The Good Shift

In this episode, we’re holding space for a story that forever changed us.Abbey shares the story of her son, Miles — not just the loss, but the love, the anticipation, and the identity of becoming his mom. From the moment she found out she was pregnant to the unimaginable shift of fetal demise, this conversation walks gently through what happened, what it felt like, and what it still means today.We talk about the parts of grief people don’t prepare you for — the silence, the things people say (and don’t say), and how something so life-altering can feel so isolating.This isn’t a story about “moving on.”It’s about carrying him forward.If you’ve experienced loss, love someone who has, or just want to understand the depth of motherhood in all its forms — this episode is for you.Miles is, and always will be, part of this story.TakeawaysPregnancy loss and griefChallenges and decisions during pregnancy Grief and loss can have a profound impact on relationshipsThe journey to healing after loss is a deeply personal and emotional process Vulnerability as a source of healingThe impact of pregnancy loss on personal growth and faithSend stories, recommendations, or any general questions to either of the below!Connect: [email protected] The Good ShiftInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thisisagoodshift/Chapters00:00 Introduction and Pregnancy12:01 Challenges and Decisions During Pregnancy18:10 The Day of Loss27:52 The Devastating News35:31 The Birth and Aftermath43:07 Impact on Relationships48:08 Life After Loss55:00 The Journey to Healing01:00:41 Medical Details and Loss01:06:02 Remembering Miles

Send stories, recommendations, or any general questions to either of the below!Connect: [email protected] The Good ShiftInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thisisagoodshift/WHY does leaving a store without buying anything feel like you just committed a crime? This week, Abbey and Kay spiral through all the completely normal, totally legal situations that somehow make us feel deeply suspicious.From pushing a “pull” door wrong and immediately losing all motor skills, to making eye contact with an employee as you leave empty-handed like you need an alibi—we’re unpacking the everyday moments that turn us into accidental fugitives.We get into:Public places that instantly make us panicThe unspoken “rules” of being a functioning human (that no one actually agreed on)Social anxiety crimes like double texting, liking old photos, and calling someone without warning (honestly… jail)The little things that shouldn’t matter… but absolutely ruin our dayPlus, we play a chaotic round of “Fine, Questionable, or Straight to Jail” and rapid-fire some of the most unhinged but relatable habits—like reopening the fridge hoping new food appears or replaying one awkward interaction for three business days.Somewhere between overthinking, over-apologizing, and speed-walking away from mildly awkward moments, we ask the real question:Why do we feel guilty… for doing literally nothing?Nothing is actually illegal. We’re just dramatic.But also… why does it feel SO real?If you’ve ever walked out of a store like you have a warrant, this episode is for you.TakeawaysEveryday situations that feel illegalThe impact of technology on communication and social behavior ADHD and its impact on communicationSocial behaviors and interactionsDriving behaviors and road etiquettePhone behavior and messaging etiquette Social awkwardness is a common experienceThe need for relaxation and self-acceptanceChapters00:00 The Influence of Technology on Communication23:07 ADHD and Communication28:47 Anxiety-Driven Behaviors36:33 Conspiracy Theories and Millennial Reactions42:14 Driving Behaviors and Road Etiquette01:06:03 Yearning for Relaxation and Acceptance

Send stories, recommendations, or any general questions to either of the below!Connect: [email protected] The Good ShiftInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thisisagoodshift/On Episode 10 of The Good Shift's Podcast, Abbey and Kay dive into the challenges of navigating trauma and supporting others through difficult situations. This episode also explores the complexities of grief and loss, as well as the various reactions and responses that individuals experience after going through a traumatic event. The discussion highlights the process of grieving and the journey of moving forward after experiencing loss. The conversation delves into the challenges of healing and the victim mentality, as well as the difficulty of holding space for others. It emphasizes the importance of being present and honest in supporting individuals through traumatic experiences.TakeawaysSupporting someone through traumaNavigating grief and loss Being presentHonestyChapters00:00 Navigating Trauma and Support10:01 Reactions After Trauma15:35 The Challenge of Holding Space for Others

Follow The Good ShiftInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/thisisagoodshift/Support today’s guest ☕Check out their shops and give them a follow:Umatilla Java Junkies → https://www.instagram.com/_java_junkies_/Irrigon Java Junkies →https://www.instagram.com/javajunkiesirrigon/This week we’re sitting down with a woman who knows what it means to show up — even on the hard days. Katie Sappington. Katie is the franchise owner of Java Junkies in Irrigon, Oregon. A community builder, and someone who took the leap into business ownership when it would have been easier to stay comfortable.We talk about what it actually looks like behind the coffee stand window — the fears that come with starting something of your own, the things no one tells you about running a business, and the growth that happens when you decide to keep going anyway.In this episode we get into:• What pushed her to become her own boss• The parts of business ownership that surprised her the most• How she leads a team and protects her energy when she’s running on empty• The shifts that changed everything for her as a business ownerWe also talk about what a “good shift” really means — not just at work, but in life — and the seasons that shape us into the women we become.If you’ve ever thought about starting something of your own, wondered what it takes to lead, or needed a reminder that you don’t have to be “ready” to begin… this conversation is for you.And because community matters, we’re celebrating this episode with a giveaway featuring exclusive merch from Java Junkies.Because around here, we believe in community over competition — we rise together.Chapters00:00 Introduction to the Good Shift Podcast02:35 Katie's Journey as a Franchisee05:28 The Evolution of Java Junkies08:21 The Coffee Culture and Community Impact11:33 Challenges of Business Ownership14:23 The Transition from Employee to Owner17:27 Fears and Responsibilities of Ownership20:13 Staffing Challenges and Team Dynamics26:50 Coffee Shop Chronicles: Misunderstandings and Humor30:31 The Challenges of Leadership and Exhaustion34:54 Finding Balance: Work and Personal Life40:04 The Journey of Business Ownership48:12 Embracing Fear: The Path to Entrepreneurship57:43 A Burst of Light

In Season 1, Episode 8 of The Good Shift, Abbey and Kayly explore the philosophy of turning life’s red lights into green lights — inspired by the ideas in Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey. Through honest conversation, humor, and personal stories, they discuss how shifting your mindset can turn setbacks into alignment and growth.We talk about the doors that closed on us… the ones we cried over, overanalyzed, and maybe even tried to force back open. Turning setbacks into opportunities.But what if those moments weren’t rejection?What if they were redirection?Through honest stories, humor, and a little self-reflection, we break down:• Why closed doors hurt more than we expect• The “yellow light” moments where life forces us to slow down• The seasons we stayed in far too long• The difference between chasing approval and trusting your instinct• How real green lights often feel quieter than we imagineSometimes success doesn’t look like applause or opportunity.Sometimes it just feels like peace.If you’ve ever questioned why something didn’t work out, this conversation might completely shift how you see it.Because maybe the door didn’t close on you.Maybe it closed for you.Maybe rejection wasn’t rejection.Maybe it was alignment.🎧 Listen to the full conversation:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-good-shift/id1877145902Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5boGVbILT2DspVaYi8Rh60Amazon: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/493ede52-c103-4b90-bf10-1975c05a6f60/the-good-shiftFollow along →https://www.instagram.com/thisisagoodshift@greenlights @crownpublishing @officiallymcconaughey#TheGoodShift #Greenlights #MindsetShift #PersonalGrowth #PodcastConversationpersonal growth podcastmindset shift podcastlife redirection vs rejectiontrusting your instinctnavigating life transitionspersonal development conversationself growth podcastovercoming rejectionfinding alignment in lifeTakeawaysGreen lights lead to growthRebellion for alignment, not attention Moral compass and identityPurposeful life buildingChapters00:00 Introduction to Green Lights and Red Lights15:41 Moral Compass and Identity27:33 Purposeful Life Building

In this season's 7th episode Abbey and Kayly talk about Running on E. Most of us are running on empty more often than we realize—juggling work, family, and mental load until we hit the point of exhaustion. In this episode, nurses Abbey and Kayly share raw, relatable stories from their chaotic weeks and reveal the surprising ways they find ways to reset and keep going.You’ll discover how simple habits like preparing your clothes the night before or taking a ten-minute walk with angry music can transform your mental state. Abbey and Kayly break down the importance of recognizing when you're truly depleted—before the gas light turns on—and how to pause, breathe, and reset amid the chaos. They share powerful insights on handling stress, setting boundaries, and trusting your intuition when everything feels overwhelming. These stories aren’t just about nursing—they hit at the heart of everyday burnout and resilience everyone experiences, especially moms and caregivers.This episode is essential listening if you’ve ever felt pushed to the brink, or if you’re craving practical tips to thrive instead of just survive. Learn how to shift from running dry to refueling intentionally, with honesty, humor, and empathy. Whether you're on E right now or just looking for fresh perspective, Abbey and Kayly’s candid conversations will leave you inspired to channel your inner strength and prioritize your well-being.Perfect for busy moms, healthcare professionals, or anyone navigating a hectic season—this is your call to pause, listen, and choose self-care before you're running on fumes.Connect with the hosts: 
Podcast IG: Share your "Running on E" moments with us by tagging @ourshow and using #RunningOnE — let’s normalize burnout and support each other through it.Timestamps:00:00 - Introduction: Embracing chaos and the reality of busy motherhood02:00 - Balancing labor and delivery shifts — surprising shifts in perspective05:00 - Recognizing how stress and hormone rushes impact new moms08:00 - The mental toll of chaotic mornings and the importance of planning ahead12:00 - Self-awareness and managing emotional depletion during busy days15:00 - Quick mental resets: Smiling through chaos and the power of humor20:00 - Supporting mental health: Recognizing signs of burnout and refueling strategies25:00 - Support systems, love languages, and sharing your needs30:00 - The pitfalls of running on fumes and how to recognize your gaslight moment35:00 - Practical tips: Preparing the night before, listening to your intuition40:00 - Boundaries with children and sharing mental space45:00 - The importance of quiet car moments and adult conversations50:00 - Recognizing our limits and letting go of guilt about plans and self-care55:00 - Embracing feelings and the power of self-compassion60:00 - Conclusion: Practice what we preach — catching ourselves before hitting empty

Episode #6: No One Talks About This Part of MotherhoodWhere Abbey and Kayly talk about the hard stuff. PPD, partnership shifts, and losing yourself a little.Everyone posts the newborn photos.No one posts the identity crisis.Motherhood changes everything — including your relationship — and no one really prepares you for that part.In this raw and honest conversation, we’re talking about the side of motherhood that stays off Instagram. The mental load. The quiet anxiety. The “high-functioning struggling.” The guilt that comes with postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety — especially when you wanted this baby.Because just because you prayed for it doesn’t mean it isn’t exhausting.We unpack what postpartum really looks like emotionally — from survival mode days where everything gets done but you don’t remember how, to the shame around admitting you’re not okay. We talk about therapy — the misconceptions, the courage it takes to start, and how finding the right therapist can change everything. Healing isn’t weakness. Strong moms still need support.And then there’s marriage.We’re diving into how relationships shift after kids — why partnership feels different, why bandwidth shrinks, and why date nights don’t magically fix emotional distance. (Spoiler: conversations do.)We also talk about identity — grieving the freedom you once had while deeply loving the family you’ve built. Missing parts of your old self doesn’t mean you regret becoming a mom. It means you’re human.If you’ve ever thought,“Why does this feel harder than I expected?”“Why don’t I feel like myself?”“Why aren’t we connecting like we used to?”This episode is for you.You’re not failing at motherhood.You’re adjusting to becoming someone new.Chapters00:00 Challenges of Postpartum15:10 Postpartum Struggles and Relationship Challenges22:11 Identity Shift as a Parent31:46 Finding Joy in Challenging Situations38:43 The Importance of Support and Community46:44 Relationship Dynamics After Having Children

Welcome back to The Good Shift, where we heal… but first we expose ourselves.Abbey and Kayly unpack the petty things we’ve done in relationships, the texts we almost sent, and the group chats that tried to save us from ourselves. From “accidentally” liking old photos to drafting paragraphs we absolutely should’ve left in the notes app — nothing is off limits.We talk about:• The pettiest thing we’ve done (and almost done)• The friend who always says “Stand up.”• The delusional defender in the group chat• The silent friend who sends one devastating sentence• Why if three women say he’s weird… he’s weirdAnd yes — we play “Should She Text Him?”He liked your story at 1:47am.He said “I’ve changed.”He posted “protect your peace” after causing chaos.He replied “lol” to a paragraph.Immediate answers. No mercy.But beneath the jokes is something real.Because sometimes “closure” is code for wanting one more reaction.Sometimes the group chat isn’t messy — it’s unpaid security.And sometimes peace feels better than proving a point.If your group chat says don’t do it… don’t do it.

Life Didn’t Get Easier — You Got DifferentWe’ve all heard it: “Life gets easier.”But… does it?In this episode, Abbey and Kayly unpack the myth that adulthood magically smooths everything out — and why that narrative can feel comforting, hopeful… and wildly misleading.From wishing we never had to grow up to realizing we are now the “Rugrats parents age,” this conversation moves between humor and honesty as we explore what actually changes over time.If we were 17 right now, what would feel heavier?Social media visibility that never turns off.Identity pressure.Academic anxiety.Different age. Same insecurity.We talk about how minimizing emotions — at any age — delays growth. Why teens shut down when they feel dismissed. Why adults feel invisible under pressure. And how gratitude doesn’t cancel out exhaustion.Because maybe life doesn’t get easier.This episode is for the teenager who feels too sensitive and the adult who feels too tired. For the woman who pivoted four times. For the one carrying more than she expected. For the one unlearning timelines, perfection, control, and guilt.You’re not failing.You’re evolving.The good shift isn’t ease. It’s evolution.

This podcast is for you if.....In this episode, Abbey and Kayly set the tone for what The Good Shift really is — and what it’s not.At its core, this is a podcast about personal development, identity shifts, emotional growth, and honest conversations that don’t rush healing. But we also believe growth can be funny. Reflective. Human. A little unhinged at times.We didn’t create this to be loud.We created it to be honest.This podcast is for you if you’re tired of pretending you’re fine when your world feels like it’s quietly unraveling. Not because you want sympathy — but because honesty creates connection. And vulnerability gives other people permission to say, “me too.”We talk about:• Growth without shame• Questioning what you were taught while still valuing depth• Healing without toxic positivity• Conversations that feel like exhaling• Laughing while doing the workAnd gently — this might not be for you if you’re looking for quick fixes, perfect answers, or surface-level positivity. We’re here for reflection. For nuance. For sitting with discomfort long enough to understand it.Because sometimes the shift you need isn’t a dramatic life overhaul — it’s a fresh perspective.You deserve to be heard. Whether that means writing into the show, having a hard conversation, or simply feeling seen when you hear our stories.If any part of this felt like a mirror — you’re exactly who we made this for.

Love Through Seasons: Friendships, Marriage, and Everything BetweenRelationships aren’t static — they evolve. And tension doesn’t always mean something is broken.In this episode, Abbey and Kayly talk about what it really looks like to love people through changing seasons — friendships that shift, marriages that require effort over emotion, and the quiet grief of outgrowing someone when no one did anything wrong.Why do we expect relationships to stay the same when people don’t?When does distance mean decay — and when does it mean growth?What does commitment look like when feelings shift?They unpack the awkward reality of outgrowing friendships (“It’s like a breakup with no villain and no closure. Just vibes.”), the resentment that can build when someone shows up differently than you needed, and how survival mode affects the way we connect.There’s humor. There’s honesty. There’s a little chaos.Because vulnerability gives other people permission to be honest — and turns out no one’s relationship is as perfect as their pictures.

In the inaugural episode of the Good Shift Podcast, Abbey and Kayly explore the themes of chaos, trauma, and personal growth. They discuss their experiences with rock bottom moments, the loneliness that often accompanies significant life shifts, and the importance of clarity in relationships. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of small changes for personal development and the beauty of self-discovery amidst life's challenges. The hosts encourage listeners to embrace new beginnings and reflect on their own journeys of transformation.