The Dervish and the Mermaid
by Pace & Kyeli
Pace (the Dervish) is a Sufi, a Pathfinding coach, a pansexual polyamorous transgender Dance Dance Revolution (DDR) player, and an Enneagram 3. Kyeli (the Mermaid) is a wildhearted witch, a self-love advocate, disabled, adventurous, and an Enneagram self-pres 4. Together, we fight crime! ...as well as curiously explore how the world works, build bridges of compassion by working to understand people who are different, investigate how to be effective activists when we're both highly sensitive, and generally explore life through the lens of mystic feminist queer gamer geeks. We live our lives wholeheartedly and we're here to help you do the same. We publish a new episode every Thursday morning, so tune in to join us for these and all sorts of other shenanigans! p.s. This is the podcast formerly known as Wild Crazy Meaningful Life (and also the podcast formerly known as Wild Crazy Meaningful Enneagram); listen to <a href="htt
Episodes
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WCML 120: Peaceful Productivity 5: Peaceful Mind Management
Productivity? Ehh, maybe later. Procrastination makes you crater. Thrashing can stop you, Overwhelm drops you. What if you had a translator? procrastination this could be because you’re overwhelmed, thrashing, or unmotivated. We’ll cover the first 2 of these today. (Motivation was covered in WCML...
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WCML 119: Peaceful Productivity 4: Peaceful Time Management
“Productively manage your time.” Sounds like a steep uphill climb. But that is fallacious! You can feel spacious, And slacking need not be a crime. “not enough time” is a polite lie aligning your time with your priorities WCML 068: Wild Crazy Meaningful Death, with Caitlin Doughty pathfinding...
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WCML 118: Peaceful Productivity 3: Peaceful Motivation
Productivity? Self-flagellation. But only if you feel stagnation. Begin at the root And the rest follows suit: Help yourself feel motivation! we do what we most want to do (triple soul) why this is helpful – e.g. resistance to habit, procrastination, thrashing goals vs. intentions. does “goal”…
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WCML 117: Peaceful Productivity 2: Peaceful Habits
Productivity isn’t traumatic If you make it less vague and erratic. Don’t push and don’t force, Instead, set the course, Then accomplish things on automatic! when it’s good to be on autopilot and when it’s dangerous. habits vs. practices (autopilot vs. mindful) habits got a bad rap “morning...
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WCML 116: Peaceful Productivity 1: Peaceful Self-Care
Productivity? Better beware. I’ll compare, which will lead to despair. Instead of this struggle, How ’bout a nice snuggle? Let’s start off with peaceful self-care. making peace with productivity “I am hard on myself when I feel unproductive.” survey question. half the class agreed and the other...
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WCML 115: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2017
2017 is nigh here; Let’s shift to a much lower gear. We’ve always preferred To choose just one word To set our intent for the year. Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry, easy mode Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid, epic How…
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WCML 114: Living a wholehearted life
If to thine own self you are true, If there’s nothing you wish to undo, You won’t fall apart. You’ll have your whole heart, And that means you’ll have your whole you. all 9 limericks” “God doesn’t care about the size of your cookies.” -Kyeli WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to […]
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WCML 113: Caging the Beast Within: What if you’re secretly a bad person who fakes being a good person?
I must keep the beast under guard, In a cage always minded and barred. If the beast were set free, I fear I would be As awful as Jean-Luc Picard. A bad person + a conscience = a good person A selfish person + a filter = a considerate person A selfish person is a […]
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WCML 112: It’s okay to rest
“Get out there and give it your best! Your friends are all being oppressed!” What if I’m too stressed, Or madly depressed? What if I need to just rest? WCML 109: First, become okay. Afterward, you can deal with everything else. WCML 059: Self-care is a form of social justice, with Marsha Philitas...
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WCML 111: Making new friends
An endeavor on which much depends Is the process of making new friends. So let’s deconflate And recalibrate: First, figure out what one intends. First, get clear on exactly what you’re looking for. Second, figure out where and how to ask. Third, ask. Hangoutability Heartconnection Favoraskability...
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WCML 110: Moving shenanigans!
Due to all of our movin’ and panickin’ We have the brainpower of mannequins. So here are the tales Of the trips and travails Of our Lansingward moving shenanigans. The tale of our move to Lansing and all the hijinks that have ensued, along with our hard-learned lessons. WCML 058: Technically...
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WCML 109: First, become okay. Afterward, you can deal with everything else.
When you’re losing your shit in the fray, You must throw your perfection away. Let go of tough stuff And embrace “good enough”. Priority One: be okay. Our shortest podcast ever, with a simple but important message! Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode,...
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WCML 108: “Talone time”, forking, and spooning
There’s two people in the same room, Each toe-tapping to their own tune. Here in New York, We call that a fork, And together time, we call a spoon. being intentional with your time The Power of Now Finnish and Japanese Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this…
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WCML 107: What Kelly learned from living with us for a year (and vice versa)
Our friendship never has wavered Though we lived even closer than neighbors Soon we have to adjourn So let’s share what we learned From our time together here at the Wayward Ever wanted to live with us for a year? Well now you can – vicariously through Kelly! All 3 of us will share what […]
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WCML 106: Applied Pathfinding: Our hunt for a new home
Do you go with your logic so capable, Or trust in your faith that’s unbreakable? What we do and say Is to ask and to pray For the signs to be made unmistakable. Here’s an update on our house hunt, and what we’ve learned about guidance, logic, and love in the process. Also, Project Runway. […]
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WCML 105: High-demand groups, part 2 of 2 (with Emma and Kelly)
Emma, with whom we’ll consult, Is a lovely and awesome adult. And if you’re concerned, She’ll share what she learned From spending six years in a cult. (And Kelly I rashly insult.) A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your...
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WCML 104: High-demand groups, part 1 of 2 (with Emma and Kelly)
Emma, with whom we’ll consult, Is a lovely and awesome adult. And if you’re concerned, She’ll share what she learned From spending six years in a cult. (And Kelly I rashly insult.) A high-demand group is a group that makes high demands on your time and attention, also sometimes your money, your...
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WCML 103: Addiction
When you’re thinking about an addiction, You think of a common affliction Like smoking or booze. You can also abuse Control, or tattoos, Or paddling canoes, Or visiting zoos, Or watching Tom Cruise On Netflix, or news, Or cooking great stews, Or futzing with hues, Or looking for clues, Or…
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WCML 102: How to make a big decision? Admit you’ve already decided.
A decision: you’re feeling divided. You’d like to be lucidly guided. One way you can know What to do, where to go, Is admit you’ve already decided. Sometimes we agonize for weeks, months, or years over a decision that we’ve actually already decided. Here’s how you can shorten your agony loop! The...
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WCML 101: How to apologize (and how not to apologize)
If you want to learn how to apologize With a method that doesn’t antagonize, The first step: undo What’s expected of you. Be intentional! Then you can customize. “I am unharmed” “I prefer it” The worst apology ever What do I get out of being right? Lying Lester and Honest Hal Live apology…
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WCML 100: What have we learned in the past 3 years?
We’ve stumbled, we’ve triumphed, we’ve blundered. We’ve held hands, we’ve learned, and we’ve wondered. Today, here’s the best of 3 years, all compressed, To celebrate podcast 100! How have we grown spiritually over the past 3 years? How has our business changed over the past 3 years? Kyeli’s epic...
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WCML 099: Deconflate!
Fear says, “If you were sedate, you would die.” But let’s get one thing straight. You still have your good sense Even when you’re not tense. They’re two different things: deconflate! fear vs. good sense forgive vs. forget kindness vs. doormat WCML 025: The Superior Worf Hypothesis romantic…
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WCML 098: Shame (and how to heal from it)
If you would like invincibility from shame, fear, and irritability, The only way you Can achieve this is through Compassion and vulnerability. Brene Brown guilt vs. shame sex Why I hate compassion sword theory how to heal from shame how to speak in non-shaming ways moral theory (with examples…
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WCML 097: What’s New with Pace and Kyeli? A miraculous dream, a shamanic vision, and an imminent move, for starters…
Due to imminent landlord romancing, Our location will soon be advancing. There might be extremes From miraculous dreams, But we’re probably moving to… WCML 056: The cycle of guidance Kyeli’s miraculous dream nurashkijerrahi.org “Don’t let the hurt of the past prevent the growth of the future.”...
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WCML 096: Bigness and Smallness: Why we sometimes feel up to solving problems and sometimes feel daunted by them (and what to do about it)
Sometimes, you can handle it all. Other times, you curl into a ball. These lows and these highs Are both caused by your size: Sometimes you’re big, sometimes you’re small. What do we mean by “bigness” and “smallness”? How to become bigger How to get a bigger mech suit Empowerment Compassion…
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WCML 095: How to Be You, with Jeffrey Marsh
Jeffrey Marsh is disinclined To be censored, caged, or confined. So let’s get unchained And perhaps entertained. To start, it is simple: be kind. Jeffrey Marsh is a beautiful human being who has told millions of people that there is nothing wrong with them. Jeffrey’s new book, How to Be You, is...
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WCML 094: MasterHeart: Like a mastermind but, you know, heartier.
First, find a good place to host it, And purchase a butt-ton of post-its. Your woes that frustrate We’ll now illustrate And together, we’ve soon diagnosed it. Pace and Kyeli pull back the curtain and reveal their MasterHeart process, and how you can create your own MasterHeart group. Then, as an...
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WCML 093: Don’t “should” all over yourself: self-love and reducing negative self-talk
With only a slight risk of perjury We’ll say that this show’s about surgery. We’ll cut out your “should” And heal it for good, With the help of the rad Linda Mercury. self-love, gender, and non-binary WCML 083: The future of gender (part 2) with Ealasaid Haas When you think “I should”, ask, “Who...
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WCML 092: What do you consider a successful life? (part 2 of 2)
And once you’ve discerned this ambition, There’s no need for harsh admonition. Instead, re-begin With a new way to win: A victory redefinition. Your “success condition” is what you’re optimizing your life for. This time, we cover Steps 3 and 4. Step 1: Become aware of your current, probably...
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WCML 091: What do you consider a successful life? (part 1 of 2)
Are you seeking fame, recognition? Big dreams to be brought to fruition? Or something that pays? Your answer displays Your life’s central victory condition. Your “success condition” is what you’re optimizing your life for. Step 1: Become aware of your current, probably subconscious, success...
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WCML 090: Curvy Yoga and Loving Your Body, with Anna Guest-Jelley
It’s okay to wear a bikiniDespite that your body’s not teeny.Anna Guest-JelleySays “yes!” to your belly;Please welcome this curvy yogini. Anna’s story of becoming a yoga teacher “Holy shit, I can be fat and still love my body?!” Marilyn Wann’s “Fat! So?” Curvy Barbie listening to your body...
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WCML 089: You’re Not Too Much with Leela Sinha
Do folks say that you’re too intense? That your feelings are much too immense? Leela Sinha’ll explain That you are not insane. So let us get hype and commence! Intensives and Expansives How Intensives related to the Enneagram and to Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) Intensives are like India;...
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WCML 088: A Mystical Interpretation of The Witness
Here’s how The Witness moved me, as spoiler-free as possible – and how it applies to life, the universe, and everything. The Witness is grand and artistical, Its puzzles are all but simplistical. But when you see the signs, Read between all the lines, There’s hidden a meaning that’s mystical.…
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WCML 087: “If you’re not going to devote yourself to it 24/7/365, why bother?”
I got rid of Facebook’s banality, And started to face my mortality. With nothing to numb, I’ve got to find some- thing that counts as my core speciality. Kyeli discusses her mid-life crisis with Pace, and faces some hardcore limiting beliefs. mid-life crisis ticking off all the tickyboxes on the...
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WCML 086: If social media doesn’t light you up, ditch it!
As an intentionality zealot, I have some big news and I’ll tell it. I like Facebook, but I’ve been stuck in a rut: I want it like a rat wants a pellet. There are 2 ways to live an interesting life: 1. Fill your life up with awesome things 2. Empty your life of things […]
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WCML 085: Choosing self-love over weight loss
Losing weight is a painful offender; It can drain you regardless of gender. It isn’t sustainable; It’s nigh unattainable, So let’s choose self-love, and surrender. Kyeli’s body epiphany “11 Reasons Your ‘Concern’ for Fat People’s Health Isn’t Helping Anyone” or as Kyeli says, “N reasons concern...
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WCML 084: Day Made: The Daymaker Saga, with Alex Franzen
When you make someone’s day, you can change their life and change the world. Alex Franzen’s a writer with attitude. Her kindness outweighs her exactitude. She’s got fantastic fashion sense And butt-tons of passion, since She keeps her heart grounded in gratitude. The story of Daymaker David…
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WCML 083: The future of gender (part 2) with Ealasaid Haas
Don’t drink the blue and pink lemonade; Instead, break the binary barricade. You thought we were through But we’re back for part 2: Let’s talk about gender with Ealasaid! Ealasaid Haas is non-binary and has a lot to say about it! WCML The future of gender part 1 “My gender is ‘gender is stupid.'”...
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WCML 082: Being a Geek Girl with Jean MacDonald
Whether Star Trek or gaming or Perl, Lady nerds, let your geek flag unfurl! We’re talking with Jean About what does it mean To be both a geek and a girl. App Camp For Girls Girls Rock Camp “your bass line doesn’t even compile!” Star Trek Voyager Risus gaming system Why it’s awesome to be a […]
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WCML 081: Playing the SuperConditions game, with Dyana Valentine
To help you achieve your ambitions, Make use of your predispositions. To be at your best, Let’s go on a quest To discover your SuperConditions! ringtones What is a SuperCondition? strategic sacrifice excavating truth the conscious structure of my best life organized for chaos The 5 pieces of the...
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WCML 080: The End of the Unicorn at the End of the Rainbow
“I just want to play and amass gold; This path is too much of a hassle!” The rainbow’s true treasure Is not gold and leisure: It leads to the unicorn’s… There’s this myth that when you’re on your path, it’s all unicorns and rainbows. That’s not always true. What’s at the end of the rainbow? […]
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WCML 079: Rephrasing things awesomely
Words have the power to shape thoughts and change the world. They also have the power to hurt others. Can we have both love and power in our language? Highlights: rephrasing obligation words rephrasing limitation words rephrasing violent words rephrasing sexist words rephrasing racist words where...
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WCML 078: Tarot and Astrology for Pathfinding, with Theresa Reed
your path doesn’t always have to do with your work our Jewels: Truth, Nourishment, Courage the Major Arcana corresponding to our Jewels: Justice, Empress, Strength Mary Greer, Who Are You In the Tarot? cats dressed in Victorian clothes a Tarot spread for Pathfinding finding your Tarot card for…
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WCML 077: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the year for 2016
Pace’s previous words of the year: acceptance, annihilation, surrender, pantry Kyeli’s previous words of the year: courageous, open, mermaid How “pantry” contributed to 2015 sucking Pace’s word of the year for 2016 Kyeli’s word of the year for 2016 Links: WCML 039: Pace and Kyeli’s words of the...
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WCML 076: Hang out and chill with Pace and Kyeli
Hang out and chill with Pace and Kyeli. No agenda, just chatting about what’s new and a few things you didn’t know about us. Thanks for listening to Wild Crazy Meaningful Life! If you enjoyed this episode, please review us on iTunes and send your friends to WildCrazyMeaningfulLife.com. That’s…
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WCML 075: Communication for the holidays, part 2
Here are some more of our best tips for making that awkward family visit even less awkward than it was in Part 1. the monkeysphere how you stay a kid in people’s minds how to deepen finding common ground you get to pick what you share about yourself you are not obligated what to do […]
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WCML 074: Communication for the holidays, part 1
Here are some of our best tips for making that awkward family visit a little less awkward. ask for what you need ahead of time What do you want to get out of this visit? the usual error How it’s different communicating with people you rarely visit different personality types boundaries “I am not...
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WCML 073: The future of gender
What the heck is gender anyway, and what is it going to be fifty years from now? What is gender? intersex Gender identity vs. gender presentation vs. gender role “I identify as Captain America on weekends.” What comes after feminism? “A lesbian is a woman who’s attracted to women and is old.”…
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WCML 072: Facing down your fear
Kyeli faced down her fear twice recently. Why is it awesome to face your fear… and how did she do it? The Visit, by M. Night (spoiler-free) our Creep Agreement What would you tell your 13-year-old self, Kyeli? scared vs. terrified Kyeli faces her fear of the basement Why is it awesome to face…
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WCML 071: Wild Crazy Meaningful Wives
Today is Pace and Kyeli’s 10th anniversary! This is the story of how we met, dated, and got married. LiveJournal and the bi poly kinky pagan gamer geeks “Your life really sucks.” the application process polyamory and the triad our sex life Witchcamp and being a 13-year-old girl our son Dru the...
About this show
Pace (the Dervish) is a Sufi, a Pathfinding coach, a pansexual polyamorous transgender Dance Dance Revolution (DDR) player, and an Enneagram 3.
Kyeli (the Mermaid) is a wildhearted witch, a self-love advocate, disabled, adventurous, and an Enneagram self-pres 4.
Together, we fight crime! ...as well as curiously explore how the world works, build bridges of compassion by working to understand people who are different, investigate how to be effective activists when we're both highly sensitive, and generally explore life through the lens of mystic feminist queer gamer geeks.
We live our lives wholeheartedly and we're here to help you do the same.
We publish a new episode every Thursday morning, so tune in to join us for these and all sorts of other shenanigans!
p.s. This is the podcast formerly known as Wild Crazy Meaningful Life (and also the podcast formerly known as Wild Crazy Meaningful Enneagram); listen to <a href="htt
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