The Heather Bonham Show

Who is (really and truly) your competition? Additional Links: My new book (Kindle or Paperback) ⁠Acres of Diamonds for Your Marriage⁠ Most Popular Episode: 123 -⁠ ⁠Real Self Care⁠⁠ Recommended Episode: 033 -⁠ ⁠Thanksgiving “Rules”? ⁠⁠  My other, short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for all of the creatives out there,⁠ ⁠The Inner Creative⁠⁠

Self-Care vs Selfish … what is the difference? Additional Links: My new book (Kindle or Paperback) ⁠Acres of Diamonds for Your Marriage⁠ Most Popular Episode: 123 -⁠ ⁠Real Self Care⁠⁠ Recommended Episode: 033 -⁠ ⁠Thanksgiving “Rules”? ⁠⁠  My other, short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for all of the creatives out there,⁠ ⁠The Inner Creative⁠⁠

Additional Links: My new book (Kindle or Paperback) Acres of Diamonds for Your Marriage Most Popular Episode: 123 - ⁠Real Self Care⁠ Recommended Episode: 033 - ⁠Thanksgiving “Rules”? ⁠  My other, short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for all of the creatives out there, ⁠The Inner Creative⁠

140 - What do you say “YES” to? Mentioned: 100 - How to Know Your Real Priorities Most Popular Episode: 123 - Real Self Care Recommended Episode:033 - Thanksgiving “Rules”?   Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details, or just to know about upcoming episodes. Don't miss a thing - stay in the Loop! Just click here to add your email! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ My other, short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for all of the creatives out there, The Inner Creative

Are you a dreamer, or a doer? My Top Episode: 123 - Real Self Care ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/Midlife-Best-123---Real-Self-Care-em6quq⁠  My Current Recommended Episode: 033 - Thanksgiving “Rules”?  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/The-Learning-Coach-033---Thanksgiving-Rules-e2kf95⁠  The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠⁠ Stay in the Loop! Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details, or just to know about upcoming episodes. Don't miss a thing - stay in the Loop! Just click here to add your email (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ More Recommended Resources: Get Fit with Rick (YouTube Channel): https://youtube.com/@RickBhullarFitness?si=Pq0kkVoD2Cq3xCIK

138 - Email isn’t going away! It’s a communication tool, so make peace with it and learn to use it more effectively. My Top Episode: 123 - Real Self Care ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/Midlife-Best-123---Real-Self-Care-em6quq⁠  My Current Recommended Episode: 033 - Thanksgiving “Rules”?  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/The-Learning-Coach-033---Thanksgiving-Rules-e2kf95⁠  The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠⁠ Stay in the Loop! Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details, or just to know about upcoming episodes. Don't miss a thing - stay in the Loop! Just click here to add your email (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ More Recommended Resources: FlyLady (Marla Cilley) - Thanksgiving links.  Download her FREE Holiday Control Journal (planner).  Recipe for a stress-free celebration:http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2019/11/25/recipe-for-a-stress-free-celebration-2/ Everyday Cheapskate (Mary Hunt) https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/  and holiday tips https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/holidays-and-special-occasions/

137 - What are you tracking? It’s free, you can start immediately, and it’s proven to work! Today's Mentions: Full Focus https://fullfocus.co/  "Goals Research Summary" (Dominican University, Professor Gail Matthews) https://www.dominican.edu/sites/default/files/2020-02/gailmatthews-harvard-goals-researchsummary.pdf  Frequently monitoring progress toward goals increases chance of success (American Psychological Association Meta-Analysis) https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/10/151029101349.htm  My Top Episode: 123 - Real Self Care ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/Midlife-Best-123---Real-Self-Care-em6quq⁠  My Current Recommended Episode: 033 - Thanksgiving “Rules”?  ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/The-Learning-Coach-033---Thanksgiving-Rules-e2kf95⁠  The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠⁠ Stay in the Loop! Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details, or just to know about upcoming episodes. Don't miss a thing - stay in the Loop! Just click here to add your email (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ More Recommended Resources: FlyLady (Marla Cilley) - Thanksgiving links.  Download her FREE Holiday Control Journal (planner).  Recipe for a stress-free celebration:http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2019/11/25/recipe-for-a-stress-free-celebration-2/ Everyday Cheapskate (Mary Hunt) https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/  and holiday tips https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/holidays-and-special-occasions/

Three months until Christmas! That's a long time ... or is it? In today's show, I share three ways to have less-stressful holidays, and yes, you can (and maybe even should) begin today. Links to Previous Episodes: Top Episode: 123 - Real Self Care https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/Midlife-Best-123---Real-Self-Care-em6quq  Mentioned: 033 - Thanksgiving “Rules”?  https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heatherbonham/episodes/The-Learning-Coach-033---Thanksgiving-Rules-e2kf95  Recommended Resources: FlyLady (Marla Cilley) - Thanksgiving links.  Download her FREE Holiday Control Journal (planner).  Recipe for a stress-free celebration: http://www.flylady.net/d/br/2019/11/25/recipe-for-a-stress-free-celebration-2/  Everyday Cheapskate (Mary Hunt) https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/  https://www.everydaycheapskate.com/holidays-and-special-occasions/  SmartyPig https://www.smartypig.com/  The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details, or just to know about upcoming episodes. Don't miss a thing - stay in the Loop! Just click here to add your email (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠

We all tell ourselves stories, to our benefit or to our detriment. We can tell the truth and yet still have a choice as to how we want to narrate the little stories that construct the larger story of our life. Stay in the loop! Just click here to add your email. (Yes, the email service has a weird URL. No idea.):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Links: The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠ Book - Read This or Die!: Persuading Yourself to a Better Life https://a.co/d/cMrBcG5

Two free and simple techniques to help you get unstuck, increase your productivity, and decrease your stress level. Don't think it will work? Give them a try for a week and let me know how it goes! (And I am at work on a new project that will help!) Stay in the loop! Just click here to add your email. (Yes, the email service has a weird URL. No idea.):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Links: Focus at Will: https://www.focusatwill.com/ "Getting Things Done" by Robert Allen: https://a.co/d/g6nM4Pa "The Pomodoro Technique" by Francesco Cirillo: https://a.co/d/g8iMzCc Full Focus (Michael Hyatt's company): https://fullfocus.co/ The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠

It's the Back-to-School episode! Stay in the loop! Just click here to add your email. (Yes, the email service has a weird URL. No idea.):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Links: "All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten" by Robert Fulghum: https://a.co/d/iLmXom8 "You've Got Mail" (1998 - I thought it was from the 80s!) https://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/B001N3LLH4/ref=atv_dp_share_cu_r The Inner Creative (Podcast) - My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for creatives: ⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠⁠

How to draw a line in the sand. - 3 step series of decisions (clear and simple) - The importance of your WHY Interested in personal coaching or in joining a new creative cohort (group coaching) this fall? Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details, or just to know about upcoming episodes. Don't miss a thing - stay in the Loop! Just click here to add your email (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ Links from previous episodes: My short series podcast (30 daily episodes) for all of the creatives out there, The Inner Creative: ⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠⁠ Link to the book, "How to Live on 24 Hours a Day," by Arnold Bennett (Audible version):  ⁠⁠https://a.co/d/7g7sJXN⁠⁠ Link to the book, "Wake Up and Live!" by Dorothea Brande:  ⁠⁠https://a.co/d/2eAyaSo⁠⁠ Link to the book, "The Artist's Way," by Julia Cameron:  ⁠⁠https://a.co/d/7g7sJXN⁠

Two reasons you might be stuck creatively - and how to get unstuck! Interested in personal coaching or a new creative cohort? Make sure you sign up for the email list for more details! Stay in the Loop! Email sign-up here (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠⁠⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠ ⁠⁠ Links from previous episode: My 2020 short series podcast (30 daily episodes), The Inner Creative: ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative⁠ Link to the book, "How to Live on 24 Hours a Day," by Arnold Bennett (Audible version):  ⁠https://a.co/d/7g7sJXN⁠ Link to the book, "Wake Up and Live!" by Dorothea Brande:  ⁠https://a.co/d/2eAyaSo⁠ Link to the book, "The Artist's Way," by Julia Cameron:  ⁠https://a.co/d/7g7sJXN⁠

Creative process update! Writing, of course. How do we find the time? The motivation? (And we all have help around the house, did you know?!?!) My 2020 short series podcast (30 daily episodes), The Inner Creative: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnercreative Link to the book, "How to Live on 24 Hours a Day," by Arnold Bennett (Audible version): https://a.co/d/7g7sJXN Link to the book, "Wake Up and Live!" by Dorothea Brande: https://a.co/d/2eAyaSo Link to the book, "The Artist's Way," by Julia Cameron: https://a.co/d/7g7sJXN Stay in the Loop! Email sign-up here (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠

Time and time again, I've seen it ... people who are struggling with invisible chains that need to be released. Do you bloom where you are planted? You should! However, I have realized that plants do not all bloom in the same soil! Link to the Zig Ziglar video discussed in this episode (a must watch and well worth your time!): https://youtu.be/0Nn5J_2K5ZA Stay in the Loop! Email sign-up here (yes, the email service has a weird URL):  ⁠https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840⁠

Perfectionism - continuing the series. You must manage tendencies you have toward perfectionism, and you can learn to let go, before it affects your work as well as your relationships. (And you are always in a relationship, including with yourself and your Creator!) Grace is a beautiful thing. Stay in the Loop! Email sign-up here (yes, the email service has a weird URL): https://fragrant-smoke-4972.ck.page/f173517840

YOU are one of your “loved ones!” Mentioned: FlyLady’s “Sink Reflections” and her stained glass intentional imperfections. Working out at Orangetheory Fitness is hard, but so far, it’s manageable. Go watch the 1965 pilot episode of “I Dream of Jeannie.” Then go watch, “What About Bob?”

Happy New Year 2023! Beat perfectionism by adjusting your mindset to be successful in the real world. Do you make resolutions or goals? The way to go is to set goals based on realistic progress steps.

Updates and coaching. Lots of recommended resources! (High value for low cost or even free!)

You already know enough to take a step in the right direction. Remember to ask: “What does this make possible?” Referenced in this episode - Episode 100: https://anchor.fm/heatherbonham/episodes/Midlife-Best-100---How-to-Know-Your-Real-Priorities-eauk3b

Self care has become a trendy phrase-of-the-moment. It’s important, but I think we’ve lost sight of what it really means to take care of one’s self, and why we need to ensure that we do so.

Checking in, the state of education, and upcoming holidays. Referenced - Episode 33 - Thanksgiving “Rules”

What I’ve been up to since my last episode, and the importance of acknowledging our own feelings.

I have a 30 Day (at least) new project!  It's called "The Inner Creative." Here is the link for the new blog:  https://bonhamheather.wixsite.com/theinnercreative     You can find all of the new blog posts there.   The podcast RSS feed is now up and running on that site, so the podcast episodes will be available there as soon as they are published.  If you want to find them in your favorite podcast player, the distribution takes a little time, but it should show up any day.  Just search for "The Inner Creative."

I had a crazy idea - and I tried it! I decided to walk a marathon, but not all at once. Did it work? What did I expect to happen (and what results did I get)? Would I do it again? Find out all about it in this week’s episode.

My upcoming book is all about day jobs and dreams. They are not incompatible. In fact, you may find them working together to give you a well-rounded life. What’s your Next Big Thing?

Change your life for cheap - this episode will tell you how.  (And the FREE mini-course available on my website, www.MidlifeBest.com, is a great complement to this episode!) You can spend $2 or less, and make significant improvements in your personal life, your career or business, your relationships, your faith, your health, your finances ... in other words, any area.  It does not take much (if any) money, but it does take some effort. I share my tried-and-true recommended resources in this episode, and some of my backstory as well. Previous Midlife Best episodes mentioned: 041  "Do You Really Want to Change Jobs?"  https://anchor.fm/midlifebest/episodes/Midlife-Best---041---Do-you-really-want-to-change-jobs-e2v28b  063  "Quitting Well"  https://anchor.fm/midlifebest/episodes/Midlife-Best-063---Quitting-Well-e4chtn  099  "How and Why to Turn Down Job Offers"  https://anchor.fm/midlifebest/episodes/Midlife-Best-099---How-and-why-to-turn-down-job-offers-eaq6dd  115  "A Vital Step for Your Well-Being"  https://anchor.fm/midlifebest/episodes/Midlife-Best-115---A-vital-step-for-your-well-being-egofjc  116  "Get Unstuck Fast!  Unleash Your Creativity Today"  https://anchor.fm/midlifebest/episodes/Midlife-Best-116---Get-Unstuck-Fast---Unleash-Your-Creativity-Today-eh2hkl  Links: Website: www.MidlifeBest.com Podcast: https://anchor.fm/midlifebest YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK1GDSSc2bYy9LfXyu6SjjQ FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/MidlifeBest Twitter: https://twitter.com/bonhamheather Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/MidlifeBest Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-bonham-433b5128 Email: [email protected]

What’s your creative outlet? Do you need to get unstuck? There is a very cheap and easy way to unleash your creativity, and you can start today.   Today's podcast will remind you that you are a creative person, made in the image of a Creator.  You may have forgotten what you enjoy creating, or (more likely), you've spent a long time being "too busy" to create.  That excuse isn't good enough anymore. When should you start creating?  The time is now.  Move physically to jump-start your creativity, and you can enjoy a calmer mind and body, which helps you get back in touch with your creative side.  Tip:  Take a walk while you listen to today's episode! Website: www.MidlifeBest.com Podcast: https://anchor.fm/midlifebest YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK1GDSSc2bYy9LfXyu6SjjQ FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/MidlifeBest Email: [email protected]

You cannot be at your best when you are filled with fear and stress. You must look out for your own well-being during these times. You can guard yourself by curating the content that you read and listen to - and I have some great suggestions. Check out the MidlifeBest website, Facebook page, YouTube channel, and connect on Twitter. Also, email me at [email protected]. Related episodes: 056 and 069

I put on my educator hat, spend a little time in nature (bird squawking in the background!) and go back to this podcast’s roots, back when it was The Learning Coach. So - has education fallen apart? What happens in the fall? Is it worth it to pay $49,000 a year for virtual collegiate instruction? I’m a teacher and a parent - here are my thoughts. My first book, “Study Skills Survival Guide” is available on Amazon for just $2.99! https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07921JCSJ/ref=nodl_

When we take ownership of our decisions, big and small, we have more responsibility - but also, more power in our lives. Plus ... birthdays. AND - the updated website is up and running, with a free mini-course on the email sign-up on the Home Page. www.MidlifeBest.com

Where were you in June 2015? Where do you plan to be in June 2025? A lot happens in five years. I reflect on some challenges and successes, and I encourage you to do the same.

Do the mind and body work together?  Are goals and hope truly necessary for us all?  Can we make choices in ANY situation that are honorable and right? In this book study, we are looking at several themes from "Man's Search for Meaning," by Dr. Vikor Frankl.  You can listen to them in any order!   Episode 109 - Week One - Theme:  Humanity Episode 110 - Week Two - Theme:  Goals Episode 111 - Week Three - Theme:  Decisions Dr. Viktor Fankl was a psychiatrist and also a survivor of Auschwitz and other concentration camps.  Through his work, he not only descried the conditions of the camps, but he explored the mental, emotional, and spiritual lives of the prisoners in a way that only a survivor could.  He also created his own practice of psychiatry based on what he experienced and observed. We all make decisions large and small - but we may not realize their power.  In this episode, I explore the theme of "Decisions" and the great power and responsibility that Dr. Frankl suggested we all have, no matter the circumstances. * Are you a powerful reader? Do you want to be a better reader? You can "change your life for cheap" when you really learn how to study valuable books.  And here's the great thing about books: their tremendous value to you, the reader, doesn't usually come with a high price-tag. In fact, great books are easy and inexpensive to obtain! Visit my website, starting in June of 2020, and get your FREE copy of my mini-course, where you'll learn how to do a deep study of any nonfiction book. www.MidlifeBest.com This material was originally published on the Midlife Best Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/MidlifeBest/ The video episodes are also on the YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK1GDSSc2bYy9LfXyu6SjjQ/videos?view=0&sort=dd&shelf_id=0 You can also listen to the audio on the Midlife Best podcast, available on many streaming platforms, such as Spotify and Apple Podcasts, or through Anchor.FM here: https://anchor.fm/midlifebest Sponsorships

We are studying the book, "Man's Search for Meaning," by Dr. Viktor Frankl. If you're new to the book study, welcome! You can jump in at any time, whether or not you've read the book yet! You don't even have to watch (or listen) to these episodes in order. Dr. Frankl's book should be required reading in high schools and colleges. Even though it was written in 1946 (and translated into English in 1959), it's amazingly relevant for today's world. This book contains timeless wisdom. This week, we are looking at the theme of Goals.  To keep hope alive, and to continue to stand strong in the midst of unimaginable difficulty, Dr. Frankl never let go of his goals. He saw the importance of believing in the future, both in the concentration camps and again later in his work as a psychiatrist. He was realistic about his current situation, but he never gave up on his goals. Are you a powerful reader? Do you want to be a better reader? You can "change your life for cheap" when you really learn how to study valuable books.  And here's the great thing about books: their tremendous value to you, the reader, doesn't usually come with a high price-tag. In fact, great books are easy and inexpensive to obtain! Visit my website, starting in June of 2020, and get your FREE copy of my mini-course, where you'll learn how to do a deep study of any nonfiction book. www.MidlifeBest.com This material was originally published on the Midlife Best Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/MidlifeBest/ The video episodes are also on the YouTube page: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK1GDSSc2bYy9LfXyu6SjjQ/videos?view=0&sort=dd&shelf_id=0 You can also listen to the audio on the Midlife Best podcast, available on many streaming platforms, such as Spotify and Apple Podcasts, or through Anchor.FM here: https://anchor.fm/midlifebest

We are studying the book, "Man's Search for Meaning," by Dr. Viktor Frankl.    If you're new to the book study, welcome!  You can jump in at any time, whether or not you've read the book yet!  You don't even have to watch (or listen) to these episodes in order. Dr. Frankl's book should be required reading in high schools and colleges.  Even though it was written in 1946 (and translated into English in 1959), it's amazingly relevant for today's world.  This book contains timeless wisdom. This week, we are looking at the theme of Humanity.   If you've endured life's bumps and bruises (and we all have), or even if you've experienced major challenges or loss, you'll find a sense of connection to Dr. Frankl's stories of the simultaneous strength and weakness of other human beings. Are you a powerful reader?  Do you want to be a better reader?  You can "change your life for cheap" when you really learn how to study valuable books.   And here's the great thing about books:  their tremendous value to you, the reader, doesn't usually come with a high price-tag.  In fact, great books are easy and inexpensive to obtain!  Visit my website, starting in June of 2020, and get your FREE copy of my mini-course, where you'll learn how to do a deep study of any nonfiction book.  www.MidlifeBest.com This material was originally published on the Midlife Best Facebook page:  https://www.facebook.com/MidlifeBest/ The video episodes are also on the YouTube page:  https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK1GDSSc2bYy9LfXyu6SjjQ/videos?view=0&sort=dd&shelf_id=0 You can also listen to the audio on the Midlife Best podcast, available on many streaming platforms, such as Spotify and Apple Podcasts, or through Anchor.FM here:  https://anchor.fm/midlifebest

The book study begins May 19th.  Get your book now!   "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. This episode is an introduction to Dr. Frankl's background, his realizations and life lessons in a concentration camp, and 10 famous quotations.

Get your book now - the new series will start soon! It’s “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl.

The title says it all. Why? Listen in and I’ll explain.

This episode was supposed to be about why you should start a podcast, but it ended up being mostly about why I have continued podcasting for nearly two years. Now it’s time for me to consider what’s next.

Online school, staying home, and keeping the faith.

Published 3/12/2020

Education is a roller coaster. I’m sure all helping professions can be like that. We have to remember that we can’t fix everything or heal every injury in the world, but then, we were never called to. Being a unique puzzle piece, and valuing yourself as an irreplaceable part of that puzzle, are enough.

This week, I share my reflections on midlife and enjoying different stages of the career path.

You’ve heard the question, “What do you love to do so much that you’d work for free?” I have a new perspective. Referenced in this podcast - Episode 038.

Are you job hunting? If so, you want lots of interviews and multiple offers. I’ve been there and had to make those tough decisions. I share the reasoning in this episode.

Midlife Best Book Club - We are wrapping up our study of "How to Win Friends and Influence People," by Dale Carnegie. - If you need to brush up on your leadership skills (and I think we all do), Carnegie has plenty of suggestions and tips.   - Throughout this book study, we've been studying  a diversified tool kit for working with people.  Each of these tools may not work in every situation, but it's good to have them when you need them.   - Whether or not you have employees, you do have influence, and you will encounter situations that require you to be a leader. - The book club has been a great experience for me, and I hope you've enjoyed it, too!  I'm not starting another book study just yet, but you can still check out the Midlife Best podcast for new content.

Midlife Best We are reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People," by Dale Carnegie. - How can you find "fault" with someone else while still being kind and gentle?  (Similar to the Praise Sandwich or Oreo Cookie Technique) - What is a less-critical way to criticize?  (Hint:  it takes some creativity but it might be worth a try in certain situations.) - How can you let others know that we're all human and we're all still learning? - What is an alternative to giving direct orders?  (There's a time and a place for this key leadership skill.) Have a great week!  This book will wrap up with next week's episode.  Stay tuned!

Part of uncovering your Next Big Thing is to turn down the outside noise and learn to focus on your own personal work. There are plenty of gurus and experts, but you have to guard your time, money and energy. You already have most of your answers.

Midlife Best Book Club - How to Win Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie Part 3 - How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking, Chapters 9-12 - What do people really want, and what will appeal to everyone you interact with?  Hint:  these techniques are simple, and free to give and receive. - What do movies and TV use every day (that you might want to try for yourself)? - What can you try when nothing else seems to be working (especially when you're trying to motivate others)?