Love Letters with Jason & Ros

Send us Fan MailYes, you read that title right! In Episode 5, we’re unpacking “M” for Marriage — and revealing the two cuss words that can wreck marriages when we ignore God’s design. Marriage isn’t a contract. It’s a covenant that thrives (or falls apart) based on how we choose to live it, God’s way or our way. We’re getting real about what it takes to build a marriage filled with joy, peace, trust, and genuine love, even when it’s hard.Dear Singles, this is for you too! You don’t have to be married to gain wisdom, perspective, and hope for your relationships. What we share here can help prepare your heart, protect it, and align it with God’s vision for love.  Our prayer and purpose: That your thinking shifts, heart strengthens, and you walk away empowered to live out your love letters.Hit play and prepare for transformative truths, laughter, and a fresh perspective on what marriage really requires. This conversation might just change how you live and love!Chapters:0:00     Welcome Intro1:40     What Everyone Needs to Know About Marriage!8:55     Engaged Twice, Broke Up Thrice, 3rd Time Was a Charm— Our Marriage Story17:31   “Husband & Wife Life” After the Honeymoon19:46   Marriage Challenge #1- Unawareness of the Covenant20:42   Marriage Challenge #2- The Soulmate Myth21:36   The Two CUSS WORDS of Marriage- Challenge #332:15   Marriage Challenge #4- A Broken Covenant35:56   Don’t Give Up On Loving Again After Breakup or Divorce37:00   Biblical Truth— 1 Peter Chapter 3, Verses 1 and 740:12   Overcoming & Winning in Marriage43:38   Episode 5 Power Takeaways for Your Marriage52:03   Your Love Letter Challenge & Closing Prayer3 Purposes of Marriage:Marriage and family are by God’s design. It is the first ordinance He created between one man and one woman with a divine purpose for life on earth.Carry Out the Covenant - Through respect, loyalty, and commitment.Procreate - Be fruitful and multiply. Couples without children can STILL be Spiritual parents and leaders in helping disciple the next generation.Companionship - Love, Support, and mutual Service.Power Takeaways to Win in Marriage:Keep Covenant— Stay committed and mindful of the “covenant” promise between the two of you and God. Seek help when and if the covenant is “broken.”Expect Challenges—  They WILL come; be prepared to face and do the work together without blame.Submit & Serve— For strength and growth.There’s power in submitting to each otherThere’s peace in his “Godly” leadershipGet regular marriage check-ups/tune-ups! Agree to participate in the 3 Cs:Level 1: ConversationsLevel 2: ConferencesLevel 3: Counseling & CoachingBiblical Truths:1 Peter Chapter 3, verses 1 and 71“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives.”7“The same goes for you husbands: Be good to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives as equals so your prayers won’t be hindered.”Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:Conduct a “Marriage Check-up or Tune-up!” Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/loveletterswithjasonandrosLive out your Love Letter. 💌

Send us Fan MailAre you ready to have your mind blown and bubbles busted on everything you thought you knew about Love? Get ready to discover the truth about “L” for Love, how to nurture it in your love relationships, and avoid those toxic patterns that leave us busted and disgusted!In Episode 4, Jason and Ros zero in on Love— what it is, what it's not, and how to appropriately put it to work in all of your relationships! The goal is for you to gain a sober awareness of love in its purest form, while also understanding why it is THE single most essential ingredient for making any relationship work! So, grab a seat, tune in, and prepare to experience transformation in your mind and in your relationships as we explore why 'Love Has Everything To Do With It!'Chapters:0:00 - Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros1:17 - “What IS Love?”: Debunking Myths/Busting Bubbles4:30 - 4 Primary Types of Love11:04 - “When Did You Know You Loved Me?”- Our Story22:25 - When Love Can HURT: Exploring Love Challenges32:34 - Winning & Overcoming in Love Relationships33:11 - Love A.D.— Power Takeaways39:34 - Bible Truths:  1 Corinthians 13: 4-8, John 13: 34-3540:42 - Love Letter Challenge & Closing Prayer4 Primary Types of Love:Eros – Expressing sensual love and intimacy between a husband and a wife. Focused on pleasing each other. (Marriage covenant)Philia – Brotherly and friendship love through sharing values, supporting one another via trust and loyalty.  A deep bond between friends.  (Friendship covenant)Storge – Family love.  Natural affection between parents and children or among family members. (Family covenant)Agape – God's unconditional love for humanity. And humanity's love for one another, giving love without conditions (Blood covenant through Jesus Christ).When Can Love Hurt In Relationships?Know the signs of unrequited love and be prepared to face challenges head-on, knowing that God is with and already loves us unconditionally! Forms of love— Eros, Philia, Storge, or Agape are used for manipulation, oppression, and selfish gain.Abuse, chaos, and neglect become the norm in the relationship.One or both parties have deep misconceptions about love.There is 'unforgiveness' in the relationship.When someone makes it HARD to love/serve them.When someone "stops loving"—Service ends because one or both parties gave up, or one wouldn’t allow love to grow and flow.  Service of love never began = One or both parties didn't love each other in the first place.Biblical Truths:1 Corinthians 13: 4-8a - “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…”John 13: 34-35 - “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this, everyone will know that you are My disciples, if you love one another.”Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:Review 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8a and identify where you personally may be struggling with loving others. Then, commit to talking with someone about the struggle.Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/loveletterswithjasonandrosLive out your Love Letter. 💌

Send us Fan MailIt’s time to talk and join the conversation with Episode 3: “C”- Communication. Overcoming communication challenges in love relationships is possible! It took us 30 years to hold effective conversations, and we’re still working on it!In this Love Letter episode, we explore ways you can develop your unique “Rules of Engagement” plan for effective communication between you and your loved ones. Could communication gaps and barriers in your relationship be the culprits of strife and discontentment? Or are you being slightly vulnerable and avoiding opening up with others? Tune in to discover the answers and more right now!Chapters: 0:00 - Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros1:14 - Our Story: “The 30-Year Communication Gap!”4:42 - Navigating— Factors Having the Greatest Impact on How We Communicate8:55 - Top 7 Challenges in Communication21:00 - Overcoming Communication Challenges22:08 - Establish Your “Rules of Engagement,”  Have Pillow Talk29:00 - Bible Truths30:05 - Communication Power Takeaways37:05 - Love Letter Challenge & Closing PrayerAdditional Content & Notes: Communication "Rules of Engagement"Establish a list based on your unique relationship, decide and agree on conversation styles, and determine how you’ll entreat one another in conversation. Our 12 Rules Include:Stay truthful and transparent.Maintain eye contact.Apply active and respectful listening- listen twice as much as speaking.Incorporate “Having the floor” for an equal period of time.Make your “why stance” or points clear during disagreements.Focus on gaining understanding, growing closer, and reaching a resolution.Know and strive to understand your partner’s communication style and journey without judgement.Drop pride and righteous attitudes, gaining should be the by-product of communication, not WINNING or LOSING.Incorporate breaks when conversations become heated; agree to “pin” them for a short period and return to them later.Set agreeable times to hold hard conversations, and be willing to talk things through.Create a “safe space” for communication with gentle answers and engaged body language to avoid dominance in the conversation.Be willing to compromise when disagreeing- let God’s word be the final authority.Top 7 Communication Challenges:Sometimes we don’t know what will and will not hurt.We use communication, or lack thereof, as a weaponPut up barriers and avoid having “real talk” or “hard conversations.”Turns into a “battle of wills” and you want to be “right” or “win” in the conversationTraumaShutting down and internalizing issues/concerns to deal with issues alone.The “Unholy Trinity” of Communication: Fear, Guilt, Pride/EgoBile Truths:James 1: 19 - “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,”Proverbs 15: 1 - “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:Share something with your spouse or loved one that you’ve never shared before. Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/loveletterswithjasonandrosLive out your Love Letter. 💌

Send us Fan MailAre you curious about getting to know someone God’s way, or what it means to “study” your spouse? Join the conversation as we discuss, “D”— Dating with Purpose & Discernment!This episode is chock-full of creative content, based on our 31 years of marriage and 6 years of dating/courting, curated to help you WIN when it comes to dating, courting, and taking that next big step in getting to know someone beyond the initial physical attraction!Chapters:0:00     Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros1:37     Our Story: “6 Years of Dating— How We Got It All WRONG!”9:20     What’s the Difference Between DATING & COURTING? 11:36   Know and Understand Your “INTENT”13:22   The “A.C.T.s” of Dating and Courting17:20   Facing the Challenges of Dating w/Discernment27:12   Be Sober: Recognize “RED FLAGS!”30:43   Overcoming & Winning The Dating Game32:26   Biblical Truth: Philippians 2: 3-535:11   Dating Power Takeaways & Love Letter Challenge43:52   Closing PrayerAdditional Content & Notes:ACT of Dating— Getting to know someone initially to see if they’re worth pursuing more.AlignmentConnectivityTogethernessACT of Courting— For the purpose of exclusivity, engagement, and eventual marriage.AmiabilityCharacter CompatibilityTransparencyTop 7 “Red Flags” of Dating Every Adult, Teen, and Parent Should Know!Only Seeks Personal Gain: Sex, Money, Affiliation/Association, IntellectDisplays Abusive Behaviors- Starts verbally, moves to rough physical handlingManipulative, Possessive, Highly CriticalExtremely Self-centered and Inconsiderate of OthersLacks Integrity, Reliability, and StabilityExhibits Irresponsible and Reckless Behaviors— Use of illicit drugs, etc.Their Personal Values Greatly DifferIf you ever feel unsafe or are experiencing any type of unwanted behavior, please contact one of the following resources.National Sexual Assault Hotline:  https://rainn.org/ National Domestic Violence Hotline:  https://www.thehotline.org/Biblical Truth:Philippians 2: 3-5 - “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:”Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:Establish your CORE VALUES when it comes to dating and entering into a love relationship God’s way. Know your intent, set internal boundaries, and be sober-minded about your decisions.Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/loveletterswithjasonandrosLive out your Love Letter. 💌

Send us Fan MailWelcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros!  We’ve kicked off our podcast with Episode 1: “A”— Attraction | The First Relationship Spark! Join in on the hot conversation as we discuss what attraction really is, how it starts, and how attraction can change over time.Why Love Letters with Jason & Ros is for you—Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, married, or parenting, this podcast is here to help you navigate, overcome challenges, and strengthen your love relationships!Chapters:0:00     Welcome to Love Letters with Jason & Ros3:12     "How I Met Him" / "How I Met Her"9:30     How Most Relationships Start- Physical Attraction11:14   The Importance of Being Yourself12:17   Growing Attraction Establishes Connections13:00   Attraction Challenges & Overcoming Them17:22   Biblical Truth: 1 Samuel 16:7b20:38   Seeing the Heart- Inner Beauty23:23   Key Power Takeaways on Attraction28:18   Closing PrayerAdditional Content & Notes:1 Samuel 16:7b “…For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”Single & Dating?  You’re initially attracted to someone and want to take the next steps: Take time to get to know what’s in their heart.Gradually reveal deeper details about yourself when you feel safe, allowing them to get to know you.Remember the Do's and Don'ts of attraction!!Engaged & Married?  Keep the communication lines wide OPEN about attraction and the flames of attraction burning!Share the things that most attract you about the other- (Inside and Outside)Stay connected to the “new” things that attract you- people change, develop, and grow in character over time!Personal Reflections:  Are you appropriately handling attractions in your life?  Are you embracing what’s in your heart that makes you attractive? Take time to pray, asking God for wisdom on how to live a life with healthy attractions.Live Out Your Love Letter Challenge:Share one thing that attracts you to your significant other—outside of their physical appearance and physical attributes.Everything in one place: https://linktr.ee/loveletterswithjasonandrosLive out your Love Letter. 💌