A HOLY MESS | From Shame, Regret, Exhausted, Burnout To Boundaries, Emotional Healing, Christian Mindset, Recovery, Personal Growth

"Expectations are premeditated resentments." In this episode, Dani breaks down the difference between high standards and unrealistic expectations, and why that moving finish line is keeping you from celebrating how far you've actually come. She shares a real conversation with her new project manager, the quote that's stuck with her for 15 years, and why Psalm 139 might be the permission slip you didn't know you needed. If you've ever hit a goal and immediately moved the goalpost, or if you're harder on yourself than you'd ever be on someone you love, this one's for you. Ready to Go to Your Next Level? 💫 Friend, if you're feeling the tug, that stirring inside that says there's MORE for you, I want to talk to you. Whether you're ready to do the deep life transformation work or you feel called to help OTHER people transform their lives, I've got something for you. 🌟 1:1 Life Coaching & Transformation Programs If you're craving more peace, more joy, more purpose, and you're ready to stop just surviving and start THRIVING! Let's connect. Book a free discovery call and let's figure out together if one of my programs is your next right step. 🌟 "Messy Life Transformation Life Coach Certification" --Do you feel called to help people? Are you someone who's been through the hard stuff and now wants to turn that pain into purpose? Getting certified as a life coach through my program is one of the most holy, rich, and powerful things you can do; not just for your clients, but for YOU. It changed my life. And it can change yours. ➡️ Book Your FREE Discovery Call Today ➡️ Visit https://calendly.com/danisumner to schedule your call with Dani. No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone. If This Episode Spoke to You… Would you do me a favor and leave a review? It helps so many more people find this community. And share this episode with a friend who needs to hear that they're not where they used to be, and that's WORTH celebrating. 🤍 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram  

Mother's Day is complicated, for almost all of us. In this episode, Dani gets real about what it means to mother yourself when the holiday brings up more grief than gratitude. She shares a conversation from her massage therapist that stopped her in her tracks, why being alone with yourself is actually the goal, and why what we don't heal, we pass on. In this episode, Dani talks about why Mother's Day brings up so much for so many of us, what it actually looks like to mother yourself as a grown woman (and why it's not selfish), the one thing her acupuncture therapist said about being alone with yourself that changed her perspective, how to stop running on fumes and start prioritizing yourself without the guilt, and why what we don't heal, we pass on to the people we love most. If you're navigating complicated feelings this Mother's Day, or any day, this episode will feel like a deep breath and a hug and a kick in the ass all at once. Glad you're here, Dani ➡️ Book Your FREE Discovery Call Today ➡️ HERE  Ready to Go to Your Next Level? 💫 Friend, if you're feeling the tug, that stirring inside that says there's MORE for you, I want to talk to you. Whether you're ready to do the deep life transformation work or you feel called to help OTHER people transform their lives, I've got something for you. 🌟 1:1 Life Coaching & Transformation Programs If you're craving more peace, more joy, more purpose, and you're ready to stop just surviving and start THRIVING! Let's connect. Book a free discovery call and let's figure out together if one of my programs is your next right step. 🌟 Messy Life Transformation Life Coach Certification Do you feel called to help people? Are you someone who's been through the hard stuff and now wants to turn that pain into purpose? Getting certified as a life coach through my program is one of the most holy, rich, and powerful things you can do; not just for your clients, but for YOU. It changed my life. And it can change yours. ➡️ Book Your FREE Discovery Call Today ➡️ Visit https://calendly.com/danisumner to schedule your call with Dani No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don't have to do it alone.   If This Episode Spoke to You… Would you do me a favor and leave a review? It helps so many more people find this community. And share this episode with a friend who needs to hear that they're not where they used to be, and that's WORTH celebrating. 🤍   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Stop Watering People Who Never Grew & Start Pouring Into Your Own Roots Wanting to connect with Dani about Coaching? Schedule your complimentary call HERE. If you've been feeling exhausted, foggy, or weirdly behind in life, even when you're "doing all the things," this episode is for you. There’s this sneaky thing I like to call the ‘energy tax’ that so many of us are paying without even realizing it, and it’s draining us! We’re paying for it with the draining people in our life, unhealed wounds we can’t seem to get through, the constant second-guessing ourselves with decisions, and trying to be everything to everyone. And sometimes the smallest shift in how you show up changes everything and help you stop paying that tax. You're not behind. You're not failing. You're just paying a tax you were never meant to pay. Work With Dani If this episode resonated with you and you're ready for deeper healing, peace, and purpose, Dani offers free discovery calls to explore your next step. Whether you're looking for personal transformation or feel called to help others through coaching, Dani would love to connect. 👉 Book your free discovery call:  https://calendly.com/danisumner SONG: I love me, LOUD by China Styles Episode Summary Hey friend, welcome back! I'm recording this one fresh off the golf course with my son Zach. Pink sunburn, pink golf shirt, pink hat, the whole vibe. And honestly? I had to hop on and talk to you because something happened on the course today that I can't stop thinking about. In this episode, I'm getting really real with you about the hidden "energy tax" that so many of us are unknowingly paying. Taxes for toxic people, taxes for unhealed wounds, taxes for second-guessing ourselves, taxes for trying to be everything to everyone. If you've been feeling exhausted, burned out, or stuck in survival mode for reasons you can't quite name, this one is for YOU. We're talking about how to stop competing with everyone (including who you used to be), how to embrace one degree of change instead of chasing the impossible home run, and what it really looks like to step into the persona of who you were created to be. And friend, sometimes that even starts with something as small as a pink golf shirt. What We Cover in This Episode The "energy tax" you're paying without realizing it, and how to stop 💸 Why one degree of change a day beats chasing the home run (this is so freeing!) How to step into the persona of who you're becoming: Dani's pink golf shirt story 💕 The truth about competition: you're not actually racing anyone but yourself How to Marie Kondo your life, including the people who drain you The "slow ghosting" approach to setting boundaries without drama or guilt Why learning to love yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do "Pouring love onto my own roots." The lyric that captures this whole season of growth 🌱 Why your past doesn't disqualify you from joy, peace, or purpose How to set the tone for your week (Dani's Sunday office reset) The "shitty committee" in your head, and how to stop letting it run the show Key Takeaways & Dani’s Mic Drop Moments "We're not racing anyone. We're really only racing ourselves." "Your job is just to get one degree better every single day." "I used to water people who never grew." China Style, I Love Me, LOUD "Being loved by yourself is one of the hugest accomplishments in life that anyone can ever accomplish." "Learning to love ourselves is one of the most selfless things we can do, because then we're not acting out of our neediness." "None of that crap disqualifies you from God's joy, peace, purpose, or contentment."   Scriptures Referenced Matthew 22:39 “Love your neighbor as yourself” Colossians 3:14 “Clothe yourself in love” Psalm 139:14 “You are beautifully and wonderfully made”  Your Homework This Week 📝 This week, identify ONE energy leak in your life; a relationship, a commitment, a habit, or a thought pattern that's quietly draining you more than it's feeding you. Then ask yourself: Is this a tax I'm actually called to pay? Or is it time for a boundary? Write it down. Pray over it. And take ONE small step (one degree!) toward plugging that leak. Remember, you're not behind. You're just tired of paying for things that were never yours to carry.   Ready to Go to Your Next Level? 💫 Friend, if you’re feeling the tug, that stirring inside that says there’s MORE for you, I want to talk to you. Whether you’re ready to do the deep life transformation work or you feel called to help OTHER people transform their lives, I’ve got something for you. 🌟 1:1 Life Coaching & Transformation Programs If you’re craving more peace, more joy, more purpose, and you’re ready to stop just surviving and start THRIVING! Let’s connect. Book a free discovery call and let’s figure out together if one of my programs is your next right step. 🌟 Messy Life Transformation Life Coach Certification Do you feel called to help people? Are you someone who’s been through the hard stuff and now wants to turn that pain into purpose? Getting certified as a life coach through my program is one of the most holy, rich, and powerful things you can do; not just for your clients, but for YOU. It changed my life. And it can change yours. ➡️ Book Your FREE Discovery Call Today ➡️ Visit https://calendly.com/danisumner to schedule your call with Dani No magic wand. No magic pill. Just the process, and you don’t have to do it alone.   If This Episode Spoke to You… Would you do me a favor and leave a review? It helps so many more people find this community. And share this episode with a friend who needs to hear that they’re not where they used to be — and that’s WORTH celebrating. 🤍   Glad you’re here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Healing Your Past & Stepping Into Your Authentic Self Wanting to connect with Dani about Coaching? Schedule your complimentary call here.  If you’ve ever felt like you’re still not where you want to be in life, this episode is for you. Fresh out of a brand photo shoot, Dani shares a powerful reflection about authenticity, healing, and learning to celebrate how far you’ve come. For years she felt like a chameleon—shapeshifting to fit everyone else’s expectations. But healing, faith, and doing the inner work changed everything. You might not be where you want to be yet… but you’re also not who you used to be. And that deserves to be celebrated. In This Episode Why resenting past versions of yourself keeps you stuck • The mindset shift that unlocks real transformation • Dani’s “garden hose” analogy for healing emotional wounds • Why gratitude helps you step into your next season • How God uses even your hardest seasons for growth Work With Dani If this episode resonated with you and you’re ready for deeper healing, peace, and purpose, Dani offers free discovery calls to explore your next step. Whether you’re looking for personal transformation or feel called to help others through coaching, Dani would love to connect. 👉 Book your free discovery call   Glad you’re here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed with life, stuck in anxiety, or living in survival mode, this episode will help you slow down and reconnect with peace. Feeling overwhelmed lately? Like life is coming at you from every direction? In this episode, Dani shares one simple phrase that has helped her navigate seasons when life feels like too much: Do the next right thing. When everything feels urgent and your mind starts spinning, it’s easy to believe you need to solve the entire problem immediately. But overwhelm often lifts when we stop trying to control everything and simply take the next small step. This episode explores why overwhelm makes it harder to think clearly, how small actions can interrupt the spiral, and why learning to focus on the next right thing can bring you back to yourself when life feels heavy. If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, emotionally exhausted, or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will offer a grounded way to move forward with more peace. In This Episode You'll Learn Why overwhelm makes it harder to think clearly • The power of the phrase “Do the next right thing” • Why small actions often break the overwhelm spiral • How to create your own Next Right Thing list before you need it • Why joy isn’t dependent on your circumstances If You're Feeling Overwhelmed If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed with life, stuck in anxiety, or unsure how to calm your mind when everything feels like too much, this episode will help you slow down and reconnect with yourself. Learning how to do the next right thing when you're overwhelmed can help move you out of survival mode and back into peace. Want to explore what it would be like to get Coaching from Dani? If this episode resonated with you and you’re craving deeper support, Dani offers Coaching designed to help you move from survival mode into a life of peace, clarity, and emotional freedom. 👉 Book a free discovery call   Glad you’re here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

How to Stop Living in Survival Mode and Expand Your Capacity for Peace Why can’t you feel peace, even when you love God and pray for it? In this episode, Dani talks about anxiety, burnout, and why so many Christian’s in particular feel stuck in survival mode. You’ll learn how your nervous system affects your ability to experience joy, and why peace isn’t just spiritual, it’s physiological. Using a simple “small frying pan” metaphor, Dani explains how emotional conditioning can shrink your capacity to receive peace, and how to gently expand it. If you’re emotionally exhausted, over-functioning, or wondering why joy feels hard to access, this conversation will help you: Understand survival mode and nervous system regulation • Learn how to practice peace in everyday life • Rewire stress-based patterns with faith • Grow your capacity for joy, calm, and emotional safety This is Christian mindset work rooted in scripture, nervous system healing, and practical life coaching. You don’t have to stay in survival mode. Peace is something you can learn to hold. 📞 Want Support? Or Feel Called to Lead others and become a Life Coach? If this episode resonated and you’re ready for deeper support in your own healing journey, I offer free discovery calls where we can talk about what’s keeping you stuck and whether coaching is the right next step. And if you’re listening thinking, “I don’t just want peace, I want to help others find it too,” I also train and certify Life Coaches. Whether you’re looking for personal transformation or feel called to step into becoming a Life Coach, we can explore that together. 👉 Book your free discovery call here No pressure. Just clarity.   Glad you’re here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

If you’re over 40 and quietly wondering, “Did I miss my chance?” this episode is for you. So many people reach midlife feeling stuck between the life they’ve built… and the life they still want. The problem isn’t your age. It’s the belief that it’s too late. And that belief will slowly shrink your dreams if you let it. In this episode: Why midlife is an advantage, not a disqualification Real examples of people who started their life’s work after 50 and 60 How to reframe your past as preparation A simple way to step into your “Next Act” now Your story didn’t disqualify you. It prepared you. If you’re ready to stop playing small and take one aligned step toward what’s next, book a free discovery call here. Or visit aholymess.com    You’re not too old. You’re not too late. You’re just getting started.   Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

The Problem: You finally sit down to rest, but your brain won't let you. The guilt kicks in. The "shoulds" start screaming. You feel lazy, unproductive, unworthy. What's Really Happening: This isn't a character flaw, it's conditioning. Your nervous system learned that rest = unworthiness, and now it's stuck in overdrive. The Solution: You can retrain your brain so rest feels peaceful instead of anxiety-inducing. In This Episode: Why rest feels "wrong" (spoiler: it's your wiring, not you) The dark side of having a strong work ethic How to check in with your nervous system about rest A quick practice to identify what's driving your guilt Why transformation feels awkward before it becomes elegant Try This: Imagine taking the rest of today off. Just rest. What comes up? Anxiety? Guilt? That's just data and information for us to learn from, and you can rewire it. The Goal: Make unworthiness feel awkward and rest feel natural. This Episode is For You If: You equate your worth with productivity, struggle to take breaks without guilt, or you're on the verge of burnout. Ready to rest without the guilt? Book a free discovery call with me!   I'm here for you. I love you. I'm cheering for you, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ever said yes, when you knew wanted to say no? In this episode, I'm getting a wee bit vulnerable about my own fall back into the rescuer trap with my parents. I thought I had this figured out. I didn't. And in the past this 'always say yes and sacrifice for others,'  cost me my health. I literally burned out my adrenals years ago because I couldn't say no.  Here's what we're diving into: Why boundaries feel impossible at times when you've been taught that sacrifice = love The rescuer trap and how it shows up in your family, your church, your everyday life Generational patterns that are stealing your peace  The permission you've been waiting for: Just because you CAN doesn't mean you SHOULD How over-giving destroys the very people you're trying to help ✨ You get to have limits as a human being. Full stop. ✨ The more you prioritize your own health, the more you'll have to give to others. ✨ Ask yourself: Am I doing this because it's needed, or because I need to be needed? If you're tired of feeling stuck in cycles of over-giving, resentment, and guilt, you don't have to figure this out alone. Here's your plan: → Ready to further your healing journey, and step into your purpose more deeply? Book a free discovery call and let's map out your next move together. Glad you're here, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Struggling with guilt when you prioritize self-care? Learn practical ways to move from survival mode to thriving, honoring your God-given needs without apology. Ready to feel more fulfilled in life? If you're ever wanted to become a Life Coach, now’s the time to look into what it’s all about!  Book your free discovery call where we'll explore your dreams and see if  “Messy Life Transformation Coaching Certification" is a fit for you.  These calls are super chill, just me with my coffee, having a real conversation about your life and where you want to go. 👉 Schedule your free call at here! If you're drowning in everyone else's needs while yours stay buried, this episode is your permission slip to stop. I almost talked myself out of beach yoga this morning. The guilt showed up fast, “shouldn't I be working?” But here's what I've learned after years of running on fumes: you can't pour from an empty well, and God didn't design you to survive on exhaust. In This Episode: [00:03:15] Why Self-Care Feels Like Rebellion The guilt Christian women carry when prioritizing their needs, and the theology that actually supports self-stewardship. [00:08:42] The Frog in Boiling Water How we adapt to dysfunction without realizing it—and why you don't need different circumstances to start thriving (Isaiah 43:18). [00:14:20] Practical Self-Prioritization Time blocking, identifying your actual needs, scheduling white space, and giving yourself permission to figure it out as you go. [00:22:37] External Processing for Overthinkers Finding safe spaces to get the noise out—journaling, coaching, therapy, trusted community. [00:28:15] Your First Responsibility Why stewarding yourself isn't selfish—it's obedience. Key Truths: ✨ "Your first responsibility to the Lord is to steward YOU. How can you steward everyone else if you're just a dry well?" ✨ The Sabbath wasn't created for God—it was created for YOU. Rest is holy. ✨ Progress over perfection. Move yourself up one burner at a time. ✨ While you still have breath in your lungs, God is not done with you. Your 24-Hour Challenge: Do something radical for yourself. Beach yoga. Breakfast without phones. A walk where you just exist. Whatever you need—lean into it. Ready to Stop Running on Empty? If you're tired of survival mode and ready for a safe space to process what's actually going on, let's talk. Book your free discovery call where we'll explore where you're stuck, whether coaching is right for your season, and how to move forward. These calls are super chill, just me with my coffee, having a real conversation about your life and where you want to go. 👉 Schedule your free call at AHolyMess.com Remember: You're not selfish for taking care of yourself. You're being obedient to how God designed you to live. 💙 Cheering for you, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hey friend!  Today we're talking about nervous system regulation. If that sounds "woo" to you, I get it. But this is biblical, and science is catching up. What We're Covering: When I got sober, I was SO dysregulated. I'd go straight into fight or flight over everything. I had to learn to catch myself and regulate instead of constantly reacting from trauma. The Messy Life Transformation Coaching Certification: 6 months of YOUR transformation first. Yes, you'll learn to coach others, but it starts with you. We can't pour from an empty well. Key Truths: You're not too much AND you're enough (Ephesians 2:10 - you're God's masterpiece) Taking care of yourself isn't selfish—it's the most selfless thing you can do The world will dysregulate you over and over. You have to regulate yourself internally You deserve a seat at the table, not standing in the corner in the dark This Certification Is For: People who want to build a coaching business Bible study leaders who want real transformation (not just head knowledge) Anyone tired of having all the answers Those called to help others but don't know where to start Whatever you've done or whatever's been done to you—God's not done with you. Shame, limiting beliefs, and fear do not get the final say.   📅 Ready for see your next steps? Book your FREE complimentary call here   Peace, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ready to explore your purpose more?! Schedule your complimentary call here.    Just got back from Hawaii (boat sickness and all), and here's the thing: Nobody remembers three problems ago. I'm sharing about what it's like when life feels heavy even while good things are happening. Life keeps moving, and we have to learn to move with it. Holding both the hard and the good at the same time.   In This Episode: Why you might struggle to dream again after disappointment How healing happens even when circumstances aren't perfect The "whack-a-mole" reality of problems (and why that's actually hopeful) Recognizing what's blocking your ability to feel joy Being honest about your life without toxic positivity   What You'll Walk Away With: The truth is, life gets WAY better as you heal, even if your circumstances stay messy. If dreaming feels impossible, there's healing work to do Resilience matters more than having it all together.   Ready to step more into your purpose?   Schedule a call with me and let’s connect about what could possibly be next for you.    Book your complimentary call here.  You're not alone in what you're walking through. Keep showing up.  Love, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hello friends! I'm thrilled to bring you this spontaneous episode - we planned it this morning and hit record this afternoon because when inspiration strikes, you go with it! I'm joined by the wonderful Nici to discuss my upcoming life coach certification program and what led her to join the inaugural group. If you've been considering life coaching, questioning whether certification is necessary, or want to understand what becoming a transformational coach actually involves - you're in the right place. Episode Highlights Why Now? The Vision Behind This Program My motivation for creating this certification (hint: it's the program I needed when I started) Three pathways for life coaches: full-time practice, side income, or ministry enhancement Building a legacy by equipping coaches who'll reach people I never could What Sets This Program Apart Personal one-on-one coaching sessions with me across 6 months Bi-monthly small group calls (90-120 minutes each) Buddy coaching with recorded sessions that I review and provide feedback on Ready-to-use laminated frameworks and worksheets for client sessions A comprehensive experience combining certification, mentorship, transformation, and business development Nici opens up about her path from emotional exhaustion to self-care through the Feel Better Journey, including: Why individual attention and mentorship mattered in her choice Working through concerns about investment and timing The concept of serving from fullness rather than depletion How this represents legacy-building for her as well Program Overview Timeline: 6 months Includes: 6 individual coaching sessions with me Twice-monthly group sessions (90-120 minutes) Buddy coaching with personalized feedback Laminated coaching frameworks and materials Proven client programs available (optional to use) An intimate, carefully selected cohort community Ideal For: Those called to facilitate transformation in others People wanting to channel their experiences into meaningful work Anyone seeking professional skills alongside profound personal development Faith-oriented coaches desiring a comprehensive approach (mind, emotions, spirit, body) Is This Your Next Step? Consider these questions: Do people naturally seek your guidance and you want better tools to serve them? Are you sensing a call to deeper involvement in people's lives? Do you want to create a business, generate income, or enhance your service? Are you prepared to do transformative personal work while learning to facilitate it for others? If these resonate, let's connect! Schedule Your Exploratory Call! I'm personally selecting this founding cohort since they'll help shape the program's future. I'm looking for committed individuals who'll create great group synergy. Let's have a no-pressure conversation about your situation, aspirations, and whether this certification aligns with your goals. SCHEDULE YOUR CALL HERE We'll discuss: Your background and what draws you to coaching Which pathway resonates with you Any concerns or questions on your mind Your readiness for this 6-month commitment Program investment and flexible payment plans   Peace, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hi! If you've been feeling that pull toward something more, like maybe God's been whispering about using your story to help others… Oh friend, this one's for you. I'm officially launching something I've been dreaming about for YEARS: a Life Coach Certification and Training Program—and I want to tell you all about it. In today's episode, I'm sharing: Why I'm finally doing this (and how this dream went from "too big for me" to "okay God, I trust You") What makes a phenomenal life coach (spoiler: it's all about asking really good questions that help people find their own answers) How life coaching changed MY life first before I ever helped anyone else—these tools transformed my own healing journey Why your story matters and how it's meant for His glory, not your shame The "why not you?" question that shifted everything for me (your past doesn't define or limit your purpose) What makes this certification program different and what we'll cover over 6 months together Details about the training—one-on-one coaching with me, group sessions, practice coaching with real feedback, my signature tools and frameworks, plus an optional in-person retreat celebration Why I'm only taking 12 people in this first cohort (I want to pour into your well) Who this might be for—if you feel made for more, called to help people heal, or curious about stepping into your purpose This is a gentle, heartfelt episode about: Not despising small beginnings (God works with your mustard seed of faith) Stepping into what scares you because He equips you Using the very things that broke you to help others break free Trusting that your journey—all of it—has prepared you for this 👉 Book Your FREE Discovery Call If you're feeling called to help others heal, transform, and step into their purpose—and you're ready to explore if life coach training is your next step—let's connect. Let's explore together if this is your next step. You don't need it all figured out—just bring your open heart and your curiosity. Schedule Here!   Holiday Reminder: The holidays can be beautiful AND difficult. Make time for yourself and your soul. Remember what this season is about: Jesus being birthed into our lives and all He wants to birth through YOU. Prayer Request: Pray that God brings the right people to this training and that I steward this opportunity well!   Peace, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

👉 Book a Discovery Call If you’re ready for your next season to be filled with purpose and to help you get your spark for life back, let’s connect. You can schedule a complimentary call with me here. Hi! If you’ve been feeling pulled in a thousand directions, overwhelmed by expectations, or stuck in the old habit of people-pleasing… oh friend, this one’s for you. This week, I had to make a really big decision: Do I fly to a business retreat in sunny Florida that I’ve been looking forward to for six months… or do I stay home for my son’s state semifinal football game? Both were good. Both mattered. And honestly? It sent my nervous system into a spiral. In today’s episode, I’m sharing: What it’s like to make decisions when you’re overwhelmed How I calmed my nervous system enough to hear God clearly Why we cannot make wise choices from anxiety, guilt, or pressure How people-pleasing used to run my life (and almost broke me) A simple, biblical way to connect with your intuition and the Holy Spirit The exact phrase that finally brought me clarity and peace Why choosing alignment over approval is spiritual maturity And how to stop doing “all the things” so you can stay human, whole, and grounded This is a gentle, practical episode about letting go, honoring your limits, and trusting that God guides you when you get quiet enough to listen. 👉 Book a Discovery Call If you’re entering 2026 knowing something has to change, and you’re craving peace, clarity, and emotional alignment, let’s connect. You can schedule a complimentary call with me here. Peace, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram   Key topics:  Christian women and overwhelm, decision-making with God, Holy Spirit guidance, faith-based nervous system regulation, how to stop people-pleasing, Christian life coaching, emotional burnout, intuition and faith, Christian boundaries, doing less with clarity, spiritual alignment, Christian women’s mental health, overwhelm in motherhood, faith and anxiety, finding peace in busy seasons.  

Happy Thanksgiving! Glad you're here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

What if healing isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass… but learning how to find peace while it’s still raining? While driving down the California coast in a torrential downpour, with full sunshine pouring through the windshield, God gave me a powerful epiphany that changed the way I see healing, peace, and inner resilience. For years I believed healing meant fixing circumstances, praying away the struggle, or finally getting to an “easier” season. But sometimes the rain doesn’t stop. What can change is our capacity, our perspective, and our ability to hold both suffering and joy at the same time. This episode is especially for you if you’re tired, overwhelmed, spiritually disconnected, or waiting for life to calm down before you let yourself breathe again. Scripture: Hosea 2:15 — “I will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope.” Joel 2:25 — “I will renew the years the locusts have eaten.” Song: “Scars” by I Am They Quote: “You can’t change what happened in the past, but you can change how you frame it. We’re offered a range of different lenses: acceptance, forgiveness, and gratitude.” — Noelle Oxenhandler If this episode resonated and you’re ready to find peace in the storm, not just after it, I’d love to support you. 📅 Book a Free Discovery Call Let’s talk about where you’re at and how we can work together to help you find more serenity, purpose, and emotional freedom. 👉 Click here to schedule your discovery call Glad you’re here, Dani :)   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ever feel like you've tried EVERYTHING—therapy, retreats, prayer meetings, all the books—but you're still struggling? This episode reveals what might be the missing piece: integrating your body into the healing process. 👉If you’re tired of feeling lost, unheard, or disconnected from your purpose, AND you’re feeling a pull toward “something more” but can’t seem to find your way there, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary Discovery Call and we’ll gently explore what’s getting in the way of the life you know you’re meant to live. Still feeling stuck after prayer, therapy, and all the self-help? You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I still feel this way after everything I’ve done?” I hope this episode helps.  Today I’m joined by one of my favorite humans on the planet (and my longtime therapist), Jim Beebe. Jim’s a wealth of wisdom, life experience and compassion. AND he’s the real deal! I’m so grateful when he shares his time with us on the show! Today we’re talking about my new Coaching program The Third Act, and about why so many of us still feel anxious, overwhelmed, or quietly disconnected on the inside… even though we’ve spent years trying to heal. We break down the real reasons you might feel stuck, including: why talk therapy, prayer, and spiritual work can eventually hit a ceiling how trauma and stress live in the body and nervous system the triune being: body, mind, and spirit working together The 3 Acts of your life story, and why so many of us end up circling in Act Two far longer than we need to. We also dive into what The Third Act really means, and how to step into a more grounded, purposeful, peaceful chapter of your life… one that actually feels like you. If you’re spiritually-minded, love Jesus, and feel exhausted, invisible, or quietly lost inside (even though your life looks “fine” or even great on the outside), this conversation will bring clarity, compassion, and a deep sense of hope. 👉 Ready for your Third Act? Schedule your complimentary Discovery Call with me here and let’s explore what’s possible for you in this next season. So grateful you’re here,  Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hey friend! Today we’re talking about growing our relationship with our Creator, AND why the phrase "quiet time" makes me cringe and how I learned to connect with God in ways that actually work for who HE made ME to be. If you've ever felt like you're not doing devotions "right" or that your relationship with God doesn't look like everyone else's, this episode is for YOU.  It's time to let go of the shoulds and discover what actually feeds your soul. What You'll Learn: ✨ Why traditional "quiet time" doesn't work for everyone (and that's okay!) 💪 What a "spiritual workout" looks like and how to create your own 🏃‍♀️ How movement, dancing, and even naps can be part of intimacy with God 📖 Permission to skip scriptures that bring shame instead of empowerment 🧠 The mind-body-spirit connection you can't ignore Key Quotes: "You may have been your mom's accident, but you are not God's accident. You are here for such a time as this." "I don't believe my thoughts until I move my body." "Scripture was meant to empower you. If there are scriptures tearing your soul apart, don't read them right now." "I'm so exhausted from trying to figure everything out on my own." My Spiritual Workout Includes: Gentle morning movement (12-minute circuit) Brain dumping & intentional journaling Dancing to worship music Nature meditation walks (praying and listening prayer) Sauna time for body + soul Rest when needed (yes, naps!) Ready to Go Deeper? Book Your Free Discovery Call If this episode resonated with you, let's talk! I work with women who are tired of religious "shoulds" and ready for authentic intimacy with God. During our call, we'll: Explore where you're feeling stuck spiritually Identify what's blocking your intimacy with God Discover if coaching together is right for you Create a vision for your spiritual workout Create a vision for YOUR FUTURE. You deserve a clear vision for what your heart desires. No pressure. No shoulds. Just honest conversation. 👉 Schedule Your Discovery Call Here Remember: There's no formula for connecting with the Lord. You have PERMISSION to do it differently. You have permission to evolve. God bless you! 💛 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

  What's up my people! Today marks my 15th sobriety birthday! 🎉 In this episode, I'm getting real about recovery, purpose, and why your hardest moments don't disqualify you from living a life full of joy and meaning. If you're struggling with feeling unworthy or like your past has disqualified you from your future, this one's for you. Key Takeaways ✨ Your darkest hours can become your greatest purpose ✨ Nothing you've been through disqualifies you from helping others or having purpose ✨ You don't need to publicize your story to live out your purpose ✨ Healing takes time—be patient with yourself ✨ You're not a vending machine—set boundaries and prioritize yourself ✨ It's OKAY to be happy, joyful, and walk confidently in your purpose Ready to Transform Your Life? If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to work through past pain, find your purpose, and build genuine confidence—I'd love to support you! Book Your Free Discovery Call Let's talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how life coaching can help you get there. Schedule your complimentary discovery call You don't have to do this alone. Grateful, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Are you ready to show up as the best version of yourself? Know you need support getting there? Schedule your complimentary call with Dani here.  Ever notice you show up as different versions of yourself depending on who you’re with or what’s going on? One version feels light and free — the “you” who laughs easily and feels close to God. Another feels heavy, guarded, or disconnected. In this episode, I’m sharing how to recognize the versions of you that show up in different seasons — and how to gently choose the one that feels most peaceful, authentic, and you. You’ll hear: ✨ Why it’s not inauthentic to have different “versions” of yourself ✨ How your environment shapes who shows up ✨ How to spend more time with the version of you that lights you up ✨ A prayer to help you return to peace This isn’t about doing more. It’s about coming home to who God made you to be. Much love, Dani Ready to explore your next steps? Schedule a free call with Dani to explore coaching.  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram   Keywords:  how to feel like yourself again Christian life coach podcast faith based emotional healing Christian mindset coaching rediscover yourself Christian women midlife emotional burnout recovery faith after burnout reconnect with God spiritual renewal how to find peace again the third act coaching Dani Sumner podcast authentic self Christian overcoming people pleasing Christian  

🐸 THE FROG IN THE KETTLE: Why do high-achieving, empathetic women (and men) wait until their 50s, 60s, or 70s to find their voice? Because they're like the frog in boiling water—so adaptable to suffering, they don't realize they deserve better. This episode explores: The 3 S's of suffering: Service, Silence, Self-Doubt Why you self-sabotage when life finally gets good How to build capacity for joy when you've only known struggle Why most women don't wake up until midlife (and why that's perfect timing) If you've spent decades putting everyone else first and finally realized "I'm not even on the totem pole"—this is your wake-up call. You're not selfish for wanting peace. You're not too late. You're right on time. READY TO STOP BEING THE FROG IN THE KETTLE? If you want support finding more joy, harmony, and purpose in your next season, schedule a discovery call with Dani here. So glad you're here, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Sick and tired of the past holding you back?--Schedule your free call with Dani here, and talk about your next steps working with her directly.    Hi friend, This may be one of my favorite episodes I’ve ever put out there. If you’re struggling with shame and regret, please put your airpods on and listen to this episode twice. And if you feel the stirring from God and you want to step into your future without the past controlling you, schedule your free call with me and we can see what your next steps are.   May this episode bless you and help you. Grateful you’re here, Dani   Show Some Love! Leave a 5-star review wherever you listen to this show and share how this podcast impacted you. Dani reads every review and is so grateful. Share this episode with someone who needs this message Your reviews help the right people find hope and healing! Remember: God's not done with you. That longing in your heart is still there for a reason.   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Why Sensitive People Struggle More (And What Helps) Hey beautiful friends! Ever feel like you're supposed to have it all together but you're secretly struggling?  This episode is your permission slip to be human.  Fresh off an incredible trip to Ireland, I'm getting real about hitting a melancholy patch and why that's totally okay and most importantly, how to get through it! Remember: This too shall pass (it may pass like a kidney stone, but it's gonna pass!) Need Help Creating Your Self-Care Plan? If you're thinking "Dani, I don't know how to take care of myself," I've got you! Book Your FREE 30-Minute Discovery Call  In just 30 minutes, we'll: ✅ Identify what's draining your energy ✅ Discover what truly fills you up ✅ Create a simple action plan you can start today Grateful you’re here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Welcome back, friend! I just returned from an incredible trip to Ireland, and while I was there, I heard a poem I had to share with you. It’s by Emery Hall, and I believe it will bless you as much as it blessed me. If you’ve been beating yourself up for past mistakes, or wishing you could erase whole seasons of your life, this poem will give you a fresh, freeing perspective. Instead of carrying resentment toward your past self, you’ll begin to see her (or him) with compassion — and find peace for the road ahead. ✨ Ready to find the clarity you’ve been longing for but don’t know where to start? [Book Your FREE Discovery Call Here] Together, we’ll: Identify what’s really keeping you stuck Create a clear, personalized roadmap for what’s next Take your first step toward peace, purpose, and confidence in your future Don’t wait another day weighed down by regret. Your next chapter is calling — and I’d love to walk with you into it. Best, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ready for Your Next Chapter--your very own Third Act? Book a FREE Discovery Call with me! Perfect for anyone ready for "more" but unsure what that means. 🔗 Schedule now   Do you have big emotional reactions that don't seem to match the situation?  Feel like you're "too broken" to heal? Maybe you've been telling yourself you're fundamentally damaged when life gets messy. In this episode, I'm sharing a personal story about having an intense reaction to my husband's playful tickling—and the powerful revelation it sparked about healing and identity.  I’m hoping this conversation will shift your perspective from feeling "broken" to understanding you're God's masterpiece being restored.   We'll explore the beautiful Japanese art of Kintsugi and how it perfectly illustrates God's healing process in our lives.    You're not broken—you're buried under life's hardships, but your foundation remains strong. It's time to move from "I'm a problem to solve" to "I'm an experience to live." You are God's masterpiece, created for good works, and your healing journey is part of His beautiful design.   So much love to you, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram  

Hey beautiful soul! Welcome to Episode 197 of A Holy Mess Podcast! 🎉 Quick note: Yes, I mentioned episode 200 in the recording, but some things shifted with our posting schedule—and honestly, what's more fitting for a podcast called "A Holy Mess" than a little mix-up? 😉 I hope today's episode encourages you wherever you find yourself on this journey of life. Special Announcement: Introducing The Third Act Program I'm officially launching The Third Act—a coaching program to help you step into your future with more confidence and clarity. It's designed for those ready to release life's conditioning and step into who they were created to be before the world told them who they should be. This is for those of us who have done a lot of the personal growth work—read the books, done therapy, attended the workshops, etc…—yet still long for the "more" from life. I genuinely believe YOU and I were created with purpose, and sometimes navigating our next steps can feel overwhelming. That's exactly why I created The Third Act. If you're ready to stop playing small and stop letting your circumstances control you, let's talk. Schedule a free discovery call and see if The Third Act is right for you. Special August Offer $1,000 OFF any six-month coaching package throughout the month of August! Ready for Your Next Step? Schedule a complimentary call with Dani to learn more about one of her programs or working with her one-on-one. [BOOK YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL - here]   With love, Dani 💕   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ready to go deeper? If this episode resonates with you and you're seeking healing and purpose in your life, Dani would love to connect! Schedule a free call to explore how working together might help you on your journey. [Schedule here - link] Does your life ever feel like you're navigating a maze? Then I hope this episode encourages you! I'm just back from a retreat and a white water adventure, and I'm sharing a few insights today. I'm also talking about Exodus 14:14 - "The Lord himself will fight for you; you need only be still." If you're feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about your path forward, I hope this episode blesses you. A gentle reminder: You don't need to have everything figured out right now. Sometimes we're not meant to have all the answers yet, and that's perfectly okay. What You'll Discover: Why taking breaks is essential for personal growth How to navigate life's challenges when feeling stuck The practice of active surrender and staying present How nature can provide healing and clarity Finding your purpose and embracing self-discovery Remember: Your past doesn't have to define your future, and you're not alone in your struggles. Grateful, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram 🌟Feeling the tug to find your purpose and more freedom in life emotionally but nervous to reach out to Dani?! Don't worry, that's why she's here... schedule your free call to see if working together or one of her self-paced programs could help you! You've got nothing to lose. :) Here's the link: [Schedule here - link]  

Ever feel the stress in your body? Welcome to the club! ;) A club I’d rather not be in, but I am here, so here we are. ;)     This by no means is an exhaustive list of ways to help, but I thought I would bring this subject around again on the show because so many of us are feeling the stress of life in our bodies. And I don't want to be a ‘victim’ of that stress and have been on a journey to really learn how to care for myself in this. It’s been quite the process, but soo worth it!    I mention "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, a phenomenal book that triggered me the whole way through. But it taught me so much about why my body was feeling it and “keeping score.”   I hope this episode blesses you. Key Topics Covered: Understanding Body-Stress Connection How stress manifests physically in the body Personal examples of stress patterns (shoulder tension, hip pain) The importance of acknowledging rather than shaming physical stress responses What Doesn't Work Self-shaming and harsh self-talk "Suck it up buttercup" mentality Ignoring your body's signals Personal Evolution in Self-Care How body needs change over time Transitioning from ice baths to heat therapy Listening to your body's changing needs Honoring hormonal changes with age Key Takeaways: Your body keeps score - Physical symptoms often reflect emotional and mental stress Permission to prioritize - Self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary Adaptation is normal - What worked before may not work now, and that's okay Gentle approach - Choose loving, nurturing ways to care for your body Individual needs - We're not one-size-fits-all; honor your unique body   Feeling a tug towards finding your purpose and learning to how prioritize yourself without the guilt? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani  to explore if working together is the right fit for you. Book Your FREE Discovery Call   Glad you’re here, Dani    🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ever walk into a room and instantly feel the weight of someone else's sadness? Me too! Today I’m talking about practical steps to protect your energy and not pick up what others are putting down. Key topics: Galatians 6:2 - "Carry one another's burdens" The difference between carrying WITH someone vs. carrying FOR someone How to steward your sensitivity as a gift, not a burden Practical Steps for Energy Protection: Recognize - Notice when emotions aren't yours (taking your temperature before/after interactions) Pray for them - Use your sensitivity to pray more specifically for others Release it - Pray for protection and ask God to remove what isn't yours Reset - Take action to recalibrate (walk, water, music, movement) Action Steps: Before your next difficult conversation, take note of how you're feeling Practice the pray-release-reset method when you absorb others' energy Identify relationships that consistently drain you and prepare accordingly Set healthy boundaries around news and social media consumption   Also, feeling a tug towards finding your purpose? It’s probably time to deal with what’s actually holding you back so you can move forward with more joy and harmony in life. We invite you to schedule a complimentary call with Dani  to explore if working together is the right fit for you. Book Your FREE Discovery Call   Enjoy!  Dani  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

What if I told you that feeling incomplete, anxious, or sad isn't a sign you're broken—but a sign you're beautifully, perfectly human? Today we're talking about embracing our triggers as teachers instead of enemies. Therapist Jim Beebe is with us and you're going to LOVE his Grace filled honest approach. Enjoy this conversation and our time with Jim. So grateful you're here. Much love, Dani Ready to dive deeper and find your purpose and with it more joy and peace? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help. Book Your FREE Discovery Call 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram  

Come to my FREE Workshop Sunday June 29th--"What Affirmations Aren't Working For You, And What To Do About It"--Sign up here for link. Hi! Are you struggling with that negative voice in your head telling you you're not worthy? In this episode, I'm talking about some practical ways to help you with the negative self-talk that's holding you back. Learn why traditional affirmations often fail, how to identify the root of unworthiness beliefs, and practical steps to stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself. If you're dealing with self-doubt, imposter syndrome, or feeling unworthy of God's love and calling--this episode will help!  So glad you're here!  Dani Ready to dive deeper into your healing journey? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help. Book Your FREE Discovery Call 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hello you beautiful soul! If you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts, stuck in loops of fear and self-doubt, or just plain exhausted, this episode is for YOU.  We're talking about God's incredible power to transform the wilderness places in our lives into streams of living water. What You'll Discover: ✨ Why you're NOT broken if you struggle with negative thoughts  ✨ How to begin the process of rewiring your brain from negative patterns to healthier thinking.  ✨ The vision of boats on the lake - letting resentment and anger sail on by  ✨ Why healing takes time and that's perfectly okay  ✨ The difference between pouring out empty vs. giving from overflow Key Scripture: Isaiah 35 "The desert and the parched land will be glad. The wilderness will rejoice and blossom... Water will gush forth in the wilderness and streams in the desert." Real Talk: You're not doing anything wrong if transformation feels slow Your overactive imagination can be trained for good instead of fear God wants to speak to ALL of us - you're not a unicorn!   Ready to Go Deeper? 🚀 Book Your FREE Discovery Call Ready to dive deeper into your healing journey? Let's connect one-on-one for a few minutes to see if one of my programs or working with me one-on-one would help.  Join us for a FREE Workshop   Glad you’re here,  Dani    🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

In this episode I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Sandra Richter, author of the Deborah Bible study to discuss finding God's grace in our broken stories and answering His call to reclaim kingdom territory. She shares part of her story, and you guys, she’s one of us. She’s amazing and God is doing so much good work through her. I hope hearing her story and her heart and passion for her work inspires you on your journey. God’s NOT done with YOU!  About Dr. Sandra Richter: “Dr. Sandra Richter is the Gundry Chair of Biblical Studies at Westmont College and a graduate of Harvard University, she’s dedicated her career to making Scripture accessible and relevant to contemporary audiences." And she has! :)  You can learn more about her here as well. Today as we talk you can tell her approach combines brilliant theological insight with authentic vulnerability from her own journey of healing from childhood trauma. Her passion is making Scripture accessible while challenging believers to step into their kingdom purpose.  We’re talking about her bible study, “Deborah Bible Study Guide plus Streaming Video: Unlikely Heroes and the Book of Judges (Epic of Eden)”   Ready to Find Your Kingdom Purpose?   Are you struggling to reconcile your past with God's calling on your life? Do you feel God nudging you toward something but fear or shame’s holding you back? I'd love to help you uncover your kingdom purpose and find healing in your story.   Book a complimentary 30-minute discovery call at and let's talk about how coaching can help you say "Yes" to God's invitation and deeper healing in your life.   I’m so grateful you’re here and I hope this episode encourages and blesses you. Much love, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Ready for clarity on your next steps in life and want to learn more about working with Dani and how she can help you get there? Schedule a complimentary call with her to explore your options.    Hi friend! Today, I'm covering a few things… We're talking about one-day-at-a-time healing, why forgiveness isn't a "pray once and done" situation, and how to feel your feelings without letting resentment poison your soul.  Also, just a friendly reminder, God hasn't forgotten those dreams He planted in you long ago... I think sometimes we need that loving reminder. ;)  Take care of yourself this week - do something that makes you feel alive. You're worth it. Life is such a journey! I hope this episode blesses you.   Interested in one of Dani's retreats? Email me at [email protected]  Glad you're here, Dani   🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 Hi! I’ve spoken with a few friends lately who have relapsed with their addiction struggles.  Relapsing can be so difficult and really pile on the shame.  I want you to know—you are not alone, and it’s going to be okay. Please reach out and find a support system to help you get back to your sobriety. You deserve the help you need! If you’re struggling deeply with a destructive addiction, please reach out to a local recovery group near you. There are amazing resources for every type of addiction. Remember, you are not alone! 👉🏼💛 If you’re looking for more freedom and personal growth in your relationship with God, or if you want to find more peace with yourself, reach out for a discovery call. We can explore together if working together could help. Love, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 Hey friend! Today's episode is short and sweet - just jumping on to give some short encouragement and prayer over you.  In this episode: - A reminder that you're stronger than you give yourself credit for - Finding your true identity beyond what you do—🔥thisssss is a vital step in finding our purpose! ☎️Book a call if you need help here-this is my jam.  - Embracing joy in the journey, even in hard places - A special prayer to bless your path Remember: ""While there is breath in your lungs, God is not done with you.""  Much love, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 On this Good Friday, I'm sharing some thoughts about what this weekend means and how to find hope in difficult seasons. Remember, the Christian faith isn't about white-knuckling through life - it's about surrendering and letting your truest self emerge through pain, and when you do, you will change the world! And I’m here to cheer you on!  In This Episode: The truth behind "it's Friday, but Sunday's coming!" 🤣 A funny story about "Jesus's phone number" (Jeremiah 33:3) 🔥 Why God allows certain things to die for resurrection to happen 👉🏼 Permission to hope again, even when life has taken its pound of flesh 🗣️ Remember, while you still have breath in your lungs, God is not done with your story!  Share this episode with someone who needs resurrection hope today! - Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram Keywords: Good Friday, Easter hope, resurrection story, Jeremiah 33:3, Christian coaching"

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 Hey friends!  When life takes its "pound of flesh," our confidence often goes with it.  Quick Takeaways: Losing confidence is NORMAL after hardship (you're not doing anything wrong!) Find your WHY before worrying about HOW to get confidence back You already won the cosmic lottery (1 in 400 billion chance) just by being here God can use even your hardest experiences for good (Romans 8:28) Your Homework: Find FIVE reasons why having confidence would benefit your life. Email them to [email protected] and I'll personally respond! Remember, as long as there's breath in your lungs, God has more for you.  You were MADE FOR MORE! ❤️ Love, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram  

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 Hey friend! Overcoming judging ourselves and living under the harsh judgments of others is life changing!  I hope this episode encourages you! Much love, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram Verse: "I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court. Indeed, I do not even judge myself."- 1 Corinthians 4:3-4 🎶 Andy Grammer - Fresh Eyes  

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 Coming to you from Waikiki Beach in Hawaii!  Today I'm sharing how the magnificent Banyan trees with their complex root systems remind me of our own complicated histories - and why that can actually become a beautiful thing. In this episode: - Why complicated roots can be your greatest strength - Isaiah 61:4 and rebuilding what's been devastated - How one person can change a family's trajectory - Why your past doesn't define you Remember, while you still have breath in your lungs, God isn't done with you yet! Much love, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram #ChristianPodcast  #findyourpurpose #HealingJourney #IsaiahPromise #faithoverfear

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 Hi Friend, If you're tired of the grind I hope this episode encourages you! I used to struggle so much with my worth being dependent on my performance. I've had more than a few seasons of being a workaholic, and feeling like no matter what I did, it was never enough to make me feel the joy of accomplishment. Even when clearly I had accomplishments. I've had to learn how to enjoy life. And feel peace and joy without guilt. In today's episode I'm sharing a few helpful tips to help you. God bless, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Hi friend! I used to be soo controlled by others opinions of me. Until I embraced the life-changing truth: “Other people's opinions about me are NONE of my business.” Episode Highlights: - Why living under the tyranny of others' opinions keeps you from peace and joy - The only two relationships that truly matter: your relationship with God and yourself (after that, other relationships fall into place for the most part) - How healing these foundational relationships changes EVERYTHING else When you stop trying to control what others think of you and focus on healing your relationship with yourself, life becomes so much more enjoyable! You stand before an audience of ONE - God Almighty - and yourself. If you're tired of banging your head against the wall trying to prove yourself worthy to others, I can help! 🔗 BOOK YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL Keep showing up for yourself, friend. Remember, other people's opinions about you are NONE of your business! *yesss, I get how difficult it is to let those opinions go. But the goal is to not be so controlled by those who only know a fraction of your truth and story.   With so much love and gratitude, Dani   🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram #selfworth #christianlifecoachingtips #healingjourney #faithbasedcoaching #personalgrowth

I know when we’re struggling in life sometimes the first thing that comes up is doubts about God or our relationship with him. I get it! Today we’re talking to author Niki Hardy–she recently wrote “God Can We Chat” – a conversation about doubts and how that can lead us to grow closer to God. - 🙏 Niki shares how her faith was challenged by leadership struggles, political division, and difficult Bible passages - 💬 Discovering we're never alone in our questions - ✨ Doubt as a faith superpower, not kryptonite - 🛣️ Finding a third path between blind faith and disbelief - 🔍 The CHAT guide for honest conversations with God: - Consider the facts - Honor your story - Ask God's perspective - Team up going forward - 💙 "Life doesn't have to be pain-free to be full" If you struggle with doubts, I hope this conversation and her book bless you! 📲Niki's Instagram 📲Niki's Website 👉🏼 Link to buy book   Grateful you’re here. Much love, Dani ☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

Today, Jim (my therapist) and I are talking about the importance of recognizing those special people who've been "beacons of light" in our lives. The ones who loved us back to life.  I remember when I couldn't see or recognize the people from my past who were looking out for me along the way. That's why questions like the one Jim asked me in today's episode are so powerful!  Who are your bright lights and beacons?  I'm grateful you're here.  May this Podcast be a bright light and beacon on your journey.  God bless and much love, Dani ☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram

You are NOT alone in your struggles! Hi friend, Today, we're hearing from my friend and Pastor, David Hutsko. David is the real deal, and I hope his transparency blesses you! I know sometimes we think Pastors "have it all together,"--and I hope you're encouraged as you listen to David share his story and what he's currently walking through as he continues to heal and become who God has created him to be.  We're talking about self-forgiveness, finding authentic belonging, church hurt, and so much more. Also, if you don't currently have a Church home (or even if you do but want to be encouraged)--check out his sermons here: https://www.newlifepismo.com/sermons/sermon-series/ I'm so grateful you're here!  Much love, Dani 🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram  

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 When we're going through hard times, it's nearly impossible to see the forest through the trees sometimes. We forget God's faithfulness to us in the past. And sometimes, we just need to anchor and remember how we've gotten through things before.  Today, I'm sharing a short story that I hope encourages you.  Verse: Psalm 77:11 reminds us to "remember the deeds of the Lord; yes, I will remember your miracles of long ago." Song: "Count Your Blessings"  No matter what you're facing, you're not alone. Your story isn't over. As long as you have breath, there's time for more healing. Don't give up on yourself or the healing process. Much love, Dani  Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you. Keywords: Christian purpose finding, Faith during difficult seasons, Remembrance stones Christian meaning, Finding meaning in suffering Christian, God's faithfulness in hardship, Christian spiritual growth through trials, Biblical remembrance practices, High-achiever Christian struggles, Christian executive spiritual journey, Faith for professionals in crisis  

☎️Holy Shift! Ready for one?! Book a call with Dani to explore if one-on-one coaching is right for you! Click here to schedule! 📆 In today's episode, I'm talking all about BOUNDARIES - something that can feel super uncomfortable for those of us who are helpers, servers, and especially for us Jesus-loving folks who think we need to sacrifice to the emotional/mental/physical death! What You'll Learn: - Why boundaries are actually HEALTHY and HOLY (not selfish!) - How I'm implementing boundaries in my own life (especially with family) - My hilarious new favorite quote: ""I'm not tall enough to ride on your emotional rollercoaster"" - Why guarding your time and emotional capacity is crucial for the people you're ACTUALLY called to steward - How to stop feeling guilty when you set healthy boundaries Scripture mentioned:  “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us... so that you will not grow weary and lose heart."- Hebrews 12:1-3 We're not spiritual robots! God created us with limitations and limited capacity. The sooner we honor that, the sooner we can find more joy, peace, and purpose. Boundaries aren't about keeping people out - they're about protecting you and the people you're called to steward. You can't give from an empty well, friends! ❤️ Much love, Dani  Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you. Keywords: Christian Boundaries, Holy Boundaries, Faith And Boundaries, Christian Wellness, Boundaries Without Guilt, Christian Self Care, Faith Journey, Biblical Self Care, Mind Body Spirit, Christian Women Podcast, Emotional Health, Spiritual Growth, Faith Over Fear, Intentional Living, Christian Mindfulness, Wellness Journey, Self Care For Christians, Christian Mental Health, Faith And Mental Health, Emotional Wellbeing, Christian Women, Faithful Boundaries, Holistic Faith, Run Your Race, Godly Self Care

Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.  Welcome to this spontaneous episode, where I'm literally recording from my hot tub! I'm sharing all about my approach to 2025 and why I'm focusing on a more holistic, gentle approach to well-being this year. Much love, Dani  Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram Thank you for being here! I'm so grateful for you. Keywords: holistic wellness, Christian self-care, body mind spirit connection, soul care, gentle approach to health, permission to rest, integrated wellness, Christian wellness, faith-based self-care, nervous system regulation, burnout prevention, Christian women, intentional living, recovering perfectionist, mind body soul, spiritual practices

Welcome to Lent!  I just wanted to share some quick tools and share how I'm approaching this Lenten season.  Sending you much love, Dani Book a discovery call here to see if working one-on-one would be a fit.  🌟To learn more about Dani & to join the newsletter list-> https://www.danisumner.com/ ✅ 🎉Interested in one-on-one coaching or Dani's programs? Schedule a free discovery call with Dani here. 🌟 Follow me on YouTube 🤳🏼 ALSO, let's connect on social media: Facebook, Instagram -> Facebook and Instagram