The Self-ish Me Podcast
by Kamila Turek
Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful. Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch. You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations. Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop l
Episodes
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Everyone Is Moving Forward. Why Do I Feel So Behind in My 30s?
Have you ever felt like you’re behind in life because your career or relationships haven’t followed the timeline you thought they would? In this episode, Kamila and Lia talk about what it really means to them to be a late bloomer and why so much of that feeling comes from comparing your life to...
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Career Pivot in Your Late 30s: Where Do You Even Start?
You have been told a career pivot means starting from nothing, that stepping away from climbing the career ladder means throwing away everything you have built. And if you’re in your late 30s, changing careers can sound like an especially risky decision. But what if it isn’t starting over at all?...
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Choosing Myself: What’s Next for Self-ish Me
What do I actually want? This episode is a little different. After spending the summer thinking about what I want Self-ish Me to become, I’m finally sharing a decision about the future of the podcast — and why it feels like such a fitting next step for everything Self-ish Me has always been…
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Letting Go of Shame: Stop Shrinking, Start Living
Shame is something most of us have experienced, but we don’t always talk about where it comes from. Sometimes we feel shame about our bodies. About our choices. About the things that happened to us. And sometimes, we carry shame for things that were never ours to carry in the first place. Dr....
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Identity Exploration: Do You Belong or Fit In?
Somewhere between becoming a manager, becoming a parent, getting divorced, changing careers or simply moving somewhere new, you stopped feeling entirely like yourself, and never talked about it. In this episode, Kamila is rediscovering identity out loud, using her own move to Kenya as the entry...
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Values and Decision Making: The Compass You Never Chose
We all make decisions based on something, most likely our values. But what if we told you the values running your biggest decisions were never yours to begin with? They might be coming from your parents', your culture's, or your religion's, values you inherited so early you never thought to...
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The Messy Middle: Why Change Feels Like Failing
Whether the change you are making is big or small, there is a messy middle waiting for you, full of doubt, low confidence, and uncertainty. It can make you feel like you are failing, or like you should have stayed with what you knew, the old job, the home, the friendship, the relationship, the...
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Women's Careers and Relationships: Define Success Your Way
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF You can be lonely in a relationship and happy single. You can take a step back in your career and feel more like yourself than ever. The world...
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Anxiety Red Flags: Recovering After You Miss Them
You can know every one of your own anxiety red flags and still miss the exact moment you needed to stop. Kamila unpacks the months that led to her taking sick leave, a relocation, family news, physical illness, and one stressful event after another, until catastrophic thoughts convinced her she…
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Burnout Recovery: Who Are You Without the Milestones
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF Most of us never agreed to the life milestones. We inherited them, through fairy tales, family comments, and the quiet pressure of 'when are…
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Breaking Free From Conditioning: The Story I Did Not Have Words For Until Now
You have been doing everything 'right' and still felt like your life was not quite yours. That is not a personal failure. That is what happens when you spend years living by scripts you never chose. In this six-month anniversary episode, I am sharing the part of my story I did not have the words...
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Not Good With Money: What Every Woman Inherits About Finances and How to Break Free
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF "Not good with money" is something almost every woman has thought about herself. But it is not a personality trait and it is not the truth. It…
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Period Shame, Female Friendship and the Power of Being Believed
Period pain has been dismissed, minimised, and silenced for so long that many of us started believing we were the problem. Passing out on bathroom floors. Being rushed to hospital on holiday and still being asked if you'd been drinking. I've been there, and I know how isolating it is when no one...
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Career Growth for Women: Hard Work Is Only 10% of Getting Promoted — Here's What's Missing
You have done everything right at work and somehow still feel invisible. You deliver results, you stay late, you go above and beyond — and yet when promotion conversations happen, your name isn't the one in the room. That gap between the work you do and how it lands with the people who matter?...
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When Your Body Changes but Nothing Is Wrong
Lately, I've found myself thinking about my body more than I used to. Not because anything is wrong, but because my body is changing, and I seem to have a lot more thoughts about those changes than I did a decade ago. In this episode, I explore why body changes can feel so emotionally loaded,...
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Imposter Syndrome in Women: Why Self-Doubt at Work Is Not the Problem You Think It Is
You have achieved something real, something you worked hard for, and somehow your brain is already looking for the flaw. That feeling that you got lucky, that you don't quite belong, that one mistake is about to expose everything? That is imposter syndrome. And if you have ever felt it, you are…
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No One Told You Your Cycle Affects Your Career: Women, Stress and Work
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF We have been taught to push through, show up the same way every single day, and treat our biology as an inconvenience. But what if ignoring our...
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Being Single in Your Thirties: The Truth About Singlehood, Self-Worth and Choosing Yourself
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF Single women are still being pitied, questioned, and quietly judged for a choice that has nothing wrong with it. If you've ever been asked "but...
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Burnout Recovery for Women: Five Stages, Red Flags and What Actually Worked
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF You have been powering through for so long that you stopped noticing the warning signs. The exhaustion you keep calling a rough patch. The...
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Do I Want Children: Or Was I Raised to Want Them?
Motherhood and choice are two words that rarely get to sit together without someone having an opinion about the outcome. If you have ever been asked when you are having children, felt the weight of that question land somewhere deep, or found yourself genuinely unsure whether you want motherhood…
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Stop Talking Yourself Out of It: Self-Doubt, Neurodiversity, and Going After What You Want
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF Seeing a job and deciding not to apply, because you do not tick 100% of the criteria. That moment is not a lack of ambition. It is something…
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I Still Cringe About These Interviews: Interview Mistakes, Career Confidence and What I Learned
We have all walked into an interview and known, somewhere deep down, that something was off. Maybe we were unprepared. Maybe we were unwell. Maybe we clicked on the wrong link and panicked. And maybe we told our manager something we probably should have held back a little longer. In this episode,...
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The Invisible Trap: Women at Work, the Double Bind and Six Tactics That Actually Help
You have felt it before, too confident or not confident enough, too warm or too direct. That tension has a name, and in this episode I am sharing six tactics used by top women in corporate boardrooms to help you navigate the double bind in interviews and at work. I explore the double bind, one of...
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Interview Preparation That Actually Works: What Hiring Managers Never Tell You
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF You got the interview. Now what? Most women spend their preparation time looking through their own lens — rehearsing answers, managing nerves,...
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Women Delete the Best Lines About Themselves: The Truth About CVs, Career Gaps and Owning Your Story
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF Your CV is not just a document. It is the version of you that walks into a room before you do, and in women's careers, it is often not telling...
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Why You Keep Attracting the Same Person: Navigating Relationships with Intention in Your 30s
There is a version of dating in your 30s that feels like running a recruitment campaign, carefully crafted, highly strategic, and somehow still not attracting the right person. Navigating relationships with real intention starts long before the first swipe, and this episode is here to change how...
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Why Your Brain Feels Like It’s Buffering — Brain Fog, Hormones & Stress in Women
You are in a meeting, someone is talking, and you are trying so hard to follow. But nothing is landing. The words are there and somehow they are not reaching you at all. If that sounds familiar, this episode on brain fog in women is for you. I have been there. The panicked meeting where words…
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Breaking the Stigma: How Menstrual Cycles Empower Women’s Emotional Well-Being and Career Growth
Have you ever felt misunderstood by your own body? You're not alone. In this enlightening episode of The Self-ish Me Podcast, host Kamila Turek, a seasoned business psychologist, courageously opens up about her personal journey with menstrual health and the pervasive societal stigma that often...
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Female Friendships: Why Women Supporting Women Matters
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF Are Female Friendships the Most Powerful Relationship in Your Life? Today’s episode is a celebration — and a heartfelt reflection — on the…
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Rebuilding Self-Trust in a World That Taught Women to Please
In this episode, I slow things down and ask a question we rarely give ourselves space to answer: what’s your relationship with yourself, really? I explore how self-trust can slowly fade under the pressure to fit in, be liked, and be “good girls.” I share my own experience of growing up in Poland,...
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Are Sexual Fantasies Normal? Female Desire, Intimacy & Letting Go of Shame
In this episode, I dive into the often-misunderstood world of sexual fantasies—why they’re completely normal, and why so many of us, especially women, feel shame or judgment around them. I explore female desire and women’s sexuality, and how our fantasies can reveal deeper psychological and...
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Gentle Thriving in Winter — Letting Go of New Year’s Pressure with Emily
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF January often tells us to rush, reset, and reinvent ourselves—but winter asks for something very different. In this guest episode, I’m joined…
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Your Work Doesn’t Speak for Itself: Personal Branding & Getting Noticed at Work
Ready to put yourself first? Choose yourself, take action, and create a life that feels more like you. Explore coaching with Kam https://tr.ee/IuHai5qdzF I’ve been thinking a lot about the questions you sent after the salary and confidence episode—especially the ones about visibility. Why does it...
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Are You Below the Happiness Poverty Line
Are You Below the Happiness Poverty Line Today’s episode is a quiet but powerful one. I’m talking about well being through the lens of positive psychology, not hustle, productivity or pretending everything’s fine. If you’ve ever looked like you were doing well on the outside but felt empty, tired...
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What Your Clothes Say About Who You Are Becoming
This episode is an invitation to slow down and really notice how you show up in the world, starting with what you wear. I explore how getting dressed is never just practical, it is emotional, psychological, and deeply connected to identity. From using clothes as armour to using them as…
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Rewriting the Story of Female Pleasure
In this episode I open a conversation I wish someone had given me decades ago. I talk about female pleasure, the history that misinformed us and the confusion so many of us carry because we were never taught how our bodies actually work. Growing up in a Catholic country, sex was something to…
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Money, Confidence and Changing the Rules
Talking about money can feel awkward, but honestly, it is one of the most empowering conversations we can have. In this episode I share how small mindset shifts can change the way we approach salary negotiations, and why understanding your value is key to shaping the career and life you want. We...
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Self ish Me is hosted by Kamila, a business psychologist in learning and development and coaching, and a self confessed late bloomer. After burnout forced her to stop living someone else’s version of success, she began rebuilding a life that actually feels like hers. This podcast invites women to...
About this show
Self-ish Me is for women who spent years ticking all the right boxes in life, only to realise it never quite felt like theirs. Whether it is burnout, a life transition, or a quiet sense that something is missing — Self-ish Me is a resource and community that empowers women to put themselves first. Because starting with yourself is not selfish, it’s powerful.
Our host Kamila Turek is a business psychologist, coach, and self-confessed late bloomer. This podcast is built on 8 years of personal experimentation, after burnout forced Kamila to rebuild her life from scratch.
You will find science-backed research on psychology and behaviour change, and tested frameworks that Kamila used to build a life aligned with her own values, instead of someone else’s expectations.
Join Kamila every Thursday for honest conversations and practical tools, plus one monthly expert conversation with psychologists, coaches, and women leaders to discuss how you can stop l
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Kamila Turek