The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert
by Ashlynn Mitchell, Brannon Patrick, Coby Mitchell
Have you been through an affair, or struggle with healing a shattered or disconnected relationship? Each week the hosts of the originally combined Betrayed Addicted Expert podcast now release their own podcasts continueing their journeys in serving those who have faced the pain and challenge of betrayal and addiction, and chose to move forward.
Episodes
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#169: Is There Life After Divorce? ( + A Big Announcement )
*ANNOUNCEMENT* This is the last time we'll be posting the Real Talk Recovery episodes to the BAE podcast feed. If you'd like to listen to more of the Real Talk Recovery podcast and hear the full episodes, you can find us by searching for "Real Talk Recovery" on your favorite podcast streaming...
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SEXtember: Let's Talk About Masturbation With Therapist Brannon Patrick
Today I welcome Brannon Patrick, the "Expert" in Betrayal Trauma & Sex Addiction healing & recovery. He is a clinical therapist with massive amounts of training & experience. He believes that everyone has the opportunity for healing, growth & connection, if they want it enough. You can find him…
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#166: Am I A Bad Person Or Is It Just My Addiction
Caller Andrew's Question: "My behavior regarding my addiction was so different than the rest of my life. How do I tell what was addiction/avoidance attachment and what was really me and is in my dna/personality?" Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You...
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The Iceberg In Our Relationships Keeping Us From Better Sexual Health With Associate MFT Trevor Hanson
Trevor is a marriage and family therapist who shares real life stories of trial, trauma, and injury and the journey to healing. He explores the topics of healing and mental health with experts and those who are living the journey. Trevor works to bring empathy, acceptance, fun and gentle...
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#164: What Do I Do If My Partner Refuses To Own Their Own Stuff
The 2 brothers talk about the power of self-reflection and what to do when your partner is not accountable to themself. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses...
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Can Porn Negatively Impact Individuals, Relationships, & Society, With Garrett from Fight the New Drug
Garrett when he took it upon himself to run 30 marathons in 30 days—and then rode a bike 3,800 miles across the United States—all to raise awareness on the harms of pornography. Since he has confronted his own battle with pornography, Garrett is dedicated to this fight to educate others. Now, as...
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#162: I Hold Prominent Positions At Church And At Work, I Have A Pornograpy Problem, And The Shame Is Eating Me Alive
The 2 brothers discuss the shame cycle that can come from having a problem with pornography, especially for those who have an expectation of being perfect. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has...
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Are You Over Functioning with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships. In addition to consulting with...
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#160 How Can Sex Addiction And Recovery Create An Unhealthy Power Dynamic In Our Relationship?
The 2 brothers talk about how sex addiction and recovery can affect the power dynamic in a relationship. Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at...
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There's No Problem To Solve With Alison Faulkner
In Alison's new book she shares motivational pep talks and practical self-help tools to help anyone overcome the pressure to become someone different, and instead embrace their inherent awesomeness. Alison Faulkner is a branding and events expert, host of the podcast Awesome with Alison a top 100...
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#158 To Share Or Not To Share? That Is The Question!
Caller Sam's question: I have been in recovery for the past 3.5 years. I am 41 with a wife and 5 kids. I was in a very dark place before finding recovery. One of the things that helped pull me from that dark place was hearing a podcast of someone who had a very similar story to mine and who had…
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How To Break Up With Friends With Therapist, Erin Falconer
Erin Falconer is an author, digital entrepreneur and associate psychotherapist. In 2018, she released the critically acclaimed self-improvement/female empowerment book, How To Get Shit Done: Why Women Need To Stop Doing Everything So They Can Achieve Anything. Since 2008, she has been the...
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#156: What Is Covert Incest And How Has It Affected My Addiction?
Caller Claire's Question: "I am 8 months into recovery and doing really well. Can you discuss the difference between PTSD, anxiety and shame and how they manifest in the body? I am still not fully processing these things consciously due to my addict reaction to bury and run from hard emotions.…
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Answering Your Question: Should I Open My Relationship With Expert Brannon Patrick
Today I welcome Brannon Patrick, the "Expert" in Betrayal Trauma & Sex Addiction healing & recovery. He is a clinical therapist with massive amounts of training & experience. He believes that everyone has the opportunity for healing, growth & connection, if they want it enough. You can find him…
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#152: What Valuable Lesson Did Garth Brooks Teach Brannon About Life?
Brannon shares some stories and background about how Garth Brooks has impacted his life in a positive way. This one might seem squirrely but has some really good principles about living life fully. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a...
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#154: I Feel Like My Recovery Is Improving But My Relationship Is Struggling. What Now?
Caller Ben's Question: "How do I hold space for my betrayed partner when they continue to respond with anger and distancing?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like…
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Divorce & Dating Lessons 1 year later - Answering Your Questions
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom....
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#150: How Do I Break The Chain And Not Raise Addicts Myself?
Caller Jesslyn's Question: "How do I stay healthy and make good boundaries, as well as stop unhealthy mentality and cycles during family, get togethers with people who confuse rigidity for righteousness and not get triggered when they say hurtful/judgemental things?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering...
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We Don't Have To Fight For Our Healing With Natalie Norton
Natalie Norton is a speaker, master certified life coach, and host of The Show Up Podcast. Natalie’s writing has been featured across many different genres in both national and international publications—both in print and online—including: The Huffington Post, CNN, Forbes, InStyle and many more....
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#148: Are There Certain Ideologies In Addiction Treatment That Are Barriers To Recovery?
Caller Adam's Question: "Hey! I'm a recovering SLA and by day I'm a physiotherapist. I was really intrigued when listening to an episode and B got really worked up when he talked about his first mentor in couples therapy. It made me realize that well, of course, there are schools and 'ideologies'...
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Patterns of Connection & Disconnection In Relationships With Trevor Hanson
Trevor is a marriage and family therapist who shares real life stories of trial, trauma, and injury and the journey to healing. He explores the topics of healing and mental health with experts and those who are living the journey. Trevor works to bring empathy, acceptance, fun and gentle...
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#146: How Do I Live Day To Day But Still Visualize Change For The Future?
Brannon and Tyler discuss the dialectic of Being vs Becoming and how to find the proper balance between the 2. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with…
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Drama Triangle Explained By My 14 Year Old Daughter Lucy Mitchell
Lucy & Ashlynn talk about the drama triangle & how it shows up with us personally & with others. After producing 200 episodes together. The Hosts of the Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert have expanded to 3 separate podcasts still supporting those healing in there journeys of life. Sundays…
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Showing Up For Yourself & Kids In Coparenting After Divorce With Jessica Frew
Jessica Frew is a wife, ex-wife, mom, stepmom, and BOLD action taker. She has a successful podcast called “Husband in Law” that she records with her husband, Matt, and her ex-husband, Steve. Together they are sharing their stories of love, marriage, coming out, divorce, remarriage and…
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#144: What Is A Bid For Connection And How Do I Meet It In My Relationship?
The Patrick brothers talk about ideas to answer the question: What Is A Bid For Connection And How Do I Meet It In My Relationship? Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd...
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Juicy Q&A On Core Values & Boundaries From Our Retreat With Amy Andrus
My guest today is my former therapist, Amy Andrus. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013. She’s taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women’s Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and...
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#142: As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?
Caller James' Question: "As A Man In Recovery How Do I Integrate My Masculine and Feminine Parts?" Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via...
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Living A Beautiful Life After Betrayal & Divorce With Chelsie Dort
Chelsie was married at 18 years old, had her 1st child at 21 & divorced at age 22 after discovering her husbands longterm affair. She is now remarried with 4 more children, navigating coparenting, step siblings, half sibling, & being an interracial family. She says "I don't know everything but I…
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#140: How Can Trauma Be Good For Us?
The Patrick brothers discuss How Can Trauma Be Good For Us. Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to…
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Prioritizing Joy Despite Your Circumstances With Elise Jones
Elise is married to a great guy, a mom of 2, teaching 20+ years of fitness & the last 17 years she has focused on yoga therapy, helping people in real life & virtually find healing & FUN. She lives in Midway, Utah & will be at my retreat helping those women heal a little bit more. You can find…
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#138: I’m Full Of Anger And Resentment. How Do I Let It Go?
Caller Tami's Question: "A couple of mths ago I'd responded to a podcast where you'd role played, mentioning that I felt the "betrayer" seemed they were portraying avoidant behavior likely to cause a betrayed to feel there's more secrecy. I am a huge proponent of the betrayed asking anything they...
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Using Breathwork To Heal Trauma & Pain With Katy Marie
Katy is a certified Breathwork Facilitator, NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist and trauma informed coach. She specializes in helping you transmute your pain into your greatest teacher so you can live alive and connected to your passions. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With...
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#136: What Are Some Seemingly Good Beliefs That Actually Harm Your Recovery?
The Patrick brothers discuss answers to the question: What Are Some Seemingly Good Beliefs That Actually Harm Your Recovery? Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to...
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Using Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) To Move Through Trauma With Expert Cameron Browne (he’s also my therapist)
Cameron Browne is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor with 10+ years of experience practicing therapy. He has a passion for helping people recover from trauma and believes that unresolved trauma is at the root of many mental health issues. This passion for treating trauma has led him to...
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#135: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Rebuild Trust Or Say That It’s Enough?
Caller Beth's Question: "How do I process, heal, and trust my husband again after there has been a betrayal that has devastated our family and our lives? The betrayal is a camera that was found in our downstairs bathroom that is used by my daughter and her friends. We separated when the camera…
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#134: My Marriage Started With Trauma And Has Continued To Be Traumatic What Do I Do?
Caller Kathryn's Question: "Married 41 years. Separated 3.5. On New Year’s Day, he said he wanted to show me sobriety ( from fantasy and masturbation) and he was going to begin with a new CSAT and he wanted us to get together twice a week and start marriage counseling too. None of this has...
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Empowering Parents With Tools To End Bullying In Schools With Expert Rebecca Burd
Rebecca Burd is from Stuart, FL. Wife and Mom to 3 amazing (not so little) sons. She's a 30 year chronic Nero illness survivor. In 2001, she & her husband launched an anti bullying non-profit. They co-wrote Speak Life End Bullying the Musical, a contemporary musical featured in secondary schools...
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#133: We Are Finding Recovery. What Does That Look And Feel Like?
Caller Rachel's Question: "I’ve been in Alanon since 2006, Sanon since 10/26/21. My husband has been sober for almost 4 years. We have been together off and on over 18 years. I’ve heard that addictions can come in three and I was warned early on that I had a long road with my husband. We’ve both...
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#132: I Know It’s Right To Let Go Of My Relationship... But How Do I Actually Do It?
Caller LuAnn's Question: "I am having difficulty in letting go. My husband of 7 years was “found out”. He has hooked up with men, online, and met 4 different people that have been admitted to me. I’ve forgiven; he acts like he doesn’t think he needs forgiveness. What is wrong with me that I can’t...
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Take My 100 Things Challenge
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom....
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Learning To Thrive With Simple Fitness & Nutrition With My Client Becca Coats
Becca is a mom of four little girls. She also works part time as an ICU nurse. She is passionate about women's health, and working to be healthy and thrive no matter what stage of life you're in. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s…
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#131: How Do I Stay Out Of Shame When My Partner Needs Me To Just Listen?
Caller Dave's Question: "I attempted to have an affair and was caught. My spouse and I have been working through my addiction recovery and her betrayal trauma recovery. At times she is triggered and talks to me about it to keep communication open and transparent. How do I keep from shaming myself...
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Creating Boundaries In Relationships With Therapist Amy Andrus
My guest today is my former therapist, Amy Andrus. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013. She’s taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women’s Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and...
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#130: Does Addiction Increase The Intensity Of Abuse?
Caller Adriene's Question: "This question is for your last podcast regarding what works and doesn’t work in betrayal trauma recovery. I do agree with everything that was said in there. However, as someone who has been through betrayal trauma, addiction with her spouse, and abuse with her spouse I...
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Understanding A Woman's Menstrual Cycle With Monica Grohne From Marea
Monica lives in Jackson, WY with her husband and golden retriever, Lox. Her career began as a professional skier and action sports film producer. Prior to launching Marea she was a Marketing Director in the DTC ecommerce space and has worked with tens of ecommerce brands to help them grow through...
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#129: Why Does It Feel Like When I Got Better My Partner Got Worse?
Pam's Question: Why does it feel like when I got better my partner got worse? We're publishing 2 episodes a week on our Real Talk Recovery Podcast Feed (1 per week on BAE feed). You can find those bonus episodes and subscribe to our Real Talk Recovery channel here Apple Podcasts:...
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Taking The Shame Out Of Sexuality With Guest Matt Elmer
Matthew is a serial entrepreneur who works with influencers and businesses who want to create professional online educational resources. He has been fascinated with developing healthy wholeness in life by studying the roles human psychology, neuro-science, quantum physics, and personal…
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#128: Does Will Smith Lack Masculinity?
With the recent ridiculous scene from the Oscars, Tyler and Brannon break down the absurdity and talk about where toxic masculinity was showcased instead of real masculinity. We're publishing 2 episodes a week on our Real Talk Recovery Podcast Feed (1 per week on BAE feed). You can find those…
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Becoming Sexually Powerful With Sex Expert Dr. Tara
Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, a relationship coach at luvbites.co, and a podcast host at Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast. She recently gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that...
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#127: My Partner Is Sober But My Relationship Is Not Healing. Now What?
Caller Emily's Question: "I’ve been through most of the models over the past 15 years. I agree that the model needs constant growth… are you familiar with Vicki Tidwell Palmer? Her moving being betrayal book and courses are some of the best I’ve seen. It is so refreshing to have a therapist who...
About this show
Have you been through an affair, or struggle with healing a shattered or disconnected relationship? Each week the hosts of the originally combined Betrayed Addicted Expert podcast now release their own podcasts continueing their journeys in serving those who have faced the pain and challenge of betrayal and addiction, and chose to move forward.
Hosted by
Ashlynn Mitchell, Brannon Patrick, Coby Mitchell