Episodes
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Sobriety and Abstinence
* Nuanced refrain – Personal variation in what it is to be sober and in what sequence* Desirability of abstinence – inherent and tacit Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.com Music from Elijah: www.instagram.com/elijah_seattle...
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Amending VII
Q&A conclusion to this miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * What about when a direct amend isn’t appropriate (or possible)? * What about when the person I’ve harmed has also harmed me? * Do I have to do whatever they say about ‘making it right’? * What about mid-course...
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Amending VI
Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * Staying amended * Loose ends and anxiety * Why amending doesn’t end – step ten Host | Paige R. Hulsey Recovery Patterns of Codependence: http://coda.org/index.cfm/meeting-materials1/patterns-of-recovery/ Real Rent:...
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Amending V
Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * More on making the approach * The talk Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.com Music from Elijah: www.instagram.com/elijah_seattle Written, engineered, and edited by…
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Amending IV
Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * Methods of preparation – the letter, the card * The approach Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.com Music from Elijah: www.instagram.com/elijah_seattle Written,...
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Amending III
Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * Why is amending so scary? Facing consequences in direct opposition to getting away with something and dealing with that picture we get in our minds * Why does amending feel so weird? Addressing contexts and meta communications * How do…
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Amending II
Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * Why even do this part of the work? * Being our ideals * Restoration, reintegration Host: Paige R. Hulsey Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.c12pod.com Music from Elijah:...
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Amending
Miniseries! The beginning, middle and not end of amending. * Empowering context for self-reflection: freckles not cancer * What the list is: I did the wrong thing and was harm caused. * What the list isn’t: people whose feelings I hurt or people I didn’t do the right thing by but didn’t actually...
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Lying II
* When we’ve lied – false equivalencies, a meditation to support staying lightly attached, the perils of desensitization, isolation, and defensiveness * General traps and pitfalls – being discerning versus judgemental, or uncommunicative versus prudent, secretive versus private * When we’ve been...
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Lying
* Different types of lies – outright, lies of omission, lies to self (delusion), and dishonest behaviors * Hidden harms of lying – stress, exhaustion, loneliness, pain, delay of growth, distorted relationship with self and others, and dehumanization * What it takes to live without lying – being...
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Injurious Behaviours II
* Risks of ignoring the reality of harm * Reasons harm is ignored or denied, including, ‘if I’m hurt, there’s something wrong with me’ and ‘if I caused harm, I’ll have to amend it’. Note: In this recording we say the show will be about lying (again) and it isn’t. We apologize for being unclear.…
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Injurious Behaviours
* Why it’s useful to address behaviours rather than character defects * Fear as motive for behaviour * The (disproportionate) fear cycle * Fear motivated habits * Barriers to new ways of being * Why it’s the actions that count * Complexity around damage Note: We are not hiding that our...
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Prayer II
Unpacking common prayers: * The Serenity Prayer * The Lord’s Prayer * The Saint Francis Prayer * The Set Aside Prayer * Emily’s childhood prayer * I love you, I trust you, I smile * God, please direct my attention to something useful Host: Paige R. Hulsey | Cohost: Emily R. Bogen The Work of…
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Prayer
* The following common questions – ‘Don’t I need to know what I’m praying to?’, ‘Why am I embarrassed about praying?’, ‘What about when I get bored with praying?’, ‘I pray but it isn’t working, what’s the deal?’ * Our experience over time with prayer including using set prayers, praying in...
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Meditation II
Three common pitfalls around meditation: Trap # 1: Rigidity Trap # 2: Feeling bad about how we meditate! Trap # 3: Complex consequences Host: Paige R. Hulsey | Cohost: Emily R. Bogen Real Rent: https://www.realrentduwamish.org Link to our steps: http://www.complexiphy.org/c12 Music from Elijah:...
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Meditation
* Common Contexts Incomplete Conceptions Rigidity and perfectionism Focus is on the the sitting It has to be the same every day, day after day, forever Our Additions Gentleness It’s all about when we’re not sitting Whatever it takes to make sure there’s space to get more coming through * Our...
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Choices and Decisions II
Five common decision making pitfalls or traps: Trap # 1: (Disproportionate) aversion to discomfort Trap # 2: Outsized attachment Trap # 3: Habit Trap # 4: Confusion Trap # 5: That pesky pendulum – extreme dualism Host: Paige R. Hulsey | Cohost: Emily R. Bogen Real Rent:...
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Choices and Decisions
How making choices goes hand in hand with practicing the third step, “Surrender how we live to what we trust to guide us” Barriers to responsible choosing – both internal and external Emily discusses how she has found balance regarding diet and eating Barrier workarounds – prayer, meditation, and…
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Power and Autonomy II
“I did my best” and other excuses How protecting my innocence backfires Victim as a way of being versus having been victimized The gift of acknowledgment Timing Responsibility as access to new opportunities for action Overshooting and overcompensation in the pursuit of finding our right path…
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Power and Autonomy
How being humble is not necessarily the same as being submissive, compliant, or humiliated; how pressure from others alters how we hear our conscience; cussing; some ways we navigate external pressures; when talking about people is not gossiping; the miracle of making requests, ways to notice…
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Inventory II
* We unpack the term ‘spiritual’ * Differentiate being from feeling * Differentiate doing bad things from being bad people * More notes on how critical words are but not as critical as our position * Responsibility, responsibility, responsibility, * Space for discernment * How being funny is...
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Empowering Inventory?
How taking, ‘searching and fearless moral inventory of our errors’ can be empowering access to: * Sidestepping our egos to find clarity around our beliefs and ‘buttons’ * Getting comfortable with telling the truth about ourselves to ourselves (defying denial) * Unclogging old stuck stuff *...
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Feelings II
CW: We mention non-consensual sexual contact. We clarify and dig more deeply into some of the topics in Episode 003. We discuss being ourselves and being transparent as a part of practicing honesty. We also talk about anxiety as a signal of “loose ends”. Join us for a practical conversation about...
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Our Relationship to Feelings
CW: We mention non-consensual sexual contact. Feeling hurt and even more about what it’s like to have tried not to feel hurt. We discuss some of the effects of feelings unfelt on ourselves and our relationships. Join us for a practical conversation about living some spiritual principles.…
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Surrender II
We’re talking third step again – “Surrender how we live to what we trust to guide us.” In this episode we clarify and dig more deeply into some of the topics in Episode 001. We address questions including, “How does it work when I pick and choose what (spiritual) guidance to abide by?” Join us…
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Surrender and Control
We’re talking third step – “Surrender how we live to what we trust to guide us.” We discuss what we find ourselves unintentionally surrendering to, costs of unintentional surrender, third step practices, common hang-ups and pitfalls, and fruits of surrender. Join us for a practical conversation...
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Episode Zero: Start Here
Join us for a conversation about spirituality without pretense. Our aim is to support you in navigating your own path, hearing and abiding by your conscience. We’re interested in uncovering and exploring what works and what’s empowering – the really practical stuff. We bring you our Citizen…
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Home of the Citizen Twelve Podcast offering coaching and education to support you living in alignment with your conscience and discerning what that is.
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Paige R. Hulsey
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