All Episodes
Where Do We Go From Here? — 219 episodes
Shame-Free Sex Education
A Sexual Ethic of Orgasmic Failure
How to Honor Your Parents when the Relationship is Difficult
Beyond Church Walls
Reframing Care Work: Interview with Laura Danger
Bonus Episode: What to Expect from Where Do We Go From Here
No Hard Feelings Chat: What is the Purpose of Church During and After Deconstruction?
Stages of Faith
No Hard Feelings Chat: What's in a Name? Marriage, Identity, and the Politics of Surnames
Science and Sex: Bacteria, Bonobos, the Bible and Beyond
Purity Culture is Spiritual Abuse
From Virgin vs Vixen to Grace and Consent
Ask Jess Anything: Deconstruction, Sex, Motherhood, and Closure
I've got Questions for Erin Moon
Rage Bait, "Childless" and the Gender Blame Game
From Purity to Power: Sex, Innocence, and the Legacy of White Christianity
Learning to Trust Yourself to Deconstruct and Date
Christmas, Closets, and Consent: A Happiest Season Rom-Com Recap
Can You Deconstruct Without Losing Your Faith
Starved of Desire: How Purity Culture and Diet Culture Intertwine
On Premarital Sex Part 4: Sin or Not a Sin?
On Premarital Sex Part 3: Making Sexual Decisions with Wisdom — Not Fear
On Premarital Sex Part 2: Reimagining Celibacy
On Premarital Sex Part 1: What are the rules when there are no rules?
What We Can Learn from a Somatic Sexologist
Faith, Feminism & Pleasure: Rethinking the Christian Story of Sex
Deconstructing Christian Patriarchy and Reclaiming Feminine Energy
Does Saving Sex for Marriage Set People Up for Better or Worse Sex? - A No Hard Feelings Chat
Nobody Wants This Season 1 Recap
Why 'Waiting on God's Timing' Keeps Women Stuck and other thoughts
Grace for Parents, Healing for Kids - Chatting to the authors of The Myth of Good Christian Parenting
April Ajoy on Christian Nationalism and Star-Spangled Jesus
No Hard Feelings about Charlie Kirk
Devi's Back for the Dr James Dobson Autopsy
Kristin Kobes Du Mez on Purity Culture, Patriarchy & Power
Submission, Agency, and Shiny Happy People S2: Where Do We Go From Here?
Submission: The Church Rule We Subconsciously Deconstructed?
Consent as a Holy Starting Point: Rethinking Christian Sexual Ethics
Beyond Consent: Rethinking Sex, Power, and Justice - a conversation with Danielle Tumminio Hansen
Parenting and Re-Parenting Without Sexual Shame with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
Shiny Happy People Season 2: Teen Mania, Radicalisation & the Teenage Holy War
Sex, Consent and the Theology of Harm: What if sin is about harm, not rules? We rethink ethics, bodies, and sacred sexuality
"Talking About Sex in Church Broke Us" — Donna Freitas on Healing What Religion Couldn't
Is It Time for a New Christian Sexual Ethic?
Most Downloaded: Sex and Agency
Purity, Paul, and Pride: A Queer Pastor Reimagines Christianity
Do we still believe in "obedience" after purity culture?
Is Christianity Still Good News for Women?
Can You Still Follow God After Church Trauma? A conversation with Brenda Palmer
Emotional Affairs & the First American Pope. A No Hard Feelings Chat
Pelvic Floors, Pain, Pleasure & Purity Culture with osteopath Rebecca Lovett
Where Does Deconstruction Go From Here?
What Does Safe Sex and Ghosting Have in Common?
Where Did Devi Go From Here? Saying Goodbye (for now)
Devi's got something to share...
149: Radical Activism, Women's Rights, and the Legacy of Josephine Butler
148: Purity Culture's Black & White Thinking Hurt us. Here's What Can Help
Losing Her Religion: Gen Z's Gender Divide in Faith
What Comes Next?
'Pure White': The origin story of purity culture
An "Easy Love" After Divorce: Haverlee's Story
7 Signs That Your Marriage Can Be Saved
What if your marriage doesn't make you happy or holy?
Your Body Is Resource
No Room At The Inn: Single During A Cost of Living Crisis
Where Is Jess Going From Here?
'Holy Runaways' And The Search For A Spiritual Home
Is Andy Stanley's Method the Future for LGBTQ+ Engagement in the Church?
A Single Woman & Fertility After 40: Annie's Story
135: Anna McGahan on the Stories that Shape Us, Break Us, and Make Us
134: Evangelicalism Failed Our Girls. Here's How We Can Do Better.
133: Sex Toys For (Christian) Dummies
132: The Problem With Purity Rings (And Other Bad Symbols & Metaphors)
131: Child Trafficking is Terrible. 'Sound of Freedom' Misses the Point.
130: Why Christians Should Talk About "The Secrets of Hillsong" (Episode 4 Recap)
129: "The Secrets of Hillsong" Reveals the Many Problems with Frank Houston (Episode 3 Recap)
128: "The Secrets of Hillsong" Can't Make Carl Lentz A Prodigal Son (Episode 2 recap)
127: Looking for Truth in "The Secrets of Hillsong" (Episode 1 Recap)
126: The Recent Allegations Against Mike Pilavachi
125: Revisiting "The Sex Talk" with Jess' mum
124: The Big Debrief
123: Making (Grownup) Friends Is Hard To Do
(SNEAK PEAK) The Trials and Triumphs of 'Bridget Jones' Diary'
(SNEAK PEAK) Bekah McNeel Tells the Story About White Evangelicals and Parenting
122: Rehumanizing Men
(121) Like A Virgin: The Story Evangelicals Told About Virginity
(SNEAK PEAK) Can You Peel An Apple In One Long Curl?
120: Ephesians 5 Gone Wrong in the Latest Evangelical Take on Sex
SNEAK PEAK! Is 'Center Stage' A Toe-tal Disaster?
119: What If We Didn't Kiss Dating Goodbye
(SNEAK PEAK) On Bread, Singleness, Food, and Hunger with Kendall Vanderslice
118: Hope For 'Orphaned Believers'
SUMMER SNEAK PEAK! "As if..." we could like this movie
SUMMER SNEAK PEAK! Prince Harry's first time, low libido after babies, plus two Netflix shows
117: What's Next For Us (plus changes in support for same sex marriage, evangelical heresies, and our thoughts on 'Harry & Meghan')
116: A Woman's Body Points To God
115: My Kid Came Out. What Do I Do Next?
114: Let's Talk About Sex (Education! And Masturbation! And Toys!)
113: On Disability, Faith, and the Bodymind
112: 'The Wisdom of Your Body' with Dr. Hillary McBride
(111) From Bill Hybels to Carl Lentz: Christian Celebrity Problems
110: Therapy After Purity Culture part 2 (Rebuilding with Congruence)
109: Therapy After Purity Culture (part 1)
108: The Big One About Abortion
107: On Sexuality, Soul Ties, and the Bible
106: Is Consent Enough?
105: Getting Back on the Apps
104: Our Secular & Evangelical Cultures Do Not Understand Abuse
103: You Were Told Your Body Was Unsafe. God Has a Different Message.
102: How To Survive Wedding Season As a Single
101: What Sex Ed In The Church Could Look Like
100: 100 Episodes and the Conversation That Continues
99: How Women In The Margins Remake The World
98: News and Views: Hillsong, Bridgerton, and More
97: Gaslighting in Relationships and the Church
96: Motherhood & Friendship Through Life's Big Transitions
95: How Little Women helps us redefine "happily ever after"
94: Do We Need Another Christian Dating Book?
93: Pam & Tommy: Celebrity Voyeurism and Consent
92: The Quest for Desire, Longing, and Beauty with Dr. Curt Thompson
91: Lazy Genius-ing A Galentines/Palentines Party
90: Redeeming Love and the Problem With Evangelical Novels
89: On Premarital Sex: Sin or Not A Sin
88: Chasing Glory in the Song of Songs
87: The Family Stone
86: Purity Culture 2.0
85: On Premarital Sex: Abstinence After True Love Waits
BONUS: Your Body is Good Encore
84: Your Body Is Good
BONUS: Devi Reads Jess The News (And Jess Tells Devi What to Watch)
83 On Premarital Sex: Reimagining Celibacy
BONUS: When Harry Met Sally
82: Break Free From Unwanted Sexual Behavior
81: On Premarital Sex: What Are The Rules When There Are No Rules?
80: Masculinity Needs Definitions
BONUS: Reflections on Christian Celebrity After 'I Survived I Kissed Dating Goodbye'
BONUS: Mars Hill, Mark Driscoll, and the Pollution of Our Sexual Imaginations
79: "Causing Some Good Trouble"
78: We Can't 'Love the Sinner and Hate the Sin'
77: "I'm Afraid of Making Mistakes"
76: Modesty Was The Gateway Drug To Purity Culture
75: "I'm Queer And In The Church"
74: The Troubled History of Manufactured Masculinity in American Evangelicalism
73: Obligation Sex and the Other Problems with Christian Sex Books
72: The Truths & Myths of Dating a Non-Christian
71: "They Taught Me How To Be A Good Girl But Not How To Be A Woman"
70: 3 Mistakes Christians Make When Reading the Bible
69: The Big One About Consent
68: Why You Need To Watch 'Promising Young Woman'
67: Where Did Jenna Go From Here?
66: Relationships & Attachment Triggers with Krispin Mayfield
65: Is Your Love Preoccupied, Avoidant, or Disorganized?
64: 'Biblical' Womanhood Was Always Cultural Womanhood With Professor Beth Allison Barr
63: What To Do When #MeToo Is In The News?
62: Where Did Julia Go From Here?
61: What Does the Bible Really Say
60: First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then What?
59: Does The Movie 'Never Been Kissed' Hold Up?
58: Where Did Amy Go From Here?
57: An Expansive Vision for Human Sexuality with Debra Hirsch
BONUS: An Update on Ravi Zacharias
56: What Breaks Us And Why Sharing Helps With Laura Tremaine
55: Galentines and the Celebration of Friendship in a Romance World
54: Where Did Jason Go From Here?
53: What Makes Sex Good with Dr. Celeste Holbrook
52: Parenting and Re-parenting Without Sexual Shame with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
51: Ravi Zacharias Update, Love Actually and More!
50: Say goodbye to those "heroes"
49: Sex and Agency
48: When You're Alone For The Holidays
47: Finding Common Ground on Sex, family, & Faith
46: There's more to Sex Than 'Purity' & 'Virginity'
45: Taylor Swift From Love Story To Exile
44: Untangling Sexual Ethics Without Religion
43: Rebuilding Sexual Ethics After Purity Culture
42: How Can We Have a Better Conversation About Abortion?
41: Do We Still Have a Christian Dating Problem?
40: Christians break up too
39: Courage and Conviction in the Life of Josephine Butler
38: Pelvic Health After Purity Culture
37: It's Queer, Not "Same-Sex Attracted"
36: 'Heat Seeking Sex Missiles' And Other Beliefs To Reconsider
35: A Pastor says #MeToo
34: Real Talk on Race and Relationships
33: What Comes After Grief
32: Naming Your Unspoken Grief
31: The Myths of App Dating
30: Women and Porn
29: Is It Time to Mute John Crist?
28: The Making of Progressive Sexual Ethics
27: Moving "Beyond Awkward Side Hugs"
BONUS: Reflections on the Black Experience of Purity Culture
26: Reimagining Single Life
25: Talking to Mum About Purity Culture
24: Why We Need Touch
23: Ravi Zacharias, Josh Harris, and the Myth of Christian Heroes
22: I Wasn't Straight, but I Also Wasn't Gay
21: Elsa, Anna, and the Princesses of 2020
20: Don't Use Faith to Bypass the Body
19: Quitting Porn
18: Are Evangelicals 'Addicted to Lust'?
17: Sex Is For Wives, Too
16: Read Better Books
15: Covid Catchup
14: What's Next For Us
13: Sex and Dating in Culture
12: Sexual Ethics in the Wild
11: Healing After trauma
10: Purity Culture & Trauma
9: How to Talk About Divorce & Grief
8: Gender Roles & Sexual Equality
7: Q&A on Singleness, Marriage, and Parenting
6: Sexual Prosperity & Singleness
5: Does God Owe You Hot Sex?
4: Disney Princess Films and Purity Culture with Dr. Kutter Callaway
3: What Chewed Up Gum Has To Do With Sex
2: Is Purity the Word the Bible Uses to Talk About Sex?
1: Why Should We Have a Post-Purity Culture Podcast?
Trailer - Where Do We Go From Here?