When the f**k did I become old?

KEY TAKEAWAYSQuality over quantity. Research suggests 4–5 deep friendships is all you needLoneliness isn't about being alone — it's the gap between the connection you want and what you haveMidlife is the hardest time to make friends, but also when they matter mostIntentionality is everything — good friendships don't happen by accident anymoreDon't interpret silence as rejection — everyone is busy and overwhelmedAudit your circle: use the Friendship MOT to decide where to invest your timeStart now. There's no better moment to reach out

Every generation thinks it had it hardest. Jo and Kev dig into a Sunday Times article taking a multidimensional look at how Boomers, Gen X, Millennials and Gen Z have fared across five key areas: housing, wages, consumer goods, relationships, and retirement. As parents of four Gen Z kids, this one is personal. Spoiler: the Boomers did have it better — but the picture is more nuanced than the kids would have you believe.KEY TAKEAWAYSHousing: By 30, 50% of Boomers owned a home. First-time buyers today pay £73,800 in their first five mortgage years vs £41,500 for Boomers. The price-to-salary ratio has gone from 4.2x in 1975 to 7.6x today. Boomers had high rates but MIRAS tax relief softened the blow. Jo's 1988 Silvertown flat cost £85k — it's now £400k.Wages: Under-20s are up 20% in real terms thanks to minimum wage rises. Ages 20–27 are flat. Above 27, wages are down. 45% of unemployed 24-year-old Gen Z have never held a job, and graduate oversupply is squeezing entry-level roles.Consumer goods: Milk took 8 working minutes to earn in 1975, now 2. LCD TVs dropped from £4,500 to £279. But lifestyle creep absorbs the gains — one daily Starbucks is £225/month, and subscription stacking adds hundreds more.Relationships: UK marriages fell from 400,000 in 1973 to 224,400 in 2023. Average marriage age has risen a full decade in two generations. Birth rates dropped from 2.93 in 1964 to 1.41 in 2024. Silver divorce is also on the rise.Retirement: Boomers with final salary pensions had it best. Gen X were first to face defined contribution schemes — only 54% have adequate savings. Gen Z need £1,600/month to reach a £3m retirement pot. Their lifeline: the biggest intergenerational wealth transfer in history, if it survives inheritance tax changes.Verdict: Boomers won. Gen X feel the pension pinch. Gen Z face delayed milestones but may inherit on an unprecedented scale. The generation game is not over.TIMESTAMPS00:09 Welcome and intro to the generation debate01:30 Defining the four generations: Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z02:28 Housing: mortgage costs compared across generations05:30 MIRAS, stamp duty wars and the race to complete in the 80s07:14 Wages vs house prices: the salary multiple then and now08:00 Jo's real-world test: his first flat in 1988 vs today10:30 Low-skilled workers and homeownership rates by generation11:30 Gen Z, university degrees and the graduate jobs squeeze14:00 Wages by age group: who's up, flat and down in real terms15:30 Consumer goods: the milk test (8 minutes vs 2 minutes)17:10 Tech prices: LCD TVs from £4,500 to £27919:00 Eating out: genuinely cheaper than 35 years ago20:30 Coffee culture and the £225-a-month Starbucks habit22:30 Subscriptions: the hidden drain no generation faced before24:30 Marriage stats: volume halved, age risen a decade in two generations26:00 Falling birth rates and the drift toward a one-child family28:00 Silver divorce, no-fault legislation and changing social norms30:31 Retirement: final salary pensions vs the defined contribution cliff edge32:30 Auto-enrolment from 2012 and the savings gap it exposed33:50 Gen Z's retirement challenge: the £3 million pot35:20 Inheritance as Gen Z's potential lifeline and the IHT threat37:13 Final verdict: who wins the generation game?

Timed to coincide with National Stop Snoring Week (27 April to 3 May). Episode DescriptionJo sits down with sleep psychologist Dr Maja Schaedel to unpack everything nobody tells you about snoring, sleep apnoea and ageing. From why women approaching menopause are increasingly at risk, to whether sleeping in separate bedrooms might actually save your relationship, this conversation covers the practical, the awkward and the surprisingly funny.  Key Takeaways•        Snoring disrupts partners more than snorers themselves. Sleeping apart is not the beginning of the end. •        Women approaching menopause are increasingly likely to snore and develop sleep apnoea due to hormonal and physical changes in the throat.•        Sleep apnoea in women often looks different to men. Watch for fatigue, lethargy, dry mouth and broken sleep rather than obvious snoring.•        Alcohol worsens snoring. Move your drinks earlier in the evening so your body has time to process it before bed. •        There are multiple types of snoring. The BSSAA free interactive sleep test can help identify which type you have before you see a GP.•        A CPAP is still the gold standard for sleep apnoea. Less severe cases may be treated with a mandibular advancement device.•        Magnesium might improve sleep by about 15 minutes. CBT for insomnia (CBT-I) is far more evidence-based. Apps like Sleepio and Sleepful are a good starting point.•        Power naps work best at 15 to 20 minutes. Beyond 30 minutes, you risk sleep inertia and feeling worse than before.•        Sleep quality naturally declines after 55 for both men and women.•        Poor sleep costs the average person around £5,000 a year. Timestamps00:00  Welcome and introducing Dr. Maja Schaedel and the problem of snoring01:15  Why partners suffer more than snorers03:07  Why people snore, menopause, hormones and the snoring link04:06  Sleeping apart: stigma, reality and relationship benefits07:04  Sleep apnoea symptoms in women versus men07:50  How insomnia and sleep apnoea feed each other10:02  National Stop Snoring Week and the BSSAA11:05  Sleep position, alcohol and easy lifestyle tweaks12:35  Types of snoring and the BSSAA sleep test14:56  What to do if you suspect sleep apnoea16:30  CPAP, mouth guards and treatment options18:30  Perimenopause, hormones and disrupted sleep20:58  Why sleep declines after 55 for everyone22:16  The perfect power nap (and when it backfires)24:02  The hidden £5,000 a year cost of bad sleep25:29 Magnesium, melatonin and what the research actually says26:10  CBT-I, sleep apps and where to get real help LinksBritish Snoring and Sleep Apnoea Association: britishsnoring.co.ukThe Good Sleep Clinic: goodsleep.clinic/sleepio.comsleepful.me

This week, we cover the full ride from single parenting to empty nesting, downsizing, and now... the kids are back. Spoiler: the Aston Martin didn't help.Whether you're in the thick of solo parenting, watching your kids slowly stop needing you or about to open the front door to a 22-year-old with a suitcase, this one will hit home.IN THIS EPISODE•        The brutal pragmatics of setting up as a single parent: schools, commutes, custody logistics and money•        How your identity quietly disappears when you're the primary carer and how long it takes to get it back•        The surprising emotional gut-punch of empty nesting, even when you thought you were prepared•        From two houses to one: the financial and emotional decision to downsize and move in together•        The week we bought a two-seater Aston Martin... and both kids said "Can I come home?"•        Why we wrote actual house rules before the kids arrived and what made the listKEY TAKEAWAYS•        Nearly 58% of 21-24 year olds and 34% of 24-35 year olds currently live at home with parents. The boomerang effect is real and growing•        Every life stage feels permanent until it suddenly isn't•        The shift from parent to host is a genuine identity challenge•        Setting expectations upfront (yes, in writing) can save a lot of friction•        Short-term stays: skip the rent conversation. Longer-term: consider saving contributions as a deposit fundTIMESTAMPS00:09  Intro & why this episode is happening right now02:32  Single parenting after divorce; logistics, finances, identity09:44  Rebuilding yourself outside the parent role14:21  Empty nesting: when it hits, even when you saw it coming19:06  Downsizing from two houses to one life26:53  Life as a couple with zero kids at home29:12  The boomerang call… and the Aston Martin timing31:33  The house rules document36:15  How to handle money when adult kids move back in

Guest: Julia Chi-Taylor, relationship coach, mentor, and international athlete who has been running for over 60 years. Julia works with people on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels and is still competing in her late 60s. Key Takeaways•        It's never too late to start running. Begin with lots of walking and a little running, take it slowly, and find a guide who understands you emotionally as well as physically.•        The belief that recovery takes longer as you age is just that, a belief. Mindset and narrative around pain can spiral things down as much as the injury itself.•        Blue Zones (Japan, Sardinia, Okinawa, Loma Linda, Ikaria) show us a different model of communities living well into their 100s through movement, plants, purpose and community.•        Running as meditation: the goal is non-attachment to outcome. Aiming for something AND letting go of the result is the ultimate practice.•        Staying visible as you age is a choice. You can disappear into it, or you can keep showing up with energy.•        If you're starting to exercise later in life, the goal isn't pace or distance; it's whether you enjoyed it. That's the measure of success.•        Reactivity is an arrow to past wounding. Real stillness in running and in life means not reacting from old patterns. Timestamps00:09  Meet Julia: 50 years of coaching, running since age 602:34  How to start running later in life04:59  Miracles in recovery: real stories07:24  Jo's deadlift injury and healing journey09:52  Blue Zones, aging myths and the beliefs we're fed14:36  Being the oldest in the gym (and why it's great)16:51  Making yourself invisible  and how to stop19:11  Julia's spiritual path and the running-meditation connection26:04  How Julia would coach Jo to start running29:00  The Happiness Curve and the striving trap33:13  Where to find Julia + Jo might actually take up running! Find Juliahttps://juliachitaylor.com

Ever looked around at your life and thought “is this it?” This week, Jo and Kev are joined by Rosie Freshwater: serial entrepreneur, wife, mum and now a DJ playing gigs across the UK.Rosie's story is one of the most honest midlife reinventions you'll hear. Perimenopause and the empty nest landed at the same time, she started disconnecting from everything she'd worked hard to build and found her way back through music, TikTok and a whole lot of not giving a f**k what anyone thinks.From borrowing her brother-in-law's decks to building a TikTok following as Roo's Renaissance, putting on the UK's first 80s modern remix dance event and planning to swap a country house for a one-bed in Hackney, Rosie is proof it's never too late to start over. Key Takeaways•        Perimenopause and empty nesting can collide and that identity crash is real•        You don't need a course to start something new; YouTube and borrowed kit will do•        Your existing friends might not get it. That's okay. Go find your tribe•        Reinvention puts pressure on relationships, talking (and therapy) can get you through•        The daytime rave scene is growing and it's genuinely multi-generational•        Success looks different in midlife: happiness and freedom over money and status•        Don't wait for permission. Try the thing. Don't give a f**k what anyone thinks  Timestamps01:55 — Introducing Rosie + the midlife pressure points04:10 — How the DJ journey started06:10 — From borrowed decks to TikTok and paid gigs08:03 — The 80s modern remix concept and live event10:41 — Why creativity beat career: the total escape moment11:48 — “ Bit old to do that aren’t you?”12:45 — Finding a new tribe when your old one doesn’t get it15:23 — Day raving and the multi-generational club scene16:27 — Partner and kids: how family reacts to your reinvention19:42 — Downsizing: letting go of your old identity22:21 — Empty nest: how the boys are handling the move25:35 — What’s next: Rue’s Renaissance as a brand and community29:00 — Rosie’s advice if you’re standing on the edge of change  Find RosieTikTok: @roos_renaissance Instagram @rosiefreshEvent: 80s Modern Remix Dance Party — 18th April, Bermondsey Social Club, London, 2pm–9pm  Enjoyed This Episode?Are you in the middle of your own reinvention? Drop us a message — nothing's off the table. Subscribe, leave a review, and share with anyone who needs to hear this.

Fit, Fabulous & Flaunting It: Fitness Over 50What does it actually mean to be fit and fabulous in your 50s and beyond? Jo and Kev dig into the science of why fitness matters more than ever at midlife, covering strength, cardio, and flexibility, while getting real about the overwhelming amount of conflicting advice out there. They celebrate some genuinely inspiring role models (and debate whether their abs are achievable), break down why you wake up feeling like a broken robot, and share practical tips for getting your body moving in the morning without a complete overhaul of your life.Key Takeaways•        Strength, cardio, and flexibility all matter, but you don't have to do everything. Pick what works for you.•        Morning stiffness has actual science behind it: tendons and ligaments shorten with age, and your joints produce less synovial fluid. It's not just you being lazy.•        Hydration is more important than most people realise; your muscles and ligaments are 70% water.•        Maintaining weight loss is harder (and less glamorous) than losing it in the first place.•        A simple morning routine; box breathing, knee hugs, hot shower, ankle rotations can genuinely help.Timestamps00:09  Why fitness matters over 50, strength, cardio, flexibility02:34  The benefits: bone density, muscle mass, mental health, sleep03:20  Inspiring role models; Mel C, Gwyneth, JLo, Gillian Anderson09:43  Dylan Jones on male style and fitness over 5014:33  Alison Cork's 10 tips for maintaining weight loss21:23  Jo's progress and why it's harder than expected23:47  Why you wake up stiff: the science explained25:00  Morning mobility routine to fix itResources & Links[Add links here]Enjoyed this episode?Subscribe, leave us a review, and tell a friend. We're on all major podcast platforms. Got a topic you want us to cover? Drop us a message ,nothing is off the table.

Skiing, Anxiety & the Power of Mindset — with Louise Pode, Ski Mindset Coach Episode DescriptionJo sits down with Louise Pode, a ski mindset coach based in the UK, for a frank and funny conversation about why so many women over 45 quietly stop doing the things they love and what it actually takes to get back out there. Louise shares her own journey from chronically anxious skier with two replaced hips to leading an international coaching practice and explains how psychology plays a far bigger role on the slopes than most people realise. If skiing has ever terrified you, made you feel like the oldest, slowest person on the mountain or left you questioning why you even bothered, this one's for you. Key Takeaways•        Your 'why' is everything. Before technique or training, Louise asks every client why they want to ski. That emotional anchor is what gets you through fear on the mountain.•        Women over 45 are more likely to step back than step forward and it's not just about menopause. Decades of prioritising others, cultural expectations and internalised self-doubt all play a role.•        Anxiety physically changes how you ski. Rigidity, leaning back, bracing; fear creates the very instability you're trying to avoid.•        Learning to ski as an adult is genuinely hard. Expecting to crack it in a week sets you up to feel like a failure. Feeling comfortable on skis after a few days is already a win.•        Environment matters enormously. Busy Christmas resorts with packed slopes are the worst place to learn or relearn. A quiet Italian resort beats Courchevel every time.•        Men have anxiety too, they're just less likely to ask for help. Louise's one-to-one clients are almost exclusively women, but men do turn up at group masterclasses.•        Overcoming anxiety is liberating beyond the slopes. Being able to look at a scary run and walk away with your head held high…that's the real goal. Timestamps00:57  Louise's background: physiotherapy, hip replacements and a love-hate relationship with skiing02:06  The accident that changed everything and the sliding doors moment that followed04:31  Why women 45+ tend to step back, not forward06:52  Male-dominated slopes and the intimidation factor08:57  How anxiety physically distorts your skiing11:24  What good learning actually looks like and why your instructor matters, it’s less stressful12:56  The coaching process; finding your 'why' before anything else15:45  Louise's own moment of panic at the top of Mont Vallon and how she talked herself down17:43 The hybrid skiing model for families of mixed abilities20:06  Do men seek coaching? (Spoiler: sort of)22:53  What Louise offers - five-session programmes, power-hours and a new online course25:08  Masterclasses at Tamworth and Hemel Hempstead and what a full day looks like27:28  Jo's experience and the best advice for anyone thinking of going back Find Louise•        Website: www.louisepode.com•        Instagram: @coachingwithlou•        Masterclasses coming soon in Hemel Hempstead

Mother's Day, it's more complicated than a card and some flowers. This week we dig into the real origins of Mothering Sunday (16th century, religious, nothing to do with Hallmark), why mums feel the need to be celebrated and the uncomfortable truth about how much of our identity as parents we've wrapped up in our kids. We also get into delayed adult development, why young adults are struggling to launch, how we might be making it worse and why letting go is the kindest thing you can do. For them AND for you. Plus: the love letter that made Jo emotional, the Mother's Day plan that backfired spectacularly and what David Beckham got right about letting your kids fail. Timestamps•        00:45 — The real origins of Mother's Day•        02:12— Why mums need to feel valued•        04:20 — The love letter from Jo’s daughter•        06:34 — Delayed adult development & the stats•        09:54 — How our generation parents differently•        10:48 — Tying our self-worth to our kids' outcomes•        14:14 — Mother’s Day isn’t good for everyone•        17:11 — The case for a day to yourself and Kev’s plan backfired•        19:42 — Expectations vs reality•        21:40 — Letting them fail…David Beckham•        23:00 — Why you can't control the outcome•        25:30 — How to detach without losing the relationship•        26:45 — Finding your third chapter – the beginning of your post-parenthood Key Takeaways•        Mother's Day started as a 16th-century religious festival; the commercial version is a modern invention•        Around 58% of 21-24 year olds currently live at home; independence is arriving 5-7 years later than in previous generations•        Our generation ties its self-worth to our kids' outcomes more than any generation before us•        Shielding your kids from every failure actually delays their ability to function independently•        Detaching isn't about loving them less, it's about freeing you both to move forward “When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us” by Jane Adams

Kev gets brutally honest about retirement, what it actually means, whether you can afford it and what to do if you can't. With guest Richard Squire of My Finance Future, they dig into the financial realities facing people in their 50s & 60s: from FIRE movements to the PLSA's benchmark figures, legacy planning and why your first retirement budget will probably be laughed at. Spoiler: Jo laughed at Kev's. Key Takeaways•        Second & third careers, partial work & financial independence •        FIRE movement (Financial Independence, Retire Early) is reshaping how people think about work & money•        The PLSA estimates that a comfortable retirement in UK £60K pa after tax•        Build your retirement budget from the bottom up.•        Keeping mentally active matters •        Helping kids is a newer, growing part of strategy•        Start checking your pension now Timestamps•        00:45 — 4 stages of retirement, what it brought up for Kev•        02:20 — Mortality reality check: losing parents, becoming head of family•        03:10 — Triggers: empty nest, mortgage renewal, the oldest at work•        04:30 — Introducing Richard Squire•        04:59 — What does retirement mean today•        06:09 — FIRE movement: Financial Independence, Retire Early explained•        07:15 — Final salary pensions vs. modern approaches•        08:09 — Keeping your brain active, why Kev worries about doing sod all•        09:08 — Leaving a legacy vs spending it all•        12:04 — Pension briefings at work •        12:38 — Kev's 1st retirement budget, Jo's verdict: f**king ridiculous•        13:39 — PLSA figures: what a comfortable retirement actually costs•        15:00 — Why bottom-up personal budgeting beats mythical averages•        16:38 – The go-go, slow-go and no-go years of retirement explained•        18:30 – 3 approaches to planning: advisor, coach or DIY•        22:25 – Kev's experience trying to move money out of a defined benefit pension•        23:40 – The British Steelworkers DB scandal•        24:30 – Where to start if you want to take control •        26:46 – Why getting pension decisions right first time matters•        27:53 – What Richard's cashflow forecasting tool does •        30:04 – Treat retirement planning like project management    https://myfinancefuture.com/learn-moreMyFinanceFuture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3tke_J8HrY

Inspired by the Winter Olympics, we dive into whether it's ever too late to hit the slopes and what to do when your partner just isn't that into it.Kev is a seasoned snowboarder heading to Méribel in his 60s. Jo learned to ski at 57... under protest. We share our honest, sometimes hilarious experiences, plus practical advice for midlifers considering winter sports for the first time (or for the first time in a while).Key Takeaways·       Why the 2025 Winter Olympics felt so inspiring for older viewers·       The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7 centres including Nice, Courchevel & Méribel·       Why the average age of a new ski school student in Canada is 45·       The real reason older beginners struggle; it's psychological, not physical·       The physical and social benefits of skiing and boarding in midlife·       Ski trips designed specifically for the over-50s·       What to do when one partner loves it and the other... really doesn't·       The rules: never teach your partner yourself·       How to sweeten the deal and find the right resort for mixed-ability couples·       Jo's ongoing negotiations about whether she'll ever ski againComing up: Jo talks to a coach who specialises in helping women over 45 rebuild their confidence on the slopes.TIMESTAMPS:00:44 – The Winter Olympics were inspiring03:15 – What makes the 2026 Milan-Cortina Olympics different; multiple locations04:25 – The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7-centre breakdown07:00 – Kev heads to Méribel; two men over 60 on the mountain08:00 – Jo's ski history (it's not pretty)10:05 – The family Christmas ski trip to Méribel11:20 – Jo learns to ski at 57 (under duress)12:22 – Stats: average age of new skiers is 45 and cognitive ability at 50+13:10 – The fear of falling problem14:01 – Physical & social benefits of skiing in midlife15:22 – Jo admits her fears of falling and her blocks16:28 – Over-50s ski organisations & group holidays19:00 – Club Med do social skiing for adults in term time, could this be the answer?20:33 – Options when partners have different enthusiasm and skill levels21:55 – Choices for going to a ski resort, rules and Golden rules: don't teach your partner; be back for après25:25 – The infamous lost children incident in Méribel28:45 – Will Jo ever ski again? Watch this spaceRESOURCES MENTIONED: The Ski Gathering | Snow Camps Europe | Ski World Over 50s | Ski Club of Great Britain – Fresh Tracks (over 60s) | AARP 50+ Ski Club | Club Med social skiing

Think retirement is all about having enough money saved? Think again. In this eye-opening conversation, retirement coach Dawn Marcotte reveals the hidden challenges that hit six months after you leave work - the anxiety, the boredom, the loss of identity. Dawn breaks down the four stages of retirement and shares practical strategies for building a fulfilling post-work life, from creating your "curiosity list" to joining industry associations where your expertise still matters. This episode tackles the emotional and social aspects of retirement that nobody prepares you for, with honest discussion about depression and invisibility. disappear.KEY TAKEAWAYS·       Retirement coaching focuses on the emotional, social, and psychological changes - not finances·       The first 6 months feel amazing, then many people experience anxiety and depression·       Without planning, it takes 2 years on average to figure out retirement happiness·       The four stages: Honeymoon → Lost → Exploration → Reinvention·       You need to replace: routine, intellectual stimulation, purpose and social connections·       Create a "curiosity list" of things to explore without judging if you'll be good at them·       Join industry associations to mentor others·       Quality of relationships is the #1 predictor of happiness·       Society tells retirees to "be small"TIMESTAMPS00:52 - What is a Retirement Coach? Dawn explains the non-financial side of retirement coaching and why it's needed01:40 - Why the first six months of retirement feel fantastic02:03 - The "Now What?" Moment. When boredom and anxiety set in03:13 – Why am I not having the time of my life?04:02 - Key Elements for Retirement Success04:33 - Dawn compares retirement boredom to the end of summer holidays as a kid05:40 - DIY Jo discusses people who think they'll paint the house repeatedly (the Severn Bridge analogy)06:45 - Most people feel lost 6 months to a year after retiring07:56 - The Four Stages of Retirement08:22 - The Reinvention Stage08:43 - Giving Back Through Your Passions09:44 - Why some people never reach the reinvention stage10:02 - When grandchildren grow up and don't need you anymore - then what?11:45 - UK retirement age is rising to 67-70, meaning 15-20 years to fill13:00 - How removing structure without replacement can cause depression14:20 - Baby Boomers & The Retirement Crisis15:04 - The Introvert-Extrovert Marriage Challenge16:00 - Why men particularly struggle when all their friends were at work16:44 - Kev's Retirement Plans, he is considering snowboard instructor training to manage the transition18:32 - The Need for Intellectual Stimulation19:09 - Dawn's coaching technique: brainstorm things you're curious about19:42 - Using your career expertise to mentor others after retirement22:00 - Dawn recommends public speaking to share expertise23:45 - Culture "be small" in retirement24:17 - Tony Robbins' Six Human Needs25:19 - Research shows relationship quality is the #1 indicator of happiness at any age27:19 - Joining Organizations, finding people who enjoy what you enjoy to build new social connections28:09 - Dawn's Book: "Filling the Blank Page"- practical guide to building a retirement of passion and purpose30:00 - New Website Launch dawnmarcotte.com30:30 - Dawn offers to help UK listeners find coaches i

When your adult children get married, you're not just gaining an in-law you're potentially entering a minefield of power struggles, boundary conflicts and family drama. This week, we unpack "brat-ults (privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents) through the lens of celebrity wedding wars, then dig into what happens when your first child ties the knot. From Brooklyn Beckham's 6 page Instagram manifesto to the universal challenges of dealing with your kids' partners, wedding ceremonies and prenup conversation. KEY TAKEAWAYSThe "Brat-ult" Phenomenon: Privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents Entitlement vs. Legitimate Conflict: The difference between healthy boundaries and entitled behaviour1st Marriage Milestone: Parents in their mid-50s/early-60s typically experience their first child's weddingThe Partner Question: Do you express concerns about your child's relationship Power Struggles Are Real: Wedding planning can become a battleground between families"Us" Matters: Supporting your adult child's relationship means accepting their partner is their priorityPrenup: Best done when couples are in love and with wealth inequalityGrandchildren Pressure: Being obsessive about grandchildren Independence Is Healthy: Teaching children self-sufficiency early creates better boundariesThe Divorce Reality: With a 48% divorce rate, statistical concerns about marriage are valid but tricky Let Them Make Mistakes: Adult children need to make their own choices  TIMESTAMPS00:30 Brat-ults, cancelling parents and wedding conflicts00:59 - What are "brat-ults"? Dr. Elizabeth McCain's article on privileged young adults in conflict with their parents01:53 - Celebrity examples: Brooklyn Beckham and Prince Harry03:00 - Jo's frustration with Brooklyn’s entitled behaviour and public family feuds04:38 - The psychology of spoiled children and parental guilt06:43 - Social media's role in normalising parent cancellation, by the rich and famous07:08 - The immaturity of public family conflicts08:22 - Brooklyn Beckham's wedding as the catalyst09:26 - Plot twist: When did the Spice Girls get old?09:52 - Parents in their 50s/60s experiencing their first child's wedding10:24 - Power struggles behind the scenes at the Beckham wedding10:57 - The new family dynamic: Your kid is no longer a kid12:06 - Do you like your child's partner? What if you think it won’t last?13:30 - The importance of "the us" in relationships14:15 -Jo's take on not being married herself15:05 - Mother's sense of loss when a child marries16:43 - Jo's parenting style: Independence from an early age17:23 - Single parenting and teaching self-sufficiency18:33 - In-law relationships: Does it really matter if you don't click?19:20 - Power struggles over the wedding ceremony itself19:35 - Mumzilla vs. bridezilla: Jo's prom dress experience20:33 - Making mistakes and learning independence20:52 - The grandchildren pressure problem22:11 - Kev's statistical approach to marriage advice for his boys23:01 - The prenup debate: When does it make sense?23:47 - Deed of trust: Jo's experience with wealth protection24:33 - Wealth inequality and prenup timing25:20 - Kev - Would you tell your child you don't like their partner?26:06 - Malevolence vs. minor annoyances27:17 - Wedding planning involvement28:52 - Final thoughts: Freedom, boundaries and respecting choices

We celebrate our podcast's 1st anniversary on Valentine's Day by diving into dating after 50, relationship maintenance and why this made-up holiday matters more than we thought.Forget just celebrating Valentine's Day, we're celebrating a full year of podcasting! In this milestone episode, we reflect on our journey from starting with different co-hosts to building an audience (slower than expected!), going viral with 200K views and even getting nominated for a Pro-Ageing Podcast Award.But the heart of this episode is about love after 50. We explore the three types of people on Valentine's Day (singles, established couples, and newly dating), confess how we nearly let Valentine's Day slide after 8 years together and share what people actually prioritise when dating post-50: intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness.We get brutally honest about the challenges of dating later in life, the baggage everyone brings, financial compatibility conversations, health considerations and the reality that 35-40 years of habits won't change. From joint bank accounts (we don't have one) to understanding your partner's "money language," we cover the conversations you need to have before fully committing. KEY TAKEAWAYSPodcasting reality check: We overestimated Year 1 success and learned listeners dip in and out rather than following. Valentine's serves as a reminder to invest effort in your relationship, not just celebrate on one specific date.Post-50 dating priorities shift: Intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness matter most (men add facial attractiveness; women add dependability).Everyone over 50 has baggage; we think it's actually a red flag if they don't.The comfort zone trap is real: Cohabitation can lead to taking each other for granted if you're not carefulMoney means different things: Safety, control, freedom, or love, understanding your partner's "money language" is crucialWe took 4.5 years before moving in together, there's no rush when you're building something real TIMESTAMPS00:27 - Introduction & First Anniversary01:54 - Year One Highlights and Surprises: Viral Posts & Award Nominations02:49 – Lessons Learnt from Our First Year04:10 - The Three Categories of Dating for People over 50 on Valentine's Day05:41 – The Evolution of Our Valentine’s Day06:18 - The Comfort Zone Trap: How We Nearly Let Valentine's Slide 10:15 - What People Over 50 Actually Look For in Partners 11:29 - The Baggage Factor: Everyone Has a History 14:07 - Blended Families & Why We Had It Easier14:55 – Our Primary Motivation When We Started Dating Each Other in Our Mid 50s16:21 - Health & Wealth: The Delicate Conversations – Do you want to be a nursemaid?17:19 - It Is Important to do Things Together19:00 - Financial Compatibility: Joint Accounts vs. Independence 21:21 - Emotional Transparency, Past Relationship Trauma & Understanding Your Own “Money Language”23:34 - Our Relationship Journey  & Philosophies to Dating 25:53 - Our Opinion on Dating post 50 RESOURCES MENTIONED• Anthony Robbins quote on Year 1 vs. Year 5 expectations  • Sunday papers article on dating characteristics post-50  • Research on financial compatibility in couples  • Love languages and attachment styles theory  • Previous viral episode: Should Adult Children Spend Christmas With Us? CONNECT WITH USAvailable on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube Instagram: @whenthefuckdididbecomeold

The midlife crisis isn't dead… it's had a makeover! We explore 5 new stereotypes replacing the old motorbike-and-affair cliché, confess which ones we fit and reveal shocking stats about sex after 50. Nothing is off the table!Forget the leather jacket and motorcycle stereotype! The Times Magazine has declared the traditional midlife crisis dead and replaced it with FIVE new archetypes. Join us hilariously dissect each one;from the LinkedIn Thought Leader to the Midlife Clubber and (reluctantly) admit which stereotypes we have fallen into.But this episode goes deeper than stereotypes. We break the taboo around sex after 50 with eye-opening statistics: 85% of men aged 60-69 are sexually active, 45% of over-50s are having the best sex of their lives, and 1 in 8 are doing it at least 5 times a week!Inspired by the BBC series "Riot Women" and our own midlife experiences, we explore why society doesn't want to see older people as sexual beings, what happens when the kids leave home and the surprising kinks dominating the over-50s bedroom.KEY TAKEAWAYSThe old midlife crisis stereotype (motorbike, affair, leather jacket) has been replaced by 5 new archetypes The Midlife Clubber is real and we are living proof (daytime clubbing, anyone?)45% of people over 50 report having the best sex of their lives RIGHT NOWMedia representation of sex after 50 is virtually non-existent (67% say it's rarely/never shown)Empty nesters experience significant improvements in their sex lives (48% report better intimacy)33% of over-50s are open to multiple sexual partnersConfidence and self-acceptance increase with age, leading to more sexual explorationTIMESTAMPS00:43 - The Times redefines the Old Midlife Crisis Stereotype and a look at the 5 new stereotypes02:20 - Kev's Confession: Living the Stereotype Early 04:04 - Stereotype #1: The Thought Leader (Kyle with his LinkedIn insights) 06:20 - Stereotype #2: The Psychedelic Dabbler (Emma's mushroom journey) 08:05 - Stereotype #3: The Camper Van Fan (Kath's van life obsession) 09:54 - Stereotype #4: The Midlife Clubber – We could be guilty! 12:57 - Stereotype #5: The Open Relationship Advocate (Polyamorous Debs) 14:30 - Sex After 50: Breaking the Taboo 16:07 - Shocking Statistics: Sex Lives of Over-50s 20:16 - The Lelo Survey: Best Sex of Their Lives 23:12 - The Great British Sex Experiment Discussion 25:27 - Top 5 Kinks for Over-50s Revealed 26:20 – Do We Need to Re-do Our Bucket List?26:33 - Which Stereotype Do We Relate to? 30:17 - Creating Their Own Stereotype & Next Episode PreviewRESOURCES MENTIONED• BBC Series: Riot Women • Times Magazine Article on midlife crisis stereotypes • Lelo Survey: Sex Lives of Over-50s • Previous guests: Suzanne Noble (sex advice for seniors)and Dr. Elliott Justin • Previous episode: The Happiness Curve & Midlife MalaiseNEXT EPISODEValentine's Day Special - February 6, 2026#MidlifeCrisis #AgeingUnapologetically #SexAfter50 #MidlifeReinvention #PodcastOver50 #AgeingWell #MidlifeClubbing #Perimenopause #RiotWomen #SexualWellness #Over50AndThrivingSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/Email us [email protected]  

January isn’t over yet and neither are the resolutions, bucket lists, or existential reckonings. We take a brutally honest (and very funny) look at how our January intentions are actually going, from elusive masquerade balls and long-delayed bucket list dreams, to Dry January becoming… possibly Dry February.Along the way, the conversation turns deeply personal: drinking habits, relationships, sex, sobriety, ageing bodies, and the symbolic end-of-day drink. The episode concludes with a passionate tribute to one of January’s most iconic sons, David Bowie, and why his legacy still matters across generations. Key TakeawaysBucket lists don’t expire - sometimes timing is everything.Alcohol is deeply symbolic, especially in relationships and daily rituals.Stopping (or questioning) drinking later in life is emotional, not just physical.Ageing invites honesty - about bodies, habits, sex and self-image.David Bowie remains timeless, influencing generations long after his death.January isn’t about perfection - it’s about reflection.Timestamps00:53  Our Bucket List Update, The Masquerade Ball - Venice, Versailles, eye-watering ticket prices and alternative02:15 Kev finally ticks off a 23-year-old dream and the emotional backstory involving Jeremy Clarkson, fatherhood, guilt and timing05:56 Kev’s Post-Christmas stubborn weight and why January hasn’t magically fixed anything06:45 Drinking Maths – Kev is drinking 50–70 units a week, 4,000 calories, NHS guidelines and the uncomfortable truth behind “I don’t want to eat less”08:11 He is considering “dry something” because 17.5M people in the UK are doing Dry January09:11 The over-55s are least likely to question alcohol intake, Kev will do a month dry10:16 Jo’s Sobriety Story, why she gave up alcohol over 20 years ago, being a single parent- fear, responsibility and choosing pain over pleasure13:15 Jo & Kev have questions for each other from a recent article13:36 Kev asks if she thinks he is drinking too much15:40 When was the last time we had sober sex16:20 If Kev gives up drinking, there is a possibility that he might be miserable18:43 Kev predicts irritability, garage cleaning and losing the symbolic “end of the day” drink.20:30 Celebrities of our age who have given up alcohol22:10 David Bowie gave up alcohol in 199323:07 David and Elvis were massive icons24:27 Ziggy Stardust was a redhead24:55 The first airplay of “Heroes” played by John Peel, in the same year as Elvis died26:05 Bowie’s cultural impact, he is timeless. He died 10 years ago, he released Black Star. Was that orchestrated?29:20 Bowie was a nonconformist; he shaped music and fashion29:54  A recent article said 10 bands wouldn’t exist without Bowie, including Sex Pistols, Joy Division, The Cure, Suede, Pulp, Placebo and The Kooks38:37 We promise to report back on Dry January/FebruarySubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@WhentheFdidIbecomeold  

In this episode, we dive headfirst into one of the biggest changes of our time: AI.Jo believes AI is moving fast and could be dangerous if left unchecked. Kev? Not convinced and frankly a bit exhausted by constant change.From black-and-white TVs to ChatGPT, VHS barcode pens to Alexa paranoia, we explore how different generations adapt (or don’t), whether AI really threatens jobs or humanity itself and why fatigue, scepticism, and “I just can’t be arsed” might be the most honest response of all.Funny, sharp and unfiltered this is a real conversation about ageing, tech, fear, curiosity, and knowing when to lean in… and when to say no.Key TakeawaysAI feels revolutionary, but so did the internet, mobile phones and Sky TVChange fatigue is real, especially after decades of adaptingAI will replace easy work, not human judgmentCritical thinking will matter more than everAI poses risks around misinformation, fraud, and emotional manipulationThe biggest danger may not be Skynet, but the exploitation of vulnerable peopleYou don’t have to love AI to accept it’s hereCuriosity beats panic (and denial)Timestamps00:29 – Our attitudes to change, in particular to AI01:25 – Kev admits he’s an AI Philistine, he agrees he should know more02:32 – Growing up without phones, internet, or streaming and with black & white TVs03:29 – VHS recorders, barcode pens & early tech miracles04:28 – People said the internet “would never catch on”05:14 – Home automation – The internet of things06:52 – Change fatigue: “How many times can we relearn everything?”07:50 – AI at work: productivity tools & human oversight08:40 – Will AI take our jobs? The “easy work” argument10:30 – AI hallucinations and critical thinking11:24 – What the “big boys” are worried about11:57 – Creativity, charts & AI-generated music, what is real13:16 – AI avatars, grief & replacing dead loved ones14:02 – Kev’s glamourous AI version of Jo15:00 –Useful for the elderly16:06 – Humanoid robots and avatars16:54 – Fraud, FaceTime scams & the elderly17:54 – Cold War fears vs AI panic22:05 – The race to AGI & East vs West24:26 – Medical AI, wearables & privacy dilemmas27:23 – When tech fails the people it’s meant to help28:35 – Jo’s real-life AI uses for podcasts & business31:41 – Kev’s current use of AI and his commitment for 2026Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/Email us [email protected]  

What if everything we’ve been told about ageing and happiness is wrong?In this episode of When the F**k Did I Become Old?, we dive into the surprising science behind happiness and why life often feels hardest in midlife but better on the other side of it.Sparked by a viral Christmas clip that racked up over 163,000 views and ignited fierce debate, our conversation moves into the World Happiness Report, the Cantril Ladder and the research behind the so-called midlife malaise.Kev shares insights from The Happiness Curve by Jonathan Rauch, revealing why happiness follows a U-shaped curve; dipping in our 40s and 50s before rising again as we age. Together we unpack expectations, resilience, gratitude, emotional intelligence and why getting older may actually be something to look forward to.This is an honest, funny, and deeply reassuring episode for anyone who’s ever wondered:Is this it?(Spoiler: no, it really isn’t.)Key TakeawaysHappiness follows a U-shaped curve, not a steady climbMidlife is often the lowest point — and that’s normalYoung people are optimistic but unrealistic about happinessMidlife pressure comes from expectations, responsibility, and comparisonAfter 50, people become more resilient, emotionally intelligent, and gratefulOlder adults cope better with stress and uncertaintyLife shifts from striving to beingAgeing isn’t the end — it’s often the most fulfilling chapterReinvention and “encore careers” are common and powerful after midlifeTimestamps00:45 – Christmas without children & why it went viral02:40 – Introducing the topic: happiness03:24 – The World Happiness Report & how happiness is measured03:58 – The Cantril Ladder explained05:30 – Happiest and unhappiest countries in the world06:40 – The Happiness Curve & the surprising U-shape08:28 – Why young people are happier (and more optimistic)09:00 – The optimism bias & unrealistic expectations12:06 – The hedonic treadmill: chasing “more”12:50 – Kev’s personal happiness graph experiment16:17– Midlife malaise vs the myth of the midlife crisis16:50 – How longer lifespans changed everything19:46 – Divorce, redundancy & pressure in midlife20:35 – Glass ceilings and career reality checks22:33 – Illness, mortality & emotional turning points24:26 – Reframing and why life feels lighter after 5026:45 – Why comparison changes and people believe they are happier27:38 – Gratitude, perspective & comparison traps28:41 – Increased emotional intelligence, resilience & compassion30:21 – “Having what you want” vs “wanting what you have”31:57 – Encore careers & reinvention after 5033:15 – Why ageing isn’t the disaster we were sold📚 Resources MentionedThe Happiness Curve – Jonathan RauchWorld Happiness ReportCantril Ladder of Life SatisfactionSupporting organisationshttps://www.oddfellows.co.uk/https://www.workingtransitions.com/https://www.proage.org/   

Do New Year’s resolutions actually work, especially as we get older?In this honest, funny and refreshingly unfiltered episode we challenge everything we’ve been told about January self-improvement.From overcrowded gyms and guilt-driven goal setting to the pressure to “start fresh” on January 1st, we explore why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail and why optimism, agency and having something to look forward to matter far more as we age.Drawing on insights from geriatric psychiatry, lived experience and bucket-list thinking for over-50s, this episode reframes ageing as a time for renewal, curiosity and choosing goals that genuinely make life more vibrant, not just more “virtuous”.Key Takeaways• Why looking forward to the future is vital for mental health in later life• New Year’s resolutions vs bucket lists and which actually works• Motivation, fitness and goal-setting after 50• Why “boring but sensible” goals don’t always inspire change• How hobbies, travel, social connection and curiosity keep life meaningful• Choosing one achievable goal that makes life richerIf you’re over 50, questioning ageing, fed up with guilt-based self-improvement or simply want to feel more excited about what’s ahead, this episode is for you.Timestamps00:48 - Do either of us actually do resolutions? Kev has traditionally had projects planned.04:07 - Are any of Jo’s regimes cyclical/planned for January 1st?04:38 - Why don’t we do New Year's Resolutions?05:50 - What is a New Year’s resolution and why is it important to make them?09:45 - Christmas is a natural pause, which allows us to reflect10:27 - Optimism and agency  give you the feeling of being in control11:37 - The top 10 New Year’s resolutions for seniors, including exercise, mental health and diet16:35 - Bucket lists vs resolutions: what’s the difference?18:26  -Bucket list ideas for over-50s that actually excite us -Travel dreams, hobbies & new experiences22:03 - Build something amazing22:30 - Our joint bucket list wish list25:40 - The benefits of goals that make a positive change for 202627:35 - Our goals for 2026 https://lifeconnect24.co.uk/blogs/hobbies/50-bucket-list-ideas

In this episode, we explore the complexities of spending Christmas with adult children. We discuss the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics, the evolution of Christmas traditions and the importance of adapting to new realities as children grow up. We highlight the importance of open communication and understanding as our families navigate the evolving landscape of holiday celebrations.Key TakeawaysChristmas with adult children brings new challenges.Creating new traditions is essential as families evolve.Emotional responses to children not being home for Christmas are common.Parents must adapt to their children's changing preferences.The pressure of parental expectations can affect holiday gatherings.Open communication is key to understanding children's needs.Christmas celebrations should reflect the current family dynamics.It's important to allow children to create their own holiday experiences.Financial considerations play a role in hosting Christmas.Navigating adult relationships requires flexibility and understanding.Time Stamps01:14 Our first Xmas with no kids at home01:38 Remembering Xmas as a child06:04 Creating New Christmas Traditions for our kids10:55 How it felt when my daughter asked if she could spend Xmas with her friends13:15 Pros and cons of having Xmas with adult children16:29 Managing expectations17:58 Shifting Dynamics of Family Gatherings18:23 Hosting Xmas is expensive20:41 We think we might be invited for Xmas soon21:21 We have to let our kids create their own Xmas22:00 Main reasons adult children don’t want to spend Xmas with their parents24:24 New Year’s Eve27:35 Is this the last year we go clubbing on New Year’s Eve?29:10 Get to know your children as adults30:14 Redefining Christmas CelebrationsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected]   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo sits down with Amanda Forsyth, the co-founder and CEO of LivOn, a new app helping people navigate the transition into retirement by discovering their interests, building purpose and staying connected to their community.Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. They unpack identity loss, loneliness and why retirement is far more than finances and how LivOn is redefining what this next chapter can look like. Key Takeaways Retirement is a whole new chapter, not an ending So much of “good retirement” is down to luck Identity loss is a huge, hidden problem Live On is like a retirement coach in your pocket Special support for men & the newly “forced” retired The app is free, with a “tech for good” missionTimestamps 01:38 - What is LivOn 02:04 - Retirement Comes Down to Luck 02:40 - Amanda’s Parents’ Journey 04:28 - The Difficulty of Finding Activities After 60 05:34 - 1 in 3 People Struggle with Retirement 06:04 - We Are Living Much Longer 06:20 - What LivOn Offers (Overview) 07:25 - The Personality Test, designed to help the individual 07:53 - How the App Recommends Activities 09:30 - Helping Introverts or the Newly Alone Make Friends 10:26 - Partnerships & Trusted Sources 11:25 - Supporting Men in Retirement 12:33 - Can Users Add Their Own Groups or Events? 13:42 - If the App Is Free, How Will It Make Money? 14:32 - What Might the Premium Version Include? 15:15 - The Gap in the Market 17:08 - Who Is the App For? (55+ and beyond) 18:35 - Why Aren’t We Emotionally Prepared for Retirement? 19:38 - Jo Talks About Kev’s Forthcoming Retirement Process 22:22 - Why Live On Avoids Health & Finance Advice (For Now) 23:40 - Anonymous Chat Groups (Reddit-Style) 25:56 - The Bigger Mission 28:24 - When Is the App Launching? January 2026 28:46 - Early Testers Wanted Website: www.livon.ai (people can sign up for early access and learn a bit more about what we’re building.)Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode SummaryIn this unapologetically honest episode, we dive into the exploding world of cosmetic surgery, injectables and weight-loss drugs, especially for people over 50. From facelifts to Ozempic, celebrity transparency and the reality of loose skin, we explore what’s real, what’s taboo and what’s becoming completely normal.We also discuss how Gen X is redefining aging, why social media is both inspiring and exhausting and the huge rise in both men and women seeking aesthetic treatments.Topics DiscussedWhy celebrities finally admitting surgery helps everyoneCosmetic procedures growing rapidly in men (up 70% since 2021)The difference between surgery in the 2000s vs todayZoom culture and the rise of self-criticismTop cosmetic procedures for men vs womenJo’s personal experience with surgery & BotoxKev’s reconstructive surgery storyAre facelifts still taboo? Why they shouldn’t be?Brad Pitt rumours (has he or hasn't he?)Fitness culture, shredding and the pressure to look “ageless”Weight loss drugs (Ozempic/Wegovy/Mounjaro) becoming mainstreamThe truth about side effects: sickness, muscle loss & long-term riskLoose skin after weight loss and why it’s driving more faceliftsGen X refusing to “act old” and how culture is shiftingConfidence, comparison and the expectations placed on women over 50Timestamps01.45 – Celebrity honesty & why it matters04:13– Kev’s reconstructive surgery background06:48 – Zoom culture and self-image after 5008:05 – Men vs women: top 5 cosmetic procedures11:05 – Kev on ageing, weight, and “could I be bothered?”13:48 – Jo on Botox, implants & considering a facelift14:48 – “Glamour pusses” over 50: Liz Hurley, Aniston, Kidman18:32 – Gen X is ageing differently, here’s why22:34 – What men really think about women having surgery24:38 – Facelifts in Turkey & risks vs results28:00 – The weight-loss drug boom31:49 – Side effects, muscle loss & poor dosage33:00 – Weight loss → loose skin → facelift trend34:20 – Weight loss drugs and cosmetic work are no longer tabooSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Winter Health: Flu Jabs, SAD, Christmas Weight Gain & Wellbeing in Later LifeEpisode SummaryIn this candid and humorous episode, we dive into the realities of winter health for people over 60, from flu jabs and COVID boosters to Seasonal Affective Disorder, sleep struggles, hydration, exercise, Christmas weight gain and what truly defines wellbeing in later life. We explore how older adults can stay physically and mentally strong during the darkest months of the year.Key TakeawaysMaintaining winter health is a combination of lifestyle, sunlight exposure, exercise, sleep, and nutrition.Flu jabs significantly reduce hospitalisations in people over 65 — but decisions are personal.SAD is more common than people realise and often goes undiagnosed.Christmas weight gain isn't the problem — not losing it afterwards is.The biggest predictors of wellbeing in later life are:cognitive engagement, social connection, physical activity, and housing stability.Timestamps.01:53 Flu jabs: Should we get them?03:34 If I am fit, do I need one?04:59 COVID vaccinations are no longer free? How do you know if you have it?07:43 Herd mentality vs personal choice08:59 Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): What it is & why it hits in winter09:30 Symptoms of SAD in everyday life10:40 Fixing winter fatigue: Light, sleep, and routine12:40 The Ultimate Energy Edge Challenge with Ben Price; go outside15:17 The reality of winter exercise16:56 Ben Price’s advice on sleep and sleep patterns17:38 Christmas weight gain: truth, myths & personal disasters20:57 The recommended steps to not putting on weight at Christmas22:43 Avoid stress eating as a response to bad sleep, sugar cravings, sleep & emotional eating26:00 Kev once made the mistake of having a medical after Christmas eating28:07 Wellbeing in later life: What the new Age UK index reveals29:50 Age UK suggestions on how to improve wellbeing at 60+32:00 Exercise; padel, gyms, social connection & staying activeSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week I welcome my new co-host, Kev Stockbridge, for a deep, honest, and surprisingly uplifting conversation about Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, International Men’s Day, and the often-hidden issue of male loneliness , especially as men age.Kev brings his experience as a UK Mental Health First Aider, sharing shocking statistics, the roots of men’s silence, why loneliness hits men harder later in life, the crisis of male social isolation, and why so many men fall off a social cliff after retirement.From Movember moustaches to actionable support models, from suicide statistics to why men avoid support groups filled with women, this episode is equal parts enlightening, tender, funny, and necessary.Key TakeawysWhy November matters for men’s mental healthMovember: where it started and what it funds todaySuicide statistics and the shocking gender divideHow men and women differ in social connectionWhy loneliness skyrockets for men over 50The “A.L.E.C.” model anyone can use to support someoneWhy retirement is psychologically dangerous for menHow purpose protects mental healthThe rise of male-only support spaces (Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club)Creating social networks before retirementPractical, real-life ways to support the men in your lifeTimestamps01:57 – Why Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month matters03:11 – Suicide; methods & how they differ by age05:30 – Movember: the origin story (and the ridiculous moustaches)06:34 – What Movember funds today08:00 – The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride 09:35 – International Men’s Day & this year’s theme11.34 – Why men die younger than women13.33 – The A.L.E.C. Model: Ask, Listen, Encourage, Check-in14:10 – What problems men bring to mental health first aiders15:50 – Loneliness: the hidden epidemic for older men16:35 – Social isolation vs loneliness (they’re not the same)18:00 – 911,000 men over 50 live alone, rising to 1.5 million by 203020:55 – Why men struggle socially after 5022:17 – Why men avoid support groups run mostly by women22:45 – Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club & male-only spaces24:50 – Kev’s personal retirement plans (and my opinion)29:12 – The importance of purpose, routine & brain stimulation after retirement30:36 – Men need reasons to meet up, not just “a chat”31:10 – Being kind, checking in, and supporting the men around youhttps://uk.movember.comhttps://internationalmensday.comhttps://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/loneliness/https://menssheds.org.ukhttps://andysmanclub.co.uk Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Put an Erection Ring on it Episode I have decided to replay this episode (for those of you who missed it) following last week's interview on Sex Advice for Seniors with Suazanne Noble, as she refers to the penis ring and is the UK distributor. This is with Dr Elliot Justin who invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it. Key Takeaways: Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring Designing a device for women How the erection ring can help you Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it Timestamps: • [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin • [01:39] – The Erection ring • [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction • [14:18] – How Women have been described • [16:45] – Database • [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring • [26:02] – Shame and secrecy • [31:56] - Device for women • [32:54] – Your mission Where to get more information on the penis ring or buy one: https://myfirmtech.com/Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyFollow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this engaging conversation, I talk to Suzanne Noble, host of the podcast Sex Advice for Seniors, we explore the often-taboo topics surrounding ageing, sexuality, and the challenges faced by seniors. Suzanne shares her journey in founding 'Advantages of Age' and the importance of disrupting negative narratives about ageing. We discuss the complexities of desire, the significance of communication in relationships and the need for open discussions about sexual health. The conversation emphasises the importance of community and support in navigating the ageing process, while also addressing the innovations in sexual wellness that can enhance pleasure and intimacy for seniors.TakeawaysAgeing narratives need to be disrupted to reflect reality.Community support is vital for seniors facing challenges.Sexuality does not diminish with age; it evolves.Communication about sexual health is crucial for pleasure.Many seniors lack information about sexual wellness.Desire and libido are complex and influenced by many factors.Lube and other aids should be normalised in conversations.Ageing brings unique challenges that require attention from policymakers.The importance of celebrating achievements in ageing through awards.Everyone's experience of ageing and sexuality is unique.Timestamps01:14 Suzanne is on a mission to smash the stereotypes around ageing and sex02:11 Media narrative around ageing03:03 The Journey of Advantages of Age06:42 Start up School for Seniors – to help people over 50 start a new business08:43 Sex Advice for Seniors explained09:53 This age group used to be sorted13:12 Any surprises?14:22 Getting back into sex in her 60s and reactions17:17 Desire and libido are complex19:30 Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration23:40 Interesting interview(s) on Sex Advice for Seniors21:04 How easy is it to communicate about sex with your partner?24:59 Dr Elliot Justin – Penis RingSuzanne's Linkshttps://advantagesofageawards.com/https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/p/pegging-and-the-older-man-how-tohttps://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtechSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected]   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we explore the concept of a 'second childhood', emphasising the importance of embracing creativity, passion, and a sense of wonder akin to that of a child. We discuss how allowing oneself to experience these feelings can lead to personal growth and self-discovery.TakeawaysThe idea of second childhood, in a way, it is a second childhood.Allowing yourself to have the same creativity and passions.Absorption in things and awe and wonder as a little two and a half year old.What is wrong with that?Embracing creativity can lead to personal growth.Passion is essential for a fulfilling life.Awe and wonder can be rediscovered at any age.Self-discovery is a lifelong journey.Creativity should not be limited by age.Allowing oneself to feel like a child can be liberating.Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of 'When the F*** Did I Become Old?', hosts Jo Parker and Corinne Franceschi explore the complex relationship between ageing and mindset. They discuss the impact of attitude, emotional memory, belief, and cultural perspectives on the ageing process. The conversation emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, language, and the power of choice in shaping how we experience ageing. Through various studies and personal anecdotes, they highlight that while ageing is inevitable, our perception and approach to it can significantly influence our quality of life as we grow older.TakeawaysAgeing is influenced by both mindset and physical factors.Attitude plays a significant role in how we perceive ageing.Emotional memory can affect our physical vitality as we age.Belief in oneself can lead to positive physical changes.Language and self-talk are crucial in shaping our ageing experience.Cultural perspectives can impact how ageing is viewed and respected.Mindfulness can help us stay present and aware as we age.We have the power to choose our attitude towards aging.Ageing is a complex interplay of various factors, not just mindset.The freedom that comes with ageing can be liberating.Timestamps01:32 Mel Robbins podcast episode with De Ellen Lnager02:46 The Mind-Body Connection in Ageing03:40 Attitude and Ageing: A Complex Relationship05:53 Emotional Memory and Its Impact on Ageing09:50 Belief and Perception: Shaping Our Ageing Experience13:40 How do Faith, Gender, Culture impact your Belief14:46 Negativity around age15:30 Cultural Perspectives on Ageing, how we make it more interesting and fun16:37 The Role of Language and Mindfulness in Ageing21:10 Belonging and Being Accepted17:52 The Power of Choice in the Ageing Process25:57 Is there Something Liberating about Getting Old29:13 We Have a ChoiceSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Corinne Franceschi (ex head teacher)In this episode, Jo Parker and Corrine Franceschi discuss the challenges and realities of living with Parkinson's disease, particularly from the perspective of a caregiver. Corrine shares her personal experiences with her partner's diagnosis, the emotional and physical toll of caregiving, and the importance of awareness and support systems. They explore the impact of the disease on relationships, the necessity of maintaining one's identity, and practical advice for those newly diagnosed. The conversation emphasizes the need for greater understanding and resources for both patients and caregivers.TakeawaysParkinson's affects everyone differently, with over 40 symptoms.Early onset Parkinson's tends to progress more slowly.There is a lack of awareness about Parkinson's as a growing neurological condition.Caregiving can lead to emotional detachment as a protective mechanism.Support systems are crucial but often lacking in understanding of Parkinson's.The impact of Parkinson's extends to family and relationships.Maintaining personal identity is vital for caregivers.Practical advice includes understanding treatment options and side effects.Finding joy and personal fulfillment is essential for caregivers.Establishing lasting power of attorney is important for managing care.Timestamps01:34 Introduction to Parkinson's Disease02:36 Understanding Parkinson's: Symptoms and Progression07:40 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving12:00 Navigating Healthcare and Support Systems16:04 The Impact on Relationships and Family20:34 Not Feeling Guilty, Finding Joy and Maintaining Identity22:22 Depression and Dignitas24:23 Going into a Care Home26:12 Lasting Power of Attorney 28:09 Practical Advice for New DiagnosesFollow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Holistic DentistryEpisode Summary: In this episode we welcome Dr Elmar Jung to discuss Holistic Dentistry. He explains what Holistic Dentistry is and how they work. We have a very interesting chat about toxins in our mouth and how these toxins can link to other things in your body. Key Takeaways: Can toothache relate to something else in my body 1st step is the most important oneDr Elmar Jung’s podcast Timestamps: • [01:10] – Introduction of guest Dr Elmar Jung• [02:08] – What is Holistic Dentistry• [07:38] – Mercury in my mouth• [16:45] – What is in people’s mouths • [19:28] – Fluoride • [22:10] – Where can we do our research• [23:47] – How do we start • [27:50] – Root CanalDr Elmar's podcast Tooth Talk https://open.spotify.com/show/2nLSiWifMMs1QjUoXdiCng?si=56e0b821c4994583+-+Tooth+Talk&nd=1&dlsi=eac902f460a543cbRoot Cause https://youtu.be/3s41QXReJ_4?si=uDlShJ7Bk4Aiyaf8 The Smoking Tooth https://youtu.be/fJVBYZEsqEU?si=UkeC1cuEhad3DAQHFollow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Kev ( my partner)!Finding yourself after divorce...post 50Episode Summary:In this episode we talk about getting a divorce in later life and finding your identity again. We discuss getting back into doing things we love and making new friends along the way.Key Takeaways:40% of marriages end in divorceEverything has an end to itFinding your identityTimestamps:• [01:36] – Kev’s divorce• [05:10] – Identity• [10:00] – Getting back into motorcycling• [18:44] – Kev going to India• [24:25] – What you do creates your identityFollow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!Shall we take the kids on holiday?Episode Summary: In this episode we discuss having holiday with the children now they are older and have moved out. We also talk about holiday with the pets as well and the difficulties of holidays with pets. Key Takeaways: Creating family holidays and memories Paying for older children to go on holiday Why do we take them on holidayTimestamps: • [01:55] – Having holidays when you have pets• [05:18] – Planning a holiday with older kids• [08:34] – Annoyed at paying for the children• [11:51] – Why are we looking to take the children on holiday• [22:03] – The last swansongSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!Kev’s First When The F**K MomentEpisode Summary:In this episode we introduce our co-host Kev Stockbridge and we discuss in depth his When the Fuck Did I become Old Moment. We talk about people’s perception of age and why Jo has to vet photos that go on social media.Key Takeaways:Someone else’s idea of old isn’t always your idea of oldMemories in PhotoPerception of how you look and how you feelTimestamps:•[01:14] – Introducing co host Kev Stockbridge•[01:28] – Kev’s When the Fuck Moment•[03:45] – Perception of age•[08:45] – What age is perceived as old•[11:58] – Why does Kev document with Photos•[22:01] – Jo’s view of photos of her being on socialsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected]   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary:In this episode we introduce our guest Craig Goldblatt, where we discuss the purpose of life. We talk in depth about finding our internal world and beliefs and how important these are. We discuss purpose, the meaning of purpose and Craig’s view of it.Key Takeaways:Thoughts become a beliefA purpose is doing something that fulfils us insideWho we spend our lives with is how we will becomeTimestamps:• [01:46] – Finding our sense of purpose• [05:00] – How to spend more time inside• [08:48] – Our internal world• [13:33] – Feeling fulfilled• [15:28] – Our beliefs change everything• [23:35] – Does purpose need to be massive• [28:03] – Craig’s finishing statement Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary:In this episode we introduce our amazing guest Gina Gardiner, she discuss her accident and what pathways she took after. We talk about her motivation and her having a sense of purpose throughout life. Gina has also written 37 books and 3 of them have been number 1 best sellers.Key Takeaways:Focus on what you can doHappiness is a choiceBelieve in someone even when they don’t believe in themselvesTimestamps:• [00:55] – Introducing our guest Gina and her story• [12:47] – Where do you get your motivation from• [18:20] – Sense of purpose in retirement• [24:11] – Is aging a challenge Gina’s book https://genuinely-you.co/page/booksTo lead others, you first need to transform into the best version of yourself and lead from a place of wholeness. In a new era of leadership, most are finding that there’s a deeper meaning to their overall purpose and reason for existing. This expands far beyond the approaches that have been taught in the traditional paradigms or even some of the most leading-edge programmes. Enlightenment, personal and spiritual mastery and leadership refinement are the core components required for creating a new landscape of leadership.If you would like Gina’s blueprint either https://enlightenedleadership.co/page/free-blueprint or  [email protected] with "Blueprint" in the subject titleSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host)What is happening to my skin, hair and teeth?Episode Summary:In this episode Paul and I discuss what happens to your skin, hair and teeth when you get older. We discuss Jo’s hair and skin changes and Paul discusses his long teeth journey.Key Takeaways:Keep skin hydratedHair changesLosing teeth and teeth treatmentTimestamps:[01:09] – Changes to our skin[08:44] – The 75 day hard[11:44] – Hair loss[17:26] – Teeth Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host)Unexpected Interests and Hobbies Episode Summary: In this episode Paul and I discuss the hobbies that we have both taken up and what we are looking to do to push us out of our comfort zone. We also talk about the difference between hobbies and interests and the importance of a community. Key Takeaways: Do what you want Community is key Timestamps: [01:10] – Paul’s Hobbies [09:01] – What’s the difference between hobby and interest [14:25] – Silent discos [19:04] – Learn to public speak [21:42] – Knitting [22:54] – Community [28:37] – Our conclusion Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

SEASON 2 (The search for a new co-host)Investment F**k UpsEpisode Summary:Season 2 and we are introducing new co-hosts in this season. In this 1st episode we welcome our guest and new co-host for the next few weeks Paul Rolfe to discuss investments and fuck ups we have both done. Paul and I open up about scams we have been involved in and investments that didn’t work out.This episode shares our personal experiences with investing, including the mistakes. It is not financial advice. Investments carry risks and what worked (or didn’t work) for us may not be right for you. Always seek independent, professional guidance from a qualified Independent Financial Adviser (IFA) before making any investment decisions.Key Takeaways:Only invest what you can afford to loseDo your researchTimestamps:• [01:01] – Exploring new co-hosts and welcome Paul• [01:50] – Fuck ups I have made in investments• [04:38] – Paul’s fuck ups• [11:48] – Scams• [15:50] – How do you avoid getting scammed• [21:57] – Jo’s Investment• [29:52] – Paul’s risky investmentsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, I am talking to Sharon Eden, The Wild Elder and host of the podcast “Getting a bigger gob on”We discuss what trauma is and how it impacts our lives. Are boys having a hard time now? Is the masculine-feminine argument old? Can the masculine be caring and compassionate too?The importance of taking ownership of ourselves, clearing up our shit and starting to live more aligned, Sharon talks us through connecting with our inner wisdom.Key TakeawaysFacing our trauma, big or smallOwning our shitThe importance of the feminineConnecting with our inner wisdomTimestamps01:50 – Visibility and the impact of Trauma04:39 – Cultural conditioning and gender dynamics08:23 – Working with women: Empowerment and voice10:23 – Therapeutic approaches to self and rediscover13:50 – The journey of becoming The Wilder Elder16:23 – The importance of spreading wisdom18:05 – Masculinity, femininity and emotional expression23:30 – Addressing societal issues through therapy26:20 – Connecting with your wild soul27:40 – Sharon talks me through connecting with our inner wisdomOur Guesthttps://thewildelder.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/dk/podcast/getting-a-bigger-gob-on/id1818530637Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Summary: In this episode we welcome our guest David Puglsey (64) who opens up about his retirement coach. He talks about having a fear that he would retire and die, and how the coach is working with him on this. He discusses his little notebook and what this does to help him and open to new possibilities. Key Takeaways: Looking at you in coaching Being open to possibility, possibilities will come to you Timestamps: [00:58] – Introducing guest David Pugsley [04:00] – Retire and die [07:26] – Getting a coach [09:56] – Looking at you [13:04] – David’s little notebook [17:42] – What prompted you to start the book [21:49] – Opening yourself up Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected]   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens next with Chris DaemsEpisode Summary: In this episode we welcome our guest Chris Daems who is the founder of Cervello (Financial Planning)and hostof the oodcast called What Happens Next.? We talk about how important it is be financially independent, have a good social wellbeing and physical wellbeing. We discuss how retirement has changed over the years and how there has been a mindset shift. Key Takeaways: What happens next podcast Find your people Book – Designing your life bu Bill BurnettTimestamps: • [01:03] – Introducing guest Chris Daems • [02:06] – What happens next • [08:33] – What are people doing in the transition• [11:01] – Coaching people in life • [13:01] – Greatest Challenges • [16:00] – Has retirement changed • [19:58] – What is Chris’ what happens next • [28:54] - Recurring themes • [35:32] – Mindset shift This is Chrishttps://www.cervellofp.co.uk/https://whathappensnext.life/https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MjdIt0_3W8&t=47sBooksDesigning Your Life by Bill BurnettBowling Alone by Robert D PutnamSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/ Our sponsor:sallyrule.com/ [email protected]   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How to stay up to date.Staying up to date with Thomas PowerEpisode Summary:In this episode we welcome our guest Thomas to discuss how to stay relevant with AI, Chat GPT and all the new tech and trends. Thomas gives his personal and professional takes on using AI and how this benefits everyone in all aspects of our lives.Key Takeaways:How AI is changing the way we workStaying relevantTimestamps:• [01:01] – Introducing guest Thomas Power• [03:05] – Staying on the edge• [06:18] – How does a man like you stay curious• [10:38] – What can we do to not get left behind?• [14:10] – Integrating AI into your daily life and work life.• [16:41] – How will AI change relationships• [24:06] – Replacing people• [29:55] - To old to try something newSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us onInstagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Put an Erection Ring on itSummary: In this episode we have an amazing guest Dr Elliot Justin who has invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it. Key Takeaways: Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring Designing a device for women How the erection ring can help you Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it Timestamps: • [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin • [01:39] – The Erection ring • [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction • [14:18] – How Women have been described • [16:45] – Database • [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring • [26:02] – Shame and secrecy • [31:56] - Device for women • [32:54] – Your mission Where to get more information on the penis ring or buy one: https://myfirmtech.com/Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyFollow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Right Sizing not DownsizingDon’t downsize just find the right sizeEpisode Summary:In this episode we are joined by the amazing Sally Rule who is an incredible Homeologist. We talk with her about what a Homologist does and how she helps people in later life. She discusses why people call her in and the importance of finding the right size home. By the way Sally is our sponsor!Key Takeaways:How can a Homeologist help youIt’s not downsizing it’s find the right size for youLess is moreTimestamps:• [01:01] – Introducing guest Sally Rule• [01:39] – What does a Homologist do?• [04:12] – How do you help in the later life?• [10:23] – Downsizing• [12:50] – Declutter• [16:50] – Why do people call you in?• [21:10] – Bringing in Family Members• [22:55] - Leaving it too lateSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyFollow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How Erectile Dysfunction Affects Women Episode Summary: In this episode we talk about how the blue pill affects women, especially as we get older, how it doesn’t supply the desire just the erection and how that affects relationships. We talk about the importance of communication, why don’t we tell our partners we are using pills for erections or pessaries for dryness? We discuss what the equivalent is for women and how this affects women. We are looking for questions for our guest on July 3rd and would love for people to message in if they have been affected by the blue pill, either positively or negatively. Key Takeaways: Questions before 3rd July for Dr Elliot Justin The blue pill is purely functional Why don’t we talk about this?Women’s equivalent to Viagra Timestamps: •                         [01:01] – Effects of Viagra on women •                         [06:55] – You both need to be aroused •                         [08:50] – Worried about telling partners •                         [13:30] – Penetrative Sex •                         [15:49] – Female equivalent to Viagra •                         [16:43] – Testosterone •                         [17:50] – Pills for women •                         [22:15] – Please share women’s experiences Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Our sponsorhttps://sallyrule.com/[email protected] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Importance of Staying CuriousIn this episode we look at how being curious helps maintaiin a youthful outlook. We discuss ways of being curious and taking ourselves out of our comfort zones.Try anything once (within reason), change rountines and ask questions.•        Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify•        Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Leave us a review Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jo's HRT Journey Episode Summary: In this episode we talk about Jo’s HRT Journey, the side effects she has had from menopause including sleepless nights, anxiety and hair loss and how the HRT has helped with some of these. We discuss the changes you go through in your menopause. Gaylin opens up and talks about her HRT journey. Key Takeaways: Chasing a level of normality Side effects of menopause Has HRT helped?Timestamps: •                         [00:17] – Jo’s HRT journey •                         [02:23] – HRT specialist •                         [08:10] – What are we chasing •                         [10:55] – Hair loss •                         [14:24] – Is mood better now on HRT •                         [18:32] – Gaylin’s HRT journey •                         [22:21] – Post menopause •                         [28:50] - What will happen moving forward  •        Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify•        Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Leave us a review   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why it is important to be playfulEpisode Summary:In this episode we discuss different ways of being playful and the importance of being playful. We talk about being judged for being playful and accepting who we are and being whoever we want to be. Finding new things to do to be playful and inviting people to be playful with you.Key Takeaways:How to play in your 60’sPlaying is youthfulBeing Judgemental and being judgedTimestamps:• [01:04] – How do we play in our 60’s• [02:00] – Gaylon puts on bunny ears• [03:05] – Judgement• [11:23] – Play is youthful• [17:36] – Gaylon really doesn’t care what anyone thinks• [19:58] – We need to feel like we belong• [21:47] – Behind closed doors• [25:46] How do we approach the playfulness• Subscribe to the podcast on Apple podcast•        Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify•        Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Leave us a review Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s never to late to start overEpisode Summary: In this episode we have our guest Clare Hughes who is an outstanding estate agent, discussing ageing in the industry and being a woman in estate agency. Clare shows us how it is never too late to start again, in any industry and under difficult circumstances.We talk about health issues and surgery that Clare has had and how this has changed her life and career. Key Takeaways: Ageing and being a woman in estate agencyWomen in Estate Agency Facebook group What makes your feel sexy and successful in your 60’s Timestamps: • [00:18] – Introducing our guest estate agent Clare Hughes • [00:58] – How have you found ageing in this industry? • [03:02] – Reinventing yourself • [04:28] – Health issues • [11:04] – Women in Estate Agent Facebook group • [15:07] – After effects of surgery • [22:51] – What are doing now that your younger self wouldn’t have done? • [28:04] – What’s left on your fuck it list • [32:54] – What makes your feel sexy, successful and strong in your 60’s •        Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify•        Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Leave us a reviewThis is Clare https://clarehughes.exp.uk.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Will we ever Retire Episode Summary: In this episode we discuss if we will ever retire with the changes of age, who do we become when we retire and if we should prepare for retirement. We talk about what is retirement and what the expectations of retirement are. If we should plan for retirement and what to think about financially. Key Takeaways: Retirement age is changing Do we actually retire? Planning Retirement and Finances Timestamps: •  [00:44] – Dissertation on Retirement •  [02:33] – Who are you when you retire? •  [05:31] – Prepare for retirement •  [09:47] – What is retirement?•  [11:47] – Expectations of retirement •  [14:10] – Planning retirement •  [15:54] - Finances •               Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify•               Follow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/whenthefkdidibecomeold/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WhenthefkdidIbecomeold/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@gaylin_joEmail us [email protected] Leave us a review Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.