Within Reason Podcast

Today we will be talking about, the people in your circle. Join me on this conversation.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a powerful letter from one of our listeners—one that many of you may relate to, understand deeply, or even see as an unexpected eye-opener. This message holds pieces of honesty, hurt, hope, and the kind of vulnerability that reminds us we’re not walking through our seasons alone.To the listener who trusted me with these words: thank you.Thank you for opening your heart, for sharing your truth, and for letting this community hold space for you.Whether this letter mirrors your own story or simply expands your perspective, I hope it speaks to you in the way you need most right now.Let’s dive in.

Every story of betrayal starts with a choice.Sometimes it’s a moment — a text, a touch, a lapse that feels small until it explodes.And sometimes it’s something darker… something slower… something that grows in the quiet corners of secrecy.Welcome to the space where we unravel the difference.Because cheating and an affair are not the same chapter —one is a spark, and the other is a fire that burns through entire lives.Tonight, we’re pulling back the curtain on what really separates a mistake from a second life.Why the heart drifts, why trust shatters, and why some people fall once while others build whole worlds in the shadows.This isn’t just about infidelity —it’s about intention, identity, and the lies we tell ourselves before we ever tell them to someone else.So take a breath.Turn the page.And step with us into a conversation most people avoid…but everyone needs to hear.

Welcome back to Grits Meets Grace — where real life and real faith come to the same table.I’m your host, and today we’re talking about something that makes a lot of us uncomfortable… silence.Silence can be good — the peace we crave in a noisy world.It can be bad — when it feels like God’s gone quiet or people don’t understand our pain.And it can get ugly — when we fill the quiet with fear, assumptions, or noise just to feel something.But what if silence isn’t punishment?What if it’s protection — a sacred pause where God is doing His best work behind the scenes?So grab your coffee — or your grits — and let’s talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, and the God found in the silence.

Today, we’re talking about patience — that quiet strength we all think we have… until life decides to test it. Patience shows up in the waiting, in the not-yet, and in the moments when nothing seems to be moving but us. It’s not just about sitting still — it’s about trusting that time is doing its work, even when we can’t see it.So take a deep breath. Whether you’re waiting for clarity, healing, or just the weekend — this episode is for you. Let’s talk about the art of patience — and how it just might be the most powerful thing we can practice in a world that moves too fast.

Hey everyone, welcome back — or welcome in if you’re tuning in for the first time. Today’s episode is one that’s really close to my heart. We talk a lot about women’s healing, about strength, about love — but today, I want to take a moment to talk about the men.Because men need love too.They need support.They need a safe place to heal.Too often, men are taught to carry the world on their shoulders without ever letting anyone see when it gets heavy. They’re told to be strong, to hold it together, to never show pain — and somewhere in all that, they forget that they’re human too.This episode isn’t about blame — it’s about understanding. It’s about shining light on the quiet struggles, the unspoken wounds, and the love that men often give but rarely receive in return.So today, we’re going to talk about it — with honesty, compassion, and hope. Because healing doesn’t belong to one gender. It belongs to all of us.Let’s get into it. 💭

“Jesus answered and said unto her, Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: “but whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life.”‭‭How many times have you been lots wife? How long have you held on to what you’ve been shown time and time again isn’t for you? Would you be able to walk away as Lot did? No questions, no fear, just obedience, because how many more times is God going to have to show you?

**Forgiving What You Can’t Forget**Forgiveness isn’t about forgetting the pain — it’s about choosing faith over bitterness. When the memories linger and the wounds still ache, trust that God can heal what feels too deep for you to reach.*“Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.”* — 1 Peter 5:7Through faith, God gives us the strength to release what weighs us down. Forgiveness is not forgetting — it’s trusting God to carry what we can’t.

We’re diving into a powerful question that can shift the course of your relationships and your walk with God: *Are you truly repentant, or just remorseful?* It's easy to feel bad after a mistake—to cry, apologize, and express guilt. But if nothing changes, if the behavior continues, was it really repentance—or just emotion? Remorse feels, but repentance transforms. So ask yourself: Is my sorrow leading me to God and lasting change, or just temporary relief? Let’s unpack the difference—and why it matters more than we often realize.

Role with me, just a rainy day talk session..

Today, we’re talking about something our souls crave but the world often misunderstands—true love. Not the kind built on conditions or feelings, but the kind that starts with God.Because real love begins in Him—it’s patient, sacrificial, and unwavering. And to truly know that love, we have to do something bold: surrender. Let go of control, let go of fear, and trust that the One who created us also knows how to love us best.So wherever you are—heartbroken, hopeful, or just searching—this episode is for you. Let’s lean in and discover what it really means to be fully known, fully loved, and fully surrendered to God.

This week I’ve received a word that I’ve questioned over and over again. What if what you want isn’t what God wants for you? The story of Jacob, Leah and Rachel will be discussed. My personal relevance to it as well. Let’s jump in..

At a certain point when we’ve taken too much we reach a point of exhaustion, we need peace, we need peace, we need separation. Let’s talk about it.

The **Refiner’s fire** is a powerful image of how God uses trials and pain to **purify and strengthen** us. Just as a metalworker uses intense heat to burn away impurities from gold or silver, God allows us to walk through difficult seasons—not to destroy us, but to **refine us**. In the fire, our pride, fear, and false comforts are stripped away, revealing a deeper faith and a more authentic character. Growth through pain isn’t easy, but it's often where the most transformation happens. It’s in the crushing that new strength is born, and in the breaking that God shapes us into who we’re truly meant to be. The process may hurt, but the purpose is holy.

Red flags are warning signs that can indicate potential problems in various areas of life. We often miss red flags in relationships because of psychological factors like wanting the relationship to work, denial, low self-esteem, a desire to overlook flaws, being blinded by initial attraction, or simply not recognizing unhealthy behaviors as red flags, leading individuals to rationalize or minimize concerning actions from others. Let’s talk about it.

Intro to season 4- Going into 2025 refreshed and rest e for more stretching with God at my center I’m going to just catch you up on where I’m at.

Part 2If you were to ask anyone why do generations fail: the answer would look like : Relationships often fail due to a combination of factors like poor communication, lack of trust, incompatibility, differing priorities, lack of respect, inadequate intimacy, financial issues, personal insecurities, and sometimes, unresolved past traumas; essentially, when partners struggle to meet each other's needs and maintain healthy communication and emotional connection over time.But I’m going to tackle this from a spiritual standpoint, so let’s lock in, I’ll talk you listen.

If you were to ask anyone why do generations fail: the answer would look like : Relationships often fail due to a combination of factors like poor communication, lack of trust, incompatibility, differing priorities, lack of respect, inadequate intimacy, financial issues, personal insecurities, and sometimes, unresolved past traumas; essentially, when partners struggle to meet each other's needs and maintain healthy communication and emotional connection over time.But I’m going to tackle this from a spiritual standpoint, so let’s lock in, I’ll talk you listen.

Are You Missing the Signs from God?Have you ever wondered if God is trying to speak to you but aren’t sure how to recognize His voice? In this episode, we dive deep into the ways God communicates with us—through scripture, circumstances, people, and even that quiet nudge in your spirit. We’ll explore questions like: *What do signs from God look like? How do I know if it's truly Him or just coincidence?* Join us as we unpack practical ways to discern His guidance and find peace in knowing He’s walking alongside you. Whether you're seeking direction, comfort, or reassurance, this conversation will help you tune in to God’s presence in your daily life. Don’t miss this inspiring discussion on recognizing the divine signs that may already be around you!

Surrendering to the art of letting go is a transformative journey that invites us to release what no longer serves us, whether it's unfulfilling relationships, outdated beliefs, or lingering regrets. Embracing this process reveals a profound beauty in moving on, as it creates space for new opportunities and growth. Each release is an act of courage, allowing us to reclaim our energy and focus on what truly matters. So, take a moment to reflect: what are you holding on to that’s due for release?

In this episode, we explore and talk about relationships in today's society, from what is needed for them to thrive, to the issues that stem from your upbringing to what we see in society. We tackle everything.

Letting go and surrendering to God involves trusting in God's plan for your life, even when the future is uncertain. It means relinquishing your own wants, rights, and expectations, and relying on God's power.

Isaiah 41:10 is one of my favorite verses and through everything I’ve been through God has kept his promise. In this episode understanding that God has you once you give in and let it so go. Remove the control, get rid of the independence and embrace community. His character, wisdom and his love is waiting on you.

Let’s talk about healing and rebuilding, the stages, difficulty and outdone.

Narcissism as a word has become so popular, seen however I believe we bypass it. We analyze some of the symptoms in the ones we love and that’s about it. The effects of narcissism can carry a very long way. Let’s talk about it.

Obedience is important because it helps maintain order and safety in society. By following rules and guidelines, people contribute to a stable environment, whether at home, school, or work. It also supports learning and cooperation, ensuring that communities function smoothly and effectively. I will talk about what I’ve learned and my experiences with disobedience.

I’m going to delve into the complex realm of pride. From its subtle manifestations to its profound impact. Understanding how it plays apart in us. Giving you a bit of homework. But how does pride benefit you? How does pride hurt you? Come along let’s talk…

Season 2: episode 15- talking about communication in relationships and what stops us from communicating with our friends, partner or family. I’m going to dive into the learned behavior of communication, from childhood and speak on how that played out in my life.

Come with us as we talk about faith in conversation. A few women who talk through their experiences.

**please excuse all the distractions/noise ** We listen to Elisha speak on faith. As well have a brief conversation in regards to our experiences. Faith Part 2 coming up next week.

In this episode I’m going to dive into individuals who seize an opportunity at any cost. Some see opportunistic people as driven and ambitious, while others view them as manipulative and morally questionable. I’m going to talk about the dark side

This episode I am sharing some poetry with you. Sharing a part of what I used to do to cope with feeling like there was no one to talk to that would understand. I used to write, poetry stories and notes. Some times a little spoken word. So just enjoy….

The progression from pain to purpose… We will talk about it.

The truth is that love transcends control, so relationships are not always as solid as we initially believe. Feelings and emotions are fluid, and they are not always easy to discern. That means that there is always the possibility that we may not feel the way we think we do, and that these feelings can easily change and evolve into something else over time. Love is boundless, if there is any control, then it's attachment vs connection and that's what we are going to talk about today.

Today I’m sure you weren’t expecting this, neither was I. It’s a time for me to release, and it’s well over do. Take a hot ride with me.

Just letting it all hang out, J and I are very candid in this episode, it’s always about keeping it real with yourself first. So that it’s not hard keeping it real with the next.

Have you ever found yourself building up a case against another person silently in your head? Usually, what happens next is you lash out or attack the person you’ve built a case against. On the other side of the coin, perhaps you’ve been on the receiving end of an attack, having absolutely no idea why it happened. To you, it feels like it came out of nowhere, and it’s confusing and frustrating. If it happens enough, it can leave you feeling hopeless in the relationship. Let’s talk about it.

Come join us while we take a dive into accountability and what it is, how you get there from victim to accountable. This is going to get deep!

Romanticizing someone else's relationship, why do people do that? Do you? Have you ever? Let's dig deep

What is toxicity? Are you toxic? Is this word used too loosely? What are some toxic behaviors that you have dealt with or you display. Jae and I are going to talk about it.

Is transparency essential and why? Does it foster trust and open communication? Do you feel it is essential in every aspect of your life? What would be the "reason" not to be transparent?  This is an important subject matter to me and I am going to share my opinion on it.  Let me know what think.  Email: [email protected] Instagram: thoughtsdrapepodcast Facebook: My Thoughts Drape page Don't forget to share your experience with me if you are listening via Apple Music 

It's season 2 everyone, well it's the prelim. That is what I am calling it. So this season is jammed packed with so much. I can't even wait for it to begin. New guests, new topics, deep thought-provoking shhhhhh.... Business, money-making adventures to share. Talk about entrepreneurship, love, cheating, faithfulness, loyalty, friendships, and beliefs. Soooo are you ready... Well as always, questions, comments, and all you can reach me at [email protected]

Felt like continuing the talk, and adding a few more quests on this topic. So we have a male perspective that has been added.  What is your love language? Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Physical Touch Gifts Quality Time

Have you ever questioned whether your partner still loves you? You’re not alone. You also might be speaking a different love language than your partner. We all give and receive love in 5 different ways: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Most of us have one or two preferred love languages. Special guest: Jae and I are going to talk about it..

PCOS: A hormonal disorder causing enlarged ovaries with small cysts on the outer edges. Now I’m no medical doctor I can only share with you, ME. Maybe you can relate.

In a world where you can get a sexual partner faster than a pizza delivery, it has never been easier to play the field. Yet, despite all that swiping right, a surprising number of people are not having sex at all – not for religious reasons, or because they can’t get a date, but because they find that celibacy makes them happier. Isn’t this interesting? Let’s talk about it

We weren’t finish. There’s more to talk about. There are physical, material, emotional, time, sexual and relationship boundaries. We only touched a few and realized there was more that needed to be addressed. Come on with us as we get into a few more boundaries this episode.

There is a lot to me and this bonus drop is just because I felt good, and the first thing I felt like doing was sharing. Thank You for listening

Healthy boundaries are necessary components for self-care. Without boundaries, we can feel depleted, or taken advantage of, or taken for granted, or intruded upon. Whether we talk about boundaries at work or in your personal relationships, poor boundaries may lead to resentment, hurt, anger, and burnout. So let’s talk about it.

We just talking y’all.. Honesty, trust, trustworthiness, does it go hand in hand. Do you need honesty and trustworthiness to build trust for someone. Listen and gives us your input. Guest Aries and Jeremiah joined us today..