Therapy for Humans

Gaslighting is one of the most overused words in the therapy lexicon right now — and that overuse is doing real damage. In this episode I break down what gaslighting actually means, why lumping it in with lying, defensiveness, and other bad behavior is costing you more than you think, and why getting the language right isn't about letting anyone off the hook. It's about making sure you're solving for the right problem.

We've spent decades trying to build self-esteem. Turns out it might be the exhaust, not the engine. Today I make the case for accurate self-assessment over positive thinking — and why the goal isn't to feel better about yourself, it's to be someone you can respect.

Airports are a stress test for who you actually are when the veneer comes off. In this episode, three men fail that test — including me. A look at public meltdowns, emotional labor, and what it actually takes to change behavior that's been running on autopilot for decades.

What is it like to be fully seen, and why should we put ourselves through that?

Today we will talk about how to critically evaluate the therapy that you were getting, and what to do about it if it's falling short.

Being seen means true and authentic vulnerability, it's not easy, but it is essential!

Basically, we suck at apologizing in our culture. Let's change that.

Let's talk about the way we keep ourselves confined, and how to break out.

Let's check in about the narratives we have about ourselves. 

Let's talk about those unspoken agreements that seem to run our lives from the shadows.

Do you think you know what therapy is? Have a listen and see if you're right.

Let's talk about why we don't fight for our friendships

Everything in moderation, even therapy. 

Thank your partner. You'll thank me. 

Change is hard, but often worth the effort

What does it mean to really listen?

A little PSA for you, plus the filters our brains place on our thoughts. 

Finding other people attractive.Is your partner on the Autism Spectrum?

I'm BACK!Let's build  a box for the shit in your head. I also talk about realistic expectations and goals for therapy, and we check in about how your pandemic is going.

Break ups, therapy as a career path, and narcissistic parents

How to talk to your kids about the Corona Virus, and tending to your inner child.

The Corona Virus and how not to go bat shit crazy

Recovery from abuse

It's OK to be skeptical! 

Division of labor, Apologies, and a little tip on grief

Entering Someone Else's World — On Empathy, Whiteboards, and Queer Kids Who Need SupportThe Dorm Room Theory of Therapy — Plus, Use the Damn WhiteboardHow to Really Show Up — For Your Clients, Your Partner, and That Kid Who Needs You

The Tattoo Show!

The Money Issue!Why is therapy so expensive?How do we quantify therapy?

How to handle a boyfriend's health issuesSetting internal boundaries

Why is everyone stoned all the time?!Finding trust after traumatic relationships.

Middle schoolers and religionConcerns around a new relationship 

Sexless marriage, and new office furniture!

Emotional generosityA Daughter feeling shut down by her dad 

Accountability, how do we get, how do we give it. 

When problems are ignoredMassage therapists and mandated reporting

When your teens have overnight guestsSnow-removal and slacker neighbors

Rowan's State of the UnionHow to handle loving your divorced parentsGift-giving gone crazy

Where I share way too much about my own shit, and I answer an email about social anxiety. 

Outtakes from my interview with Annie Lacroix, AKA the Brainy Boss. Imposter syndrome, mindfulness and productivity 

Supporting grieving friendsRANT: Service dogs VS emotional support animals Help, my boss is a narcissist!

The picture perfect family holiday, does it exist?What's "Triggered" really mean?Open marriage and how not to fuck that up. 

How to set realistic boundaries with family members.How to talk about your transgender kiddo with extended family. Tips for teens who are cutting. 

What kind of an impact can childhood sexual abuse leave, and what we can do about it. Why don't things feel like they are ever work out for me?!Some tips on social anxiety. 

Are antidepressants over-prescribed? (hell yes, they are!)How to get through the holidays without destroying your relationships

Is it innocent gaming, or depression? I'll tell you what to look for. How to raise your kids so they will be functional humans that others appreciate. How to handle not being the "go-to" parent. 

How much sex is too much? Taking control of your online dating apps. Caring for your friends when they are grieving. 

Third time is a charm? Let’s talk about insecurity, bad days, 6th graders dealing weed, and social media. 

Help! I have a crush on my therapist!More on how to choose the best therapist for you.How to forgive ourselves. 

How do you find a decent therapist?What do you do when the people you love turn their backs on you?Are men capable of real relationships?