
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Ep. 289: Dating Your Imagination: The Fantasy Trap in the Early Stages of Dating
Natalie explores why we feel so disappointed in early dating - is it the other person letting us down, or are we falling for our own fantasies? Learn to recognise when you're dating your imagination instead of the real person sitting across from you. Episode show notes:...
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Ep. 288: Modern Friendship: Understanding Why We Find It Challenging with Anna Goldfarb
Natalie talks with author and journalist Anna Goldfarb about why modern friendships feel so complicated, exploring how to navigate relationships in an age where we're more connected yet often feel more isolated than ever. Episode show notes: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/288 Leave a voice…
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Ep. 287: Estrangement Lessons - Why I Had to Break up With My Mother
Natalie opens up about her decision to break up with her mother, exploring how she arrived at this choice and why sometimes stepping away from relationships - even with parents - is necessary for healing and being able to live your life with love, care, trust and respect. Episode show notes:...
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Ep. 286: Money! Healing Our Relationship with Our Finances with Rachel Duncan
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Ep. 285: Having Your Own Back: What Self-Advocacy Really Means
Natalie takes us on a candid exploration of self-advocacy and what it means to truly have our own back. Drawing from her personal experiences in 2024, she digs into why speaking up for ourselves can feel so challenging, how our people-pleasing tendencies get in the way, and why being "difficult"…
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Ep. 284: Shifting Our Understanding of Attachment
This week's episode is about attachment, a topic Natalie's delving into for the first time with integrative coach, Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn because she's never been able to see herself in the popular attachment narrative, and she knew there must be others who felt the same way. Natalie and Elfreda...
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Ep. 283: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Natalie chats with Lindsay C. Gibson, the author of million-copy selling 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents'. They delve into the characteristics of emotionally immature parents, the impact on their children, and the resulting emotional loneliness. They also discuss the importance of...
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Ep. 282: Gray Area Drinking and Our Relationship with Alcohol
Natalie chats with wellness coach (and former Baggage Reclaim student) Jolene Park about gray area drinking and understanding our relationship with alcohol. How we consume and discuss alcohol has shifted dramatically over the last decade or so and more of us are reflecting on our relationship…
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Ep. 281: "Is There Something About Me?"
Natalie's joined by her brother Richard again for a follow-up episode to discuss how their upbringing created a habit of wondering if there's something about them that makes them 'not good enough' or causes people to mistreat them or bad things happen - and how they're making strides in healing...
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Ep. 279: Return of Nat (Come on!)
After twenty months, Natalie is delighted to be back! In this episode, she shares a bit about her journey to this point as well as what led to the decision to return, plus she shares her plans for the podcast going forward. And yes, the title of this episode was inspired by Mark Morrison's iconic...
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Ep. 280: Secrets, Lies, and Coming Out
Have you ever known that a loved one is holding back parts of themselves and essentially lying to you but they won't talk to you about it? Well, this is what happened with Natalie and her brother for over twenty years. In this episode, they sit down and share the story of what happened when he...
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Ep. 278: The One Where We Say Goodbye
In the final episode of the podcast, Natalie is joined by her husband Em where they chat, answer listener questions, and say goodbye to this show which has been such a huge part of her life. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life…
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Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop
Natalie shares some of the realisations she's made after making a big decision. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want 'Reclaimed' membership | Work with me | Baggage Reclaim | Shop | Sign up for my newsletter Leave a…
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Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing
In the final episode of 2022, Natalie shares a deleted chapter from her forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No. She breaks down how, to escape the chains of the roles we play and trying to keep up with our and other people's often unrealistic expectations and projections, we might act out behind...
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Ep. 275: You Don't *Have* to Be Friends With Your Ex(es)
Natalie explains why our biggest imperative post-breakup isn't to be bosom buddies with our ex and how we don't need to force ourselves to be friends if we're not ready yet or we don't *want* to.
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Exclusive Sneak Peek: Listen to a Chapter from The Joy of Saying No
Natalie shares an exclusive excerpt from her forthcoming book The Joy of Saying No. Pre-order your copy in audiobook, hardback and ebook formats.
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Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems
Natalie breaks down why saying we're harsh/hasty/hypervigilant/picky leads to us ignoring, dismissing and overriding ourselves.
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Ep. 272: Are You Disappointed? Or Is It That You're Angry?
Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between anger and disappointment to take better care of ourselves and start moving forward. Pre-Order The Joy of Saying No. Bookshop.org | Amazon
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Ep. 271: Let's Talk About Insane Politeness and Toxic Professionalism
Some of what we force ourselves to do, silence and tolerate are forms of insane politeness and toxic professionalism. Natalie breaks down what these are, why we do it, and why we've got to stop harming ourselves in the name of these social masks.
About this show
All humans have emotional baggage, and yet, so many of us are unaware of what we're carrying until we hit a low point, experience a health crisis, or recognise that we're in a painful pattern with our relationships or how we feel about and treat ourselves. Natalie Lue expands her popular blog Baggage Reclaim into podcast form with a weekly show about how to live and love with more self-esteem by unpacking, decluttering and tidying up our excess emotional baggage. It's time to reclaim yourself and experience more love, care trust and respect.
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Natalie Lue