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Thriving Your Love
by Claudio Silva and Tricia Kim Walsh
Thriving Your Love is a podcast produced by emotionally focused therapists Claudio Silva, LMFT, and Tricia Kim Walsh, LMFT. This podcast aims to help couples and families connect with their loved ones and thrive in their relationships. When couples feel disconnected, they become stuck in a cycle from which they cannot get out—all their efforts to bring each other closer cause more distance and increase their distress. The same happens in the relationship between parents and children. When children misbehave and become rebellious, parents try different approaches that only cause more resistance. This podcast talks about these stuck places that people get in their relationships and gives suggestions that are at the same time practical and go to the core of the problems.
Episodes
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Understanding Narcissism
In this episode of Thriving Your Love, we explore how nature and nurture may interact in developing narcissistic traits. Genetic predispositions, temperament, childhood experiences, and relationships with caregivers can all play a role. Growing up in an abusive, neglectful, or emotionally unsafe...
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The Narcissist’s Need to Win
In this edition of Thriving Your Love, we explore the narcissist’s need to win. For someone with strong narcissistic traits, being right can become more important than discovering the truth or understanding another person’s perspective. Interactions can turn into competitions in which they feel...
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Connection vs Power in Relationships
In this episode, we explore why power and control are fundamentally incompatible with emotional connection. A controlling partner often seeks to feel significant by positioning themselves above the other person, believing that superiority will bring security or fulfillment. Yet this strategy can...
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Understanding Controlling Behaviors
In this edition of our podcast, Thriving Your Love, we explore how couples try to control each other in different ways. You might have heard about the term codependency, which refers to a person trying to change another one who is addicted to something. It can also happen in a relationship when a...
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Avoiding Toxic Relationships
In the previous edition, we discussed the position of the person who controls and who sometimes can be abusive and violent. In this edition, we focus on the person who feels controlled or abused. We explain the intention of the one who controls: to prevent the loss of the loved one. Because the...
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Overcoming Your Tendency To Control
In this episode, we discuss a tendency among some partners to control their loved ones. We try to understand the underlying motivation behind their need to control and offer suggestions for overcoming it. We explain that controlling behavior stems from difficulty believing that one is lovable,...
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How Stress Hurts Relationships
Stress not only hurts the stressed person but also those around them. If you are stressed, you can be sure it affects your loved ones. Now you have two problems: your stress and its impact on the important people in your life. Something that can greatly reduce stress is vulnerability. Sharing…
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Cultural Differences in Couples
One factor that often attracts people romantically is their differences. When these differences are not too extreme, individuals may feel drawn to partners who complement them in ways that are opposite. For example, an introverted person may feel attracted to an extrovert, and someone who speaks...
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Addiction: The Remedy for Loneliness Part 2
If you have a loved one who has an addiction, you might have realized a long time ago that you feel disconnected from that person. You might seek their attention and protest the distance. However, they resist your plea for connection, and they make their addiction their priority. This causes you…
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Addiction The Remedy for Loneliness
In our latest podcast, Addiction: The Remedy for Loneliness, we explore the growing epidemic of loneliness and how people often turn to addictions as substitutes for genuine human connection. This pattern often begins in childhood, when children are unable to form secure bonds with their…
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When Anger Takes the Wheel: What Are We Really Fighting For?
In the latest episode of Thriving Your Love, Trisha and Claudio revisited a powerful question: What is the true cost of being right? Beneath our arguments, our yelling, and our frustration often lies something much more vulnerable—a desire to feel loved, valued, and safe.
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When Anger Comes From Love
In this podcast, Tricia and I explore how anger can sometimes be a protest—a cry from someone who doesn't feel loved, valued, or respected by the person closest to them. At its core, anger can be a cry for attention: a longing to be treated as someone special and to hold a meaningful place in the...
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The Origins of Anger – Part 1
Welcome to the first episode in our series exploring the many facets of anger. Today, we want to emphasize that anger itself is not bad. It's a natural, healthy emotion designed to enhance our chances of survival. In fact, without anger, we probably wouldn't have made it this far as a species —…
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Insecure Parenting
The concept of the "inner child" typically refers to the part of ourselves that felt unloved and unimportant during childhood. This inner child embodies trauma, pain, and a desire for love and appreciation. As children, we yearned to feel loved and connected to our caregivers. We sought their...
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Being Compassionate to Yourself and Others
We discuss the significance of compassion for our well-being and the value of maintaining good relationships with others. Being unkind to ourselves contributes to unhappiness and reduces our productivity. Blaming ourselves or forcing ourselves to meet expectations drains the energy we need for…
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Your Unconditional Worth Part 2
In this podcast, we explore how childhood influences our sense of worth. Not feeling loved and connected to our caregivers during childhood makes us think we must perform to be accepted. This causes many people to work hard to achieve their goal of being loved and accepted. Unfortunately, this...
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Childhood Trauma: How it Can Affect Your Relationships
If you had a traumatic childhood, you dream about having a different experience in your adulthood. You would like to find love and feel safe in the hands of your significant other. However, your trauma may often stand in the way of finding happiness. You may have difficulty trusting your partner,...
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Reconnecting Through Repair
We all dream about having a great relationship with a loved one. We think the ideal relationship is one where there isn't any disagreement, or at least disagreements are rare. In this podcast, we show how even the best relationships have disagreements. The hallmark of a good relationship isn't…
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Your Unconditional Worth
In this episode, we discuss people's tendency to think that their worth depends on external circumstances. We explain that our worth does not depend on our condition, money, beauty, or accolades.
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The True Meaning of Authority
The concept of authority is frequently confused with harshness and power. The “authoritative” person places themselves in a position of superiority and shows others who is the boss. This causes people to feel humiliated and disrespected. The result is that people either resist defiantly or comply...
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The You & I Story
In this edition of the Thriving Your Love Podcast, Shalini Dayal, MFT, and Natasha Kharbanda, LCSW, speak about their work and how they have shared their knowledge of EFT and John Gottman with therapists in India and other countries.
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The South Asian Story
In this special edition of Thriving Your Love, we interview Shalini Dayal, LMFT, and Natasha Kharbanda, LCSW. They discuss the importance of tailoring couples therapy to the needs of each culture, in their case, the South Asian community. They raise awareness of the challenges of interracial...
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Being A Responsive Partner
We talked about the negative cycle that happens between partners. One partner seeks connection through blame and control, while the other avoids it for fear of being hurt. In this episode, we explain how one partner can bring the other close by being responsive.
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Reassurance Soothes Jealousy
We talked about how reassurance helps people feel more secure. When people are afraid of losing their attachment figure, reassurance of one's love goes a long way toward helping them feel safe.
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Belonging with Your Partner
Do you believe you belong with your partner or sometimes feel like an outsider? Many partners don't feel desired by their partners and see themselves as inadequate or not good enough. This may affect their self-esteem because their perception of themselves is tightly connected to how they think...
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Jealousy
Jealousy is caused by fear of losing a significant attachment figure. It may be based on reality or in our imagination. When it's based on reality, it may help us guarantee that we don't lose a loved one. However, if it's in our imagination, we might cause relationship problems. Sometimes, the…
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The Science of Love
In this video, we discuss how attachment theory helped us understand love and the need for someone we can count on.
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Attachment and Affection
In this edition we talk about about how we show love through our body language. Our tone of voice, our touching, our eyes, and our gestures sometimes speak louder than the words we say. Turning to our loved one when they are talking to us and paying attention to them tells them that they are...
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How to Understand a Narcissist Partner
In this last episode of Understanding a Narcissist Partner, we focus on the need to feel important and the lack of awareness of the impact of a partner. Narcissists need to feel important and valuable. One way they do it is by driving the attention to themselves. Being the center makes them feel...
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Narcissism and Vulnerability
In this video, we explain how narcissism and vulnerability cannot coexist. Narcissism involves a fear of being oneself and hiding behind a mask of self-confidence. The more we fear being seen, the less able we are to be vulnerable. We hide behind a mask of superiority for fear that people will…
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Understanding Narcissism
In this podcast, we aim to demystify narcissism disorder. Like other mental health illnesses such as borderline disorder and bipolar disorder, narcissism disorder has been looked upon with judgment and prejudice. We try to bring more understanding and acceptance to a problem that affects most of…
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Understanding Attachment
In this episode, we will give you a helpful overview of where love comes from parent to child and, as adults, partner to partner. This is the critical ingredient to Emotionally Focused Therapy. Our brain is designed for connection, and we seek proximity to others from the very moment we are born....
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Love Rituals
During the honeymoon phase we do everything we can to spend time with our loved ones. The desire to be with each other is spontaneous and we might even forgo sleep and work. After the honeymoon phase, nonetheless, we need to be intentional about it. Love rituals are anything that we do to show…
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Seeking Comfort
Having a strong connection with our partner makes us feel protected. Our partner is like a shield that helps us to feel safer in the world. We know that we have someone who has our back and this gives us the courage we need to face the challenges of life.
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Giving Comfort
In our desire to help our loved ones, we give them advice or solutions. We think that they expect us to fix their problems when they only want our presence amidst their pain. We would like our love to take all the pain away from our partner's life. However, that's not possible. Although we cannot...
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Vulnerable Conversations
In the last video of the series “Healing from Affairs,” we talk about the type of conversation that helps a couple to heal from an attachment injury such as an affair. Couples have difficulty healing from an affair because their communication is focused on attacking and defending. The injured...
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Affair Proofing Your Relationship
Affairs cause a great deal of shame for both partners. The injured one thinks that their partner betrayed them because they are not good enough. Maybe they are not attractive, charming or special. They conclude that there is something missing about them that their partner found in the other…
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Healing from Affairs
Of all the problems that a couple may face, the worst is an affair. It's no wonder that about half of the couples who go through an affair, end up in divorce. It is very common for therapists to help couples who are trying to heal from an affair. Affairs shake the foundation of the relationship…
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The Avoidant Partner's Worst Fear
In the last podcast, we talked about the worst of all fears which is losing the love of our attachment figure. In this podcast, we dive into how this fear shows up differently for those who avoid closeness. The fear of being criticized or having a fight causes avoidant partners to distance...
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The Worst of All Fears
We continue talking about fear and how it plays out in adult relationships. Our worst fear is to lose the person whom we love the most. When we feel rejected or abandoned, we try everything we can to get reassurance from our partner that they are there for us. If we cannot get this reassurance…
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The Origins of Fear
Fear is a great survival mechanism that propels us to seek a connection to another human being who can help us feel safe. When our survival is threatened, our brain triggers a series of physiological reactions designed to prepare our body to face the perceived threat. The part of the brain that...
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How Shame Affects Relationships
Shame is one of the most challenging feelings because it affects our self-esteem and makes us want to hide. We develop shame in our childhood through our relationship with our attachment figures. When we cannot feel connected to them, we think that the problem is with us. Maybe we are unlovable…
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Shame and Vulnerability
Shame is one of the most challenging feelings because it affects our self-esteem and makes us want to hide. We develop shame in our childhood through our relationship with our attachment figures. When we cannot feel connected to them, we think that the problem is with us. Maybe we are unlovable…
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Attachment Injuries
Every relationship has its problems and disagreements are a normal part of them. The secret resides in the ability to talk about the hurt in a vulnerable way. Attachment injuries occur when the injured person cannot trust the other to be there for them anymore. When they talk about the injury…
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Tuning Into Your Emotions
Couples become disconnected when they do not share what they feel. They might not be in touch with their emotions or be afraid of expressing them. Many times they act upon their emotions instead of making them clear. In this video podcast, we talk about the importance of being vulnerable. When we...
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The Meaning You Make
When couples cannot get along, they come up with explanations for their distress. They tell themselves stories about themselves, their partners, and the relationship. They might say that they did not have enough time to know each other, they are too different, or they are beyond repair. They…
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The Negative Cycle
The pursuer feels disconnected from the withdrawer and points out the problem. The withdrawer says there is no problem when the disconnection seems so obvious to the pursuer. The pursuer feels dismissed and ignored and becomes louder to get the attention of the withdrawer who feels attacked and...
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The Importance of Relationships
Human beings are social by nature. Our brain is designed for connection and from the moment we are born we seek proximity to others. Connection with a loved one makes us feel strong and secure. Our brain works at an optimal level, and we become curious and creative. We are more courageous, and…
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Thriving Your Love is a podcast produced by emotionally focused therapists Claudio Silva, LMFT, and Tricia Kim Walsh, LMFT. This podcast aims to help couples and families connect with their loved ones and thrive in their relationships. When couples feel disconnected, they become stuck in a cycle from which they cannot get out—all their efforts to bring each other closer cause more distance and increase their distress. The same happens in the relationship between parents and children. When children misbehave and become rebellious, parents try different approaches that only cause more resistance. This podcast talks about these stuck places that people get in their relationships and gives suggestions that are at the same time practical and go to the core of the problems.
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Thriving Your Love is a podcast produced by emotionally focused therapists Claudio Silva, LMFT, and Tricia Kim Walsh, LMFT. This podcast aims to help couples and families connect with their loved ones and thrive in their relationships. When couples feel disconnected, they become stuck in a cycle...
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