All Episodes

Ep. 311 Life's Inevitables: Why Stress, Conflict, Criticism, Disappointment, Rejection, and Loss are Not the Enemy

Ep. 310 How to Know If Someone Is Trustworthy (And Why Safe People Don't Demand Trust)

Ep. 309: How to Stop Letting the Fear of Disapproval and Conflict Run Your Life

Ep. 308: How to Be Selfish: Reclaiming the Right to Self with Suzy Reading

Ep. 307: Why Resentment Shows Up and What to Do About It

Ep. 306 Quiet ADHD in Midlife: When You Don't Fit the Stereotype with Gabrielle Treanor

Ep. 305: The Beginning of the End: Spotting Your Jump the Shark Moment

Between the Sessions: It's JUST Christmas/the Holidays. Stay off the Relationship/Drama Crack!

Between the Sessions: We Can't Keep Trying to Recapture the Beginning

Between the Sessions: Blessings in Disguise - Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For)

Between the Sessions: When Someone's Imposing Something on You, They're Overstepping Your Boundaries

Between the Sessions - Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup

Ep. 304: Truth-Telling and Healing: Rewriting Your Life's Narrative with GG Renee Hill

Between the Sessions: Future Fakers and Future Faking 👀

Ep. 303: Tired of Chasing: How to Tell if You're Ambitious or Just Activated

Between the Sessions: Why Do They Keep Having Sex With Me If They're Not Interested?

Ep. 302 Your Attention is Sacred: How Social Media Makes You Shop for Flaws with Amelia Hruby"

Between the Sessions: 30 Signs Someone Isn't Interested

Ep. 301 Self-Leadership with Ruthie Zerai: How to Stop Living at the Mercy of Others

Ep. 300: The Non-Linear Path: Celebrating 20 Years of Baggage Reclaim

Ep. 299: The Underdog Advantage: Breaking Cycles with Keeley Taverner

Ep. 298: Stop Feeding Your Worry Goldfish: Finding Calm in Uncertain Times

Ep. 297: Breaking the Control Habit: Why I wrote my new book LET GO

Ep. 296 Navigating Modern Romance with the Flirt Coach, Benjamin Camras

Ep. 295: Time for a Quick Recalibrate and Reset

Ep. 294: Finding Work Tough? It's Not All On You (A Pep Talk)

Ep. 293: It's Not Too Late: Karen Arthur on Reinventing Yourself in Midlife and Beyond

Ep. 292: Overextended and Overwhelmed: The Real Reason You Procrastinate

Ep. 291: Trusting Myself Through an Unexpected Health Journey

Ep. 290: People-Pleasing Styles: What Your Pattern Reveals About Your Past and Present

Ep. 289: Dating Your Imagination: The Fantasy Trap in the Early Stages of Dating

Ep. 288: Modern Friendship: Understanding Why We Find It Challenging with Anna Goldfarb

Ep. 287: Estrangement Lessons - Why I Had to Break up With My Mother

Ep. 286: Money! Healing Our Relationship with Our Finances with Rachel Duncan

Ep. 285: Having Your Own Back: What Self-Advocacy Really Means

Ep. 284: Shifting Our Understanding of Attachment

Ep. 283: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

Ep. 282: Gray Area Drinking and Our Relationship with Alcohol

Ep. 281: "Is There Something About Me?"

Ep. 279: Return of Nat (Come on!)

Ep. 280: Secrets, Lies, and Coming Out

Ep. 278: The One Where We Say Goodbye

Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop

Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing

Ep. 275: You Don't *Have* to Be Friends With Your Ex(es)

Exclusive Sneak Peek: Listen to a Chapter from The Joy of Saying No

Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems

Ep. 272: Are You Disappointed? Or Is It That You're Angry?

Ep. 271: Let's Talk About Insane Politeness and Toxic Professionalism

Ep. 270: Knowing When To Fold On Unhealthy & Unfulfilling Relationships

(REPLAY) Ep. 158: It's Not That You're Not Good Enough; You're Over-Responsible

(REPLAY) Ep. 87: Jaysus! What's up With All the Life Lessons, Professor Life?

(REPLAY) Ep. 114: Have I Outgrown My Friendship?

(REPLAY) Ep. 219: You Are Allowed To Rest

Ep 269: Shifting from Shady to Loving Relationships (LIVE SHOW recording)

Ep. 268: Get Out of the Field of Shoulds by Choosing Desire Over Obligation

Ep. 267: About Riding the Rollercoaster of Worst-Case-Scenario Anxiety

Ep. 266: Do More 'Reps' of Being Yourself

Ep. 265: The Trouble With the Not-That-Innocent Good Girl/Guy

Ep. 264: Let's Talk About the Real Reasons Behind Affairs

Ep. 263: Some People Might Miss the Point of That Statement You're Trying to Make

Ep. 262: 'I'm not ready/able for a relationship right now...'

Ep. 261: Punching Below Our Weight?

Ep. 260: Keeping It Real About What It Means to Take Responsibility

Ep. 259: The Trouble With Overgiving and Overcompensating

Ep. 258: It's Not Our Job to Meet Our Parents' Expectations

Ep. 257: Losing Ourselves Leads to Losing Our Temper

Ep. 256: Even Grief Brings Out the Pleaser in Us!

Ep. 255: Sharing Core 'Directional' Values Matters for Compatibility

Ep. 254: Are You Inadvertently Avoiding a Successful Outcome?

Ep. 253: Was your intuition 'wrong' though?

Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else's Fear (even when you don't 'get' it)

Ep. 251: Scammers Be Scamming

Ep. 250: Changes, That's Just The Way It Is

Ep. 249: The Trouble With Bare-Minimum Relationships

Ep. 248: Keeping It Real About Self-Esteem

Ep. 247: The One Where Nat Went To Therapy

Ep. 246: Can We Know If a New Partner is Emotionally Available?

Ep. 245: Disagreeing With Loved Ones Doesn't Have to Be Threatening

Ep. 244: It Often Sucks Before It's a 'Blessing in Disguise'

Ep. 243: That's Not My Baggage! I Know What's Mine 😁

Ep. 242: But Will You Actually Get Into Trouble?

Ep. 241: Always The Strong or Supportive One? People Might Not Know You're In Need

Ep. 240: Oh-Oh for Intensity and Fast Trust

Ep. 239: Conflict Spotlights The Truth of Our More Fragile Relationships

Ep. 238: Be Careful Who You Tell Your Problems To

Ep. 237: 'Mutual' is a Mentality

Ep. 236: Let's Stop Minimising Those Big Little Things

Ep. 235: Delusions of Inferiority

Ep. 234: *Sometimes* We're Controlling in Our Relationships

Ep. 233: Eek, Am I Doing Self-Care Wrong?

Ep. 232 Columboing New & Prospective Partners on Social Media

Ep. 231: One-Trait Minds and The Polar Opposites Game

Ep. 230: Why you're still thinking about that certain someone or thing

Ep. 229: Burning Out on 'Being There' for Others

Ep. 228: 'But why am I experiencing problems?'

Ep. 227: The Reset Button

Ep. 226: Yeah, But Am I Needy?

Ep. 225: Are We Giving or *Imposing*?

Ep. 224: Our Experience of Someone May Differ Due to Context

Ep. 223 The Gaslighting of Future Faking

Ep. 222: They're Just Not That into You?

Ep. 221 Sometimes We've Got To Block, Delete or Unfriend

Ep. 220: We're Allowed To Have Work Boundaries

Ep. 219: You Are Allowed To Rest

Ep. 218: Three Vulnerability Habits to Live By

Ep 217: Trust Is a Gamble, but We Can Learn To Make Good Bets

Ep. 216: The Truth About Breakups

Ep. 215: Fear of Criticism Doesn't Have To Run Your Life

Ep. 214: We Don't Need To Put So Much Bandwidth Into Keeping Up Appearances

Ep. 213: There's No Need to Try & Meet All of Your Needs On Your Own

Ep. 212: People Can Be More Than One Thing

Ep. 211: Too Good To Be True?

Ep. 210: I am anxious about something

Ep. 209: The Compatibility Factor

Ep. 208: Scope Creep Makes Your Boundaries Beep

Ep. 207: Let's Be More Truthful About Loneliness

Ep. 206: Let's Wait Awhile

Ep. 205: Four steps to assertively communicating what you want to do

Ep. 204: Let's Talk About Family Estrangement

Ep. 203: OK, But What Is Intimacy?

Ep. 202: Let's Talk About Sex

Ep. 201: Who were you 'getting to know' over those texts?

Ep. 200: The One Where Nat and Em Hang Out

Ep. 199: Yes Isn't A 'Clean' Word If It's Not Authentic

Ep. 198: Perfectionism and The Idealised Version of Ourselves

Ep. 197: Code Amber and Red Alerts

Ep. 196: Taking Things Too Personally

Ep. 195: When 'Nice' Covers Up Anger and Control

Ep. 194: Let's Talk About Self-Sabotage

Ep. 193: The Landmarks of Boundaried Communication

Ep. 192: "I Guilt You So Much!"

Ep. 191: About Defining The Relationship

Ep. 190: Did I scare them off? Was it my Jedi mind tricks?

Ep. 189: Let's Talk About Chemistry

Ep. 188: The Landmarks of Healthy Relationships

Ep. 187: The Lather, Rinse, Repeat of the Frustrating Dating Cycle

Ep. 186: Following Through On Intentions & Words With Action

Ep. 186: Let's Talk About Gaslighting

Ep. 184: 'Why Am I Feeling OK?' and Other Worries

Ep. 183: Normal People and Casual Relationships

Ep. 182: Your 'Worthiness' Isn't To Blame

Ep. 181: Unsatisfactory Endings and Closing The Story Loop

Ep.180: Time For A Second (Or Umpteenth) Chance?

Ep. 179: Better The Devil You Know?

Ep. 178: About Allowing You To Feel Angry

Ep. 177: Discomfort and the Time-Off Thermostat

Ep. 176: Voicing Issues To Be Better Than Before

Ep. 175: Hard Resets, Anxiety and Corona Miracles with Exes

Ep. 174: Let's Not Be Cool With Taking Advantage Or Being Taken Advantage Of

Ep. 173: It's Time To Talk About Stonewalling

Ep. 172: It's Okay To Not Know What You Want

Ep. 171: Waiting For The Other Shoe To Drop

Ep. 170: Conflict & The Five Stages of Relationships

Ep. 169: 'They journal/meditate/do yoga/go to therapy. Shouldn't they be more emotionally intelligent?'

Ep. 168: Lessons From Freaking Out

Ep. 167: Beep Me 911 - Why didn't you text back?

Ep. 166: We've Got To Stop Pumping People Up With Our Great Expectations

Ep. 165: Acceptance Is The Way Through

Ep. 164: Am I In The Right Job?

Ep. 163: Keeping Up With Comparison Part Two

Ep. 162: Keeping Up With Comparison Part One

Ep. 161: The Secret Sauce of Being You Is The Remedy For Life's Challenges

Ep. 160: Interest In Someone or Something is a Hypothesis

Ep. 159: Feeling Stressed Or Overwhelmed Isn't An Inconvenience; It's Help

Ep. 158: It's Not That You're Not 'Good Enough' -- You're Over-Responsible

Ep. 157: 'Damaged Goods' & Relationship Experience

Ep. 156: "I didn't want to pass up an opportunity."

Ep. 155: Evolving Our Relationship With Our Feelings

Ep. 154: Why Don't We Express Our Feelings?

Ep. 153: Are They Being Unfair and Unreasonable?

Ep. 152: Playing Matchmaker, Being Set Up, & Recommendations

Ep. 151: Why Don't They Like Me????

Summer Interlude

Ep. 150: Are You Afraid of Listening To Yourself?

Ep. 149: There's No Shame In Having Needs

Ep. 148: I'm Not Taking Your Put-Down Lying Down!

Ep. 147: On Fear of Being Alone

Ep. 146: Are You On a Slip 'n Slide With Your Boundaries?

Ep. 145: Stage 0-1 of Relationships & The Recruiter Mindset

Ep. 144: Are Your Desires (& Pressure) Programming Or Preference?

Ep. 143: It's Time To Update Your Self-Image

Ep. 142: Why Can't I Get Them To Commit?

Ep. 141: The Overempathy Trap

Ep. 140: What's With All The Lies?

Ep. 139: The Baggage Behind Your Break-Up Habits

Ep. 138: Why Are Some People So Averse To Respecting Other People's Boundaries?

Ep. 137: The Lean Period

Ep. 136: All Is Forgiven?

Ep. 135: In The Beginning... There Were Blind Spots

Ep. 134: Did you just shut down my boundary?

Ep. 133: The Growth of Grief

Ep. 132: Fear of Sacrifice, Loss & Being Trapped

Ep. 131: The Trouble With 'Well-Meaning' Bad Advice

Ep. 130: Dating Anxiety

Ep. 129: Things That Make You Go Hmmm

Ep. 128: I Want To Break Free

Ep. 127: Bark Like A Dog?

Ep. 126: I 'Failed', And I'm OK

Ep. 125: Tidying Up Emotional Baggage

Ep. 124: Is it a bird? Is it a plane? Nope, it's emotional unavailability!

Ep. 123: The 5 Stages of Relationships

Ep. 122: Crumbs, Whether It's From The Shady or The 'Nice', Are Crumbs

Ep. 121: The Release & Relief of Giving Up On Try-ing

Ep. 120: Dear Friend, Why The Distance?

Ep. 119: Happy Christmas, Ex! And By The Way...

Ep. 118: Will The Real You Please Stand Up?

Ep. 117: Love Languages?

Ep. 116: Conflict Doesn't Have To Spell The End of a Friendship

Ep. 115: We Don't Have To Crush Our Self-Esteem This Season

Ep. 114: Have I Outgrown My Friendship?

Ep. 113: Let Me Stop You Right There

Ep. 112: The Trouble With Emotional Blackmail

Ep. 111: You Matter Too

Ep. 110: Jealousy & Envy in Friendships

Ep. 109: The Four Qualities

Ep. 108: A Friend Should.....

Ep. 107: Getting Grounded About Intuition and Anxiety

Ep. 106: Friendship Means Different Things To Different People

Ep. 105: Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word

Ep 104: Did We (Or They) Meet The Threshold For Pursuing Romantic Interest?

Ep. 103: Trial & Error, Baby!

Ep. 102: On Feeling Like A 'Failure' (Why Are You Still Single? Why Aren't You More Successful?)

Ep. 101: Help, Support, or Fuzzy Boundaries?

Ep.100: Are You Exceeding Your Bandwidth? (You're Not The Energizer Bunny)

Reconnecting

Ep.99: Listening To Yourself & Knowing When To Call It

Ep. 98: Speaking Out About Speaking Out

Ep. 97: Focus On You, F-F-Focus On You

Ep. 96: Is It Time To Go On a Social Media Diet?

Ep. 95: Can We Talk For A Minute? Ambiguity's Not My Thang

Ep. 94: We Are Allowed To Grow (Yes We Are!)

Ep. 93: Am I Lying To Myself?

Ep. 92: You're Not My Usual Type (But You Could Be With Some Changes)

Ep. 91: Who's In Your Entourage?

Ep. 90: Pretending To Be Something We're Not

Ep. 89: I Am 40

Ep. 88: You're Not The Boss of Me!

Ep. 87: Jaysus! What's Up With All The Life Lessons, Professor Life?

Ep. 86: I Can't Believe That You Don't Want Me

Ep. 85: Some Crumbs Isn't Better Than No Crumbs

Ep. 84: Am I Interested In You?

Ep. 83: They Just Want Attention, They Don't Want Your Heart

Ep. 82: Thick Skin & An Elastic Heart

Ep. 81: Saying Hello

Ep. 80: Saying Goodbye

Ep. 79: Too Bloody Nice For Our Own Good?

Ep. 78: The Power of Books In Our Emotional Journey

Ep. 77: Get Me Out of The Friend Zone!

Ep. 76: Stop Over-Apologising!

Ep. 75: The Common Denominator

Ep. 74: What Would Future Nat Do?

Ep. 73: We've Come A Long Way, Baby

Ep. 72: Go Hug Yourself

Ep. 71: The Self-Care Sandwich

Ep. 70: What I Learned In 2016

Ep. 69: We All Bounce Back At Different Rates

Ep. 68: WDWBU #12 Dungeons & Dragons

Ep. 67: It Was All A Dream

Ep. 66: WDWBU #11 Where's My Boyfriend?

Ep. 65: More Ideas Than Time (& That's OK)

Ep. 64: Stop, Start, Continue

Ep. 63: WDWBU #10-The Special

Ep. 62: Diff'rent Strokes

Ep. 61: WDWBU #9--Behind Closed Doors

Ep. 60: Sleeping In My Bed Messing With My Head

Ep. 59: WDWBU #8--A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

Ep. 58: It's Not Right, But It's OK

Ep. 57: WDWBU #7 Save You, Save Me

Ep. 56: Read My Mind

Ep. 55: Are You Ignoring Me?

Ep. 54: We Were On A Break!

Ep. 53: Stay In Your Own Lane

Ep. 52: Moving In Or Sussing Out Whether To Commit?

Ep. 51: Why Did We Break Up? #6 - The Lessons

Ep. 50: She Works Hard For The Money!

Ep. 49: Why Did We Break Up? #5 - Let Me In

Ep. 48: Why Him/Her & Not Me?

Ep. 47: Why Did We Break Up? #4 - Love's Young Dream

Ep. 46: Let's Be Friends

Ep. 45: Why Did We Break Up? #3 - The Affair

Ep. 44: Silly Me!

Ep. 43: Why Did We Break Up? #2 - Don't You Want Me

Ep. 42: You're On The Same Team

Ep.41: Why Did We Break Up?

Ep. 40: Going With No Flow?

Ep. 39: Make It Fly?

Ep. 38: Don't Be So Hard On Yourself

Ep. 37: Are You Feeling This?

Ep. 36: I Know When My Whatsapp Bling, That Can Only Mean One Thing

Ep. 35: I Like What You Like

Ep. 34: Charm & Disarm

Ep. 33: Personality vs Character

Ep. 32: Deal Or No Deal?

Ep. 31: We're Not Lazy!

Ep. 30: Listener Question Special #1

Ep. 29: Do I Accept You To Be My Partner?

Ep. 28: Are You Open Or Closed?

Ep. 27: You Get "Too Emotional", Baby

Ep. 26: Just Not That Into Me Or Unavailable?

Ep. 25: Ha-a-a-py Birthday…DOH!

Ep. 24: The Debit and Credit Trust System

Ep. 23: Better To Repeat Positive Affirmations Rather Than Negative Untruths

Ep. 22: Stop Asking For Permission To Have Boundaries

Ep. 21: Figuring Out Your Decisions

Ep. 20: The 8 Types of Inner Critic

Ep. 19: Break The Faux Rules

Ep. 18: Walking a Fine Line With Sarcasm

Ep. 17: The New Year Show

Ep. 16: If I Could Turn Back Time, If I Could Find A Way

Ep. 15: Fast Intimacy Now Or Build Deeper Intimacy Over Time?

Ep.14: Long-Distance For Love or, Long-Distance For Avoidance?

Ep. 13: Take a Parachute & Jump

Ep. 12: Got To Be My T.Y.P.E If You Wanna Be With Me

Ep. 11: Confronting Issues vs Confrontation?

Ep. 10: F-F-F-F-Future Faked?

Ep. 9: How many dates does it take to be exclusive?

Ep. 8: Guilty or Not Guilty?

Ep. 7: Are you keeping score?

Ep. 6: Are you using worrying to focus on what you don't want?

Ep. 5: Are tricky co-workers draining your mojo?

Ep. 4: Is Facebook the boss of our self-esteem?

Ep. 3: Who's afraid of the big bad criticism wolf?

Ep. 2: You complete me?

Ep. 1: Are you doing it for the right reasons?