Etiquette for Dangerous Women Podcast

Are you still searching for peace?What if it came through letting go of the last pieces you’re not even aware you carry? What if even the faith to believe isn’t yours to muster? We say “Jesus did it all” — but most of us quietly believe he did 99.5% of it and our job is to believe hard enough to get through the door. This episode sits with an uncomfortable question: if even a tiny sliver of this is on us, then we can boast about that sliver. And maybe more importantly — what happens to our daily life when we think there’s still a part we have to carry? Spring overwhelm, an empty hay barn, and a slow realization that the finished work might actually mean finished — no asterisks, no pending action items. Come dig into the questions with me.From author of The Jael Finishing School for Ladies: Etiquette for Dangerous Women.Available on Amazon:https://a.co/d/0ivCFcq5 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Everywhere we look, something is telling us to get small. Eastern spirituality says disappear into the universe. Culture says blend in so people are comfortable. And even well-meaning Christian teaching can quietly tell us to shrink under Jesus — as if God loves us more when he can’t see us. But what if disappearing is actually the opposite of what God wants? Jesus didn’t come to destroy your humanity. He came as the prototype of what fully human and fully God looks like together — and you are made in that image. It’s not prideful to ask God who he made you to be. It’s actually the first step toward the kingdom flowing through your life. Ask him today. And let the answer be something more specific than “child of God.”From the author ofThe Jael Finishing School for Ladies: Etiquette for Dangerous Women.Find the book here:https://a.co/d/0ivCFcq5 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Welcome to Season 3 of the Etiquette For Dangerous Women Podcast.Dangerous women don't always fight — sometimes they just stand and face the disappointment, confusing and grief. While the disciples ran away and locked themselves in a room with their fear, Mary stood at the empty tomb and waited. She was rewarded with the first resurrection appearance. This episode is about the etiquette of grief: how to face the hard thing, stay in the mystery, and trust that Jesus will show up — sooner than you think.Find the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Jael-Finishing-School-Ladies-Etiquette/dp/1098088719 This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Jaime reflects on the fear that often comes with starting something new and the inner resistance that can arise before a challenge. Through a personal moment of doubt, she explores the idea that responsibility isn’t about carrying everything alone, but about trusting our ability to respond. This episode is a reminder that we don’t need to have it all figured out — sometimes, the bravest and most powerful thing we can do is simply show up.Check out Jaime’s book on Amazon or your favorite bookseller: The Jael Finishing School for Ladies: Etiquette for dangerous women (Also available on Audible) This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

On an unusually warm December day in the mountains, Jamie reflects on anxiety, scarcity, and the pressure to “use time well.” While riding the trail with her horse, Khaleesi, she explores how scarcity thinking—around time, money, resources, and even good weather—can quietly create stress.This episode invites listeners to consider a different way of living: one rooted in abundance, trust, and the belief that there is enough for today. Drawing on a simple spiritual framework, Jamie shares how identifying the beliefs beneath anxiety can help bring clarity and peace.What beliefs might be fueling your stress? And what would it look like to live as if there is enough?If you have a framework for working through anxiety or challenging untrue beliefs, Jamie invites you to share your thoughts in the comments. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

While walking in the woods with my dog Sam, I found myself thinking about how much joy it brings me to watch him do what he was created for—running, sniffing, listening, exploring. Even when he’s distracted or doesn’t listen, my love for him never changes. That moment led me to reflect on how God sees us the same way: taking deep pleasure in watching us thrive in simply being exactly who he created us to me. We don’t have to perform to earn his love. This episode is a quiet, honest reflection on creation, love, and what it means to live in our element. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Episode 2 (season 2)On a snowy day in the Virginia mountains, Jamie shares a quiet moment of reflection while working with a young wild horse who is learning to trust humans for the first time. The horse wears an old, uncomfortable halter, yet he can’t bring himself to allow anyone close enough to remove it. As Jamie patiently works with him, the situation becomes a powerful metaphor for faith, trust, and past experiences.Drawing a parallel between the horse’s hesitation and our own spiritual lives, this episode explores how human experiences—especially painful or confusing ones—can shape the way we see God. Even when love, care, and freedom are being offered, we may keep God at arm’s length because we don’t fully understand His intentions. This thoughtful reflection invites listeners to ask an honest question: what might change if we allowed ourselves to be trusted enough to let God’s hands reach us?Find Jaime’s first book at your favorite book seller: The Jael Finishing School for Ladies: Etiquette for Dangerous Women This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

🔐 Life is like an escape room…God has already given us the first clue—His Word. The Bible isn’t the end of the adventure, it’s the beginning. When we seek, explore, question, and dig deeper, we uncover layer after layer of truth, wisdom, and treasure that God has hidden for us—not from us, but for us.But so many people never start the journey. They get comfortable, sit in the corner, admire the scenery… and miss out on the breakthroughs, revelations, and blessings waiting to be unlocked.⏳ Don’t let the clock run out.Start searching. Start seeking. Start discovering the life God designed you to uncover today! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Episode 17: What Do You Want Me to Do for You?Podcast Description:In this reflective episode of Etiquette for Dangerous Women, Jaime shares a quiet moment of clarity inspired by a question Jesus asks in Matthew 20: "What do you want me to do for you?" She explores the deeper desires behind our daily prayers, the presence of God in our lives, and what it means to carry the Kingdom wherever we go. A thoughtful meditation on purpose, presence, and connection with God. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this episode of Etiquette for Dangerous Women, Jaime reflects on Matthew 18, where the disciples ask Jesus, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” Initially judgmental of the question, she realizes that Jesus didn’t rebuke them—He answered it, pointing to childlike humility as the key to greatness.This leads Jamie into a personal exploration of how God has been reshaping her belief system—moving from big, dramatic shifts to more subtle, refining work. She discusses her past fixation on achievement and how God taught her to value people over goals. Now, she feels invited to pursue excellence again, but with the right heart—free from fear, pride, or the lie that mediocrity is more spiritual.Using metaphors like a crumpled dollar and a blocked valve, she illustrates how small, lingering beliefs can hinder God's blessings from flowing through us. The episode ends in prayer, asking God to reveal and correct these false beliefs so we can receive fully, walk in truth, and be a blessing to the world. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Jaime reflects on her mountain‑top conversation in Virginia, recalling a recent 100‑mile endurance ride across rugged Vermont terrain with her horse, Khaleesi. Despite meticulous training and spiritual resolve, a broken stirrup bar on the saddle early on cost them over an hour and forced a saddle swap, slowing their progress on punishing rolling hills. Though they missed the final checkpoint cut off at mile 62, Khaleesi remained healthy, and Jaime found deeper victory—not in crossing the finish line, but in faithfully doing “the next thing,” trusting in God, and embracing growth through hardship. She realized worth isn’t tied to outcomes, but to perseverance, character development, and knowing she was never alone on the journey. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this reflective episode of Etiquette for Dangerous Women, Jaime records from a quiet Vermont field on the eve of a 100-mile endurance horse race—a bucket list challenge that coincides with her birthday. As she prepares for the ride, she opens up about wrestling with questions of purpose, fear, and God's presence in her decisions. Through past doubts and recent clarity, she shares a comforting realization: whether a path is divinely inspired or personally chosen, God is always with her. It’s a message of peace, trust, and walking forward—even when the outcome is uncertain. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Jaime opens with a personal anecdote about her dog Samwise and the difficulty of finding time for their usual walks due to extreme weather and a packed schedule. She uses this to illustrate a larger internal struggle — feeling disconnected, unbalanced, and overwhelmed by life's demands.Amidst this chaos, Jaime turns to her spiritual practice, asking God for guidance. She receives the message: “Step into your strength today.” This prompts a deeper reflection on what it means to live from a place of strength, which she interprets as being:* Integrated within herself (not divided or at war internally),* Connected with God, and* Open and connected to others.Jaime emphasizes that internal fragmentation — caused by things like shame, unforgiveness, bitterness, or judgment — blocks the flow of divine strength and joy. She uses metaphors like funnels and valves to describe how spiritual energy must flow freely into us from God and out to others through love and service.She compares this to spiritual training, like soldiers preparing in base camps before stepping into real-world missions. Jaime notes that while quiet moments are crucial for spiritual clarity, we are ultimately called to live and serve in the world — active, present, and tuned in to God's voice even amidst the noise.Jaime encourages listeners to “step into their strength” by staying spiritually and emotionally clear and connected. Strength, she says, comes not from striving, but from alignment — being whole, receptive to God, and loving toward others.She closes by inviting the audience to examine what might be "clogging the system" in their own lives and to ask God to gently reveal those hidden blockages, so they can walk more freely in divine strength and purpose. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this episode of the Etiquiette for Dangerous Women Podcast, Jaime walks in the woods in the peace before a storm that is approaching. This setting becomes a metaphor for the inner peace she's been reflecting on through a course she and her husband are leading called Knowing Rediscovered (by IdentityExchange.Com). They've led the course three times now, and each time has brought deeper personal insight.A key takeaway for Jaime is: “You can’t give what you don’t have.” If we are at war within ourselves, we cannot bring peace to the world around us. She reflects on how Jesus lived with perfect inner peace, always aligned with God’s will—even in suffering.Jaime shares an example from her week: leading a Bible-and-horsemanship camp for kids. On one day, her peace was disrupted by a personal disappointment. Though the issue wasn’t major, it unsettled her, and she noticed how that internal conflict made the day feel more chaotic with the kids.She highlights how unresolved expectations can rob us of peace, and that true peace often requires “dying” to those expectations—trusting God with outcomes we can't control. Letting go creates space for resurrection: something better on the other side of disappointment.Jamie ends with this powerful insight: We learn best, lead best, and love best when we live from peace. Peace allows us to engage others meaningfully—especially children—and to open ourselves to transformation and deeper connection with God. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

** Note: this podcast conversation ends somewhat abruptly, but only the goodbye is missing. There was a technical glitch in the ending material **In this episode, Jaime reflects on a personal struggle with self-judgment and inner division, sharing a spiritual journey of seeking God's help to understand and love parts of herself she discovered has long rejected. She connects this inner conflict to her tendency to judge others and draws inspiration from the biblical story of the woman caught in adultery, emphasizing Jesus' non-condemning love. A touching moment at church involving her sister's late arrival with her young family—delayed by helping a stray dog—becomes a powerful metaphor for God's welcoming heart. Through this, she realizes the importance of embracing others with grace and open arms, regardless of their timing or circumstances… welcome without judgement. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Jaime, speaking from Virginia on the podcast Etiquette for Dangerous Women, reflects on the roles of joy and love in spiritual transformation. She shares insights inspired by neurotheologian Jim Wilder, emphasizing that genuine spiritual growth isn't achieved solely through willpower or making the "right choices" (like forgiving enemies or living righteously), but through internal, experiential transformation—especially experiences of God's love and joy.Jamie contrasts the traditional emphasis on discipline and effort with moments where she felt God's presence and love directly in prayer, which resulted in deeper, more authentic change. She illustrates this with personal stories, including challenges at work and healing through divine reassurance. She also discusses how joy can enhance teaching, relationships, and interactions with students and even animals like horses.Ultimately, she challenges the idea that joy is frivolous, arguing instead that joy is foundational to spiritual strength, transformation, and connection with God. She encourages listeners to invite God into their emotional and spiritual struggles, not out of fear or guilt, but with expectation of love and affirmation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this reflective walk-and-talk episode, Jaime explores the art of intentional listening. Speaking from rural Pennsylvania, she shares her personal journey of learning to be present without the need to speak, give advice, or perform. Through the lens of a family visit and a deeply detailed garden and home tour, she considers the value of honoring others simply by hearing their stories. With insights drawn from scripture, lived experience, and voices like Heidi Baker and Bob Goff, Jaime invites listeners to embrace presence over performance and to recognize the quiet power of simply being—as God created us. When we can rest in our given identity, just being present becomes our gift to those around us. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this solo episode, Jaime reflects on the changing of seasons as a metaphor for spiritual growth—those quiet seasons where nothing seems to be happening are like a winter after planting in the fall, and then suddenly, small shoots emerge like a spring.Drawing on scriptures like Zechariah 4:10 and Job 8:7, she explores how God values the small beginning of things, not just the finished product. Jaime also shares how the opportunities opening up in her life don’t always align with the world’s definition of success—and how God often uncouples financial reward from spiritual significance.This episode is an encouragement to:🌱 Trust the slow, hidden seasons, be encouraged they will produce fruit🙏 Follow God’s invitations—even when they don’t make sense🌍 Reimagine what fruitfulness and abiding looks like in the Kingdom🕊️ Stay open to transformation in ourselves and others, even when we feel small or afraidWhether you’re in a season of planting or just beginning to see green shoots, may this conversation help you keep abiding, trusting, and walking with Jesus. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this episode of the Etiquette for Dangerous Women podcast, Jaime reflects on the thought-provoking question: "How would Jesus introduce you at a party?" She explores how people often define themselves—or are defined by others—based on vocation, flaws, or roles, rather than their true identity. Drawing on Biblical examples like Peter and Gideon, she suggests that Jesus sees and speaks to the deeper truth of who people are created to be, not their past mistakes or present struggles.She encourages listeners to ask God how He sees them and others, emphasizing that our true identity is a gift to the world. The episode closes with a call to see difficult people through God's eyes, which can help cultivate empathy, love, and a more meaningful connection. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Jaime takes a “grounded moment” after falling down a bank during her walk to talk to God about her fears. She shares some of the fears and ponders how even through in her mind she knows that are not reasonable, it takes time and experiences to transform her heart to living out true freedom. She realizes it may take walking with Jesus through her fears to get to the other side of them and even deals with the ironic fear that the process itself is taking too long! Walk with Jaime and Sam as she considers the life she feels called to and the place she feels present in, and how to bridge the gap that seems to exist between.Thanks for listening to Jaime’s Dangerous Women Podcast! Subscribe for free to never miss a new conversation. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Jaime shares a personal, reflective monologue recorded while driving through the woods, exploring themes of identity, calling, and faith. She discusses her desire to fully live out the unique identity God gave her rather than imitating others, and how she's been praying for guidance on how to do that. She reflects on her work running a rural youth music education program and the tension she feels between doing things the “normal,” expected way versus following inspired, life-giving ideas that might be riskier but more aligned with her purpose.She talks candidly about internal doubts and fears—especially the voice in her head that discourages new ideas by raising concerns about funding, sustainability, and expectations. She traces some of these fears to messages she internalized growing up, particularly a suspicion of joy and a belief that God's path must always involve hardship and sacrifice. She's now learning to believe that joy can also be from God and that excitement about an idea might actually be His prompting.Ultimately, she concludes that it’s not all up to her—God is responsible for the outcomes. She expresses a desire to step out in faith, take creative risks, and trust that God will provide fruit from her work. Her hope is to help others, including her team and students, thrive in their own identities and callings as well.For more musings… check out Jaime’s Book: The Jael Finishing School: Etiquette For Dangerous Women. Available on Amazon and Audible and probably your favorite book source. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this episode of the Etiquette for Dangerous Women podcast, Jaime reflects on the difference between two paradigms: empire worldview and kingdom worldview. The empire worldview is framed around scarcity, self-protection, self-promotion, and separation — a worldview where resources are limited and people must fend for themselves. In contrast, the kingdom worldview represents abundance, trust in God’s provision, interconnectedness, and sacrificial love.Jaime shares personal experiences of struggling with scarcity thinking — especially around time and resources — even while identifying as a Christian. She argues that living in the kingdom requires embracing one's true identity in Christ and trusting God's provision and timing, rather than trying to control outcomes. Jaime also cautions that even Christian ministries can be built in the "empire" spirit if rooted in fear, control, or self-reliance, rather than in faith and abundance.Ultimately, the talk encourages introspection: Are we building a kingdom aligned with God’s values, or an empire driven by fear and ego? This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this reflective episode of Etiquette for Dangerous Women, the host explores the themes of truth and asking questions, particularly in the context of a spiritual journey and personal faith. Speaking while walking through nature with her dog, she discusses the importance of being honest with oneself in order to be honest with God. The episode delves into why we often hesitate to ask God questions—fear of not getting an answer, feeling unworthy, or not believing we're capable of hearing Him. She emphasizes that staying curious and asking the right questions is key to spiritual growth. The host also discusses the value of confession—not in the sense of guilt, but simply telling the truth about what’s really going on inside. This vulnerability allows for genuine connection with God and, ultimately, with others. She encourages listeners to move from intellectual belief to lived faith by starting with truthful self-reflection.Subscribe and don’t miss an episode. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

In this reflective walk-and-talk, the speaker shares a candid glimpse into a busy spring day filled with nonprofit work, horsemanship projects, house chores, and unexpected divine interruptions. Amidst the hustle, she takes her energetic dog for a much-needed run, discovering that even unplugged vacuums and roadkill detours can be nudges from God. As she walks and prays, her mental and spiritual fog begins to lift. Through her Enneagram 7 lens, she reflects on her evolving relationship with hope—not rooted in productivity or even transformation alone, but in the joy of simply doing life with God. The experience deepens her understanding of what it truly means to live in partnership with Christ, moment by moment. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com

Thank you for joining me on a walk in the woods to hear what is on my mind and heart. May you be blessed and encouraged! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit etiquettefordangerouswomen.substack.com