The Messed Up Counsellor

Episode 109 Feeling misunderstood: Looking at our interactions and speaking the same languages what do they think of me can restrict us in what we say and do.

This episode looks at the role we play and when we are asked to take a responsibility role in the client's world

Episode 108 Trust and damaging relationships: How to build trust and what can break it down.

Episode 107 Annoying friends and colleagues, why do they annoy you so much and what do they hope to achieve from unsettling you.

Episode 106 The downside of being a counsellor, what the training organisations don’t tell you: The life of a counsellor the things you need to know.

Episode 105 Family and social traditions are they helpful: We have many things that we accept and that play out in our interactions to others, consciously or unconsciously what if some are poisonous for us.

Episode 104 The ending of relationships and becoming the leper: Why do people you used to frequent time with suddenly give you space or reject you.

Episode 103 Giving gifts and receiving attention: Why do some people find this hard to enjoy or receive and what drives it, what does it do for the person giving the gift.

Episode 102 Are teenagers lazy or we disrespecting their growth. Looking at what might be behind the lie ins and raiding the fridge.

What and why do I do this and what have I learnt along the way in the journey of podcasting, highs and lows.

Why do people try to put us in the middle and what can we do to disengage ourselves from the role, giving it back to others.

How often can we be fully us and why do we moderate us for the benefit of others or to protect ourselves.

Exploring the dynamics of rejection and love and how we might react to the emotional signals we get from others in a negative way.

Looking at the way we mentally construct language and why some people take an age to answer our verbal input. Thinking is the obstacle to talking.

Episode 96 Aging and the work ethic. What does aging do to us and when is it a positive or negative process, how can we accept it in an easier way.

Episode 95 Commitment what does it really do. By committing to another person’s needs does it increase trust and future security or feel imprisoned.

Episode 94 New Year resolutions: the good the bad and the inconsistency; make those resolutions work for you long term.

Episode 93 Christmas and New Year which amplifies Loss and Detachment, why is this time of year so hard to cope with and get through.

Episode 92: Feeling Misunderstood. Looking at our interactions and speaking the same languages, what do they think of me? And can they restrict us in what we say and do.

Episode 91 Diagnosis of an illness can devastate people and our reactions can help or hinder them and you.

Episode 90 Demands for assurance from others can lead to more pressure of responsibility, to save or persecute them.

Episode 89 Action/reaction the somatic experience and making sense of the interplay. Understanding what is you and what is the other can be daunting understanding the difference can be enlightening.

Episode 88 Suicide and the Grief process, the unique aspects. Exploring the process of grief when suicide is experienced and the different dynamics which happen.

87 The sub conscious and conscious why do we do what we do and who’s driving the bus. Sub conscious reactionary conscious thoughts.

Episode 86 Being the comic and hiding the insecurity. What does the persona of the comic process do and why do people use it to hide themselves or their true feelings.

Episode 85: Family systems and the family roles we play and own. Have you ever thought your in a play and just playing the role you have, what’s the systems role for you and can you escape it.

Episode 84: The period monthly cycle and the loss process. How does this physical experience inform or move your emotional feelings.

Episode 83: Reconnection to others when life’s traumatic events happen, how do we heal the divide.

Episode 82: What helps us feel safe when life events happen, what do we rely on to survive.

Episode 81: Positive aspects of change one door closes but another one opens, seeing the way forward instead of getting stuck with the loss.

Episode 80: Getting advice from others is it helpful or just a complication of the situation or does it challenge our loyalties and relationships.

Episode 79: Isolation and alienation, is it keeping you safe or just another way of expressing your individuality, what changes when it is forced upon you or part of your survival strategy. 

Episode 78: Acceptance of relationships you can’t change or control. The helplessness of letting go and coping with life on the other side of the divide.

Episode 77:From being a partner to becoming a carer the sad loss of the person you knew and the roles and responsibilities you take on. Helping to survive the hardest job of all.

Episode 76: Working with timelines to understand reactionary behaviours, finding the source to release the present emotional reactions.

Episode 75: Psychosomatic illness emotional start to physical pain, finding the origin not the destination. How to start a process of regaining your body.

Episode 74: Long distance relationships. why they can work and why sometimes it can be a disastrous process, keeping connected isn’t the easiest process.

Episode 75: Hoarding and keeping us safe. Building the wall to hide behind, what stimulates the need to hoard and fill the space to protect us.

Episode 72: Erectile Dysfunction is it all in your mind, what starts the process and why does it sometimes result in keeping ourselves emotionally safe.

Episode 73: Anniversary reactions and how to define and understand how they affect us and how to help spot them and work with them to minimise their effect.

Episode 70: Dyslexia he benefits not the negatives. What do we get from this underrated condition and what to celebrate in your uniqueness.

Episode 68: Gender, do we need it or does it get in the way. We are born with a gender prescribed to us by others, is this something that once we can have a view on hinders or helps us to exist in the world.

Episode 67:  Letters to help connect to your younger self, when we go through trauma when we are younger sometimes to emotionally protect ourselves, we can split from the actual trauma physically being experienced. The process discussed today will help to heal and reconnect those parts of us.

Episode 66: Time to find yourself again, when detaching from a relationship you need time to reconnect with the parts of you that have been in hibernation.

Self destruct behaviour and the drives to make your world secure. Why do we put our relationships under pressure seemingly destroying them and making the very thing we fear become a reality.

Living with conflict and keeping yourself emotionally safe: why do we live with conflict what does it give us.

Manipulation and why people derive pleasure from creating pain, seeing them through different eyes the doctor Jekyll and Mr Hyde process.

Molly and the challenge of being a young freelancer, coping with the pressure of proving yourself in the digital world. Coping with burnout and relationships and the fear of missing out.

Why does it go wrong? What can help to help smooth the waters? Today I’m looking at the obstacles that can prevent different generations understanding each other and explore some ways to achieve a better connection.

I’ve found that people look at the things which go wrong don’t often think of the things that go right. If 20% of our world is in turmoil or in a negative spiral, why can’t we consider the 80% which is going well.