We Can Be Real

This week on We Can Be Real, I have a conversation with Veronica Finlay, Director of Development at The Center for Great Expectations.  CGE is a nonprofit rehabilitation center that seeks to form a partnership with homeless pregnant, and /or parenting women and adolescents, men, and their children, in creating a safe place, safe presence and a safe path, that enables clients to experience, choose and maintain physical, psychological, social and spiritual health for themselves, their children and their families.  CGE's Vision " To be a national leader in providing transformational (behavior health) substance use and mental health treatment to women, children, men and families impacted by trauma, abuse and neglect".  As the Director of Development at CGE, Veronica is responsible for donor identification and stewardship, event planning and execution, grant writing, appeals, newsletter and outreach.  Her passion is helping people; uplifting those who struggle or face significant challenges due to circumstances beyond their control.  Everyone deserves the opportunity to flourish and CGE helps families and women due just that. To learn more about CGE and to help, you can reach out to Veronica at [email protected] and please visit the website www.cge-nj.org. 

No one goes into a marriage expecting to get divorced. Unfortunately, the harsh reality is that many marriages fail and when they fail it is so important to have the right people on your side to help you navigate this extremely intimate and sensitive time. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about prenups, signs of separation, and having a “successful” divorce. Angela Kim is the chair of HDRB&B’s Matrimonial and Family Law Department. Her clients rely on her at critical – and often profoundly upsetting – moments in their lives. Angela handles a wide range of matrimonial and family law matters, including marriage dissolution (divorce), property distribution, child custody, spousal support, child support, and matrimonial agreements (prenuptial, post-nuptial and separation). A key part of Angela’s practice centers on economics and personal financial matters in an effort to secure equitable treatment for her clients. Angela chose to practice law because people are important to her; she wanted to belong to a profession where she could have a positive impact on lives and bring something back to the community. In this episode, Angela and I discuss:How a good mentor can help move you forward in your life and career. A matrimonial attorney’s thoughts on prenups. Signs that your marriage might be headed for divorce. Knowing when it’s time to call it quits for the best interest of all parties.  What a “successful” divorce looks like. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH ANGELA KIM:HDRB&BHDRB&B LinkedInAngela Kim's LinkedInSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

If you’re like me trying to date again later in life, you may have realized that dating isn’t how it used to be. In this digital era of dating, you might find yourself intimidated to even start or end up on dates with all the wrong guys. That’s why for Valentine's Day I wanted to treat my listeners to an episode with love coach, Natalie Kita. This week on We Can Be Real Natalie and I are talking about finding your last love. Natalie Kita is a love coach, helping smart, successful, spiritually conscious, "single again" women over 40 stop choosing and attracting the wrong guys. Her methods help her clients say goodbye forever to loneliness and rejection and manifest healthy, fulfilling, deeply connected, and lasting love with the exact right partner, in just 3-6 months.In this episode, Natalie and I discuss:Natalie’s recommended pre-date screening process to get to know your online date better beforehand and protect yourself as a woman.There is so much inner work that needs to be done and mental blocks to work through before you can begin choosing the right people to date.  What it means to date someone at the same bus stop as you. Choosing someone that aligns with your lifestyle, personality and values is much more important than seeking out someone for appearances. Reflecting on your non-negotiables, soul’s desires and cherry on top BEFORE you begin dating. If you enjoyed this episode, share it on social media using the hashtag #WeCanBeRealPod. Don’t forget to also follow, rate, and review the podcast, and tell me what resonated with you. CONNECT WITH NATALIE KITA:WebsiteYour Last Love Method Program FacebookInstagramSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

Podcast Update: After this episode, I will be putting the podcast on pause for a bit. In light of the cruelty happening in Israel, it feels disingenuous to continue posting content that in comparison, feels so trivial. It is important for me to keep the airways open for the professionals who come to serve and educate. In the meantime, you can connect with me on Instagram @ellenschweitzer_lifecoach. Please continue to follow the podcast so that you will be notified when I return. I am looking forward to reconnecting with you in a much lighter time.  We are conditioned to be strong, put on a brave face, and believe that vulnerability is a weakness. In reality, being vulnerable is one of the strongest things you can be. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about the power of vulnerability. In this episode, I share my experience of embracing vulnerability as a strength and the book and TED Talk that helped me open up to it. I try to be as real as possible on this podcast and truly believe that showing your most vulnerable self is the most real you can be.I challenge you to ask yourself next time you’re feeling vulnerable if you’re being weak or if you’re just being real.If you enjoyed this episode, share it on social media using the hashtag #WeCanBeRealPod. Don’t forget to also follow, rate, and review the podcast, and tell me what resonated with you. STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:TED Talk: Brene Brown: Power of VulnerabilityThe Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Antisemitism is far from a new concept. Historically, there have been times when it was extremely bad and other times when it leveled out. Right now we are unfortunately in a really bad, really scary time. This week on We Can Be Real Lauri is back on the podcast to join me in talking about antisemitism. Lauri Bader has been actively involved with the Jewish Federation of Nothern New Jersey for 20 years and served as President of its Women’s Philanthropy for 3 years. She is a member of AIPAC which promotes the relationship between the U.S. and Israel. Lauri has also been a member of Temple Emanual for 30 yearsIn this episode, Lauri and I discuss:Our upbringing and being naive to the hatred around the Jewish people. Finding the balance between being brave and standing up for what you believe in while keeping yourself out of harm's way.   The antisemitism on college campuses and the impact it has on our future generations.Times are scary and while we cannot sit back and do nothing, we don’t have to do any form of activism that we’re not comfortable with or feel unsafe doing. If you enjoyed this episode, share it on social media using the hashtag #WeCanBeRealPod. Don’t forget to also follow, rate, and review the podcast, and tell me what resonated with you. STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

For the first time ever, The Bachelor franchise is giving someone a second chance at love in the later part of their life with the release of The Golden Bachelor. As widows ourselves, my friends Debbie, Jaynee, and I were interested in tuning in to get a glimpse of what it looks like for other people in our situation to find love again. This week on We Can Be Real, my guests and I discuss The Golden Bachelor from a widow’s perspective! In this episode, Debbie, Jaynee, and I discuss:Our positive and negative takeaways from the first couple of episodes of The Golden Bachelor.The impact the contestants on the Golden Bachelor have on the women watching.Our speculations on the intentions of the contestants.The major differences between what contestants on The Bachelor look for and what the contestants on The Golden Bachelor look for. Our thoughts on uprooting your life at our age, PDA, and sex on the first date. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

In light of the senseless violence and destruction in Israel, it would be irresponsible to continue putting out regular podcast episodes without using my platform to address these horrific acts of terrorism. Complacency is NOT an option here. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by my dear friend Lauri Bader who fortunately got out of Israel safely and recounts her story while sharing resources for how we can help.Lauri Bader has been actively involved with the Jewish Federation of Nothern New Jersey for 20 years and served as President of its Women’s Philanthropy for 3 years. She is a member of AIPAC which promotes the relationship between the U.S. and Israel. Lauri has also been a member of Temple Emanual for 30 yearsIn this episode, Lauri and I discuss:Lauri’s experience being in Tel Aviv when the missiles hit on Saturday and her internal dilemma to stay in solidarity or flee to safety. Touching the surface of why this is happening and why now. Providing resources for how we can show our support and get involved. Resources:Write a letter to Congress asking for their support. Find your local Jewish Federation and donate.Donate to Friends of the IDF (Israel Defense Forces).Donate to Magen David Adom, Israel’s National EMS Organization.Jewish or not, we owe it to the people of Israel to stay educated and support them in any way that we can.If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH LAURI:FacebookInstagramSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

Content Warning: This episode includes brief mentions of violence and murder. We are not in control of the hand we are dealt in life. We are, however, in control of what we do with that hand and how we make the most of it to make a life worth living. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by Mark “Mayor” Farese sharing his life story and how he cultivated connection and capitalized on every opportunity that came his way. In this episode, Mark “MAYOR” and I discuss:How he turned his passion for sneakers into a full-time hustle that opened the door to more opportunities in the online space. The incredible role models in Mark’s life that had a hand in building him into the person he is today. How Mark managed to grow and leverage his network without ever using people.How he overcame the circumstances of his upbringing to create a successful and fulfilled life. Learning and growing from your mistakes. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH MARK “MAYOR” FARESE:InstagramX (formerly Twitter)STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

You don’t have to be physically alone- widowed, separated, single, etc. to feel alone. As humans, we are driven by connection and human interaction so even if we’re seemingly surrounded by people the majority of our lives, that feeling of loneliness can still creep in. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about overcoming loneliness one connection at a timeSome of the things I am doing to overcome my loneliness include:Sharing how I am feeling with other people to not keep everything bottled up.Reconnecting with my family members on a deeper more meaningful level.Rejoining a networking group I once belonged to and loved being part of.Finding connections by joining communities with others who have similar hobbies.Sharing meals with others- in person or via FaceTime.Your feelings are always better out than in. Whatever you’re feeling, talk to someone. I promise it can help.If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:Business Network International

Creativity is inside all of us and it does not matter which medium we choose to practice, the path to self-expression and self-development is through artistic expression. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by Stephanie Hirsch to talk about finding light in the dark through artistic expression!Stephanie Hirsch is a New York-based mixed media artist whose conceptual works explore themes of self-transformation and awareness. Stitching together words and imagery representing notions of strength, courage, humanity, and renewal, Hirsch questions and repositions everyday phrases. She repurposes objects generally considered masculine in nature and feminizes them as a way to show the dichotomy and duality within us as all. She has exhibited with numerous galleries and museums, has participated in various art fairs, and is part of several permanent collections such as the Newcomb Museum at Tulane University, and the Cornell Art Museum in Delray Beach, Florida. She is currently an artist in residence at Silver Art Projects. In this episode, Stephanie and I discuss:The lightbulb moment that led her to take ownership of her life.How Stephanie found self-expression and healing through her art.The intentionality behind the mediums of art Stephanie chooses to work with and the text she chooses to include in her pieces.Asking God, the universe, or whatever your higher power is to show you the signs of the lessons you are meant to learn.Meditation’s role in helping her find the calm in the chaos.The power of practicing the “I am” statement.If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH STEPHANIE HIRSCH:WebsiteInstagramSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:The Untethered Soul by Michael SingerThe Surrender Experiment by Michael SingerThe Creative Act by Rick RubinWishes Fulfilled by Dr. Wayne DyerA Return to Love Workshop by Marianne WilliamsonThe Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn

If I asked you to picture a Rabbi, you may have a specific type of person in mind and that person most likely wouldn’t have the Instagram handle @myhotrabbi. Today’s guest is challenging these stereotypes and paving a path of her own sharing Judaism in a joyful way. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by Rabbi Rebecca to discuss confessions of a female Rabbi. Rebecca Keren Eisenstadt is a Rabbi and private educator. She obtained semicha from Mesifta Adas Wolkowisk in New York. She graduated with Honors from NYU's Tisch School of the Arts. Rebecca also graduated from the Charles E. Smith Jewish Day School in Rockville, MD. Rebecca has been working as an on-demand Rabbi, B'nai Mitzvah, Hebrew and Judaic Studies tutor for more than 15 years, combining her loves of Judaism, music, and performance. She works with various synagogues in Manhattan and is affiliated with several Rabbis in the US and Israel. She also officiates weddings, funerals, baby namings, bespoke holiday gatherings and other Jewish life cycle events. Rebecca works with several charities to benefit veterans and the needy. Rebecca is currently developing a follow-documentary series about her busy life as a young female Rabbi. In this episode, Rebecca and I discuss:Why Rebecca actively avoids labeling herself.Challenging the stereotypes of what it means to be a Rabbi while respecting the rules- and it all starts by being comfortable in your own skin. Insight for anyone who may be struggling with their faith in God after experiencing pain. Reframing this idea that you have to be all in to practice religion the “right way.”The themes and topics covered in Rebecca’s upcoming book, Confessions of a Female Rabbi. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH REBECCA:InstagramWebsiteTikTokStay tuned for the release of her book, Confessions of a Female RabbiSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:When Bad Things Happen to Good People by Harold S. KushnerPeople Love Dead Jews by Dana Horn

Overcoming a binge eating disorder (or any eating disorder for that matter) is so much more than focusing on gaining or losing weight. There are a series of mindset shifts that need to happen first so that you can begin to make healthy choices that will lead you toward becoming the best version of yourself. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by my guest Meghan to talk about the mindset shifts to overcome a binge eating disorder. Meghan is a middle school science teacher in New York City about to begin her 27th year of teaching this September. Outside of the classroom, she loves exploring New York City, running (currently training for her second NYC Marathon), and spending time with family and friends. Meghan’s passions include being an aunt, rooting for her favorite teams (Penn State, the Pittsburgh Steelers, and the Milwaukee Bucks), all things social justice, and helping others. She struggled with binge eating and weight issues for most of her life but through her work with Ellen, she was able to finally name her disordered eating, develop strategies for working through binging, and after accomplishing that work towards becoming the best version of herself.  She hopes to help others by sharing her story.In this episode, Meghan and I discuss:How working with Ellen helped Meghan come to terms with and name her eating disorder. Some of the things that were so successful in helping Meghan overcome the urge to binge.Using the practice of ‘fast-forwarding the tape’ to help make decisions around eating.Examples of how Meghan’s mindset around food has shifted over the years.  How working with a nutritionist helped Meghan further reach and maintain her goals while nurturing a healthy relationship with food.Reincorporating exercise into her routine in a balanced way.  We can learn so much about ourselves and about others when we share our stories and open the door for conversation. If you or anyone you know is struggling with disordered eating, please feel free to reach out. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

I’ve been thinking a lot about core values because I used to believe that I would have the same core values for a lifetime. Recently, after reevaluating my core values, I have noticed a shift away from my focus on being a wife and a mother to valuing so much more. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about reevaluating and leaning into your core values!In this episode, I discuss the shift in my core values after the loss of my husband and my children transitioning into their adult lives towards finding value and fulfillment in other things.I encourage you to sit down and reflect on your own core values. DM me on Instagram and let me know what your core values are.If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:The Highly Sensitive Person Book by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D.The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult life experiences someone can go through. We all experience and process our grief differently and thus, survive in our own ways. Regardless of how you work through your grief, talking to someone can help. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about surviving the grief of losing a loved one. Brittany is a psychotherapist at Boutique Psychotherapy in NYC. She practices individual talk therapy with her clients and her specialty is working with adults struggling with anxiety, relationships, life transitions, women’s health issues, and grief and loss. Brittany majored in psychology at The University of Maryland and finished her studies at NYU’s Silver School of Social Work. In this episode, Brittany and I discuss:The things Brittany felt her parents did well in how they approached and handled conversations about her mom’s illness.What the first couple of years were like for Brittany after losing her mom at 17.Navigating the stages of grief and the new roles we find ourselves in after losing someone close to us.Ways that you can support people in your life who have lost someone close to them.Honoring your loved one's memory long after they have passed. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH BRITTANY PINTO:LinkedInWebsiteInstagramSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

I wasn’t the most resilient when I was younger, often caving under pressure and turning to food and weed to cope with the struggles in my lfie. As I got older, I found my resilience out of the necessity of caring for the people that I loved and my resilience grew from there. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about building resilience in the face of adversity.In this episode, I discuss:The first time I really had to be resilient in life as a newly divorced mother of two.How my resilience built upon itself and came second nature to me over time. Traits and characteristics of resilient people.Advice you can take today to start facing adversity in your life and building resilience. Is there something you’re struggling with? Send me a DM and let’s chat. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

Your personal story tells your clients what it is that you stand for. It shows them (and yourself through the work to find your story) your purpose and the things that drive you. It acts as a magnet to draw opportunities to yourself because once you stand in your personal story, you’ll find yourself showing up differently not only in your business but in your life. This week on We Can Be Real I, joined by my guest Patrice Poltzer are talking about the power in finding and sharing your personal story. After making a pivot from her career as a producer for the TODAY show, Patrice made the leap to start her own business helping people tell more powerful stories in their business to connect deeper to their audiences. In this episode, Patrice and I discuss:Making a career pivot at the height of her career with the TODAY Show.The most important part of choosing to do something is setting your choice in motion through action. Going deep and tapping into the power of your personal story.How sharing your personal story helps clients choose you over your competition. What true vulnerability looks like and the importance of doing the inner work on yourself. What is your personal story? Message me on Instagram and share with me the things that drive you towards your goals. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH PATRICE POLTZER:InstagramNewsletterLinkedInJoin the Founder’s Fire Cohort WaitlistSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

When I started my podcast, I vowed to share my life experiences and how I got through them with strength, resilience, and humility. The same goes for this episode where I talk about being single and dating again after losing the love of my life. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about navigating the dating world (or choosing not to).In this episode, I discuss:My dating history and what ultimately led me to find the love of my life in my late husband Gary. The way being married to Gary made me feel. Dipping my toes back into the dating pool via dating sites after becoming a widow.My decision to take myself off of dating sites indefinitely to work on myself. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with youSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Self-esteem is linear and confidence is subjective. It is all part of a journey with peaks and valleys made up of the experiences throughout our lives. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by Hila Revah to talk about boosting confidence and cultivating self-esteem!Hila Revah is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker currently working in a private practice in Bergen County, New Jersey. In her sessions with clients, she starts where the client is at. Through empathy and validation, Hila helps clients address the issues they came to see her for by catering sessions toward specific needs, realistic goals, and objectives. In this episode, Hila and I discuss:What it means to take a directive (no bullshit) approach to therapy. The difference between confidence and self-esteem and how they play into one another.Why children often appear more confident than adults and how much nature vs. nurture plays into maintaining this confidence. Combatting the comparison that comes from participating in social media. Decoding other phrases such as cockiness, arrogance, narcissism, and where they fall on the spectrum. Having insecurities is part of being human but as long as you want to make progress and positive change, it can happen. You need to want it and you need to be real with yourself about it.If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH HILA REVAH:WebsiteInstagram Email her at: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

Conceptually, we know what hunger is but in our busy lives, we can lose touch with it making it increasingly difficult to recognize the difference between habits and cravings. Differentiating between hunger, appetite, and cravings is so important as everything we do in life plays into how we eat and how we take care of ourselves from the inside out. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by Brigitte Zeitlin to talk about identifying the difference between hunger, appetite, and cravings.Brigitte Zeitlin is a celebrated women’s health coach and Registered Dietitian and founder of BZ Nutrition. She has been featured in Vogue, Well+Good, Women’s Health, Us Weekly, Self, & more. Brigitte is my go-to expert in nutrition and is a fan favorite when I bring her in to help my clients as well. In this episode, Brigitte and I discuss:The difference between appetite, hunger, and cravings and how they all play off of one another.How the ghrelin and leptin hormones work together to communicate hunger and fullness to our brains. The impact sleep and water intake have on our hunger and cravings.How to tell the difference between a craving and a true signal of hunger and how to spot and control your cravings.Tips and advice to maintain a more balanced diet. Awareness is key to everything in life but specifically, it is the key to maintaining a balanced diet that satisfies you.If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH BRIGITTE ZEITLIN:InstagramBook a Nutrition Application CallSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

There is so much that we can learn from those who are older and wiser than us. That is why this week on the We Can Be Real podcast, I am joined by my mother, Lenore Gensior as she shares her wisdom, life experiences and advice. This week on We Can Be Real, we’re exploring wisdom across generations!In this episode, my mom and I discuss:Advice she would give her 20-year-old self knowing what she knows today.The 3 C’s of finding the right partner.  When luck plays into our live journey and when we need to make our own luck. The importance of having deep conversations to get on the same page with your partner on everything from marriage, to family planning, finances, etc. Lessons in female friendships. How to instill confidence into your children from a young age. My mother’s biggest life takeaway is to always follow your heart and explore what you feel called to do in life. So tell me, what is your calling?If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

The word ‘trigger’ has become such a common word in our language to describe an intense feeling or emotional response to something. While many may consider this to be an overused word, we can also see it as a way to foster connection and open the door to communicating our feelings. This week on We Can Be Real I’m joined by 2 of my daughters, Lauren and Hillary as we talk about our triggers, what they mean, and how we manage them.In this episode, Lauren, Hillary, and I discuss:The definition of a trigger and how it can be used to form deeper connections and understanding with people around us.When avoiding your triggers can he helpful and when it can be harmful. Practicing positive self-talk to get yourself through painful situations and celebrating the small wins as we navigate our triggers. Practicing the pause: pausing, reflecting, and consciously reacting when you are feeling triggered by something or someone. If we can better understand why we, as well as others react to things the way we do, we can develop this deeper, closer connection than ever before. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH HILLARY AND LAUREN:E-mail Hillary: [email protected] Lauren: [email protected] Lauren Guss- Psychology TodaySTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

The most important thing to remember when approaching a difficult conversation is to do so in a gentle, respectful manner that gives everyone the space to feel seen and heard. And using the sandwich method to approach these conversations allows you to do just that! This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about how you can use the sandwich model to approach difficult conversations. In this episode, I walk you through the mental steps you should take leading up to the difficult conversation and how you can use the sandwich model to know what to say when it’s time. Some of the difficult conversations I coach through in this episode include:Approaching a friend who is constantly dumping their negativity onto you. Addressing when a co-worker is not pulling their weight but still getting credit. Telling your child their partner isn’t someone you think will make them happy in the long term. Disappointing a friend in order to put your own needs first. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

Whether it’s with a friend, family member, co-worker or whoever else, it can feel incredibly scary to have a difficult conversation. But if the person or relationship is important to you, it is so important to practice healthy communication and approach the conversation head-on. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about how to handle difficult conversations!In this episode, I discuss:Shifting your perspective to approach the situation with a conversation, not a confrontation. How to recognize and handle the “gremlin” within you.Knowing when to address something and when to let something go. What the acronym, “go with G.R.I.T.” means.In next week’s episode, I am taking listener questions and coaching you through how to handle the difficult conversations you might be facing in your life. Send me an Instagram DM and let me know what you need help working through! If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:The Anatomy of Peace

With the continual rise in online fitness programs post-pandemic, creators and instructors are finding themselves in a unique position to share their expertise and build community in a whole new way. Today’s guest is an expert in just that. This week on We Can Be Real I, alongside my guest Chase Willman are talking about why movement matters and how Chase built her thriving online community!As a long-time ballet dancer and performer, Chase brings her infectious energy and positive attitude to everything that she does. Chase began her fitness career as one of the top FlyBarre instructors at Flywheel Sports in two of the top global markets- New York City and the Hamptons. She developed her unique teaching style through her years of catering to enthusiasts of all levels in class, privates, and event formats. Driven by her desire to inspire others, what started as a commitment to keep her community together throughout a global pandemic, became her lifetime opportunity to create her very own virtual fitness platform in March 2020. She now teaches live every morning virtually from Cape Cod, sweating with her community from the Big Apple & beyond! In this episode, Chase and I discuss:The different ways movement has been a part of Chase’s life at every age.Advice for anyone looking to get started incorporating movement into their daily life. The pivots Chase made with her fitness business during the pandemic & her plans for the future. The importance of continuing to show up for yourself, no matter what.  How Chase grew her social media presence while keeping boundaries around her time and space. Keep yourself in motion. Even if it is a little bit every day, movement matters. If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH CHASE WILLMAN:WebsiteInstagramSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

Continuing the conversation from my first 3 episodes, I knew I wanted to record an episode on the value of movement in my eating disorder recovery. Movement not only was an incredible asset in recovering from my eating disorder but it has given me community and a higher sense of self-esteem and strength. This week on We Can Be Real I’m talking about how movement changed my life (more than once)!In this episode, I discuss the benefits of incorporating movement and exercise into your life, the different ways I have personally incorporated movement into my life over the years, and most importantly, how exercise was the catalyst for bringing me through some incredibly difficult times. To this day, no matter what I am going through, I prioritize moving my body every single day.  No matter your age or ability, I encourage you to find some type of movement that you can do that brings you joy. I guarantee you’ll notice the benefits instantly. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast. Let’s continue the conversation! DM me on Instagram and let me know how you incorporate movement into your life. STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram

{Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of eating disorders.}The definition of binge eating describes this disordered eating as feeling out of control when eating, eating when you’re full or not hungry, eating until you’re uncomfortably full, or frequently eating alone or in secret. As with anything, there is a lot of subjectivity to it and it looks different for everyone. This week on We Can Be Real, my guest Kathryn Hansen and I are talking about reclaiming your life after a binge eating disorder. Kathryn Hansen stopped binge eating for good in 2005. Since then, she has been dedicated to educating and empowering people who struggle with all forms of binge eating. Her first book, ‘Brain over Binge’ became a goal during her worst days of bulimia and was a vow that if she ever found a way to recover, she’d write about it in the hope of helping even one person struggling with the same problem. With the overwhelming response received from readers of ‘Brain over Binge’ who found complete recovery using the same brain-based concepts that helped her stop binge eating, she also received many requests for more information that led to her second book on the topic, ‘The Brain over Binge Recovery Guide.’ Kathryn is a wealth of knowledge and I am so happy to have her on the podcast. In this episode, Kathryn and I discuss:What is a binge eating disorder and some signs to help you understand if you have a habit of disordered eating. Common misconceptions on binge eating disorders. The power struggle between the primitive brain (the lower brain) and our pre-frontal cortex (the higher brain) that lead to binging. Recognizing when you’re free from the binge. Answering your listener questions.  The one thing I want to remind you of is that you’re not broken and when you can reframe your perception to see your urges as nothing but neurological junk, you can accept the urge to binge for what it is and move past it. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.CONNECT WITH KATHRYN HANSEN:Purchase the Brain Over Binge BooksBrain Over Binge WebsitePodcastInstagramFacebookLinkedInSTAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:Rational Recovery by Jack TrimpeyAddressing Weight Issues in Binge Eating Recovery- Brain Over Binge

{CONTENT WARNING: Eating Disorder, Binge Eating Disorder}One of the most pivotal points of my life revolved around the binge eating disorder I developed as a young girl and carried into my early adulthood. It impacted every aspect of my life and while I can now say I am free from the binge, my eating disorder is part of my story and influences how I help my clients today. This week on We Can Be Real I’m continuing my binge eating disorder story. In this episode, I discuss:The long-term effects of my binge eating disorder. Why I do not believe in diets but rather finding balance. How I unintentionally started a binge eating support group and what it means to me to be able to help others. The book that changed the way I help others understand and work through their binge eating disorders. If you have any questions on my journey or related to anything mentioned in this episode, I encourage you to DM me on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagramLINKS REFERENCED:Brain Over Binge by Kathryn Hansen 

{CONTENT WARNING: Eating Disorder, Binge Eating Disorder}One of the most pivotal points of my life revolved around the binge eating disorder I developed as a young girl and carried into my early adulthood. It impacted every aspect of my life and while I can now say I am free from the binge, my eating disorder is part of my story and influences how I help my clients today. That being said, this week on We Can Be Real I’m opening up and sharing my binge eating disorder story. Disclaimer: The thoughts and opinions expressed in this episode are solely based on my personal experience and feelings about my own weight gain and do not reflect my opinions on others or those with similar journeys. In this episode, I discuss: The beginning of my eating disorder after a routine checkup at the doctor.How my eating disorder impacted my relationships, grades, and overall self-worth. The breaking point that led me to take time off of college in order to heal.The #1 piece of advice that helped me kick my eating disorder.If you have any questions on my journey or related to anything mentioned in this episode, I encourage you to DM me on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me what resonated with you.STAY CONNECTED WITH ELLEN:WebsiteInstagram 

We Can Be Real explores the real, sometimes sad, challenging, raw, and vulnerable aspects of life with humor and compassion. As a recently widowed 61-year-old life coach, host Ellen Schweitzer shares her life experiences and the ways in which she found the strength to persevere and thrive. In this podcast, you’ll hear stories and insights paired with expert advice that will inspire you to face your own challenges with courage and hope. We Can Be Real is the podcast for anyone who wants to live authentically, with raw honesty, and with a sense of humor. Join us as we journey through life’s ups and downs together.You can learn more about We Can Be Real and Ellen Schweitzer at https://www.yournextchapter.com/