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Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE — 345 episodes
If He Doesn't Think Porn Is Bad, Can He Still Truly Recover??
My Addiction Shattered My Wife; She Wants a Divorce, but I Don't. Now What?!
After his Gaslighting, Betrayal and Integrity Abuse, My Intuition is Broken!
He's Honest About Relapses, But His Spiraling Shame and Neediness Cycle is Exhausting!
Why Do I Keep Lying to My Partner About the Stupidest Little Things?!
From Shame and Survival to Honesty and Wholeness—Is Real Lasting Change Possible?
When His Recovery Journey Is Destroying Her Healing Journey
Sexualized Media, Movies & Other Content—Can They Ever Be Safe Again in True Recovery?
When Porn Addiction Evolves into AI Fantasy Using the Partner as the “Character”
What to Do When an Addict Uses Recovery to Avoid Caring About His Partner?
Betrayal Trauma, Childhood Trauma & My Own Addiction—Where Do I Even Start?
Healthy Sexuality or Pornified Performance? Navigating Lingerie, Fantasies, Kinks, & Authentic Intimacy in Recovery
Am I REALLY Recovering—Or Just Using My Partner Instead of Porn?
"Why Do Intrusive Mental Images Still Hit Me—Even Years Into His Recovery?"
Half-In, Half-Out Recovery: He Says He’s Changing but Keeps the “Addiction Door” Cracked Open
If He will NOT face His Porn Addiction—You as a Partner MUST find Your Voice NOW!
No D-Day, No Disclosure—But I KNOW I’ve Been Betrayed: Healing from Integrity Abuse When the Truth Is Still Hidden
We Want a Family, But He Just Disclosed His Porn Addiction—Now What?
He Says He Chooses Me... So Why Is He Still Thinking About Other Women?!
He Turned Me Into Porn . . . Now I Don't Want Sex at All—Is This Normal?!
The NECESSITY of Community in Recovery & Healing for Addicts and Betrayed Partners
Why Does My Heart Keep Moving Further Away . . . Even Though He’s Finally Trying?!
Can I or We ever Heal from his Trickled Truths, Multiple D-Days and Ongoing Lies?!
Can Someone Who Lived a Secret Sexual Life for 40 Years Ever be Truly Sober?
Relationship Healing Lives or Dies on "Consistent Transparency!"
Guardrails or Walls? Moving from Sexual Aversion to Healthy Intimacy in Recovery
He has the Right to Completely Screw Up His Life!
When Betrayal is Confessed, What are Healthy Boundaries for the Partner & Addict?
Can "Just Looking" Destroy a Marriage: Understanding Visual Sexual Addiction
From Shock to Self–Trust: Reclaiming Your Inner Truth After Betrayal
What Does "Proactive Honesty" in Your Daily Life & Relationships Look Like?
No Bullsh*t—What’s ACTUALLY Blocking An Addict’s TRUE Change?
How to Attain REAL and LASTING Change in 2026!
Face the Devastation You Have Heaped Upon Your Partner and then CHOOSE TO CHANGE!
My Partner is in Recovery. Should we let the past go and move on? Is there a place for “grieving” what was lost?
After Years of Porn Use, Will I Ever See My Partner as the “Most Attractive” Person in My Life?
When are Specific Details about an Addict's Behavior Helpful or Harmful for a Partner?
What is "Integrity Abuse" and How does it Impact the Betrayed Partner?
Why My Body Shuts Down: Understanding Sexual Trauma Responses After Years of Betrayal
How Do We Discover/Recover Healthy Sexual Intimacy After Sexual Toxicity and Betrayal?
Is my Partner a clinical "Narcissist" or does he just have Narcissistic Tendencies?
My Porn Addicted Partner uses photos of Family & Friends to Fantasize! What Do I Do?!
In a Relationship Filled with Betrayal—How Can I Trust He will Not Betray Me Again?!
What does ACTUAL Accountability look like for a Porn/Sex Addict in REAL Recovery?
My Partner says He Only Has Eyes for Me—but He’s Hooked on Porn—Should I Believe Him?
How Does a Porn/Sex Addict Coercing His Partner into Acting Out Fantasies Impact Them Both?
When Touch Feels Like Pressure: Breaking Free from Over-Sexualization
Big Gestures, Broken Trust—Living in the Cycle of Empty Commitments
As a Recovering Porn & Sex Addict—What Is Keeping Me In My Marriage?
"Everyone Thinks He’s Great . . . But They Don’t Know the Whole Story"
When Loving Him Means Losing Me—Do I Stay or Go?!
My Partner uses Porn to Punish Me for Not Losing Weight. How do I Recover from That?!
Healing for Betrayed Partners with a Sexually Abusive Past (PART 2)
The Impact of a Sexually Abusive Childhood on a Betrayed Partner (PART 1)
I Keep Finding Myself Hurt In Relationships with Porn/Sex Addicts—How Do I Break the Cycle?
Advice for Young Adults Balancing Mental Health, School, Life and Porn Addiction
Can I Have a Healthy Relationship with my Addict Partner without him Sharing His Past?
My Betrayed Partner regularly Screams & Lashes Out . . . How can I Help Her?
My Porn/Sex Addicted Partner tells me I just need to "Get over it" . . . So now what?!
My Addict Partner Keeps going Through Cycles of Taking Me For Granted! What Do I Do?
I'm Staying Away from Porn, But I Want to FEEL Repulsed by it. How?
Performance Anxiety” is Creating a WALL Between Me & My Betrayed Partner! What Advice do you have?
My Addict Partner is Now Identifying as “Polyamorous” and I Don’t Agree. Now What?
What if my Addict Partner and I Disagree About Boundaries—Now What?
How Long Should My Former Addict Partner Maintain Sobriety and Recovery Before I Consider Getting Back with Him?
As a Betrayed Partner, How Do I Stop Waiting Around for the Rug to be Pulled Out from Under Me–Again?!
As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Talk to my Teenage Kids About Healthy Sexuality?
Do you REALLY want Intimate CONNECTION or Not?
How Do I Navigate the Dating World After My Marriage Ended Due to Porn?
My Habit of “Pornifying” Everything has Ruined Enjoyable Media for Me & My Partner! Can We Ever be “Healthy” Again?
Do I have to wait for the “Formal Amends” process before my Addict Partner shows any real change?
How Can He “Look Past” My Body & Be Aroused by Real Love?!
Sex Isn't Mutually Pleasurable in our Relationship. How do We Elevate the Experience?
My Addict Partner Keeps saying “Sorry” & He’s “Trying,” but He’s NOT Meeting my Real Needs!
My Addict Partner has “Backed Off” from His Recovery. Why Can’t he See it’s About More Than Just Being “Sober”?
Recovery is My Choice, So I don’t Need Her Help Making Choices . . . Right?
My Partner FINALLY Admitted to His Porn Addiction, but He won’t do Recovery Work or Open Up. What Can I Do?!
I know my partner is positively changing, BUT how can I stay with a man who did such horrible things in his addiction?
What Is All This Recovery & Healing Work For? Is It Worth It? Why?
Since getting into Recovery, my Porn/Sex Addicted Partner went from Pleasant to Angry & Aggressive! What’s going on???
Is My Partner a Sex Addict or Just Getting Back at Me? He says He can Stop anytime.
As a Porn/Sex Addict, does, “I Want to Get Clean for Her” or “Be Worthy of Her” work as a Motive for Real Recovery?
My Porn/Sex Addict Partner Put Me Through Hell! Now He’s in Recovery & Wants to Reconcile—is it Worth the Risk?
As the Betrayed Partner of a Porn/Sex Addict, How Do I Know If/When I Know Enough About His Secret Behaviors?
Defensiveness Is KILLING Our Relationship - WHAT Do We DO?
Why Do Addicts Have Such a HARD Time Being HONEST?! How Can We DARE to Tell the TRUTH AT ALL COSTS?
How Do I Get to Find Happiness Again When My Addict Partner Keeps Relapsing? How can I be OK, No Matter What?
The Powerful Potential of “Consideration” in Recovery & the Betrayal Trauma Healing Process
Are You Fighting the Right War: Working Within the Facts, But NOT at the Cost of Connecting with the Feelings?
My Addict Partner has Certain Philias, Fetishes & Taboo Behaviors. What is the Impact of this on His Recovery & Our Relationship?
Why Do I Go Silent As the Partner of A Sex Addict, and How Do I Healthily Break Free of This?
My Partner Relapses, says He’s Sorry, does Better for a Time, then the Whole Cycle Starts Again!
Sex in Our Marriage has Always Been “Broken.” How do we Repair and Heal it?
I use Porn to Learn How to Please my Partner. That’s Healthy . . . Right?
As a Betrayed Partner, How do I Live “Empowered” Regardless of what my Addict Partner Does or Does Not Do?
Unless my Partner is “Diagnosed” as an “Addict,” his Porn Use is NOT a Problem . . . Right?
COLLABORATING as a Couple in the HARD Struggle of Recovery & Healing
My Addict Partner Only Engages in “Shallow Conversation.” Is there any Hope He will ever treat me like a True Friend and Partner?
How does a Betrayed Partner Navigate the News that their Sex Addict Partner has Contracted an Incurable STD?
Does My Addict Partner’s “Need” for Sex every 4 days Hinder His Recovery & My Healing?
What Do “Independence” & “Interdependence” Look Like in a Coupleship where My Partner Continues to Scan and Lust?
With His History of Dishonesty, Should I Just Trust that my Partner’s Relationship with an Attractive Coworker is “All Business”?
Is it My Responsibility to Make My Porn Addicted Partner Feel Comfortable so He Will Consistently Tell Me the Truth?
My Porn Addicted Partner has ADHD. He Insists I MUST Manage His Recovery for Him to Succeed. Is This Right?
“Men will Just be Men—Live with it?” REALLY?!
How Can I Support my Partner (who I Betrayed) so She Can Enjoy Life Again?
What are the differences and similarities between male and female betrayal-traumatized partners?
A Close Friend Matches My Addict Husband’s Past “Porn/Fantasy” Woman. I’m Triggered Whenever I’m Around Her! What Can I Do?!
For an Addict Seeking to Overcome “Public Scanning,” is the “3-Second Rule” Harmful or Helpful?
My Addict Partner was Doing Well in Recovery. Then the Lies Started Again. I’m Shattered! How do I Come Back from This?!
HOW Does an Addict Get to Real, Lasting SEXUAL & EMOTIONAL Sobriety & Recovery?
Why is Knowledge of Horrific Abuse in the Porn Industry NOT Enough to Make Men Quit Their Porn Habit?
I’ve Disclosed my Sexual Addiction history to my partner—now what? How do I best support her going forward?
What’s the Point in Staying with a Porn/Sex Addict? What’s in it for the Betrayed Partner?
The PBSE/Dare to Connect Approach vs 12-Step Support Groups
Because He’s a Sex Addict—even in Real Recovery—I will still Never Be Enough For Him! How do I Cope with That?!
What Does “Real Restitution” for Serious Betrayal in a Relationship Look Like?
Do I Have to Accept that my Addict Partner, even in Successful Recovery, could Betray Me Again?!
As a Partner, I’m Falling and Drowning—HOW DO I STOP! How do I TAKE BACK MY POWER?!
I Need My Sex Addict Partner be “all-in” with Recovery, and to Stop Throwing Me Under the Bus with Family & Friends!
How Can I Share my Authentic Feelings when my Addict Partner Reacts with Depression, Anxiety and/or Shame?
Can Porn/Sex Addicts be Habitual Liars—even about Small Stuff—and How Can They Stop?
Should We Consider a “Sex Fast”? And IF so, HOW do we NOT become “Disconnected” in the Process?
Now that my Sex/Porn Addiction is Out in the Open, my Betrayed Partner is Lashing Out! How do we Navigate this?!
Both Partners Have a Porn Addiction History. One is Pursuing Real Recovery and the other Refuses to do so; Now What?
How Can "Love" and "Attraction" Evolve Through Disclosure and the Recovery/Healing Process?
How Can my Family & Friends Support Me & My Partner in Recovery? How Much Should We Share & with Whom?
I Have Habitually, Continually Lied to My Partner! Is There Any Hope for Me and Us?
As an Addict, are you “Weaponizing your Weaknesses” as a Reason to NOT Commit to and Live “Real” Recovery?
After Deeply Betraying Her, How do I Help my Partner Feel Truly “Chosen” Again?
Is this Coupleship Issue a Dual Sex Addiction? Or Something More?
What Came First—His Emotional Disconnectedness or His Addiction?
My Partner’s Porn Addiction Ruined Our Sex Life! Can/Should We Seek a Total “Sexual Reset”?
Am I Just Too Insecure and Sensitive About What He Does in His “Private Time”?
“Healthy, Connecting Sexual Dynamic”? You Be the Judge.
Can He Ever “See” Me Physically & Sexually like He does His Porn Fantasies?
Is There a Correlation Between ADHD & Porn/Sex Addiction? Can You Cope with Both Collaboratively?
You Get to Decide What Level of Intimacy You Want in Your Relationship.
Can “Emotional Cheating” be Worse Than Sexual Betrayal?
How Do My Partner and I Successfully Navigate a “Therapeutic Separation”? How Do We Do This Well?
The More I Learn About His “Disgusting Past” the Less I Want to Have Sex with Him! How Can We Ever Recover From This?
What is the Betrayed Partner’s Responsibility in Rebuilding a Relationship?
How to have a Healthy Couples Dialogue in Tackling Sexually Triggering Topics
How Can an Addict and Partner Stay “Safe” During Holiday Trips and Vacations?
I Have Been Betrayed by So Many Men! What Steps Can I Take Going Forward to NOT be Hurt Again?!
Why do Betrayed Partners Feel Unsafe? What does it take to Feel Safe Again and Why is this Critical to Healing?
Episode 200!!! What Does it Mean to “Dare” in Your Relationship?
You Can Rewire Your Subconscious Mind—and Break Out of Porn/Sex Addiction!
SPECIAL EPISODE! For My Recovery & My Partner’s Healing—How Can I Stop “Scanning in Public”?
Sick and Tired of the Roller Coaster Ride of Porn/Sex Addiction? Here Are Some Simple Tools to Start Breaking Free.
My Spouse “Fooled” Me and Everyone in Our Family for Years! Now I Can’t Stand to Even Look at Him! Is there any Hope for us?
What is the Difference Between “Codependence” and Authentic Feelings & Boundaries?
How Can a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, most effectively project His Authenticity and Higher Self?
What is “His” Role and “Her” Role in Rebuilding Trust?
Should I Marry My Porn-Addicted Fiancé or Move On?
What Happens when Porn Use/Sex Addiction is Blamed on the so-called “Inadequacies” of a Partner?
After My Lying and Gaslighting, My Partner Won’t Believe Me! How Do I Show True Empathy & Rebuild Trust?
Boundaries, Trauma and “Long-Distance-Sex”–Where do We Go From Here?
Will Confronting my Addict’s "Acting-Out Partners" Help Me Heal?
What Place Does “Edging” Have or Not Have in Healthy Recovery and Healing a Relationship?
My Partner’s Definition of “What is Porn” is Different from Mine—We are at an Impasse—Now What?!
My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s “Empathy Button” is Broken! What Can I Do?
How can we Connect When My Partner Acts Out and Then Goes to Shame—Silent, Stoic and Self-Absorbed?!
“Clearing Away the Wreckage of Your Past"—Recovery Lessons from Steve’s Metal Detecting Trip
I Want My Addict Partner to SUFFER; to Feel TERRIBLE like I do! Is that Normal? How Can I Stop this Feeling?!
Evolve from Treating the “Symptoms of Addiction” to a Real & Lasting “Change of Heart & Mind."
Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?
Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?
How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Why are Sexual Boundaries Critical for a truly "Connected Coupleship"?
As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.
The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner
What Does a Formal, Full “Disclosure” Look Like?
Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.
When it comes to boundaries and consequences in recovery and healing, what is “my side of the street vs. his"?
Is all this “Recovery & Healing Crap” really Worth it? Hope for Couples.
Stop Focusing on your "Addiction Symptoms” and Get to your Core Issues!
Is there any “Good” to be Learned from Sex Addiction Behaviors and Betrayal Trauma?
My Partner has a Slip with Porn and I go Online to See What He was Looking at! How do I Stop this Painful Behavior?
If I Don’t Get Angry/Intense When My Partner Slips/Relapses, He Becomes Complacent! How Do I Find a Healthy Balance?
What if I Marry an Addict in Recovery and Down the Road He Stops Choosing Recovery? Is there a “Safe Zone” to Prevent This?
How do I Forgive Myself after Betraying my Wife for 18 Years?!
After Our Long Addiction and Betrayal History, We Now Live Like “Married Singles.” How Can We Get the “Chemistry & Spark” Back?
Is 2023 already “Ruined” Due to His Destructive Sexual Behaviors over all the other years?!
How to be the proactive “Architect” of your Holidays and 2023—as opposed to the same old “Reactive Firefighter.”
Does it Take a “Catastrophe” to Break Out of Addiction? And, Should I Disclose to My Partner?
How to Raise Sexually Healthy Kids and Help Those Already Struggling
Now that I know about my addict partner’s past sexual behaviors, I don’t want to have sex with him!
What Can You Do When Your Partner Will Not Acknowledge They Have a Porn Problem?
As a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, HOW do I Let Go of Deep Feelings of Shame & Unworthiness?
Steve's Lessons Learned in Successful Recovery!
My Addict Spouse Can’t Help His Bad Behaviors Because He is “Powerless”—Right?
Because of Trauma from my Addict Partner, I'm Seeing the World Through "His Hyper-sexualized Lens"!
What Role Can/Should a “Polygraph” Play in a Porn/Sex Addict’s “Disclosure” to a Partner?
Are the Sexual Practices in Your Relationship “Safe”? How Can You Know?
I was just “blind-sided” by the shocking details of my husband’s sex addiction! Now what!
My Husband Acts “Sexually Anorexic”—What Can I Do?!
Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part Three: Building Your Support System
Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part Two: The Couples Check-in
Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part One: The Power of Journaling
Let's Talk "Fetishes"!
My Partner Claims He “No longer notices women.” Is that possible?
Is It Simply "Sex Addiction," or Something More?—Examining the Nuances & Roots of Addiction Behaviors.
How do “Family of Origin” Issues Impact your Addiction, Recovery and Marriage Relationship?
Now that my partner is in recovery, what should our “sexual norms” look like as a Couple?
It’s Been a Long Time Since I Looked at Porn–Am I Cured? Do I Still Need “Recovery Work”?
Would my Spouse Still be an Addict if He had Married Someone Else?
What if my Addict Partner DEMANDS Sex so He can Stay Sober?
How “Sex” can be used as an “Intimacy Substitute.”
Recovery and Healing ARE Possible—Here's HOW to be Successful!
The “Abuse Cycle” Par Two—The Impact of Abuse on Betrayal Trauma and Healing
The “Abuse Cycle” Part One—The Impact of Abuse on Addiction
My Addict Partner of 33 Years is Out of Control and I Don’t Know Where to Start!
How to Surrender Control of an Addict’s Behaviors while Maintaining Boundaries and Accountability.
“To Masturbate or Not to Masturbate?” that is the question!
It’s NOT an Addiction if I’m Only Using “Porn Substitutes”—Right???
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Three—The Conclusion!
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Two
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages"—Part One
How Long Should I Be “Sober” Before I Start Dating or Having Sex Again?
Should I Just be “OK” with my Partner's Lusting?
Are you Sick & Tired of Relapsing? Then it’s time to “Be Stubborn”and “Get An Attitude”!!!
How can I KNOW when my Partner has finally Stopped Lying and is Serious About His Recovery?
I Have Discovered My Husband's Relapses More Than a Dozen Times. What Now?
When is it OK for my Addict Partner to “Back Off” from His Recovery?
What if my Betrayed Spouse Won’t Keep Up?
Episode 112: As Addicts, We Can Throw Up HUGE Barriers to Recovery and Mending Our Most Important Relationships!
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part Two: What to do if you are the Spouse.
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict.
Are Your “Resentments” Holding You Back?
As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure!
How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again?
All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions
How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationship Authenticity”? (Part Two)
How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One)
New Year’s Resolutions Can Make Addiction Worse! Try this Instead.
How to Balance Christmas (and other holidays) with the Trauma of Recovery & Healing
When Stress Hits—STAND UP for Your Personal & Couple-ship "Bill of Rights"!
This is Our 100th Episode! In the Pain of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma—There is GREAT HOPE!
My Spouse is in Recovery but will NOT have Sex with Me! What Can I Do?
How Do We Find Connection When There’s Been “Mutual Betrayal”?
What Should Come First—Him Ending His Affair, or Us Starting Couples Counseling?
How Can I “Adequately” Explain to My Spouse WHY I Looked at Porn?
My Husband Watches Female Professional Wrestling. Is That a Problem?
As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse?
Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Betrayals OR is He "Gaslighting" You?
How Do I Overcome the Shame of My Past "Toxic Sex/Me-Centered" Behaviors?
Is My Partner Lying About His Porn Use? How Can I Know?
How Can I Forgive a Man Who Has Spent Nearly Our Entire Marriage Lying?!
How Do I Know if My Spouse is an Addict or Not?
Unhealthy Relationships Can Help Fuel Porn Addiction—How Can You Move from Co-Dependency to Recovery?
When Your Partner is a Porn Addict, What Does “Healthy Connection” Look Like?
Does Recovery & Healing require that we STOP Internet use, AVOID going out in Public and NEVER talk to the opposite sex?
Your Chosen Path of Sexual Experience—Healthy or Unhealthy? Connecting or Disconnecting?
You are "Powerless" to Control What He’s Thinking During Sex—or Any Other Time!
Should I have Daily Sex with my Husband so He can Recover?
Stuck? Real Recovery & Healing REQUIRE a Trajectory!
After the Betrayal of Porn Addiction, Can We Ever Have “Healthy Sex”?
Do You STINK at Setting and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries?!
Letting Go of Control & Manipulation to WORK Your Own Recovery!
Navigating Summertime and Sex Addiction!
Let Go of "Emotional Wallowing" & Embrace "Vision & Meaning"
Father's Day—Addiction & Trauma Trigger or Healing Event?
Why is Mindfulness & Connecting with Myself SO Hard?!
Erectile Dysfunction and Your "Arousal Template"
I’m Engaged to a Porn Addict—What Should I Do?
Is Physical Touch the “Love Language” of Most Porn/Sex Addicts?
Moving from Addiction to Connection: Reconciliation with Family
From Surviving to Thriving in Your Marriage: A Vision for Addicts
When is it Time to “Shake Up” Your Recovery and Healing?
How Inadequate Self-Care Sabotages Your Recovery and Healing!
The Wall Between Betrayal Trauma and Healing/Connection
The WALL Between Conflict and Connection
How Can a Struggling Couple Come Out of "Relationship Limbo"?
Can I Ever Go Back to Porn?
What it Takes to SUCCEED in Recovery and Healing!
Defining "Slips" and "Relapses"
Where is the line between “loving” someone and “trusting” them?
Spiritual Safety and Sexual Intimacy: You Can Have Both!
Is it "OK" to "Offend" Your Partner?
Great! He’s in Recovery . . . but What is He Thinking?
Why Would the Man Who Loves Me, "Gaslight" Me?!
What Does it Take to Get "SERIOUS" about Real Change?
The Addict's Journey from Escape & Avoidance to Authenticity & Transparency
How to Navigate Mental Illness AND Addiction/Betrayal Trauma
Should We Hide Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma From Our Kids?
How to be Emotionally Healthy as an Individual and Couple in 2021
Ditch the “New Year’s Resolution" BS—it doesn’t work!
Learning from Mark & Steve's "Recovery Ghosts of Christmas Past"
Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part Three: Finding Serenity in the Midst of Family "Stuff"
Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Par Two: "Self Care? Forget that! It's the Holidays, Bro!"
Recovery, Healing & the Holidays—Part One: Preparing for and Managing Triggers
Where Relationship Expectations Collide with Individual Boundaries
The "Unholy Triad" that can Decimate Your Marriage!
What Does it Really Mean to "Man-Up"?
How We Get Stuck in our Pain . . . and How to Heal and Move Forward
Is there a Place for "Sexual Entitlement" in a Healthy Marriage Relationship?
If You Don't Have Honesty—You Don't Have Much
Are YOU Choosing Your Life . . . OR . . . is "IT" Choosing You?
In Recovery & Healing—Is God Your Problem or Your Solution?
Hey, we're doing well, so we can let up on our Boundaries—Right?
I'm Not Sexually Attracted to My Partner—Are We Done?
How to Have DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS that bring TRUE CONNECTION!
How Do We Become Trapped in a "Marriage Crisis" and Can We Ever Come Back Together?
How "Pain Avoidance" feeds Addiction & Betrayal Trauma!
Separating "Attraction" from the "Addiction"—Where are the Boundaries?
Porn Addiction Relapse—the Fallout and Breaking the Addiction Cycle
Refuse to Be a "Victim"—"Let Go" and Allow Her to Heal from Betrayal Trauma!
Breaking Free from the "Victim Trap" of His Porn Addiction
How Do I Regain Her Trust and How Do I Trust Her?
How Do I Ever TRUST my Porn/Sex Addicted Spouse Again?
"Boundaried" Relationships Last—Even in the Midst of Porn Addiction & Betrayal Trauma!
Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part Two
Let Go of the "Sexual Beast' and Embrace REAL Intimacy in your Marriage!
Todd Tells His Sex Addiction Recovery Story—Part One
Healthy Sex vs. Toxic Sex in Marriage
How do you keep going in Recovery and Healing when you're Burned Out and just plain "Done"!
Is it OK to Occasionally "Lie" if its in the Best Interest of Your Recovery or Healing?
Those Darn Thinking Errors!—"Emotional Reasoning" and the "Unreal Ideal"
Pulling Out a Chair for God at Your Marriage Table
For the Spouse of an Addict—How to "Let Go and Let God."
The "Addict" vs. "God"
We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part TWO
We Made All the Marriage Mistakes so YOU Don't Have To!—Part One
Two Former Porn Addicts—"If I Could Go Back in Time, WHAT Would I DO different?"
Here's EXACTLY HOW to Use the "Surrender Tool" as an Addict, Spouse and Citizen
How to Practice the Essential "Art of Surrender" in a Scary World!
How to Get Out of Your "Coronavirus Brain" and TAKE CHARGE!
Managing Your Emotions & Triggers in These Trying Times!
Are My Sexual Behaviors a Problem?
Unraveling the BIG Mystery of Porn Addiction—"Why do I keep going back to it?!"
Battling Through Trauma Together!
Conflict Isn't Bad—Fighting the Real Enemy, NOT Each Other!
What is Betrayal Trauma—Part Three—Setting Sexual Boundaries
What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part Two—Symptoms and Healing
What is "Betrayal Trauma"—Part One
Porn—Stress Reliever or Stress Inducer?
What is Porn and What is Not? It Might Not Be What You Think!