The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast

Rebecca's story is one of extraordinary resilience. What began as a routine induction quickly turned into a life-threatening postpartum emergency, followed by the discovery of a rare orbital tumor, multiple surgeries, and a long road through PTSD and healing. In this heartfelt Listener Series episode, Rebecca shares how community, therapy, faith, and giving back helped her reclaim her life after birth trauma. If you've ever felt like your trauma became your identity, this conversation offers hope that healing is possible, even if it takes time.In this episode, we discuss:✨ Rebecca's difficult second pregnancy and the unexpected vision changes that led to the discovery of an orbital tumor🩸 A carefully planned induction that quickly turned into a life-threatening postpartum hemorrhage and uterine rupture🏥 Emergency surgeries, an ICU stay, blood transfusions, and surviving a near-death experience💔 Processing PTSD, memory loss, and the emotional challenges of postpartum recovery while facing additional medical diagnoses👶 Grieving the postpartum experience she expected while learning to navigate motherhood after trauma💛 The importance of trauma-informed care, supportive healthcare providers, and compassionate family support🧠 How therapy, trauma work, and writing a letter to her birth trauma became turning points in her healing journey🩸 Why Rebecca now volunteers with the American Red Cross and advocates for blood donation after surviving because of blood donorsWhether you're newly navigating birth trauma or years into your healing journey, Rebecca's story is a powerful reminder that healing doesn't happen overnight, but it does happen.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

This week's episode is a solo conversation about one of the most complicated parts of healing after birth trauma: anniversaries.Whether it's your baby's birthday, the day you were admitted to the hospital, your NICU discharge, or another date tied to your experience, trauma anniversaries can bring up overwhelming emotions, even years later. Kayleigh shares why these reactions are so common, what is actually happening in the nervous system, and practical ways to care for yourself as these significant dates approach.If you've ever wondered why your baby's birthday feels both joyful and heartbreaking, or felt guilty for dreading a day that's "supposed" to be celebrated, this episode is a reminder that you're not broken, and you're certainly not alone.In This Episode, We Discuss:🎂 Why birthdays and birth trauma anniversaries can feel so emotionally complicated🧠 How the nervous system recognizes trauma anniversaries without needing a calendar🌡️ Why certain seasons, weather, smells, music, or holidays can trigger trauma responses💙 The difference between remembering your trauma and your body reliving it😔 Common anniversary reactions, including anxiety, irritability, nightmares, emotional numbness, and intrusive memories🏥 Why dates beyond birthdays, like hospital admissions, NICU stays, due dates, and holidays, can also become trauma anniversaries🌊 Why feeling triggered around an anniversary does not mean you're moving backward in your healing🤍 Holding two truths at once: deeply loving your child while grieving how they entered the world💔 Why guilt often accompanies difficult emotions on your child's birthday🫶 Giving yourself permission to honor your own experience without taking away from your child's celebration📅 Creating intentional space before or on the anniversary to process your emotions📝 Practical ideas for self-care, reflection, journaling, therapy, and meaningful rituals👨‍👩‍👧 Communicating your needs to family and friends before birthday celebrations💬 Preparing responses to unhelpful comments or toxic positivity🌈 Grounding techniques to use if you become emotionally activated during celebrations🎗️ Finding meaning through advocacy, fundraising, donations, or sharing your story✨ Why birthdays often become a little lighter over time—but may always hold mixed emotions❤️ Learning to celebrate your child's life while honoring your own survivalKey TakeawayBirth trauma anniversaries are incredibly difficult because they ask us to hold joy and grief at the same time. Your nervous system isn't choosing to make birthdays hard, it is responding to a deeply significant traumatic experience. Healing isn't about forcing yourself to feel only happiness. It's about creating space for both celebration and sorrow, caring for yourself with compassion, and trusting that over time, the weight of these anniversaries can become a little easier to carry.Resources Mentioned🔹 Birth Trauma Mama Trigger Coping Guide🔹 Trauma Grounding Techniques🔹 EMDR Therapy🔹 Trauma-Informed Mental Health Support🔹 The Amniotic Fluid Embolism Foundation🔹 Birth Trauma Mama Podcast Episodes on Healing & Trauma TriggersFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this heartfelt listener story, Liana shares how three very different pregnancies and births each shaped her experience of motherhood in unexpected ways. After developing gestational hypertension that progressed to postpartum preeclampsia with her first baby, she found herself navigating the uncertainty of a premature birth and NICU stay, all while trying to understand what had happened to her own body.Years later, another unexpected NICU stay with her third baby brought many of those emotions rushing back. Liana reflects on how trauma can resurface long after the initial event, why comparing our stories to others can minimize our own experiences, and how finding the birth trauma community finally gave her permission to recognize that what she lived through truly mattered.In This Episode, We Discuss:🩺 Developing gestational hypertension during her first pregnancy📈 How elevated blood pressure progressed into postpartum preeclampsia👶 Delivering a late-preterm baby and navigating an unexpected NICU stay💊 Recovering physically while trying to care for a newborn in the NICU🏥 The emotional experience of being discharged home without her baby💔 Feeling rushed through postpartum recovery while still processing everything that had happened🤍 How survival mode delayed her ability to recognize the emotional impact of her birth experience👩‍👧 Welcoming additional children while carrying the memories of previous pregnancies🚼 Facing another unexpected NICU stay with her third baby🌊 Why a new medical experience can reactivate unresolved birth trauma💭 Realizing years later that her experience had been traumatic—even though everyone ultimately went home healthy🫶 The importance of having providers who acknowledge both physical recovery and emotional healing👩‍⚕️ Why postpartum mental health deserves just as much attention as physical health🎙️ Finding comfort through hearing other parents' birth trauma stories🌱 Learning that trauma doesn't have to be "the worst" to deserve support💙 How therapy and community became important parts of her healing journey✨ Giving herself permission to stop minimizing her own experience❤️ Why every parent's birth story deserves to be heard and validatedKey TakeawayLiana's story is a powerful reminder that trauma isn't measured by how long your NICU stay was, how early your baby arrived, or whether everyone ultimately came home healthy. Trauma is about how an experience impacts you. Healing often begins when we stop comparing our stories to others and allow ourselves to acknowledge that our experiences mattered, too. Every parent deserves compassionate postpartum care that supports both their physical recovery and emotional well-being.Resources Mentioned🔹 Dear NICU Mama🔹 Birth Trauma Mama Community🔹 Therapy & Mental Health Support🔹 Postpartum Mental Health Resources🔹 NICU Parent Support🔹 Preeclampsia Education & AwarenessFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

This week's episode is a solo conversation tackling one of the most common, and most painful, themes that emerges after a traumatic birth: self-blame.If you've ever found yourself replaying your birth and thinking, "I should have spoken up," "I should have known something was wrong," or "My body failed my baby," this episode is for you. Kayleigh explores why these thoughts are such a common response to trauma, how our nervous systems use self-blame as a way to create a sense of safety and control, and why simply hearing "it's not your fault" often isn't enough to create lasting healing.Rather than trying to convince you to stop blaming yourself, this episode invites you to approach these thoughts with curiosity, compassion, and a deeper understanding of the neurobiology of trauma.In This Episode, We Discuss:🧠 Why self-blame is one of the most common responses after birth trauma💔 The difference between knowing something wasn't your fault and feeling like it was🛡️ How trauma disrupts our sense of safety and predictability🎭 Why self-blame can create the illusion of control after a traumatic experience🧩 The role hindsight plays in rewriting our birth stories⏪ Why judging your past self with information you only learned later is so unfair❄️ Understanding freeze, fawn, compliance, and shutdown as normal survival responses🤍 Why your nervous system was trying to protect you, not failing you📋 The impossible expectations so many parents place on themselves after birth trauma👩‍⚕️ Why you were never meant to have the medical knowledge of your healthcare providers💭 Exploring the question: "What was available to me in that moment?"🌱 Learning to replace judgment with curiosity about your trauma responses🪞 How speaking to your past self with compassion can become part of the healing process✨ Separating the facts of your birth from the trauma story your brain created afterward🧠 How therapies like EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing, and Coherence Therapy can help process trauma💙 Borrowing compassion through the perspective of someone who loves you🌈 Why healing doesn't require believing you handled everything perfectly❤️ Finding gratitude for the ways your nervous system helped you surviveKey TakeawaySelf-blame is often not evidence that you failed; it's evidence that your nervous system is trying to make sense of something overwhelming. Trauma changes the way we interpret our experiences, and healing begins not by arguing with those thoughts, but by becoming curious about where they come from and what purpose they've served. You don't have to force yourself to believe everything happened for a reason or that you did everything perfectly. Sometimes healing starts with offering the version of yourself who lived through the trauma the same compassion you would offer someone you love.Resources Mentioned🔹 EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)🔹 Internal Family Systems (IFS)🔹 Somatic Experiencing🔹 Coherence Therapy🔹 Trauma-Informed Therapy🔹 Birth Trauma Mama Podcast Episodes on Healing & EMDRFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this moving listener story, Carmen shares her complicated journey through pregnancy loss, recurrent miscarriage, TFMR (termination for medical reasons), traumatic births, emergency deliveries, and ultimately building the family she always dreamed of. As a mother of 12 babies, five Earthside and seven who are no longer physically here, Carmen offers a powerful perspective on grief, resilience, and what it means to continue mothering children who have died.Throughout this conversation, Carmen opens up about the realities of pregnancy after loss, the emotional toll of carrying grief through multiple pregnancies, and the complicated intersection of gratitude and trauma. Her story is one of profound love, heartbreaking decisions, and the ongoing process of learning how to carry both joy and sorrow at the same time.In This Episode, We Discuss:👶 Carmen's first pregnancy and the devastating experience of a missed miscarriage💔 How pregnancy loss shattered her sense of safety and changed the way she viewed future pregnancies🩺 Navigating recurrent pregnancy loss and seeking answers through fertility care❤️ Receiving a devastating prenatal diagnosis during a long-awaited pregnancy🧬 Learning that her daughter had multiple complex medical conditions, including severe congenital heart defects and DeGeorge syndrome🤍 Making the heartbreaking decision to pursue TFMR after extensive research and consultation with specialists👼 Meeting and saying goodbye to her daughter, Ayabelle📸 Why sharing photos and stories of babies who have died can be an important part of parenting after loss🌈 The complicated emotions that accompany pregnancy after loss👶 Welcoming her first living child while carrying immense fear and unresolved grief🚑 Experiencing multiple emergency deliveries and traumatic birth experiences🩸 Surviving placental abruptions that threatened both her life and her babies' lives🏥 The reality of repeatedly entering pregnancy and birth expecting the worst-case scenario💙 Losing another son, Jude, after receiving a prenatal diagnosis incompatible with life🌧️ How grief can resurface even years after a loss🧠 Recognizing delayed trauma and grief long after surviving difficult pregnancies and births👩‍⚕️ The importance of providers asking not only how patients are doing physically, but emotionally🌟 The healing power of sharing stories and connecting with other loss parents👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Raising living children while honoring the siblings who are no longer here🎗️ Creating community through pregnancy and infant loss advocacy work✨ Learning how grief evolves rather than disappears❤️ Holding gratitude and heartbreak at the same timeKey TakeawayCarmen's story is a powerful reminder that trauma and grief are often rooted in love. Her journey demonstrates that it is possible to build a beautiful life while still carrying profound loss, and that healing doesn't mean leaving grief behind. Whether you're navigating pregnancy loss, TFMR, birth trauma, or parenting after loss, Carmen's story offers validation, hope, and the reminder that every baby matters and every story deserves to be remembered.Topics Covered🔹 Pregnancy Loss🔹 Recurrent Miscarriage🔹 Missed Miscarriage🔹 TFMR (Termination for Medical Reasons)🔹 Pregnancy After Loss🔹 Birth Trauma🔹 Placental Abruption🔹 Emergency C-Sections🔹 Infant Loss🔹 Maternal Mental Health🔹 Grief & Healing🔹 Parenting After Loss🔹 Pregnancy & Infant Loss AdvocacyMemorable Quote✨ "Trauma isn't nothing, it's love that was shocked."You can follow along with Carmen and her family's journey on Instagram: @adiarytoourbabies and check out their book HERE.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

We often use the terms birth trauma, perinatal trauma, and PTSD interchangeably, but they're not actually the same thing.In this episode closing out PTSD Awareness Month, Kayleigh breaks down the important differences between:Birth and perinatal trauma as an experiencePost-traumatic stress symptoms (PTSS) that may not meet diagnostic criteriaPost-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as a clinical diagnosisUnderstanding these distinctions matters, not because one experience is "worse" than another, but because too many parents are left believing they aren't struggling "enough" to deserve support.In this episode, you'll learn:Why birth trauma is not the same as a PTSD diagnosisThe DSM-5 criteria for PTSD and how they apply to childbirthWhy many parents experience significant trauma symptoms without meeting full diagnostic criteriaThe prevalence of birth trauma, PTSS, and PTSD after childbirthWhy current postpartum screening often misses trauma entirelyHow hypervigilance, intrusive memories, avoidance, nightmares, and nervous system changes can show up after birthWhy relational trauma and interactions with healthcare providers can profoundly shape whether a birth becomes traumaticWhy every parent experiencing trauma symptoms deserves care—regardless of diagnosisWhether you identify with birth trauma, postpartum PTSD, or simply know something changed after your birth experience, this episode is a reminder that your pain doesn't have to fit neatly into a diagnostic box to be real.Resources MentionedDiagnostic criteria for PTSD (DSM-5)Research on childbirth-related PTSD prevalenceResearch on severe maternal morbidity, provider communication, and birth traumaCDC report on mistreatment during maternity careConnect with KayleighIf this episode resonated with you, share it with another parent who may need to hear that healing isn't reserved only for those with a diagnosis.Follow along for more education and support around birth trauma, postpartum PTSD, and nervous system healing.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

Kayleigh sits down with her former therapist, Hilary Waller, to reflect on the years they spent working together after Kayleigh's amniotic fluid embolism (AFE), birth trauma, and the life-altering experiences that followed. Together, they explore the therapeutic relationship, what healing actually looks like over time, and how trauma recovery often evolves from surviving to grieving to fully living again.This conversation offers a rare behind-the-scenes look at therapy from both the client and therapist perspective. Hilary shares insights into trauma recovery, attachment, grief, identity, and the ways healing can continue long after the most acute pain has passed. It's an honest, thoughtful discussion about what it means to rebuild a life after trauma, and how relationships can become a powerful part of that process.In This Episode, We Discuss:🧠 Why Kayleigh invited her former therapist onto the podcast🤝 The unique and often misunderstood nature of the therapeutic relationship💙 How therapists carry memories of clients long after treatment ends🌪️ Processing life after an amniotic fluid embolism (AFE) and severe birth trauma🪞 Looking back on years of trauma recovery from both the therapist and client perspective😢 The difference between trauma work and grief work🌱 Moving from being defined by trauma to integrating it into your story✨ The shift from surviving an experience to building a meaningful life afterward👶 Exploring Kayleigh's fears and reflections about how trauma may have impacted her son❤️ The healing power of finding adaptive and compassionate perspectives on difficult experiences👨‍👩‍👦 The special role family members can play during and after traumatic events🔍 Why trauma survivors often search for connection with the people who cared for them during a crisis🏥 The complex emotions that can emerge when relationships with healthcare providers suddenly end💭 Attachment, loss, and making meaning after life-threatening medical experiences🌈 The process of integrating seemingly conflicting emotions like gratitude, grief, joy, and loss🫶 What makes a therapeutic relationship feel safe, healing, and transformative📈 Watching healing unfold over years rather than weeks or months🎙️ How Birth Trauma Mama grew alongside Kayleigh's own healing journey💡 What therapists wish more people understood about trauma recoveryFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this listener story, Jess shares her experience with preeclampsia that went from seemingly mild and manageable to severe in a matter of days. As a first-time mom with an otherwise uncomplicated pregnancy, she found herself blindsided by a diagnosis she knew very little about and quickly facing decisions she never imagined having to make.Jess opens up about the fear, confusion, and lack of education she encountered throughout her pregnancy, the emotional toll of a prolonged hospital stay, and the premature birth of her daughter at just 31 weeks. She also shares the guilt, grief, and healing that followed, along with the resources and support that helped her process her birth trauma and NICU journey.Jess's story is a powerful reminder that preeclampsia can happen to anyone and that education matters. Her experience highlights the importance of listening to your body, advocating for answers, and ensuring patients receive clear information about potential pregnancy complications. Most importantly, her story reminds parents that preeclampsia is not their fault, their bodies did not fail them, and healing is possible even after a traumatic pregnancy, birth, and NICU experience.In This Episode, We Discuss:👣 The first symptoms that something might be wrong, including sudden swelling and elevated blood pressure🧪 Protein in the urine, 24-hour urine collections, and the early signs of preeclampsia😔 Feeling blindsided by a diagnosis she knew very little about📈 How quickly preeclampsia can progress from mild to severe🚑 Being unexpectedly transferred by ambulance to a higher-level hospital at just 30 weeks pregnant⏳ Living in the uncertainty of daily "watch and wait" decisions👶 Learning what premature birth and NICU life might actually look like❤️ The impact of compassionate providers who took the time to explain what was happening😢 Watching other families leave the hospital with their babies while waiting for her own outcome🌟 Making the difficult decision to move forward with induction at 31 weeks👩‍🍼 Delivering her daughter vaginally after a rapid induction🤍 Feeling emotionally numb after birth and why that response is so common after trauma🏥 Beginning a lengthy NICU journey while simultaneously recovering from a complicated pregnancy💔 The guilt many parents feel when their babies arrive prematurely🧠 Healing through therapy, education, and connecting with other birth trauma survivors👥 Finding support through community and realizing she was not alone in her experience✨ How a post-trauma consultation with a maternal-fetal medicine specialist became one of the most healing parts of her journeyResources Mentioned🔹 The Preeclampsia Foundation🔹 Dear NICU Mama🔹 March of Dimes🔹 Birth Trauma Mama Support Groups🔹 Therapy & Mental Health Support🔹 Maternal-Fetal Medicine (MFM) Preconception CounselingFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

This week’s episode is a little different than our usual conversations about birth trauma, healing, and maternal mental health.Kayleigh is taking listeners behind the scenes of her family's recent trip to Disney World and Universal Orlando, a trip she never expected would become one of their favorite family experiences. As a self-proclaimed non-theme-park expert, Kayleigh shares the planning strategies, lessons learned, and practical tips that helped make the trip successful for their family.Whether you're considering a Disney or Universal vacation, feeling overwhelmed by the planning process, or simply curious about how the trip went, this episode offers an honest look at navigating theme parks with a deeply feeling kiddo while managing parental expectations, anxiety, and sensory overwhelm.Key TakeawayThis episode is a reminder that parenting after trauma can still include joy, adventure, and unexpected moments of delight. While birth trauma may always be part of our stories, it doesn't have to define every chapter. Sometimes healing looks like watching your child experience something magical, realizing how far you've come, and creating new memories together.Tips Shared in This Episode🔹 Universal Express Passes🔹 Disney Lightning Lanes🔹 Standby Skipper App🔹 Midday Pool Breaks🔹 Sit-Down Lunch Reservations🔹 Cooling Towels & Portable Fans🔹 Lollipops for Long Lines🔹 Choosing Parks Based on Your Child's Interests🔹 Keeping Expectations FlexibleFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this heartfelt episode, Kirsten shares the story of her unexpected twin pregnancy, a sudden placental abruption at just 27 weeks, and the terrifying emergency C-section that changed everything in a matter of minutes. Far from home and under general anesthesia, Kirsten woke up to a reality she never imagined: two extremely premature babies fighting for their lives in the NICU.Kirsten opens up about the grief, fear, and disconnection she experienced during those early days, as well as the challenges of navigating a lengthy NICU stay. She also shares how family support, community, faith, and time helped her process the trauma and begin healing. This episode is a powerful reminder that grief and gratitude can exist side by side, and that healing doesn't require forgetting what happened.In This Episode, We Discuss:👶 Finding out she was unexpectedly pregnant with twins shortly after getting married🩺 A healthy twin pregnancy that suddenly changed at 27 weeks due to a placental abruption🚑 Being rushed to the hospital while visiting family out of state🩸 Experiencing severe blood loss and an emergency C-section under general anesthesia💔 Waking up after birth without knowing what had happened or whether her babies were alive👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 The emotional experience of becoming parents in the midst of a medical crisis🏥 Meeting her premature twins for the first time in the NICU😭 Feeling disconnected, fearful, and overwhelmed during the early days of motherhood🤍 Why struggling to bond immediately with your baby does not mean you love them any less🫶 The challenges of navigating life with two babies born at just 27 weeks gestation👩‍⚕️ The incredible impact of compassionate NICU nurses, volunteers, and medical staff🎄 Spending the holiday season in the NICU while feeling like the outside world kept moving on🌟 The importance of family support during a prolonged hospitalization🏡 Bringing her twins home healthy just one day before their due date😔 The unexpected emotional challenges that surfaced after NICU discharge💭 Processing grief, trauma, and the reality that healing doesn't happen the moment you leave the hospital✨ Learning that grief and gratitude can coexist💪 Finding confidence in her own strength and resilience as a mother❤️ How faith, time, and community helped her move toward healingKey TakeawayKirsten's story highlights the reality that surviving a traumatic birth and NICU experience is only part of the journey. Healing often continues long after discharge, and it's okay to hold both gratitude for positive outcomes and grief for what was lost. Her story offers hope to parents navigating trauma, reminding them that they are not alone and that healing can happen one step at a time.Topics Covered🔹 Twin Pregnancy🔹 Placental Abruption🔹 Emergency C-Section🔹 Premature Birth🔹 NICU Journey🔹 Birth Trauma🔹 Maternal Mental Health🔹 Parent-Infant Bonding🔹 NICU Discharge🔹 Healing After TraumaYou can follow and connect with Kirsten on Instagram: @kirstenzhuravlevFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this powerful listener story, Kate returns to share her second birth experience after previously sharing her first story years ago. After surviving postpartum preeclampsia and medical trauma with her first child, Kate spent years healing through therapy, EMDR, community support, and advocacy work. When she became pregnant again, she hoped for a different experience, but life had other plans.At 24 weeks pregnant, Kate learned that her son had a rare congenital heart condition. What followed was months of uncertainty, specialist appointments, a surprise early delivery, NICU and cardiac ICU stays, and ultimately open-heart surgery when her son was just five weeks old. Through it all, Kate shares how community, mental health support, and unwavering advocacy helped her navigate some of the most difficult moments of her life.In This Episode, We Discuss:🩺 Kate’s experience with preeclampsia and postpartum preeclampsia after her first birth💔 Developing PTSD following a traumatic postpartum hospital readmission🧠 How EMDR therapy helped her process medical trauma and begin healing🤝 Finding support through the Preeclampsia Foundation, Mama’s Voices, and the birth trauma community👶 The emotional challenges of trying to conceive after a traumatic birth experience🔬 Receiving a prenatal diagnosis of a rare congenital heart condition during her second pregnancy🏥 Navigating fetal echocardiograms, specialist appointments, and uncertainty throughout pregnancy❤️ Understanding her son’s diagnosis of Shone’s Complex and the impact on his developing heart📋 Transferring medical care and advocating for both her baby’s needs and her own mental health🌪️ Going into labor unexpectedly just 48 hours before her scheduled C-section👩‍⚕️ Delivering a medically complex baby and coping with immediate separation after birth🏨 The realities of NICU and Cardiac ICU life as a heart parent🚗 The emotional experience of leaving the hospital without her baby💉 Watching her son undergo open-heart surgery at only five weeks old🌟 The incredible advances in pediatric cardiac care and modern medicine💙 How chosen family, therapists, healthcare providers, and community support carried her through🎙️ Becoming a patient-family partner and using her story to advocate for better care and awarenessTake a look at Kate's writing for a professional organization: Read hereBaby Boy Principe's Caring Bridge - read "in real time" how Kate processed their experience.Resources Mentioned🔹 The Preeclampsia Foundation @preeclampsia.foundation🔹 Mama’s Voices @mommasvoices🔹 Mended Little Hearts @mendedlittleheartsnational🔹 Conquering CHD @conqueringCHD🔹 CHD Doodles @chd_doodlesConnect With Birth Trauma Mama✨ Follow along for more birth stories, healing resources, and support for parents navigating birth trauma and perinatal mental health challenges.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

This week, we are rereleasing a powerful episode with our guest Jess Myhre to talk about the choice (or sometimes not) to be one and done, particularly after birth trauma. Jess has been a pioneer in the discussion and support of families with only children, regardless of the reason. She fiercely advocates and validates for these families in her beautiful space @onlyyoucommunity. On this episode, Jess shares her story of birth trauma along with hope and encouragement for those who are one and done through choice, trauma, or for any reason at all. You can learn more about the Birth Trauma & Secondary Infertility Webinar here.Guest Bio: Hi I’m Jess! I am a preeclampsia survivor, mom of an only child, and advocate for parents of one, by choice or by circumstance. I am also the creator of Only You: A One and Done Podcast, a show for parents of only children.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

This week on the Birth Trauma Mama Podcast listener series, Kayleigh is joined by Kayelynn to share her powerful story of preeclampsia, birth trauma, repeat C-sections, and the complicated journey of pregnancy after trauma. In honor of Preeclampsia Awareness Month, this episode highlights the reality of living through severe preeclampsia, navigating emergency medical decisions, and coping with the emotional aftermath that can linger long after birth.Kayelynn vulnerably shares her experiences across three pregnancies and births, from a traumatic induction and emergency C-section at 35 weeks to pursuing a VBAC after trauma to ultimately finding empowerment in choice, healing, and reclaiming trust in herself. This conversation is an honest reminder that healing is not always linear, and that “redemption” after birth trauma can look very different from what we imagine.✨ In this episode, we discuss:💜 May as Preeclampsia Awareness Month and why awareness matters🩺 The warning signs and progression of severe preeclampsia🏥 A traumatic induction, magnesium treatment, and emergency C-section at 35 weeks💔 Experiencing pain during a C-section and the lasting emotional impact👶 Parenting a newborn while simultaneously trying to process trauma🫂 Feeling misunderstood by family and support systems after a traumatic birth🌈 The hope — and pressure — that can come with trying for a “redemptive” birth⚡ Navigating a VBAC attempt after birth trauma and coping when plans change🧠 How therapy, support, and self-awareness helped Kaitlin begin healing✨ Finding empowerment and choice, even within another difficult birth experience🤍 The reality that healing after birth trauma is not always perfect or linear🌱 Learning that joy and grief can exist together after traumatic birth experiencesYou can follow along or connect with Kayelynn on Instagram: @kayelynn_schmidFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

This episode explores the profound identity shift that can happen after birth trauma, the grief of losing who you were before, the disorientation of feeling disconnected from yourself, and the complicated process of rebuilding after trauma. Kayleigh shares how trauma can reshape personality, relationships, interests, and even the way we experience parenthood itself.Through personal stories and reflections from the birth trauma community, this conversation offers validation, hope, and reassurance that healing does not mean becoming who you were before, it means learning to reconnect with yourself in a new way. If you’ve ever felt like birth trauma changed you forever, this episode reminds you that while trauma leaves its mark, healing can bring pieces of yourself back to life again.In this episode, we discuss:🫶 The grief and identity loss that can follow birth trauma🧠 How trauma changes personality, emotions, and daily life👶 Why parenthood after trauma can feel isolating and confusing💔 The loss of innocence around pregnancy, birth, and postpartum🎭 Feeling disconnected from other parents and motherhood spaces📺 Unexpected changes in hobbies, media tolerance, and interests after trauma🌱 How healing allows parts of yourself to slowly return🤍 Making peace with the version of yourself that existed before trauma🌟 Finding hope, connection, and joy again after birth trauma🫂 A reminder that healing is possible — even when it feels far awayFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this deeply emotional and powerful listener episode, Kayleigh is joined by sisters identical twin sisters Alison and Holly, whose journeys through pregnancy, birth trauma, medical trauma, and survival became heartbreakingly intertwined. Both clinical psychologists, both high-achieving perfectionists, and both navigating pregnancy at the same time, neither could have imagined the life-altering experiences ahead of them.From severe pregnancy complications and traumatic medical experiences to a devastating accident involving Holly while pregnant with twins, this conversation explores the profound impact trauma can have not only on individuals—but on families navigating it together.Through vulnerability, honesty, and immense strength, Alison and Holly share what it meant to survive the unimaginable while also supporting one another as sisters, twins, clinicians, and mothers.This episode is raw, validating, heartbreaking, and ultimately full of hope and resilience. 💛✨ In this episode, we cover:🧬 Alison’s journey through pregnancy after stage four endometriosis, prior loss, and previous medical trauma🌨️ Going into early labor at 28 weeks during a Seattle snowstorm and experiencing a life-threatening allergic reaction🚑 What it felt like to be coded during pregnancy—and the unexpected sense of safety Alison experienced in that moment👯 Holly finding out she was unexpectedly pregnant with twins while watching her sister navigate a high-risk pregnancy📚 The pressure of trying to have the “perfect” healthy pregnancy and how trauma disrupted those expectations🏥 Alison’s traumatic birth experience, severe hemorrhage, postpartum complications, and prolonged hospitalization💔 The emotional toll of postpartum PTSD, dissociation, flashbacks, and medical gaslighting🫶 The profound impact one compassionate provider had during Alison’s darkest moments🚗 Holly’s terrifying hit-and-run accident at nearly 30 weeks pregnant with twins🌤️ The surreal details trauma imprints on memory—and the moments both sisters still vividly remember🧠 How their experiences transformed the way they understand trauma both personally and professionally as psychologists🌱 The complicated process of healing while navigating motherhood, survival, and family trauma together💞 The unique bond of sisters walking through trauma side by side and what it meant to not feel alone💛 This episode is for you if:🌼 You’ve experienced birth trauma, medical trauma, or a traumatic pregnancy🌀 You’ve struggled with postpartum PTSD, anxiety, dissociation, or flashbacks🤍 You’re processing grief around how your pregnancy or birth experience unfolded🪞 You’ve felt pressure to “do everything right” during pregnancy and still experienced trauma👭 You understand the healing power of having someone who truly sees and validates your experience✨ You want to feel less alone in the complexities of trauma and recoveryYou can follow along with the Alison and Holly on their socials: @Alison.phd & @holly.phdAlison's website: alisonphd.comHolly's website: hollyphd.comTake a listen to Alison & Holly's podcast: Twin Minds Unwind Podcast This conversation is a reminder that trauma can change us deeply—but so can compassion, connection, and being witnessed in our pain. Alison and Holly’s story is one of survival, sisterhood, and finding ways to keep moving forward even after life changes in an instant. 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On this week's episode, we are doing a special rerelease! We are talking all things medical records and debriefs.On this episode you will hear:- understanding medical records- process of requesting medical records- the importance of debriefs- empowering patients through effective communicationFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Jessica shares the unimaginable journey of becoming a first-time mom to twin boys while surviving a rare and life-threatening postpartum medical complication after a wet tap during her epidural. From seizures and brain bleeds to time in the neuro ICU and separation from her newborns, Jessica vulnerably opens up about trauma, healing, advocacy, and ultimately finding hope through a healing birth experience with her third baby.💛 The emotional rollercoaster of conceiving twins after fertility struggles and navigating a high-risk pregnancy🤰 Severe pregnancy sickness, extra monitoring, and transferring care to a larger hospital for delivery🏥 The frustration and stress of a delayed induction two hours away from home💉 A traumatic epidural experience involving a “wet tap” and complications that quickly escalated after delivery⚠️ The terrifying onset of neurological symptoms, grand mal seizures, and discovering multiple subdural hematomas after birth🧠 How spinal fluid loss after the epidural led to brain sagging, bleeding, ICU admission, and a long neurological recovery👶 The heartbreak of being separated from her newborn twin boys during her postpartum hospitalization😭 Navigating postpartum trauma while coping with seizures, medication side effects, fear, anger, and loss of independence🚗 Losing her driver’s license for six months after seizures and the emotional toll of repeated hospital admissions📚 The complicated emotions that surfaced when the hospital requested to publish her rare medical case🫶 The life-changing support of birth trauma therapy, mental health medication, and an incredibly supportive family🌤️ How time, therapy, community, and answers slowly helped her begin to feel like herself again🎙️ The impact the Birth Trauma Mama community and Safe Partum anesthesia episode had on her healing journey✨ Choosing to pursue another pregnancy after trauma and preparing differently for a subsequent birth🏥 Experiencing a deeply healing repeat C-section at a new hospital with a compassionate care team💚 Jessica’s message of hope for other birth trauma survivors considering future pregnancies and births🤍 A reminder that healing is possible, support matters, and you are never alone in your birth trauma journeyFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this insightful episode, Kayleigh sits down with therapist and perinatal mental health expert Hilary Waller to explore the nuanced overlap between perinatal OCD, trauma, and EMDR. Hilary shares her journey into this work, her passion for supporting parents through medical trauma and loss, and how EMDR can help address the nervous system responses underneath intrusive thoughts and anxiety.💛 Why intrusive thoughts in the perinatal period are far more common than most parents realize🧠 The difference between generalized postpartum anxiety and the more “hyper-focused” presentation of perinatal OCD⚠️ How birth trauma, NICU experiences, medical complications, and loss can create the perfect storm for OCD symptoms to emerge🔄 The connection between trauma, uncertainty, and compulsive behaviors🩺 Why health anxiety after perinatal trauma often has a strong OCD component🌊 How EMDR helps target the nervous system response beneath intrusive thoughts and compulsions📚 Why psychoeducation can be one of the most healing parts of therapy👶 The importance of distinguishing between “normal new parent worries” and symptoms of trauma or OCD✨ The power of reducing shame and helping parents understand: “These are symptoms, not who you are.”🤍 Why finding a therapist trained in perinatal mental health can make such a profound difference in recoveryWhether you’re a parent navigating intrusive thoughts, a clinician supporting trauma survivors, or someone wanting to better understand the overlap between OCD and birth trauma, this episode offers compassionate, validating, and deeply practical insight.Resources Mentioned:🎧 Birth Trauma Mama Episodes:• Episode 32 — OCD in the Perinatal Period• Episode 119 — OCD and Intrusive Thoughts• Episode 15 with Dr. Priya Alpern — EMDR Basics📖 Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts📖 Perinatal EMDR chapter featuring Hilary Waller and Dr. Amber Penn💻 Learn more about Postpartum Support International: Postpartum Support InternationalGuest Bio:Hilary is a psychotherapist specializing in reproductive and parental mental health and treatment of related disorders. After earning dual Bachelor’s degrees at Columbia University and The Jewish Theological Seminary, Hilary worked with adolescents in both formal and informal educational settings. This experience piqued her interest in parent-child relationships and led her to pursue a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with a specialty in marriage and family therapy. For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh sits down with Katherine to hold space for the layers of trauma that can exist alongside stillbirth and loss. Katherine shares the story of her son Brody, the life-threatening complications she experienced after his birth, and the continued trauma that unfolded in her pregnancy and delivery with her living child.Through her unfiltered honesty, Katherine sheds light on the often-overlooked realities of birth trauma within the loss community, and reminds us that grief and trauma can coexist in complex, valid ways.💔 The devastating experience of stillbirth and the shock of losing a baby after a low-risk pregnancy🏥 A near-death postpartum emergency, including DIC, massive blood loss, and emergency surgery🧠 Why stillbirth is not only grief, but also a deeply traumatic physical and psychological experience⚖️ The tension between focusing on the baby’s loss while minimizing the mother’s trauma💭 Survivor’s guilt, mortality awareness, and the emotional complexity of “staying” after almost dying🌊 Pregnancy after loss and the intense fear, hypervigilance, and retraumatization that can come with it🚨 A second traumatic birth experience, including an emergency C-section and NICU stay😔 The pressure to feel “grateful” for a living baby while silently carrying unresolved trauma🧩 How trauma can resurface years later, physically, mentally, and emotionally💊 Seeking support through therapy, medication, and alternative treatments like ketamine therapy🧘‍♀️ Learning to listen to your body, honor your limits, and move away from “pushing through”🗣️ The importance of acknowledging your trauma, even when others center the baby’s story🤍 Giving yourself permission to not be okay, to need help, and to heal in your own way and timeline📚 Resources Katherine shares:• Her website: KatherineLazar.com• Podcast: At a Total Loss• Private community: LossLink• Book: Stillbirth Survival Guide (releasing May 7)This episode is a reminder that you can hold grief, trauma, love, and survival all at once—and that your experience matters. You are not alone.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this mini episode, Kayleigh opens up about the often unexpected and deeply layered experience of Mother’s Day after birth trauma. She offers validation, normalization, and gentle guidance for navigating a day that can feel both meaningful and incredibly heavy.💐 The many layers of Mother’s Day grief, including loss, infertility, complicated relationships, and birth trauma🤍 Why Mother’s Day can feel surprisingly triggering, even when your child is here and you “expected” to feel only joy🌊 How birth trauma reshapes your entrance into motherhood, and why that can surface so strongly on Mother’s Day📱 The emotional impact of social media, highlight reels, and constant reminders of “what it should have looked like”💭 Holding conflicting emotions at once: wanting to celebrate while also feeling sadness, grief, or heaviness🗣️ The importance of communicating your needs with partners and loved ones, whatever they may be🧠 Creating space for your feelings and honoring your experience without judgment🌱 Finding moments of healing and connection alongside grief as your motherhood journey evolves💛 Honoring your path into motherhood and everything you’ve endured to be here todayThis episode is a gentle reminder that there is no “right” way to feel on Mother’s Day after birth trauma. Whether you celebrate, grieve, avoid, or simply get through the day, you are allowed to do what feels best for you.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Megan shares her journey through recurrent pregnancy loss, chronic illness, medical trauma, and a life-threatening birth experience that led to her son’s premature arrival. Her story sheds light on the complexities of pregnancy after loss, the realities of navigating the healthcare system with chronic conditions, and the lasting impact of birth trauma and a NICU stay.💔 Recurrent pregnancy loss and the emotional toll of experiencing multiple miscarriages while searching for answers🧬 Navigating fertility challenges, including diagnoses of lupus, Factor V Leiden, and stage 4 endometriosis after years of dismissed symptoms🏥 The frustration and harm of not being taken seriously in the medical system—and the impact of delayed diagnoses🌈 Turning to IVF after loss and holding onto hope while navigating pregnancy after trauma🤍 The reality of pregnancy after loss—living in survival mode, dissociation, and the fear of not bringing a baby home🦠 A sudden and severe decline at 30 weeks pregnant, leading to a diagnosis of sepsis and ICU admission😨 The terror of not being able to breathe, rapid health deterioration, and facing the possibility of intubation while pregnant👩‍⚕️ The life-saving importance of provider advocacy and finally being heard during a critical medical emergency👶 Premature rupture of membranes and delivering a baby at 30 weeks after days of labor and medical complications⚠️ A traumatic labor and delivery experience, including unmanaged pain, a failed epidural, and lack of compassionate care🍼 A two-month NICU stay and the heartbreak of going home without your baby while navigating postpartum recovery🧠 The lasting impact of birth trauma—how it shapes identity, parenting, anxiety, and the postpartum experience🤝 Finding healing through community, shared stories, and validation after trauma💬 The power of vulnerability and why sharing our stories matters in breaking isolation and creating connectionMegan’s story is a testament to resilience, advocacy, and the importance of being seen, heard, and supported. If her story resonates with you, know that you are not alone and that your experiences and feelings are valid. 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this informative episode, Kayleigh sits down with OB-GYN and author Dr. Jennifer Lincoln to break down what pregnant people actually need to know about birth. From navigating medical decisions to unpacking misinformation online, this conversation is packed with insight, nuance, and practical tools to help you feel more confident and informed heading into your birth experience.💛 Why feeling informed—not overwhelmed—is key to reducing trauma in birth experiences📖 The inspiration behind Dr. Lincoln’s birth book and why it focuses solely on the delivery process❓ How structuring information as real-life questions makes learning about birth more accessible and less intimidating🧠 The importance of respecting patient intelligence with detailed, evidence-based information 🗣️ Why many people don’t realize they can advocate for themselves—and how to start doing it📋 The power of checklists and knowing your options, even if you don’t have access to every resource🏥 What to ask your care team about emergencies, protocols, and available support⚖️ A nuanced conversation about birth choices—including hospital vs. home birth🏡 How Dr. Lincoln’s perspective on home birth evolved through experience and data🌍 What other countries do differently when it comes to integrated maternity care🔥 The real issue behind polarization in the birth world—and why it helps no one💥 Breaking down common birth complications without fear-mongering🩸 How the book approaches topics like hemorrhage, C-sections, and interventions😰 What to do when anxiety spikes after seeing scary birth content online🛠️ Why asking “what’s your protocol?” can be more reassuring than hearing “that won’t happen”📱 The impact of social media on pregnancy and birth expectations🚫 The danger of absolute statements like “interventions are always bad”💬 The most misunderstood part of labor and delivery: you have the right to ask questions🚩 Why feeling dismissed is a red flag—and how to advocate for better care🍽️ Surprising evidence around eating during labor and other outdated practices👀 “Insider tips” from Dr. Lincoln on navigating the hospital experience🛑 You deserve respect, informed consent, and compassionate care—every timeThis episode is a must-listen for anyone preparing for birth after trauma, entering their first pregnancy, or simply wanting to better understand their options in a system that doesn’t always make it easy.You can find a copy of her book "The Birth Book" and other resources by visiting her website HERE!Guest Bio:Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is an OBGYN, author, and social media educator. She is the Executive Director of Mayday Health, a health education non-profit that spreads awareness of abortion pills in all 50 states. She is also the co-founder of Obstetricians for Reproductive Justice and the founder of Three for Freedom, a website that serves as a hub to help people take control of their reproductive futures in all 50 states.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this powerful Listener Series episode, Kayleigh sits down with Leah to share her story of giving birth during the early days of the COVID-19 pandemic, navigating a traumatic delivery, and enduring years of unexplained postpartum pain before finally being diagnosed with severe endometriosis. Leah opens up about medical dismissal, complex trauma, subsequent pregnancies, and the ongoing journey of healing, both physically and emotionally. This episode is a raw and honest look at what happens when trauma isn’t just one moment, but a series of experiences over time.In this episode, we talk about:🦠 Being pregnant and giving birth during the early days of the pandemic🏥 Infection, induction, and an emergency C-section after a long labor😔 Feeling dismissed, like a burden, and afraid to speak up to providers🩸 Ongoing, severe postpartum pain that was repeatedly minimized🧑‍⚕️ Seeing multiple doctors and being told everything was “normal”🧠 Questioning your reality and wondering if it’s “all in your head”🔍 Finally being diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis and interstitial cystitis💥 The emotional impact of delayed diagnosis and medical gaslighting😞 Postpartum PTSD and how trauma symptoms showed up over time🤰 An unexpected second pregnancy and navigating intense triggers✨ A redemptive birth experience and what felt different the second time🩸 A third birth complicated by hemorrhage and retraumatization🌊 Complex trauma vs. a single traumatic event💔 The impact of trauma on friendships, identity, and support systems🫶 Finding healing through EMDR, therapy, writing, and supportive relationshipsWhy this episode matters:✨ Trauma can be layered, ongoing, and complex✨ Being dismissed in medical spaces can deepen trauma✨ You are not “crazy” for knowing something is wrong in your body✨ Healing isn’t linear—and it can coexist with ongoing challengesIf you’ve ever felt unheard, dismissed, or alone in your postpartum or chronic illness journey, this episode is for you. Your experience is real and you deserve answers, support, and care. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh breaks down a widely discussed episode of The Pit—exploring both the medical accuracy and the emotional impact it’s had on the birth trauma community. Through a nuanced and honest lens, she unpacks what the show got right, what it missed, and why these portrayals matter so deeply.🎬 The viral episode that sparked major conversation across both medical and patient communities💔 Kayleigh’s personal connection and why this storyline felt especially close to home🗣️ The wide range of reactions—from praise to strong criticism—and why both can be valid🏥 Whether this patient would realistically be treated in the ER vs. going straight to OB/L&D👩‍⚕️ The absence of OB, MFM, and NICU teams—and why that raised concerns about accuracy⏱️ A breakdown of maternal cardiac arrest and the urgency behind real-life response protocols🩺 Understanding a resuscitative hysterotomy and why it’s performed to save the mother’s life👏 Key educational moments the show got right, including left uterine displacement and the 4–5 minute rule✂️ The decision to use a vertical (midline) incision and how that compares to real-world practice⚠️ HELLP syndrome representation and the frustration from survivors around how it was portrayed🧠 The role of misinformation and how fear of medical care can impact patient outcomes⚖️ The tension between medical providers and patients who feel distrust toward the healthcare system🤝 The importance of trauma-informed care—and how even 20 seconds of empathy can change everything💬 Why compassion and curiosity should come before correction, even in high-stress medical situations📺 The value of showing birth trauma in media, with nods to Grey's Anatomy and Fleishman Is in Trouble for their emotional storytelling🌱 A reminder that these conversations are complex, layered, and necessary for improving care✨ Not a perfect portrayal but an important one that opens the door for awareness and dialogueIf this episode resonated with you, your thoughts and experiences are valid and you’re not alone in how you felt watching 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this deeply emotional listener episode, Michelle bravely shares her story of pregnancy complications, medical trauma, and the heartbreaking loss of her son, Cody. Through her vulnerability, she offers connection, validation, and hope to anyone navigating grief after loss.💛 The loneliness of trauma and the power of having a space to share your story🤰 Repeatedly dismissed concerns, ongoing bleeding, and the emotional toll of not being heard during pregnancy🏥 Navigating a complex military healthcare system and the impact of delayed care and lack of intervention💔 Water breaking early, hospitalization, and the devastating realization that something was seriously wrong👶 Michelle shares the story behind naming her son and the profound love she felt during his short but meaningful life🕊️ The heartbreak of delivering Cody at 24 weeks and spending just a few precious hours with him😭 Processing the pain of losing a baby and questioning whether her grief is “enough” after such a short time🏠 The surreal and painful reality of leaving the hospital and navigating immediate grief🧠 The layers of loss, difficult interactions, and moments that leave lasting emotional imprints🤝 The impact of meaningful support vs. harmful platitudes like “at least you have other children”💬 How allowing emotions—rather than suppressing them—became a key part of Michelle’s healing❤️ Navigating loss within a marriage, including unspoken guilt and the importance of communication👦 The often-overlooked impact of grief on children and the importance of checking in with them🎂 Annual traditions like birthday cakes and family photos that keep Cody’s memory alive🌱 Growth, ongoing grief, and the complexity of moving forward✨ A powerful reminder that grief is messy, emotions are valid, and perfection is not the goalIf this episode resonated with you, know that your story and your grief matter too 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this validating episode, Kayleigh is joined by Dr. James Jackson, an internationally recognized psychologist, neuropsychology specialist, and pioneer in post-intensive care syndrome (PICS). Together, they explore the often-overlooked reality of medical trauma and what true healing can look like after surviving critical illness.📖 His book Reclaiming Your Life from Medical Trauma offers a compassionate, practical guide to recognizing symptoms, finding effective treatment, and healing both brain and body. Visit his website HERE for more information and resources.🧠 Why trauma after ICU stays, birth complications, or serious illness is incredibly common—and often unrecognized💥 How survivors often draw a stark line between life before trauma and life after—and how healing reshapes that narrative🧩 The impact on mental health, relationships, parenting, and family dynamics😔 Why grieving your old life and identity is essential—and why it can’t be rushed or skipped⏳ Letting go of the idea that more therapy or support can “speed up” recovery🤝 The transformative power of support groups and being seen by others who truly understand🌀 How vivid, distressing memories formed during critical illness can fuel long-term trauma symptoms😶‍🌫️ The cultural silence around medical trauma—and the harmful belief that we should “just be grateful” to be alive🙏 Making space for difficult emotions without shame or guilt🧘 Learning to live a meaningful life even if some symptoms don’t fully go away💬 Holding both joy and pain, trauma and growth, at the same timeDr. James “Jim” Jackson is an internationally renowned expert on long Covid and its effects on cognitive and mental health functioning. A licensed psychologist specializing in neuropsychology and cognitive rehabilitation, he completed his psychology residency at the Veteran’s Affairs/Vanderbilt University School of Medicine Consortium while also receiving post-doctoral training in cognitive rehabilitation at the Oliver Zangwill Center in Ely, England. A pioneer in the investigation and treatment of Post–Intensive Care Syndrome (PICS),—a condition that impacts up to a third of survivors of critical illness—he is a research professor of Medicine and Psychiatry at Vanderbilt, where he is also the co-founder and director of Behavioral Health at the award-winning ICU Recovery Center, one of the first comprehensive clinical resources devoted to diagnosing and treating survivors of both mild and critical illness, including those who survived Covid-19.There, Dr. Jackson consults with patients and their families from around the world. Additionally, he serves as the director of Long-Term Outcomes at the Critical Illness, Brain Dysfunction, and Survivorship (CIBS) Center, a consortium focused on advancing knowledge, education, and models of care for people affected by acute and longterm brain dysfunction following wide ranging illnesses (from mild to severe). He and his team created the first psychologist-led long Covid support groups in the United States early in the pandemic and continue to offer multiple groups every week.  For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh sits down with two best friends, Sam and Paige, whose lives became forever intertwined through shared birth trauma. What began as a friendship rooted in everyday life quickly transformed into something much deeper when both women experienced rare, life-threatening birth complications just months apart.Together, they open up about the shock, grief, and confusion of their experiences, the parts they remember (and the parts they don’t), and the complex emotions that followed. Most importantly, they share what it means to have each other a person who truly gets it, in a space that can feel incredibly isolating.This episode is a testament to the power of connection, validation, and being seen in your hardest moments. 💛✨ In this episode, we cover:🌿 The story of how Sam and Paige became friends and discovered they were pregnant at the same time🧠 Paige’s sudden, life-threatening birth experience and the trauma of not remembering meeting her daughter🚨 Sam’s unexpected emergency C-section and complications just months later🩸 How rare and severe complications (like DIC) impacted both of their journeys🌊 The emotional aftermath of birth trauma, including grief, jealousy, and confusion🧩 What it feels like to not remember key moments and why that loss matters🫶 The isolation of birth trauma and the healing power of having someone who truly understands🗣️ Navigating support from others who may not fully “get it”🛋️ The role of therapy and processing trauma with professional support🌅 Finding meaning and connection through shared experience, including the beautiful tradition of “Live Day”💛 This episode is for you if:🌼 You’ve experienced birth trauma and felt alone in your story🌀 You’re navigating complex emotions like grief, jealousy, or guilt postpartum🔍 You wish others understood your experience more deeply🤝 You’re a support person wanting to better understand what birth trauma can feel like💫 You believe in the power of connection and shared healingThis conversation is raw, validating, and full of heart. You are not alone—and stories like these remind us just how powerful it is to be seen, heard, and understood. 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this mini episode, Kayleigh is speaking directly to providers, nurses, and healthcare workers about the real-life application of trauma-informed care. Moving beyond the buzzword, she breaks down how trauma shows up in healthcare settings, and more importantly, how communication can either help prevent or contribute to it.This episode is packed with practical, easy-to-implement scripts and mindset shifts you can use immediately in patient interactions. From validating fears to navigating emergencies and repairing missteps, Kayleigh highlights how even the smallest moments of connection can have a lasting impact on patient outcomes.Whether you’re a provider looking to deepen your approach or a patient wanting insight into what trauma-informed care should look like, this episode offers powerful, tangible takeaways.✨ A mini episode for providers, nurses, and healthcare workers on trauma-informed communication🧠 Why trauma-informed care is more than a buzzword—it’s a necessity for every patient💬 Real, practical scripts: what to say (and what to avoid) in common patient scenarios❤️ The power of validation—100% of community feedback emphasized feeling seen and acknowledged🔍 Why trauma is subjective and not defined by the “severity” of the medical event🏥 How small shifts (eye contact, body language, reading charts) can transform patient experiences⚠️ The harm of “empty reassurance” and what to say instead when patients express fear🙌 Asking for consent: giving patients autonomy in even the smallest moments🚨 Communication during emergencies—how seconds of connection can reduce trauma😔 Supporting patients through unexpected outcomes (like unplanned C-sections) with empathy🔄 Repairing missteps: how owning mistakes can completely change a patient’s experience📊 The long-term impact of validation vs. invalidation on postpartum healing and support-seeking🌱 A reminder: your words matter—sometimes one moment stays with patients foreverFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In Part 2 of Olivia’s story, we move beyond the resuscitation and into what so many survivors say is the hardest part, the aftermath. From ICU recovery to postpartum trauma, returning to work, and making the deeply personal decision to grow her family again, Olivia shares a raw and powerful look at life after surviving an amniotic fluid embolism.This episode is a testament to grit, grief, and redefining what healing actually looks like.✨ In this episode, we cover:🩺 Life after survival, ICU recovery, dialysis, and the long road home💔 The hidden trauma of the postpartum period after a near-death experience🚫 Loss of autonomy, HIPAA violations, and navigating care as both patient + provider🧠 PTSD triggers, panic attacks, and the reality of returning to work in healthcare🤍 The role of support systems and showing up when it matters most👶 Becoming a mother while still healing physically and emotionally🤰 Choosing a subsequent pregnancy after AFE and facing judgment for it🏥 A high-risk pregnancy with intense monitoring and a carefully crafted birth plan⚠️ When the plan falls apart: an unexpected early delivery🎀 Welcoming Rosie, and why a “healing birth” didn’t erase the trauma📚 Starting a DNP program postpartum and turning pain into purpose📊 Using lived experience to drive change in maternal healthcare💡 Olivia also shares her powerful DNP project focused on improving emergency department response to maternal emergencies, bridging critical gaps in care and advocating for systemic change.💭 Key Takeaway:Healing after birth trauma isn’t linear, and it isn’t about “fixing” what happened. It’s about learning to carry both grief and hope, while continuing to write your story forward.⚠️ Content Note:This episode includes discussion of medical trauma, ICU stays, and life-threatening birth complications. Please listen with care.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

April is Cesarean Awareness Month, and we’re re-releasing this incredibly important conversation to spotlight the complexities, emotions, and real stories behind C-sections.On this solo episode, Kayleigh is discussing all things c-section. She shares a few different studies highlighting the data on c-sections and PTSD, as well as how they compare to other modes of delivery. Kayleigh also touches on TOLACs and planned cesarean sections after birth trauma. In this episode:- Types of C-Sections- C-Section and birth trauma- Communication and Support as mitigating factors- Delivery decisions after birth trauma (TOLAC v. planned c-section)- C-Sections under general anesthesiaStudies Discussed:Garthus-Niegel S, von Soest T, Knoph C, Simonsen TB, Torgersen L, Eberhard-Gran M. The influence of women's preferences and actual mode of delivery on post-traumatic stress symptoms following childbirth: a population-based, longitudinal study. BMC Pregnancy Childbirth. 2014 Jun 5;14:191. doi: 10.1186/1471-2393-14-191. PMID: 24898436; PMCID: PMC4053555.Orovou E, Iliadou M, Chatzopoulou MT, Dagla M, Eskitzis P, Rigas N, Antoniou E. The Relation between Birth with Cesarean Section and Posttraumatic Stress in Postpartum Women. Maedica (Bucur). 2023 Dec;18(4):615-622. doi: 10.26574/maedica.2023.18.4.615. PMID: 38348064; PMCID: PMC10859197.Rowlands IJ, Redshaw M. Mode of birth and women's psychological and physical wellbeing in the postnatal period. BMC Pregnancy Childbirth. 2012 Nov 28;12:138. doi: 10.1186/1471-2393-12-138. PMID: 23190575; PMCID: PMC3533875.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.Why This Episode Matters: C-sections are the most common major surgery performed on women, yet they’re often misunderstood and under-supported. Whether you're a birthing parent, a partner, a provider, or a friend—this episode offers insight and empathy that can shift how we talk about and hold space for C-section experiences.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On today’s episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh is joined by Olivia, a nurse, Navy veteran, and fellow AFE survivor, who shares her powerful and truly unique birth story.Olivia walks us through her experience of an amniotic fluid embolism (AFE) during the birth of her son, Theo, including the unimaginable reality of being awake and aware during much of her own resuscitation. Her story is both medically complex and deeply human, highlighting the layers of trauma that can exist even when lives are ultimately saved.This is Part 1 of Olivia’s story. 🤍In this episode, we discuss:✨ Olivia’s background as an ER nurse and Navy veteran🌍 Deploying during COVID and the impact of repeated medical trauma exposure🤰 A challenging pregnancy while working night shift and relocating alone⚠️ Early warning signs like vision changes and rising blood pressure🏥 Electing for induction at 39 weeks and questioning that decision afterward🫁 The sudden onset of shortness of breath — a key symptom of AFE🚨 Rapid deterioration and emergency C-section under intense circumstances😳 Being awake and aware during her own medical emergency🩸 Developing DIC (disseminated intravascular coagulation)🏥 Massive transfusion protocol and ongoing resuscitation efforts⏳ A prolonged, 23-hour decline leading to ECMO🫀 Understanding how AFE can present without full cardiac arrest🫁 Being placed on VV ECMO for lung support😨 Experiencing awareness while paralyzed in the ICU👂 Hearing conversations, procedures, and care while unable to move💬 The importance of how providers speak around patients — even when they appear sedatedOlivia’s story is a profound reminder that trauma is not just about survival — but about what is experienced during those life-threatening moments.Her perspective as both a patient and a medical provider offers an incredibly rare and important lens into birth trauma, critical care, and the lasting impact of these experiences.Be sure to tune in next week for Part 2, where Olivia shares her recovery, mental health journey, and what it was like to go on to have another baby after AFE — something rarely discussed. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

March 27th marks Amniotic Fluid Embolism (AFE) Awareness Day, a time to honor the lives affected by this rare but life-threatening complication. In this special episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, we take a deep dive into what AFE is, how it happens, and what can be done to improve survival rates.In this episode, we discuss:🩸 What is AFE? Understanding this sudden and unpredictable complication⚕️ Symptoms & Diagnosis: How AFE presents and why it’s difficult to diagnose🚨 Emergency Response & Treatment: The critical importance of rapid medical intervention📉 Risk Factors & Research Gaps: What we know (and don’t know) about AFE prevention💜 Support for Survivors & Families: Resources for those impactedAFE is rare—affecting about 1 in 40,000 births—but its impact is devastating. The best way to save lives is through awareness, preparedness, and research funding.Resources Mentioned:🌐 AFE Foundation & Support Resources📚 Free CEU Course for Healthcare Providers on AFE Management📑 Simulation Toolkit & Emergency Guides for Medical Teams📞 24/7 AFE Hotline for Medical Teams Managing Suspected CasesAFE survivors, grieving families, and medical professionals—this episode is for you. Let’s continue to raise awareness and push for better understanding, treatment, and support.🎧 Listen now on your favorite podcast platform!For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On today’s episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh speaks with author and advocate Samina Ali, who shares her devastating and powerful birth story. What began as a healthy first pregnancy quickly turned into a life-threatening medical emergency when her symptoms of preeclampsia were repeatedly dismissed by providers.Samina vulnerably shares how undiagnosed preeclampsia progressed into HELLP syndrome, seizures, stroke, and multi-organ failure, and the long road of recovery that followed. Her story highlights the dangerous consequences of not being believed in medical spaces and the systemic issues that continue to impact maternal health outcomes.In this episode, we discuss:✨ A first pregnancy at 29 with symptoms that didn’t feel right⚠️ Warning signs of preeclampsia that were repeatedly dismissed by providers👁️ Experiencing visual disturbances, headaches, swelling, and severe symptoms late in pregnancy🩺 Carrying a pregnancy to term while unknowingly experiencing multiple small strokes💔 Feeling unheard and dismissed by the medical team during labor🚨 Developing HELLP syndrome 🧠 Experiencing a grand mal seizure immediately after delivery🩸 Suffering a massive brain hemorrhage and stroke🏥 Being rushed to the neuro ICU in a coma after multi-organ failure💔 Her newborn son requiring NICU care after the traumatic birth⚖️ The role of systemic bias, racism, and dismissal in maternal healthcare🌱 Surviving the unimaginable and eventually sharing her story through writing and advocacySamina’s story is a powerful reminder that listening to women and especially women of color in medical spaces is life-saving care.Her experience sheds light on the realities of maternal morbidity in the United States and the urgent need for systemic change in how pregnant patients are heard, believed, and treated.We are incredibly grateful to Samina for sharing her story and continuing to advocate for safer maternal healthcare. 🤍You can find Samina's books through her website HERE.Guest Bio:Samina Ali is an award-winning author, curator, and popular speaker. Her debut novel, MADRAS ON RAINY DAYS, won France’s prestigious Prix Premier Roman Etranger and was a finalist for the PEN/Hemingway Award in fiction. Her latest memoir, PIECES YOU'LL NEVER GET BACK, is a harrowing and redemptive memoir, in which a new mother must reconstruct her shattered mind, her relationship to her religious upbringing, and her life’s purpose. Named a "Most Anticipated Book of 2025" by multiple outlets, including the San Francisco Chronicle, Pieces You’ll Never Get Back was an April pick by the celebrity book club, Belletrist, and has been optioned for the screen.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On today’s episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh answers one of the most common questions she hears from both clients and her online community: “Was my birth actually traumatic?”In this mini episode, she breaks down the truth about trauma, reminding listeners that trauma is not defined by how something “looked” on paper, but by how it was experienced in the body and nervous system. This conversation invites you to release comparison, validate your own experience, and understand that you are worthy of support.In this episode, we discuss:✨ The question so many parents ask: “Was it bad enough to be trauma?”🧠 Why trauma is subjective and based on your nervous system response⚡ How trauma is a survival response not a choice🤍 Letting go of the idea that trauma needs to meet a certain “threshold.”🔍 Getting curious about why you’re asking if your birth was traumatic💬 The desire for validation and feeling “worthy” of support⚖️ The harmful impact of comparing your experience to others🌱 Why you don’t need a label to seek help or healing🫶 Giving yourself permission to acknowledge your experience as it was💡 Understanding that if it felt traumatic, it was traumaticKayleigh gently challenges the belief that we need to justify our pain in order to receive care and reminds listeners that healing starts with validating your own experience, not minimizing it.If you’ve ever questioned whether your birth “counts” as trauma or felt unsure if you deserve support, this episode is for you. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On today’s episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh welcomes Anya to share the story of her first birth — a pregnancy that was completely uncomplicated until a cascade of unexpected events in labor led to a traumatic emergency C-section experience.Anya opens up about feeling pressured into surgery, a frightening complication with anesthesia in the operating room, and the terror of feeling unable to breathe while fully conscious. Her story highlights how quickly birth can shift and how important communication, consent, and emotional support are during labor and delivery. In this episode, we discuss:✨ An uncomplicated pregnancy that suddenly shifted during labor💧 An accidental rupture of membranes during a membrane sweep🏥 Induction with a Cook catheter and Pitocin💉 Receiving a very heavy epidural and not realizing something was unusual⚠️ A new on-call OB pushing for a C-section despite earlier progress😔 Feeling confused, pressured, and unheard during labor decisions🚨 Being rushed toward surgery without clear explanations🩺 A frightening complication when anesthesia didn’t work as expected😨 Experiencing panic and terror after suddenly losing the ability to breathe in the OR🫁 The moment monitors alarmed and the team realized something was wrong🤍 The emotional impact of feeling powerless and alone during a medical crisisAnya shares vulnerably about the fear, confusion, and loss of control she experienced in those moments — and how deeply those experiences can shape the way we process birth afterward.Her story is a powerful reminder that trauma in birth isn’t only about what happens medically, but how supported, informed, and safe a birthing person feels throughout the process.We are so grateful to Anya for sharing her story and helping others feel less alone in their experiences. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On today’s episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh shifts perspectives and shares her own therapy journey, not as a clinician, but as a client. After surviving a life-threatening birth experience and amniotic fluid embolism, Kayleigh opens up about the role therapy, medication, EMDR, and parts work have played in her healing.This vulnerable episode explores what trauma healing can actually look like years after the initial event and how deeper layers of trauma can surface in surprising ways. In this episode, we discuss:✨ Kayleigh’s personal therapy journey after surviving an amniotic fluid embolism🧠 Why she sought therapy immediately after being discharged from the ICU🤍 The power of relational therapy and feeling deeply seen in trauma recovery💊 Navigating postpartum anxiety, health anxiety, and starting an SSRI🔍 The overlap between health anxiety and OCD-style intrusive thoughts🧑‍⚕️ How becoming an EMDR therapist changed the way she understood trauma healing🌀 What EMDR and parts work looked like from the client perspective🧩 How childhood experiences can shape the way we experience birth trauma🏥 A surprising connection between childhood medical experiences and feeling unheard during birth🌙 Processing an early childhood home robbery that fueled nighttime anxiety for decades👩‍👦 The lingering trauma of nearly leaving her son without a mother💬 Why talk therapy alone sometimes isn’t enough for trauma healing🌱 How EMDR helped process trauma that was stored in the nervous systemKayleigh also shares an honest look at what healing can look like six years after trauma,  including the reality that some pieces resolve while others take longer to process.If you’ve wondered what EMDR therapy actually feels like, why trauma responses can appear years later, or why talking about trauma doesn’t always resolve it, this episode offers a deeply personal and insightful perspective.This conversation is a powerful reminder that healing is not linear — and that even therapists need support, care, and space to process their own stories. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

On today’s episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Leslie shares the story of her daughter Cora born via emergency C-section after a full-term pregnancy and the unimaginable grief of losing her shortly after birth. She also opens up about secondary infertility, pregnancy after loss, a traumatic COVID birth, and the long road of healing that followed.This episode is a powerful reminder that grief and trauma can coexist and that both deserve care. 🤍In this episode, we discuss:✨ A full-term pregnancy that ended in emergency C-section and stillbirth💔 Holding, honoring, and saying goodbye to Cora Ann📦 The impact of compassionate bereavement care and memory-making🌈 Secondary infertility: IUIs, IVF, and multiple pregnancy losses🩺 A high-risk pregnancy complicated by subchorionic hemorrhage and COVID🏥 Delivering at 34 weeks alone due to hospital COVID policies🫁 NICU separation and leaving the hospital — again — with empty arms🧠 Postpartum anxiety, trauma triggers, and difficulty bonding after loss💬 Finding the language for birth trauma and healing through EMDR🤍 The power of loss-specific support groups🎈 Honoring Cora each year with intentional remembrance traditionsLeslie vulnerably shares what it felt like to barely breathe in the thick of grief and how asking for support, finding trauma-informed therapy, and continuing to honor her daughter has shaped her healing.If you have experienced stillbirth, infertility, NICU trauma, pregnancy after loss, or postpartum anxiety, this conversation will help you feel less alone.We are so grateful to Leslie for honoring Cora by sharing her story with us. 💛You can follow along with Leslie on instagram: @braving_forwardFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

✨ Special Rerelease Episode ✨In this important conversation, Kayleigh sits down with Dr. Pria Alpern to talk about EMDR therapy and its powerful role in healing birth trauma. If you’ve ever felt stuck in intrusive memories, body flashbacks, or overwhelming anxiety after your birth experience, this episode offers both education and hope. We break down what EMDR actually is, how it works, and why it can be especially effective for perinatal trauma.In this episode, we talk about:🧠 What EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) actually is🔄 How trauma gets “stuck” in the brain and nervous system👁️ Why bilateral stimulation can help reprocess traumatic memories🤰 How birth trauma uniquely impacts the body and identity😔 Intrusive thoughts, flashbacks, and triggers after birth🫶 What an EMDR session looks like and how to know if it’s right for you⏳ The difference between retelling your story and reprocessing it💛 Why you don’t have to live in fight-or-flight forever🌿 Finding trauma-informed support in the perinatal periodWhy this episode matters:✨ Birth trauma is real—and treatable✨ Healing doesn’t require reliving every detail over and over✨ Your nervous system deserves support✨ You are not broken—your brain adapted to surviveGuest Bio: Dr. Alpern is the founder of Center Psychology Group. She is an EMDR clinician certified by EMDRIA, the organization dedicated to upholding the modality’s standards. She is also a graduate of the EMDR Clinical Affiliate Program at the National Institute for the Psychotherapies (NIP) Trauma Treatment Center in New York City. Dr. Alpern is an EMDRIA-approved consultant and provides individual and group consultation to EMDR therapists. She the founder of the Manhattan Center for Trauma Studies, where she oversees continuing education trainings focused on EMDR and trauma-informed psychotherapy. Dr. Alpern is an Advanced-level Somatic Experiencing practitioner (SEI). She completed specialized training in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders from Postpartum Support International, and she is a special adjunct clinical professor at Long Island University’s Brooklyn campus, where she earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology. She also completed a postdoctoral fellowship at the Rosemary Furman Counseling Center at Barnard College, where she specialized in late adolescence, early adulthood, and trauma. Dr. Alpern holds a B.A. in Psychology and Art History from Georgetown University. Beyond her clinical work, Dr. Alpern offers trauma-related psychoeducation through her TikTok and Instagram accounts.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh sits down with Annie to share her powerful story of birth trauma, medical complications, and the long road of postpartum healing. Annie opens up about how quickly plans changed, the fear and confusion that followed, and what it has looked like to process trauma while learning to parent. This conversation is honest, validating, and a reminder that trauma isn’t defined by one moment.In this episode, we talk about:🤰 A pregnancy that didn’t unfold the way she expected🏥 Medical complications and rapid decision-making during labor😔 Feeling dismissed, confused, or out of control in key moments🧠 How trauma lives in the body long after birth💔 The emotional aftermath in the early postpartum weeks🫶 The impact birth trauma had on identity and relationships🌪️ Anxiety, hypervigilance, and trying to make sense of what happened🗂️ Revisiting medical records and searching for answers✨ Finding support through therapy and safe spaces🌿 What healing has looked like over timeThis episode's artwork for the reel was done by Annie as a way of processing her experience. You can follow her art page on instagram for more: @abowlerdrawsIf you’ve ever questioned whether your experience “counts” as trauma, this episode is for you. You are not dramatic. You are not weak. And you are not alone. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh talks about something that comes up again and again in our community: how, when, and whether to share your birth trauma story. From conversations with pregnant friends to posting publicly or presenting professionally, this episode explores navigating boundaries, safety, and connection, without shame. You are allowed to share your story. And you’re also allowed to protect it.In this episode, we talk about:🗣️ The myth of “trauma dumping” and why your story isn’t too much🤰 How to navigate conversations with pregnant friends💛 Offering “what I wish I had known” instead of every detail🧠 Asking: Is this space safe for my story?😔 The icky feeling of oversharing—and why it happens after trauma✨ Replacing shame with self-compassion🚧 Simple phrases to set boundaries when you don’t want to share🌍 Sharing your story publicly in a way that feels intentional⏱️ Why practicing different lengths/versions of your story matters🛠️ The role of therapy and processing before public storytelling🤍 Protecting your nervous system while raising awarenessWhy this episode matters:🌟 You are allowed to tell your story🌟 You don’t owe anyone the details🌟 Boundaries and advocacy can coexist🌟 Your story deserves safety, care, and intentionWhether you’re figuring out how to talk to a pregnant friend or preparing to share your story on a bigger stage, this episode offers practical tools and gentle validation. Your story matters, and you get to decide how it’s told. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this listener series episode, Kayleigh sits down with Nicola, a physician who shares her own experience with birth trauma, placenta previa, a massive hemorrhage, and a terrifying NICU journey with her son. Nicola opens up about what it’s like to be on the other side of medicine, how “knowing too much” can increase anxiety, and the deep loneliness that can come with traumatic birth and a NICU stay. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating birth trauma, NICU life, or the long road of healing afterward.In this episode, we talk about:🩺 Being a physician and still experiencing profound birth trauma🤰 A pregnancy complicated by placenta previa and multiple hospitalizations🚑 A sudden, life-threatening hemorrhage and emergency C-section at 34 weeks🩸 Massive blood loss, ICU-level care, and the shock of surviving a near-death experience👶 A premature baby, NICU life, and the fear of sepsis and breathing complications🏥 What it’s really like to be a parent in the NICU—especially when you understand the medicine😔 The deep isolation and loneliness that can follow traumatic birth and NICU stays💔 Grieving the lack of support you hoped for from family and your “village”🫶 The importance of therapy, community, and building your own support system🌱 How postpartum anxiety showed up after medical trauma🤍 Finding healing through connection, support, and timeIf you’ve ever felt alone in your NICU or birth trauma experience, this episode is for you. You are not weak. You are not overreacting. And you are not alone. 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh dives into a topic we don’t talk about enough: partner and family trauma after birth. Birth trauma doesn’t just impact the birthing person; it can deeply affect the non-birthing partner and the entire family system. From helplessness in the delivery room to tension in relationships afterward, this conversation explores what we know (and what we’re still learning) about how trauma shows up for partners and what healing can look like together.In this episode, we talk about:🤝 What partner trauma is—and why it’s not “secondary”📊 What research says about PTSD rates in non-birthing partners😔 Feelings of helplessness, guilt, and powerlessness during traumatic births🧱 Avoidance, shutdown, anger, and “I’m fine” responses after trauma🔥 “Trauma soup” — when both partners are hurting in different ways💔 How birth trauma can create distance, resentment, or tension in relationships🗣️ The mismatch between wanting to talk about it vs. wanting to fix it👶 Hypervigilance around baby (and birthing parent) after medical emergencies or NICU stays🌀 Why some partners aren’t traumatized—and how that can feel confusing⭕ Ring Theory: support in, process out🛠️ Therapy, transparency, and practical ways to start hard conversationsWhy this episode matters:✨ Partner trauma is real and valid✨ Birth trauma impacts the whole family system✨ You can both be hurting—and both deserve support✨ Healing often requires outside help, not just each otherTo hear our previous episodes on partner trauma, listen to Kayleigh and Steve's joint episodes - 101 and 102.If birth trauma has impacted your relationship, you are not alone. The wedge you feel isn’t a failure—it’s trauma. And with support, understanding, and space for both stories, healing is possible. 🤍References from this episode:https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/02646838.2024.2346893#abstracthttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11796141/https://www.ajog.org/article/S0002-9378%2823%2900713-5/fulltext?utm_source=chatgpt.comhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35584590/https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7179006/For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this powerful and necessary episode, Ruby shares her story of birth trauma, medical dismissal, and her daughter Rumi’s diagnosis of HIE (hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy). Ruby walks us through being sent home multiple times while in labor, giving birth to a baby who was not breathing, surviving a life-threatening postpartum hemorrhage, and navigating the NICU and devastating uncertainty that followed. This conversation also names the role of racism and bias in women’s health—especially toward Indigenous and other marginalized parents—and how being ignored, minimized, and not believed can have life-altering consequences for both parent and baby.In this episode, we talk about:🤰 A pregnancy that seemed normal—until everything changed during labor and delivery🚫 Being sent home multiple times despite leaking fluid and regular contractions💧 Meconium-stained fluid and clear signs of fetal distress that were downplayed⏳ Laboring for days, pushing for hours, and being overdue without escalation of care🩺 Developing an infection (chorioamnionitis) and running a fever during labor🗣️ Repeated concerns from Ruby and her family about needing a C-section—and not being listened to✊ How medical dismissal and loss of autonomy can be rooted in systemic bias and racism🧡 The reality of being an Indigenous woman navigating a healthcare system that often fails to listen to Black and Brown patients👶 A baby born not breathing, blue, and needing resuscitation and CPAP🩸 A severe postpartum hemorrhage, retained placenta, D&C, and a life-saving Bakri balloon🏥 A NICU stay and transfer to a children’s hospital🧠 A diagnosis of HIE (hypoxic ischemic encephalopathy) and evidence of brain injury on MRI❄️ Cooling therapy, seizure management, and the terrifying early days of uncertainty⏰ The “wait and see” reality of the first year after an HIE diagnosis👣 Milestones, therapy, and later learning her child has mild hemiplegic cerebral palsy🌱 What healing looks like years later—and learning to live alongside trauma📚 Obsessively reading medical records, searching for answers, and trying to make sense of what happened🔥 Why racism and biased care in obstetrics are not abstract—and how they impact real families and real outcomesWhy this episode matters:✨ Racism in healthcare is real—and it affects who is believed, who is protected, and who receives timely care✨ Indigenous, Black, and Brown parents are more likely to experience dismissal, delayed care, and worse outcomes✨ Birth trauma is not just personal—it’s also systemic✨ HIE and NICU journeys are filled with uncertainty, grief, and fear—but also resilience and love✨ You deserve to be listened to, respected, and taken seriously in your careThis episode is a call to witness, to believe birthing people—especially Indigenous and other marginalized parents—and to name how bias in medicine can change lives. Ruby’s story is about trauma, survival, motherhood, and the urgent need for more just, respectful, and equitable maternity care. 🤍For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh sits down with Mallory—aka The Formula Mom—to talk all things formula feeding, combo feeding, and her brand-new book Bottle Service. They dive into the real, messy, emotional side of infant feeding: the lack of education around formula, the grief of not being able to breastfeed, the pressure of “at all costs” narratives, and why nuance, support, and compassion matter more than ever. This is an honest, validating conversation for anyone who has ever questioned, grieved, or defended how they feed their baby.In this episode, we talk about:🍼 How Mallory became “The Formula Mom” and why she started sharing formula education📚 Her new book Bottle Service and the mission behind it🤱 The lack of accessible, supportive formula feeding education😔 The grief of wanting to breastfeed but not being able to💬 Shame, guilt, and stigma around formula feeding⚖️ Why feeding conversations have become so polarized🧠 The impact of feeding struggles on mental health🔀 What combo feeding actually is—and why more families do it than we realize👶 Navigating gas, allergies, colic, and when (or if) to switch formulas🏥 Why “just talk to your pediatrician” isn’t always enough🫶 The importance of supporting the whole parent–baby dyad🌙 How formula feeding (or combo feeding) can support sleep and family balance📢 The truth about “predatory marketing” and the history behind the debate🤍 Why parents deserve information, autonomy, and trust in their own decisions✨ Creating space for nuance, empathy, and individualized feeding journeysWhy this episode matters:🌱 There is no one “right” way to feed a baby🤍 Grief and relief can coexist in feeding journeys🫶 Parents deserve support—not shame—no matter how they feed their baby📚 Education + compassion = empowered families⚖️ The goal isn’t perfection—it’s helping families thriveYou can find Mallory's book here! If you order before the 24th of February, you can get some pre-order goodies by uploading your receipt to the website!Guest Bio:Mallory is a mom of two, advocate, infant feeding tech, and the author of BOTTLE SERVICE: Education and Encouragement for Guilt-Free and Successful Formula Feeding. She's the face behind The Formula Mom, an online platform that helps parents make informed, confident, and supported infant feeding decisions. She can be found on Instagram @theformulamom, leading education for Bobbie, and hanging in Nashville with her family.Research Referenced:https://doi.org/10.3390/nu14112190 https://voxdev.org/topic/health/deadly-toll-marketing-infant-formula-low-and-middle-income-countriesFor more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode, Kayleigh sits down with Abigail to talk about her first birth complicated by low amniotic fluid, a late preterm induction, and a long, emotionally exhausting NICU stay, and how that experience shaped her postpartum mental health and feeding journey. Abigail also shares her second birth story, including intentional preparation, advocacy, and what it looked like to face another NICU admission without it becoming traumatic. This episode is a powerful conversation about control, grief, healing, and how trauma-informed care and support can change everything.In this episode, we talk about:🤰 A pregnancy complicated by low amniotic fluid and an unexpected early induction🕰️ A long, 48-hour induction and vaginal birth at 34+ weeks👶 Having a late preterm baby who struggled with feeding, weight gain, and jaundice🏥 A prolonged NICU stay and the heartbreak of early separation💔 Grieving the loss of the postpartum experience you imagined🍼 Pumping in the NICU, feeding challenges, mastitis, and the mental load of it all😰 Postpartum anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and the impact of early separation from your baby🧠 Healing through therapy, time, support, and self-compassion🤍 Babywearing, skin-to-skin, and reclaiming connection after NICU trauma🌱 Deciding to try again and preparing intentionally for a second birth🧭 The power of advocacy, informed consent, and slowing things down in medical moments🚑 A second baby, a beautiful birth center birth—and an unexpected NICU transfer again🛡️ How autonomy, preparation, and support changed the emotional outcome the second time✨ Why loss of control is a major factor in birth trauma—and respectful care is protective🫶 Turning lived experience into purpose as a trauma-informed lactation consultantWhy this episode matters:🌟 You can have trauma from a “medically stable” birth or NICU stay🌟 Subsequent births don’t have to repeat the same emotional outcome—even if complications happen again🌟 Advocacy, support, and compassionate care can make a real difference🌟 Healing is possible, and your postpartum doesn’t have to look the same after traumaAbigail is a board certified lactation consultant and a speech-language pathologist. You can follow along or connect with her by visiting her website: https://www.abbybslp.com/If you’ve experienced a NICU stay, feeding trauma, or are navigating pregnancy after birth trauma, this episode offers both validation and hope. You’re not alone—and your story gets to keep evolving. 💛For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh sits down with Derek Grassley, RN CEN, CFRN, CCRN, NRP, FP-C WP-C - a flight nurse and ECMO specialist, to break down what ECMO is, when it’s used, and why it can be life-saving for critically ill pregnant and postpartum patients.This powerful conversation pulls back the curtain on critical care, emergency transport, and the realities of caring for patients at the edge of survival.🩺 In this episode, we cover:🫀 What ECMO is and the difference between VV and VA ECMO🚑 Why and when ECMO is used, including AFE, cardiac arrest, and respiratory failure⚖️ Risks and ethical considerations of ECMO care✈️ Flight nursing & critical care transport explained🤰 Unique challenges of transporting pregnant and postpartum patients🏥 Access to ECMO, especially in rural and underserved areas🧠 The emotional toll of caring for critically ill patients🎧 This episode is a must-listen for survivors, clinicians, and anyone wanting a deeper understanding of critical care in pregnancy and postpartum.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this powerful Listener Series episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh is joined by Andrea, who shares her story of an unexpected pregnancy complicated by severe placenta accreta, a nine-hour delivery surgery, massive hemorrhage, ICU recovery, and a long, complex postpartum healing journey.Andrea walks listeners through receiving a terrifying accreta diagnosis at her anatomy scan, navigating the fear of life-threatening hemorrhage, and making the critical decision to transfer care to a specialized accreta center. Her story highlights the importance of self-advocacy, multidisciplinary care, and listening to your instincts, especially when your life is on the line.This episode also tenderly explores the emotional aftermath of survival: delayed bonding after general anesthesia, prolonged separation from her baby, months of physical complications, depression, and the long road to processing trauma once the body finally stabilizes.In this episode, we discuss:🤰 An unexpected fourth pregnancy and a shocking placenta accreta diagnosi🩺 Learning what placenta accreta is and why severity matters🚩Recognizing red flags and transferring care to a high-volume accreta center🩸 Preparing for hemorrhage, blood loss, and a planned preterm delivery😴 Delivery under general anesthesia and emergency hysterectomy🚨 Massive hemorrhage and receiving life-saving blood transfusions🏥 Waking up intubated in the ICU after a nine-hour surgery🧵Multiple surgeries, drains, catheters, and prolonged hospitalization🖤 Delayed bonding and questioning connection after traumatic birth💔 Postpartum depression, despondency, and emotional collapse after survival🧍‍♂️The toll of birth trauma on partners and families💸 Financial strain, caregiving, and extended medical recovery🔁 Intrusive memories, rumination, and trauma resurfacing months later🛋️ EMDR therapy and turning down the volume on trauma🌱 Redefining gratitude without guilt or toxic positivity❤️ Advocacy for placenta accreta awareness and blood donation🗣️ The power of self-advocacy in saving your own lifeKey takeaway:Surviving doesn’t mean you’re instantly okay. Healing after birth trauma often begins after the body is safe and you are allowed to feel grief, anger, and relief at the same time.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

✨ Special Re-Release ✨ Parenting After Birth TraumaAs our children grow, many of us begin to notice something unexpected: the ways our birth trauma continues to show up, not just in our bodies and minds, but in our parenting.In this special re-release episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, we revisit a conversation that feels just as relevant, if not more so, today. Kayleigh offers a brief but meaningful overview of what it means to parent after birth trauma, and why this topic comes up again and again in our community.Parenting after birth trauma is layered and complex. It may include unresolved trauma from pregnancy, birth, postpartum, or earlier life experiences, all of which can shape how we bond with, protect, and respond to our children. This episode doesn’t cover everything, but it opens the door to awareness, reflection, and compassion.Whether you’re parenting a newborn, a toddler, or an older child, this re-release offers perspective for navigating the emotional ripple effects of trauma while raising humans you love deeply.In this episode, we discuss:👶 What it means to parent after birth trauma🧠 How trauma can impact parenting styles and responses🔗 Bonding and attachment after a traumatic experience⚠️ Hypervigilance, anxiety, and fear in parenting🩺 Awareness, support, and treating unresolved trauma🔧 Parenting imperfections, rupture, and repair🌸 Practicing self-compassion as a parent and survivorKey takeaway:You don’t need to be a perfect parent to be a good one. Parenting after birth trauma is hard, and awareness, repair, and compassion matter far more than getting it “right.”Why we’re re-releasing this episode:Because this conversation doesn’t expire. As our kids grow, so does our understanding of how trauma shapes us, and revisiting these topics can be an important part of healing.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

In this deeply moving Listener Series episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh is joined by Kailee, who shares her story of infertility, recurrent placenta previa, NICU stays, medical trauma, and ultimately surviving placenta accreta with a life-saving hysterectomy.Kailee walks us through two high-risk pregnancies marked by hemorrhage, emergency cesareans, prolonged antepartum hospitalizations, NICU stays, and profound grief, alongside moments of advocacy, empowerment, and healing. Her story highlights how trauma can live alongside gratitude, and how reclaiming your voice can be life-saving.This episode is especially meaningful for NICU parents, those navigating placenta complications, birth trauma survivors, and anyone grieving the birth experience, or future, that was taken from them.In this episode, we discuss:💔 Infertility, PCOS, and the loneliness of unanswered medical questions🩸 Placenta previa and the trauma of sudden hemorrhage🚑 Emergency transfers, antepartum stays, and fear for survival💭 The shock of hearing “miscarriage” language during a viable pregnancy👶 Preterm birth at 31 weeks and a 30-day NICU stay📉 Delayed bonding, CPTSD, anxiety, and postpartum grief🌈 Grieving the pregnancy, birth, and moments you never got✊ Learning to advocate for yourself in future pregnancies🔁 Facing placenta previa again in a subsequent pregnancy🧬 Placenta accreta/percreta and preparing for a hysterectomy🙅‍♀️ The power of saying “no” and trusting your instincts🩺 Multidisciplinary care and accreta delivery protocols💗 Meeting your baby after trauma—and reclaiming that moment🏥 A second NICU journey and coming home sooner than expected🌧️ Holding empowerment and trauma at the same time🕊️ Grieving future children while choosing survival🛋️ The role of therapy, medication, boundaries, and journaling📸 Why taking photos—even when it’s hard—matters✨ Finding purpose, advocacy, and hope after medical traumaKey takeaway:A birth can be traumatic and empowering. Survival, advocacy, grief, and gratitude are allowed to coexist—and your story still matters, even when the ending looks different than you imagined.Listener Love:Kailee’s courage, honesty, and willingness to share the messy middle offers validation and hope to anyone walking through birth trauma, NICU life, or life after hysterectomy.If this episode resonated with you, you are not alone and healing does not require forgetting what you endured.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.

What does it really mean to give yourself permission, especially when you’ve been conditioned to put everyone else first?In this thoughtful and deeply resonant episode of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast, Kayleigh is joined by Dr. George James, psychologist, speaker, executive coach, and author of I Give Myself Permission. With over a decade of shared history, Kayleigh and Dr. James reflect on growth, identity, trauma, and the invisible narratives that shape how we show up for ourselves, particularly after birth trauma.Dr. James shares how the pandemic, racial reckoning, leadership burnout, and family loss shaped his work and inspired his book. Together, they unpack why “just take care of yourself” is not only unhelpful, but often impossible without understanding the systems, identities, and stories we carry.This conversation is especially powerful for parents navigating birth trauma, clinicians supporting perinatal mental health, and anyone who feels stuck between survival and self-care.In this episode, we discuss:🧠 How internal narratives shape what we believe we’re allowed to need🔑 What “giving yourself permission” really means (and what it doesn’t)🫧 Why self-care is more than bubble baths and catchphrases🌍 Social stress, leadership stress, injustice stress, and family-of-origin stress👩‍👧‍👦 Why parents, especially mothers, are taught to put themselves last🤰How perinatal trauma reinforces harmful narratives like “the baby comes first”🗣️Giving yourself permission to advocate for your body and your life🪞 How identity and lived experience influence permission and self-worth❤️ Rewriting family scripts around affection, care, and masculinity😨 Facing fear, perfectionism, and shame in everyday moments🔄 Why permission is both a mindset and an action🪜 Taking half-steps when full steps aren’t accessible⚖️ Acknowledging privilege while honoring that permission is still possible🔍 Doing the deeper work underneath boundaries and self-care🤍 Learning to pause, celebrate growth, and notice where permission already existsKey takeaway:Giving yourself permission is not about willpower or positivity, it’s about understanding the stories, systems, and stressors that shaped you, and choosing care anyway.Guest Info:Dr. George JamesPsychologist | Speaker | Executive Coach | Author🌐 Website: georgetalks.com📘 Book: I Give Myself Permission (available wherever books are sold)📱 Social: @georgetalks🔗 More info: igivemyselfpermission.comIf this episode resonated with you:You are not failing at self-care. You may simply be carrying stories that once kept you safe. Awareness is the first step and permission can start small.For more birth trauma content and a community full of love and support, head to my Instagram at @thebirthtrauma_mama.Learn more about the support and services I offer through The Birth Trauma Mama Therapy & Support Services.Disclaimer - The views and opinions expressed by guests on The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the official stance, views, or positions of The Birth Trauma Mama Podcast. The content shared is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as professional or medical advice and/or endorsement.