Avoidance and Control

I didn't know I was a perfectionist until I began feeling safe in my body and stopped trying to control the uncontrollable.Introducing the biggest failure of my life and how I used the tools I teach my clients to rewrite and learn to love themselves.In this Episode:where Perfectionism/ perfectionist tendencies come from3 tools after Body-Based tools to Build FoundationWhy is this harder for Neruodivergent folksI’m Monique Gomez, founder of Dare to Heal.Dare to Heal is a space for many paths—those navigating anxiety, burnout, people-pleasing, perfectionism, relationship repair, or identity shifts—who are ready to feel safe, grounded, and whole again through somatic, trauma-informed care.Begin where you are: join a supportive Membership, book 1:1 sessions, or step into a 3-Month Coaching Container for steady, embodied healing and real-life integration.BMS Membership Plans- (as low as $25/Month)https://dtheal.org/membership-details-signupCoaching Detailshttps://dtheal.org/coachingMy Book: Not the Chanclahttps://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

From high-conflict divorce to healing—how one founder built an AI tool to help parents regulate, reconnect, and co-parent with clarity.In this episode, we sit down with Sol Kennedy, founder of BestInterest, the AI-powered co-parenting app transforming how high-conflict families communicate. Once a Googler and serial entrepreneur, Sol’s most meaningful innovation didn’t come from Silicon Valley—it came from his own divorce.Blending personal experience with cutting-edge technology and nervous system science, Sol created a tool designed to help parents shift from reactive patterns to intentional, regulated responses. His work, praised by WIRED as “lifesaving,” is changing the landscape of co-parenting for families navigating stress, conflict, and emotional overwhelm.In this episode:- Tools for emotion regulation- Boundaries and how to do so without therapy- Children-focused conversations (for co-parents)Sol's Links:https://bestinterest.appEnter code DTHEAL for $10 offMonique's Links:Intro Coaching Session- https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-sessionWhat is Reiki-https://dtheal.org/reikibookingsAttachment-based Parenting Program-www. dtheal.org/COSOther Related Episodes:Resentment is Draining You: The Healing Power of Forgiveness with Stephen TolfreeSomatic Healing Through Divorce with Madisen RoseNavigating Relationship Ruptures with Repair featuring Allie Andrews

Burnout. Behavior issues. Stress. These are challenges so many families face—and there’s a powerful, evidence-based solution that helps.8-week evidence-based curriculum that actually changes how you parent to read your child's behavior and meet their needs.Presale on NOWDM [email protected] or Visit info sessions below (on eventbrite base Dare to Heal)Informations Sessions (FREE)https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343www. dtheal.org/COS

Explore somatic healing through divorce with Madisen Rose—nervous system tools for grief, rupture, anger, and rebuilding self-trust from within.Madisen Rose is a somatic practitioner and founder of Better Half to Whole, a platform dedicated to supporting individuals through the renegotiation of relational trauma in the nervous system, specializing in divorce recovery. Through one-on-one sessions, digital resources, self-paced online courses, and group programs, Madisen helps people rebuild after divorce with intention, compassion, grit, and self-trust. Through trauma-trained practices, she bridges the space between science and the sacred.In This Episode:Definitions for Trauma, Rupture, and SomaticsTools for Overwhelm and AngerFight or Freeze ResponsesMadisen RoseWebsite- www.betterhalftowhole.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/betterhalftowhole/Consult- https://calendly.com/madisen-betterhalftowhole/20-minute-somatic-consult-freeDare to Heal Resources:https://dtheal.org/https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-sessionPodcasts Mentioned in Episode (by Title):Navigating Relationship Ruptures and Repair with Allie AndrewsSurvival Mode and Grief with Andrea TurnbowWhat is Fawning/ People Pleasing with Allie AndrewsWhat is Dissociation?Window of Tolerance: Nervous System 101

What happens when resentment from workplace conflict follows you long after the situation ends? Many people carry anger, betrayal, or injustice from toxic work environments, and those emotions can quietly erode mental health, self-esteem, and hope.In this episode, Monique Gomez speaks with workplace conflict recovery coach Stephen Tolfree about a powerful but often misunderstood psychological concept: forgiveness.In This Epsiode:The Cost of Staying in Resentment/ PainCommon misconceptions about forgivenessWhy forgiveness does not mean excusing harmful behaviorStephen Tolfree is a coach specializing in helping individuals recover from workplace conflict and the emotional impact of professional mistreatment. His work focuses on guiding people through the psychological and emotional recovery process so they can rebuild confidence, restore well-being, and move forward with clarity within a single Coaching Session.Stephens Links:https://www.recover-from-divorce.com/https://www.stephentolfree.com/https://www.rehabilitate.uk/Moniques LinksWebsitewww.dtheal.orghttps://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-sessionhttps://dtheal.org/mh-resourcesMy Bookhttps://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

Neurodivergence is a word that’s becoming more common, but many people still wonder what it really means and how it shows up in everyday life. In this episode, we explore neurodivergence through a lifestyle and nervous system lens, focusing on awareness, regulation, and practical understanding.In this episode we discuss:• What neurodivergence means and how it can show up in daily life• How lifestyle awareness and functional approaches can support nervous system regulation• Understanding masking and why many neurodivergent individuals learn to hide or suppress their natural responses• What demand avoidance is and how it can be misunderstood in relationships, and work• Communication strategies that help neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals better understand each otherGuest BioCarla Padilla is a functional health coach specializing in helping clients moderate symptoms of ADHD and autism. Her personal experience with a completely neurodivergent household, along with her own recovery from chronic illness, informs her holistic framework of care—supporting mind, body, and spirit with each client. She offers private coaching, group classes, and corporate training. Learn more at neurospicysoulcare.com.Carla Padilla website- Carlapadilla.comPodcast Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/show/3l1VbvD5vzyrtHoCICWdIN?si=d7c2adfc128f49c0Apple Podcast linkMoniques Websitehttps://dtheal.org/My Book- Not The Chancla: How Awareness of Our History and Trauma Create Compassion to Rewrite Our FutureAmazon link

How much discomfort do you need to feel in order to speak or acknowledge hurt?So many of us wait until the pressure builds—until the guilt, tension, or emotional weight becomes impossible to ignore—before we finally say something. In this episode, we explore in a Part2 Episode with Jon Bui creator of The Negotiated Apology In this Episode:how discomfort can actually be a guide rather than something to avoid.Taking accountability without collapsing into shame or self-criticismMoving out of the cycle of blaming others or blaming yourselfJon teaches people to apologize using high level negotiations and problem solving skills regularly utilized by lawyers. As a graduate of Lewis & Clark School of Law, he is transforming the conflict resolution industry by empowering people with strategy and empathy to transform mistakes into relationship building opportunities. His training is essential for organizations seeking to build a powerful and everlasting positive culture; and for leaders who wish to lead with trust, accountability, and humanity.Jons links:WebsiteInstagramLinked InAvoidance and Control Episode: The Negotiated Apology:Practice EmpathyMonique's Links:Book A Virtual Intro SessionLinks/ Resources PageBlog Post: The Grief No One Talks AboutAvoidance & Control: Thriving In Your CirclesAvoidance & Control: Evaluating Attachments & Healing Old WoundsMy Book

Abuse doesn’t just hurt—it disorients.Isolation grows. Agency shrinks. Self-trust erodes.In Part 3 of this series, Kristen Searcy of A Desert In Bloom Therapy walks us through the common themes across abusive patterns—including progressive loss of autonomy and the reality that confusion is the habitat where abuse thrives. We explore the signs you’re in it—and how to respond instead of react.In This Episode:Review of Common Themes of The Modernized Cycle of Abuse by K. Searcy, LCSWSigns of Knowing You are in a CycleTools for Choosing a Response, not ReactionKristen Searcy is an EMDRIA certified EMDR Trauma Therapist and the founder of A Desert In Bloom Therapy in Phoenix. She specializes in helping women heal from complex trauma, domestic violence and eating disorders, blending clinical expertise with an artist's soul. Her work guides women toward the freedom to live fully in the present and to sing their own heart song again. ⁠A Desert In Bloom⁠⁠Psychology Today Page⁠⁠InstagramMental Health Resources:IF you or someone you know is not doing okay call or text 988for mental health support and crises.⁠https://988lifeline.org/⁠Other Support links⁠NAMI Support Lines/ Details⁠⁠Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration⁠Link to apply for an OOP (order of protection) in Maricopa county General Information ⁠https://superiorcourt.maricopa.gov/llrc/orders-of-protection/⁠Link to apply (you must create a login on AZ Point to file) ⁠https://azpoint.azcourts.gov/⁠ Domestic Violence Shelter (one main screener for all DC shelters in AZ)DV STOP⁠https://turnanewleaf.org/services/sexual-and-domestic-violence-services/dvstop/⁠Arizona Address Confidentiality Program Application⁠https://azsos.gov/services/address-confidentiality-program/application-assistants⁠Domestic Violence Legal Assistance Project ⁠https://www.azbf.org/domestic-violence-legal-assistance-projectDare to Heal Resources:⁠45 Minute Intro Session⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠⁠⁠Events (AZ and Virtual)⁠Other Avoidance & Control Episodes Mentioned :Fawning Episode with Allie AndrewsWhat is Dissasociation What is Trauma

We all can end up in what I like to call "The Deep Dark", a deep depression that suffocates our system to believing we need what our brain feels is the only way out.Join me and my friend Janet as we discuss the reasoning behind suicide ideation and what brings people to make such a decision.Janet is a Somatic Breathwork Practitioner and Health Coach who brings 27 years of experience as a physician assistant, along with deep expertise in behavioral health. After navigating her own journey through trauma and chronic pain, she now supports clients in restoring balance and well-being through breathwork and restorative health coaching. Janet believes deeply in the body’s innate intelligence and empowers individuals to reconnect with their capacity for self-healing.** Please save and use the National Hotline for Suicide (TEXT or Call, anytime) 988 **In This Episode:Why do we repeat patterns Biochemical Response (brain safety response) to get out of painWhat is Cognitive DissonanceBelow are other Suicide and Mental Health Resources⁠https://988lifeline.org/https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/helplines/national-helplineThe 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is a national hotline offering one-on-one support for mental health, suicide, and substance use-related problems for anyone 24/7. No matter where you are in the United States, you can call or text the number 988 or chat online at 988lifeline.org and connect with a skilled, compassionate crisis counselor.The 988 Lifeline is a direct connection to immediate support and resources for anyone in crisis. Here are some of the many reasons people might decide to connect with the 988 Lifeline (MP4 | 18.6 MB). There is no reason too big or too small to reach out to 988. People can also call, text or chat 988 if they are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support. 988 call, chat, and text services are available in English and Spanish. Call services with interpreters are available in more than 240 languages.HOW to Know if you are in a Crisis

Burnout doesn’t just show up as exhaustion—it creeps into our nervous system, our finances, our confidence, and even our ability to breathe through daily life. In this honest and grounding conversation, I’m joined by my dear friend and talented photographer, Rachel Richards, as we unpack the hidden layers of burnout, including money fears, panic attacks, survival mode, and the pressure to “hold it all together.”In This Episode:- Workaholism/ Societal or Generational patterns- Book Recommendations for Healing, Self-Sabotage, and Creativity- Identity ShiftsRachel Richards is an award-winning Phoenix-based photographer and filmmaker, and the heart behind Rachel Richards Photo + Film, who specializes in deeply intentional, in-home, documentary-style family storytelling. In addition to her client work, she creates botanical black-and-white fine art prints derived from her personal creative and mindfulness practice, available at Rachel Richards Fine Art.Rachel's Photo- Film WebsiteFine Art Prints Rachel Richards

Want to stop going back to people who hurt you or make you "feel" crazy? Then use the Swinging door as the fairy Godmother of boundaries. I get it you are a recovering people pleaser and putting a boundary in place like; saying no, or that you cannot, or simply not responding to someones upset... is what this anaology helps us remove guilt and continue to stand in our power.Monique is a former therapist turned trauma coach, who love to bring compassion to how we react. The Swining Door anaologty is just that a way of thinking about relationships so we can show up and CHOOSE ourselves; so we then can have energy for others.$50 Introductory Coaching SessionNot The Chancla: How Awareness of Our History Creates Compassion to Rewrite Our FutureDare to Heal Resource Page

True intimacy is hard to find and build upon, especially when our own identity starts to erode. Licensed Clinical Social Worker Kristen Searcey shares her female-pronged cycle of abuse in this Part 2 Episode. The episode is designed to help you see behaviors in yourself and others and seek support from a mental health specialist. Kristen Searcy is an EMDRIA certified EMDR Trauma Therapist and the founder of A Desert In Bloom Therapy in Phoenix. She specializes in helping women heal from complex trauma, domestic violence and eating disorders, blending clinical expertise with an artist's soul. Her work guides women toward the freedom to live fully in the present and to sing their own heart song again. Kristens WebsitePsychology TodayA Desert In Bloom InstagramIF you or someone you know is not doing okay call or text 988for mental health support and crises.https://988lifeline.org/Other Support linksNAMI Support Lines/ DetailsSubstance Abuse and Mental Health Services AdministrationLink to apply for an OOP (order of protection) in Maricopa county General Information https://superiorcourt.maricopa.gov/llrc/orders-of-protection/Link to apply (you must create a login on AZ Point to file) https://azpoint.azcourts.gov/ Domestic Violence Shelter (one main screener for all DC shelters in AZ)DV STOPhttps://turnanewleaf.org/services/sexual-and-domestic-violence-services/dvstop/Arizona Address Confidentiality Program Applicationhttps://azsos.gov/services/address-confidentiality-program/application-assistantsDomestic Violence Legal Assistance Project https://www.azbf.org/domestic-violence-legal-assistance-project

Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship—romantic, friendship, or even professional—where you keep giving, hoping they’ll change, and wondering why you feel so responsible for their healing?This appears with my clients -alot. We are stuck in the old abandonment story or wound. I actuallyt just realized I do this as well. I behave as if I am going to be abandoned. I strive and push myself so that people I love do not get a chance or idea of leaving me.The Abandonment wound is real. We can reflect and redirect our choices from it!Comment, Like or Share this episode if it was supportive.45 Minute Intro Session⁠⁠Free Resources⁠⁠Events (AZ and Virtual)

The old narratives about abuse don’t always fit what we see today.This week, I’m joined by Kristen Searcy, whose revolutionary Model of Abuse challenges everything we think we know about violence and control. We’re talking about how real change begins when we focus on consistent behaviors, not clinical labels.Kristen Searcy is an EMDRIA certified EMDR Trauma Therapist and the founder of A Desert In Bloom Therapy in Phoenix. She specializes in helping women heal from complex trauma, domestic violence and eating disorders, blending clinical expertise with an artist's soul. Her work guides women toward the freedom to live fully in the present and to sing their own heart song again. A Desert In BloomPsychology Today PageInstagram

Welcome to Season 4 of the Avoidance and Control podcast. Enjoy this warm-up episode to get your brain thinking opposite of the "fix it Model"Humans don't need to be "fixed", we need logic, inner knowing, and regulation.In This Episode:- 3 tips for stepping out of the Old story (trauma/Abuse/ etc)- Components of Salutogenics (moving toward Health)- Reduce the stigma that you are the only one going through this..Harm, abuse and control-- we've all experienced it in different ways. Book an Introduction call or sample other resources below45 Minute Intro SessionFree ResourcesEvents (AZ and Virtual)

How do you feel about diagnoses—do they help you understand yourself or make you feel stuck? In this powerful finale, Annamarie Green explores why true healing starts with your energy, not just a label. If you’ve ever felt like there’s more to healing than managing symptoms, this one’s for you.In This Episode:3 core Levels of HealingAnxiety LanguageHow to Chord Cut DIYAnnamarie Resources:Anxiety Languages FreebieSoul Surgeon Enrollment

You know those moments in life when everything feels like it's crumbling—finances, emotions, even your sense of self? I've been there. And so has my dear friend, former coaching client, and now incredible somatic breathwork practitioner, Janet Bonner West.Janet went from feeling broke, stuck, and hiding from her truth to discovering the power of breathwork—a practice that completely transformed her emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. And now? She’s bringing that same healing energy to The Resilience Tour Retreat as one of our breathwork facilitators!In This Episode:How Somatic Breathwork works with your Nervous SystemDisconnection to SelfConnection to body as first step Janet Bonner West, a Somatic Breathwork Practitioner and Health Coach, combines 27 years of experience as a physician assistant with her expertise in behavioral health. After her own journey through trauma and chronic pain, she now helps clients restore balance and well-being through breathwork and restorative health coaching. Janet believes in the power of self-healing and empowers individuals to reconnect with their innate intelligence.Janets Facebook PageResilience Tour Retreat Resilience Tour ResourcesMental Health Resources:HotlineNAMI Hotline ResourcesEducation- Health TopicsMoniques Episode Mentions:What is Dissociation?Why Patterns Come BackYouTube Video - Meet The Resilience Tour FoundersBook a Call with MoniqueMoniques Website

What if your quality of life starts with what's on your plate? While those with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) have protective skills, but this episode reminds us that the first step in standing up for your health is making sure you have a good quality of life. In This Episode: Christina PTSD diagnosis and self-advocacy Provider Problems Breath and Mindset Tools and Practice Christina Lombardo is a Trauma Informed Certified Holistic Nutritionist and Evox Practitioner specializing in trauma and substance use recovery. She has a Bachelors Degree from Northern Arizona University, is certified in sports nutrition, has continuing education in nervous system practices, ACES training, and other wellness practices. She sees individual clients and teaches classes to teenagers and adults about nutrition and wellness practices for sustainable, yet flexible, everyday living. Christina's Website Christina's Instagram Resources from this Episode: Belief Exercise Episode (Journal with Monique) 3 Breath Practices Moniques Links Gifted Consultation Details on Resilience Tour Retreat 2025

"Have you ever felt a sudden shift in your mood, an unexpected wave of frustration, sadness, or anxiety—but couldn’t quite understand why? In this episode: What is Trigger Control How to Identify Them Sweeping Upset Under the Rug Keeps you Stuck Brittany Smith is a Holistic Aesthetic Nurse and Certified Coach who blends nursing expertise with wellness coaching to help with challenges related to aging. At Method Aesthetics, she offers services like skincare treatments, injectables, and vitamin infusions to boost vitality and highlight natural beauty. Through her holistic practice, BSI Wellness, Brittany helps clients build lasting wellness routines focusing on prevention. She is also passionate about community and works with other holistic providers while hosting educational events to encourage healthier lifestyles. Links: BSI Website Brittany Smith Instagram Resilience Tour Ticket Details The Relationship Bridge: How to Make Deeper Connections and Grow Healthy Relationships Resilience Tour Webinar-- How We Help Moniques Links: Gifted Consultation Call My Book - Not The Chancla

I get so incredibly excited to help people on consultation calls-- let this episode help you make a decision. also DM me or leave a comment or Review if you'd like to get an episode on How to Interview your Helper. Monique Gomez is a Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, former Mental Health Therapist, Reiki Master, and Licensed Massage Therapist with a Master's degree is Social Work. Monique specializes in working with individuals who often feel misunderstood or unheard, tend to prioritize others' needs over their own, or overwork due to feelings of unworthiness. Clients seeking help are open to understanding their nervous system and learning to collaborate with it rather than working against it. This includes coping with stress, trauma, and life challenges, as well as building resilience for the future. Book a Gifted Consultation Call Not The Chacla: How Awareness of Our History and Trauma Create Compassion to Rewrite Our Future Resources: Put local Non Emergency phone numbers in your phone National Help Hotline is 988 (suicide and crisis Hotline-- call or TEXT)

Another Throwback Tuesday from Season 1: What is. Trauma? while so many Pop Psych Influencers and plain old Tik Tokers like to explain what they believe to be trauma and what is not trauma, this episode breaks down the Truth. If this episode Resonates I'd love for you to check out our Upcoming Resilience Tour Retreat in April 2025; what I'd like to call a Heal-Cation (especially if you get the overnight tickets) Ticket Details If you are curious about how I work with people in Trauma/ Significant Histories-- Book a call below Gifted Consultation Call

Are your relationships helping you thrive, or are they quietly draining your energy? In This Episode: Why your relationships directly impact your health and happiness. How to identify three key relationship types: nurturers, neutral supporters, and energy vampires. The role of boundaries and values in maintaining healthy dynamics. Practical steps to release guilt and move on from one-sided relationships. As a Holistic Aesthetic Nurse and Certified Coach, I combine traditional nursing expertise with wellness coaching to address aging-related challenges. At Method Aesthetics, I provide onsite services like skincare treatments, injectables, and vitamin infusions to enhance vitality and natural beauty. Through my holistic practice, BSI Wellness, I empower clients to create sustainable wellness routines emphasizing preventative care. Passionate about community building, I collaborate with holistic providers and host educational events to inspire healthier lifestyles. Brittany Smith Links: Instagram Linked In Website Resources Mentioned in Episode: Rupture and Repair Episode Avoidant Attachment Episode What is Fawning Episode Resilience Tour Instagram Resilience Tour Retreat April 4,5, and 6 Tickets Resilience Tour Webinar (27 Min)

Have you felt like you are a victim of a Narcissist or a person who is crazy selfish? This episode has been a long time coming, as these are common questions and responses I speak to my clients about. Majority of my clients who want to get out of these old patterns and stories are people pleasers. In the Episode: Why We Hold on to Toxic Cycles Bring Self-Compassion to Your Big Heart How Fear Splits Our Truth Moniques Links: Book a Gifted Consultation for Self Compassion Resilience Tour Retreat Other Related Episodes: Avoidant Attachment with Allie Andrews Insecure Attachment with Allie Andrews Hurt Cycles Part 1

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in doing, ignoring your pain just to make it through the day? In this episode we'll dive into the survival mode that keeps us resisting pain and grief. Andrea is the founder of The Grief Nook, a comfortable space to creatively grieve in community. Through her workshops, support groups, speaking events, and individual support, she helps grievers discover ways to process and express their grief through creativity, connection, and tradition. Her guidance as a Certified Grief Educator and Trauma & Resilience Coach brings them closer to their desires and goals through the power of their own innate abilities. In This Episode: Common Signs of Survival Mode and how to Creep Out Loss of Expectations as Grief Guilt and Resistance to Pain Andreas Links: Grief Nook Instagram Upcoming Events Discovery Call with Andrea Moniques Links: Resilience Tour Retreat and Resources Gifted Consultation with Monique

Winter Skin, super dry? We chat with Brittny Owner of Trades of Brit to discuss nature, family and faith. In This Episode: Pregnancy and Tuning into your Body Grief and Remembering our Loved ones Faith and Social Supports Brittny owns Trades of Brit, a natural skincare company, rooted in nature and perfected in science. She has her masters in Organic Chemistry and even has an internship with Loreal USA. Brittny is a wife and mother to 5 beautiful kids with 2 sets of twins. She loves all things health, fitness and traveling. She started Trades of Brit out of her need to help heal her daughter's eczema and her family's dry skin. Brittny's Instagram Trades of Brit Website Moniques Links Resilience Tour 2025 Gifted Consultation

Sometimes we let our impulsive nature push us further away from our goals. Quick reactions we have with our money, our time or even the tasks we wish to complete. Dr. Veronica Schiltz is a mama of two kids under three, a wife, a Christ follower and a licensed chiropractor and certified health coach passionately focused on the nervous system. She takes a holistic approach to both coaching and chiropractic that helps you uncover mindset blocks, handle physical disconnections in the brain and body, and habitual patterns that may be holding you back so you can live fulfilled in your health, home, and business. Dr. Veronica and I spoke on: Systems Build Consistency Manage big emotions to return to regulation handling the unexpected with growth and faith Veronicas Links: Resources Masterclass Podcast Peaceful and Profitable CEO Systems Program Moniques Links: Gifted Consultation Not The Chancla (my Book) Building Regulation Hybrid

Do you have ADHD and tired of the symptoms? Or do you want to learn how to adapt when Ego gets in the way? In this episode, we chat about Brain Balancing with Neurofeedback then a well-executed tangent on the following: Knowing Yourself and Communicating Clearly: Understand who you are, speak honestly, and make choices that match your values. Recognize how your thoughts, feelings, and past experiences shape your reactions. Grow Through Challenges: As part of personal growth, learn to handle ego struggles, adapt when they get in the way, and face failure with confidence. Mercedes Collins is an extra corporate girlie who left the 9-5 to start her own business and create more freedom with her time to spend with her family and 2 young kids. She’s the owner of Neurogen Brain Balancing East Valley, with offers a medication free alternative for ADHD, migraines and common sleep concerns. She believes emotional wellness for kids starts with parents having a regulated nervous system, so she loves working with moms in this area of life! Mercedes Links: Neurogen Brain Balance Website Mercedes Instagram Neurogen Brain Balance East Valley Instagram Apple Podcasts: The Abundance Generators Podcast Moniques Links: Resilience Tour Retreat April 2025 Gifted Consultation Building Regulation Hybrid (enrollment ends 12/22/24)

Have you been called a People Pleaser? If you often put others' needs before your own, then you might be in this natural Nervous System Reaction. In This Episode: Examples of Fawning/People Pleasing Boundaries and Compassion Listening to Your Needs Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves and their relationships. Allie is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Yoga Teacher and Certified Holistic Health Coach with her Master’s in Education. Allies Links Allies Instagram Conversation Cards Allies Website Moniques Links Instagram Resilience Tour Retreat Gifted Consultation

Do you ever feel like you are Self-sabotaging your Success? In all areas of life, work, or business, our Subconscious Mind can interfere with our wants. Natalie and I went deep into her recent battle with Self Sabotage. Natalie is a Board Accredited and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, EFT Tapping Practitioner, NLP Practitioner & Certified Life + Success Coach. She's been called the "Mindset Whisperer" by her clients. She's kind of like if your business strategy coach + your mindset/embodiment coach had a baby! Natalie is the best of both worlds. Her purpose in life is to help women wake up to their potential, make friends with their ambition, embrace their superpowers and achieve success without sacrificing their joy & wellbeing. Natlaies Links: Free Discover Your Sales Superpower The Embodied Entrepreneur Podcast Website Resources From The Episode: Monique on Natalies Podcast Belief Exercise Podcast Episode Moniques Links: Gifted Consultation Call Instagram Resilience Tour Retreat/Events My Book Not The Chancla

Why does authenticity feel so rare in a world full of curated images and perfected profiles? In this episode my new friend Niko gets vulnerable with me as we discuss topics like: Branding Navigating Relationship Challenges Rejection You will explore how staying true to yourself can transform your connections, shape your brand, and even elevate your spiritual life. Niko Arapkiles is the host of the Just Grow Podcast and CEO of Just Grow Visions Through his communities & live events he helps entrepreneurs build an authentic personal brand using the “woo+do” framework so they can build a profitable life & business. Nikos Links: Skool Community LinkTree (Events, Podcast and Programs) Moniques Resources: Social Resilience Mastery Class 11/12 Navigating Cycles of Hurt (Avoidance & Control Episode) Moniques Instagram Resilience Tour Instagram Gifted Consultation

Starting your healing journey can feel overwhelming, but with guidance from The Shakti Coach’s first three steps, you'll have a clear path to begin transforming your mental and emotional well-being. In This Episode: Releasing is the first step and other ways to explore this Forgiveness as Self-Love Act Find Your Value/Motivation Tish, known as The Shakti Coach, is a passionate advocate for personal empowerment and inner transformation. With years of experience in the self-development space, she specializes in helping women around the world overcome limiting beliefs, boost self-worth, and ignite their inner fire. Through her transformative programs, inspiring content, and supportive community, Tish empowers individuals to unlock their full potential and lead fulfilling lives. Resources: National Hotline for Mental Health Support Call/Text 988 The Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 can answer your questions confidentially and free of charge. Find- Treatment Directory Moniques Tips 1) Put your local Non Emergency Numbers into your phone for safe keeping, and easy access. 2) set two trusted friends/loved ones in speed dial for 7 minute call of listening. Tish's Links: Break Free and Ignite Masterclass Limiting Beliefs Guide Website Instagram Moniques Links: Gifted Consultation Call Website- Dare to Heal Dare to Heal YouTube

Over the last five years, the world has gone all-in on self-care, with influencers and experts alike swearing by routines and rituals to boost mental health. But what if you've been doing it all and still feel...stuck? In this episode, we dive into the hidden reasons why traditional self-care might not be enough—and what you really need to move forward. In this Episode: - How to get out of Reaction Patterns - What Helps Create Safety - Continuance as Standing Firm in Your Values Resources: Spotify Pattern Episode Making Friends with Your Nervous System Moniques Links Instagram Dare to Heal Youtube Gifted Consultation

Ever wonder why Healing feels like it takes forever? Wer dive into why healing is not a check list with Foot Zone Trainer Maleah Gordon. Maleah Gordon loves people and is passionate about sharing the hopeful message of holistic healing. She is the founder of A.NEW, an organization dedicated to helping people embrace the woo and wise! Through her education programs, keynote speeches, and conference addresses she has instructed and inspired thousands to a happier, more fulfilled way of living. As a Foot Zone trainer, she finds joy in teaching others effective and practical tools that can transform their lives, and the lives of those they facilitate for. In This Episode: What is Foot Zoning The 5 Bodies Root Cause(s) Maleahs Links: Instagram Foot Zone Tool Kit Family Foot Zone Course Foot Zone Certification Moniques Link Instagram Gifted Consultation Building Regulation (Presale ends 10/31/24)

This journal feels WAY More needed than the Future Self Letter, but they definitely share some components. This is for all your "failures", the hurt/pain of your Expectations not being met. Quick and easy but most efficient when you read to Yourself in the Mirror. Resources: Image Resources (feeling wheel) Self Love Workbook Moniques Links Presale Building Regulation Hybrid Gifted Consultation of Your Needs Body Mind Spirit Membership Includes all the Resources for your Mind, Body, and Spiritual Needs. Book a gifted Consult to learn more

Are you ready to get unstuck? These three Journal Prompts help me and my clients stop overwhelm, examine beliefs keeping us stuck, and build quick confidence and encouragement to get through any problem or life transition. In this Episode: why you need to examine beliefs why your mindset work is stalled or plateaued How to reframe with 3 steps Resources from this Episode: Belief Exercise freebie( with Youtube Follow along) Patterns Episode (Neuropathways 101) Moniques Links: Gifted Consultation Call Building Regulation Hybrid

Are you ready to get unstuck? These three Journal Prompts help me and my clients stop overwhelm, examine beliefs keeping us stuck, and build quick confidence and encouragement to get through any problem or life transition. In This Episode: Stop overwhelmed in 9 Minutes How to Let That Shit Go Asking for help is a part of getting unstuck Connected Episodes: Manage Change with Ashley Mina Two Ways to Stop Worrying About Others Moniques Links: Moniques Links: ⁠Gifted Consultation Call⁠ ⁠Building Regulation Hybrid⁠ ⁠Moniques Instagram⁠ ⁠Moniques Youtube ⁠

Do you often sweep hurt feelings or misunderstandings under the rug never to be heard from again? Do you run away or feel attacked when someone explains how they feel? Then this episode is for you. Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves and their relationships. Allie is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Yoga Teacher and Certified Holistic Health Coach with her Master’s in Education. Allies Links and Resources: Allies Website Allies Instagram 9 Steps to Successful Relationship Repair Moniques Links and Socials: Moniques Gifted Consultation Moniques Instagram Circle of Security (resources for Parents)

Does your family also avoid the topic of money? or is money a common topic of tension in your life? Not surprised, money is the most popular topic we humans like to avoid. Erica is a top notch financial planner who does everything for the love and impact of others. With an upbringing in finance she decided to change the narrative of females in the finance industry and take a different approach in her business. Erica looks to inspire and empower female business owners while taking the burden of finance off of their overflowing plate. In doing things a little differently, Erica wants to know your dreams and goals- then provides strategy and support to best bring them into fruition. In this Episode: Perfect Day Complex Legacy Planning Now Making it Easy for Loved Ones Use your Resources Ericas Instagram Monique Links: Instagram Facebook Free Consultation Call My Book Not the Chancla

Ever avoid giving an apology or excluding details to not hurt the other person? Wish you could be more calm when you are apologizing. In this Episode: How to Control the Conversation Co-Regulation as a practice Empathy as a way forward Meet Jon: Jon is a guy trying to do better. He is currently located on planet Earth and is ambivalent about existing in our plane of reality. He is an attorney recruiter by day and an apology educator by night. Jons Links: Jons Website The Apology Workshop Facebook Group Negotiated Apology Instagram Stay Tuned for the Next Workshop on July 18th, 2024 Moniques Links: Gifted Resilience Coaching Call Moniques' Book: Not The Chancla: How Awareness of our History and Trauma Create Compassion to Rewrite our Future Join Monthly Compassion Club OTHER Episodes Mentioned: - Navigating Cycles of Hurt (taking Responsibility or Accountability) - Theirs VS Ours

Are you someone who runs and hides when people get emotionally close? Is hiding from others a common behavior you have? Then you likely lean into the avoidant attachment style. Allie Andrews and I deep dive into this topic, how these behaviors are created, catch a bad rep, and how to build genuine connections. What is Avoidant Attachment Style Skills to Practice Getting Needs Met Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves and their relationships. Allie is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Yoga Teacher and Certified Holistic Health Coach with a Master’s in Education. Other Resources from this Episode: Map of Needs (Circle of Security) 3 Steps to Regulate Your Emotions Connected Episodes Title: Why We Fawn or People Please Patterns Part 1 Allies Links: Instagram Facebook Website Monique Links My Book Not The Chancla Book a Gifted Consultation Instagram

Some of us are control freaks, but sometimes we are bound into submission by systems that make us feel out of control. Have you ever felt this way? In this episode, we explore: Toxic Stress Experience(s) Boundaries Strengths within the Chaos Tara Leson is a multi-passionate entrepreneur who works with online business owners to build and grow their businesses through strategy, systems, and automations. She can use her extensive educational background and experience to not only see the gaps we need to fill to help you reach your goals but do it in a way that feels genuine and authentic to YOU. My passion is helping you truly live out your why and make an impact - with your business and in your life! Taras Links: Website Instagram TikTok Moniques Links Gifted Consultation Not the Chancla: How Awareness of Our History and Trauma Create Compassion to Rewrite Our Future Instagram Facebook LinkedIn

Ever notice how we keep being hurt in our relationships? Are you currently dealing with blame in relationships for yourself or from others? then this episode is for you... In the Episode : Dynamics of Narcissists and People Pleasers Stuckness in Comfort in Cycles Taking Responsibility for Our Patterns Links: My Book: Not The Chancla Book a Gifted Call Socials: Instagram Facebook Eventbrite

Jackie and I went off the rails with our conversation on growth and our gifts. Have you ever considered the parts of your personability as gifts? In the Episode we Chat about: Stepping Out of Victimhood & Seasonal Depression SAFNET Abbreviated into Skill Human Design as a tool to learn your gifts Jackies Links: Instagram Facebook Community Jackies Apple Podcast Link Jackies Spotify Podcast Link More Resources: My Apple Podcast Episode on Regulation My Spotify Podcast Episode on Regulation SAFNET Episode with Amanda (Apple) SAFNET Episode with Amanda (Spotify) Victimhood Mentality Explained: 6 Signs of Victim Mentality The Agony & Ecstasy of Victimhood Monique's Links: Gifted Consultation Building Regulation Hybrid Instagram Eventbrite

Ever feel stagnant or stuck in your healing journey? Have you ever wanted to change your old ways but were too overwhelmed with where to start? This is why I created Building Regulation. Then after four groups, I expanded the program into a hybrid of one-on-one Coaching sessions and Group support. This expanded program supports clients who need extra time to work through old beliefs and values that keep us in the way of our goals. In this episode, you will hear Aspen's story of transformation and a few of the tools I use in the program like Belief Exercise and Fear Climbing. Book a Gifted Consultation Details on Building Regulation Social Media: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠

Stop trying to Diagnose yourself, you are NOT a professional. Trying to guess your friends and family's diagnosis, is also not helpful or cool. Seek professional health, that's where the real coolness is. In this episode, we go over What is the DSM (Diagnostic Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders Why it was created A few Pros and Cons The Book of Woe How to Recognize Perfectly Hidden Depression If you or anyone else is suffering from mental illness or depression, anxiety call the National Hotline at 988 Gifted Consultation

Are you curious about one of the MANY ways to rewire your brain without Retelling "trauma" Stories? Hypnotherapy is regarded as a tool to support this concept, however, my friend Shelley Martinez has an advanced approach using Integrative Change Work. Shelley Martinez is a licensed psychotherapist and life coach, creator of the Inspired Life Alchemy method. She empowers women in particular to break free from feelings like anxiety and personal roadblocks to show up as stronger partners and parents so they can have incredible careers and personal lives. In This Episode: Integrative Change Work Inspired Living Beauty in Crisis Shelleys Links: Shelleys Website Shelleys Instagram Seven Ways to Relax Instant Relaxation Technique Moniques Links: ⁠Building Regulation Presale Ends May 31st⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book a Gifted Consultation⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠

Have you ever wondered about the differences between Coaching and Counseling? In this Part 2 Episode chatting with a Licensed Social Worker, we agree on how flexible Coaching is and how Thought Work is crucial for changing moods. Jennifer Jakobsen is a certified life and business mindset coach for coaches as well as a Licensed Therapist. She helps coaches ditch the doubt in their businesses and lives so they can show up with the confidence and authenticity that attracts paying clients over and over again. She does this using her signature “Clarity to Cash” system. Her clients call her their business therapist since she helps them get out of their heads so they can actually solve the problems in their businesses. In This Episode: Flexibility of Coaching Learn How to Seek Help What Does Trauma-Informed Mean Jennifers Links: Freebie- Uncover Quiz Jennifers Website Jennifers Instagram Jennifers Facebook Monique Links: ⁠Building Regulation Presale Ends May 31st⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book a Gifted Consultation ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠

Do you struggle with getting good sleep? Do you often wake up in the middle of the night and annoyingly can't get back to sleep? Meredith Louden is a transformative sleep coach dedicated to helping driven professionals reclaim their sleep and unlock peak performance. After overcoming 16 years of chronic insomnia herself, Meredith has helped hundreds of clients overcome insomnia naturally through her deep understanding of the mind-body connection. As the founder of Sleep Success®, Meredith combines neuroscience and holistic healing to guide clients toward restful sleep and sustainable success. Currently traveling through South America full-time while running her business, Meredith is passionate about empowering others to embrace their authentic selves and create the lives they truly desire. Merediths Links: FREE Masterclass for Sleep Merediths Website Merediths Instagram Merediths YouTube Page Moniques Links: ⁠Building Regulation Presale Ends May 31st⁠ ⁠Book a Gifted Consultation ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠

Ever wonder why you said yes when you wanted to say no? If you tend towards helping others before helping yourself, this is the episode for you. In this Episode we chat with Allie Andrews about Fawning, why people-pleasing shows up, and much more. Allie helps individuals and couples have better sex and feel happier and more secure in themselves and their relationships. Allie is a Certified Somatica® Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Yoga Teacher, and Certified Holistic Health Coach with her Master’s in Education. In this Episode Allie and I Chat about: Fawning/People-Pleasing in relationships Embodied Boundaries Safety Allies Social Media Links: Instagram Facebook Allies Website and Freebies: Website Boundary Map Masterclass Sexy Conversation Calls (Consent Practice) Monique's Socials ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠ Building Regulation Presale Ends May 31st Book a Gifted Consultation

Ever think about how different you are from your parent's beliefs or values? This happens to us all, especially those of us on a personal growth journey, and those of use taking steps to break old cycles. In This Episode: "Stability" defined by Me and My Mom Navigating Differing Beliefs with Love/Compassion Reflection Questions to support Separation/ Detachment Monique's Socials ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ ⁠Building Regulation Presale Ends May 31st⁠ ⁠Book a Gifted Consultation