Almost Oblivious

Saying “no” sounds simple… until it isn’t.In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn opens up about why boundaries can feel so difficult after experiencing domestic violence. When saying no once came with consequences—arguments, guilt, or even fear—it’s not something your mind and body just forget.This conversation dives into what happens after you leave. The lingering habits. The automatic “yes.” The guilt that follows when you finally start choosing yourself.Autumn shares personal reflections on learning to pause, rebuilding trust with yourself, and what it really looks like to begin setting boundaries again—one small moment at a time.If you’ve ever struggled to say no, questioned your needs, or felt guilty for protecting your peace… this episode is for you.Because learning to say no isn’t about pushing people away—it’s about finally making space for yourself.🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

After nearly three months away, Autumn returns to Almost Oblivious to talk about stepping into new seasons of life—even when they feel scary.In this personal episode, she reflects on becoming a mother, navigating life after trauma, and the powerful realization that who you have children with matters far more than when you have them.Autumn shares thoughts on healing, choosing safe relationships, letting go of old timelines, and learning to move forward even when fear is present.This episode is a gentle reminder that growth after abuse is possible—and that sometimes the most beautiful chapters begin with the most uncertain steps.🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Pregnancy is often portrayed as a time of joy, hope, and anticipation—but for far too many people, it happens inside an abusive relationship.In this deeply personal and educational episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn explores the realities of experiencing domestic violence during pregnancy. As she prepares to welcome her own baby any day now, she shares why this topic feels especially heavy, important, and urgent.This episode breaks down:How and why abuse can begin or escalate during pregnancyThe physical, emotional, and psychological risks for both parent and babyThe hidden forms of control and medical abuse pregnant survivors faceWhy leaving is often more dangerous and complicated during pregnancyThe long-term impact of stress and trauma on prenatal and postpartum healthVerified statistics that show why this is a serious public health issueWith compassion, honesty, and education, this episode speaks directly to pregnant survivors, reminding them they are not weak, not failing, and not alone. It also offers insight for loved ones and support systems who want to better understand the complexities of abuse during pregnancy.💛 Holiday Note & Podcast Update:As we approach the holidays—and with Baby Baker’s arrival happening any day now—this episode may be the last new release for the next couple of months while Autumn steps away to focus on recovery, family, and the transition into motherhood. Thank you for your continued support, grace, and understanding during this season.From Almost Oblivious to you:Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas, and may this season bring you safety, peace, and hope—wherever you are in your journey.🔗 Resources: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)Intimate Partner Violence and PregnancyCDC reports that approximately 5–6% of people with a recent live birth experienced emotional, physical, or sexual violence during pregnancy.https://www.cdc.gov/intimate-partner-violence/about/violence-and-pregnancy.htmlWorld Health Organization (WHO)Violence Against Women: Intimate Partner and Sexual ViolenceGlobal estimates indicate that up to 1 in 4 pregnant people experience some form of intimate partner violence, with psychological abuse being the most common.https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/violence-against-womenCDC – Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report (MMWR)Intimate Partner Violence During Pregnancy and Maternal Health BehaviorsIPV during pregnancy is associated with delayed prenatal care, depression, substance use, low birth weight, and preterm birth.https://www.cdc.gov/mmwrAmerican College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG)Intimate Partner Violence (Committee Opinion No. 518)ACOG recognizes domestic violence as a significant risk factor for adverse pregnancy outcomes and recommends routine screening.https://www.acog.orgHarvard Center on the Developing ChildToxic stress during pregnancy can affect fetal brain development and long-term health outcomes.https://developingchild.harvard.eduNational Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.)📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)📱 Text “START” to 88788🌐 https://www.thehotline.org🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this deeply honest episode of Almost Oblivious, host Autumn Baker sits down with Savannah, a licensed therapist, survivor, and founder of Willow & Well Counseling. Savannah opens up about her journey through abuse, motherhood, trauma recovery, and stepping into her calling as a counselor for survivors.Together, Autumn and Savannah explore:The subtle and escalating red flags Savannah noticed long before she recognized them as abuseWhat gaslighting really looks like—beyond the buzzwordHow the abuse cycle intensified and eroded her sense of realityThe heartbreaking ways her son was affected, and how motherhood ultimately gave her the clarity and courage to leaveThe safety planning steps she took to escape while protecting herself and her childThe messy, nonlinear healing process after leaving, including PTSD, emotional regulation, and the often-unspoken grief that comes with escaping abuseThe balance between single motherhood and healing your own traumaHow community, faith, and support systems made survival possibleWhy investing in your own healing naturally transforms the way you parentSavannah also shares the inspiring path that led her into the mental health field—where she now uses both her professional training and her lived experience to walk alongside survivors with compassion and clarity.This episode is raw and full of encouragement for anyone navigating trauma, rebuilding after abuse, or learning to trust their own voice again. Savannah’s story is a reminder that healing is possible, even when the journey feels chaotic, cyclical, or overwhelming.Settle in, take a deep breath, and join us for this life-giving conversation with Savannah from Willow & Well Counseling.🔗 Resources: Savannah, Willow & Well: https://willowandwellcounseling.com/Savannah, Willow & Well Instagram https://www.instagram.com/willowandwellcounseling/EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic Peoplehttps://www.amazon.com/Its-Not-You-Identifying-Narcissistic/dp/0593492625🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn Baker peels back the layers on what abuse often looks like in the beginning — before it becomes obvious. Instead of visible violence or control, many abusive relationships begin quietly, through subtle shifts in behavior, boundary-testing, love-bombing, and emotional manipulation. Autumn explores how “conditioning” works: shaping your sense of self, your comfort with discomfort, and your tolerance for things that don’t feel right — all while making you believe you’re loved, protected, and “lucky.”Listeners will learn to identify early warning signs including:The “perfect partner” act and love-bombing.Critiques disguised as caring comments.Small, consistent boundary tests.Guilt banking and “favors” that become leverage.Fast-forwarded emotional intimacy.The “foot-in-the-door” technique: small asks leading to bigger demands.The slow slide into justifying behavior that feels off, or minimizing discomfort.We share how these patterns are often missed — even by people who love deeply and believe the best. She encourages listeners to trust their instincts, notice their body’s reactions, and reach out to safe people if something doesn’t feel right.Why This Episode Matters:Understanding early conditioning gives listeners power. Early recognition can help prevent deeper abuse. Even if you’re not currently in a relationship, this episode offers awareness — knowledge that could protect you or someone you care about in the future.Who Should Listen:Anyone questioning a relationship’s early dynamic.Survivors reflecting on their past.Friends or family who want to support a loved one.Anyone wanting to better understand how abuse can begin subtly.🔗 Resources: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/emotional-abusehttps://www.womenslaw.org/about-abuse/forms-abuse/emotional-and-psychological-abuse/basic-information/what-could-be-warning?utmhttps://www.simplypsychology.org/signs-of-emotional-abuse.html?utmhttps://shadowsofcontrol.com/articles/love-bombing-tactics/?utmhttps://www.whiteribbon.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/Learn-the-red-flags-for-coercive-control-1.pdf?utm🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this rewind episode, we revisit the often overlooked reality that domestic abuse doesn’t only affect the survivor — it impacts everyone who loves them. Family and friends carry their own fear, confusion, grief, and emotional wounds as they watch someone they care about struggle. This conversation explores how abuse ripples through relationships, why those around the survivor are affected so deeply, and how healing extends beyond just one person....Domestic abuse doesn’t only affect the victim; it leaves deep scars on everyone around them. In Episode 3, Autumn Baker explores the far-reaching impact of domestic violence on children, friends, and family members. This episode sheds light on the trauma and challenges that loved ones face, revealing how abuse creates ripples that extend through entire communities and generations. Join us as we discuss how we can support those affected and work together toward healing.For more information please check out our website!⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here!⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠

Strangulation is one of the most lethal forms of domestic violence — yet many victims minimize it because there are often few or no visible marks. In this episode, Autumn breaks down what strangulation actually is, why it is medically dangerous, and why it is one of the strongest predictors of homicide in abusive relationships.This episode explains:The difference between choking and strangulationHow little pressure is required to stop blood flow to the brainHow quickly unconsciousness and death can occurWhy bruising often does not appear immediately — or at allShort-term and long-term medical effectsHow to document strangulation safely and discreetlyWhy strangulation is treated as a high-lethality warning signIf you have experienced strangulation — even once — your fear is valid. Your safety matters. Support exists, and you deserve to access it when you are ready. 🔗 Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline — Call 1-800-799-7233 or chat at: ⁠https://www.thehotline.org⁠Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention. (2022). Strangulation Fact Sheet. ⁠https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com⁠Journal of Emergency Medicine, 35(3), 329–335. ⁠https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jemermed.2007.05.042⁠Campbell, J.C., Webster, D., & Glass, N. (2009). The Danger Assessment: Validation of a lethality risk assessment instrument for intimate partner femicide. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 24(4), 653–674.Wilbur, L., Higley, M., Hatfield, J., Surprenant, Z., Taliaferro, E., Smith, D. J., & Paolo, A. (2001). Survey results of women who have been strangled while in an abusive relationship. Journal of Emergency Medicine, 21(3), 297–302.National Domestic Violence Hotline. Understanding Strangulation. ⁠https://www.thehotline.org/resources/understanding-strangulation/⁠American College of Emergency Physicians (ACEP) Clinical Guidelines 🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

A year ago on Halloween, Almost Oblivious was born — a small podcast with a big purpose: to break the silence on domestic violence.What started as my personal healing journey has grown into a community of survivors, advocates, and listeners who remind me every day that our stories matter.In this special anniversary episode, I’m opening up about who I am, why I started this podcast, and how this past year has changed everything — from turning 30, navigating narcolepsy, working full time, and preparing to welcome our baby boy, to reflecting on how far we’ve come together.💜 Here’s to one year of courage, community, and growth — and to the many stories still to come.🔗 Resources:Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM):October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month — a time to raise awareness, honor survivors, and educate others about the signs and realities of abuse.If you or someone you know is in an unsafe situation, help is available:📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline1-800-799-SAFE (7233)⁠⁠www.thehotline.org⁠⁠(Available 24/7 via phone, chat, or text “START” to 88788)📱 National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN):1-800-656-4673⁠⁠www.rainn.org⁠⁠💻 National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health:⁠⁠https://ncdvtmh.org/⁠⁠🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this personal episode, host Autumn Baker opens up about what it’s like to sit in the quiet after escaping chaos — and how silence can feel both healing and heavy.“The Silence After the Storm” explores the strange, unsettling calm that survivors often face after leaving an abusive relationship, and the quiet that sometimes comes before they leave — when they begin to emotionally disconnect to survive.Autumn also shares her own reflections on slowing down, navigating narcolepsy during pregnancy, and learning that rest isn’t weakness — it’s part of recovery.If you’ve ever felt like the stillness after abuse was too quiet, too lonely, or too confusing, this episode is a gentle reminder: you’re not broken. You’re healing. You're not alone.🔗 Resources:Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM):October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month — a time to raise awareness, honor survivors, and educate others about the signs and realities of abuse.If you or someone you know is in an unsafe situation, help is available:📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline1-800-799-SAFE (7233)⁠www.thehotline.org⁠(Available 24/7 via phone, chat, or text “START” to 88788)📱 National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN):1-800-656-4673⁠www.rainn.org⁠💻 National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health:⁠https://ncdvtmh.org/⁠🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Autumn sits down for a educational conversation about what healthy conflict really looks like — and how it differs from the toxic, fear-based conflict so many survivors have experienced.Drawing from her own personal experiences, Autumn contrasts the unhealthy, controlling conflict dynamics in her past abusive relationship with the safe, understanding communication she’s found with her husband, Zack. Through compassion and education, she explores how trauma impacts our nervous system’s response to conflict and how survivors can begin to unlearn fear, rebuild trust, and experience peace in new relationships.This episode is perfect for anyone healing from abuse, supporting a survivor, or simply wanting to understand how to handle conflict in healthier, more loving ways.💜 In this episode, you’ll hear about:How toxic conflict often disguises itself as “normal”The key traits of healthy vs. unhealthy communicationHow trauma affects your body’s response to disagreementWhat accountability, empathy, and repair look like in healthy relationshipsPersonal reflections on unlearning chaos and learning safetyAutumn also shares updates, a thank-you for one year of Almost Oblivious, and a gentle reminder to be patient as she works through listener emails!🔗 Resources:Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM):October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month — a time to raise awareness, honor survivors, and educate others about the signs and realities of abuse.If you or someone you know is in an unsafe situation, help is available:📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline1-800-799-SAFE (7233)www.thehotline.org(Available 24/7 via phone, chat, or text “START” to 88788)📱 National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN):1-800-656-4673www.rainn.org💻 National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health:https://ncdvtmh.org/📘 Recommended Reading & Citations:Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Harmony Books.Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books.Lerner, H. (1985). The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. Harper & Row.American Psychological Association (2023). “Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Relationships.” www.apa.org/topics/trauma/relationshipsNational Domestic Violence Hotline (2024). “Signs of Healthy vs. Unhealthy Relationships.” https://www.thehotline.org/resources/healthy-vs-unhealthy-relationships🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn dives into an often-overlooked consequence of domestic violence: how abuse seeps into the workplace, derails careers, and forces survivors to rebuild from setbacks. She shares her own (vague) experience with losing a job due to her situation, and walks listeners through:The many forms workplace abuse can take (from harassment to retaliation)Real-life survivor scenarios and how abuse impacted their work livesCareer setbacks survivors commonly face (gaps in work history, loss of confidence, economic abuse)Strategies for rebuilding: resume framing, exploring trauma-informed employers, networking, and community resourcesLegal protections and “safe leave” laws (federal and state-level) — with the crucial advice: check your own state lawsWords of hope: your career may have been disrupted, but it can be rebuilt on your termsListeners will have a better understanding of how DV affects professional life — and actionable tools to move forward.Also, the episode ended up not being longer than anticipated. :)🔗 Resources:Hotlines & National SupportNational Domestic Violence Hotline — Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788The HotlineThe Hotline (website) — live chat, local provider directory, safety planning, resourcesThe HotlineNYS Domestic & Sexual Violence Hotline (for New York listeners) — call 800-942-6906 or text 844-997-2121Domestic Violence Prevention OfficeLegal / Employment Protections & InformationU.S. Department of Labor — employment law FAQs and worker resourcesDOL“4 Types of Employment Laws That Can Help DV Survivors at Work” — examples of state protections & safe leave lawsDOL BlogWashington State Domestic Violence Leave Act — job-protected leave, safety accommodationsWashington Labor & IndustriesOregon’s domestic violence worker protections (reasonable accommodations, leave, confidentiality)OregonDomestic violence leave laws by state (overview/comparison)PaycorMaryland “Domestic Violence & Your Job” — info on FMLA, safe leave, unemployment after DVMaryland People's Law LibraryStatistics & ResearchSurvivors lose 8 million days of paid work per year in the U.S. due to DV. That’s equivalent to over 32,000 full-time jobs.The Hotline+2Center for Domestic Peace+2Between 21% and 60% of survivors lose their jobs due to abuse-related reasons.dvptxk.org+2Center for Domestic Peace+2In a survey, 83% of survivors reported their partner disrupted their employment or caused them to lose opportunitiesIWPRIn research, 8.5% of people with DV experience reported losing a job because of the abuse.PMC🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this short episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn shares space to process the collective heaviness following the recent tragedy in our country. Violence—no matter where it happens—leaves behind shock, grief, and trauma. Autumn offers reminders for coping in difficult times: unplugging from social media, stepping back from the 24/7 news cycle, grounding in the present moment, and leaning on community for support.This episode is a reminder that we were never meant to carry trauma alone. Healing begins when we pause, breathe, and care for ourselves and each other.🔗 Resources:www.psychologytoday.comNational Domestic Violence Hotline📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)💬 Text “START” to 88788🌐 thehotline.org24/7 confidential support, safety planning, and resources.National Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (U.S.) – Dial 988 for immediate support, available 24/7.SAMHSA Disaster Distress Helpline – Call or text 1-800-985-5990 to connect with crisis counselors for stress, trauma, and grief.National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine – Call 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or text “HELPLINE” to 62640 for mental health support.RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) – Call 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) or chat at rainn.org for confidential support (helpful if trauma was triggered by past violence).Crisis Text Line – Text HELLO to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor via text.🌍 For listeners outside the U.S.: Please look up your local crisis hotline number, or check this international directory: findahelpline.com.🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, host Autumn Baker explores how creative outlets can become powerful tools for healing after trauma and abuse. From art and journaling to faith, movement, volunteering, and trying new experiences, Autumn shares both research and personal stories of how creativity can help survivors rediscover their voice, purpose, and joy.You’ll hear about:Art as therapy: how expression through color, shape, or collage can give emotions a safe outlet.Journaling: prompts and practices to untangle thoughts and track healing progress.Faith and spirituality: grounding practices that offer hope and connection.New experiences: how classes like singing, cooking, or photography can unlock joy.Exercise and movement: the research-backed benefits of biking, yoga, and other forms of physical activity for trauma recovery.Volunteering and purpose: how giving back, speaking out, and creating Almost Oblivious became transformative parts of Autumn’s own healing journey.This episode encourages survivors to explore creative paths that fit their lives, reminding each listener that healing is not about perfection — it’s about rediscovery.🔗 Resources: Stuckey, H. L., & Nobel, J. (2010). The Connection Between Art, Healing, and Public Health: A Review of Current Literature. American Journal of Public Health, 100(2), 254–263. https://doi.org/10.2105/AJPH.2008.156497van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.Malchiodi, C. A. (2015). Creative Interventions with Traumatized Children. Guilford Press.American Psychological Association. (2011). The Exercise Effect: Evidence on the Mental Health Benefits of Exercise. APA Monitor on Psychology. https://www.apa.org/monitor/2011/12/exerciseNational Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). (2022). The Importance of Community and Purpose in Recovery. https://www.nami.org🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Abuse doesn’t end when the relationship does. Its impact lingers—sometimes for years—reshaping the way survivors see themselves, others, and the world around them. In this episode of Almost Oblivious, host Autumn Baker explores the long-term effects of abuse on mental health, including PTSD, anxiety, depression, and the invisible wounds survivors carry long after leaving.We are also sharing exciting personal news—Zack and I are expecting our first child! With pregnancy and managing narcolepsy, the episode schedule may shift, but my passion for sharing survivor-centered conversations remains stronger than ever.This episode covers:How abuse rewires the brain and nervous system.The connection between trauma, depression, anxiety, PTSD, and complex PTSD.Invisible wounds: shame, guilt, and self-blame.How trauma shows up in the body and relationships long-term.Paths to healing: therapy, community, grounding, and self-compassion.A short guided reflection for survivors.💙 Whether you’re a survivor yourself, a loved one, or simply someone who wants to understand more, this conversation is here to remind you: you are not broken, and healing is possible.🔗 Resources: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). (n.d.). Domestic violence and mental health statistics. Retrieved from https://ncadv.org/STATISTICSReports that approximately 64% of women and 15% of men who experience domestic violence develop symptoms of PTSD.National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI). (2014). Long-term mental health effects of intimate partner violence. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4282026/Highlights increased risks of depression, anxiety, and PTSD among survivors of long-term abuse.American Psychological Association (APA). (2023). The lasting impact of trauma. Retrieved from https://www.apa.org/topics/traumaDiscusses how trauma rewires the brain and nervous system.Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. Basic Books.Foundational text on complex PTSD and how prolonged trauma shapes mental health.Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). (2014). Trauma and Justice Strategic Initiative. Retrieved from https://www.samhsa.gov/trauma-violenceExplains the connection between trauma, physical health, and mental illness.Harvard Health Publishing. (2021). The gut-brain connection. Retrieved from https://www.health.harvard.edu/diseases-and-conditions/the-gut-brain-connectionOutlines how trauma and stress can trigger digestive issues.World Health Organization (WHO). (2021). Violence against women prevalence estimates, 2018. Retrieved from https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/9789240022256Global statistics on abuse and its long-term health consequences.National Domestic Violence Hotline📞 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)💬 Text “START” to 88788🌐 thehotline.org24/7 confidential support, safety planning, and resources. 🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Abuse is surrounded by harmful myths — ideas like “if it was really that bad, they would just leave” or “abuse only happens in certain kinds of relationships.” These misconceptions silence survivors, excuse abusers, and keep too many people stuck in unsafe situations.In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn unpacks some of the most common myths about abuse and replaces them with the reality survivors live every day. From the dangers of leaving, to abuse beyond the physical, to the stigma male victims face, this conversation is all about truth, awareness, and breaking down barriers.If you’ve ever heard these myths — or maybe even believed them yourself — this episode will help you see the bigger picture.🔗 Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788🌐 ⁠⁠www.thehotline.org⁠⁠https://www.transitionsfvs.org/🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Leaving an abusive relationship is one of the hardest — and most dangerous — steps a survivor can take. In this episode of Almost Oblivious, I share some of my personal journey of leaving, blending my own story with the emotional realities, safety concerns, and aftermath that so many victims face.From the quiet moments before the decision, to the day I walked out, to the unexpected emotional crash afterward — this is a raw, honest look at what leaving really feels like from the inside.Whether you’re a survivor, supporting someone you love, or simply wanting to understand, I hope this episode reminds you that you are not alone, and there is life and healing on the other side.🔗 Resources: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE (7233) or text “START” to 88788🌐 ⁠www.thehotline.org⁠🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have we been trained to overlook the signs that someone isn’t safe or manipulative? Or worse—what if we’ve never been taught what healthy love and relationships actually look like?In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we explore the differences between red flags and green flags—not just in romantic relationships, but in friendships, family dynamics, and everyday connections.You’ll learn how to:Identify red flag behaviors like control, love bombing, and guilt-trippingUnderstand the psychological reasons why red flags can feel “normal”Recognize green flag qualities like emotional safety, consistency, and respectCompare real-life examples of toxic vs. healthy dynamicsRebuild your internal radar for healthy relationships—even if you’ve never seen them beforeWhether you're just starting to heal or you're trying to unlearn old patterns, this episode will help you redefine what safe, healthy, and mutual love actually looks like.Because peace isn’t boring—it’s just unfamiliar.🔗 Resources:The Gottman Institute – Relationship research, tools, and blogsNedra Glover Tawwab – Therapist & author focusing on boundaries and relationshipsThe Holistic Psychologist (Dr. Nicole LePera) – @the.holistic.psychologist on InstagramNational Domestic Violence Hotline – Red flag behaviors, safety planning, 24/7 supportNCADV (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence) – U.S. domestic violence statistics and advocacyJournal of Social and Personal Relationships – Research studies on love bombing and relationship dynamics🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

A question many survivors wrestle with — especially after betrayal, emotional harm, or abuse. In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn Baker dives deep into what science, psychology, and personal experience say about real change.We explore the difference between remorse and reform, the neuroscience of behavior, and why real transformation requires more than just words. Autumn also speaks directly to critical issues like physical abuse, infidelity, and narcissistic traits — offering grounded, trauma-informed guidance to anyone stuck between hope and reality.Some things are forgivable.Some are survivable.But not everything deserves a second chance.If you’ve ever asked, “Should I stay?” or “Can they really change?” — this episode is for you.🔗 Resources:Roberts, B. W., et al. (2020). “A Systematic Review of Personality Trait Change Through Intervention.” Psychological Bulletin.Prochaska, J. O., & DiClemente, C. C. (1983). Transtheoretical Model of ChangeKolb, B., & Gibb, R. (2011). Brain Plasticity and Behavior.National Domestic Violence Hotline – www.thehotline.orgNCADV (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence) – www.ncadv.org🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this survivor story, we hear from Tracey, who grew up under the control of a narcissistic and emotionally abusive mother — a kind of abuse that’s often hidden behind smiles, church functions, and perfect family photos. From subtle manipulation to overt guilt-tripping, this story explores how emotional abuse from a parent can shape your self-worth, relationships, and sense of reality.As the survivor begins to set boundaries and ultimately go no contact, the manipulation escalates — but so does their decision. This episode offers a raw, honest look at the grief of choosing peace over family and the courage it takes to break free from generational cycles.If you've ever been made to feel small, guilty, or like you're “too sensitive” by a family member, this episode is for you.⚠️ Trigger warning: emotional abuse, narcissistic manipulation, parent-child estrangement.You are not alone. You are not crazy. And you are worthy of peace.🔗 Resources:National Domestic Violence Hotline (US): 800-799-7233 or ⁠thehotline.org⁠Narcissistic Abuse Support: ⁠narcissisticabusesupport.com⁠ – includes articles, checklists, and healing toolsOut of the FOG (Families Of narcissists & Gaslighters): ⁠outofthefog.website⁠ – support and information on emotional manipulationr/EstrangedAdultChild (Reddit): A peer support community for those who’ve gone no contact with abusive or toxic parents🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Episode had been re-drafted at the survivor's request. The episode is now able to be re-released.Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of domestic abuse, including physical violence, gun violence, rape, kidnapping, and emotional trauma. Listener discretion is advised.In this powerful episode of Almost Oblivious, we share the courageous story of a survivor who endured the unimaginable but found the strength to break free. They open up about the reality of living with abuse, the struggles of leaving, and the resilience it takes to rebuild a life after trauma.This episode is a raw and honest look at survival, healing, faith and hope. Whether you’re a survivor, know someone who is, or simply want to better understand the complexities of domestic abuse, this story will leave an impact.If you or someone you know needs support, please reach out to a trusted friend, a local domestic violence organization, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. You are not alone.Tune in now and join the conversation. 💜For more information please check out our website!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In this honest episode, Autumn shares her personal experience with an abusive partner who twisted the truth and claimed to be the victim. She breaks down the manipulation tactic known as DARVO, highlights the damage it causes, and provides practical tools for those navigating similar experiences.This episode is a reminder that your story matters—even when someone else tries to steal it.DARVO:Deny the behaviorAttack the victim’s credibilityReverse the Victim and Offender🔗 Resources:The Hotline - Domestic Violence ResourcesCenter for Institutional Courage – DARVO Info🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this special episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn Baker is joined by licensed professional counselor Isaiah from Therapy Today to dive into the mental health side of healing after abuse. Together, they explore the emotional toll of toxic environments, how survivors can begin to rebuild their self-worth, and why therapy—whether trauma-focused or not—can be an essential part of the journey.Isaiah offers practical advice on setting healthy boundaries, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, and supporting loved ones who have left abusive situations. Whether you're in the process of healing or supporting someone who is, this episode offers guidance, validation, and hope.Guest Info:Isaiah, LPC, is the voice behind Therapy Today, where he brings professional insight to everyday mental health struggles.Follow Therapy Today Here:https://www.youtube.com/@Therapy2Dayhttps://www.instagram.com/therapy.2day🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast on IG or FB📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Healing after abuse is not a straight road — and if you’ve ever felt like you were “going backward,” this episode is for you.In this honest and vulnerable solo episode, Autumn opens up about why she missed last week’s show and shares her ongoing struggle with severe back pain, medical frustration, and the very real truth that healing—whether physical or emotional—is rarely neat or predictable.She dives into her journey, including moments of PTSD, nightmares, and intrusive thoughts that still creep in years after escaping an abusive relationship. This episode is a powerful reminder that setbacks do not erase progress and that healing happens in layers.Whether you're still in a situation, freshly out, or years into your healing journey, you’ll find comfort, validation, and truth in this week’s message: You are not behind. You are healing, even when it doesn’t feel like it.Resources:📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline (USA)24/7 free & confidential support for anyone experiencing abuse🔗 ⁠www.thehotline.org⁠📱 Call: 800-799-SAFE (7233)📲 Text: “START” to 88788PTSD & Trauma Recovery Resources:U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, PTSD: National Center for PTSD: https://www.ptsd.va.govAmerican Psychological Association – Understanding Trauma: https://www.apa.org/topics/trauma🎧 Listen, Follow & Share: Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.⁠Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

When we talk about domestic violence, we often leave someone out of the conversation—men.In this eye-opening episode of Almost Oblivious, we confront the stigma, silence, and stereotypes that keep so many male victims from speaking out. Abuse doesn’t discriminate—and yet, male victims are often met with disbelief, shame, or mockery when they try to seek help.💔 1 in 4 men experience physical violence from a partner.💬 Many never say a word.📉 Limited resources. Deep-rooted stigma. Real pain.It’s time we stop asking why they stayed—and start asking how we can support them.This episode includes:🔹 Eye-opening statistics🔹 Common forms of abuse men face🔹 Barriers to seeking help🔹 A call for better resources & compassion for ALL survivorsResources:📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline (USA)24/7 free & confidential support for anyone experiencing abuse🔗 www.thehotline.org📱 Call: 800-799-SAFE (7233)📲 Text: “START” to 88788📞 Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and WomenSpecialized support for both male and female victims📱 Call: 888-7HELPLINE (888-743-5754)🌐 1in6Support for men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault🔗 www.1in6.org🌐 Men’s Advice Line (UK-Based)Confidential support for men experiencing domestic abuse🔗 www.mensadviceline.org.uk🌐 MaleSurvivorResources, forums, and peer support for male survivors🔗 www.malesurvivor.org1 in 4 men experience some form of physical violence by an intimate partner:Black, M.C., et al. (2011). National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS): 2010 Summary Report.🔗 CDC NISVS 2010 Report (PDF)Nearly 1 in 10 men have experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner and reported an impact:Smith, S.G., et al. (2017). NISVS: 2015 Data Brief – Updated Release.🔗 CDC NISVS 2015 Brief (PDF)1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner:Black, M.C., et al. (2011). NISVS: 2010 Summary Report.🔗 CDC NISVS 2010 Report (PDF)🎧 Listen, Follow & Share:Available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you stream.👉 Follow us @AlmostObliviousPodcast📢 Share this episode to help break the silence and broaden the conversation.Almost Oblivious Community on Facebook⁠ – Connect with others and share your storyIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Living with someone who has narcissistic traits — whether it's a partner, a parent, or someone else close to you — can feel like constant emotional warfare. In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn Baker shares practical, solution-based strategies to help reduce conflict and protect your mental and emotional peace when leaving isn’t yet an option.Drawing from recent training with Stepping Stones of Life and personal experience, this episode offers clear communication tools, boundary-setting techniques, and calming responses that can help you survive day to day — and remind you that you are not alone.⚠️ Please note: These strategies are meant to help mitigate, not eliminate, the effects of narcissistic abuse. If your safety is at risk or you feel overwhelmed, you do not have to navigate this alone.🛠️ In This Episode:Understanding narcissistic behavior and common patternsGround rules for emotional protectionReal-life examples of communication shifts to reduce conflictThe Grey Rock MethodWhy these tools won’t always work — and why that’s not your faultA reminder: You deserve peace, and help is available📚 Resources & Support:The Grey Rock Method- https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-methodStepping Stones of Life – https://steppingstonesoflife.org/The National Domestic Violence Hotline📞 Call 800-799-SAFE (7233)💬 Or text "START" to 88788🌐 www.thehotline.orgLove Is Respect – Especially for younger victims or those unsure🌐 www.loveisrespect.orgAlmost Oblivious Community on Facebook – Connect with others and share your story🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence. If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

REWIND Listen! This is episode 5 & 6 from the beginning of Almost Oblivious!In this two-part episode, we dive into the complex dynamics of trauma bonding. Starting with love bombing and exploring what this looks like and how abusers create powerful emotional dependencies. Join me as we navigate the stages of this bond, unraveling why it's so hard to break free and how understanding these patterns can be the first step toward healing. In part 2, we dive deeper into the emotional and psychological complexities that keep survivors tied to abusive relationships. We unpack the intricate cycle of manipulation, the devastating effects of gaslighting, and the layered impact of repeated love bombing. This episode provides insights into breaking free from the toxic bonds and offers hope for those seeking to reclaim their lives. Whether you're a survivor, a supporter, or someone wanting to learn more, this episode sheds light on one of the most challenging aspects of abuse. Resources:⁠https://health.clevelandclinic.org/gaslighting⁠⁠https://www.verywellmind.com/gaslighting-examples-7567491⁠⁠https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7683637/#:~:text=According%20to%20Heim%20et%20al,to%20the%20feelings%20of%20others⁠.⁠https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/327080#long-term-effects⁠⁠https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/what-is-love-bombing⁠⁠https://health.clevelandclinic.org/love-bombing⁠⁠https://www.thehotline.org/resources/signs-of-love-bombing/⁠⁠https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/love-bombingJoin Our Facebook Group Here: ⁠⁠Almost Oblivious Community⁠🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence. If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

Before there was romance, there was friendship—the kind built on late-night talks, inside jokes, and unconditional support. In this special episode, Autumn Baker and her husband Zack sit down to share how their marriage grew from years of best-friendship, trust, and shared adventures.From goofy moments over Goldfish crackers to an ice cream shop proposal at Bruster’s, their story is full of love, laughter, and healing. Tune in as they reflect on how building a solid friendship first laid the foundation for the safe, healthy love they share today. 🍦❤️Join Our Facebook Group Here: ⁠Almost Oblivious Community🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence. If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode, host Autumn Baker explores one of the most invisible and damaging aspects of abuse: shame. From how abusers weaponize shame to how it silences survivors, Autumn breaks down the emotional barriers that keep victims stuck — and explains what it takes to break free.You’ll hear why shame lingers long after the abuse ends, how it affects healing, and what we can do — individually and as a community — to dismantle it. This episode is for survivors, supporters, and anyone seeking to understand the deeper psychological wounds of abuse.We’re also excited to announce the launch of the Almost Oblivious Facebook Community Group — a safe, judgment-free space to connect, learn, and heal. 🎉Facebook Group Here: Almost Oblivious Community🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)Therapy Resources: Psychology Today’s Therapist Finder (⁠https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists⁠)Need Immediate Support? Call or text the 988 Lifeline for emotional crisis help. For domestic abuse support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline 📞 1-800-799-7233 | 💬 Text “START” to 88788 | 🌐 ⁠⁠https://www.thehotline.org⁠Love Is Respect – A project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline focused on teens and young adultsBrené Brown – Daring Greatly and I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t)Brown’s work on shame, vulnerability, and resilience is foundational. Her research shows how shame affects behavior, connection, and healing.Quote used: “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence. If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

Today on Almost Oblivious, we’re tackling one of the most subtle — and most damaging — forms of emotional abuse: gaslighting.Gaslighting is a targeted form of psychological manipulation that causes you to doubt your memories, emotions, and sanity. But knowledge is power, and we’re shining a bright light on these dark tactics in this episode.We’ll break down:What gaslighting really is (and what it isn’t)How it shows up in relationships, workplaces, families, and morePsychological effects gaslighting has on survivorsReal-life examples you might recognizeHow to recognize the signs and begin trusting yourself againPractical steps for protecting yourself and healingYou are not crazy. You are not broken. You are not alone.🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:Free Downloadable Checklist: "Am I Being Gaslit?" https://www.almostobliviouspodcast.com/episodes/episode28-gaslighting-the-invisible-weaponDomestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)Therapy Resources: Psychology Today’s Therapist Finder (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists)Need Immediate Support? Call or text the 988 Lifeline for emotional crisis help. For domestic abuse support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline 📞 1-800-799-7233 | 💬 Text “START” to 88788 | 🌐 ⁠https://www.thehotline.org⁠🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence. If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

What happens when the person who was supposed to love and protect you… is the one who hurt you most?In this episode of Almost Oblivious, host Autumn Baker explores the often-unspoken reality of parental abuse and its lasting effects on adult children. We unpack the emotional, psychological, and even physical toll of growing up in a toxic or abusive household and the complex grief that comes with realizing your parent was your abuser.This episode validates the pain of survivors while offering hope, healing, and the reminder: You were never the problem.You’ll learn:What parental abuse can look like (even without physical violence)Why emotional wounds often go unrecognizedHow parentification, gaslighting, and control impact adult survivorsWhy setting boundaries with family can be so difficult—and so necessaryResources and tools to help you reclaim your voice and begin healingWhether you're estranged from a parent or just beginning to question your upbringing, this episode is for you.🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode:Book: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibsonhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1626251703Book: Toxic Parents by Dr. Susan Forwardhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/0553381407Therapist Directory (Trauma-Informed):https://www.psychologytoday.com(Filter for trauma-informed care or inner child work)Support Groups:https://www.adultchildren.org (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families)Reddit Community: r/raisedbynarcissistsNeed Immediate Support?Call or text the 988 Lifeline for emotional crisis help.For domestic abuse support: The National Domestic Violence Hotline📞 1-800-799-7233 | 💬 Text “START” to 88788 | 🌐 https://www.thehotline.org🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence. If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we hear from a survivor, Alice, who opens up about navigating domestic abuse while living with a disability—a topic too often left out of the conversation. From growing up in an abusive home to enduring emotional manipulation and isolation in her first adult relationship, her story sheds light on the unique challenges disabled survivors face, and the resilience it takes to reclaim your life after trauma.She shares how people often labeled her “brave” just for existing in public, how abusers weaponized her disability to gain praise from others, and how grieving the loss of a loved one became the turning point that led her toward freedom. With honesty, heart, and strength, she invites us into a deeply personal journey of loss, survival, healing, and the unexpected joy of discovering what true safety and love can feel like.This episode is a reminder that survival looks different for everyone—but hope, healing, and independence are possible for everyone. Whether you’re a survivor, supporter, or advocate, this story is one you’ll never forget.Trigger Warning: This episode discusses emotional abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, ableism, depression, and grief.🔗 Resources and support can be found on our website at almostoblivious.com🎧 Don't forget to share, rate, and review to help us break the silence on domestic violence.If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

"If we want to break the cycle of domestic violence, it starts with education. It starts with bold conversations. It starts with us.”Teen dating violence is happening far more often than most people realize—and the silence surrounding it is costing lives. In this episode of Almost Oblivious, Autumn Baker confronts the harsh reality that 1 in 12 U.S. high school students report being physically hurt by someone they’re dating, and 1 in 3 teens will experience dating violence before they become adults—and those are just the ones who speak up. Only 33% of teens ever told anyone about the abuse.We explore the warning signs, the psychological toll, and the often-overlooked world of digital abuse—from social media stalking to pressure for explicit photos. Autumn shares her reflection on how a lack of education in her teen years kept her vulnerable to abuse later in life.“Even if it feels awkward, talking openly shows teens they can trust you and turn to you without fear of judgment.”Whether you're a parent, a teen, or someone who works with youth, this episode arms you with knowledge and resources to open up conversations that could truly save lives.What they don’t know can hurt them. But what we teach today? That could save their tomorrow.“Silence can lead to Ignorance, and Ignorance can be dangerous”.Resources:🔗 Love Is Respect Resources, quizzes, and 24/7 text/chat support for teens and parents. 🌐 https://www.loveisrespect.org 📱 Text “LOVEIS” to 22522🔗 Break the Cycle Empowers youth to end domestic violence with education and advocacy. 🌐 https://www.breakthecycle.org🔗 The National Domestic Violence Hotline Available 24/7 with confidential support. 🌐 https://www.thehotline.org 📞 Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)🔗 One Love Foundation Educational content and videos about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. 🌐 https://www.joinonelove.orgIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

REWIND Episode 08: Red Flags!Enjoy this rewind episode and I'll see you all next week for a new episode! Remember to like, share and leave a review! In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we shine a light on the subtle and overt warning signs of domestic abuse. From patterns of control and manipulation to the dangers of love bombing and isolation, we uncover the behaviors that often go unnoticed until it's too late. Whether you're navigating a challenging relationship or supporting someone who might be, this 20-minute deep dive will help you recognize the signs and take action. Resources:⁠https://nnedv.org/content/red-flags-of-abuse/⁠⁠https://www.thehotline.org/resources/know-the-red-flags-of-abuse/⁠⁠https://health.clevelandclinic.org/domestic-abuse-how-to-spot-relationship-red-flags⁠⁠https://sayitoutloud.org.au/abusive-relationships/are-you-being-abused/warning-signs/?state=al⁠⁠https://www.med.unc.edu/beacon/wp-content/uploads/sites/598/2018/03/redflagabusivepersonality.pdf⁠For more information please check out our website!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

Leaving an abusive relationship isn’t the end of the story—it’s the beginning of a new one. But what happens after? How do you heal when trauma lingers? How do you rebuild a life that was once controlled by someone else?In this episode of Almost Oblivious, I, Autumn Baker, share my personal journey of healing, the struggles I faced, and the small victories that helped me move forward. From rediscovering my identity to learning how to trust again, I talk about the reality of life after abuse—what helped me, what made it harder, and what I wish more people understood.We’ll dive into the psychological effects of trauma bonding, PTSD, and self-doubt, as well as the incredible power of community, therapy, and self-love. Whether you’re a survivor, supporting someone who is, or simply looking to understand more, this episode is filled with truth, encouragement, and hope.✨ Healing takes time, but it is possible.💜 You are not alone.Additional resources are located on our website!If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we dive into the topic of self-worth—what it is, how abuse tears it down, and most importantly, how to rebuild it. If you’ve ever felt "not enough," this episode is for you.We discuss:What self-worth truly means and why it’s not based on achievements.How abusers destroy self-worth through gaslighting, criticism, and control.Practical steps to reclaim your self-worth after trauma.Relearning who you are and discovering your identity beyond the abuse.Daily habits that reinforce self-worth in everyday life.If you or someone you know is struggling, you are not alone. There are resources and support available to help you heal and rediscover your value.Resources:Brown, B. (2010). The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. – A powerful book on vulnerability and self-worth.Herman, J. L. (1992). Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence—From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. – A foundational text on trauma recovery.Walker, L. E. (1979). The Battered Woman. – The psychology behind domestic abuse and its effects on self-esteem.National Domestic Violence Hotline. "Gaslighting: How Abusers Manipulate Their Victims." – https://www.thehotline.orgPsychology Today. "Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem: What’s the Difference?" – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-esteemMental Health America. "Rebuilding Self-Worth After Trauma." – https://www.mhanational.orgVan der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. – A deep dive into how trauma affects self-worth and healing.If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

Domestic abuse shelters can be a lifeline for survivors, but misconceptions and fear often keep people from seeking help. In this episode, we break down everything you need to know—what shelters are really like, how to prepare if you’re thinking about going, and common myths that stop people from reaching out.We’ll also discuss why shelters are so vital, the challenges they face, and how we can all help keep these safe havens running. Whether you or someone you love needs this information, this episode is packed with resources and reassurance.📢 Listen now & share—it could save a life.Resource: https://www.domesticshelters.org/If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we explore one of the most dangerous realities of domestic abuse—when it escalates to homicide. Abuse doesn’t always start with physical violence, but when it does, the warning signs are often there. We break down the stages of escalation, key risk factors, and the terrifying reality that when a gun is involved, the chance of homicide increases by 500%.We also discuss the psychology of victims—why they stay, why they defend their abuser, and how trauma bonding keeps them trapped in dangerous relationships. Using real-life cases, including the heartbreaking story of Gabby Petito, we examine how abuse can be overlooked until it’s too late.If you or someone you love is in an abusive relationship, please know that help is available. This episode includes resources for safety planning, support, and escaping high-risk situations.🚨 If you are in immediate danger, call 911.📞 National Domestic Violence Hotline:800-799-7233🌎 Find local shelters & legal aid:www.thehotline.orgResources: National Domestic Violence Hotline – www.thehotline.org National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) – www.ncadv.org CDC Report on Homicide & Domestic Violence – www.cdc.gov Statistics on Strangulation & Homicide Risk – www.allianceforhope.com Firearm & Intimate Partner Homicide Data – www.everytownresearch.orgIf you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠

This episode is just a brief introduction to stalking. Stalking is a complex and multifaceted crime, and while we cover key points, there is always more to learn. Listen in with Autumn Baker, as she touches the various types of stalking and how to keep yourself safe. If you're experiencing stalking, please seek support from professionals and legal resources. Stalking laws can vary by state!Resources: https://victimsofcrime.org/stalking-resource-center/ https://ncadv.org/ https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/ https://www.thehotline.org/ https://victimsofcrime.org/ https://www.stalkingawareness.org/risk-and-safety/ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠

In this episode ofAlmost Oblivious, host Autumn Baker tackles one of the most misunderstood questions surrounding domestic abuse:"Why didn't they just leave?" Leaving an abusive relationship is far more complex than it seems, with psychological, financial, social, and legal barriers making escape incredibly difficult—and sometimes even dangerous. We’ll explore how trauma affects the brain, why survivors stay, and what ultimately helps them break free. Featuring survivor stories, expert insights, and practical ways to support those in abusive situations, this episode sheds light on the realities of domestic violence and the importance of understanding before passing judgment.Resources:https://psychcentral.com/blog/liberation/2017/10/long-term-narcissistic-abuse-can-cause-brain-damage#1https://illinoisrecoverycenter.com/effects-of-emotional-abuse-on-the-brain/https://blueboatcounseling.com/victims-of-abuse-6-reasons-why-they-dont-just-leave/https://www.thehotline.org/support-others/why-people-stay-in-an-abusive-relationship/#:~:text=Survivors%20may%20be%20financially%20dependent,to%20leave%20an%20abusive%20situation.https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9931748/If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠

In this powerful episode of Almost Oblivious, we share the courageous journey of a domestic violence survivor who found the strength to break free and rebuild her life. From the early warning signs to the heartbreaking realities of abuse, she opens up about the struggles she faced, the moment she decided to leave, and how faith and resilience guided her to a new beginning. We also discuss the importance of sharing your story. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, know that help is available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 800-799-7233 or by texting “START” to 88788. Tune in to hear this survivor’s inspiring story and join us in breaking the silence on domestic violence. 💜 Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/ For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we explore the transformative power of community and the courage it takes to share your story. Host Autumn Baker opens up about her own experience speaking at a domestic violence conference in October 2024—a pivotal moment that confirmed the launch of this podcast and reinforced the importance of collective healing. Autumn discusses the critical role community plays in helping survivors heal, sharing compelling facts about how connection reduces isolation and builds resilience. We’ll also delve into the ripple effect of storytelling, showing how one person’s voice can inspire others to find their strength. Whether you’re a survivor, a supporter, or someone seeking to understand, this episode will remind you that we’re stronger together. Tune in to learn how sharing your story can help you heal and empower others, and discover ways to build or find your own supportive community. Resources: American Psychological Association. (n.d.). *The Importance of Community for Mental Health.* Retrieved from [www.apa.org](https://www.apa.org). Psychological Science. (2013). *Telling Your Story Helps Heal Trauma.* Retrieved from [www.psychologicalscience.org](https://www.psychologicalscience.org). National Domestic Violence Hotline. (n.d.). *The Role of Support Networks in Recovery.* Retrieved from [www.thehotline.org](https://www.thehotline.org). For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we dive into the complexities of narcissism, exploring the difference between narcissistic tendencies and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). We discuss how narcissism can play a role in abusive relationships, the myths surrounding it, and why the term is often overused. Abuse isn’t limited to romantic relationships—it can come from family and friends too. Join me as we break down the nuances of narcissism, empower survivors, and invite listeners to share their stories to help others feel less alone. Resources: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662 https://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/apa-blogs/what-is-narcissistic-personality-disorder https://www.annualreviews.org/content/journals/10.1146/annurev.clinpsy.121208.131215 https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11155208/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/what-is-narcissistic-personality-disorder https://www.thehotline.org/resources/narcissism-and-abuse/ For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we break the silence on a form of control that often goes unseen—financial abuse. This pervasive yet often overlooked aspect of domestic violence affects victims in ways that can keep them trapped in unhealthy relationships. Host, Autumn Baker, will explore: The many forms financial abuse can take, from restricting access to money to sabotaging employment. How financial control undermines independence and self-worth. Practical steps for regaining financial independence and securing a path to freedom. This episode also features real-world strategies, resources, and encouragement for anyone feeling trapped by financial control. Together, we’ll uncover how to reclaim autonomy, one step at a time. Don’t forget to share this episode to help others who may be silently struggling. Together, we can empower survivors to find their voice and take back control. 💜 Resources: https://www.thehotline.org/resources/financialabuse/ https://nnedv.org/spotlight_on/financial-abuse-empowerment/ https://nnedv.org/resources-library/financial-abuse-toolkit/ https://www.militaryonesource.mil/resources/millife-guides/financial-abuse/ https://www.allstatecorporation.com/stories/financial-abuse-survivor-support.aspx https://create.microsoft.com/en-us/templates/budgets For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we dive into the transformative power of setting boundaries. Boundaries are essential to self-care, but knowing when and how to set them isn’t always easy. Join host Autumn Baker as she explains how to recognize the need for boundaries, practical steps to set them, and tips for handling pushback from others. We’ll also explore the delicate balance between protecting your peace and understanding when family and friends come from a place of genuine care. Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out but about creating space for healthier, more respectful relationships. If you’ve ever struggled with saying no, felt drained by certain interactions, or wondered how to communicate your needs effectively, this episode is for you. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your energy, build stronger connections, and live a life aligned with your values. Resources: https://hbr.org/2022/04/a-guide-to-setting-better-boundaries https://www.verywellhealth.com/setting-boundaries-5208802 https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/social-connection/setting-healthy-boundaries-in-relationships https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/setting-boundaries For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠

As we ring in the New Year, this special episode focuses on hope, resilience, and transformation. Join host Autumn Baker as she shares strategies to prepare for a brighter future and shift from a victim mindset to a survivor’s perspective. Discover the power of reframing your thoughts, setting realistic goals, and making small but meaningful changes that can lead to freedom and healing. Learn how even simple changes in vocabulary—like turning "What if I can't?" into "Even if I can't, I can still…"—can help create a positive mindset and open the door to new possibilities. Whether you’re taking your first steps toward change or need a dose of encouragement, this episode is your guide to starting 2025 with strength and purpose. Tune in and take the first step toward rewriting your story. ✨ Episode Resources: https://advice.theshineapp.com/articles/4-science-backed-reasons-to-take-your-self-talk-out-loud/#:~:text=combat%20self%2Dcriticism.-,Research%20has%20shown%20that%20talking%20to%20yourself%20out%20loud%20can,this%20phenomenon%20%E2%80%9Cfeedback%20hypothesis.%E2%80%9D https://www.mentalhealth.com/tools/science-of-affirmations https://www.geisinger.org/health-and-wellness/wellness-articles/2023/04/04/18/54/the-power-of-positive-affirmations https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2021/09/mindsets-clearing-lens-life https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-change-mindset-according-neuroscience-valerie-tan-ronchail For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

This Christmas Eve, join me for a more uplifting episode dedicated to those seeking hope and freedom this holiday season. Host Autumn Baker discusses the critical role of self-care and education in preparing to leave an abusive relationship. From practical tips on building a safety plan to emotional and physical self-care strategies, this episode is packed with tools to help survivors reclaim their lives. Whether you're taking the first step or supporting someone on their journey, this episode offers guidance, compassion, and a reminder that brighter days are ahead. Happy Holidays Obliviates! Resources: https://www.mondaycampaigns.org/destress-monday/unwind-monday-5-4-3-2-1-grounding-technique https://www.thehotline.org/resources/the-importance-of-self-care/ https://www.verywellhealth.com/setting-boundaries-5208802 If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠

In this first installment of our new series, we shine a light on the challenges surrounding domestic violence and sexual assault in the military. My husband, Zack, a five-year Army veteran, joins me as they delve into the unique obstacles survivors face in a military environment. From cultural barriers to systemic gaps in support, Zack shares his insights, experiences, and hopes for change within the armed forces. Join us for an honest and eye-opening conversation that seeks to break the silence and raise awareness of this critical issue. Remember, if you’re interested in talking about this topic, please reach out to us! Resources https://www.thehotline.org/ https://www.militaryonesource.mil/preventing-violence-abuse/domestic-abuse/domestic-abuse-help/ https://www.armyfamilywebportal.com/content/domestic-abuse-victim-advocacy-program https://www.sapr.mil/ https://www.armyresilience.army.mil/sharp/ For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

The holiday season is often seen as a time of joy, but for many survivors of domestic violence, it can be a season of increased stress, isolation, and danger. In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we explore why domestic violence often escalates during the holidays, the unique challenges survivors face, and how faith, community, and practical resources can provide support. Whether you’re a survivor or an ally, this episode offers insights and encouragement to navigate this challenging time. Resources: https://womenagainstcrime.com/domestic-violence-and-the-holidays-what-you-should-know/ https://www.thehotline.org/ https://www.thehotline.org/resources/safety-planning-for-the-holidays/ For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In this episode of Almost Oblivious, we shine a light on the subtle and overt warning signs of domestic abuse. From patterns of control and manipulation to the dangers of love bombing and isolation, we uncover the behaviors that often go unnoticed until it's too late. Whether you're navigating a challenging relationship or supporting someone who might be, this 20-minute deep dive will help you recognize the signs and take action. Resources: https://nnedv.org/content/red-flags-of-abuse/ https://www.thehotline.org/resources/know-the-red-flags-of-abuse/ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/domestic-abuse-how-to-spot-relationship-red-flags https://sayitoutloud.org.au/abusive-relationships/are-you-being-abused/warning-signs/?state=al https://www.med.unc.edu/beacon/wp-content/uploads/sites/598/2018/03/redflagabusivepersonality.pdf For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠

In Episode 7, we dive into the often unknown concept of reactive abuse. This episode explores what it is, why it happens, and how abusers manipulate these situations to deflect blame onto their victims. Join us as we shed light on the emotional toll it takes and provide insights into recognizing and breaking free from this destructive cycle. Together, we continue to break the silence on domestic violence. Resources: https://www.verywellmind.com/reactive-abuse-signs-impact-and-tips-to-break-the-cycle-7567483 https://www.charliehealth.com/post/what-is-reactive-abuse https://breakthesilencedv.org/reactive-abuse-what-it-is-and-why-abusers-rely-on-it/ https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/ For more information please check out our website! ⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com⁠⁠⁠ If you would like to submit your story or be a guest speaker, please submit a form here! If there are any topics that you think should be covered, please reach out to us! ⁠⁠⁠AlmostObliviousPodcast.com/contact⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠@AlmostObliviousPodcast⁠⁠