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In The Know with Tony Reeves — 380 episodes

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Gen X in the Middle: Black Gen X and the Blueprint We Had to Build

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When We Outgrew the Club: How Black Gen X Created Our Own Safe Spaces

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Black Gen X and the Survival Code: Learning to Navigate Without a Roadmap

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Don’t Romanticize Survival

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The Silence After the Milestone

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What It Really Means to Be the First

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Getting Out of Your Own Way: How to Move When You Feel Professionally Stuck

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The Teacher Who Took a Chance on Me

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Career Crossroads: Trusting Yourself Through Professional Change

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Why I Went to Law School: Fear, Leverage, and the Power of a Contingency Plan

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Black Gen X, Hidden Trauma, and the Lessons We Inherited

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Letting Go of My Mother’s House Without Letting Go of Her

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The Safe Space That Protected Me as a Young Black Naval Officer

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When the Anchor Is Gone: Letting Go of My Mother’s House

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Black Gen X_ We Were Told We Made Progress… But Did We?

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The Myth of ‘I Don’t See Color’: Black Gen X and the Language of False Progress

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From the Cafeteria Table to the Corporate Boardroom: What Black Gen X Built That People Still Don’t Understand

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The Weight of the Unknown: Why We Fear Career Change (and How to Push Through It)

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The Best Life Illusion: Long Game vs. Right Now

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Adjusting to a New Normal: When Stability Disappears

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Comfort vs. Risk: The Scariest Decision I Ever Made

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Proving Myself to Me: The Truth About Motivation

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Imposter Syndrome Doesn’t Care About Your Success

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If You’re Still Talking About It… It’s a Hobby

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Black Gen X at PWIs: The Experience No One Talks About

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Shoot for the Moon… But What Happens When You Actually Land?

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Stop Saying “I Know My Worth” — Start Leveraging Your Value

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When Your Job Becomes Your Therapy… But Doesn’t Heal You

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Why I Joined the Military… And the Truth I Didn’t Realize Until Years Later

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Growth Doesn’t Always Come on Your Terms

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Growth Doesn’t Always Happen on Your Terms

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The Professional Point of No Return: When You Have to Bet on Yoursel

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Unexpected Opportunities: When Career Detours Become Growth

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Becoming the Architect: Thriving Without a Blueprint

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Next Level Is Not a Logo

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Help me create a course

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Is a Master’s Degree Worth It? What Graduate School Really Gives You

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The Loss of Safe Space: When Safety Disappears and What It Teaches You

39

Shared World, Different Reality: A Reflection on Experience, Perception, and Understanding

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How to Write a Resignation Letter When You’re Leaving on Bad Terms

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What they didn’t tell us: Navigating Life as Black Gen X without a Blueprint

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Welcome to 2026: How to Navigate the Anthony Reeves Experience

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Why My 24-Hour Bus Ride Shocked My Friends

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First Generation in Affluent Spaces: The Untold Black Gen X Experience

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I Bet On Myself: The Day I Walked Away From Everything Safe.

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When the Club No Longer Fits — Becoming a Young Black Professional and Finding Your Space

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The confusing part of Racism for Black Gen X: Navigating a New World with Old Landmines

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NOW YOU KNOW: The Untold Burden of Gen X — Racism, Family, and the “Sign of the Times

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Sign of the Times: What Black and White Gen X Learned from Our Parents

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The First Time I heard the N-word: A Black Gen X Reality Check

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Living History: When the Past Still Lives Among Us

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Kindergarten Is Where It Began for Black Gen X: The First Lessons in Change

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A Whole New World for Black Gen X: Born Between Hope and Trauma

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Lessons from the Past: Why Black Travelers still move differently

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The 80-Mile Hitchhike: When Freedom Met Foolishness (Part of the “Traveling While Black Gen X” series)

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The Grand Dragon Warning: Traveling While Black Gen X in Polk County

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Pulled Over at Night: A Young Black Officer’s Lesson in Survival

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When the Laws Changed but the People Didn’t: The Gen X Reality After Desegregation

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Be Careful of the Klan County What a Quiet Warning in 1995 Taught Me About Awareness and Survival

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Commentary on the Comments: Black Gen X and the Stories History Forgot

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When Welcome Turns to Unwelcome: A Black Gen X Childhood Reality

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Did We Get It Right? Generation X, Racism, and Learning Without a Roadmap

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My First Encounter with Racism: A Childhood Story in the 1970s South

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Traveling While Black & Gen X: Surviving the Road before GPS

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Black Gen X at the Crossroads: Living Between Two Realities

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Professions – The Journey of Black Gen X in the Workplace

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From Invisible to Seen: How Black Gen X Found Ourselves in the Arts

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Black Gen X: Raised without a Blue Print for a New World

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Georgia vs. Jamaica: Fear, Freedom, and the Weight of History

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My Aunt Never Ate at McDonald’s: Segregation, Memory, and the Black Gen X Story

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Built for the Crossroad: How I rebuilt my career at 40

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Soft Bigotry: When “Helpful” Words Hurt the Most

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Making Sense of Racism in a world that pretends it doesn’t exist

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Unseen and Unheard: My First Big Purchase and the Questions That Still Haunt Me

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My HBCU Dreams, My PWI Reality: A Gen X Story

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Why Generation X Wasn’t Ready for Change — But Adapted Anyway

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Friends After 40: Why Your Circle Shrinks But Grows Deep

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Gen X in the Middle – Raised in the Fallout, Bridging the Divide

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When 40 Changed Everything: Health, Brotherhood, and the Wake-Up Call

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When 40 Hits Different: The Moment I Knew There Was No Going BacK

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Surviving and Being Raised After Jim Crow as Generation X

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What they didn’t teach us: Lessons Gen X Black Kids had to learn on their own

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Growing Up Right After Jim Crow – A Gen X Perspective

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Online vs. In-Person College: Which One is Right for You?

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When was the last time your reviewed your resume? What value do you put on your past skills?

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Finding the Right College Fit: People, Purpose, and Passion

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Turning 40 professionally

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The hidden struggles of college

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From Arkansas to Aruba: The friendship that changed my life

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Surviving day 0: Preparing to Open your Business

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Building my law firm from scratch

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Dream Job to Dream Life: Rethinking Your Aspirations

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From Courtrooms to Campaigns: My Journey into Politics

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From the Courtroom to Culture Shock: My Journey to the Florida Supreme Court

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Military Journey and Legacy

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From Pine Bluff to Tampa: Navigating Culture Shock and Growth

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The Turning Point: Lessons from my year at 29

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Taking a Breath.Lessons from Fort McClellan

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Brown v. Board of Education: The Landmark Case and Its Overlooked Consequences

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The Parental scavenger hunt.Looking for your parents records

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The little girl who kept the bus from moving.A JIM CROW story

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Power of Attorney and Durable healthcare surrogate and your parents

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Recognizing Withdrawal: A Silent Cry for Support

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Are you changing jobs or careers organically as part of a larger strategy or not?

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Recognizing when you are moving in rarified air, part 2 (Grad school versus Law School)

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Recognizing when you are moving in rarified air, part 1 (my time as a young naval officer)

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Do not get mad if you forget to share your professional experience with your family

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The Ripple Effect of giving two weeks notice

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Navigating the crossroad: Caring for your aging parents

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Manufacturing jobs are NOT coming back (in the way they used to be)

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The Hustle of Financing your college education

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The Power and Perils of being the First

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Adjusting to changes in culture

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The Power of the Black Church

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Life after Jim Crow (The Story of MY Aunt Berneice)

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Lean into your legacy

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Being the GENERATION next door

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Every day you are building your reputation

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A day in the life of a business owner

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Being a boss changes you

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Don’t be afraid to make a mistake

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Life after 21. Lessons on doing adult things

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5 things you need to know about end of Life discussions with your parents

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Being comfortable with being uncomfortable

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Maximizing your mentor / mentee relationship

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Preparing for the shock of opening your own business

127

Why is your networking NOT working (Lessons from Dr. George C. Fraser)

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#259. Lessons from Black Leaders, Part 1.Darryl Matthews

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#258. Navigating Value: The Blog that shaped a legal career

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#257: Who told you that you would become our business partner?

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#256: Facing the struggle of doing what you WANT to do as opposed to what you think you SHOULD Do

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#255: Never avoid the opportunity to do something outside of your comfort zone

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#254: Don’t you ever treat your current destination as your final destination

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#253.how the hell am I going pay for college

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#252. Are colleges losing their value

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#251. Why you mad because you are a bad employee

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#250. The downside of being the FIRST and EXCEPTIONAL

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#249. Navigating the Abyss: The Journey from Heartbreak to Triumph

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#248: Hot Minute Motivation- stop ignoring the signs to tell you that your meat for more

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#247: Navigating Uncertainty: A Journey After Military Service

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#246: Journey to Fort McClellan: A Reflection on Transition and Self-Discovery

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#245: Seek guidance before solely relying on your own judgment

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#244: When you DON’T explore all of your options

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#243. Choosing to suffer alone

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#242. The Danger of Tunnel Vision

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#241. Life After College, Chapter 1: Facing Reality

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#240. 5 realities of transitioning from college life to corporate life

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#239…..3 rules for dealing with those who hate on your hustle

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Most people cannot appreciate your grind

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30s_40s_50s_and_beyond, what_i_learned, pt_1: 30_to_34, the_transition (REMASTERED)

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Are you prepared for your loved ones to throw shade on your success?

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some of your people can not relate to your world

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you are not selfish because you are strategic about WHO you share your access

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you are making power moves

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Do you really know what a reputation defender is

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people need you to validate their space

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you are supposed to be having next level conversations

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what does the next big thing look like to you

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Never let anyone project what they can not do on to you

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It is ok for people to learn about your brilliance later

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do not be afraid to share your brilliance

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how many times have we ignored our instincts

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Try to fight the urge to share access to your personal network

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You may be making power moves and not realizing it

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your people may not be as powerful as you

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Make sure you move in spaces where your voice is valued

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trust your plan to work when it is supposed to work

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If you do not value your time, no one else will

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You may not have been exposed to the right way to lead by example

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Be prepared for your personal circle to get smaller

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You are under no obligation to give advice

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don’t get stuck doing the same thing the same way

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Do not let anyone take advantage of your professional bravery

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Beware of 6 types of interviews

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4 signs telling you that it may be time to leave your job

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5 ways to maximize unexpected professional opportunities

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4 things to know about closing your business

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5 Reasons why we struggle to move on from our old job

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4 Reasons to avoid asking professional advice from someone about their past work

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The power of explaining

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Turning 50 and wondering if it is too late to start a new career

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8 things to know when pivoting professions or careers

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Be careful of the person you seek approval

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Taking of care of your parents, Part 2: Talking about assets

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Your process is your reputation

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Defending your passion

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Taking care of your parents, part I: Telling your parents what to do

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Let’s look at it another way

189

5 things to think about regarding class action settlements

190

Reeves Point of View: The movie “TILL” and why HIS story is AMERICAN HISTORY

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Breaking out of my comfort zone: My Texas Case

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5 things to know about going to a convention

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Understanding the grind: My first Telemarketing job

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Easy but NOT so Easy.Returning to work for your former employer

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It is ok if you do not relate to a tragedy

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What if college is NOT your thing?

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Lessons learned from my first student loan payment

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Life advice to 4 graduate versions of my younger self

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Rural Community and lack of access to healthcare

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Life AFTER Jim Crow: Brown v. Board of Education and the LAST Great Village

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Letters from Baby Boomers about Jim Crow

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Running our own business and prioritizing your time

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Life AFTER Jim Crow: My earliest experience with Racism

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Going viral and 3 questions to ask yourself before you post

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The reality of working for the rest of your life

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COVID and the GREAT RESIGNATION, Pt. 1.Facing the Fear of leaving your job

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State of Independence.A Greyhound Bus Story

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The stress of paying for college

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Life AFTER Jim Crow: Teaching John Brown

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Life AFTER Jim Crow: Remembering those establishments that discriminated

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Life AFTER Jim Crow, Generation X and the Children of the Civil Rights Movement

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Disability for those over the age of 50 and long work history

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Capturing those stories from loved ones before you lose them

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Trust but Verify

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Surviving an Interview: Easy but NOT so Easy

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Delta Airlines & $200; Advising your elders; Jim Crow legacy

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Reeves Point of View: 5 things to consider after acceptance to law school

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Reeves Point of View: Extending your brand globally

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Transitioning from business owner to employee

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Reeves Point of View: Why you may need a CPA

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Code Switching

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Reeves Reflection: Why you should podcast on location

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Using your college degree

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Reeves Reflection: Remembering the Pulse Night Club Shooting

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Ever wonder why attorneys are so long winded??

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If you see your attorney in public, don’t talk to them about your case

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Why you should only complain about your legal case to your attorney

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Reeves Reflection: My 25 mile road march

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6 reasons why you should keep your settlement papers

230

The reality of the Health Scare

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Reeves Reflection: handling my first out of state case as a solo lawyer

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Don’t freak out when you have a new judge or new attorney on your legal case

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A LOVING memory: Interracial marriage, the LOVING v. Virginia Supreme Court Cas

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3 ways attorneys prepare to appear before a judge

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Tips to help avoid freaking out when you recognize you need an attorney

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Why it is important to use your personal network in a personal crisis

237

What it was like going to grad school

238

My Perspective on black history and life after COVID

239

The dangers of loved ones being a part of your legal case

240

How my side hustle almost killed my MAIN hustle

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The 5 dangers of having a side hustle when starting your business

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How to ask your attorney friend for legal help

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Evaluate your skills between jobs

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Preparing your loved ones for their involvement in your legal case, pt. 2

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My Proud PRIDE moment is a MIRACLE OF LOVE

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Living with Jim Crow: Ray’s Way, Pt. 2

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Finding your voice when you hate networking, part 3: Organizational expectation

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Finding your voice when you hate networking, Part 2: A Force of One

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Finding your voice when you hate networking, part I: HAWL

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Things to consider when preparing to file a law suit

251

When a legal win doesn’t feel like a legal win

252

How an employer education program helped me

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Talking yourself OUT of a great idea

254

How to hire a high profile attorney

255

Life After Death: Hard talks about your parent’s estate

256

The Hard working ‘B’ student, Kids and COVID, Online learning, and scholarships

257

The difficulties of hiring and paying for a law firm

258

The Difficulty of Deciding to DROP your legal case

259

Easy but NOT so Easy: Switching Law Firms

260

7 ways to be a good witness when you testify

261

The 3 dangers of relying on other people’s evidence to win your legal case

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Reeves Point of View: Why you should use an attorney to deal with the press

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Your Parents

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Easy but NOT so Easy: What IS and IS NOT moral support?

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Helping someone Hire an Attorney

266

Easy but NOT so Easy: Point of Contact

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Power of Attorney

268

The responsibility of being a 3d party (This week, April 11)

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Get ready to jump on any problem area in your employee background

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Examine everything you sign when you start your job

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Disqualification and Discussions: Issues which may keep you from being employed

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Challenge - any process related to challenging any employment issues

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Beware what you choose to NOT disclose regarding your employee background

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Be AWARE of what is in your Employee Background

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This week’s (April 4) experience focuses on Employee Background

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Waiting for your legal problem to get worse

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File everything you receive at your new employee intake

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The financial headache of waiting to share a problem

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Keeping a problem about your case a secret

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The Ugly Parts of your legal case

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The Bad Part about your legal case

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The Good Part of your legal case

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Dealing with a legal problem early

284

This week will be dealing with legal problems in your case. March 29

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Use a professional to get referred to a professional

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Figuring out your support network for your start up business

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Be careful who refers things to you

288

Start with WORD OF MOUTH when seeking a referral

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It matters who you get referrals from

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Your responsibilities when you refer someone

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Why referrals suck (but are still great)

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The Power of a referral

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This week’s (March 22) experience will focus on “WORD OF MOUTH”

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Understanding the impact of your anchor address

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The Summer to Remember (Summer 2001 and Studying for the Bar exam)

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Timing and moving may make a difference

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The difficulty of moving back home and reestablishing services

298

The importance of your services and moving

299

The importance of keeping people informed about your move

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Have you evaluated where you are moving?

301

Reeves Point of View: The power of wondering what’s next, March 14, 2021

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The fear of your case going away if you move

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This week (March 14) will focus on the IMPACT OF MOVING

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Why updates can be helpful to your case

305

The Fear of changing circumstances hurting your legal case

306

The importance of keeping people informed about your change in circumstances

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Statistics and your case

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Why the uniqueness of your case doesn’t mean success or failure

309

Don’t compare your case to someone else’s case

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Recognizing that your case is unique

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This week’s (March 7) experience is “circumstance”

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Protecting your house

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Reeves Reflection: People who question you about holding back

314

Introducing Anthony Reeves

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Reeves Reflection: Having someone who challenges your brilliance

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Reeves Reflection: Underestimate your brilliance

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This WEEK’s (2/21/2021) Experience with Anthony Reeves

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Reeves Reflection: Recognizing the dark but responding to the light

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Reeves Reflection: Realizing the value of your time

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Reeves Reflection: The power of emptying your cup and filling it again

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Reeves Reflection: The power of moving out of the way of someone's dream

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Reeves Reflection: Be careful about getting burned in office politics

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Reeves Reflection: When you have no clue what to do after graduation

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Reeves Reflection: When you feel your are not progressing professionally

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Reeves Reflection: Recognizing when you fall into the comfort zone of your job

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Reeves Reflection: Don't feel bad if you keep changing careers

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Reeves Reflection: The importance of having someone who tolerates your crap

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Reeves Reflection: Don't wait for someone to tell you that you are brilliant

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Reeves Reflection: Trusting that your voice has value

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Reeves Reflection: Doing something you didn't think you could do

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Reeves Reflection: The power of having a proper Mentor

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Reeves Reflection: The joy of being exposed to other cultures

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Kicking BUTT and taking names HER WAY (Master Anne Radke, 6th Degree Black Belt)

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What 'I KNOW' about the week of January 22, 2021

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What 'I KNOW' about the week of January 15, 2021

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What I learned working as a dishwasher and laborer

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Do I stay or Do I go? (Deciding whether to leave your job)

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Reeves Point of View: Learning and surviving the Office Culture

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Recognizing when I was in a rut and how I got out of it

340

REEVES Point of View: Don’t let your first job kill your spirits

341

Those GROWN UP things your parents don’t tell you about

342

Evictions and foreclosures (a lawyer and personal perspective)

343

Interviewing myself: My transition from Naval Officer to College Student

344

Surviving an unexpected health crisis

345

Understanding why your attorney dropped your case

346

Exploring a new job location

347

Why an attorney won’t answer my legal question

348

Life and Leadership lessons I learned from US Army ROTC Advanced Camp

349

Exploring unused employee wellness programs

350

My first keynote speech at a Founders Day event for my Fraternity

351

Why I am terrified about visiting my doctor?

352

Easy but NOT so Easy: Understanding WHO gets the COVID 19 vaccine next

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Job Perks (when applying for a job)

354

STILL GROWING UP series, Part 1: I wanted to become a judge 7 years ago

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Coronavirus Vaccine Q&A, part 1: 4 matters that everyone should be aware

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Mo answers about deciding to go to law school

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Taking care of love

358

Easy but NOT so Easy: Job Reference

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Easy but NOT so Easy: Suing your employer for wrongful termination

360

Easy but NOT so Easy: Quitting a job

361

Easy but not so Easy: Filing your own lawsuit

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What I tell parents who ask me about their child wanting to go to law school

363

Easy but not so easy: Having and access to healthcare

364

Living with Jim Crow series: Ray's Way, part 1.early child hood

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Easy but not easy way to start a business

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30s 40s 50s and Beyond.pt. 3.40 to 44, the realization

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The value of the BAD BUSINESS VENTURE

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Changing careers pt 3 the trauma of making the right decision

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Changing careers part 2 making the right decision not the safe one

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Changing careers part 1 nothing goes as planned

371

Understanding the importance of homeless shelters

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8 quick ways to showcase your skills

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Public Health and the Economy. How the two are the same

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Why being 'Twice as Good' is another way of saying 'you are outstanding'!

375

30s, 40s, 50s and Beyond.What I learned.pt. 2 (35 to 39, the exploration)

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30s, 40s, 50s and Beyond.What I learned.pt. 1 (30 to 34, the transition)

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Living Jim Crow. A tale of two sisters

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"Dare to be Dangerously Different" Info Series, part 1: 6 Footahs

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Living with Jim Crow series: Interview with my mom, Part 2

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Living with Jim Crow series: Interview with my mom, part 1