The Romantic Cynic Podcast Archive

In this final episode of the Romantic Cynic Podcast, I talk about finding the right partner for you. I discuss things that you can do when seeking out the relationship that you want for a lifetime. I also share with you the purpose and my journey with this podcast, and why I have decided to make this one the final episode. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode.Thank you to those that have listened and been a part of this journey with me. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about coping with rejection in love. I can speak from my own personal experience that love rejection is one of the most difficult forms of rejection that any person can deal with. There are things that you can do for yourself that will help you cope. Hopefully, during your healing process you’ll learn to appreciate this experience by realizing there is a better love for you out there. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about my experience of hearing the phrase “This is who I am, deal with it” from my ex-husband. The toxicity of this phrase should be a warning of their potential ill-treatment towards you. This is something that none of us should settle for in a romantic relationship, especially if you’ve dealt with a partner where they expect you to change for them. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about the importance of setting your own boundaries as an individual just newly dating someone or as someone that has been in a relationship for a while. Setting boundaries and expressing those boundaries to your partner is not only good for your mental health, but it will establish a level at which you would like to be respected by your partner.I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about the importance of defining respect in your relationship. It’s important to have this conversation early on in your relationship, so you both understand what boundaries are not okay to cross. If you have been in a longer-term relationship and have not had this conversation it is important to still have it, in case lines have been crossed. Having an open and honest conversation around your definition of respect can help the overall health of your relationship with your partner.I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about knowing and recognizing your own self-worth. There are those of us that allow others to decide and dictate what our self-worth is. Unfortunately, or fortunately, it’s the people that are closest to us that have the greatest impact on what we believe our self-worth to be. Each of us has to make a concerted effort to decide what we believe our self-worth is without the influence of outside forces, because we are each deserving of consideration, respect and love.  I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about the three types of love: the first love, the hard love, and the love that will last. The hard love is the one that most of us will repeat over and over again, because we may not have learned our lesson. But the love that will last is the most rewarding, most peaceful, and the one that will be worth all the hard ache that you may have experienced. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I discuss and share indicators of what could determine if your relationship will last or will not last. It can be difficult for us to recognize these indicators especially if we’re in the honeymoon phase. Or sometimes we accept when someone treats us less than just to be in a relationship. Listening to our gut, our instinct can save us a lot of time and heartache. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share a negative experience of how my ex-husband would take care of me in a moment of when I needed him. I further discuss how our loving partners should take care of us and how we should take care of them. It’s important that we’re there for our partners if they are sick, have an accident, lose their job, to name a few instances.  I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I ask the question, “Is love enough?” by answering “no.” Love is not the end all, be all for a loving and lasting relationship. There can be love in any relationship, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a healthy relationship. A part of having a loving and healthy relationship is feeling emotionally safe with your partner. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share my experience on how time healed me after divorce. It’s definitely a journey through forgiveness, accountability, and self-growth. The place you want your ex-partner, ex-spouse, etc. is in the “cornfield.” You may think of them from time to time, and that is okay. The ultimate goal of knowing you’ve healed is knowing your ex-partner is in the “cornfield”. I hope you find insight into this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love. According to this theory, there are three components of love: intimacy, passion, and commitment. From these three components make up eight different types of love, with the ultimate combination of the three: consummate love or true love. I also share with you a few examples from my own personal life.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about finding gratitude in your life. It’s easier to focus on everything you don’t have versus being grateful for what you do have. It’s an unfortunate habit for us to compare our lives with others, especially if they appear to have a “perfect” life. It takes a conscious effort for us to focus on positive energy within ourselves and find things that we are grateful for. I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about when to let go of a relationship. It’s not always an easy choice to leave or even when to leave. But it ultimately comes down to you, your mental and emotional wellbeing, and your own happiness. There is a stigma of being single in society as if you failed in a relationship, when you decide to leave. I believe it takes strength to leave.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about the power of encouragement in a romantic relationship. There are many different types of human interactions where encouragement is part of the learning process or the growth process or both. This is no different in romantic relationships. When you and your partner encourage one another trust is built, a safe environment is created, and being vulnerable with each other allows your relationship to flourish.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about how closure comes from within after a break-up. I share my own life experiences of how I found closure in past relationships, such as writing letters (with no intention to give to the recipient) to taking a hammer to past gifts. I, also, give other examples on how you can heal and find closure. At the end of everything, the most important thing you can do is put you first.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about the law of attraction in relationships. I share my own insight, and examples of the power of the law of attraction. Like attracts like. When we think from a positive perspective that energy is given to the universe, and we will be rewarded with the greatest love we’ve ever known. But there is some caution when attracting what you truly want in life.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share my perspective on loyalty in relationships. Loyalty is not freely given but earned through time. Being free of judgement is a part of earning and receiving loyalty. I, also, believe that matching positive energy for positive energy is another contributing factor. With so many distractions in real life and on social media, it’s important avoid putting oneself purposely in a situation where loyalty is tested or can be questioned.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic P.S. Life is a marathon not a sprint. Live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. 

In this episode, I talk about the self-proclaimed “nice guy” and share my experience of being in a relationship with this type of person. Yes, my ex-husband was the “nice guy.” Some common characteristics of the nice guy are: they try to control you, they trash men you are attracted too, they judge you, and their mindset is transactional. If they do something nice for you, they’ll make you feel obligated to do something nice for them. The self-proclaimed nice guy is a walking red flag. I hope you find insight in this week’s episode.Yours Truly,The Romantic CynicP.S. Life is a marathon not a sprint. Live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. P.S.S. Yes, I know I said a cuss word. And sometimes it can't be helped.

In this episode, I talk about how friendships from a foundation level make for the best and most successful romantic relationships. We choose our friends based on common interests, be able to share our deepest secrets, and being comfortable to be ourselves around them without judgement. Having a best friend that’s your romantic partner makes for a fulfilling relationship.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic P.S. Life is a marathon not a sprint. Live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. 

In this episode, I share my experience of being in a long-term relationship with someone that worked to appear single. My partner would go out of his way to make sure we were not connected or not shown as a couple on his social media. Nor would he wear his wedding ring because he “just didn’t want to.” I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic P.S. Life is a marathon not a sprint. Live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. 

In this episode, I discuss the “casual, undefined, non-committed relationship” -or- what we call the “Situationship” relationship. Many of us, or perhaps all of us, have experienced this type of relationship or maybe you’re in one right now. This type of relationship can work for some people, but for others there’s a natural progression of wanting a more committed relationship.I hope find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic P.S. Life is a marathon not a sprint. Live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. 

In this episode, I talk about how the new year gives you the opportunity to become a new you. Particularly if you’re single and don’t necessarily know how to be on your own. The new year should give all of us a chance to be a new version of ourselves or discovering who we are and where we want to go in this life.I hope you find insight and inspiration in this week’s episode.Life is a marathon not a sprint. Live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk and share my experiences surrounding the importance of family in your life as an individual and within a relationship. Building a strong bond between you and your partner’s family should be a priority to both of you.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode.Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk and share my experiences surrounding jealousy in a relationship, and the importance of effective communication with your partner.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode.Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about how some men will waste a woman’s time. I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic CynicP.S. Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. 

In this episode, I talk about the most influential woman in my life – my mom. She is a powerhouse of a woman that I’ve strived to be as a woman myself.This episode is really dedicated to all the women that have been influential in your life. Celebrate them and let them know how they’ve influenced you in your own life.I hope you find insight in this week’s episode. Yours Truly,The Romantic CynicP.S. Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. 

In this episode, I talk about being lonely or alone during the holidays. I share with you how I spent my first holiday season on my own after divorce. I give insight and make recommendations on how you can make the most of the holiday season. Finding comfort, staying positive, and keeping busy are key. I hope you find insight on this week’s episode.Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about how some value the importance of physical attraction or physical beauty above anything else. Some only care about “bagging the 10” when maybe some are not physically attractive themselves. Yes, it may sound shallow, but the reality is we all should value a person’s personality versus their looks. Even in relationships, some may have a partner that is more engaged with an attractive person on social media rather than paying attention to their own partner. In those circumstances it may be helpful to have an open dialogue around that. I hope you find insight or self-reflect on this week’s episode.Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about liars. How someone who is honest turns into becoming a liar in a relationship because how their partner treats them in a negative way. I want to be clear that there shouldn’t be lies told in a relationship, even little white lies. Honesty in a relationship should be valued. Honesty brings strength, closeness, and trust in a romantic relationship.I hope you find insight or self-reflect on this week’s episode.Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share with you what my self-journey looked like after my divorce. What things I did for myself to heal and move forward. One thing I’ve learned from family and friends is the importance of keeping yourself busy and take time to learn who you are.  I hope you find insight and inspiration on this week’s episode. Always be kind to yourself, live and grow through your own self journey, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.   Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I discuss red flags, green flags, and the bare minimum in relationships or what to look for in potential relationships. Red flags in a person should indicate to you that this person is maybe incapable of having a healthy relationship. Green flags are personality traits that a person has that may tell you this person is able to approach a relationship in a healthy manner. The bare minimum is the least amount you need and are able to give your partner in return to have a healthy relationship.Always be kind to yourself, know your worth, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about putting forth the effort to build a relationship with your partner’s family and friends. These are the people that are important to your partner. But it’s not your sole responsibility, your partner should be willing to put in the effort to build a relationship with your family and friends, especially if you have strong bonds with them.Always be kind to yourself, know your worth, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you.  Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I talk about us, as individuals, being happy. A lot of people, myself included, rely on others to make us happy. But, the person ultimately responsible for our happiness is ourselves. We place that pressure and burden on partners, lovers, friends, and/or family to make us happy, and what I’ve come to realize is we’re left disappointed and still wanting.Find your own happiness as an individual, this is even something attainable within a relationship. When you work on your own happiness, you’ll be rewarded with a promising and wonderful life. I hope you find insight from this week’s episode. Be kind to yourself, know your worth, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of you. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I give my opinion on the value or chaos women can bring into a relationship. I share my experience how I first brought value to my previous relationship, but created chaos based on how I was treated back. When you have a partner that creates chaos in your world it’s only a matter of time, before you match the energy your partner gives you…positive or negative.A part of the value in a relationship is paying attention to your partner’s wants and needs as an individual and as a partner. Some will be what they will have to achieve as an individual, and some will be what you can provide to you partner. But it’s not one gives all and one takes all, both people should be providing what they can to their partner.I hope you find insight from my experience, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of yourself. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share my experience on the relationship hierarchy and where I was placed in that hierarchy. Family, friends, and significant others are all placed on that relationship hierarchy, and sometimes you may realize that you partner places themselves on that hierarchy. Your partner’s actions, not through words, will show you where you are placed.  With a relationship hierarchy, I believe respect plays a role in that. Respect is critically important in a relationship. The way you treat each other shows how healthy or unhealthy your relationship is. When your partner shows a lack of respect or you show your partner a lack of respect, the one being respectful will get to a point where they no longer care. When you and your partner show respect to each other, place each other first in your hierarchy, and put in 100% without expecting anything in return is a healthy relationship. What do you and your partner do on a day-to-day basis that shows that you honor them and respect them?I hope you find insight from my experience, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of yourself. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I discuss talkers versus doers. In my previous relationship, my ex-husband was very much a talker. He had a tendency of giving me false hope and would only talk about things that he would eventually experience with me. It was the same story of “we’ll eventually get to it someday.” Or the things he did want to do was always because it benefitted him somehow.I, however, am a doer. I like accomplishing goals, experiencing things, and well…live life. With all of this, communicating to your partner is important. Communicating effectively well with loved ones, family, and friends. Discussing what you want in a relationship. Telling your partner or potential love interest what you would like to accomplish as an individual and in a relationship.I hope you find insight from my experience, learn to be a loving & supportive partner, and become the best version of yourself. Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share with you how I felt that I needed to change my personality for the person I was once with. I felt as if I was lacking and failing as a partner. But my history of my personality didn’t start there, it started with how I was raised to be an independent female. Try as I might to make changes to who I was for the sake of my former partner, I came to the realization that I wouldn’t be good enough in his eyes. For the sake of myself, I knew I had to break free. I learned to embrace who I was. I learned to be comfortable in my own skin. And I learned to love who I am as a person. I hope you learn from my experience, to be kind to yourself, and learn to be true to who you are.Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

In this episode, I share with you my 2-year journey of divorce and self-growth. I was in a 14-year relationship where I felt like a failure as a girlfriend/wife. I just got to a point in my life where I was questioning my long-term relationship. I needed some space, yet only to discover how much I grew in a span of 7 days. I learned to love me again. I made the decision to ask for a divorce. These last two years was all about self-growth, earning a master's degree, and finally allowing my creativity to flow freely with my podcast. But it wasn’t always easy. I’ve been blessed with a wonderful support system, and my mentality of staying positive has brought me joy and peace.I hope you learn from my experience, be kind to yourself, and positivity will lead you to your own self-growth.Yours Truly,The Romantic Cynic

Thank you for listening to my first episode!In this episode, I introduce myself to you and answer the question: “How did I become a romantic cynic?” My mom inspired me to become a romantic with the many hours of watching classic Hollywood films such as: Gone with the Wind and Breakfast at Tiffany’s. The beginning of my cynical side can be dated back to elementary school! Life can be cruel, and kids can be crueler. As I grew up, I came to the realization that relationships take hard work.Laughter, staying positive, and learning to be kind to myself taught me to have hope in love. I hope that you’ll take this podcast journey with me as I talk about my real-life experiences, giving my truthful opinion in what I see in relationships (healthy and toxic), and observations on love. Yours Truly, The Romantic Cynic