Messages From the Middle | Mental Health, Anxiety, Depression, Late Diagnosed ADHD, Undiagnosed Trauma, Neurodivergence, PTSD, Complicated Grief,

Everyone you meet is carrying something you can’t see. In this episode, we explore the quiet reality that people are often walking through battles they never speak about—and how easy it is to misjudge, react, or add weight to someone who is already struggling. Through personal reflection and everyday examples, this conversation invites you to pause, soften, and consider what might be happening beneath the surface. We also dive into the role of grace—what it really means, why it matters for your mental health, and how choosing compassion over judgment doesn’t just change how you treat others, but how you experience your own life. Because when you don’t know someone’s story, grace isn’t just kind… it’s necessary. contact me: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching wendyparrish.com

We spend so much of our lives trying to feel in control—of our kids, our relationships, our decisions, and even how others see us. But what if the very thing we’re clinging to for safety is actually what’s keeping us stuck? In this episode, I’m unpacking the illusion of control and the subtle ways it shows up in our everyday lives—from parenting and relationships to overthinking and needing to explain ourselves. Because the truth is, worry isn’t control… it’s just exhausting. This conversation is a gentle invitation to loosen your grip and come back to what is actually yours. You’ll learn how trying to control outcomes, people, and perceptions creates more anxiety—not less—and what it looks like to shift into a more grounded, compassionate way of living. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or responsible for everything and everyone around you, this episode will help you find a little more space to breathe. Calm Connection Parenting Summit:  https://link.calmconnectionparent.com/ccp-2026/parrish contact me:  [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

In this episode, we explore the powerful difference between clean pain and dirty pain—two concepts that can transform how you understand your emotions and mental health. Clean pain is the natural emotional response to difficult life experiences like loss, betrayal, or disappointment. Dirty pain, on the other hand, is the ongoing suffering created by the stories we tell ourselves—stories that often lead to resentment, anxiety, and emotional stuckness. If you’ve ever struggled with letting go, overthinking, or feeling trapped in cycles of hurt, this episode will help you recognize what’s really keeping you there. Through personal storytelling and practical tools, you’ll learn how to identify the thoughts that turn pain into prolonged suffering and how to begin shifting them. This episode is especially helpful for anyone navigating grief, emotional healing, trauma, or personal growth. You’ll walk away with a simple but powerful journaling practice—“The story I’m telling myself is…”—that can help you process emotions, build self-awareness, and move toward lasting emotional resilience. Calm in the Chaos: Free Parenting Summit link: https://link.calmconnectionparent.com/ccp-2026/parrish Contact me: email: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

Grief doesn’t always look the way we expect it to. In this episode, I share a personal moment that caught me completely off guard—sitting in church, listening to little kids sing, and suddenly being overwhelmed by emotion. Not because of a major loss, but because of a quiet, tender one: the passing of a season, the shift from little kids to growing ones. We often think grief only belongs to death, but the truth is, any unmet expectation or change can carry grief with it—and when we don’t recognize it, it can feel confusing and heavy. In this conversation, I walk through what grief really looks like, why we can’t logic our way out of it, and how learning to name it can be incredibly healing. I talk about letting go of judgment, allowing emotions to move through us, and recognizing the many ways grief can show up—like fatigue, anger, or even forgetfulness. If you’ve ever felt sadness you couldn’t quite explain, this episode will help you understand what might be underneath it—and remind you that grief isn’t a weakness, it’s a reflection of how deeply you’ve loved.

In this episode, I’m talking about something I’ve been hearing everywhere lately—and feeling myself—burnout. But not just any burnout… ADHD burnout. That deep, overwhelming exhaustion that comes from trying to manage a brain that doesn’t always want to cooperate. I walk through what ADHD burnout actually is, why it happens, and the cycle so many of us find ourselves stuck in—from the excitement of a new idea, to the overwhelm, to the shutdown, and then starting all over again. I also share my own experience with this cycle (hello, a lifetime of hyperfixations) and offer a gentler, more compassionate way to approach it. If you’ve ever felt stuck, scattered, or like you just can’t follow through no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you. We’ll talk about letting go of shame, getting curious about how your brain works, and learning how to support yourself instead of fighting against who you are. contact me: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

What happens after everything falls apart—and how do you slowly find your way back? Four years ago, I walked through the hardest season of my life. In 2022, after years of holding things together through stress, isolation, and the quiet weight of struggling mental health, everything finally fell apart. I found myself withdrawing from the world, barely functioning, and eventually leaving home for two months to enter a residential treatment program. In this special 100th episode, I’m looking back on that year and sharing honestly about what the last four years of healing have really looked like. Recovery didn’t happen quickly, and it definitely wasn’t a straight line. In this episode I talk about the tools, treatments, and lessons that helped me find my way forward—therapy, community, TMS, learning about hormones and ADHD, and the surprising role faith played in keeping me afloat. Most of all, I share what I’ve learned about the messy, imperfect process of healing. If you’re in a hard season yourself, this episode is a reminder that even when progress feels slow or uncertain, change and hope are still possible.

In this episode, I share a powerful experience I had meditating with Buddhist monks in Chiang Mai, Thailand. That time sitting quietly in a temple halfway across the world taught me something simple but profound about the way our minds work. I talk about meditation through the lens of ADHD—the wandering mind, the endless stream of thoughts, and the feeling that we’re “bad” at focusing. But meditation isn’t about having a perfectly quiet mind. It’s about the practice of noticing when our thoughts chase squirrels and gently bringing them back. Every time we do that, we’re actually strengthening the part of the brain responsible for focus, emotional regulation, and decision-making. In other words, the wandering mind isn’t failure—it’s the training. I also share a meditation instruction I read in a temple that taught me so much: breathing in, holding the breath for a moment, softening the eyes and the mind, and then expanding your awareness outward with compassion for all living things. Breath holds can briefly increase carbon dioxide levels in the body, which can sharpen awareness and help calm the nervous system when practiced gently. Combined with widening our attention and intentionally sending out love and compassion, this practice can create a surprising shift in mood and resilience. In this episode, I reflect on how simple moments of mindfulness—whether in a temple in Thailand or in the middle of an ordinary day—can help us train our minds, build focus, and reconnect with a sense of calm and compassion. 🧘‍♀️✨

What do Gilmore Girls and my kindergarten meltdown over a happy face stamp have in common? I am glad you asked. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) From a kindergarten meltdown over not earning a double smiley-face stamp to the emotional landmines of high school and adulthood, I share personal anecdotes about how RSD has shaped my life. I discuss how RSD affects creativity, relationships, and even the way we interpret simple texts like “Call me.” This episode is for anyone trying to understand themselves or their loved ones who may experience heightened sensitivity to rejection and failure. Tune in for insights, empathy, and a reminder that our unique traits—nerfs and buffs alike—can serve as both challenges and strengths.

In this episode titled "Mindfulness for a Busy Mind," I delve into the fascinating world of managing ADHD through mindfulness and meditation. One of the fun things that comes with ADHD is a busy mind, and I mean fun—like I'm never bored; my mind is always entertaining me. But this constant whirlwind of thoughts can be inconvenient when it comes to quieting intrusive and worrisome thoughts. The good news is, there's something that can be done with a busy mind. You can learn how to train your brain, take control of those intrusive thoughts, and that's where mindfulness comes in. I share my personal experience, emphasizing the joy and challenges of a constantly active mind. Through simple yet profound practices, I explain how listeners can train their brains to be intentional about their thoughts and actions, ultimately leading to improved concentration, reduced stress, and enhanced self-esteem. I break down the essence of mindfulness, debunking misconceptions and providing practical tips for incorporating meditation into daily life. Whether you're navigating the whirlwind of ADHD or simply seeking a deeper connection with the present moment, this episode serves as a gentle yet powerful reminder of the transformative potential of mindfulness.

In this episode, I’m talking about boundaries—the kind that don’t come from frustration, control, or emotional shutdown, but from love. I share why real boundaries aren’t a list of rules for other people to follow so we can feel okay. They’re about what we will do, what we will allow, and how we take responsibility for our own emotional well-being. When boundaries are rooted in love instead of fear, they protect connection instead of damaging it. I also explore the idea of thinking of yourself as a sovereign country. You have resources—time, energy, attention, care—and it’s your job to steward them wisely. Healthy relationships require both sharing and protecting those resources. Without clear boundaries, resentment quietly builds and erodes even our most important connections. This episode is an invitation to honor your limits, preserve your energy, and create relationships that feel mutual, respectful, and sustainable.

Feeling stuck is one of the most common experiences in mental health—and one of the hardest to explain. In this episode, we explore what it really means to feel stuck, numb, or frozen, and why those feelings often show up when our nervous system is overwhelmed. Through the lens of the motivational triad—our brain’s drive to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and conserve energy—we unpack how staying stuck can actually be a form of protection, even when it’s costing us peace, connection, and growth. We also talk about power—where we give it away, how victim thinking can quietly keep us trapped, and why the idea that we can only change ourselves is actually very good news. This episode offers compassionate insight, practical reframes, and gentle encouragement to take your power back, set boundaries, and make small, meaningful shifts that help you move forward. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by relationships, the state of the world, or your own inner landscape, this conversation is an invitation to step out of stuck and into agency—one choice at a time.

Lately, it feels like everything is too much—too much information, too much suffering, too much emotional weight to carry. In this episode, I talk honestly about what happens when empathy turns into emotional overload, burnout, or numbness. As someone whose top strength is empathy, I explore how constantly absorbing the pain of others—especially in a world fueled by social media and 24-hour news—can quietly erode our mental health. We’ll talk about toxic empathy, why our nervous systems weren’t designed to hold the weight of the world, and how “conceal, don’t feel” can become a survival strategy that ultimately disconnects us from ourselves. This episode is about finding a healthier, more sustainable way to care. I introduce compassion as the antidote to hyper-empathy—empathy with boundaries, empathy with action, empathy with boots on. We’ll explore the difference between empathy and compassion, why numbness and over-feeling are two sides of the same coin, and how small practices like loving-kindness meditation can help us stay open without burning out. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, or unsure how to care deeply without losing yourself, this conversation is for you. contact me: email: [email protected] Instagram @wendyparrishcoachin

In this episode, I’m talking openly about how I’ve been feeling lately—overwhelmed, stuck, and quietly sad about the state of the world. I share how those feelings slowly turned into an excuse in my mind, not just for stepping back from the podcast, but from a lot of things that matter to me. Instead of a polished outline or plan, I did the thing I’ve been avoiding: I plugged in the mic and pressed record. This episode is raw, unscripted, and real, because waiting until I felt “ready” was just another way I was talking myself out of showing up. I also dive into the concept of the motivational triad—the subconscious drive to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and conserve energy—and how overwhelm, hopelessness, and feeling stuck can quietly serve that triad. Making decisions takes energy, taking risks feels uncomfortable, and doing hard things requires us to move through pain instead of around it. In this conversation, I explore how our minds use very believable reasons to keep us safe and small, and why recognizing those patterns can be the first step toward choosing action anyway, even when it feels messy, imperfect, or heavy. contact me:  email: [email protected] instagra: @wendyparrishcoachin

The holidays can quietly amplify expectation pain—especially for parents of older kids. In this episode, I talk about how unmet expectations around Christmas traditions, family dynamics, and “how it’s supposed to feel” can lead to disappointment, grief, and emotional exhaustion. When the magic of little-kid Christmases fades and family life shifts, many parents are left wondering how to hold joy and sadness at the same time without lowering expectations so far that the season loses its meaning. I share my own experience navigating Christmas with kids who are growing up, letting go of old traditions, and learning how to love and expect what is instead of what used to be. This episode explores expectation pain, emotional resilience, and the mental health work of choosing our thoughts when things don’t go as planned. If you’re a parent feeling tender during the holidays, grieving change, or trying to find peace in an imperfect season, this conversation offers compassion, perspective, and a gentler way forward. Contact me: email: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

In this episode, I dig into an idea from Deborah Adele’s The Yamas & Niyamas that completely shifted how I think about kindness: the difference between being nice and being real. We talk about why so many of us default to niceness as a way to keep the peace, avoid conflict, and manage how others see us—especially when we’ve been taught our whole lives that being agreeable makes us good. But beneath the surface, niceness often asks us to hide our truth, disconnect from our needs, and hold back the honesty that real relationships actually require. Together, we explore how authenticity is a deeper form of kindness, not just to ourselves but to the people we care about. Being real doesn’t have to be harsh; it can be grounded, compassionate, and deeply respectful. I share how pretending, pleasing, and masking create tension in our bodies and distance in our relationships, and how telling the truth—with gentleness—can create more peace than performing ever will. If you’ve been stuck in the trap of “keeping everyone comfortable,” this episode will help you loosen that old pattern and step into a more honest, open, emotionally healthy way of connecting. Contact me: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

Here are two polished paragraphs for your Apple Podcasts description, Wendy: In this episode, I share a simple moment from my Thanksgiving break that opened up a much bigger conversation—finally discovering my seasonal color palette. What started as a fun activity with my sister and sister-in-law uncovered a powerful metaphor about being seen, understood, and supported. Just like the right colors help us look more like ourselves, understanding how our brains are wired can help us live more like ourselves. I walk through what seasonal color analysis actually is, why it works, and how it unexpectedly connected me back to my own journey with ADHD and mental health. I also explore why getting an accurate diagnosis can be so validating and empowering. A diagnosis isn’t a label that limits who you are—it’s information that helps you know how to work with your brain instead of against it. From quieting self-criticism to creating systems that support your unique wiring, clarity can help you show up in your life with more confidence and compassion. If you’ve ever wondered whether naming what you’re experiencing would actually help, this episode offers a gentle, relatable perspective on why understanding yourself is one of the most freeing things you can do. contact me: email: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoachin

This week we’re diving into indulgent emotions—those sneaky feelings that look like healing and self-reflection but actually keep us stuck. Confusion, overwhelm, worry, self-pity… they can all feel responsible, productive, or even spiritual. But when they don’t lead to action, they trap us in motion instead of progress. I’ll walk you through how these emotions hijack your brain, keep you feeling “busy,” and quietly protect you from discomfort, rejection, and failure. I’ll also share practical tools to shift from indulgent emotions to powerful ones like determination, courage, commitment, and curiosity. You’ll learn how to identify the feeling you’re indulging in, how to look at the actions it creates, and how to choose a new emotion that supports the life you want. If you’re tired of spinning in circles and ready to build momentum, self-trust, and action-based healing, this episode is for you. contact me: email: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

In this episode, I’m unpacking the truth about gratitude—what the research actually says, why it can support our mental health, and why it sometimes falls completely flat. Studies show that gratitude can reduce depression, lower stress, strengthen relationships, and even improve sleep and immune function. But those benefits only show up when gratitude is practiced in a grounded, realistic way. I break down how to avoid slipping into toxic positivity, how to honor your real emotions first, and how to use gratitude without gaslighting yourself into feeling something you don’t. I also share five practical, evidence-backed ways to make gratitude work for you, even on the days when everything feels heavy or neutral at best. From setting intentions and embracing the small things to getting specific and trusting the process, these tools can help you stay present with both the hard and the hopeful parts of your life. My goal is to help you build emotional resilience—not by forcing positivity, but by widening your perspective just enough to notice the moments that steady you. Contact me: @wendyparrishcoaching email: [email protected]

In this episode, I share what getting back into running has taught me about resilience, mental health, and the power of intentional discomfort. After years of injuries and setbacks, I finally realized that rebuilding strength—physically and emotionally—starts with choosing to push against resistance instead of avoiding it. From sprint intervals to glute work to nervous-system regulation, I talk about how training my body has directly trained my mind, helping me break cycles of fear, fragility, and “I can’t do this.” This is the real process of becoming anti-fragile: learning to hold discomfort without shutting down and expanding your capacity one uncomfortable rep at a time. I also dive into the mind-body tools that build emotional strength from the inside out—like somatic work, meditation, breath awareness, and choosing physical challenges on purpose. These practices don’t just strengthen muscles; they rewire the brain, deepen self-trust, and help you step out of victim mode and back into ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. If you’re looking for practical ways to grow resilience, regulate your nervous system, and reconnect with your inner strength, this episode will give you both the science and the lived experience behind what it takes to build a stronger, steadier you. contact me: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching website: wendyparrish.com

In this episode, I revisit the idea of “big T” and “little t” trauma after hearing Dr. Frank Anderson discuss why these labels can sometimes get in the way of healing. I agree with him that trauma is defined by its impact, not the size or obviousness of the event. But I also share why naming my own experiences—especially the ones I minimized for years—was a crucial step in recognizing how my nervous system had been shaped. Without language, I couldn’t see the patterns that were quietly directing my responses, relationships, and sense of safety. For many of us, naming isn’t about hierarchy. It’s about awareness. I walk listeners through the reflective questions Dr. Anderson uses to help people identify the parts of themselves that still carry overwhelm, fear, or unprocessed pain. And as I explore each question, I share examples from past coaching conversations to make the process tangible and relatable. I close with a discussion on self-compassion—what it actually looks like, why it matters, and why learning to treat ourselves with the same understanding we offer others can become a turning point in healing. This episode is an invitation to stop minimizing your pain, start naming your story, and take the first real steps toward nervous system repair and emotional resilience. contact me: email: [email protected] instagram @wendyparrishcoaching

For a long time, I thought trauma was something that only happened to other people — the big, obvious kind you see in movies or read about in books. But when I entered residential treatment in 2022, I discovered something I’d never heard of before: little t trauma. These are the smaller, often invisible experiences that still shape how we see ourselves and the world — infertility, rejection, chronic stress, loss, or simply years of feeling “not enough.” In this episode, I share my story of learning that healing isn’t just for those with “big” trauma — it’s for anyone carrying pain that’s been minimized or misunderstood. I’ll talk about how I went from believing I was “weak sauce” to understanding how my mind and body were trying to protect me all along. Together, we’ll explore why identifying little t trauma can be a turning point in building emotional resilience, releasing shame, and reclaiming your story. This episode is an invitation to give yourself grace, recognize your pain as valid, and start the process of healing — one small, courageous step at a time. contact me: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching    

  In this episode of Messages from the Middle, I’m talking about a word that we may actually be underusing: grief. Unlike other therapy buzzwords I’ve covered in this series, grief is a word that usually gets used correctly—but not nearly enough. We’ve come to associate grief solely with death, and while grief absolutely belongs there, it also deserves space in so many other areas of our lives. I share how misunderstanding grief led me to feel unnecessary shame in my own experience, and how learning to name it allowed me to begin healing. I’ll walk you through some of the most common myths around grief—the five stages, the timeline, the hierarchy—and offer a broader, more compassionate view of what grief really is and how it shows up. Whether you’ve experienced the loss of a loved one, the ending of a relationship, the shift of a dream, or just the quiet ache of a life that didn’t turn out the way you thought it would, this episode is an invitation to see grief differently—and to give yourself the permission you may not have known you needed. contact me: email: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

We hear the word boundaries all the time—set them, hold them, respect them—but what do boundaries actually look like in real life? In this episode, I’m breaking down what boundaries are, what they’re not, and why so many of us get them wrong. I talk through common misconceptions, share real-life examples, and offer practical steps for setting boundaries that protect your peace without pushing people away. If you’ve ever felt guilty for saying no, resentful in your relationships, or unsure how to follow through on the limits you’ve set, this one’s for you. I’ll walk you through the emotional backbone of boundary-setting—from self-awareness to self-respect—and help you reconnect with the version of yourself that knows your needs matter, too. contact me: email [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

In this episode of Therapy Talk Traps: Words We Misuse and How It’s Holding Us Back, I’m diving into the word "gaslighting"—a term that’s become part of everyday conversation, often without a full understanding of what it truly means. While gaslighting is a very real and harmful form of psychological abuse, we’ve started using it to describe everything from disagreements to memory lapses, and that’s a problem. Misusing the term not only waters down its meaning but also makes it harder for real victims of abuse to be recognized, believed, and supported. I explore the origins of the word, what gaslighting actually looks like in abusive dynamics, and why being precise with our language is a powerful step in our healing. I also talk about how casually labeling someone a gaslighter can keep us from the self-reflection and accountability that growth requires. Whether you’ve been confused by the term or you’ve found yourself using it, this episode is a compassionate, honest invitation to get curious—and get clearer—about the words we use and the power they hold. contact me: www.wendyparrish.com email: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching

In this kickoff to our summer series, Therapy Talk Traps; Words We Misuse and How They Hold Use Back.  Today we're diving into one of the most overused and misunderstood words in today’s mental health conversations: triggered. What does it actually mean to be triggered? And why does casually throwing the word around—when we really mean “uncomfortable”—keep us stuck in patterns that limit growth? We’ll unpack the clinical definition of triggers, discuss how avoidance reinforces fear, and explore how real healing involves learning to face discomfort with courage and support. I’ll also share one of my favorite metaphors—the difference between cows and bison in a storm—and what it can teach us about resilience. Whether you live with PTSD or OCD or you’re just learning how to sit with hard feelings, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for facing life’s inevitable storms. contact me: www.wendyparrish.com email: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching @childsongbird  

In this episode of Messages from the Middle, I share a journal entry I found from one of the hardest seasons of my life—and how writing it down became the seed that eventually grew into this podcast. I talk about why journaling can be such a powerful mental health tool, from helping us name and process our emotions to gaining perspective and tracking our growth. I also bring in insights from experts like Dr. James Pennebaker and Brené Brown, who highlight the emotional and psychological benefits of expressive writing. Whether you’re new to journaling or returning to it after a break, I hope this episode offers you encouragement and practical reasons to start. I also share a deeply personal story about a great blue heron—a small but sacred sign of love and connection during a time of deep struggle. If you’ve ever felt lost in the middle of your story, journaling might just be the first step in finding your way forward. Greatest Day Mindset Focus Journal: https://greatestdaymindset.myshopify.com/products/the-focus-journal contact me: email: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching Facebook: Wendy Parrish Coaching

In this episode of Messages from the Middle, we explore the stories we write for ourselves—the ones filled with magic, love, and happily-ever-afters. But what happens when life doesn’t follow the script? This week I share my journey navigating plot twists and unexpected challenges, and how the very tools and skills I developed in my younger years—like singing, dancing, and writing—became the talismans guiding me through the dark forest of life’s struggles. Join me as I reflects on the power of grounding, embracing big emotions, and holding onto faith, even when the storyline doesn’t go as planned. With honesty and insight, I will invite you to look back at your own story, discover the tools you’ve had all along, and find the courage to keep going—because your story is still unfolding. contact me: website: www.wendyparrish.com email: [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching @childsongbird

Ever feel like you're doing "all the things"—but somehow nothing important is getting done? In this episode, we explore the sneaky habit of productive procrastination—when you're busy with tasks that feel useful, like organizing, researching, or learning, but they’re actually keeping you from the real work that moves you forward. Using a personal story about transforming her home office, your host shines a compassionate light on how this pattern shows up and why it’s especially common among those with ADHD (but not exclusive to them!). You'll learn how the brain rewards us with dopamine for the idea of progress, even when we’re avoiding the stuff that truly matters. This episode is all about building awareness without shame, and learning how to gently course-correct when our to-do lists become a comfortable hiding place. If you've ever found yourself alphabetizing your spice rack instead of hitting “publish,” this one’s for you. contact me: website: www.wendyparrish.com instagram: @childsongbird @wendyparrishcoaching email: [email protected]

What if healing isn’t about going back — but about moving forward with more strength, compassion, and resilience than you ever thought possible? In this episode, I dive into the concept of healing in mental health, unpacking what it really means beyond the buzzwords. From my not-so-secret love of time travel stories to imagining what it would be like to "fix" the past, I explore why true healing isn’t about rewinding life, but about learning to live it more fully right now. We’ll get practical, too — breaking down what healing would look like if we treated emotional pain like physical illness. Spoiler: it's not that different. Whether you’re on your own healing journey or still trying to figure out what that even means, this episode offers insight, encouragement, and a gentle nudge to start defining healing for *yourself*. You don’t need a time machine. Just a little honesty, some self-compassion, and the courage to keep showing up. www.wendyparrish.com [email protected] Instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching @childsongbird  

This week on Messages from the Middle I talk about secondary emotions. Secondary emotions are more complex emotions that develop as a result of social and cultural influences, personal experiences, and cognitive processes. Unlike primary emotions (which are universal and biologically hardwired, such as happiness, sadness, fear, anger, surprise, and disgust), secondary emotions are learned and shaped by our interactions with others. Secondary emotions play a significant role in mental health, as they shape how we process experiences, interact with others, and regulate our thoughts and behaviors. When managed well, they contribute to emotional intelligence and resilience. However, difficulties in processing secondary emotions can lead to mental health challenges Take a listen this week to learn about secondary emotions and how they can help you with your mental health. contact me: @childsongbird @wendyparrishcoaching email: [email protected]

In this episode of Messages from the Middle, I dive into a question I hear all the time: "To diagnose or not to diagnose?" Many people suspect they have ADHD or another neurodivergence but hesitate to seek an official diagnosis. Maybe they don’t see the point, worry about labels, or fear it might hold them back. I get it—I really do. But today, I’m sharing why I chose to seek diagnoses for myself and my kids, and why knowledge can be a powerful tool for understanding, growth, and success.   A diagnosis isn’t about limitations—it’s about empowerment. It provides clarity, access to support, and a roadmap for navigating a world that often isn’t built for neurodivergent minds. Whether you’ve already self-diagnosed, had a well-meaning friend diagnose you, or are just starting to ask the question, this episode will help you weigh the benefits of knowing for sure. Because as my daughter once said, “It’s better to know that I’m a regular zebra and not a weird horse.” contact me: [email protected] instagram: @wendyparrishcoaching @childsongbird

At some point in life, we all lose pieces of ourselves—whether through major transitions, shifting identities, or unexpected challenges. In this episode of Messages From the Middle, I explore what it means to reclaim our purpose, using the story of my beloved reclaimed-wood kitchen table as a metaphor for transformation. Just like that table, we can take what’s been worn down, broken, or forgotten and reshape it into something new.   I share my own journey of reclaiming purpose after years of pouring everything into motherhood, only to find myself wondering, "Now what?" Through reflection, growth, and embracing change, I’ve learned that purpose isn’t about returning to what was—it’s about creating something even more meaningful. If you’ve ever felt lost in the shuffle of life, this episode will help you rediscover who you are and what truly matters in this season. contact me: [email protected] Instagram: @childsongbird OR @wendyparrishcoaching

Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back—it’s about staying in the discomfort long enough to grow. In this episode of *Messages From the Middle*, I explore what it truly means to be resilient through the lens of one of the most controversial moments in Formula 1 history. Lewis Hamilton’s journey from heartbreak to victory isn’t just a story about racing—it’s a masterclass in perseverance. But resilience isn’t just for elite athletes; it’s something we all need to navigate life’s challenges, whether they’re forced upon us or chosen.   I also share my personal journey with resilience—from scoring a 1 out of 5 on a resilience scale to learning how to sit with discomfort and use it as a tool for growth. We’ll dive into practical ways to build resilience, embrace discomfort, and shift our mindset when things get tough. Whether it’s through ice baths, tap dancing, or facing fears head-on, this episode will help you see discomfort not as a threat, but as a pathway to strength. contact me: [email protected] Instagram: @childsongbird OR @wendyparrishcoaching

This week, let's learn about the importance integrating all the stuff your learn from therapy, the books, and the podcast. Getting what you have learned from your head and into your hear. This way you are ready to allow your feelings instead of treating them life a problem to be fixed.You allow your feeling and are able to sit in discomfort to strengthen you mental health. Ever feel stuck between where you are and where you want to be? In Messages from the Middle, I dive deep into the realities of mental health, personal growth, and the messy middle of life. As someone who has lived with ADHD, PTSD, depression, and anxiety, I know firsthand how overwhelming the journey to healing can be. In each episode, I share personal stories, insights from therapy and coaching, and practical tools to help you navigate challenges like FOMO, emotional integration, and finding connection in an isolating world.   If you've ever wondered why you're "doing all the right things" but still feel stuck, this podcast is for you. Together, we'll explore topics like mindset shifts, emotional resilience, self-compassion, and the power of community. Whether you're working through past trauma, managing daily stress, or simply trying to build a more fulfilling life, Messages from the Middle is here to remind you—you’re not alone. Tune in for honest conversations, real talk about mental health, and the encouragement you need to keep moving forward.  .  contact me Instagram: @chidsongbird email: [email protected]

Ever feel stuck between where you are and where you want to be? In *Messages from the Middle*, I dive deep into the realities of mental health, personal growth, and the messy middle of life. As someone who has lived with ADHD, PTSD, depression, and anxiety, I know firsthand how overwhelming the journey to healing can be. In each episode, I share personal stories, insights from therapy and coaching, and practical tools to help you navigate challenges like FOMO, emotional integration, and finding connection in an isolating world.   If you've ever wondered why you're "doing all the right things" but still feel stuck, this podcast is for you. Together, we'll explore topics like mindset shifts, emotional resilience, self-compassion, and the power of community. Whether you're working through past trauma, managing daily stress, or simply trying to build a more fulfilling life, *Messages from the Middle* is here to remind you—you’re not alone. Tune in for honest conversations, real talk about mental health, and the encouragement you need to keep moving forward.   In this episode I talk about FOMO and how you can use it to enrich your life. Listen and let me know what you think contact me Instagram: @chidsongbird email: [email protected]

Have you ever felt stuck in patterns of blame, frustration, or emotional overwhelm? In this podcast, I explore the concept of emotional adulthood—what it means, why it matters, and how embracing it can transform your life. I share insights on how to take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, so you can step out of victim mode and into empowerment. With real-life examples, practical tools, and a little tough love, I’ll help you recognize where emotional childhood shows up in your life and how to shift toward a more intentional, fulfilling way of being.   If you're ready to reclaim your emotional remote control and stop letting outside circumstances dictate your happiness, this podcast is for you. Together, we’ll break down the mindset shifts that lead to real growth, self-awareness, and healthier relationships. Let’s learn how to show up as the strongest, most authentic versions of ourselves. contact me:  email [email protected] Instagram: @childsongbird  

Sadness is often seen as something to avoid, but what if it’s actually a crucial part of our emotional well-being? In this episode, I reflect on a powerful moment from a recent gathering with my closest friends—a tradition of Angel Tarot readings that led me to an unexpected realization. Through personal stories and insights from the movie "Inside Out", I explore why sadness isn’t a bad thing but rather an essential part of processing emotions, fostering growth, and deepening our appreciation for joy.   Good mental health isn’t about being happy all the time; it’s about allowing ourselves to feel the full range of emotions. Sadness can bring clarity, self-reflection, and even motivation for change. In this episode, I break down the ways sadness serves us, how it connects us to others, and why embracing all our feelings—both the highs and the lows—is the key to emotional balance. Tune in as we shift our perspective on sadness and learn to see it as a valuable part of the human experience. contact me: [email protected] Instagram: @chilidsongbird

In this episode of *Messages from the Middle*, I dive into the concept of toxic positivity—the idea that we should always look on the bright side, no matter what. While positivity has its place, forcing it at the expense of real emotions can be harmful. Phrases like *“just stay positive”* or *“everything happens for a reason”* might sound encouraging, but they can actually dismiss and invalidate genuine feelings. So, how do we balance optimism with emotional honesty?   Join me as I explore the difference between healthy positivity and toxic positivity, share real-life examples (including a story about lost luggage in Africa!), and offer practical steps for processing emotions in a way that leads to true resilience. Because real emotional strength isn’t about pretending everything is fine—it’s about allowing yourself to feel, process, and move forward in an authentic way. contact me: email- [email protected] Instagram: @childsongbird

In this episode of Messages from the Middle, I, dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of ADHD: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD). Last week, I shared how RSD has impacted my life and held me back from living boldly. This week, I focus on the antidote—self-confidence—and how it can help us overcome the paralyzing fear of failure or rejection. Together, we’ll explore what self-confidence truly means, why it’s tied to our ability to process emotions, and how we can build trust in our emotional resilience to step into life with courage. Join me as I unpack essential skills like psychological flexibility, mindfulness, and self-compassion, and share actionable steps to help you feel, process, and grow through even the toughest emotions. Whether you’re navigating RSD or seeking a fresh perspective on emotional health, this episode offers tools to reclaim your power and live with greater confidence. talk to me: email: [email protected] instagram: @childsongbird

What do Gilmore Girls and my kindergarten meltdown over a happy face stamp have in common? I am glad you asked. Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) From a kindergarten meltdown over not earning a double smiley-face stamp to the emotional landmines of high school and adulthood, I share personal anecdotes about how RSD has shaped my life. I discuss how RSD affects creativity, relationships, and even the way we interpret simple texts like “Call me.” This episode is for anyone trying to understand themselves or their loved ones who may experience heightened sensitivity to rejection and failure. Tune in for insights, empathy, and a reminder that our unique traits—nerfs and buffs alike—can serve as both challenges and strengths. contact me: email: [email protected] instagram @childsongbird

In this new episode I talk about my sure fire strategy to manage a racing mind and anxiety. That is too get out of my head and into my body through the breath.  When life feels overwhelming, focusing on your breath can be a simple yet powerful way to calm your mind and reconnect with the present. Breathing exercises can alleviate stress, improve mood, and even help with sleep and pain management. Intentional breathing works by engaging the parasympathetic nervous system, which promotes relaxation and lowers stress levels. Focusing on your breath not only slows your heart rate but also helps you let go of fear, regret, and shame, bringing you back to the here and now. listen to this episode to get your connected to your breath.  contact me: [email protected] instagram @childsongbird

After a few months away, I’m back behind the microphone, and it feels so good to return to *Messages From the Middle*. In this episode, I’m sharing my journey through one of the hard seasons of my life and the steps I took to move the needle in a positive direction. From ketamine infusion boosters to transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS), I dive into the innovative treatments that helped me get back on track.   But it wasn’t just about the big medical interventions—it was also about reconnecting with my support system, building small daily habits, and finding strength in a group coaching program. I’ll talk about how these strategies worked together to create real change and why even the smallest actions, like making my bed, became a powerful foundation for healing.   It’s good to feel better, to be back, and to share my journey with you. Tune in for an honest and hopeful conversation about climbing out of the darkness and finding light again. contact me: email: [email protected] instagram: @childsongbird  

In this episode, I share my thoughts on navigating challenging times and managing the stress many of us are feeling in today’s divided world. After returning from a recent break, I’ve seen how deeply fear and anxiety have taken root, especially around recent political events, even though I won’t be discussing the election itself. I explore how fear, often used as a tool to manipulate, can drive us to destructive places like anger, depression, and even despair. It’s heartbreaking to see the crisis this has created for so many, and I share my frustrations with those who irresponsibly fan these flames of fear. To help myself—and hopefully all of you—find more peace, I walk through three powerful strategies I use to protect my mental well-being. I start by focusing on how I can control my thoughts and feelings, even when the world feels chaotic. I remind myself that fear only lives in the future and that staying grounded in the present brings a lot of relief. Finally, I talk about taking positive action, whether it’s supporting others with kindness or learning more about how things actually work. My message is simple but essential: let’s choose love over fear and be the positive change our world needs right now.   Instagram: @childsongbird email: [email protected]

I guess I should have made a plan for this... When you start a podcast about mental health because of your own mental health struggles, I should have been prepared for a relapse that leaves me pretty shut down. This week I have decided that I need to take a break to take care of myself and my mental health. I am determiened to come back as soon as possible. I love this podcast and the energy exchange it has given me, but for right now, I need to step back, pause and do some work.  I have over 60 episodes available for you to catch up on in the mean time. love to you all, Wendy

In this episode we explore the vital distinction between discomfort and feeling unsafe, emphasizing the importance of embracing discomfort as a catalyst for personal growth. Drawing parallels between physical and emotional growth, we highlight the necessity of pushing beyond our comfort zones to unlock our full potential. Just as lifting heavier weights or increasing running distances leads to physical strength and endurance, leaning into discomfort fosters resilience and personal development. We delve into the nuances of discomfort, clarifying that while it may feel unfamiliar or challenging, it does not inherently pose a threat to our safety. By understanding this difference, we empower ourselves to confront new experiences with courage and curiosity, rather than succumbing to fear or avoidance. Through knowledge and practice, we learn to navigate discomfort with confidence, paving the way for profound personal transformation and fulfillment. Join us as we embark on a journey of growth and discovery, embracing discomfort as the pathway to becoming the best version of ourselves. contact me: [email protected] instagram: @[email protected]

In this episode we delve deep into the intricacies of emotions and their profound impact on our lives. It all starts with understanding the distinction between sensations and feelings. While sensations are involuntary bodily responses, feelings are rooted in our thoughts, highlighting the significant role our mindset plays in shaping our emotional landscape. By recognizing that our thoughts are the root cause of our emotions, we unlock the power to shape our emotional experiences intentionally. We explore the importance of emotional awareness and the transformative potential of allowing ourselves to feel without resistance or avoidance. By embracing our emotions with compassion and curiosity, we gain invaluable insights into our inner world, paving the way for greater self-understanding and emotional resilience. Join us as we journey towards a deeper connection with ourselves and a more fulfilling experience of life, one feeling at a time. contact me: email: [email protected] instagram: @childsongbird

In this episode of Messages from the Middle we delve into the power of self-narrative and the transformative potential of editing our life's script. Have you ever paused to consider the tale you tell yourself about yourself? Our personal narratives, whether consciously acknowledged or lingering in the shadows, profoundly shape our perceptions, emotions, and behaviors. The beauty lies in the fact that we are both the author and the editor of our stories. We possess the agency to revise, reimagine, and redefine our paths. "Rewriting your story" isn't about dismissing hardships or pretending everything is perfect; it's about finding meaning, empowerment, and ownership amidst life's twists and turns. Exploring your narrative is a journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Through introspection and reflection, we uncover the themes, pivotal moments, and core beliefs that define our story. Are we empowering ourselves or surrendering to victimhood? Do we perceive challenges as opportunities for growth or roadblocks to our happiness? By embracing our story with honesty and compassion, we embark on a process of liberation and transformation. So, are you ready to rewrite your story? Join me as I embark on this quest to reclaim our narratives, redefine our identities, and craft stories that resonate with authenticity and purpose. Contact me: email: [email protected] Instagram: @childsongbird

In this episode titled "Mindfulness for a Busy Mind," I delve into the fascinating world of managing ADHD through mindfulness and meditation. One of the fun things that comes with ADHD is a busy mind, and I mean fun—like I'm never bored; my mind is always entertaining me. But this constant whirlwind of thoughts can be inconvenient when it comes to quieting intrusive and worrisome thoughts. The good news is, there's something that can be done with a busy mind. You can learn how to train your brain, take control of those intrusive thoughts, and that's where mindfulness comes in. I share my personal experience, emphasizing the joy and challenges of a constantly active mind. Through simple yet profound practices, I explain how listeners can train their brains to be intentional about their thoughts and actions, ultimately leading to improved concentration, reduced stress, and enhanced self-esteem. I break down the essence of mindfulness, debunking misconceptions and providing practical tips for incorporating meditation into daily life. Whether you're navigating the whirlwind of ADHD or simply seeking a deeper connection with the present moment, this episode serves as a gentle yet powerful reminder of the transformative potential of mindfulness.

In this heartfelt episode I delve deep into the raw emotions and tough realities of parenthood, particularly for those of us in the middle and beyond. With honesty and vulnerability, I share my own journey of navigating the unexpected twists and turns of raising children, from the sleepless nights of infancy to the heartbreaks of adolescence. Together, we explore the profound love we have for our children and the challenges of balancing our own happiness with their journey towards independence. Join me as we unpack the meaning of unconditional love, and facing the hard questions head-on. From redefining success to embracing the journey, this episode offers a powerful reminder that as parents, we're all in this together. So, to my fellow middle moms, let's lean into the messy, beautiful journey of parenthood and find solace in the shared experiences that bind us. contact me email: [email protected] instagram: @childsongbird

Welcome to Messages From the Middle. On the podcast today we're diving into a topic that hits close to home for many with ADHD: burnout. In this episode we'll unpack the signs, symptoms, and sneaky triggers of burnout in the ADHD community. From feeling perpetually exhausted to struggling with everyday tasks like cooking dinner or tackling the grocery store, we'll explore the unique challenges that come with managing ADHD executive function. But fear not, fellow travelers on the ADHD journey, because we're not just here to commiserate—we're here to empower. Throughout the episode, we'll share practical strategies for breaking the burnout cycle, from setting realistic expectations to prioritizing self-care. So grab your headphones, settle in, and let's kick burnout to the curb, one mindful step at a time. contact me: email: [email protected] instagram: @childsongbird Coaching calendar link