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The Curious Counselor
by Alan Pennington
A thoughtful journey exploring our pain and looking for ways to heal. It's not just the trauma experiences that hurt us but the negative messages they leave, that we are not good enough, we don't do enough and/or we don't feels safe. Healing occurs when we start to realize, "we are good enough", "we do enough", and "it's ok to feel safe when we are safe".In this series of podcasts, I'll use kindness, compassion and curiosity to explore our pain and suggest various ways to bring healing to yourself and those around you.
Episodes
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Episode 30: Codependent to Co-Independent: Love Yourself Well
Codependency is the need to make someone else happy with the expectation they will make you happy. It is driven by the need to feel loved. CoIndependent means living a life full of love and joy in yourself that you can both share with others and receive. Accepting that we are not only lovable but...
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Episode 29: My Daughter makes me so angry! An interview.
Most of the time when we get mad, we immediately can identify the source of our frustration, be it a careless driver, someone cutting in line, a loud child, a less than compassionate friend or coworker or partner or whatever. "That person makes me so mad..." is often our refrane. But, what if our...
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Episode 28: Why My Marriage Failed (and how to save yours)
I went through an awful divorce in 2016 to 2018. I thought my wife and I were doing all the right things to save our marriage (go to church, talk, pray, go to marriage seminars, etc) but still, we ended up in a divorce. Since that time I have been doing a lot of my own trauma work, a lot more...
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Episode 27: Divorce, God, Sin, and Grace
I am divorced. Am I doomed to hell? In the sermon on the mount (Mt. 5) Jesus says if you get divorced except for infidelity you commit adultry. Jesus says several other things that are a sin (including anger) then leads up to the last verse of the chapter to say you must be perfect as your…
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Episode 26: Camilla, DID and Healing her inner Children
In the last episode, we talked about the three (3) phases of healing your inner child: self-regulation, working with internal defenders and finally, how to connect with the inner child. In this epsisode, I interview Camilla (psuedonym), a client of mine who has participated in several earlier...
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Episode 25: Healing Your Inner Child
This is a summary of a workshop I recently did at PlayThink 2024 (thanks Paige Zen, it was an awesome festival). The three steps to healing are: Spend time learning how to ground yourself through B - Breathing, T- tapping, S - stretching, S - Shaking. BTSS used 2 minutes 3 or 4 times a day will...
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Episode 23: Kind Compassionate Curious Movies
In past episodes, I've talked about kindness, compassion and curiosity. I've had on guests to talk about different aspects of healing through kindness, compassion and curiosity. In this episode, I want to share some of my favorite movies that illustrate healing through, yes, kindness, compassion...
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Episode 22: Camilla DID and Breaking Barriers
This week I am talking to Camilla about how to break out of her current living situation and move to be closer to her children. Camilla has disassociative identity disorder (multiple personalities) so making any change is hard but making a change in living situation to a totally different city is...
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Episode 21: Camilla, DID and Safe Connections
How can we build safe connections with others when we often don't even have a safe connection with ourselves? In this episode, I interview a client, Camilla (pseudonym) who has disassociative identity disorder (meaning she has multiple sub-parts to her personality). How has she learned to have a...
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Episode 20: Kindness Matters
We need kindness to thrive but unfortunately many of us did not have kindness modeled for us so we do now what we did when we were children in order to feel safe. We hide. We blame others. We yell and hit. We pretend to be happy when we're not and we try to make everyone around us happy. No…
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Episode 19: Disassociation: An Interview with Erin and Camilla
Imagine having more than one "personality" or part of your personality that is so well developed that he (or she) literally their own thoughts, perceptions, likes/dislikes. In this episode I interview Erin and Camilla, both with multiple "sub-parts" or personalities. Erin has her main persona and…
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Episode 18: Session 5 with Camilla - Disassociation
Disassociation can range anywhere from a feeling of being out of our bodies, to being emotional shut down or literally being taken over by a part of our personality (disassociative identity disorder). In this episode, I talk with Camilla (and some of her parts) about her experiences with...
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Episode 17: Session 4 with Camilla - How Healing Occurs
In this 4th interview with "Camilla" we explore her healing journey. What things in and outside have contributed to her healing process? While creating a safe space to be heard is the foundation to healing, we dive deeper into Camilla's experience with healing, the people in her world that are…
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Episode 16: Session 1 with Lynn - Healing the Inner Child/Bullying
"Lynn" is a friend of mine that has had a hard time finding a good therapist. In this interview, we talk about what therapy is, how it can help, why she might have had bad therapy experiences and we do some exploration of her trauam which began with bullying at the age of 5. As I provided a safe...
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Episode 15: Healing the Inner Critic
Many and perhaps most of us have an inner critic, the part that tells us we didn't do enough or we didn't do it good enough or we are just stupid for thinking this or that. Why do we have an inner critic and what can we do to bring healing to that part? In this episode, we look not only at what…
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Episode 14: Session 3 with Camillia: EMDR - Healing the Inner Child
I am excited to have my client "Camilla" join me in this podcast to capture what an EMDR session looks like. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a well researched processing tool for healing trauma. The major components of EMDR processing include: Identifying a negative…
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Episode 13: Session 2 with Camilla - Aren't you over this yet?
Have you ever asked or been asked "aren't you over that yet?". It may feel like a helpful question but it's really not. I expect the person asking is actually a caring person and wants to help but to the person that is still struggling, it is anything but helpful. In this podcast, I interview an...
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Episode 12: Breath, Relax, Heal
Breathing is so simple. We all do it every moment of our lives and the vast majority of the time don't even think about it. But, what if we did think about it. What if we intentionally took a few minutes just a few times a day to breath fully in and fully out. Would you believe that simple action...
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Self-Care and Positive Connections: An Interview with Lee McMichael, LCSW
Most of us think of self-care as things we do for ourselves to make ourselves feel better and/or just disconnect from the stress of day to day life. In this Interview with Lee McMichael, Lee gives some insights on self-care: maybe self-care is not just doing things that feel good. maybe self-care...
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How to Win an Argument and Avoid a Fight
Unfortunately many of us either don't know how to handle a disagreement or even if we do, we fall into old patterns of being pushy, yelling, crying or whatever worked when we were like 5 years old (it's funny but not). In this episode, I want to remind you of the power of compassionte listening...
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Covenant Shooting Part 3: How to Heal Our Children
Emotional healing is very simple but can also be very difficult. It means allowing ourselves to experience our emotions in a supportive non-judgmental environment. When we do that and allow our children the support and space to emotionally heal, negative energy is released and positive messages…
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Emotional Healing, Tom Hanks and Subconscious Messages
You are enough. You do enough. It's ok to feel safe when you are safe. What we do is largely motivated by what we feel. What we feel is dependent upon what we think. Some of our thoughts are conscious but many of them are sub-conscious. We all carry sub-conscious thoughts about our self-esteem,...
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Covenant Shooting Part 2: 5 Stages of Grief
Healing is not complicated but it can be difficult. In this episode I review the stages of grief (shock, bargaining, anger, sadness and resolution) and look at some ways we get stuck and how to get unstuck. The key, as always, is to be kind and compassionate to yourself and to be curious how to...
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The Covenant Shooting: The Trauma Egg
I am sad, angry, shocked, mystified and I don't even know what else and I was not directly impacted by the horrific shooting on Monday March 27, 2023. How can we live in a country where this seems to keep happening? What can we do to change our system? What can we do to heal our hearts? What can…
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Suicide: A Very Sad Part
Approaching suicide the same as any other negative coping mechanism with kindness, compassion and curiosity, may be the best way to help yourself or someone else that is struggling with suicide. At it's core, suicide is not a desire to die. It is a desire to stop hurting. When we acknowledge...
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Parts Therapy: Understanding How to Heal
We often think of ourselves as one whole person but at the same time we often feel conflicting messages to work hard but not too hard. Lose weight but do it in a healthy way. Don't shout at that driver sitting at the green light in front of you texting. Sometimes we have big emotionally reactions...
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Self-Care: The Foundation of Healing
Self-care is not only essential for healing wounds, it is also essential for enjoying life. We all agree that for a car to run well, we must put gas in it, periodically change the oil and the tires and generally pay attention to anything that doesn't sound right. If we would apply this same...
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Kindness, Compassion and Curiosity: The Keys to Emotional Healing
In this episode, I will share my fundamental approach to counseling. What are the necessary components for healing to occur? In essense, healing occurs when we are kind in our words and actions, towards ourselves and others, compassionate in our thoughts and curious about how to send more good...
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How Can I Help You
My name is Alan Pennington. I am The Curious Counselor. In this episode I will share a little about myself and my approach to healing and share my goals for the podcast. I would like to help you: - be a more kind, compassionate version of yourself - identify internal lies (I'm not good enough, I...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
A thoughtful journey exploring our pain and looking for ways to heal. It's not just the trauma experiences that hurt us but the negative messages they leave, that we are not good enough, we don't do enough and/or we don't feels safe. Healing occurs when we start to realize, "we are good enough", "we do enough", and "it's ok to feel safe when we are safe".In this series of podcasts, I'll use kindness, compassion and curiosity to explore our pain and suggest various ways to bring healing to yourself and those around you.
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A thoughtful journey exploring our pain and looking for ways to heal. It's not just the trauma experiences that hurt us but the negative messages they leave, that we are not good enough, we don't do enough and/or we don't feels safe. Healing occurs when we start to realize, "we are good enough",...
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