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To Be Single or Not to Be
by Shaanah Montanna
A podcast where we discuss navigating life with or without a partner and the cause and effects that come along with it. Are either all they’re really cracked up to be? Each episode will leave you with new info to decide if you’re to be single or not to be… that is the final question!
Episodes
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Surrender vs. Control: Trusting His Plan
Why is surrender so difficult...even when we say we trust God? In this episode, we unpack the tension between control and faith. We explore the deeper issue beneath our need to manage outcomes, predict timelines, and force clarity - and why letting go can feel more threatening than staying in...
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Staying True to Yourself While Loving Others
What happens when honoring yourself starts to feel like disappointing everyone else? In this episode, I explore the tension between authenticity and accommodation - especially for millennials who were often taught to keep the peace, stay quiet, and move on instead of talking things through. We...
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The Show is Over. Drop the Act & Show Up Authentically
What happens when the version of you that once worked… no longer fits? In the season premiere of To Be Single or Not To Be Podcast, Shaana opens Season 5 with an honest solo conversation about stepping out of performance and into alignment. This episode explores the difference between living a...
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STATE OF THE UNION ADDRESS: THE STATE OF RELATIONSHIPS IN 2024
In this special and final episode of the Runnin' it Back Series, we take a deep dive into the state of relationships in 2024. It's a real, raw, and VERY necessary conversation that every woman seeking healthy and happy love needs to hear! Put those headphones on, get comfortable, and buckle up…
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Do You Even Know Who Raised That Man?
On this episode we take a deep dive into the role that family plays in your dating life when you think it does not! It's essential for you to ask yourself questions like, who raised that man, what kind of upbringing did he have, was he taught to respect and value women, does he hate his family?…
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Market Value is More Than a Pretty Face & Finances
On this episode we take a deep dive into the conversations around market value so we can lay it to rest! Market value is more than skin and pockets deep. Yet, it still lies in the hands of the beholder. Your value begins and ends in you and within you. So, how marketable are you and are you sure...
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Don't Commit to Your Next Relationship Before Reviewing This List!
On this episode we take a deep dive into the areas you need to make sure you fully tap into before you decide to commit to a new relationship! These are items that call for us to step out of the laziness that has led us to bad partner selection in the past and will force us to put in the work to...
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Stop Playing With Your Friendships!
On this episode we take a deep dive into what friendship really means and looks like in the digital age of premature dismissals. If they are really your friend and someone you say you care about, then watch this episode to continue moving forth in grace and accordingly! Platonic friendships…
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Is She Too Independent or Is That Man Not Doing Enough?
On this episode we revisit my views on what it really means to be independent and is there a such thing as too independent in a society that say women want to be masculine anyway! It's much deeper than taking out the trash when a man is in close proximity. Listen to the episode and let me know…
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They Cheated. Do I Stay or Pay Them Dust?
On this episode we revisit my views on cheating, how you define what cheating is to you personally, the hand social media plays in cheating present day, and how you navigate it if it happens to you (whether you should leave or stay). Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop •...
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That Man Does Not Need More Time. That Man Does Not Like You
On this episode we revisit my views on timelines in relationships and dating and why they are not as necessary as I once thought. It's more so about what you are doing with the time you are giving over how much time has gone by! Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana...
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How to End Generational Curses Immediately!
On this episode we revisit my views and the truth about GENERATIONAL CURSES! They are more than only building financial wealth. There are actually FEELINGS involved, too! Listen to the episode and let me know what you think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit...
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The Hard Truth About Breakups...NOW WHAT?
On this episode we revisit my views the HARD truth about breakups, why they happen, what you can possibly do to prevent them, and how to navigate them if you run into their murky waters! Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me…
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Stop Negotiating Your NON-Negotiables!
On this episode we revisit my views on non-negotiables because it's time for us to discuss WHY do we even have them if we are not going to ever stick beside 'em? Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please visit...
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Why Would a Woman Go Half on Anything With a Man?
On this episode we revisit my views on the financial perspective of a relationship! Should women go half, should they never consider it, or is it still up for debate? Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! Shop • Shaana Montanna & if would like to buy me a coffee, please…
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Why Women Really Want a Husband!
On this episode we revisit my views on why women really want a husband! Is it for love, is it for money, or is it for reasons that have nothing to do with that at all! Tune in for the deets and let me know what you really think! If would like to buy me a coffee, please visit...
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One Night Only: The Tell All Interview with Shaanah Montanna - Ep. 111
This is the season finale of the To Be Single or Not To Be podcast and we are so excited to be here! This episode is exclusively on YouTube and is one you do not want to miss! We sit down with the Creator and Host of the podcast for a one night only special where she "TELLS ALL" about aspects of...
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Let's Talk About Labels...AGAIN! - Ep. 110
On this episode, we take another dive into a conversation around labels and the necessity of them since it seems many people are unclear about this said thing! Whether a label is to make sure all parties know they are in a relationship or to clarify that you are not in one, they are needed across...
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The Value of Sisterhood - Ep. 109
On this episode, we take a deep dive into the sometimes overlooked value of sisterhood! In this day and age of social media relationship goals, women being focused on getting the ring by any means necessary, and some people never having the experience of what genuine sisterhood looks like, it was...
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Non Monogamy & Polyamorous Relationships - Ep. 108
On this episode, we take a deep dive into what non monogamous and polyamorous relationships truly look like, inside and out! Many people will say those who choose this lifestyle are just greedy or afraid of commitment and there may be some truth to that. However, after this episode gives you...
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Relationship Accountability: What Does it Really Mean - Ep. 107
On this episode we take a deep dive into the feared and almighty meaning of the word, "ACCOUNTABILITY"! It is wild how one word has so much power; yet, so many people fear stepping into the action of what it really means consistently. On this episode, we have a seat at the table with Mr....
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Relationship Gridlock - We Are Stuck and Want to Move Forward - Ep. 106
On this episode, we take a dive into the sometimes harsh reality that relationship gridlock happens. However, it's all about what you do after that! Relationship gridlock is inevitable at some point in a relationship, but, that does not mean it has to last forever. Dive into this conversation as...
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Breaking Toxic Relationship Cycles - Ep. 105
On this episode, we take a deep dive into what breaking a toxic relationships looks like! In the world of Futures and Kevin Samuels #RIP, we have to determine where the largest problem lies, how this problem started, and why we cannot seem to move past it in this day and age! Toxicity relies on…
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Are Men Healing and Caring For Themselves at the Same Rate as Women? Ep. 104
On this episode we take a deep dive into a necessary conversation around the facts of the matter when it comes to women and men healing and taking care of themselves in therapy and if we are doing it at the same rate! We are finally a generation of people who understands the importance and power…
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The Importance of Therapy While Dating - Ep. 103
On this episode, we take a deep dive into the GREAT importance of getting into therapy while you are dating! For many years, the only time we would hear about therapy would be shortly before marriage and it was in the form of pre-marital counseling only! However, we now know that therapy should…
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Part 3: SMBC - Single Mom By Choice - Ep. 102
On this episode, we take a deep and interesting dive into what may be an unknown or new acronym and lifestyle that is making waves through society that is known as "Single Mom by Choice!" A SMBC is someone who decides to become a mother, knowing that they will be the sole parent of their child at...
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Part 2: Black Maternal Health in America: Are We in a Crisis?
On this episode, we continue the conversation around Black maternal health in America and how we overcome this crisis! Special guests: Callie D., Aeryka H., Chemyeeka T.
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Part 1: Black Maternal Health in America: Are We in a Crisis? Ep. 101
On this episode, we take a deep and very necessary dive into the state of Black maternal health in America to uncover why we are in a crisis, how we help ourselves and future generations overcome it, and what we must do to get justice in this fight for our lives! Special guests: Callie D., Aeryka...
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The Great Debate: Men vs. Women - Ep. 100
On this episode, we have an entertaining, upbeat, and insightful conversation around who is more responsible for the issues we see in relationships! From finances, to first dates, to cheating, and so much more! We leave it all on the table and at the end of this episode, we leave YOU to decide!...
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Suffering is Not a Requirement for Love - Ep. 99
On this episode we take a deep dive into the true meaning of self love to help listeners understand that suffering is not a pre-requisite to gain the love that you desire. We unpack how Disney sold us a nightmare and packaged it as a sweet dream, how being in relationships with the right person…
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What About Yo Friends? Let's Talk Friendship! - Ep. 98
On this episode we take a deep dive into one of the relationship types that I highly value and that would be FRIENDSHIPS! In this sometimes toxic culture of "throwing people away" we wanted to really dissect the importance of friendships, how to navigate changing friendships, and how to handle it...
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Kim vs. Kanye - Bonus Tea
Listen in as myself and special guests pregame before a recording session with some interesting tea and thoughts on Kim & Kanye! This may not age well, but we enjoyed the convo, and for the time being it seemed so appropriate! Welp! Like to hear it, here it go! Special guests: Alleged Kardashian...
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Create Your Own Love Language - Ep. 97
On today's episode, we dive into love languages deeper than you ever have before! Love languages are all about showing up and loving your partner the way that they desire. So, why not show up EXACTLY as they desire with personalized languages? Thinking about how to love deeper and show up better…
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Detachment: How to Detach & Dealing With a Detached Person - Ep. 96
On this episode we take a deep dive into detachment into all aspects and how to deal with it! Detachment can be a dangerous game if not played properly and we are here to teach you how to be connected to everything, yet attached to nothing. Detachment gets a bad wrap, but it doesn't have to. Dive...
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Long Term Relationships - You Will Change & So Will Your Partner - Ep. 95
On this episode, we take a deep dive into making long term relationships last forever! Alexa, play Keith Sweat. We dive into understanding what good (or inevitable) change looks like, how to understand and navigate it, and how to adjust your personal sails in the winds and high tides of what we...
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Leaving Will Hurt & You Will Be Okay! Leaving is NOT Losing! - Ep. 94
On this episode we take a deep dive into knowing when it is time to go, understanding the process to arrive at and stand by the decision, and understanding that you are NOT a loser if you decide to part ways! Leaving is not losing and want the world to know that in any situation, at the end of…
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Where the Cash At? Is it Pay for Play in 2022? - Ep. 93
On this episode we take a deep and FUN dive into what money and relationships looks like present day because we want to know is it pay for play in 2022? We discuss the Kevin Samuels mindset, what role finances play in partnership, and if money is or should be the most important thing when dating...
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Why Do We Keep Taking Them Back? - Ep. 92
On this episode, we take a deep dive into why we continue to take people back, repeatedly, in relationships when they have shown us they are no longer worthy of our attention, love, or time. We explore where these behaviors stem from, what we were not taught growing up that has led us here, and…
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You Cannot Love Them Into the Person You Are Envisioning - Ep. 91
On this episode, we take a deep dive into why we envision people to be someone that they have proven they cannot be in their relationship with us and why we must stop doing this NOW! We explore what this looks like, how we got here (Alexa, play Deborah Cox), and how we overcome it forever! When...
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Fantasy vs. Reality of Love - Ep. 90
On this episode, we take a deep dive into the fantasy of love verses the reality of it. Are we creating our own illusions of love or are they being painted for us? Are we really up for the fight of what true love is or not really? Are we really taking a holistic look at potential partners and all...
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Imposter Syndrome - Ep. 89
On this episode we take a deep dive into what imposter syndrome really looks like, how it shows up in our lives, how we understand it, and how we navigate it to move around it and not let it stop us from greatness! The thought of feeling like we don't belong in places and spaces where we are…
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Relationship Attachment Styles - Ep. 88
On this episode we take a deep dive into what may be new territory for some and that is relationship attachment styles! Many times, they way we move in adult relationships is rooted in our childhood and relationships that existed there. So, this episode is here to give you insight on how growing…
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Comparison is the Thief of All Joy - Ep. 87
On this episode we take a deep dive into what truly creating the relationship you desire looks like without allowing the outside world to have a say so in that. In this conversation, we uncover how social comparison is more common than people think or allow and how the fact remains that when you...
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Secrecy vs. Privacy - Ep. 86
On this episode we take a deep, yet necessary, dive into the difference between secrecy verses privacy. In this day and age, we know that it is hard to not want to declare your love ALOUD via various internet or social media outlets. However, some people still desire privacy. So, this episode…
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Where The Money Reside! - Ep. 85
On this episode we take a deep dive and a revisit to previous episodes we've had around money and relationships! Money is a funny thing and it's even funnier if you and your partner or potential partner aren't on the same page about it! So, all of that said, we dive into what the conversations...
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Do Opposites Really Attract? - Ep. 84
On this episode we take a deep dive into the age old, and OUTDATED notion of opposites attracting! Yeah, dating your opposite may be fun for a moment or in some capacity. However, when it comes to long term love, compatibility and complementary partnership are way more ideal! So, pull up for this...
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It's the Phone For Me! - Ep. 83
On this episode we dive into a very necessary, yet sometimes controversial topic, on social media and those dam cell phones! We live in a world where social media is a permanent fixture in it. So, this means that we must start having real conversations about it with our partners so that we can…
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Your Partner Will Not Complete You - Ep. 82
On this episode we take a deep and necessary dive into what wholeness and feeling complete looks like with or without a partner. We tackle what being “complete” really means, what the self work looks like to get to self worth, and how to navigate these relationship waters to feel complete no…
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Relationships, Communication, & Conflict - Ep. 81
On this episode, we had the opportunity to get the real from a man's perspective when it comes to what they really want from women, what communication they really need from women, and how to handle conflict with them because SURPRISE... they do know how to communicate!! Men are a special species....
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Boundaries, Dealbreakers, & Triggers - Ep. 80
On this episode we take a a closer, and necessary, look back into boundaries, dealbreakers, and triggers. We dive into how to identify these areas, how to ensure that you have the right tools in your kit to push through or get out of certain situations with these items, and knowing when you truly...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
A podcast where we discuss navigating life with or without a partner and the cause and effects that come along with it. Are either all they’re really cracked up to be? Each episode will leave you with new info to decide if you’re to be single or not to be… that is the final question!
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Shaanah Montanna
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A podcast where we discuss navigating life with or without a partner and the cause and effects that come along with it. Are either all they’re really cracked up to be? Each episode will leave you with new info to decide if you’re to be single or not to be… that is the final question!
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