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You Control You
by ShaH Evans
You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou
Episodes
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Why You're Not Ready for a Relationship (And How to Fix It)
Build healthy relationships by focusing on your own personal growth instead of searching for a perfect partner. Learn to improve yourself first.Many people spend years looking for the right person, only to realize that the most effective way to improve their dating life is to work on their own...
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Should You Still Fight? The Brutal Reality of Combat Sports
An MMA comeback at 40 is more than a physical decision—it forces you to confront grief, responsibility, ego, and the legacy you want to leave behind.In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, ShaH Evans sits down with veteran professional MMA fighter, coach, and Ronin Muay Thai owner Charlie...
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Four Months of Sacrifice Doesn't Guarantee a Championship | TBA Classic
12 fighters. 14 fights. 4 belts. After four months of fight camp, Wolf Pack Combat Academy stepped into the 2026 TBA Muay Thai Classic. But this episode is about much more than championships, wins, and losses.I talk about leading without having all the answers, changing game plans during fights,...
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Why You Feel Like You’re Failing (Even When You’re Not)
Most men quietly battle a persistent fear of failure that keeps them up at night. Learn how to address the weight of expectations and stop doubting your own progress.It is common to feel like you are falling behind in life, especially when the lines between business success and family...
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Your Reputation Means Nothing When You’re Alone—Don’t Learn This Too Late
Self improvement is not only about building a successful business, making more money, or earning recognition. Real self improvement is about building your character, developing self discipline, strengthening your relationships, and becoming someone you are proud to see in the mirror.In this…
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They Called Them Crazy Before They Won Championships
Everyone tells you to "be realistic."But every champion, entrepreneur, and leader was called crazy before they were successful.Muhammad Ali. Kobe Bryant. Michael Jordan. Conor McGregor.They all believed long before anyone else did.The difference wasn't belief alone. It was relentless work.In this...
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Your Brain Isn't Broken, Your Conditioning Is
Most men think they have a discipline problem.They don't.The real problem is the patterns their brain has been repeating for years.In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, ShaH Evans breaks down the neuroscience behind discipline, trauma, fear, confidence, and why your emotions should…
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Tired, Afraid, Discouraged? This Is What Champions Do
What separates champions from everyone else?It isn't talent.It isn't motivation.It isn't confidence.It's the ability to function when you don't feel like it.In this episode, Coach ShaH breaks down the difference between Coolers, Closers, and Cleaners from Tim Grover's Relentless and explains why...
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Your Reality Is Not Their Reality: The Truth About Accountability
Are you defined by your past actions or your current choices? Learn how to balance your personal growth by looking at your life. We often struggle to reconcile who we were with who we are becoming. This discussion explores the reality that our character is not fixed, but rather a collection of...
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You Want a Life of Purpose? Here Is the Price You Must Pay
Building a career in MMA coaching is more than just holding pads; it is a full-time commitment to your fighters. Hear the reality of the daily grind. This video explores the path toward becoming a professional fight trainer and the dedication required to run a gym. If you are pursuing a career in...
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Society Told Me to 'Just Push Through' – Here's Why That Almost Destroyed Me
It's time to move beyond just surviving and truly embrace life. The speaker emphasizes that seeking "therapy in a nutshell" provides a non-judgmental space, fostering "personal growth" and "emotional health." This approach to "self care" offers "support" and is crucial for those who may feel they...
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Your Kid's Snoring Could Be Causing Their Anxiety and Poor Grades
Does your child snore at night? Learn the warning signs of obstructive sleep apnea in children and why early identification matters. Many parents notice their child struggling with sleep, but identifying the root cause is crucial. This video explains how children develop obstructive sleep apnea,...
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The Black Belt Mindset | Duane Ludwig Full Interview
Adopt a black belt mindset to improve your daily results. Learn how martial arts discipline builds the accountability needed for success.This discussion explores how the mental tools required to become a fighter are identical to the principles needed to succeed in any area of life. If you…
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You Can't Control Them. Here's What You Can Control With Alison Armstrong
In this conversation, we explore the core of "You Control You," focusing on the power of choice and discovering what we can truly cause in our lives. We discuss the importance of self development and self improvement, drawing from years of psychology research. Understanding self control and...
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Why Men Can't Be Honest About Their Feelings
Most people don’t want the truth… they want comfort. That’s what this conversation exposes. This discussion touches on personal development and self improvement, highlighting how many choose comfort over honesty. It's a deep dive into the motivation behind our choices, especially within modern...
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From Nothing to Legacy | Gregory Doby Jr.
In this conversation, we explore the journey of self improvement and self development, discussing various success habits that can lead to personal growth. This podcast-style discussion is designed to offer insights and actionable steps for anyone looking to refine their approach to life. Join us…
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Morgan Freeman vs. Black History Month: The Debate Nobody Wants to Have
In this powerful discussion, we dive into the complexities of Black History Month, questioning its role and impact on American history.We explore whether Black history should stand on its own—or be fully integrated into American history year-round—and how different perspectives, including voices...
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After She Cheats, Most Men Make This Mistake
Infidelity changes everything.In this episode of You Control You, I talk about something most men never say out loud — what it feels like after the woman you love cheats on you.A lot of people assume the answer is simple: just leave. But the truth is more complicated than that. Many men stay. Not...
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Your Ego Is Destroying Your Co-Parenting
In this episode of You Control You, I sit down with two women who have played a major role in my life and in the lives of our children. My daughter’s mother Amber and my ex wife Cherrelle join me for a real conversation about co parenting, family, and learning to put the kids first even when life...
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Your Son Isn't Supposed to Follow You | He's Supposed to Surpass You
Being a father isn’t about personal ambition.It’s about leadership.Real leadership means guiding the next generation with purpose.It means discipline.It means self-control.It means building something that outlives you.If all you chase is your own success, you’re building ego.If you build your son...
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Peace Isn't The Goal
Building something meaningful rarely feels peaceful. It feels like pressure, doubt, responsibility, and the constant demand to grow. In this episode of You Control You, Mark ShaH Evans dives into the reality of entrepreneurship and leadership. The truth is simple but uncomfortable: peace is not…
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Destroy The Boy
When you're pursuing a career and raising a family, prioritizing becomes everything. This video emphasizes the importance of a clear "focus on goals," ensuring that your ambitions don't overshadow what truly matters in your personal life. It's about finding that crucial "parenting balance" and...
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No One Is Coming
There is a moment in life where you realize the truth: nobody is coming to save you. No rescue. No perfect timing. No bailout plan. It is on you. And as heavy as that feels, it is also freedom. The second you accept personal responsibility, you stop living in victim mode and you start making…
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The Superior Man
Personal development doesn’t happen by accident.Men’s self improvement comes from structure, not motivation alone.If you want to change your life, you need systems you can track.That’s why I use a habit tracker instead of relying on how I feel.I build my days intentionally.I review what’s working...
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The Real Reason Crying Makes You Stronger
Being willing to cry is an important part of emotional healing . Letting out emotions can act as a stress reliever , emptying your emotional cup to make space for new experiences. This promotes emotional health and personal growth, but remember to still move forward and not let crying stop your...
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Forgive Yourself or Stay Stuck
We often hold onto past errors, believing it helps, or we completely ignore our wrongdoing. There needs to be a balance in addressing mistakes, especially in relationships. This video offers valuable relationship advice and dating advice, emphasizing the importance of self improvement and…
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Conquerors Don't Choose This Life | It Chooses Them
Being a conqueror entails stress, humility, and an insatiable hunger, demanding both responsibility and a spirit that never rests. This video explores the qualities and burdens of such a role, emphasizing the importance of self improvement and personal growth. It highlights the drive to create a...
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Manhood Isn't Bravado | It's What You Do When Nobody's Watching
Every man's job is different, but the fundamental act of showing up is universal. It requires a strong `mindset` and `hard work` to build your legacy, whether through financial success or physical prowess. Through `dedication`, `motivation`, and `resilience`, you shape your reality and forge the...
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Why Your Obsession With Outcomes Is Holding You Back
We’re all living on borrowed time. The only thing we control is how we show up. Gratitude sharpens your mindset, adversity shapes your character, and every loss teaches you who you really are. In the gym and in life, let go of expectations and focus on growth. This is how you build real…
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STOP Making These Leadership Mistakes in Uncertain Times
Adapt, grow, and evolve — this episode breaks down what it really means to lead, coach, and level up in every area of life. From coaching fighters with different skill levels to expanding a martial arts business, to understanding emotions and building healthier relationships, this conversation…
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How Social Media Changed Basketball Training Forever
In this episode, we sit down with PK Cherry to talk about basketball as more than just a game—it’s a tool for life. From the fundamentals of training to the lessons hidden in adversity, we explore how gratitude, resilience, and spirituality shape success both on and off the court. Whether you’re…
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Can You Name 3 Things You Love About Yourself?
In this powerful interview with 1neofmani, we dive into the Less Work movement—a mindset built on community, collaboration, and integrity. We explore how targeting youth can shape future generations, why mentorship matters, and how self-discovery shifts the focus from chasing money to valuing…
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Craig Hodges: Beyond Basketball | Activism, Purpose & Resilience
Craig Hodges joins Mark Evans on the You Control You podcast to talk about what it really takes to win — on and off the court. They dive into mental toughness, discipline, and how systems like the triangle offense build champions.Hodges shares his journey from NBA sharpshooter to activist…
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Craig Hodges Beyond the 3-Point Line: Activism, Purpose, and Mental Toughness
In this episode of the You Control You Podcast, Mark Evans sits down with Craig Hodges — NBA champion, activist, and lifelong student of the game.They go beyond the 3-point line to talk about mental toughness, discipline, mentorship, and the responsibility of athletes to use their platforms for...
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Stitch Uncut: From Farm Fields to Fight Legends | The Journey of Stitch Duran
In this unfiltered conversation, legendary cutman Jacob "Stitch" Duran opens up about his incredible journey—from working in the farm fields of California to becoming one of the most respected figures in boxing, MMA, and Muay Thai.Stitch talks about the lessons learned through hardship, his early...
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Inside the Mind of Stitch Duran: Lessons on Fighting, Faith, and Growth
Stitch talks about the importance of mental health in combat sports, the evolution of Muay Thai, and how the Muhammad Ali Reform Act continues to protect fighters’ rights. He reflects on stories from working with some of the greatest fighters in history and shares how gratitude, education, and...
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Jared Talks F.I.T. and Family
In this episode of the You Control You podcast, host Mark “ShaH” Evans sits down with Jared Markowitz to dive deep into gratitude, business ownership, and work-life balance. Jared shares his personal journey as a gym owner, the challenges of stepping back from daily operations, and the power of...
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His Role, Her Power Part 2
In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of communication and relationships, exploring how gender roles, emotional intelligence, trust, and expectations shape modern partnerships. From navigating survival mode to building empowerment, we break down what it takes to create strong…
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His Role Her Power | Communication, Trust & Gender Dynamics
This episode of You Control You dives into the complexities of communication in relationships, exploring gender roles, emotional intelligence, and how societal changes impact modern partnerships.We break down:Why communication is key in relationshipsHow gender expectations shape interactionsThe...
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"If" by Rudyard Kipling
This episode explores the power of positive attitude and how it shapes our connections. It emphasizes the importance of embracing self-awareness, and maintaining discipline in relationships. The conversation challenges us to step up and take control of our lives through self improvement.Linktree…
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The REAL TALK You Need to Hear About Personal Growth
This episode explores the power of personal responsibility and how it shapes our connections. It emphasizes the importance of embracing self-awareness, and maintaining discipline in relationships. The conversation challenges us to step up and take control of our lives through self...
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Why Do Men and Women Think SO Differently?
In this episode, we step away from the main topic to have a raw and unfiltered conversation about relationships, sexual ethics, and personal experiences. We discuss the story of Bonnie Blue, a woman who set a record for sleeping with 1,057 men in 24 hours, and explore the moral and emotional...
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What Defines Manhood
What does it really mean to be a man today? Not just biologically. Not just culturally. But internally—where your actions, emotions, discipline, and integrity collide. In this episode, we go far beyond surface-level masculinity. We unpack the weight that comes with being a man—the responsibility,...
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Weight of Leadership Part 2 "Bonnie Blue Edition"
In this episode of You Control You, Mark breaks down the cultural and emotional shifts shaping the way women move in today’s world. From the viral backlash against Bonnie Blue to how trauma and choice reshape behavior, this is a raw and honest look at how society judges what it doesn’t...
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Weight of Leadership Part 1
In this powerful episode of You Control You, coach Mark ShaH Evans reflects on an emotional weekend of coaching fighters. From cornering bouts to processing the tragic loss of a fellow martial artist, he explores the emotional and moral weight of leadership in the fight world.Discover what it…
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The Family Code
In this powerful episode of the You Control You Podcast, Mark ShaH Evans sits down with his family to dive deep into the core values that hold them together—gratitude, communication, emotional control, and unconditional support.They open up about personal experiences, hard-earned lessons, and the...
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Afraid and Unstoppable
In this powerful episode of the You Control You podcast, Mark ShaH Evans opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of coaching fighters and the deeper meaning behind fear, faith, and personal development. Drawing inspiration from the story of Job, he explores how anxiety and uncertainty can…
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Create Action Now
In this powerful episode of the You Control You podcast, we dive deep into the mindset it takes to build a life of purpose, vision, and legacy. The host shares raw and real insights on why gratitude isn’t just a feeling—it’s fuel. From battling fear to taking immediate action, this episode is a...
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The Real Work is Within With Pamela Fox
In this episode of the You Control You podcast, we sit down with Pamela Fox—entrepreneur, fitness competitor, and owner of Foxxy Salon. Pamela opens up about the grind behind building her salon business and the mental toughness it takes to keep going when life gets heavy. From early mornings and...
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Power Purpose and Personal Life With Sabrina Madison
Gratitude, Growth & the Real Talk Black Women Need – A Conversation with Alder Sabrina MadisonIn this powerful and deeply personal episode, Mark ShaH Evans sits down with Alder Sabrina Madison—a leader, community builder, and unapologetically real voice in Madison politics—to unpack the layers of...
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You Control You is a podcast hosted by Mark ShaH Evans, diving deep into personal growth, relationships, and the power of self-discipline. We explore cultural differences, gender perspectives, marriage, and much more. Join us for real conversations, practical advice, and motivational insights to help you take control of your life, one decision at a time. Tune in and discover the strength within—you control you. https://linktr.ee/YouControlYou
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