The Pushing Beauty Podcast

What if your hardest moments were the doorway to your greatest gifts? I have carried stories that didn't serve me for years until I was forced to look at the ways they kept me protective, disempowered, and disconnected from what I actually want. We hold on to stories because we're afraid of who we'll have to become if we let them go. We hold onto them because they justify our emotions. We hold onto them because we don't know what will happen if we let go. If the story isn't serving you or the world, it's time to write a new one.

I'm excited to share with you today, a conversation between myself and my former client, Samara Kasai. Samara invited me on their podcast (which you can find linked here) and graciously sent over the episode so I could easily share it all with you here.  In this episode we speak about expanding compassion through heartbreak, what is required to truly love yourself, how self-love really changes your relationships, and much more. Hope you enjoy!

Your relationship with yourself is and will always be your primary relationship. It is inherently the most important relationship you have, and it is a relationship.   You have reactions to yourself. Every thought produces an emotion. Every action you take has an internal reaction. The more conscious you become about your relationship with yourself, the more all of your other relationships change.   The way you think and feel about yourself directly impacts the way you show up with your partner, children, friends, cowokers, employees, clients, neighbors, and strangers.   You are the common denominator. 

This is a very specific time to be alive on the planet, and we all chose to be here. Take a listen to hear the one thing I keep saying on repeat these days.  

Every day I witness people move from feeling:   anxious to calm heavy to light depressed to empowered unworthy to lovable   In this episode I share how you do it in just 30 minutes.

Trying to be like others comes from a deep inadequacy that leads you to believe that being you is not enough. This short episode unpacks how you can't ever really be like anyone else and what it means to be you.

Learn more about The Energetics of Money here: https://notable-dream-921.myflodesk.com/wseuk7rqh9

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Anger and rage are providing valuable information you don't want to ignore. In this super short episode, I share with you 3 reasons why you need to feel your anger. To learn more about my workshop Releasing Rage, head over here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/releasing-rage If you're finding this after November 15th, you can find the workshop recording inside Divine Passage here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/divine-passage

What it really means to be seen and why it's so important. SEEN begins June 14th: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/seen SEEN Mini Retreat in Philadelphia on June 17th: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/seen-mini-retreat  

Shannon Jenkin's interviewed me for her podcast, and in this episode, we talk about what it means to truly let go as well as: Spiritual awakening / dark night of the soul  Processing grief & fear using the breath How to release inner resistance to facing yourself Trusting in the unfolding of your life

In this episode, I'm sharing with you a free offering for those struggling on the self-love journey, and you'll hear me share a bit about that offering as well as a bit about my personal self-love journey. Learn more about How To Stop The Self-Love Struggle here: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ 

I share about my experience writing my first book, my current experience writing my second book, and my personal perspective on book writing.

In this video, I share the most important thing I've ever done. :) Learn more about my work at https://www.pushingbeauty.com/ Learn to love yourself through my program Good Love: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ Get Breathwork for Opening for free: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6246f79ab3be600de2a271b2 Join my free weekly newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/622a2a3178ab99224ea6e6f0 Show Notes: Grounded Soul: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/grounded-soul  

Affirmations have a bad rap, often oversimplified and misunderstood. I have found the simplest practices to be the most profound, and affirmations can be incredibly healing. In this video, I'm sharing just how powerful affirmations are and how they actually work. Learn more about my work at https://www.pushingbeauty.com/ Learn to love yourself through my program Good Love: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ Get Breathwork for Opening for free: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6246f79ab3be600de2a271b2 Join Divine Passage, my living Breathwork library: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/divine-passage Join my free weekly newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/622a2a3178ab99224ea6e6f0  

Uprooting my life (4 times!) has transformed me in the best ways possible, but the journey wasn't easy. In this video, I share my path from Philly to Hawaii to New Jersey to Los Angeles and back to Philly again. Stay tuned for the end where I share my thoughts and feelings about finding a sense of belonging. Learn more about my work at https://www.pushingbeauty.com/ Learn to love yourself through my program Good Love: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ Get Breathwork for Opening for free: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6246f79ab3be600de2a271b2 Join my free weekly newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/622a2a3178ab99224ea6e6f0 Show Notes: Embracing Change: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/selfstudy/p/embracing-change Get Embracing Change + 30 other guided Breathwork meditations inside Divine Passage: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/divine-passage  

In this video, I share the ways I felt the influence of social media, how I extracted myself from it (as much as I could to date), and some questions to ask yourself to get clear about your attachments to it. Learn more about my work at https://www.pushingbeauty.com/ Learn to love yourself through my program Good Love: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ Get Breathwork for Opening for free: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6246f79ab3be600de2a271b2 Join my free weekly newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/622a2a3178ab99224ea6e6f0 Show Notes: On How Social Media Is Rewiring Our Minds with Rich Roll and Max Fisher: https://www.richroll.com/podcast/max-fisher-703/ Join me in Philly: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63286f5ad3498568abf5e8d0 Releasing Self-Punishment: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/selfstudy/p/releasing-self-punishment Divine Passage: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/divine-passage  

Because our society places such a heavy focus on romantic relationships, we can carry shame when we haven't been in one for a chunk of time--especially when we want one. In this video, I share with you 7 lessons I've learned during my 7 years single. Learn more about my work at https://www.pushingbeauty.com/ Learn to love yourself through my program Good Love: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ Get Breathwork for Opening for free: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6246f79ab3be600de2a271b2 Join my free weekly newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/622a2a3178ab99224ea6e6f0 Embracing the Gifts of Being Single: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/selfstudy/p/embracing-the-gifts-of-being-single  

Running a Soul-Based Business means making choices aligned to your soul instead of being driven by the system. In this episode, I share with you 7 rules that are the foundation of how I run my business including my thoughts on competition, saying no to opportunities, and trust when it comes to business.  Learn more about Soulful Service here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/soulful-service Overcoming Fear of Being Seen & Heard in Your Business: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/selfstudy/p/overcoming-fear-of-being-seen-heard-in-your-business  

Do you really know what self-love is? In this video, I'm sharing what you're getting wrong about self-love, why it's so important, and why it's for you, too. Learn more about my work at https://www.pushingbeauty.com/ Learn to love yourself through my program Good Love: https://www.thegoodlovecourse.com/ Get Breathwork for Opening for free: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6246f79ab3be600de2a271b2 Join my free weekly newsletter: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/622a2a3178ab99224ea6e6f0 The poem I read at the end, called I Love Myself: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/writing/ilovemyself  

In 2013 I began a breathing practice that would transform my life in the most beautiful and unexpected ways. Over the past ten years it's been the most important practice of my life. In this video I share with you the 5 phases Breathwork has taken me through in my life so far and what each has taught me.

Are you feeling the gentle nudge (or the big push) to take up more space and allow yourself to be more visible? In Season 2 of The Pushing Beauty Podcast, I'm sharing why I'm sharing again, what it really means to take up more space, and why you should do it.

This is third sub-series of The Pushing Beauty Podcast called Someone Died in the Desert. As I was driving home in the desert I came upon an accident where someone had died. In this episode I share with you what happened afterward and explore the topic of death.

This is a sub-series of The Pushing Beauty Podcast called The Desert Diaries. This episode is called Lessons from the Desert. In it I share with you what I've been learning being out here in the desert, specifically the elements (and, like, people dying).

In Episode 21, I answer a question I received from a listener. I think it's one many people grapple with after somewhat amicable breakups, "Should I be friends with my ex?" I explore my past relationships and my thoughts on being friends with our exes. Show Notes: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/the-pushing-beauty-podcast/should-you-be-friends-with-your-ex

In Episode 20, I answer an often asked question about where I get my discipline. The answer is not as straight forward as you might expect.  

This is the first sub-series of The Pushing Beauty Podcastcalled The Desert Diaries. This episode is called Welcome to Wonder Valley. In it I share with you the story of how I came to own a homestead cabin in the high desert.

In episode 18 you'll hear a recording of me being celebrated on my writer's call. I had just finished the first draft of my book, and I use this moment to talk about the importance of celebrating ourselves.

In this episode I share with you something I found in an old journal and talk about how relentless healing has changed my life.

In this episode you'll hear me read from an article I wrote about Cafe Gratitude's business practices and how they can be incorporated into your relational life.        

In this episode, I'm reading an article I wrote for Pushing Beauty and sharing information about my new workshop: Show & Tell. Show & Tell is a monthly workshop for creatives who are ready to be seen and heard. Now more than ever we are feeling caled to speak our truth and share our voices. For sensitive people it can feel really difficult to share our souls with the world. This group is a safe space to work with being witnessed in your creative expression. This workshop is for you if you're ready to move through insecurities, risk using your voice, and release what's keeping you small.

In my first ever interview, I chat with my brother and friend, Matt D'Avella about minimalism, how Matt created the film Minimalism, and how minimalism can impact your life. Matt is the director, producer, editor, and filmmaker behind Minimalism: A Documentary About The Important Things. You might have seen it on Netflix, and if you haven't you can search for it there once you finish listening to the show.  

Reading Recs is a series where I tell you a little about some of the books I've been reading, why I'm feeling them, and maybe give you a little reading. After this episode, Reading Recs will be a segment toward the end of the episode instead of a full segment themselves. In this episode, I discuss The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, and I focus on his points about being in hitting our glass ceilings in relationships.

For the moments you feel like it might never get better. For the times when you right you pain and want nothing more than to feel good. For the recognition that when you're in the darkest moments you still have a choice. 

Reading Recs is a series where I tell you a little about some of the books I've been reading, why I'm feeling them, and maybe give you a little reading. In this episode, I discuss two books for writers or artists: Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott and On Writing by Stephen King.

Yes, I did! In this episode, I share with you how my book came to be, and then I read with you some excerpts. If you'd like to know when the book officially launches click here.

Clearing Out Energy (Specifically, My Closet) by Michelle D'Avella

I get emails several times a week from people who struggle with anxiety. It's something I have experienced throughout my life as well. In this episode I speak about how anxiety shows up in my life and the ways I work through it. Anxiety is a teacher, just like all the other emotions we experience. If you can learn to work with it you can begin to understand yourself better. This episode is for you if you experience anxiety and want to learn how to understand what it means for your life.

In the times I was coming out of my depression I would have slivers of deep insights into who I really was: an incredibly beautiful, soulful, loving person who is worthy of the best things life offers up to us all. And in those times I would write myself letters reminding me of this. In my dark times I would read them, and they helped me reconnect to myself. So I thought these letters, or diaries, would help you while you're in the dark. Included are excerpts from my dark moments, the things I learned to get me through it in a healthy way, and Pep Talks to remind you of who you are and the strength you have to get through this. THE NEW AUDIO VERSION I have recently recorded an audio version of The Heartbreak Diaries for those of you who prefer to simply hit play, close your eyes, and let the messaging in. You will be added to the mailing list to get the daily diaries, and you will also receive all the audio files all at once if you need a big dose of support. Learn more here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/breathwork-for-the-brokenhearted-course

In the times I was coming out of my depression I would have slivers of deep insights into who I really was: an incredibly beautiful, soulful, loving person who is worthy of the best things life offers up to us all. And in those times I would write myself letters reminding me of this. In my dark times I would read them, and they helped me reconnect to myself. So I thought these letters, or diaries, would help you while you're in the dark. Included are excerpts from my dark moments, the things I learned to get me through it in a healthy way, and Pep Talks to remind you of who you are and the strength you have to get through this. THE NEW AUDIO VERSION I have recently recorded an audio version of The Heartbreak Diaries for those of you who prefer to simply hit play, close your eyes, and let the messaging in. You will be added to the mailing list to get the daily diaries, and you will also receive all the audio files all at once if you need a big dose of support. Learn more here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/breathwork-for-the-brokenhearted-course

In the times I was coming out of my depression I would have slivers of deep insights into who I really was: an incredibly beautiful, soulful, loving person who is worthy of the best things life offers up to us all. And in those times I would write myself letters reminding me of this. In my dark times I would read them, and they helped me reconnect to myself. So I thought these letters, or diaries, would help you while you're in the dark. Included are excerpts from my dark moments, the things I learned to get me through it in a healthy way, and Pep Talks to remind you of who you are and the strength you have to get through this. THE NEW AUDIO VERSION I have recently recorded an audio version of The Heartbreak Diaries for those of you who prefer to simply hit play, close your eyes, and let the messaging in. You will be added to the mailing list to get the daily diaries, and you will also receive all the audio files all at once if you need a big dose of support. Learn more here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/breathwork-for-the-brokenhearted-course

Boundaries are incredibly important on the healing journey. They help us see how clear we are about ourselves, how comfortable we feel expressing our truth, and the people in our lives who show us respect.

Jealousy is an energy we often condemn. It can be really ugly. It can also show you where you're not showing up in your life. In this short episode, I talk about how jealousy can serve you. This episode is for anyone who experiences jealousy (pretty much everyone) and wants to use it to grow.

In this episode, I speak about my upcoming course How to Feel Beautiful. We live in a time where we're disconnected from our bodies and wasting a lot of energy on comparison and judgment. This is precious energy that could be spent living the lives we truly want. Learn More: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/feel-beautiful

In the first episode of Currently Reading I share the two books by Anthony William that I am totally loving right now. You'll want to listen to this episode if you have any mystery illnesses.

This is the story of grief after a blindsiding breakup.

In this episode I tell the story about how I discovered the simple but profound tool of my own breath and how manipulating my breathing pattern changed my life. You can learn more about Breathwork and how to try it out yourself here: http://pushingbeauty.com/breathe

In the debut episode of The Pushing Beauty Podcast I discuss my 30 Day Choose Yourself Challenge and invite you in for the ride. Learn more about the challenge here: https://www.pushingbeauty.com/choose-yourself-challenge/