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After the Affair — 213 episodes · page 1 of 3
212. Was Staying The Right Decision?
211. Why Does a Good Day Feel So Dangerous?
210. I'm Not Ready To Choose
209. The Halo Effect After Betrayal
208. Why Does Betrayal Physically Hurt So Much?
207. Am I Paranoid - Or Trusting My Gut? The Algorithm After Betrayal
206. The Decision You Can't Optimise: Staying or Leaving After Betrayal
205. Why Falling Apart Feels So Confusing When You're Usually in Control
204. Why Smart People Struggle More After Betrayal (Not Less) Pt 1
203. Why You Regret What You Said - Or What You Didn't Say After Betrayal
202. Stressed! Why You Can’t Think Straight Right Now
201. The Truth About Closure
200. After 200 Episodes, Here's What I Know About Affair Recovery
199. Why Do I Feel Worse At Night? - Affair Recovery
198. Why Am I So Scared of Making the Wrong Decision?
197. The Affair Is Over... So Why Can't I Let Go?
196. What If They Never Change?
195. Why Do I Keep Checking?
194. Still Thinking About the Affair Every Day?
193. I've Been Lying to My Kids for Months
192. It’s Over… Now How Do You Tell the Kids After an Affair?
191. Do You Tell the Kids About the Affair? What They Actually Need to Hear
190. Stuck Between Two Lives? You’re Avoiding the Real Decision
189. Does This Really Justify the Affair? - When They Won’t Let Go of Their Story
188. Why Infidelity Recovery Advice Is Failing You - You Need a Better System
187. You Thought Leaving Would Fix Everything… But It Didn’t - Pt 4 of 4
186. When They Move On… And You’re Still Processing - Pt 3 of 4
185. When You Leave… But Still Love Them - Pt 2 of 4
184. It Didn’t Work Out Like I Thought It Would - Pt 1 of 4
183. “It Meant Nothing” Why That Doesn’t Make Betrayal Easier
182. It Just Happened. The Myth of the Sudden Affair
181. I Was Drunk… It Would Never Have Happened Sober. The Truth About Alcohol and Betrayal
180. If You Feel Stuck After Betrayal… This Is For You
179. Breaking the Reaction Cycle: How to Handle Powerful Emotions After Betrayal
178. The First 30 Days After Betrayal: Don’t Make These Mistakes
177. Intrusive Thoughts During Sex After Betrayal
176. Pacing: Why Rushing Your Healing Slows It Down
175. What’s Actually Essential After Betrayal
174. Are You Being Driven by Fear?
173. When Your Partner Still Has Feelings for Their Affair Partner
172. Are You Healing… or Just Protecting Yourself?
171. The 3 Ingredients Behind Most Betrayals
170.5 You Didn’t Fail Because They Had Unmet Needs
170. Why “Why Did They Cheat?” Is the Wrong Question
169. Why You Can’t Decide After Betrayal: And How Decisions Really Work
168. Life After Betrayal: What Nobody Told You Is Possible.
167. "It's Not Cheating If You Agree to It"
166. Why You’re Still Suffering After Betrayal
165. I'm Doing Therapy… So Why Am I Still Stuck?
164. They Chose Someone Else: What Does That Say About Me?
163. The Lag: When You’re Out of Sync After Betrayal
162. When You Don’t Know What to Do After Betrayal
161. Workplace Affairs: Why They Happen and How to Heal When They Do
160. Using ChatGPT to Cope With Betrayal
159. The Truth About Safety After Betrayal
158. Fight, Apologise, Repeat: Breaking the Cycle of False Hope
157. When the Marriage Doesn’t Survive Infidelity
156. Beyond Good and Bad: Rethinking Your Feelings After Infidelity
155. Back to Basics After the Affair
154. Contempt After Betrayal: The Silent Killer of Connection
153. Cheating Isn’t the End: But Lack of Accountability Might Be
152. Serial Cheaters - Can They Ever Really Change?
151. The Questions You’re Afraid to Ask: But Desperately Need Answered (Q&A Part 2)
150. Trigger Warning: What To Do When Everything Sets You Off After Infidelity
149. When the Woman Cheats: and the Man Is Left Holding the Pieces
148. He Chose You… in Secret: What It Really Means When a Married Man Pursues You
147. When Things Feel Off: Trusting Your Gut After Betrayal
146. Infidelity Recovery Expert Q&A: The Questions You’re Too Tired to Keep Asking
145. Hoping They’ll Change? Here’s the Truth About One-Sided Love.
144. You Crossed the Line, Now Here’s Mine: Boundaries After Betrayal
143. From Rock Bottom to Rising Strong: Hope on the Infidelity Recovery Journey
142. Disgust, Shame, and Survival: The Psychology Behind Post-Affair Revulsion
141. I Know Why They Cheated - It Still Hurts Though
140. Am I Going Crazy? Real Words from the Betrayed
139. Too Emotional After the Affair? Or Just Too Afraid to Feel?
138. Seeking Reassurance after Betrayal: It’s Never Enough Though
137. When You Suspect an Affair
136. The ABCs of Infidelity Recovery – Acceptance, Boundaries, Compassion
135. You Were Betrayed: But Somehow You’re the One Afraid to Talk
134. Betrayed and Ready to Give Up? Listen to this First
133. Letting Go of the Outcome in Infidelity Recovery
132. I’ve Been Cheated On and Everyone Is Judging Me... I Think
131. Healing Requires Uncertainty – Learning to Trust What You Can’t See
130. It’s TIME To Do Something Different After Betrayal
129. You Don’t Have to Stay, Leave, or Forgive: You Only Have to Choose
128. Was the Affair Partner Better? The Truth About Comparison
127. Desire vs. Choice: Understanding the Power You Have in an Affair
126. Betrayal and The Male Ego: Rebuilding After the Ultimate Blow
125. Stuck Between Two Choices: Here’s What You’re Missing With Binary Thinking
124. Advanced Guide to Thinking After Betrayal: The Bookshop and Publisher
123. Confirmation Bias: Are You Seeking What You Fear After Infidelity?
122. You Have Built A Glass Wall: And It Is Keeping You Stuck
121. Healing in the Aftermath: A Couple’s Journey Through Infidelity
120. Does Secrecy Breed Passion In An Affair?
119. Looking Back to Move Forward After the Affair: The Best of 2024
118. Christmas After Betrayal: Create Something New
117. Why Can't I Stop Reading What Strangers Say?
116. Am I Failing My Faith by Leaving?
115. Staying for the Kids: Parenting After Betrayal
114. He Says It's Just Porn. Why Does It Feel Like Cheating? with Porn Addiction Coach, Matt Smith
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