The Jolie Higazi Podcast

Are you living your life, or are you just following a script? Most of us are walking a path that was paved for us long before we were born. We go to school, get the job, buy the house, and check the boxes—only to wake up years later wondering why we feel so empty. In this video, we dive deep into what it actually means to live authentically. Hint: It’s not about being a rebel or "brutally honest" with everyone; it’s about checking your internal GPS before you’ve driven 500 miles in the wrong direction.In this video, you’ll learn:How to distinguish your true desires from "default" societal expectations.The "Muscle of Intuition" and how to exercise it daily.Why discovering what you hate is actually a massive win for your future.How to navigate major life transitions (career shifts, breakups, retirement) without losing your identity.Stop living on autopilot. It’s time to find out who is actually behind the wheel.www.joliehigazi.com

This episode challenges the modern culture of "canceling" and "black-and-white" thinking. Drawing from her own journey through childhood trauma, recovery from addiction, and a high-stakes escape from an abusive relationship, Jolie explains why grief is the ultimate doorway to a more expansive life.She introduces the concept of "Standing in the Contradiction"—the rare emotional capacity to hold two opposing truths at once. How can someone be both a source of deep pain and a source of profound love? How can we defend the humanity of a protester whose message we despise? This episode isn't about "thinking positive" or "light-washing" the truth; it’s a masterclass in emotional regulation, radical forgiveness, and the belief that when we stop resisting our pain, we finally become "un-burnable."If you feel exhausted by the polarization of the world or trapped by past wounds, this conversation offers a roadmap toward a version of hope that is grounded, gritty, and undeniably real.Timestamp Chapters00:00 – The Audacity of Hope03:15 – Grief as the Key to Transformation08:45 – Integrating the Duality of Trauma14:30 – Recovery and the Ex-Fiancé19:15 – The "Pressure Cooker" Effect22:10 – Standing Up for Your "Enemy"28:00 – The Enemies Project & J.K. Rowling32:45 – There Is No "Them"Show notes: Emma Watson on Jay Shetty Podcast--https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2caQ4j9oohE Enemies Project-- https://www.enemiesproject.org/Jolie's Website and Newsletter: https://www.joliehigazi.com/

If you’ve ever felt the 'shame spiral' of self-sabotage, struggled to forgive those who hurt you, or felt paralyzed by the fear of being misunderstood, this conversation offers a roadmap back to your own core goodness. It’s an invitation to stop hiding, embrace the 'shitty ingredients' of your life, and finally give yourself permission to be big in a world where it feels safer to stay small. In this raw, unscripted New Year’s Day episode, Jolie explores the terrifying yet necessary transition from surviving to thriving. Drawing from 15 years of recovery and a journey through trauma, fundamentalism, and entrepreneurship, this episode is a 'message in a bottle' for anyone standing on the edge of their own expansion.Stay connected for updates throughout the year from Jolie's journey by signing up for her newsletter: www.joliehigazi.comChapter Timestamps:00:00 Power of Sending Messages to Future Self04:15 The Promise of 201908:30 The Fear of "Being Big"12:45 Facing the Fire18:00 Standing in the Contradiction23:15 The Logic of Compassion28:50 The Cake Analogy34:20 Walking Back Into the Fire38:45 Breaking out of the Cocoon42:30 Message to self for Dec 2026

In this episode, I share one of the most fulfilling moments of being a life coach: guiding someone who is standing exactly where I once stood. We dive into the complexities of breaking away from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship, and the shock of realizing that the problem isn't just communication—it's legal.I sat down with a client who was ready to break up with her manipulative partner, but subconsciously failed to mention one critical detail: he was on the house deed and mortgage.What started as a coaching session to rehearse boundary-setting responses quickly transformed into a major, necessary realization: this wasn't a breakup; it was a divorce. If you are feeling trapped, manipulated, or like your attempts to leave always fail, this video is for you.In this video, you will learn:--How to distinguish a simple relationship end from a high-stakes, legally-tied separation.--The critical shift from needing to communicate your exit to needing to gather legal support.--The power of using your past hardships to provide invaluable wisdom to others.--Why the "quiet knowing" of fulfillment is the best feeling you can have.My hope is that this conversation gives you:1. Permission to stop debating or negotiating with a manipulative partner.2. Clarity on when to seek professional help.3. Hope that you can move through your hardest challenges and find peace on the other side.🔗 If you could use support on your journey, subscribe to the podcast and newsletter below to stay connected:https://www.joliehigazi.com/newsletter And here's the poem I mentioned I wrote: Do You Remember Me, Wise Oak Tree?https://www.joliehigazi.com/blog/remember-me-wise-oak

My coach recently asked me, "What are your 3 biggest wins in your life so far?"It really prompted some self-reflection. There's lots of things I've accomplished as a self-starter and multi-skilled person. But when I distilled it all down, it really came down to 3 things that have really shaped my life as it exists today: My recovery, overcoming my trauma, and starting my business.I explain how each of these have challenged me and helped me grow to allow all the other elements of my life to even be possible.Links/resources mentioned in this episode:Why I Don’t Drink or Get High Anymore: https://www.joliehigazi.com/blog/why-dont-drink-get-highThoughts on Being Clean: https://www.joliehigazi.com/blog/thoughts-being-clean-11-years(Interview) My Journey In Becoming a Full Time Coach: https://www.joliehigazi.com/blog/interview-journey-full-time-coachThe Hardest Thing I’ve Ever Done: https://www.joliehigazi.com/blog/hardest-thing-doneSign up for my newsletter at: https://www.joliehigazi.com/

Are our political divisions an accident, or are we being used? [Timestamps below]Join us for a powerful conversation with Larry Rosen, founder of the groundbreaking Enemies Project, where he brings together people with diametrically opposed beliefs to find peace, not agreement. Larry, a successful mediator for over two decades, shares the stunning realization that led him to start his viral video series: our natural instinct to convince others is actually what makes political discourse a disaster.In this episode, we dive deep into: The "Enemy Trance": Larry's theory on the neuroscience of division. Learn how our brain's empathy literally shuts down when we perceive a threat, leading us into a temporary state of "autistic psychopathy" toward our opponents.Moral Language is the Language of War: Why denouncing your opponents as "evil," even if you believe you're morally right, is ultimately ineffective and only serves to motivate them to fight you at any cost.The Extremes Feed Each Other (Enemy Biosis): Larry discusses how conflict is self-sustaining, leading to deep analysis on global conflicts, trauma, and why political leaders are often less likely to seek peace when their power depends on the war.The Cost of Power: Who truly benefits when the Left and the Right despise each other? Larry argues that political and media figures actively stoke this division for power, and how ordinary citizens are being used as pawns in a war we don't want.Your Form of Protest: Larry reveals his three-part mission for change, including the "I'm Listening" campaign, which aims to empower ordinary people to reject enemy makers and demonstrate that peace is doable.Larry warns that the inability to cooperate is Issue Zero—the one problem that prevents us from solving all others. This conversation offers a beacon of hope and a practical, revolutionary approach to finding common ground.Watch the full episode to understand the psychology of polarization and discover the unexpected key to peace.👉 Support the Movement:Kickstarter: Support the mission and help create more videos by donating. https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/... Join the "I'm Listening" Campaign: If you're ready to get involved in a real movement of connection, reach out to [email protected] to participate.🔗 Resources Mentioned:The Enemies Project Website: https://www.enemiesproject.org/The Transgender Episode:    • Can a Trans Woman Befriend a MAGA Mama?  1:27 Why Persuasion Fails: The Core Problem5:52 The "Enemy Trance": Empathy Shutdown9:26 Case Study: The Transgender Episode (Eve & Nancy)13:53 Issue Zero: Where Political Division is Leading Society16:59 The Link Between Trauma and Polarization22:16 Who Benefits? The Role of "Enemy Makers"28:58 Moral Language is the Language of War: Focus on Effectiveness33:00 The Power of the Show: Change is Possible45:00 Enemy Biosis: Why Global Leaders Struggle for Peace55:13 Call to Action: Support the "I'm Listening" Movement58:00 Final Message: "Don't Lose Hope"

The discussion focuses on the growing political divisions and societal disconnect that prevent meaningful dialogue and cooperation across different belief systems. I explain how evolutionary survival mechanisms like the "enemy trance" contribute to emotional regulation issues and overreactions to perceived threats from those with opposing views. The conversation emphasizes the importance of empathy, understanding, and constructive dialogue in addressing conflict, while challenging the false dichotomy between empathy and consequences to foster more authentic connections across political divides.The Enemies Project:https://www.youtube.com/@TheEnemiesProjecthttps://www.enemiesproject.org/www.joliehigazi.com

In this powerful conversation, Chris Marr and Jolie Higazi dive deep into personal growth, self-awareness, and overcoming people-pleasing behaviors. They explore the transformative journey of understanding oneself, setting boundaries, and developing authentic confidence. (TIMESTAMPS BELOW)Key things you’ll learn in this episode include: The importance of a growth mindsetStrategies for overcoming people-pleasing tendenciesTools for emotional intelligence and self-awarenessPractical approaches to building self-respectChris Marr is the founder of The Authoritative Coach and the author of Become an Authoritative Coach: Stop People-Pleasing, Challenge Your Clients, and Be Indispensable.Chris has over 15 years of experience working with client-facing professionals and has helped individuals and teams across the globe—from small businesses to nine-figure enterprises—build stronger client relationships, navigate difficult conversations, and position themselves as indispensable experts.If you’d like to identify and overcome habits that hold may be holding you back from doing your best work, check out an assessment Chris made called the People Pleaser’s Path to Authority assessment. And by completing the assessment, you’ll unlock a free, 5-day coaching program packed with actionable strategies to help you improve in each area, step by step: https://chris-e04p7via.scoreapp.com/ Timestamps:0:00:00 Introduction: Authenticity and Growth MindsetDiscussing changing opinionsImportance of being open to new perspectives0:22:00 Chris’s Personal Journey Chris's journey through grief and personal strugglesImportance of therapy and self-reflection0:34:00 Understanding People-PleasingDefining people-pleasing behaviorsImpact on personal and professional life0:47:12 Emotional Regulation and Self-AwarenessDeveloping emotional intelligenceUsing tools like the feelings wheel1:01:40 Setting Boundaries and Overcoming GuiltStrategies for saying noManaging guilt and people-pleasing tendencies1:16:30 The Path to Self-RespectBuilding confidence through skillsUnderstanding personal values1:21:59 Recommended Resources for Personal GrowthBook recommendationsTherapy and self-help tools1:26:10 Expanding Emotional VocabularyUnderstanding deeper emotional nuancesTools for emotional self-awareness1:29:53 Practical Strategies for Personal DevelopmentJournaling techniquesDeveloping a growth mindset1:47:00 Continuous Personal GrowthImportance of ongoing self-improvementEmbracing personal agency and authenticityDiscussed ResourcesBooks:"The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brené Brown"Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer"Radical Acceptance" by Tara BrachTools:How We Feel appFeelings WheelJournalingConnect with Chris:Website: ⁠https://theauthoritativecoach.com/⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/theauthoritativecoach/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/theauthoritativecoach/⁠ Disclaimer: This episode is for informational purposes and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice.

Many of the things you may think are helpful for someone processing grief and loss are actually very damaging. Jolie Higazi, a life coach specializing in grief, trauma, and healing, discusses common mistakes people make when supporting grieving friends. She emphasizes the importance of not talking too much and how to show up with a supportive, healing presence instead. For more content like this, subscribe to her free newsletter: https://www.joliehigazi.com/

Grief is hard enough, don't make it harder on yourself with this most common mistake!! Jolié Higazi, a life and relationship coach, discusses how grief involves a complex mix of emotions like anger, sadness, and confusion, which can be overwhelming. Instead of judging the feelings that come up, learn how to allow to expedite the healing process with some basic strategies of emotional regulation. For more content like this, subscribe to the podcast and Jolié's free newsletter: https://www.joliehigazi.com/

It started on New Years Eve of 2019. My life was in shambles after the end of a long relationship with my fiancee. I didn't know what to do, I didn't even know where I was. That's the place where this journey starts. Tune in for more of my journey and the simple steps I took along the way that helped me start to rewire my brain and create new habits of being an ally of myself, and confident to share my gifts with the world, instead of succumbing to that inner critic that was always judging me and telling me I was a failure. For more, sign up for my free newsletter with stories and tips from my journey in self discovery, confidence, and emotional intelligence: https://www.joliehigazi.com/

Some thoughts to share about what I've learned in recovery over the past 14 years, advice for anyone new in their recovery journey, and why recovery is a superpower. Join my newsletter at https://www.joliehigazi.com/

Here's a short explainer of the "why" behind me starting this new video series here on YouTube, along with my story. Once you understand where I've come from and what I've overcome, it makes it a lot easier to understand why this mission of being a vehicle of more connection and hope to people is so important and core to who I am and the work that I'm doing. Leave comments below for any questions or segments you'd like to hear me talk more about in future videos. Until next time, join my newsletter to stay in the conversation and hear more of my stories: https://www.joliehigazi.com/newsletter Timestamp Chapters: 0:00 - Why I'm Doing This 09:30 - My story, where I come from