The Messed Up Counsellor

Episode 125 Outside influences in our primary relationships. Why do others need to tell us what to do and where does that come from. Is it always helpful.

Episode 124 The maze of clinical diagnosis what’s our role. Do we need a diagnosis to offer therapy, does it get in the way or help the Client or us.

Episode 123 Its that time of year what am I going to do with the exam results now. How does it affect me and the moving on process to the next stage of your life.

Episode 122 Working environments and how different models relate to different Clients. Office, home or outside what do we do and why.

Episode 121 Self-disclosure is it any good and how far do we go. What’s helpful in self-disclosing and where do we stop, is it for the clients benefit or ours.

Episode 120 Climate change and our personal reaction to it. Should we have an opinion that we share and how do we change our work to accommodate it.

Episode 119 Self-employed the baby you’ve created and how to manage and nurture it within this world of therapy.

What is transference and how do we work with it. Understanding this concept and how valuable it can be to the work we do in the space between.

Episode 117 Counselling in another country and things to think about keeping us and the Client safe. In this world of connection across countries, what do we have to think about in providing our work and how difficult and sometimes illegal it could be.

How does life change and how do we cope with seeing a new understanding of mortality or coping with the changes we cant control.

Episode 114 Looking forward to the summer and why that helps us to lift mood and make us able to cope with the hard times in the long nights.

111 Action reaction using the clock face. Understand how to stop bad actions to understand reactions to give a positive cycle instead of a negative destruction.

Episode 114 Power and control in our work and relationships. What do we do to offset the power in-balance in those situations and why do we sometimes need to emphasise it and when does it become a hindrance

Episode 112 Teenagers and CYP getting them to open up: Using different language structures to get to know them better.

Episode 110 Riggers of being the authentic you. Are you ever truly you or an amalgamation of the you your supposed to be.

Episode 109 Feeling misunderstood: Looking at our interactions and speaking the same languages what do they think of me can restrict us in what we say and do.

This episode looks at the role we play and when we are asked to take a responsibility role in the client's world

Episode 108 Trust and damaging relationships: How to build trust and what can break it down.

Episode 107 Annoying friends and colleagues, why do they annoy you so much and what do they hope to achieve from unsettling you.

Episode 106 The downside of being a counsellor, what the training organisations don’t tell you: The life of a counsellor the things you need to know.

Episode 105 Family and social traditions are they helpful: We have many things that we accept and that play out in our interactions to others, consciously or unconsciously what if some are poisonous for us.

Episode 104 The ending of relationships and becoming the leper: Why do people you used to frequent time with suddenly give you space or reject you.

Episode 103 Giving gifts and receiving attention: Why do some people find this hard to enjoy or receive and what drives it, what does it do for the person giving the gift.

Episode 102 Are teenagers lazy or we disrespecting their growth. Looking at what might be behind the lie ins and raiding the fridge.

What and why do I do this and what have I learnt along the way in the journey of podcasting, highs and lows.

Why do people try to put us in the middle and what can we do to disengage ourselves from the role, giving it back to others.

How often can we be fully us and why do we moderate us for the benefit of others or to protect ourselves.

Exploring the dynamics of rejection and love and how we might react to the emotional signals we get from others in a negative way.

Looking at the way we mentally construct language and why some people take an age to answer our verbal input. Thinking is the obstacle to talking.

Episode 96 Aging and the work ethic. What does aging do to us and when is it a positive or negative process, how can we accept it in an easier way.

Episode 95 Commitment what does it really do. By committing to another person’s needs does it increase trust and future security or feel imprisoned.

Episode 94 New Year resolutions: the good the bad and the inconsistency; make those resolutions work for you long term.

Episode 93 Christmas and New Year which amplifies Loss and Detachment, why is this time of year so hard to cope with and get through.

Episode 92: Feeling Misunderstood. Looking at our interactions and speaking the same languages, what do they think of me? And can they restrict us in what we say and do.

Episode 91 Diagnosis of an illness can devastate people and our reactions can help or hinder them and you.

Episode 90 Demands for assurance from others can lead to more pressure of responsibility, to save or persecute them.

Episode 89 Action/reaction the somatic experience and making sense of the interplay. Understanding what is you and what is the other can be daunting understanding the difference can be enlightening.

Episode 88 Suicide and the Grief process, the unique aspects. Exploring the process of grief when suicide is experienced and the different dynamics which happen.

87 The sub conscious and conscious why do we do what we do and who’s driving the bus. Sub conscious reactionary conscious thoughts.

Episode 86 Being the comic and hiding the insecurity. What does the persona of the comic process do and why do people use it to hide themselves or their true feelings.

Episode 85: Family systems and the family roles we play and own. Have you ever thought your in a play and just playing the role you have, what’s the systems role for you and can you escape it.

Episode 84: The period monthly cycle and the loss process. How does this physical experience inform or move your emotional feelings.

Episode 83: Reconnection to others when life’s traumatic events happen, how do we heal the divide.

Episode 82: What helps us feel safe when life events happen, what do we rely on to survive.

Episode 81: Positive aspects of change one door closes but another one opens, seeing the way forward instead of getting stuck with the loss.

Episode 80: Getting advice from others is it helpful or just a complication of the situation or does it challenge our loyalties and relationships.

Episode 79: Isolation and alienation, is it keeping you safe or just another way of expressing your individuality, what changes when it is forced upon you or part of your survival strategy. 

Episode 78: Acceptance of relationships you can’t change or control. The helplessness of letting go and coping with life on the other side of the divide.

Episode 77:From being a partner to becoming a carer the sad loss of the person you knew and the roles and responsibilities you take on. Helping to survive the hardest job of all.

Episode 76: Working with timelines to understand reactionary behaviours, finding the source to release the present emotional reactions.