Episodes
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YOF004: Gender Minorities, Part 2 + New Preface
Tom speaks two months after the first release of this episode to confess, clarify, and also commit to things said in this conversation, differentiating his personal vision from the board’s governance of Your Other Family as a nonprofit organization. The episode continues in its original entirety...
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YOBcc106: Nhat the Storyteller, from Haunted Houses to “Life on Side B”!
Nhat’s a former theater kid, and he loves telling stories. We explore his many storytelling pursuits, from working at a haunted house, hosting his own horror magic show, finding redemption messages in horror movies and other genres, and most recently becoming one of the new cohosts of the Life on...
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YOBcc105: Ryan’s Launching a Singleness Conference!
Our other brother Ryan is launching a singleness conference in Raleigh, NC! Learn the details of his one-day event, Oaks, along with his heart for thriving singleness in the church, regardless of one’s sexuality or life stage. Do you have any questions or wish to submit a liturgy or reflection on...
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YOF004: Gender Minorities, Part 2
What now? Last episode, we defined who gender minorities are, people inside the Church and out who don’t fit typically into the gendered binary, answering some “dumb questions” about their lived experience. But how do we love gender minorities well, including welcoming them in “Side B” spaces…
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Trailer: Your Other Family Podcast Network
Welcome to Your Other Family Podcast Network! A collection of shows from the nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family, which includes our communities of Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters. We share authentic stories of faith, sexuality, and gender as LGBT+ or same-sex attracted people...
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YOF003: Gender Minorities, Part 1
Does everyone fit neatly into male and female? Where do many queer/SSA people experience an uncomfortable gender incongruence with their culture, and where do some experience a deeper gender dysphoria? Tom and Erin welcome YOF board member Jesse to share their experience as a gender minority in...
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YOS003: Queer Representation in Media
Erin welcomes back Ashley and introduces Tangle for a discussion inspired by conversations from the Life on Side B and Your Other Brothers podcasts. So much can be said about queer representation in the media, especially as more queer stories have been told in the last couple years. Join us as we...
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YOB113: Non-Sexual Nudity
Ten years of the YOBcast and not a single nudity episode?! Until now. Join Tom, Ryan, Matt, and a special guest to discuss this important intersection of nudity, body image, and vulnerability with other men. How did our familial and peer upbringings shape our relationship with nudity as adults?…
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YOF Update: Alan Chambers Arrest, Renewed Community Focus, More YOF/YOB/YOScasts Before Revoice (May 2026)
We’ve taken a step back with podcast production as Tom has been refocusing his efforts and part-time hours on the YOB community. With more podcasts recently recorded and coming soon, Tom also takes some time to process the Alan Chambers arrest, following the former Exodus International…
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YOB112: Mailbag Episode!
An eclectic mix of questions from our YOBBERS community gets answered in our first-ever mailbag episode! Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for some deep dives on hell, Korean spas, bodily insecurities, and much more. We also look back at our previous episode and tie up some investigative loose ends...
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YOF002: Emerging Sexual Identities w/ Dr. Mark Yarhouse & Dr. Julia Sadusky
Tom and Erin welcome Dr. Mark Yarhouse and Dr. Julia Sadusky, co-authors of Emerging Sexual Identities. We dive into sexual identity language and the reality that Gen Z is identifying in more diverse, specific ways than any previous generation. Mark and Julia explain the concept of residual,...
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YOBcc104: Tom & Drew Boa Outgrow Porn, Examine Fetishes, and Do Inner Child Work
Tom welcomes new friend Drew Boa of Husband Material to dive into his book, Outgrow Porn. Tom shares his favorite tools from Drew’s toolbox for overcoming porn and unwanted sexual behaviors, including the breathe-observe-attune (BOA) method, “connecting the dots” from shame to glory and loss to...
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YOBcc103: Tom & Andy Talk Super Bowl LX! Fly Ospreys Fly.
Tom welcomes back his younger brother Andy for this annual episode of previewing the Super Bowl! It’s the Seattle Seahawks vs. the New England Patriots for Super Bowl LX. Before we get to Andy’s top stories of this year’s big game, we catch up on the biggest year of his life with a new baby girl…
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YOF Update: New Rhythms for a New Budget in a New Year (January 2026)
It’s the start of a new fiscal year for our ministry, including a new board-approved budget that brings some modifications to the YOF content landscape and work duties for Tom and Erin. We'd love your prayers for continuing support beyond the foundation set in 2025 as we strive for 100% funding…
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YOS002: Being a "Late Bloomer"
We are back with our second YOScast episode with Erin, Lin, and Jericho! Realizing your attraction to women well past puberty is a very common phenomenon amongst our community. Why? When and how did you come to terms with your non-heterosexual identity? Together we highlight the “pros” of coming...
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YOB111: Church Healing
We conclude our two-part episode on the church with stories of healing from church hurt and growth in the church. We also discuss the notion of building church resiliency amid our frustrations and hang-ups with the church. How have we grown in such resiliency? Despite how the church may still…
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YOF001: Oh the Topics We'd Discuss If Only...
It’s the premiere episode of Your Other Family Podcast! Or, the YOFcast, as we’ll also be known. Join hosts Tom and Erin for a brief origin story of how Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters came to be, along with some amazing topics we would discuss at length on this show – if only we had…
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YOBcc102: Tom & Dawson Escape the Labyrinth at YOB Retreat VII!
Tom welcomes back Dawson to recap our seventh YOB retreat! We share our perspective about our retreat’s first-ever prayer labyrinth exercise, and we hit some of the other highlights of our weekend together in western Pennsylvania, including a manly calisthenics workout and a mysterious visitor to...
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YOB110: Church Hurt
Where have we experienced hurt in the church, whether from our sexuality or otherwise? How do we continue in spiritual communities after experiencing church hurt? Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for a raw discussion on our community’s church hurt stories. We’ll dive into the other side of hurt in a...
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YOBcc101: Andrew Prophesies that Straight Men Won't Fix You!
Andrew returns to dive deeper into his blog, “A Straight Man Won’t Fix You.” What led him to write this post, and long did he ponder it? Join Tom and Andrew for a discussion on the idolization of friendships with straight men, theorizing why some men in Side B spaces get drawn into the "mythical"...
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YOF Update: The IRS Approved Us! (September 2025)
After a couple years of discussions, spreadsheets, form submissions, and more legal fees than you could imagine, Your Other Family is now a government-recognized nonprofit organization! The IRS approved our nonprofit, and all membership dues and donations to our ministry are officially...
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YOB109: Masculine Beauty
What draws us to the beauty of men? Do we engage it or run far from it? Join Tom, Ryan, and Matt for a discussion on masculine beauty! Learn why this topic has become something of Ryan’s “brand,” including a perspective shift that’s helped many members of our YOB community. We talk about…
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YOS001: YOS is a Thing!
Welcome to our debut episode of the YOScast! Johana-Marie and Ashley join Erin to discuss the Life on Side B podcast episode on women's inclusion in Side B spaces (S3Ep14). As listeners, Erin and Johana-Marie talk about our big takeaways from this conversation, and Ashley recalls her experience...
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YOF Update: August 2025!
Tom here, and it's my monthly "State of the Sparrow" for Your Other Family! It feels good to say I am now executive director of this new ministry. This month we finally made the switch away from Patreon to our new ministry giving platform. I actually got emotional deactivating our old way of...
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YOB108: Women
After 2+ years, we’re back with a new YOBcast! OGs Tom and Ryan welcome new YOBcast regular Matt as we catch up on the last couple years of our nonprofit journey. Fittingly, with the formation of Your Other Sisters alongside YOB under our nonprofit ministry of Your Other Family, we discuss the...
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YOF Update: July 2025!
Introducing our new Your Other Family Podcast Network: a podcast channel for all YOF, YOB, and YOS podcast productions. In our first YOF Update pod, Tom shares the latest organizational updates about Your Other Brothers and Your Other Sisters under our new pending nonprofit ministry of Your Other...
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YOBcc100: Tom & Ryan Tease the Topics to Come!
Ryan returns! We catch up on his life over the last couple years, including his VERY COOL new earring. We also celebrate our 100th ConvoCast by dusting off the oft-neglected “YOBcast Topics” spreadsheet to talk about what we WOULD talk about if we were talking about it (but we're not). Do you...
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YOBcc099: Tom & Andy Prep You for Super Bowl Licks!
Tom’s brother Andy returns for his annual tradition of prepping us for the big game! We dive into the big storylines of Super Bowl LIX (or, Licks) and give our predictions for this Chiefs v. Eagles rematch of two years ago. We also spend a good portion of the episode talking about non-football...
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YOBcc098: Andy's Becoming a Father!
Tom's younger brother, Andy, returns to discuss something besides football! Well – he does give us his Super Bowl prediction before he inevitably returns for his annual Big Game assessment podcast in a couple months. But before any football talk, we discuss his impending fatherhood! He and his…
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YOBcc097: Tom & Daniel Debrief the 2024 YOBBERS Retreat!
We're back! Daniel joins Tom to recap this year's YOBBERS Retreat. As a newer member of YOB leadership, how did Daniel enjoy this retreat compared to others? We reflect on this distinction of leadership and participation with our retreat, including the challenge of not just serving a role or a...
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YOBcc096: Dawson Has Never Left the Same Home that Tom Once Fled
Dawson returns to help us close our At Home series! Tom takes the show on the road to Athens, Georgia, where he once lived for 11 years, to share an in-person conversation with Dawson, who has lived in this city for all 31 of his years. Why did Tom leave home all those years ago, and why has…
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YOBcc095: Simon & Tom Have Enjoyed Living Alone
Simon joins Tom to share their experiences of living alone for these last several years! Has it been an independent person's paradise, or have there also been emotional difficulties? How did the pandemic impact living alone? Simon also shares his experience of growing up with a twin brother, in...
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YOBcc094: Ryan and His Younger Brother Live Together in Their Forties
Ryan makes his podcast debut as our first native Canadian on the show! He shares his unique living situation, splitting time in the big city and also a small town living in a house with his younger brother. Both Ryan and his brother are single men in their forties -- Ryan, queer; his brother,...
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YOBcc093: Matt Lives in a Celibate Partnership with Another Man
Newcomer to the podcast but not to our community, longtime member Matt shares about his life in a celibate partnership with another man. He talks about splitting time in two locations to be close to his parents as well as his partner, with whom he co-owns a house. He shares openly how there was...
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YOBcc092: Nhat is Married and Merges Two Homes into One
Nhat makes his debut appearance! We celebrate his 1-year YOBiversary as he tells us his “at home” story of being married to his wife of the last four years. He shares the challenges of merging his wife’s family dynamic and his own into one new family and home, as well as the joys of complimenting...
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YOBcc091: Harrison Discovers More of His Masculinity with Three Children
Harrison returns to discuss his societally common but YOB-ly uncommon home life: a wife and three kids! He shares the joys of noise in his home, as well as the challenges of wondering whether he measures up as a dad. We learn about the farm where he grew up, including the literal closet that was...
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YOBcc090: Daniel Lives with Straight Men
Daniel returns to discuss his life in SoCal, living with two straight men! Like Andrew, he also moved across America for a new start and a new home from the Midwest. He tells us Andrew's teased "pots and pans" story from our last episode, a snapshot of pursuing healthy communication and...
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YOBcc089: Andrew Moved Across America for a New Home and Queer Community
Andrew returns to tell the tale of his cross-country move from Ohio to Southern California! What led him to leave the only home he’d ever known to find a new one? He shares about his upbringing in the Midwest, including many years of homeschooling, and a friend who prompted him to ponder the...
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YOBcc088: Matthew Has Always Lived with Family while Closeted with Them
Matthew returns to discuss his home life: always living with his family even as he enters his late thirties! He explains the importance of family within his Navajo culture, sharing why he enjoys regularly going home to the reservation after moving away from it. But Matthew also shares why he...
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YOBcc087: Marshall, Single and 65, Lives on a Farm with 23 People
We spend over half our lives at home; let’s discuss how where we live impacts our faith, sexuality, and masculinity! Join us all summer AT HOME, as we connect with a different YOB community member in a different life stage and living situation. Today we welcome back Marshall to talk more about…
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YOBcc086: Matt Has Had Gay Roommates after 15 Years of Living Alone
We kick off a new summer series, AT HOME: how our current life stages and living situations impact our faith, sexuality, and masculinity. Join us each episode for a new member of our YOB community sharing his story from various life stages and living situations. We start with our “plain old gay”...
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YOBcc085: Tom & Harrison Assess Male Friendship!
Harrison Bly joins the show to discuss masculine friendship! Harrison is a member of our YOBBERS community and the author of Bent on Men, a book recently featured in our monthly YOBBERS Book Club. Both Tom and Harrison reference their books, sharing what happens after some pivotal friendships...
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YOBcc084: Tom & Simon Enjoy a Niche Little British Episode!
Simon joins the show from faraway Britain as our first native UK YOBBER! He tells us about his life in Oxfordshire, including a cat and his very own "flat." Tom bonds with Simon over their shared experiences in Oxford, including the very same bedroom. Simon gives us a lovely list of Britishisms,...
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YOBcc083: Tom & Erin Celebrate Our First YOB+YOS Zoom and Lean into Lent!
Erin returns to discuss the development of Your Other Sisters, including our recently held coed Zoom call with Your Other Brothers! We recap our YOB and YOS call, including a critical icebreaker of our favorite condiments. We invite all who are interested in these YOB and YOS developments to join...
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YOBcc082: Tom & Daniel Pitch this Summer's First European YOBBERS Retreat!
Our resident Enneagram Seven and unofficial international correspondent, Daniel, returns to pitch this summer's special gathering of YOBBERS -- in Europe! He joins Tom to discuss a smaller-scale retreat or "holiday" somewhere in the Mediterranean, inviting all who are interested to email him…
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YOBcc081: Tom & Andrew Review "Heartstopper" and Discuss Asexuality!
First-time guest Andrew joins Tom to discuss Netflix’s Heartstopper! It’s a queer coming-of-age show that many in our YOB community have enjoyed, though its depictions of queer romance could also be distracting for some (nothing sexual in the first two seasons, just lots of same-sex kissing). We...
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YOBcc080: Tom & Andy Talk Super Bowl LVIII and Taylor Swift!
Tom’s straight younger brother Andy returns for his yearly appearance on the podcast to educate us on this year’s Super Bowl matchup between the Chiefs and 49ers! Beyond merely giving us the players to look out for, Vegas’s odds for the winner of this game, and his own prediction, he also…
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YOBcc079: Alex Holds Hands with His Straight Guy Friends!
Alex is announced as our newest regular YOB contributor, and we get right into analyzing his blogs! We start with discussing a reflection of last fall’s YOBBERS retreat written by his mom and how this unique blog even came to be on our site. We also go behind the scenes and into greater depth…
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YOBcc078: Tom & Matt Analyze Gen Z Fashion and Relive Our 5th Retreat!
Matt returns for a second go on the podcast as we dive into Gen Z fashion trends! Have the '80s and '90s just had a baby and its name is Gen Z? How do we feel about the enlarging of pants, the sprouting of pearl necklaces, and a resurgence in New Balances and Champion sweatshirts? Beyond their...
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YOBcc077: Tom & Dawson Create New Christmas Traditions!
Dawson, formerly Adam in previous podcasts, returns to help Tom celebrate Christmas this year! Dawson shares why he celebrates Christmas in February in addition to December, and Tom tells a Christmas tale of the first man he ever feared. We reference the "Fancy Christmas" recently spent with our...
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