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After birth, so many women are told their symptoms are normal — and then left to quietly wonder if they are. Leaking, pain, pressure, discomfort during sex. Normal? Or not?This week I'm joined by Sophia, a pelvic floor physiotherapist based in The Hague with 13 years of specialist experience — and an immigrant herself who understands the unique position international families are in when navigating Dutch healthcare.We cover what's actually normal in the first six weeks postpartum, when to seek help, what a pelvic floor physio appointment in the Netherlands actually involves (including the parts nobody warns you about), and the one thing Sophia wants every woman to hear: there is always a solution.For the international parent in the Netherlands sitting with something they haven't told anyone: this one is for you.

After a late phone call with a friend, I felt the urge to record something very different than usual, as we already are bombarderd with Mothers Day deals, discounts and bundles - but the reality is - we don't want or need more stuff. Our mental overload is barely dealing with managing our home as it is. So this was mine to you. Just words - and acknowledgement for all you go through, raisinig kids, on the daily. Happy Mothers day.

There are some experiences in motherhood that don't end when we think they will.Pregnancy loss is often spoken about as something that happens — and then we move forward. But what's talked about far less is what happens when the grief doesn't stay in the past. When it returns in another pregnancy. Or shows up after your healthy baby is born.Today I'm joined by Dr. Renée Out — a doctor, bereavement counsellor, and founder of Renée Begeleiding — who works closely with women navigating the emotional impact of miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion, and medical pregnancy loss.We talk about why grief doesn't follow timelines, why a healthy baby doesn't erase a previous loss, how the body holds what the mind tries to move past, and what partners can actually do to help.If you've ever thought: "I should feel grateful… so why do I still feel this?" — this one is for you.Part of our Maternal Mental Health Month series.

Nobody told you about this part.Not the rage that rises out of nowhere. Not the way you can go from calm to completely overwhelmed in seconds. Not the fact that it usually lands on the person closest to you — your partner — while the actual source of the pressure stays invisible.Postpartum rage is one of the most common — and most misunderstood — experiences of new motherhood. It is not a character flaw. It is a nervous system under siege.In this episode — the first of our monthly Maternal Mental Health series — I'm joined by Dr. Naomi Gibson, couples therapist and returning Dam Parenting residental guest, to talk about what postpartum rage actually is, when it happens, why it targets our partners, and what help looks like here in the Netherlands.We cover: the clinical definition and why it's not in the DSM | the hormone and sleep science | the expat isolation layer | accessing support via verloskundige, huisarts, and GGZ | and how couples can start to talk about this.This one is for the parent who is holding it together on the outside. You are not alone.

This month is about the conversations we don’t say out loud.I’m bringing in familiar voices and new ones to talk about maternal mental health, the reality of motherhood, and what it actually feels like beneath the surface.These are not easy conversations.They may feel uncomfortable at times.But they matter.Because motherhood can be both a gift…and one of the most draining, excruciating, identity-shifting experiences we go through.And yet, so many of us are expected to carry onas if our entire world hasn’t been turned upside down.These episodes are not for everyone.But they are for someone.They’re not here to give you answers.They’re not here to “fix” anything.They’re here so you can hear something and think:“Okay… it’s not just me.”You are not meant to suffer in silence.You are not meant to do this without support.You are not meant to navigate this without a village.So take what you need from this month.Leave what you don’t.And if something resonates—reach out, share it, or start a conversation of your own.Because it matters.And you matter in this too.

Are you pregnant in the Netherlands — and not sure what your rights at work actually are?You are not alone. This is the most asked-about topic in international parent communities, and in this episode we finally get it answered properly — by an employment lawyer.Eva sits down with Ferline van Laerhoven, founder of Fair Line Law and Dutch employment law specialist, who has spent a decade working with international companies and employees in the Netherlands. In this conversation they cover:→  When you are legally required to tell your employer you're pregnant→  Whether employers are allowed to ask if you're pregnant (even in a job interview)→  Medical appointments and prenatal checks — are they paid time?→  What workplace adjustments employers must legally provide→  Night shifts, overtime and physically demanding work during pregnancy→  Extra paid rest breaks — the legal right most people don't know they have→  Sick leave during pregnancy: why it is treated differently, and why you get 100%→  How sick leave interacts with maternity leave length→  What happens after maternity leave ends if you're still unwell (including PPD/PPA)→  The 16 weeks: how it splits, how it's applied for, and the WAZO process→  Permanent contracts, temporary contracts, part-time and freelancer rights→  What non-renewal of a contract while pregnant really means legally→  Miscarriage before and after 24 weeks — what Dutch law says right now→  The Amsterdam and Utrecht grievance policy — and what it means nationally→  Stillbirth rights and bereavement leave→  Documentation, complaint timelines and what to do when things go wrong→  Partner leave — the full 6-week pictureRESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Fair Line Law — employment lawyer specialising in pregnancy and parenthood at workWebsite: www.fairlinelaw.nl  Instagram: @fairlinelaw    Email: [email protected] Loket — free basic legal advice (income-dependent): www.juridischloket.nlUWV — Employee Insurance Agency, maternity benefit questions: www.uwv.nl Dam Parenting Podcast — questions and community: [email protected] leave episode coming soon — send your questions to [email protected] or DM us on Instagram.

If you've been carrying the weight of your child's minority language entirely on your own — this episode is going to change how you think about multilingual parenting.This week Eva is joined by multilingual family expert Eowyn to explore one of the most undertalked truths in raising bilingual children: you cannot do this alone, sustainably. Language lives in connection — not in one determined parent pushing harder.We talk about what a 'multilingual village' actually looks like for expat families in the Netherlands, how to build one intentionally when you don't have family nearby, the practical power of language partners and community events, and why having multiple people in your child's language life changes everything.Whether you're parenting in English, Bulgarian, Spanish, French or anything in between — this conversation will leave you feeling less alone and more equipped. For international families in the Netherlands, this is the permission to stop being a one-person show.

When I started moving beyond the easy first foods and into toddler snacks, pouches, crackers, and supermarket “healthy” options, I realised I had no idea what I was actually looking at.Why does one snack get a bright green A, while plain nuts or hummus score lower?How can the same crisps get a better Nutri-Score in the larger bag?And why are some brands now quietly removing their Nutri-Score altogether?In this solo DAM Parenting episode, I break down a fascinating Keuringsdienst van Waarde Dutch TV investigation into the Nutri-Score system — translated into English for international parents navigating Dutch supermarkets.We unpack:what Nutri-Score actually measureswhy it’s still voluntary across Europehow brands can “optimise” ultra-processed foods to score betterwhy some frozen pizzas can jump from E to Bwhy certain brands are now dropping the label under the stricter 2026 algorithmwhat this really means for baby snacks, toddler foods, and busy parents trying to make good choicesIf you’ve ever stood in a supermarket wondering whether the front of the packet matches what’s actually inside, this episode is for you.A practical, honest conversation about food labels, processed snacks, and the emotional labour of feeding a family in the Netherlands.If you enjoy these Dutch TV breakdown episodes, message me !

For the very first time on Dam Parenting, both parents are here — together. Liam and Vivi join me to share not one birth story, but two. Two children, two completely different births, and a journey that shows what can happen when you stop being afraid to learn.Vivi is a Greek mum building her own community space in Amsterdam. Liam was previously on the podcast speaking about the vulnerabilities of fatherhood. Together, they talk about the real experience of preparing for birth in the Netherlands — hypnobirthing, doula support, the midwife-kraamzorg-doula team — and what changed between their first and second birth when they truly invested in preparation.This episode is about knowledge as power. It's about what a woman's body can do when she believes in it. And it's about the extraordinary role a partner can play.Two births. Both on their due dates. Both in the Netherlands. One family, transformed by learning.If you want to reach out to Vivi - you can find her at GreekMama on Instagram - she is always up to new nad wonderful things!Liam can be found as a supporting member of so many projects, including - Dads Do Art - Connecting dads & families through creativity and play in Amsterdam Nieuw West. And of course his own Instagram page where you can find out more about his upcoming comedy projects. And soon enough this podcast also! And if you wan to find out more about their wonderful Doula - her instagram is Toni Muller Doula .

An episode over 2 years in the making, and finally it's here. It's not a full comprehensive episode, we dont want to bog you down with everything all at once, but Dr Marenne Van Hangel Budde joins Dam Parenting to discuss tthe foundational elements of the Netherlands health care system for children. We discuss why the system can feel confusing to immigrants, who is who in this system (Huisarts, Consultatiebureau, Kinderarts, SEH, HAP) .We have quick fire rounds to answer real examples of who to reach out to when our little one might need help. We touch on insuarnce, referrals and costs also relarted to our children.

On Wednesday , I rereleased the episode with Dr. Koen Deurloo — the OB-GYN who pioneered the mother-assisted cesarean at Diakonessenhuis Utrecht. You saved it, shared it, and sent it to friends who needed it.Today, we hear from the other side of that operating table.Geri had her youngest child with Dr. Deurloo as her gynaecologist, and in this episode she walks us through everything — the moment she first heard about the MAC, the decision-making process, her pregnancy, her preparation, and the extraordinary experience of lifting her own baby into the world with her own hands.This is an honest, emotional, and deeply human birth story. And it is for every mother who has ever wondered whether she is allowed to want something different.In this episode:— Why Geri chose a mother-assisted cesarean and how she made that decision— What the preparation and pregnancy journey looked like— A step-by-step account of the day itself — walking into the hospital, the operating room, the moment of birth— Recovery, the emotional aftermath, and what she knows now that she wishes she had known before— What she would say to a mother sitting somewhere right now, wondering if this could be right for herWhether you are planning a cesarean, hoping to avoid one, or simply want to feel prepared for every possibility — this episode will stay with you.Follow Geri on Instagram here moedergeassisteerdekeizersnedeListen to our Dr. Koen Deurloo episode for the full clinical picture — linked in show notes. @kldloo on InstagramDAM Parenting is a weekly podcast for international families navigating pregnancy, birth and parenthood in the Netherlands. Every Wednesday (plus an extra here or there!)

April is International Cesarean Awareness Month — and I can think of no better time to bring back one of our most-loved episodes.In the Netherlands, the cultural weight around birth can make a cesarean feel like a deviation from the "right" path. But what if a C-section could still be a deeply empowering, connected, and beautiful birth experience? Dr. Koen Deurloo, OB-GYN at Diakonessenhuis Utrecht, is proof that it absolutely can.Dr. Deurloo is the pioneer of the mother-assisted cesarean — a practice he developed in 2017 in which the birthing parent plays an active, physical role in their own surgical birth. Since then, he has performed around 400 mother-assisted births, published his book Door de ogen van een gynaecoloog, and is now training gynecologists across the Netherlands to bring this option to more hospitals.In this episode, together with Dr. Deurloo we explore:What a mother-assisted cesarean actually looks like — and why it's just 4 extra minutesHow the Dutch medical system approaches maternal agency in the operating theaterSkin-to-skin contact, postpartum recovery, and bonding after a cesareanHow to advocate for your birth preferences — even when the system pushes backWhy cesarean births deserve to be honored, not minimizedWhether you're planning a C-section, want to be prepared for every birth path, or simply believe that mothers deserve to feel empowered in every delivery room — this episode is for you.Find Dr. Deurloo:📱 Instagram: @kldloo💻 Expert at Ouders van Nu & How About Mom

I thought I’d feel better by now.The days are longer. The light is back.But instead of feeling energised… many parents feel exhausted, heavy, and behind.In this episode, I’m sharing what it really feels like to come out of winter in motherhood—the emotional backlog, the pressure to re-engage, and why spring isn’t always a fresh start.If this is where you are right now, this episode is for you.

Cancer as an expat in the Netherlands hits differently.In this episode of DAM Parenting, we speak with Katherine, founder of Cancer Support Netherlands — a Dutch non-profit offering English-language, community-based support for internationals navigating cancer.Being diagnosed with cancer can turn life upside down.But for those living far from home — expats, immigrants, international families — the experience can feel even more isolating.Navigating treatment in a different language, without your usual support systems, while trying to process the emotional weight of illness… can be overwhelming.Cancer Support Netherlands was created to bridge this gap.In this episode, we explore:• What it means to face cancer while living abroad• Language barriers in the Dutch healthcare system• The emotional reality of illness without family nearby• Support for partners, caregivers, and families• The importance of English-language peer support• How community spaces can change the experience of cancerCancer Support Netherlands offers:• Confidential peer support groups• English-language community spaces• Events, workshops, and expert-led sessions• Support for patients, survivors, and caregivers• Flexible ways to connect — privately or in communityThey welcome:• Expats and internationals• Migrants and immigrants• Refugees• Binational families• Long-term residents• Anyone who feels most comfortable expressing themselves in EnglishThis episode is released in recognition of Daffodil Day — a national day of cancer awareness in Ireland.Because cancer awareness isn’t just one day a year.And for those living abroad, the need for support doesn’t follow a calendar.If you are navigating cancer, supporting someone who is, or part of an international community in the Netherlands — this episode is for you.No one should face cancer alone.And language should never be a barrier to support.Links for suport:Public Page (Friends & Supporters)Follow our work, events, advocacy and Hive Network updates: https://www.facebook.com/share/1Bm2VGKr5b/?mibextid=wwXIfr Facebook Private Support Group (confidential space)For emotional support, connection, and sharing with others affected by cancer: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1DBabL8fWr/?mibextid=wwXIfr Instagram https://www.instagram.com/cancer_support_netherlands LinkedIn https://nl.linkedin.com/company/cancer-support-netherlands

You've just received an autism diagnosis for your child — and suddenly someone tells you to stop speaking your home language. For international families in the Netherlands, that advice doesn't just feel wrong. It feels like losing a piece of who you are.In this episode, Eva sits down with linguist and multilingualism specialist Mimi Potvin to talk about what the research actually says about raising autistic children in multilingual families — and why so much of the advice parents receive is simply not supported by science.After listening, you'll know why bilingualism does not cause additional language delays in autistic children, what actually happens when families are told to drop their home language, and how to build a flexible, child-led language approach that supports both development and belonging.New episodes every week. Subscribe wherever you listen.

Becoming a mother is a total biological and psychological transformation, yet society often expects us to "bounce back" as if nothing happened. In this archive favorite, Eva continues the conversation on matrescence with Amsterdam-based doula Ilena Standring, focusing on the deeply personal topic of body image. We move past the superficial to have a warm, honest, and direct conversation about why so many women feel like strangers in their own skin after pregnancy.We explore how patriarchal beauty standards and diet culture complicate the postpartum experience, and why shifting your focus from body perfection to body functionality can be life-changing. Please note: this episode touches on sensitive topics, including trauma and sexual abuse. This is a journey toward learning to inhabit yourself again—not as the person you were before, but as the woman you are now. Your body adapted, healed, and sustained life; it’s time to offer it the compassion it deserves.

Matrescence isn't a one-time event; it’s an ongoing evolution. In this special archive episode of Dam Parenting, we revisit a powerful conversation with Amsterdam-based doula Ilena Standring that is just as relevant today as it was two years ago. While many of us have now heard the term "matrescence," we often still struggle with the quiet, daily reality of feeling like we’ve lost ourselves in the process of raising children.We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional and psychological rewiring that happens when we become mothers. Ilena shares her profound insights on holding space for this transition, helping you recognize that the "identity fog" you might be feeling isn't a failure—it's a transformation. Whether you are a new parent or years into the journey, this episode is a reminder to bring these silent shifts back into the light. It’s time to stop just surviving your new identity and start honoring the woman you are becoming.

Why is it that 67% of mothers have never heard the word "matrescence," yet almost all of them are living through it? In this powerful and essential conversation, Eva sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to unpack the developmental process of becoming a mother. Much like adolescence, matrescence involves a massive rewiring of the brain, hormonal shifts, and a complete reorganization of your identity.We take a warm, honest, and direct look at why so many mothers—especially those raising families abroad—feel "lost" after having a baby. We explore why defining yourself solely as a "mother" can be harmful to your mental health and how to navigate the dip in self-esteem that often follows this life-altering transition. If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and asked, "Who am I now?" this episode is your permission slip to acknowledge that you aren't just a parent—you are a woman in the middle of a massive evolution.

Parenthood rarely follows the script we imagine, but for families navigating a rare disease diagnosis, the shift can feel overwhelming. In this warm, honest, and direct episode for Rare Disease Day, Eva is joined by Sarah, who shares her family’s lived experience of parenting in the Netherlands through the lens of a rare condition. We move past the clinical details to discuss the "human" side: the initial grief, the search for a diagnosis, and the power of finding a community that truly understands.Sarah introduces A Different Story, a vital space created for parents in the Netherlands to be seen, heard, and held. We discuss how labels can serve as tools for finding support rather than reasons for hiding, and why building a village of "rare" parents is essential for maintaining your own resilience. Whether you are at the start of a diagnostic journey or are looking for ways to advocate for your child’s dignity, this episode reminds you that you don't have to navigate the path alone.

Montessori education is woven into the fabric of Dutch life, but it’s more than just wooden toys and minimalist aesthetics. In this top-10 replay for Montessori Education Week, Eva sits down with Simone Davies, world-renowned author of The Montessori Toddler and founder of Amsterdam’s Jacaranda Tree Montessori. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how to bring these principles into your home without feeling overwhelmed.Simone explains how to shift your child from dependence to collaboration and eventually independence. We explore the power of observation in transforming "behavior problems" into moments of deep connection and how to foster intrinsic motivation without using pressure or control. Whether you are navigating the Dutch basisschool system or simply want a home where your child feels truly welcome and capable, this conversation offers the grounded, research-backed tools you need to support your child’s development in the Netherlands.

It starts with a simple request from a child to "put the phone away" and grows into a national conversation. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we explore the grassroots movement Smartphonevrij Opgroeien (Growing Up Smartphone-Free) and what it means for international families in the Netherlands. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the research linking early smartphone use to anxiety and sleep disruption, and why experts are now recommending a "wait until 15" approach for social media.We break down how the movement works locally, from checking your school’s participation stats to joining English-speaking WhatsApp groups for peer support. This episode offers practical advice on how to delay device access without socially isolating your child. Whether you have a toddler or a pre-teen, this is an essential guide to prioritizing "pro-childhood" values over digital pressure. It’s time to move past the screen and back to the connection.Links to support you:Want to join the Whatsapp group in your area? ⁠CLICK HERE⁠Want to join the Whatsapp group for English speakers: ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ - (in select jouw regio - scroll to bottom for ENGLISH)If you want to check out your own school (or chosen school) ⁠CLICK HERE⁠ on your regionClick on the image of a school - Bekijk hoeveel ouders....From there it will show you the number of students and schools, with the list of cities underneath.Click into the city and you will get a breakdown of each school registered and keep clicking.. It gets more and more interesting! You will see how many kids in your school, and even by which groep they are in.If you want the read the materials related to the ⁠UK website CLICK HERE

For International Mother Language Day 2026, we are tackling a vulnerable and rarely discussed topic: the grief of watching the societal language overtake your home language. As international parents in the Netherlands, we celebrate our children’s integration, but it often comes with the fear of losing "relational access." In this warm, honest, and direct episode, Eva and Maren explore what happens when Dutch begins to dominate your child’s friendships, humor, and identity.We dive into the "8–9 year home language dip" and why the transition to primary school often shifts the power balance of communication. This conversation isn’t about resisting Dutch; it’s about protecting the emotional closeness that your mother tongue provides. We offer practical strategies to maintain your influence, preserve your heritage, and ensure that language never becomes a barrier to intimacy. If you’ve ever felt a pang of sadness when your child answers you in Dutch, this episode is a compassionate reminder that you are not alone.

Asian motherhood in the Netherlands comes with a unique set of pressures—from cultural expectations and career demands to the quiet, constant work of belonging. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva is joined by the founder of Second Steep, a community dedicated to Asian working mothers navigating life without a traditional map. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the intersections of culture, care, and identity.From the complexities of interracial marriage and identity negotiation to raising multilingual children with cultural pride, we explore what it truly means to stay rooted while letting go of external expectations. We also discuss practical ways to introduce culture ethically in diverse cities like Amsterdam and Eindhoven. Whether you’re looking for community dinners or simply seeking a space that doesn’t require explanation, this conversation is a gentle, affirming reminder that you aren't mothering alone.

Children’s mental health is frequently discussed only when something feels "wrong," but what if it’s actually something we support through our daily relationships? In this episode of Dam Parenting, resident child psychologist Dr. Faye Poole provides a warm, honest, and direct perspective on emotional wellbeing. Moving away from labels and fear-mongering, we explore how connection acts as the ultimate protective factor against the stresses of international life.We dive into the science of how stress affects a child’s body and the research-backed ways parents can "buffer" that impact through simple routines and emotional attunement. This conversation is a vital reminder for expat parents that you don’t need to be perfect to be a "safe harbor" for your child. We also provide a clear roadmap for navigating the Dutch healthcare system—from the Huisarts to the Ouder- en Kindteam (OKT)—so you know exactly where to turn when you need extra support.

It’s the email every parent in the Netherlands dreads. In this warm, honest, and direct solo episode, Eva tackles the "itchy" reality of head lice with a mix of personal stories and hard facts. We’re breaking down the myths: hygiene has absolutely nothing to do with it, and lice are just as common in high schools as they are in primary classrooms.Eva explores the science of how lice actually spread (spoiler: they can't jump or fly!) and which treatments really work—and which are just a waste of your time and money. Most importantly, we’re addressing the unnecessary shame and silence that often keep outbreaks going. Whether you’re currently armed with a nit comb or just want to be prepared for the inevitable "Luizenmoeder" check, this episode is a stigma-free guide to handling one of the most common hurdles of parenting in the Netherlands.

Starting school in a foreign language is a significant cognitive challenge, but it’s the emotional challenge that often weighs heaviest on our children. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva is joined by Mimi from ⁠Growing Up Multilingual⁠ to take a warm, honest, and direct look at why emotional language is a superpower for kids entering the Dutch school system. We debunk the myth that children "just pick up" the words for their feelings and explore what they actually experience emotionally in a classroom where they don't yet speak the dominant tongue.Mimi explains why building a strong emotional vocabulary in your home language is actually the best way to support their confidence at school. We share practical strategies for teaching "needs-based" words and discuss how parents and teachers can collaborate to build a sense of safety. Whether your child is about to start their journey or is already navigating life between languages, this episode offers the tools to ensure they feel heard, even when they’re still finding their voice.

Between the "to-do" lists and the emotional demands of raising children abroad, joy can feel frivolous—but it’s actually sustaining. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with Eva, psychologist and founder of The Joy Embassy, for a warm, honest, and direct conversation about why joy is a vital parenting resource. We explore the 2026 landscape of parenting and how simple, research-backed practices can strengthen your connection with your child and protect your mental health.Eva explains the science of how joy functions in the brain and body to regulate our nervous systems. We discuss how to hold space for hard emotions without letting them overshadow the small, "glimmer" moments of daily life. This isn’t about being happy all the time; it’s about learning to notice, strengthen, and create moments of presence that help you show up as the parent you want to be. Tune in to discover how to make joy a sustainable part of your 2026 parenting toolkit.Guest: Eva — The Joy Embassy Website: thejoyembassy.com

Parenthood doesn't just change your schedule; it changes your soul. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva is joined by Ellen Johnson, founder of Evergreen Coaching & Consulting, for a warm, honest, and direct conversation about what happens when your career no longer fits the person you’ve become. Whether you’ve recently relocated to the Netherlands, stepped back from the workforce, or are working but feeling a quiet sense of misalignment, this episode is an invitation to pause.Building on our recent talks about nervous system regulation, we explore how to find clarity once the "survival mode" of early parenting settles. Ellen shares insights on recognizing when your work is out of sync with your new values, redefining success on your own terms, and re-entering the professional world with intention rather than urgency. If you’re sensing a need for change but aren't sure where to start, join us as we explore how to align your work with the life you’re living now. Listen with intention — and come back to it when you have space to really sit with the questions.Head over to Instagram to find out visual support queues Ellen created just for you.Find Ellen and her work at evergreen-cc.com

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Raising a family far from home brings a mental load that few people talk about openly. In this episode of Dam Parenting, therapist Rachael Forster joins us to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the chronic stress and anxiety that high-functioning international parents often carry. We explore why living abroad keeps our nervous systems in "fight or flight" mode and how that constant state of alert leads to deep exhaustion and a loss of self.This isn't a conversation about adding more to your to-do list; it’s about learning to breathe again. Rachael shares simple, body-based tools you can use in the heat of a tantrum or a busy workday to reset your internal alarm. We even include a short, guided regulation reset designed for overstimulated parents. Tune in to discover how to reconnect with the person you are beneath the roles of planner and problem-solver, and find your way back to calm.

January 6th marks Nollaig na mBan, or Women’s Christmas—an Irish tradition dedicated to honoring the unseen work women do and reclaiming space for rest after the holiday chaos. In this warm, honest, and direct episode, Eva explores why the "New Year, New You" narrative is often a trap for parents already carrying a heavy mental load. Instead of pushing for productivity and fresh starts, we discuss why mid-winter is biologically and emotionally meant for pausing.For international parents in the Netherlands, the pressure to "hit the ground running" can feel relentless. This episode is your permission slip to slow down. We dive into the history of Nollaig na mBan, the reality of invisible labor, and how to enter the new year with compassion rather than a to-do list. Whether you’re an expat or raising a family far from your roots, join us for a moment of recognition: you’ve done enough, and now, it’s time to rest.

In this raw and unpolished finale to our holiday series, Eva delivers a warm, honest, and direct "thank you" to the community that has made 2025 such an incredible year for Dam Parenting. Recorded amidst the post-holiday whirlwind—unpacked suitcases, bedtime battles, and the sudden pop of Dutch fireworks—this episode is a real-time reflection of the beautiful, messy reality of parenting abroad.As we look back on 150+ episodes of sharing birth stories, navigating the Dutch healthcare system, and exploring the depths of matrescence, we also look forward to 2026. Eva shares a sneak peek into the new voices, fresh topics, and exciting shifts coming to the show. Whether you’ve been listening since 2023 or just joined our international village, this is an invitation to stay connected as we continue to build a space where every parent in the Netherlands feels seen. Cheers to a new year of growth, support, and slightly less "last-minute" magic!

While the world focuses on festive magic, many parents are quietly bracing for the impact of broken routines and big family expectations. In this warm, honest, and direct episode, Eva is joined by child psychologist Faye to look at what is actually happening in a child’s brain when the holidays become "too much." We move past the guilt of holiday stress to explore the science of overstimulation—from the exhaustion of travel to the sensory overload of big gatherings.Faye shares realistic, parent-tested tools to help you protect your child’s emotional safety without feeling like you have to control every single moment. We discuss how to navigate family pressure when your child needs space and why your own regulation is the key to their calm. This isn’t a guide to a perfect Christmas; it’s a survival plan for creating pockets of peace amidst the chaos, ensuring the season feels supportive for the whole family.

How do children really find their voice in multiple languages? In this warm, honest, and direct episode, Eva sits down with resident linguist Mimi from Growing Up Multilingual to explore the profound link between play and speech. For international parents, the pressure to "teach" a heritage language can be overwhelming, but Mimi explains why slowing down is actually the most effective strategy.We dive into how simple, low-pressure activities—like coloring, drawing, and open-ended play—create the emotional safety children need to experiment with language. We also discuss navigating the overstimulation of busy seasons and why returning to basic connection can strengthen both your bond and your child’s bilingual skills. Whether you’re worried about language delays or just want to support your child’s multilingual journey without it feeling like a chore, this conversation offers the gentle reset you need. Play isn't just fun; for a multilingual child, it's how they learn to belong in every language they speak

The Dutch festive season is a whirlwind of light festivals, Christmas markets, and cozy museum outings—but knowing where to go can be overwhelming for international parents. In this episode, Eva is joined by Samira from AmsterdamKids to talk through the best ways to make the most of winter in the Netherlands. While the specific dates from this broadcast have passed, the strategies for finding the best "kid-proof" holiday magic remain the same.We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the joys (and the logistics) of managing the December calendar. From choosing the right winter events to finding those hidden gems that make the season special, this conversation is a celebration of Dutch winter traditions. For the most up-to-date, current holiday listings and weekend inspiration, we highly recommend heading over to the AmsterdamKids website and following their social channels. They are the ultimate "village" resource for keeping your family calendar full all year round.

Between the sugar rushes and the cultural juggling of the Dutch festive season, December often leads to parental burnout. In this warm, honest, and direct episode, Eva offers a "parent-to-parent reset." We’re shifting the focus away from the pressure to "buy all the things" and toward the grounding practice of giving back.Eva introduces the concept of the Reverse Advent Calendar—a simple, heart-opening way to involve your children in supporting families in need. We also spotlight incredible Dutch organizations like Serving the City Amsterdam, Kerst Zwolle, and the ADRA Christmas Box Campaign, where you can drop off essentials. If you are craving a holiday season with less noise and more purpose, this is your gentle invitation to take a breath and build a box. Let’s trade the holiday meltdown for meaningful connection and remind our kids (and ourselves) what this season is really about.Ways to get involved across the Netherlands, including: Serving the City Amsterdam, kerstzwolle.nl, the ADRA Christmas Box Campaign, and nationwide Kerstpakketjesactie drives.Got others you want mentioned? Reach out on Instagram to add others to share with our communtiy!If you’re craving a December with less pressure and more purpose, this is your gentle invitation.Take a breath. Gather your kids. Build a box. Make a difference.You’re not alone in this season — and neither are the families we choose to support.

Bringing home a second baby is one of the most beautiful—and logistically challenging—milestones a family can face. In this highly requested episode, child psychologist Faye Poole from Kerr Psychology joins us to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the transition from one child to two. We move past the "perfect" nursery prep and focus on what really matters: your first-born’s emotional world.Faye shares practical, science-backed strategies to help your oldest child feel secure, seen, and supported as they navigate their new role as a big sibling. We discuss how to prepare them before the birth, how to handle the inevitable "tricky" emotions once the baby arrives, and how to protect your connection with your eldest when you’re exhausted. Whether you’re currently pregnant or right in the thick of the newborn haze, this conversation provides the tools to make this transition feel safe, grounded, and joyfully messy.

Is the One Parent, One Language (OPOL) method a magic formula for bilingual success, or is it just another source of parenting guilt? In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva sits down with linguist and multilingual mother Mimi from Growing Up Multilingual to take a warm, honest, and direct look at this century-old strategy. We unpack where OPOL came from, why it’s so widely recommended, and—most importantly—what happens when it meets the messy reality of daily life in a foreign country.Mimi explains why your language plan should be a "living document" rather than a rigid set of rules. We discuss the pressure to achieve "perfect" bilingualism and how to pivot when a strict strategy starts to hinder your emotional connection with your child. If you’ve ever worried you’re "doing it wrong," this episode is your invitation to breathe easier. Tune in to learn how to prioritize relational closeness over linguistic perfection.

Living abroad often forces families into a "survivalist" independence that can inadvertently create distance between partners. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva sits down with Angela from the Expat Parenting Collective to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the fine line between "I've got this" and "we've got this." Without a traditional support network nearby, your partnership becomes your primary village—but how do you keep it from buckling under the pressure?We explore the practicalities of sharing the mental load, from using shared calendars to the necessity of outsourcing. Angela shares how intentional communication and weekly check-ins can prevent burnout and resentment, helping you blend your home and host cultures into a grounded family rhythm. Whether you are navigating new Dutch norms or simply trying to feel like a team again, this conversation offers the real-world strategies you need to build a resilient home away from home.

Leaving a country isn’t just a logistical checklist; it’s a profound emotional journey. In this special episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with Erin, who recently made the heartfelt decision to leave the Netherlands and move her family closer to their extended support network. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the courage it takes to recognize what your family and your own wellbeing need most, even when it means leaving a community you love.We explore the "expat grief" that comes with saying goodbye, the shifts in identity that occur when you stop being an international resident, and the complex meaning of "home" after years abroad. Whether you are currently contemplating a move, in the middle of a transition, or the one left behind saying goodbye to a friend, Erin’s story offers a reality check on the strength found in choice. Join us as we honor the shared stories of our community and the pieces of the Netherlands we carry with us, wherever we go.

Do you ever close Instagram feeling like you’re failing, even though your kids are happy and fed? In this episode of Dam Parenting, resident psychologist Dr. Faye Poole joins Eva to take a warm, honest, and direct look at how social media fuels the "perfect parenting" myth. We explore the psychological link between endless scrolling and the decline of parental confidence, uncovering why we compare our behind-the-scenes reality to everyone else’s highlight reel.Faye shares practical strategies for protecting your mental health, building self-compassion, and modeling healthy digital habits for your children. We move past the influencers to discuss how to reconnect with what truly matters: authentic connection and emotional safety. Whether you’re a new parent looking for advice or a seasoned pro tired of the pressure, this conversation offers the mindset shifts you need for a calmer, more grounded approach to parenting in the digital age.

What happens when two parents share a child, but don't share the same vision for their multilingual future? In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva is joined by Mimi from Growing up Multilingual⁠ to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "hidden" side of bilingual parenting: parental alignment. We explore why even the most detailed language strategy will fail if parents are pulling in different directions.Mimi dives into the emotional territory of heritage languages and explains how our own childhood identities shape the way we parent today. We discuss why couples often overlook these crucial conversations early on and share five key questions every couple should ask to build a truly shared journey. Whether you're struggling with a partner who isn't "invested" or just want to strengthen your foundation, this episode offers the tools to turn your language plan into a source of connection rather than conflict.

Halloween is just around the corner — and the Netherlands is getting spook-tacular! This week, Samira from Amsterdam Kids joins us to share her top picks for family-friendly Halloween fun — from pumpkin patches to science parties and everything in between. Whether your kids are tiny pumpkins or full-on thrill seekers, we’ve got something for everyone:Robbeburg — little-kid-approved Halloween crafts and costume funPumpkin picking — the perfect autumn photo op (and pie excuse)Speeltuin Amstelpark — cozy autumn playtime with a spooky twistNoordOogst — family farm vibes, treats, and community Halloween spiritGroteschijn — magical light festival nightsWalibi & Heksendoorn — for the brave (and slightly older!) ghoulsScience Camp Halloween Party — experiments that glow, fizz, and go boo! Cultural Trick-or-Treat events — creative costumes, candy, and community funSo whether you’re planning your first pumpkin adventure or mapping out a family fright night, tune in for ideas that make this Halloween magical for both young and old. Stay till the end — there’s a special giveaway for the Science Camp Halloween Party!

The Herfstvakantie may be over, but the challenge of keeping kids entertained in the Dutch weather is a year-round reality. In this episode, Eva and Samira from AmsterdamKids look back at their ultimate survival guide for the autumn break. While the specific holiday dates have passed, the "rainy-day heroes" mentioned—like the Eye Film Museum, CineKid, and Sprookjeswonderland—remain top-tier recommendations for any weekend in the Netherlands.We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the best nature escapes and day trips that are "worth putting on real pants for," even when the rain is falling horizontally. Consider this episode your evergreen roadmap for family fun across Amsterdam, Eindhoven, and beyond. For the latest seasonal updates and current event listings, be sure to keep an eye on the AmsterdamKids website, your go-to resource for making the most of life with little ones in the Netherlands, no matter the season.

Healthcare in the Netherlands shouldn't feel like a barrier to your well-being. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we spotlight the Healthy Here event taking place on November 1st in Amstelveen. This is a rare, free opportunity for international parents to bypass the standard referral system and speak directly with Dutch health professionals in plain English.We take a warm, honest, and direct look at why events like this are vital for our community. Whether you’ve struggled to feel "seen" by the current system or you're simply looking for trusted local resources, Healthy Here offers a space for clarity and connection. Tune in to hear what to expect from the fair, how it can help you navigate the Dutch system with more confidence, and why building these community bridges is the first step toward better health for your whole family.Health Fair Amstelveen 2025

Relationships aren't easy, but they are especially complex when you’re juggling cultural differences, career shifts, and parenting far from home. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva is joined by Angela from the Expat Parenting Collective to take a warm, honest, and direct look at how clear communication protects our most important bonds. We move past the surface level to discuss why "saying what you mean" is a vital act of relationship maintenance for international couples.Inspired by Angela’s recent insights on the unique mental load of global families, we explore how to set healthy boundaries and use emotional honesty to prevent resentment before it builds. We also discuss the concept of partnership—not just with your spouse, but with your children—and how to cultivate a true sense of "home" within your family unit, regardless of your GPS coordinates. If you’re feeling the strain of expat life on your relationship, this episode offers the reality check and practical tools you need to stay connected.

Looking for ways to spark your child's curiosity in Amsterdam? In this episode, we celebrate our very first collaboration with The Science Camp, spotlighting their brand-new learning space on Kinkerstraat in Amsterdam West. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how hands-on science—from "Crazy Chemistry" to "Astronomy Adventures"—helps kids develop creativity and confidence.While our launch giveaway has now closed, this conversation remains a fantastic resource for international parents seeking high-quality, English-friendly activities. Whether you’re curious about their "Toddler Lab" or looking for engaging options for the Herfstvakantie (Autumn break), we dive into what makes this community space a must-visit. Tune in to hear how we can bring more "explosive" fun into our family routines and why fostering a love for discovery is so important for our global kids.

Happy International Podcast Day! In this special celebratory episode, Eva reflects on the incredible journey of Dam Parenting—from a small idea to a thriving resource with over 150 episodes and 20,000+ downloads. This milestone is about more than just numbers; it’s about the international community we’ve built together here in the Netherlands.We take a warm, honest, and direct look back at the topics that have shaped us, from destigmatizing maternal mental health and navigating the Dutch healthcare system to exploring the profound identity shifts of matrescence. This episode is a heartfelt "thank you" to every listener who has joined our village. Whether you’ve been with us since day one or just found us, we’re inviting you to help shape what comes next. Join the conversation as we celebrate how far we’ve come and look ahead to the future of supporting international families, one story at a time.

It takes a village to raise a child, but who is supporting the parents? In this episode, Eva sits down with Maria from @MamaMariacoach, the visionary behind the BBABBY Fair. While this specific event has concluded, the conversation highlights a vital shift in the parenting world: moving away from "stuff" and toward professional, human-centered support.From pregnancy and nutrition to NICU stories and maternal mental health, the BBABBY Fair brought together over 60 professionals—including podcast favorites like Dr. Naomi Gibson and Amélie—to provide the wisdom they once wished they had. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the story behind the fair and why meeting your community face-to-face is the ultimate antidote to the isolation of expat parenting. Tune in to hear how we are reshaping the concept of "community" in the Netherlands and why your support network should always come before your stroller.

What does it take for a community space to thrive for half a century? In this special episode, Eva takes us inside Robbeburg, a family-founded community center in Amsterdam Zuid that has served as a vital lifeline for international parents since the 1970s. We’re joined by volunteer Kelli to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the power of community-led childcare and the essential role these spaces play in preventing the isolation so common in expat life.We discuss Robbeburg’s unique history, its future, and why local support systems are the backbone of a successful life abroad. To mark this 50-year milestone, we’re also highlighting an incredible community raffle featuring prizes from over 30 local businesses—from sleep coaching and wellness sessions to Dutch lessons and dining experiences. Tune in to hear how you can support this Amsterdam institution and ensure that the next generation of international families has a place to belong.