The Route 77 Podcast

Natasha and Monique return to the Route 77 podcast and discuss why marriage should not be treated as the solution to incompleteness. They challenge the “other half” idea, warning that expecting a spouse—or later, children—to provide purpose, identity, healing, or fulfillment can create unmet expectations, resentment, and even divorce or infidelity. They emphasize contentment and wholeness in Christ, citing Colossians 2:10 and Psalm 16:11, and explain that community and fellowship take many forms beyond marriage. They address panic-driven dating, self-control and celibacy, unrealistic expectations, and the need to build intimacy with God through Scripture, prayer, church, counsel, and maturity. They close by urging listeners to live faithfully in the present and remember that marriage is a gift, not a god.

What do you do when your deepest desire—marriage, children, family—doesn’t happen? In this episode, we gently but honestly explore disappointment with God, unmet expectations, and the danger of building your identity around something He never promised. This is not about dismissing the pain—it’s about redirecting your hope to something that won’t fail you.

In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David talk honestly about the growing role of AI in everyday life—from creative projects and lesson plans to fake videos, hallucinated answers, and even AI “relationships.” Why are so many people becoming emotionally attached to chatbots? Where is the line between using AI as a helpful tool and treating it like a substitute for real human connection? The conversation explores the benefits of AI, the dangers of letting it affirm everything we want to hear, and why no technology can replace truth, prayer, or genuine relationship. AI may be useful, but it is not human—and it should never become our source of identity, intimacy, or hope.

It’s our 3-year podcast anniversary, and it also happens to be Valentine’s Day weekend — so we’re finishing the Fruit of the Spirit series with LOVE. We talk honestly about why Valentine’s Day can hit a tender spot, why it’s okay for couples to celebrate, and why singles don’t need to “do something” just to prove they’re fine. We also unpack the difference between God’s promises vs. God’s blessings, how false hope can quietly become idolatry, and what it looks like to live out real, Spirit-shaped love in every season.

Joy gets confused with happiness all the time—good moods, good seasons, and things going well. But biblical joy is sturdier than that. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David talk about joy as a fruit of the Spirit: not something we manufacture, but something God grows in us as we learn to release control and trust His unchanging character. We unpack joy in suffering, joy in waiting, and why singles don’t have to postpone joy until marriage. If life feels like a storm, this one points you back to the lighthouse.

In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha, Monique, and David talk about peace as a fruit of the Spirit—what the world calls peace, what Scripture means by peace, and why “relief” isn’t the same thing as peace. They unpack the difference between peacekeeping vs. peacemaking, how false peace shows up in real life (including abusive dynamics), and why Jesus is the clearest picture of peace in the middle of chaos.They also bring it home for singles: what happens inside you when you ask, “What if I never get married?” Real peace isn’t manufactured—it’s received, rooted in trust, and held steady even when circumstances don’t cooperate.

Patience isn’t pretending you don’t care, and it isn’t sitting in a corner waiting for life to start. In this episode, we talk about patience as the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5) and how that changes the way singles—and everyone—walk through delayed hopes, misunderstood seasons, and unanswered timelines. We also unpack why “God is teaching you patience so you’ll get your reward” is not the gospel, and what it means to trust God without negotiating the terms.

Kindness gets confused with being “nice,” but the Bible paints something deeper: kindness is active goodwill that moves toward others for their good—sometimes gently, sometimes firmly. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David unpack kindness as a fruit of the Spirit, why God’s kindness leads to repentance, and how Jesus shows kindness without enabling sin. They also talk about kindness as a single person, boundaries, the “pay-it-forward” guilt trap, and why doing the right thing for the right reason matters.

In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha, Monique, and David keep journeying backwards through the fruit of the Spirit and land on one that often feels… underwhelming: goodness. In a world where “good” sounds like the bare minimum—good day, good meal, good enough—they unpack why Scripture treats goodness as something far richer: moral beauty in action, not just avoiding bad behaviour.The three of them wrestle with big questions: How is the goodness of Jesus different from the “goodness” of the Pharisees? How do we tell the difference between genuine spiritual fruit and a carefully polished image? And what do we do with church hurt, false teachers, and believers who feel blindsided by leaders they trusted?Natasha also takes us to Acts 9 and the story of Tabitha (Dorcas), a woman whose quiet, faithful goodness made her so deeply loved that her community could hardly imagine life without her. Together, they reflect on legacy, funerals, and what people might honestly say if we were gone tomorrow.Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is an invitation to ask: Am I becoming the kind of person whose goodness reflects Christ—and whose absence would be truly felt?

What does faithfulness really look like when you’re single and your heart aches for marriage, security, or a different life than the one you’re living? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha, Monique, and David unpack the Fruit of the Spirit—faithfulness—through the lens of singleness, desire, and idolatry.Together they explore the Greek idea of pistis (faithfulness as trustworthiness, loyalty, and steadfastness), how God’s unchanging character anchors us, and how even good gifts like marriage, children, career, or comfort can quietly become “God things.” They wrestle with tough questions like: What if marriage never happens? Would losing God hurt more than losing that dream? and How do we surrender both our good desires and our sinful ones to Him?With real stories, Scripture (Job, Proverbs, Philippians, and more), and a bit of laughter along the way, this conversation invites you to serve one Master, grow in faithfulness right where you are, and press on toward Christ—married or not.

Gentleness isn’t timidity—it’s controlled strength. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David dig into gentleness/meekness as a Fruit of the Spirit for singles: why independence can harden us, how unmet expectations turn into cynicism, and how Jesus models power under control (Philippians 4:5; Matthew 11:29; 1 Peter 2:23; Proverbs 15:1). Takeaways: slow your reactions, practice self-gentleness, seek humility and gratitude, and let God’s nearness shape your tone. Soft strength is anything but weak.

Self-control is the last on Paul’s list of the fruit of the Spirit—but in real life, it often feels like the one we struggle with most. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David kick off a backwards walk through the fruit of the Spirit, starting with self-control and how it uniquely shows up in the lives of single Christians.From sexual temptation and “I deserve this” spending, to doom-scrolling, boredom, and loneliness, they talk honestly about the places where our wills feel weak and our excuses feel strong. Along the way, they unpack why self-control isn’t just willpower or personality—it’s a Spirit-given fruit, grown as we set wise boundaries, notice our triggers, flee what pulls us under, and repent when we fall.If you’ve ever thought, “I should have more self-control by now,” this conversation is for you. Be encouraged that God hasn’t given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control—and that His grace meets you even in the middle of the struggle.

Is singleness a spiritual gift? We say no. In this candid round-table, Natasha, Monique, and David unpack the church cliché and get honest about desire, hormones, and holiness. We dig into 1 Corinthians 7:7–9 (“better to marry than burn”) and show why Paul isn’t offering a lust-management loophole or promising a supernatural removal of sexual desire. Instead, we explore singleness and marriage as good gifts—seasons in which God calls us to devotion and self-control (a fruit of the Spirit, Galatians 5:22–23), not a pass on discipleship. We talk temptation vs. sin (Matthew 5:27–28), why marriage won’t “fix” porn or lust patterns, and practical pathways like fasting for training our desires toward Christ. Plus: a teaser for our upcoming series on the Fruits of the Spirit from a single-life lens.

What if singleness isn’t a waiting room but a calling worth celebrating? Natasha takes us through powerful excerpts from Timothy Keller, David Platt, and Elisabeth Elliot—three influential Christian thinkers who each bring clarity, theology, and comfort to the often-misunderstood topic of singleness. Tune in for a refreshing, gospel-centered look at what it means to live fully devoted to Christ.

It’s Thanksgiving, and Natasha and Monique ask the question: Am I living my singleness so people see Christ in me? We unpack contentment over bitterness, authentic fruit vs. “glued-on apples,” and how daily practices (Scripture, prayer, worship), healthy community, and service make our lives quietly radiant (1 Cor 7:32–35; Matt 5:16). Honest stories, real hope, and a challenge to live different on purpose.

In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David tackle the churchy reflex to “qualify” people’s choices—especially when someone says they don’t want marriage or children. We unpack Scripture (yes, be fruitful and he who finds a wife), look at 1 Corinthians 7, and share stories like Jim & Elisabeth Elliot and Amy Carmichael to show that following Jesus can faithfully look different. Instead of pressure or “you’ll change your mind,” we talk about responding with encouragement so people are free to keep listening to God—now and later.

In Part 2 of our series on church hurt in singleness, Natasha, Monique, and David explore the subtle but painful cuts singles experience in the church—those “helpful” comments, lingering expectations, and the silence around what it means to live fully as a single believer. We discuss how these messages can leave singles feeling sidelined, how churches can do better, and how healing can begin when honesty, forgiveness, and discipleship meet.

In Part 1, Natasha, Monique, and David unpack how purity culture shaped expectations about marriage and sex, why so many singles felt sidelined, and how to begin healing without walking away from the Church—or Scripture.

Can a woman (or man) truly live life to the fullest without marriage? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, we explore the cultural pressures, biblical perspectives, and personal testimonies surrounding marriage and singleness. From Genesis to 1 Corinthians 7, we’ll unpack whether fullness comes from a spouse—or from Christ Himself. Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation will encourage you to embrace your season and live abundantly right where you are.

Marriage is a beautiful gift—but it was never meant to be the mission of your life. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David unpack the subtle danger of making spouse-hunting your full-time purpose. From church conferences to everyday choices, it’s easy to let the pursuit of “The One” eclipse joy, growth, and God’s greater calling.Through Scripture (Matthew 6:33), personal reflection, and practical insights, they will explore how to recognize when marriage has become an idol, why that mindset leaves us empty, and how to re-center our lives on God’s kingdom—whether single or married.Your identity and worth aren’t found in a wedding ring. They’re found in Christ.

What does the Bible actually say about the “right age” to get married? Spoiler: it’s less about a number and more about wisdom, maturity, and God’s timing. In this episode, we unpack common assumptions about marrying young, share biblical examples, and push back against the idea that it’s a more spiritual path. Whether you marry at 20, 40, or not at all—you’re not missing God’s plan. Let’s talk freedom, not pressure.

Love is more than a feeling — it’s a choice, and how we express it matters. In this episode, we explore the 5 Love Languages — words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch — through the lens of Scripture. Discover how each one reflects God’s heart and how you can use them to strengthen your relationships, whether you’re single, dating, or married. Learn to speak love fluently, God’s way.

Saying "I love you" can feel exciting, romantic — and sometimes, dangerous. In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha, Monique, and David explore the emotional and spiritual weight behind those three little words.Why do we say it so soon? What does it actually mean in a dating relationship? And how can premature declarations of love create confusion, pressure, or even manipulation?From personal stories to biblical wisdom, we unpack how to guard your heart, use your words wisely, and understand what love looks like when it’s grounded in truth — not just emotion.Whether you're dating now or reflecting on the past, this conversation is for anyone who wants to love well and speak wisely.

What is a red flag in dating—and how do you know it’s not just a one-off mistake? In this week’s episode, Natasha and Monique get real about the warning signs they missed in past relationships and why recognizing red flags early can save you years of heartache. From poor conflict resolution to spiritual immaturity, they unpack personal, relational, and biblical red flags—and how to respond with wisdom, not panic. Whether you’re dating, healing, or supporting a friend through it, this episode offers clarity, conviction, and a bit of laughter along the way.

What happens if you find yourself unequally yoked? Whether you're thinking about dating a non-believer, already in a relationship, engaged, or even married to someone who doesn't share your faith—this episode is for you. We talk honestly about the biblical command not to be unequally yoked, what that really means, and how to navigate the messy, real-life situations many Christians face. We also explore friendships and business partnerships, and why those are a bit different. Join us for a conversation that's compassionate, practical, and rooted in Scripture.

We’ve all heard the verse: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” Most people think of it only when it comes to marriage. But is that all it applies to? In this episode, we unpack what it really means to be “equally yoked,” why this matters so much in dating, and how it can shape our closest friendships, business partnerships, and everyday decisions. Join us as we share personal stories, biblical insights, and practical advice on choosing relationships that help us walk in step with our faith.

We all know the warning to “wait for marriage,” but too often the conversation stops at sex. What about the emotional, spiritual, and mental intimacy that builds long before? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast dating series, Natasha, Monique, and David dig into how other forms of closeness can push boundaries, set up unrealistic expectations, and even lead to the very physical temptation you’re trying to avoid.We’ll share personal stories, practical guardrails, and biblical wisdom like Proverbs 4:23—“Above all else, guard your heart.” If you’re dating, thinking about it, or want to disciple someone who is, join us as we talk about protecting your whole heart in the pursuit of godly love.

In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha and Monique tackle the real question: Why do we date at all? Is it just for fun, to avoid loneliness, or because we feel pressure from church culture? Or is there a deeper, biblical purpose behind it?Together, they explore the importance of spiritual maturity, the danger of dating too early—especially for new believers—and how emotional and spiritual entanglement can cause more harm than we realize. With personal stories and straight talk, this conversation invites you to rethink your reasons and reset your expectations.Whether you're dating, waiting, or just wondering what comes next, this episode offers a Christ-centered perspective you don’t want to miss.

Is it ever too early to date? This week on Route 77, Natasha, Monique, and David open up about their own experiences with dating (and misdating), especially during those wild teenage years. From emotional highs to heartbreaks, we unpack why emotional maturity, timing, and spiritual grounding matter before stepping into a relationship. Whether you're a teen, a parent, or just someone wondering if you're ready, this episode is for you.Verse of the Week: Proverbs 4:23 – “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

What if the thing stealing your joy isn’t your circumstances—but your impatience with them? In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle danger of restlessness, especially for those navigating life as a single person. Inspired by a paraphrased quote from Elisabeth Elliot, we explore how constantly reaching for what’s next can blind us to the goodness God is offering right now.Through Scripture, stories, and honest conversation, we’ll talk about trusting God’s timing, finding peace in the unknown, and learning how to wait well—not because we have all the answers, but because we know the One who does.

Have you ever wondered if your singleness is your fault? Like maybe you’re too this, not enough that, or just plain missing the secret ingredient? In this episode, we explore the real (and often unspoken) question behind our struggle with being single: Did I do something wrong… or what?We take a look at Jesus' response in John 9, debunk the blame that society and the church sometimes throw at singles, and share our own honest reflections. Spoiler: Singleness isn’t a punishment—and God’s not holding out on you.

What happens when the longing for children meets the reality of singleness—and modern science offers a way forward? In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, we explore the complex and emotional question: Should a single person pursue parenthood through IVF, artificial insemination, or other fertility options?We’re not talking about single parenting through divorce or loss—we’re talking about intentionally creating a child outside of marriage. Is it just a technological advancement, or are we bypassing God’s design for family?Join Natasha, Monique, and David as they wrestle with Scripture, share personal stories, and ask the tough but necessary questions about ethics, desire, and trusting God when the dream of parenthood feels just out of reach.

Saying “yes” to God’s will is one thing—but are you actually cooperating with Him, or just going along grudgingly? In this week’s episode, Natasha and Monique unpack what it really looks like to partner with God, not passively or forcefully, but with trust, obedience, and the right attitude. From group project analogies to biblical stories (and even a taekwondo teaching moment or two), this conversation dives into how we can live out our faith in action—especially in our singleness.If you’ve ever struggled with feeling stuck, striving too hard, or waiting passively for God to “make a move,” this episode is for you.

Is it wrong to want something deeply—even marriage—if you still say you want God's will above all? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, we explore the tension between longing and surrender, asking what it really means to want God's will when your heart is aching for more. Natasha and Monique share candidly about prayer, trust, waiting, and the freedom that comes when you stop trying to manage outcomes and simply walk in faith. Whether you're in a season of waiting or wrestling with desire, this episode invites you to shift your focus back to the One who sees the whole picture.

"Is it selfish to treat yourself to a solo dinner or take a quiet day just for you? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, we’re talking all about dating yourself — a trend that's growing in the self-care world — and asking whether it aligns with a Christian perspective.We explore the difference between healthy rest and self-indulgence, how to enjoy God’s good gifts without making them idols, and why it’s okay (and even good) for singles to take themselves out with gratitude and purpose.If you’ve ever felt guilty for enjoying your own company or unsure where the line is between self-care and selfishness, this one’s for you."

Grief has many faces—and some of them look unfamiliar when you're single. In this honest and heartfelt episode, Natasha and Monique talk about the unique ways singles experience grief, especially when they've lost a spouse or are suddenly navigating life alone again. From the pain of widowhood and divorce to the questions no one prepares you for, this conversation touches on the reality of mourning, the hope we have in Christ, and the challenge of not letting grief isolate us.Whether you're walking through loss or supporting someone who is, this episode offers gentle truth, practical encouragement, and a reminder: death may feel like the end, but it's not the end of the story.

Death is something we all have to face—but as single people, the questions and fears can feel a little different. Will anyone be there when I’m dying? Who will grieve me? Am I prepared for the end of life—spiritually, emotionally, and practically?In this heartfelt episode, Natasha, Monique, and David open up about recent experiences with grief and the quiet fears that often come with singleness. From aging and end-of-life care to eternal hope and the example of Christ’s own suffering, this conversation is honest, comforting, and grounded in Scripture.Whether you’re grieving a loved one, preparing for the future, or simply sitting with questions about life and death, this episode offers encouragement, perspective, and peace in the midst of the unknown.

We’ve all heard them—those well-meaning comments meant to “encourage” singles: “Don’t worry, I knew someone who got married at 62!” or “Just enjoy this season and work on yourself.” In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, Natasha and Monique get real about the emotional impact of these platitudes, why they often do more harm than good, and how we can respond with honesty and grace. From personal stories to biblical reflections, we unpack how to reframe longing, redirect focus, and gently challenge the cultural narratives around singleness. Whether you're single or know someone who is, this conversation is a must-listen.

Can men and women really be just friends? In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, Natasha and Monique explore friendships.Why do we so often assume every connection has to lead to romance? How can we build genuine, godly friendships without hidden expectations? From personal stories to biblical insight, this episode unpacks the cultural, relational, and spiritual dynamics that make friendship both meaningful and messy.Whether you're single, married, or somewhere in between, this conversation invites you to rethink how we approach friendship — with wisdom, honesty, and a little humor too.

This week on the Route 77 Podcast, we’re digging into one of the most quoted verses in Christian circles: “Be fruitful and multiply.” But what does that mean for singles today? Is fruitfulness only about having children—or could it mean something deeper, something spiritual?Join Natasha, Monique, and David as they unpack the biblical context of this command, challenge assumptions around marriage and parenthood, and explore how legacy and purpose look for those who are walking a different road.📌 Note: Due to a video glitch, this week’s episode is audio-only—but the conversation is just as real, raw, and thought-provoking as ever.

Is singleness really a problem that needs fixing? Too often, we’re told—implicitly or explicitly—that marriage is the ultimate solution to loneliness, lust, and even personal growth. But is that true? In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, we tackle the "fixer-upper" mentality around singleness and why marriage isn’t the renovation project that will solve all your struggles.We’ll dive into the myths, the pressures from culture and the church, and the deeper truth about contentment, community, and where true transformation comes from. If you’ve ever felt like singleness is something to "get past," this conversation is for you!

AI is getting more advanced every day—so advanced that some people are turning to artificial intelligence for companionship. But can AI really replace real relationships? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha and Monique dive into the growing trend of AI boyfriends, girlfriends, and companions. They explore the dangers of replacing human connection with technology, the risks of artificial intimacy, and what the Bible says about our deep need for real relationships.Plus, we put AI to the test with a special intro—can you tell the difference? Tune in and join the conversation!

You’ve probably heard it before—"I’m just waiting for my Adam" or "I need to find my missing rib." It sounds poetic, even biblical, but is it true? Does the Bible really teach that we are incomplete without a spouse?In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, Natasha and Monique unpack the common belief that marriage is about finding your missing piece. They explore what Genesis 2 actually says, the dangers of thinking we’re only half a person until we’re married, and the real mystery of marriage—two whole people becoming one, not two halves trying to fit together.Is your missing piece really a spouse, or is it something deeper? Join us for a conversation full of biblical truth, some much-needed sarcasm, and a reminder that you are already whole in Christ.

"If you’re single, you’ve probably heard it before: ‘Just date Jesus’ or ‘Jesus is your husband.’ It sounds spiritual, but does it actually help? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, we break down the origins of this platitude, why it’s often unhelpful (and sometimes just plain weird), and what the Bible really says about our relationship with Christ. Is singleness just a waiting room for marriage? Are we truly ‘married’ to Jesus? And how can we find fulfillment in Christ without forcing Him into a role He was never meant to have? Join us as we unpack these questions and more—no weird wedding ceremonies required!"

Bittersweet moments are a natural part of life—we celebrate with others while feeling a quiet ache for what we don’t have. Whether it’s seeing couples on Valentine’s Day, watching friends start families, or longing for a life season that hasn’t arrived, these feelings can be completely normal. But when does a healthy longing turn into coveting? When does wishing for something good begin to steal our contentment?In this episode of theRoute 77 Podcast, Natasha explores the fine line between longing and envy, sharing biblical wisdom on how to navigate bittersweet emotions without letting them take root in our hearts. Join the conversation as we discuss how to acknowledge our feelings, reframe our perspective, and embrace the life God has given us today.Don’t let comparison steal your joy—tune in now!

Ever feel like people walk all over you? Or maybe you struggle with saying "no" without feeling guilty? This week on the Route 77 Podcast, we're talking all about boundaries—why they matter, how to set them, and how to enforce them without feeling like the bad guy. From friendships to dating to work and even church, boundaries help us protect our time, energy, and emotional well-being. But as singles, we often face unique challenges—whether it’s being expected to always be available or ignoring red flags because we really want something to work. So, how do we navigate all of this in a way that honors God? Join me as we explore what healthy boundaries look like, why Jesus Himself had them, and how we can set them with wisdom and confidence.

Are you seeing red? In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, we tackle the ever-popular topic of red flags in relationships. From TikTok trends like emotional manipulation, dishonesty, and lack of accountability, we’re breaking down what really matters. Join me as we separate cultural stereotypes from true signs of trouble, explore what Scripture says about discernment, and share practical tips for navigating relationships with wisdom and grace. Don’t miss this eye-opening conversation that’s all about seeing the signs—clearly.

Is singleness an epidemic in the church? In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha, Monique, and David take a closer look at this common perception. They explore how singleness is often treated as a problem to solve, unpack what the Bible says about singleness and marriage, and challenge the cultural and church narratives surrounding this season of life. Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, this episode will encourage you to rethink how we view singleness in light of God’s purpose. Join the conversation and discover why singleness is not a disease to cure but a season to embrace!

Change is inevitable, but not all change is good. In this episode of the Route 77 Podcast, Natasha, Monique, and David explore what you should—and shouldn’t—change about yourself. Why are you changing? Who or what is influencing your decisions? And how can you ensure your changes align with God’s will? With personal stories, Scripture, and practical insights, we’ll unpack how to make the right changes for the right reasons. Tune in for an honest and encouraging conversation about transformation, faith, and staying true to who God created you to be.

What would you do if you knew today that you’d remain single for the rest of your life? Would it change the way you live, plan, and pursue God’s calling? In this episode of The Route 77 Podcast, Natasha and Monique tackle one of the most difficult questions for Christian singles to face. Together, they explore how avoiding this question can hold us back from living fully, how to find freedom and purpose in the present, and why singleness can be part of God’s good plan. With insights from John Stott, Scripture, and personal experiences, this episode will encourage you to rethink singleness and embrace the possibilities God has for your life—no matter your relationship status. Join us for an honest, heartfelt, and hopeful conversation.