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This Isn't Working
by Meghan Lamm
Join Relationship Coach, Meg Lamm, as she explores common challenges that couples face, and offers practical, fresh ideas for creating closer, more supportive connection. Whether you're struggling with communication, feeling misunderstood, or simply want to strengthen your partnership, this podcast provides the insights and tools that take you from "Not Working" to thriving. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Episodes
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18: The Real Reason You Can't Get Close to Someone
Last week, we talked about cutting away the parts of yourself that perform and please to get approval. But what about the deeper layer—the self-judgment that keeps you hiding parts of yourself because you’ve decided they’re too ugly, too bad, too weird, too gross to be seen? In this deeply...
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17: One Step to Create More Intimacy in Your Relationship
We always hear about adding to our relationships — better communication, more connection, new tools. But what if the relationship you want isn’t about adding… what if it’s about cutting away? In this episode, I’m sharing the personal patterns I had to cut away in order to have the relationship I...
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16: Why You Can't Get Close to Those You Love
What happens when we avoid telling the truth — not just the big truths, but the small, daily ones about how we feel, what we want, and who we really are? In this episode, we explore a hard truth: the more we pretend in our relationships, the more we erode trust, intimacy, and connection. We talk...
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15: Whose Life ARE You Living?
Today we dive into a subtle but powerful dynamic that shapes so many of our choices: living according to other people’s needs, expectations, or comfort—often at the expense of our own desires. We say we want something, but we hesitate, delay, or quietly wait for someone else’s permission before...
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14: Getting What You DON'T Want???
In today’s episode, I'm breaking down one of the most common reasons people stay stuck in patterns that don’t serve them: they’re solving the wrong problem! From clients who just want peace in their relationships to those who avoid hard conversations to keep the peace—I’m walking you through how...
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13: Why Wanting Isn't the Same as Choosing
We all say we want change—better communication, more intimacy, a thriving business, a healthier body. But if you’ve been circling the same patterns over and over again, it’s time to ask: are you committed, or just interested? In this powerful episode, I break down the sneaky ways we stay…
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12: How to Be Your Own Superhero
When we’re young, we believe everything is possible. We dream big, imagine superpowers, and trust that we can have love, wealth, purpose, and joy.... EVERYTHING, all at once. But somewhere along the way, we’re taught to settle. To be grateful for “enough.” In this episode, we'll explore the...
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11: The Root of Relationship Problems
How many times have you gotten upset with your partner—not because of what they actually said or did, but because of what you assumed they meant? Assumptions are at the root of so many relationship struggles. We assume we know what our partner meant, so we get defensive. We assume we know their...
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10: How to Get What You Want
What if one day could change everything? What if you could finally see the thing that’s been keeping you stuck—the hidden manual you've been following that's shaping your life, relationships, health, finances… your success? And what if, once you saw it, you could change it? In this episode, I’m...
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9: How to Have the Hard Conversation
Have you been avoiding the conversation???? You know the one... You keep putting it off because it feels too big, too uncomfortable, or too risky. Maybe it’s with your partner, a friend, a family member, a child, or even your boss. But avoiding it isn’t making things better. In this episode…
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8: How to Celebrate What Matters (And Skip the Rest)
The holidays are marketed as the ‘most wonderful time of the year,’ but for many of us, they’re filled with stress, awkward moments, and the impossible pressure to make everything perfect. In this episode, we’re flipping the script and focusing on what really matters—connection. I’m sharing my…
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7: How to Stop a Fight Before It Starts
In today’s episode, we’re uncovering a powerful strategy for stopping arguments before they even begin. It’s all about recognizing that two perspectives can coexist—yours and your partner’s—and that both can be valid, even if they’re different. Too often, we get caught up in defending our...
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6: One Shift to Create Major Change in Your Relationship
In this episode, we dive into a crucial aspect of relationships—understanding the difference between reaction and response, or put another way, conscious action versus impulsive reaction. I break down what these terms really mean and how we often get caught up in reactions driven by our emotional...
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5: How to Deepen Your Connection
In this episode I dive into how our perceptions and the stories we create in our minds can control our behavior and reactions in relationships. Often, we’re not responding to what’s actually happening but to the narrative we’ve built around it. I share a personal example from my relationship with...
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4: Breaking the Walls Between You
In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about a moment in my relationship that challenged me to rethink how I show up with affection and vulnerability. When Walt brought up how I was responding to his attempts for affection, my initial reaction was resistance and blame. I’ll walk you…
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3: How Expectations are Hurting Your Relationship
In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we’re diving into the idea of “unspoken agreements” in relationships—those expectations we carry around in our minds without even realizing it. We explore how these unspoken agreements can create tension and frustration when our partners don’t live up to the...
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2: How to Cultivate Calm in Your Relationship
In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we explore the power of turning your focus inward when you find yourself reacting to your partner. Meg shares a personal story about a recent experience with her partner, Walt, where she found herself caught up in trying to control an external situation…
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1: How to Stop Feeling Lonely
In this week's episode I dive into a common, yet rarely discussed, issue in long-term relationships: the loneliness and isolation that can arise even (or maybe especially) after years of being together. Episode Highlights: The Trap of "Should": We explore how the tendency to behave in ways we…
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I Don’t Want to Be His Mother!
Continuing on their quest for an inspiring relationship, Meg and Walt run into a pattern that leaves both unfulfilled. See how they maneuver through the patterns and have a luxurious weekend together. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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New and Improved
OK. So we've proven to each other that we have built up a system that can handle the triggers and whatever else gets in the way of loving each other. So now what? How do Meg and Walt present themselves to each other if there's nothing to fix? It's a little like being empty nesters. So now what?...
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Triggers and Self-Value
In this episode, Meg and Walt show what it's like when - for Meg - another woman connects with Walt in a way that he needs, and -for Walt - another man gives Meg something she is really seeking. What to do? How to stay centered? ... Listen to find out how they handle themselves through the…
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Separation - Vacation
What happens when one person in a relationship really takes time for herself on a vacation, while her partner is home living the normal life? Meg was with her children on the Atlantic and she really wanted to be present to them and give herself the space she felt she needed. Was Walt big enough…
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It Can Be Done
Meg and Walt found that they could enjoy a holiday of 22 hours, once Walt dropped his expectations of what that was supposed to look like. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Triggering the Little Teapot
When the person you love is exploding in front of you at something she/he says you did, it's time to take a look at your contribution to the blow-up. This episode gives a method to take some of the pain away from what causes these whirling emotions and most importantly, how to understand what is...
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I'm a Little Teapot
When we try to manager each other, there will always be an emotional fallout. In this episode we ran into some high emotions - publicly - but we learned what touched it off, and we learned that it made our love deeper. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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This Is Working
In this episode, we take some time to say what IS working between. We explain why we commit to bettering the relationship and going through all the effort that we talk about in the other episodes. This is a celebration of each other and our love for each other. Hosted on Acast. See...
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Why Bother
"Why Bother" with telling the person you love what is bothering you, and mostly, what the other person is doing that bothers YOU! In this episode, Meg and Walt share some of the misconceptions or false beliefs each had about the other and how they finally brought them out to the other. They…
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Who's Driving the Bus
Who's Driving the Bus? Sometimes I can catch myself before I respond in a way that has nothing to do with what's actually going on. Other times I have to admit that someone else was driving, hurt feelings from a memory or a misinterpretation or assumption of what my partner actually meant or did....
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Outside the Box
Thinking "Outside the Box" means to STOP defending patterns that are detrimental to the kind of intimacy that you really want. If you you want a deep connection with the other, we must stop the patterns that have prevented intimacy in the past. The patterns that we so easily fall into are the…
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Tempest in a Teapot
Small things become big with hurt feelings. A date goes wrong - ends early - but we don't risk being vulnerable about ending the date. So, the tension goes on until we do risk. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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I'm Leaving
In this episode, we discuss what it's like to be disappointed in the other's choices. Although we are honest and vulnerable enough to admit we wish things worked out the way we first wanted, we also admit that what we really want is that each person feels supported and accepted. When one person…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Join Relationship Coach, Meg Lamm, as she explores common challenges that couples face, and offers practical, fresh ideas for creating closer, more supportive connection. Whether you're struggling with communication, feeling misunderstood, or simply want to strengthen your partnership, this podcast provides the insights and tools that take you from "Not Working" to thriving.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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