The Labia Lounge
by freyagraf
The juiciest podcast on the internet! Join me, Freya Graf - a Yoni Mapping Therapist & Holistic Sex Coach - in The Labia Lounge to yarn about all things sexuality, feminism, holistic health and everything in between...your legs! (Couldn‘t help myself!) Buckle up, you‘re about to receive the sex-ed you never had, from the girlfriend you now have, and have a bloody good laugh while you‘re at it! This poddy is full of real chats, with real people, about real shit. So give it a spin if you dare! My intention with The Labia Lounge is to demystify & de-stigmatise; empower & educate; laugh & get vulnerable while helping dismantle the shame around genitals, pleasure, and being a messy human through juicy conversations. It‘s a judgement & shame-free space that aims to normalise the aspects of being a human that we often feel alone in or too afraid to talk about, and reassure you that you‘re not broken! So pop ya feet up and let‘s flapp
Episodes
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Debutante Balls, Gender Conditioning, and the Rituals That Shape Us - Chats with Dan
A debutante ball can look like a glamorous night of dresses, limos, dancing, and family photos. Look closer, and the tradition carries older ideas about purity, heterosexuality, marriageability, gender roles, and who gets presented to society. This episode follows the thread from debutante balls…
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"Men Can't Handle a Woman Like Me" with Wren Rapture
This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with my darling friend Wren about being made to feel like we're "too much" for men to "handle" and how this shows up in dating. We also cover a bunch of recent tea from the Freya Finds A Fella campaign, and various other meaty topics like feminism, intimacy,...
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Micro Rebellions Against "Good Girl" Conditioning, Asking For What You Want & Becoming an Empowered Pillow Princess!
This bonus eppy is a candid hike-side conversation about casual sex, asking for pleasure, sexual boundaries, and the deeply ingrained conditioning that makes receiving or asking for what you want feel like taking too much. In this episode The conversation focused on a casual friends-with-benefits...
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The Hidden Costs of Being Single & Dating Experiment Updates
This week in The Labia Lounge I recorded an impromptu solo episode. In this eppy I speak on the less-talked-about realities of singlehood: the emotional labour of dating, the “single tax,” loneliness, reduced support, and the pressure to pretend that independence always feels empowering. I also...
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Boyfriend Dick vs Vacation Dick, Cervical Orgasms & Service Topping - Chats with Dan
This bonus episode of The Labia Lounge pod is a sizzler! I bring back my fav guest, Dan, for some candid chats about everything from cervical orgasms, dick size and preferences, body compatibility, and dirty talk all the way to soft domming, service topping, kink, ejaculation, and being able to...
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Why You’re Still Single When You Want Love with Lexy Davis
This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome Lexy Davis on to talk about dating as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign/dating experiment! We discuss why we can say we want love, then quietly keep it at arm’s length, and the sneaky hidden patterns that can keep women single, emotionally…
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Handling Rejection - How to Say "No" AND Receive a "No" - Bonus Ep for The Find Freya A Fella Campaign
In this bonus episode of The Labia Lounge podcast we're diving into some dating stories and tales of rejection as part of the #FindFreyaAFella campaign! I get my friend Matt on to chat about the unlikely story of how we met and became friends in the wake of a date invitation that I said "no" to.…
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Double Standards in The Dating World & Benevolent Sexism with Dr Mardi Wilson
This week in The Labia Lounge I have another Bonus episode for you as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign! I brought on my friend and expert labial legend Dr. Mardi Wilson to talk about the double standards in dating when it comes to how men and women are perceived and treated when they're...
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How to Attract Your Ideal Match & Filter Out The Rest When Dating with Ruby Josif
This week on The Labia Lounge I bring on the absolutely divine Ruby Josif to talk about how to use authenticity as a dickhead filter and attract our true people with our true selves. As part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign I'm chatting with friends and experts alike about all things dating on...
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Quit Dating Idiots and Trust Your Gut with Laura Forbes
This week on The Labia Lounge I'm back with my 201st episode! This one is a dating related episode as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign, and I'm interviewing Laura Forbes from 'Quit Dating Idiots'! She's a dating and relationships expert and this chat is super validating, empowering, and...
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Find Freya A Fella - Live Dating Game Show - 200th Episode !
My 200th episode of The Labia Lounge podcast!!! So wild to think about how many hours I've put into this and awesome guests I've interviewed over the last 4.5 years since launching the pod. This one is an extra special Bonus episode for ya - a live recording from that time I braved the stage as a...
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Committing to the Bit: Creativity, Chaos & Career with Heb on the Web
This week in The Labia Lounge I chatted earnestly with Heb on The Web about her creative, self-made lifestyle and career. Heb is a delight to hang with (you should check out her podcast Hangs with Heb) and we had such great yarns about the realities of choosing to commit to the bit and continue…
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How to Know if You've Violated Consent - Tools For Accountability & Repair with SafeBAE
Choking during sex is now so normalised among teenagers that most of them don't even clock it as a red flag. That's the world we're navigating — and in this episode, I sat down with the Shel and Drew from SafeBAE to talk about how we actually help young people find their way through it. We got…
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The Pussification of Bio-Tech & Growing Clits From Period Blood with Jiabao Li
This week in The Labia Lounge I interviewed the incredibly impressive Jiabao Li. Jiabao Li is an artist, inventor, and professor whose work explores more-than-human ecologies, feminist biotech, multispecies intelligence, and how technology reshapes perception. Her work has been exhibited at MoMA,...
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Polyamory That Doesn't Feel Like You're Dying with Clementine Morrigan
This week in The Labia Lounge I have Clementine Morrigan back on for our second episode together! What an epic human, honestly. This chat didn't disappoint and was just as enlightening, nuanced, and compassionate as the first one. Check out our other episode if you haven't already. It's about...
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From Spiritual-Fuckboys to Body Count Shaming - The Labia Lounge's First Ever Festival Episode!
This week on The Labia Lounge I'm rebooting an old classic. I've edited together the 3 episodes I recorded at Comfort Creek festival a couple of years ago, which was my first ever festival appearance with the IRL pussy couch! There are some wild conversations in here, and a pretty intriguing...
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Overcoming Penis Performance Insecurities, Perfectionism, and Lasting Longer in The Bedroom
This week in The Lab Lounge I have an informal yarn with a mate about his battles with premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, perfectionism and neurodivergence, including his recent discovery that he has a form of OCD as well as ADHD. We cover how he overcame this crippling insecurity and...
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Boundaries, Blue Balls & Being Heard as a Woman with Sex Ed Princess
This week in The Labia Lounge I'm re-releasing a favourite of mine with Jill from Sex Ed Princess. Check out her work here: https://jill-lissner.com/ Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know…
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Sex Party Chinwags - Virtue & Vice Party 4th edition
This week on The Labia Lounge I got to talk to lots of fascinating party goers at the latest Virtue & Vice play party event. This is my 4th V & V party episode chatting with guests, and will be the last for some time as I let my vocal cords heal (I've recently discovered I've developed cysts on…
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"That time I shit myself..." - Funny Poo Stories from PBD Festival
This Bonus installment of The Labia Lounge is another doozie from PBD festival and you're gonna absolutely die with laughter in this one! I interviewed a combo of folk from my world and punters at PBD where I set up The Labia Lounge, asking them for stories of when they've shat themselves. And…
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Early Masturbation Stories - LIVE from PBD Festival - BONUS EP
In this special bonus episode of The Labia Lounge I set up the pussy couch at my favourite festival, PBD. I interviewed punters about their early masturbation experiences and their journeys of self discovery. We also end up discussing all sorts of other juicy stuff and it was such a treat to have...
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What Shapes Us Sexually with Brooke Bralove
This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with Brooke Bralove about what shapes sexuality. Brooke is a Clinical Social Worker, Psychotherapist, Sex Therapist, Certified Master Practitioner of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART). So she knows her shit! TOPICS WE COVER: Why your pleasure is your...
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Live @ Virtue & Vice Play Party, feat. The Funny Dom and other fun guests
This week in The Labia Lounge I've got some seriously tasty chats for you, straight from the mouths of Babes (with a capital B)! Babes who came for a yarn on the Lounge at a recent Virtue and Vice sex party, mind you, not babies! There's everything from a speech pathologist who's fighting the…
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Brunswick Cuck-Stop, Birds Are Gay, and Frottage - Chats with Dan
This week in The Labia Lounge I'm serving up more steaming hot Chats With Dan! It's turned out to be a bit of a bird-y kinda episode, somehow... We chat pigeons, "bubble-ducking", cuckolding, and touchin' knobs (one of Dan's favourite and most under-rated pastimes) Enjoy this candid conversation...
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Part 6 of Chats With Dan - Drama Teacher Grooming
In another installment of Chats With Dan, we hear the heartbreaking and disturbing story of how Dan's drama teacher lost his job. Somehow, despite being possibly groomed while in High School by said drama teacher, Dan manages to tell this story with so much humour and perspective. Make sure…
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Taking Responsibility For Our Own Healing with Inna Segal's Secret Language of The Body
This week in the Lounge I chatted with Inna Segal, best-selling author of The Secret Language of The Body. Her journey began after years of illness and the tragic stillbirth of her child, which led her to discover a profound ability to heal herself. From that turning point, she dedicated her life...
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Reshaping Your Relationship To Porn with Dr Sarah Ashton
This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with founder of SHIPS (Sexual Health and Intimacy Psychological Services) and the Institute of Sexual Health Psychology Australia (ISHPA), Sarah Ashton. Dr Sarah Ashton is a sexual health psychologist and author with over 18 years’ experience working in...
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Coming Out, Cucking and Sex Tapes - part 5 of Chats with Dan
In this fifth installment of my mini-series with our sex-positive guest, Dan, we talk about his coming out story, puberty, kinks, porn, queer explorations, sugar daddies, and more. Dan shares the complex emotional process of coming out as a teenager, from navigating difficult parental reactions,...
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Understanding The Vagina-Gut Connection to Heal Recurrent Vaginal Infections & Dysbiosis with The Yoni Nutritionist
This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome the incredible Adrienne - AKA The Yoni Nutritionist - back on the pod! As a certified holistic nutritionist, women's health coach, and sexual health educator, Adrienne is renowned for her empowering work around vaginal and sexual health, with a particular...
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Masturbating With Food and Sex-ed Fails - Part 4 of Chats with Dan
In this special bonus episode, I continue my mini-series with my dear friend Dan — bringing you the fourth installment of our hilarious, candid, and totally TMI conversation. If you’re just tuning in, this ongoing series is sprinkled between regular episodes, offering bite-sized chunks packed…
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Glory Holes, Piss Gremlins and Melbourne's Infamous Fake Seizure Guy - Part 3 of Chats with Dan
This week in The Labia Lounge I've got part 3 of my candid mini-series with my delightfully sex-positive friend Dan. If you haven’t caught the first two parts yet, don't worry—you’ll still enjoy this episode, though you might want to check out the earlier conversations for the full ride. True to...
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The Missing Link: Fascia’s Role in Hormones, Libido & Reproductive Health with Founder of Block Therapy, Deanna Hansen
This week in The Labia Lounge we dive deep into the world of fascia, fascia decompression, and how these integral tissues affect our physical, emotional, and even sexual health. I welcome pioneer and Block Therapy founder Deanna Hansen onto the couch to discuss her journey, the science of fascia,...
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The Bedroom Gap: Why Women’s Sexual & Relational Satisfaction Still Gets Left Behind with Dr. Maria Sophocles
In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge I chat with Dr. Maria Sophocles—a pioneer in women's healthcare, menopause management, and female sexual health—for a deep dive into the "bedroom gap," gender equality, and how societal, historical, and medical factors impact sex and intimacy. Dr. Maria...
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Early Puberty, Sugar Babying, & Abraham Lincoln Pubes - Part 2 of Chats with Dan
In this second installment of my little series with my mate Dan, we chat about how he went through early puberty at the age of 8, got teased about his pubes, tried his hand at being a sugar baby, and had a shady surprise at an air BnB with his partner. Among other hilarious stories! Make sure...
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Dan Earns His 'Red Wings', Gets His First Boner, and Suffers Testicular Torsion - Part 1
In this very special episode, I kick off a TMI mini-series with my fabulous friend Dan — prepare yourself for stories, laughs, and some seriously sex-positive real talk. Basically this episode comprises of two or three hilarious stories that you're not gonna wanna miss. I almost wet myself the...
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De-centering Romance and Ditching the Relationship Scripts with Cyndi Darnell
This week in the Lounge, I'm joined by renowned sex therapist, sexologist, and relationship counselor Cyndi Darnell, for a juicy chat about breaking free from traditional relationship scripts and reimagining intimacy, romance, and connection. We delve into alternative styles of relating—including...
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Bicurious & Bisexual, Women-Only Play Parties with Skirt Club Founder, Genevieve LeJeune
In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge, I'm joined by the fabulous Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club—a global private members’ club for bi-curious and bisexual women. Genevieve shares the origin story of Skirt Club, talking about the gaps she noticed in spaces for women wanting to…
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Becoming Active Bystanders & Healing Harm in Our Communities with Rei Alphonso
This week on The Labia Lounge I am bringing you a powerful, practical, and deeply empowering conversation with Rei Alphonso. This chat dives into the real-life complexities of community responses to harm and conflict – from intimate partner violence and casual misogyny to microaggressions on the...
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Biohacking, Pleasure Stacks & Sex Tech for Better Orgasms with Susan Bratton
In this juicy episode, I'm joined once again by Susan Bratton, a total powerhouse bad b*tch and "intimacy expert to millions." Together, we dive deep into all things related to sexuality, pleasure, holistic health, and the evolution of our intimate lives—especially as we age. This time, the focus...
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Limerence vs Healthy Love with Orly Miller
Ever felt totally swept off your feet—so obsessed with someone you can’t focus, function, or stop replaying every text and glance in your head? In this episode of The Labia Lounge, I sit down with psychologist and author Orly Miller to peel back the layers on limerence: the misunderstood, often...
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Dating With A Disability with Emily Goodson
This week in The Labia Lounge, I welcome Emily Goodson—author, speaker, and advocate—to chat about her new book, "Dating Disability," and her powerful journey from 15-year-old confusion and low self worth to confidence, acceptance, and self-love. Emily shares the real talk on friend-zoning…
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Breakup Survival Guide - From Grief to Growth with Cole Zesiger
This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome breakup and relationship coach Cole Zesiger for an honest, compassionate, and deeply practical chat about breakups: the grief and loss, the existential crisis, and—the way back to yourself. If you’re in the trenches, freshly broken up, or struggling years...
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Eating Disorder Insights and How Full Recovery is Possible with Mia Findlay
This week in The Labia Lounge eating disorder recovery coach, Mia Findlay, shares her raw and unfiltered personal story, going way beyond the stereotypes to bust common myths and spark real hope for full recovery. We unpack the sneaky ways modern society, diet culture and social media reinforce...
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AuDHD and Neurospicy Dating & Relating Tips with Neurokinnection
This week in The Labia Lounge I got to chat with Lil Desille from Neurokinnection all about AuDHD and relationships! We’re diving deep into all the real, raw, and sometimes challenging and/or hilarious realities of navigating sex, dating, and relationships when you’re neurodivergent—or loving...
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AI Secrets Every Women Needs - Use Tech to Reclaim Your Power and Fight The Patriarchy with Dr Nici Sweaney of AI Her Way
When was the last time you felt truly empowered by technology? In this episode of The Labia Lounge, I sit down with Dr. Nici Sweaney—globally-recognized voice in ethical AI, fierce feminist leader, and founder of AI Her Way—to unpack some of the latest developments in AI and why women must have a...
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Tackling Performance Anxiety for All Genders with Christine Rafe of Good Vibes Clinic
In this episode of The Labia Lounge Christine Rafe from Good Vibes Clinic and I discuss how we can overcome performance anxiety, get out of our heads and have better intimacy. We cover the different ways performance anxiety can present and how it shows up differently for different genders; we…
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Breaking Inherited Narratives with Rebellious Curiosity: From Trauma to Transformation with Dr. Yemi Penn
This week on The Labia Lounge I chatted with Yemi Penn, a global thought leader, engineer, author, film-maker, researcher, and keynote speaker. On top of all these incredibly impressive accolades, Yemi is also delightfully warm, deeply empathetic, and wonderfully human. Speaking with her was such...
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Ditch Dating Apps and Find Love in The Wild with 'Human Love Quest'
This week on The Labia Lounge pod, I sit down with Conor and Xander, from Human Love Quest—a live, on-stage dating show! HLQ is a potent antidote to the monotony (and, let's face it, dehumanisation) of dating apps! We dive into the world of “dating in the wild,” exploring how to cultivate...
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Relationship Maintenance for Healthy and Thriving Partnerships with Zach Brittle
This week in The Labia Lounge we pulled up a clit cushion and wrapped our hands around a mug of hot cho-cho for an epic chat about all things relationships. My guest was Zach Brittle, host of Marriage Therapy Radio and the author of the bestselling relationship guide The Relationship Alphabet and...
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First Sex Party Stories, Swinging, Oodie Sex and Comfort Queening at Virtue & Vice's Boudoir
In this juicy, juicy (and loooong) episode of The Labia Lounge I got to chat with some seriously awesome folk while they attended Melbourne's largest and most deluxe play parties at Melbourne Pavilion. Virtue & Vice's 'Boudoir' event is a smorgasbord of sensory delights and performances and…
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About this show
The juiciest podcast on the internet!
Join me, Freya Graf - a Yoni Mapping Therapist & Holistic Sex Coach - in The Labia Lounge to yarn about all things sexuality, feminism, holistic health and everything in between...your legs! (Couldn‘t help myself!)
Buckle up, you‘re about to receive the sex-ed you never had, from the girlfriend you now have, and have a bloody good laugh while you‘re at it!
This poddy is full of real chats, with real people, about real shit.
So give it a spin if you dare!
My intention with The Labia Lounge is to demystify & de-stigmatise; empower & educate; laugh & get vulnerable while helping dismantle the shame around genitals, pleasure, and being a messy human through juicy conversations.
It‘s a judgement & shame-free space that aims to normalise the aspects of being a human that we often feel alone in or too afraid to talk about, and reassure you that you‘re not broken!
So pop ya feet up and let‘s flapp
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