nobadkarma: how being a sugar daddy changed my life

Booze and sex.  Our two favorite vices.  If you're wondering if the traditional 7-year itch is real, stop wondering… it is.  So as I realized I was marking 7 years sober, I wondered if I would get an itch.  I did not. So that made me wonder… Is the 7-year itch is just a sex thing?  Or is it a thing with anything you do for a long time, and it just didn't happen to me.  Or, happen yet, as it pertains to my drinking. In this episode, I'm going to read and improv on a personal post I made for my 7-years of sobriety, and then spend a little time on the traditional 7-year itch.  Because what I've learned is that it's not about the booze.  And it's not about the sex.  It's about manifesting the life you want for yourself and the actions you take to get there. For an excellent, very succinct, and very useful one page quick read on the traditional 7-year itch and how to prevent it, check out this article https://www.authenticintimacy.com/is-there-really-a-7-year-itch/  Opening Song is Lickety-Split by Alana Jordan on Pixabay #ihaveadrinkingproblem #friendsofbillw #7yearchip #7yearssober #selfimprovement #personalimprovement #alcoholics #imightbeanalcoholic #sobercurious #resilience #selfdetermination #willpower #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose

Why do we wait for Thanksgiving to come around to be thankful? You're out there, struggling, trying to manifest the life you want.  "Why isn't it going better," you scream? What would you think if I told you that you were probably just forgetting to be thankful.  Would that change your behavior?  Would you be more thankful if it would help you get what you want? would you be more thankful if i told you it was how you get what you want? the ritual of prayer regardless of faith. #manifesting #manifestthelifeyouwant #faith #prayer #gratitude #grateful #thankful #gratefulness #thankfulness #selfreflection #personalimprovement #thanksgiving #thanksgiving2025 #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma #podcast

the things whose worth cannot be measured are the things worth keeping.  if someone famous didn't say it, i just did. and, here's another.  you won't think about the wroth of your marriage until a judge puts a value on a divorce judgement. you see, the things worth keeping are the things we often just take for granted. #nobadkarma #podcast #givechoicespurpose #thingsworthkeeping #relationships #relationshipadvice #selfimprovement #personalimprovement #liveintentionally #loveintentionally

We don't think enough about the things worth keeping.  We take them for granted every day.  But if I asked you to identify something in your closet NOT worth keeping, you'd have no problem.  We hold onto posessions and momentos, but fail to give the people we love the basic respect they deserve. It's easier to identify the things not worth keeping.  It's part of the process. Sometimes they are not worth keeping because you are making room for something else. Listen to how my partner and I made a couple of hard decisions around things NOT worth keeping. #thingsworthkeeping #thingsnotworthkeeping #nobadkarma #podcasts #givechoicespurpose #liveintentionally #loveintentionally

Season 2025 - Episode 004:  how much money would be life-changing to you? How much money would it REALLY take to change your life?  $1,000,000?  $100,000?  $500?  $20? We are greedy, selfish bastards.... we want things.  So, what amount is really life-changing?  What should the definition of life-changing be? Is there an answer that would be fair to everyone?  Could we all change our lives for the better? #money #struggle #survival #thriving #thrivingnotsurviving #lifechangingmoney #youcanttakeitwithyou #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose

game.  confidence.  swagger. what does that have to do with endgame?  manifesting? what a business lesson ("every business fails or is sold") taught me about life. #gotgame #hegotgame #shegotgame #endgame #manifesting #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose

what do you want?  what will make you happy?  what is the state of your life?  are you getting your karma for something you've done?  can you be happy but not content? #karma #happiness #contenment #manifesting #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma music is Karma by RadjBeats, licensed thru Pixabay

It's a new year and a new you!  As you set your goals for the new year, you probably found yourself "looking back" at some point.  That's okay.  Looking back is an essential part of moving forward.  Are you doing it right? #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #selfimprovement #personalimprovement #newyearnewyou #lookingback #moveforward #thetruthhurts

"Trust your heart."  "Do whatever you think."  Or, "trust your gut."  How many times have you heard those expressions? Or, worse yet, how many times has the universe put you in check with a hard lesson and you've screamed, "I should have trusted my gut!!!" Why don't we listen to our internal voices - our heard, head, gut - more often?  Because a lot of times, listening to them means a change... a hard and usually painful change.  But.  That hopefully short-term pain is for a long-term gain. Truth is, if you don't listen - the universe will speak to you - the universe WILL tell you - and the lesson will be much harder. Here's some songs that come to mind for me - it's a collaborative playlist - add yours! the Spotify episode playlist for: heart. head. gut. #heartheadgut #trustyourheart #trustyourhead #trustyourgut #gutinstinct #theuniversewilltellyou #theuniversespeaks #nopainnogain #instacartshoppers #selfimprovement #nobadkarma #podcast #givechoicespurpose 

What do you want to be known for?  Guess what?  Doesn't matter.  It's not up to you.  But it IS dependent upon your choices every day.   #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma #mortality #whatdoyouwantonyourtombstone

What do you want to be known for?  Ever think about it?  In general (to humanity), to others (partner, kids, parents, co-workers, volunteer organizations, etc.), and to yourself?  What do you know inside about you that YOU want to be known for? And.  Work.  At work... in volunteer orgs... it might be something a little more specific. Other episodes related to this:  rebranding, your last impression. Hope you enjoy this episode of the #nobadkarma #podcast and think about #whatdoyouwanttobeknownfor - it's how you #givechoicespurpose for #humanityothersyourself

The struggle is real.  It's also relative.  But until you embrace that struggle, you won't begin the process of manifesting change.  And you won't complete that process until you're deleting your apps and showing commitment.   Today's episode's include references to the Progressive Insurance commercial "Unhidden Gems" (https://youtu.be/WDcPBIC8P2o?si=H68n9bbpH2OaxD-7), the story of Mr. Aman (https://youtu.be/h-XSS-mB6Gk?si=ySLGKx1c6-bnSLDu) and God's Influencer, the first millennial saint (https://youtu.be/1aQC3Q-PToA?si=Yfy3dpLVElzy11KS). #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #thestruggleisreal #manifestchange #commit #deleteyourapps

you know the saying... "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade."  why do we stop with lemonade?  make lemon souffle'!  Do you even know where that saying comes from... it's a cool story.  Hear it on this episode of the #nobadkarma #podcast where i talk about my #instacart #instacartshopper experience and how it affects my #surviveorthrive mentality.  #givechoicespurpose #selfimprovement #liveintentionally #loveintentionally 

If you were going to rate your peformance today as a person...  how many stars would you give yourself?  5-stars?  4?  1?  How would other people in your life rate you?  What about when you're doing something you don't really want to be doing?  Imagine for a minute you are a professional, but you find yourself being an #instacartshopper to make ends meet?  Why try your best?  Why not just get by?  Truth is, you need to #givewhatyouwant if you want to #getwhatyougive.  Hear my thoughts on today's episode of the #nobadkarma #podcast where i talk about why i bother to be a 5-star #instacart shopper. #surviveorthrive #selfimprovement #liveintentionally #loveintentionally 

What would you do to survive?  Beg?  Borrow?  Steal?  How about earn?  How bad to things have to get before you'll work a job that you don't want to do?  What kind of job are you willing to do?  Mow lawns?  Flip burgers?  I remember when my parents divorced, my dad would work his regular job as a butcher 40 hours a week, then paint houses in the evenings and on weekends.  Today, maybe... he'd become an #instacartshopper ???  Like me!  Today's #nobadkarma #podcast episode tells the story of how I ended up instacarting for thrivival.  #surviveorthrive #givechoicespurpose Musical interlude is Circus (https://pixabay.com/music/amusement-park-circus-145017/), aquired through Pixabay on 2/22/24. Like and follow @nobadkarmadotcom on facebook, instagram, and youtube - where you can find bonus content.  Find my spotify user nobadkarma to hear what I'm listening to and find a playlist for this episode.   #surviveorthrive #selfimprovement #liveintentionally #loveintentionally 

do you approach life with a survive... or, thrive... mentality?  what's the difference?  why does it matter?  how do you get there?  what would you do to survive?  thrive?  hear my thoughts on the #nobadkarma #podcast as i talk about my own experience instacarting for survival and thrivival.  part 1 of 4.  a couple of bonus clips on the youtube @nobadkarmadotcom channel #givechoicespurpose #instacartshoppers #surviveorthrive #selfimprovement #liveintentionally #loveintentionally 

did you every think about how a work experience defined not just your career, but your life?  my musings on how an early job at a campground defined me professionally, as to the type of people i want in my life, and what i want (have) in a partner.  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #podcast #work #workethic #professionaldevelopment #selfimprovement

just some quick thoughts on loving intentionally for valentines day 2024 #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #relationships #podcast #valentines2024 #valentinesday2024

nearly 25% of us have already blown our new years resolution and another 66% of us will blow it by the end of the year.  maybe you just aren't choosing to be intentional.  some thoughts on what living and loving intentionally is all about to set the tone and grow on for the new year. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #liveintentionally #loveintentionally

Rebrand your life.  Choose to grow from the trauma that defines you.  Choose to grow before you are forced to do it.  This episode includes a reading from page 69 of Light Is The New Black: Answer the call of your soul and work your light by Rebecca Campbell.  You can find information on the author, this book, and her podcast at https://rebeccacampbell.me For more insight and practical guidance on healing and choosing growth, visit https://www.settlinginn.com #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #selfimprovement #selfhelp #podcast 

We allow ourselves to be defined by our relationship, our friends, our habits, and our jobs.  The alcoholic allows themselves to be defined with alcohol in their life.  This episode is based upon a journal entry I wrote when I marked 4-years of sobriety, but think with an open mind and you'll understand how it applies elsewhere in life.  I also suggest the daddy is an alcoholic episode published February 2022. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #idrinktoomuch #iamanalcoholic #sobriety #podcast

why i think faith is essential to living and loving intentionally. #podcast #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #givewhatyouwant #getwhatyougive #faith #trust #relationships #love check out the faith playlist by nobadkarma on spotify... considering a bonus episode to explain the song selection...

you only have the energy you woke up with and 24 hours to do something with it.  Want some background music?  Search for the "death and taxes. life and money. time" playlist or find the nobadkarma user profile. that's all the time i got for that rn.  #podcast #karma #time #energy #love #relationships #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #givewhatyouwant #getwhatyougive

"... but, in this world, nothing is certain except death and taxes."  Benjamin Franklin.  Is it all about death and taxes or life and money?  what does it have to do with living and loving intentionally? and, some songs about it here. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #deathandtaxes

live and love intentionally.  happiness is more than money, but love isn't all you need.  why your relationship with money is about your relationship with yourself.  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #money #love #relationships need help with abundance in your life?!?  check out the post i referenced in the episode...  It's About Abundance, Bby! and, for the music fans... find a fun playlist of relationship money songs here.

the real reason why you should take goals, turn them into plans, and make them reality.  and the real reason we screw it up.  for the video version (props are used today), find us on YouTube here.     Three inspirational playlists:  what happens when you don't love intentionally about living intentionally loving intentionally #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose

How do you treat your relationships?  Do you see where they can go?  Or do you take them somewhere. Today's music is "if you've got the time" by Merrie, featuring Anya Gold, licensed through Epidemic Sound, from Merrie's 2017 EP Treasures and also on a Spotify playlist for this episode, you can find here.  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #givewhatyouwant #getwhatyougive NOTE:  This is a re-publish of the audio-only version of Season 2023 - Episode 1 (original publish date:  July 2, 2023, republish date:  July 12, 2023).  The video version of this podcast is available on our YouTube channel.

a special version of 'twas the night before Christmas for you to share with the cheaters in your life.  Music is love song for the lonely, by Greg Walker, from his album Christmas Time Consoles, available on Free Music Archive. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #cheaters

my 2016 decision to cheat "one last time" ultimately causes me to lose every material possession, including my house. this is a deeply personal episode recorded in one-take, the first take.  there may be a take 2 episode with video in the future, but the commentary will come in the next episode. Sometimes you do have to lose everything to find yourself.  But I don't recommend it.  Listen to what happened to me instead. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #odetoahouse #odetomyhome

my decision to be a sugar daddy was rooted in not addressing my own problems and relationship problems with my wife.  so, i used her.  then, fell in love.  then she used me.  and then it happened again.  what happens to us when we do not address our own problems and start using others instead.  the real cost of using others.  the real cost of karma.  we let others take advantage of us when we don't address our own problems, so while we are to blame, it still doesn't excuse them.  but there is a real cost of using others that the user doesn't see.  the cost of using others.  how about it, ladies?  was it worth it?  learn how being a sugar daddy cost me everything.  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose 

passion isn't just for the bedroom.  passion is life. when passion matters, put the daddy before the sugar.   put your person first. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #passionislife

pizza baby episode picking up after day 120. want to know how cheating men behave?  how they do it?  do you want to hear how it corrupts their mind and thinking because they want to have their cake and eat it, too?  sadly, this was me.  learn from it and give your choices a better purpose! p.s.  "the cat scratched his balls"  no music in this episode, but my suggested musical pairing is Step by Vampire Weekend (version with Danny Brown, etc.)  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #pizzababy #sugardaddy 

my one and last regret is cheating on my wife.  or, is it? #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #regrets #myoneregret #mistakesnotregrets #cheating music today is "meow, meow, give me catnip fever temptations" provided by pizza baby's ex-cat.

a very special episode!  how my first real opportunity to end things with pizza baby without getting caught evolved into our relationship cycle.  how relationship cycles affect us, are often defined by that first fight, and could be much healthier if we embrace them; they are like a hinge that should cause the door to swing open, not shut. i think this episode, the last one, and daddy is an alcoholic are my personal 3 favorites at this point.  enjoy! #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #pizzababy #relationshiptrauma 

the "no bad karma" podcast is about a 7-year period of my life and how being a sugar daddy changed my life.  so, after a 7-week break to deal with some of my karma, i am  back with the magic of seven.  after all, the 7-year itch got me here.   but it's about the cheese.  because you have to know the cheese you are chasing or you will spend "7" years lost in your cage, spinning your wheel, hitting dead-end walls in the maze.  plus, a little jane jetson follow-up. #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #relationshiptrauma #janejetson

f**king. friendship. forever. real relationships are all 3.  what's this? #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #sugarbaby #sugardaddy #pizzababy music is for you, by double f the king, freemusicarchive.org

a 10 in sexy lingerie, whips and chains, a little bondage gear?  here is 50 shades of reality.  you asked for it.  the pizza baby story continues... how i got my karma and then some.  since i talk about recovering from my trauma, you might as well hear more about what caused it.  not for the faint of heart.  mom, might not want to listen to this one.... #nobadkarma #pizzababy #sugarbaby #sugardaddy #gotmykarma #givechoicespurpose Three tracks today by Silence Is Sexy... Gate of Heaven, I've Been Waiting For You, and New Years Eve.  find them on freemusicarchive.org - great vibes!

what last impression did they leave?  how about you?  how does that affect your ability to ask for help and favors?  your last impression... well, they just want to kick you when you are down.  do something with that energy... don't be angry, let the universe take care of things.  that's called karma, people.  but think of others... how do you treat them?  are you extending all the help & favors that you can?  are you building relationships to take advantage of opportunities the wrong way or the right way? #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #pizzababy #pastababy #thestruggleisreal

living your brand!  what's a brand?  or, more specifically, a person's brand?  how do you get one?  how do you live it?  the DANGER of living your brand!  what's it do for you? #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #humanityothersyourself  

my own dating fail.  no excuse, but how i let old damage from my relationships with pizza baby and pasta baby  generated bad behavior when i experience relationship frustration that reminds me of how i was treated.  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #relationshipdamage

Memorial Day!  The start of summer!  But too many of us forget what it is all about.  In my story of "how i got my karma and then some," every Memorial Day now marks an important one-year and two-year anniversary for me that defined my life.  But, that's the thing.  We forget what it's all about.  Today, it is more important to take a moment to remember those that made a choice that resulted in the ultimate sacrifice.  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose 

i've been thinking a lot about my perspective on "what happened to me" and how it has affected my behavior recently.  it's really cemented some values.  and, i use this platform to express my opinions, hope you perceive them positively, and can put perspective on your life, cement your values, and the cycle continues. but that same perspective has defined my behavior, and not always in the best way.  more on that soon.  therefore, the understated moral of the story is that you can't let your perspective create bad behavior. but, for today, put things in perspective, and do something good with it. today's episode dedicated to my favorite budtender "sneezy dwarf" #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma #westandwithukraine    

welcome back to the nobadkarma podcast!  today... transitions.  you know, that smooth move from one stage to another... #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma

the ash wednesday episode.  living for humanity first, then others, then yourself.   #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #humanityothersyourself  

was COVID your opportunity or excuse? #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose

how sundays and mondays set the tone, expectations #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma  

the topics planned for the week were dropped after my alcohol episode touched some people in my life because they really came to realize that it wasn't about alcohol, but about the challenges we face when surrounding ourselves with the people in our lives, and how we do or don't support their choices, how it affects us, and how it influences our choices.  at the end of the day, the off-air conversation with my friend "robin" talked about how true generational differences exist simply because the world is different, but at the end of the day, we all did or still do the same things, no matter what are age. #whatadultsdoforfun #givechoicespurpose #nobadkarma  

robin joins me again to wrap up our thoughts on yesterday's discussion and how it relates to choosing your friends and how many of those are just people you are passing time with.

live guest!  my real-life sidekick "robin" had some thoughts on the "daddy is an alcoholic" episode and how i should talk about my experiences at 25... we didn't get to it all, but here is the start of it to get you thinking.  we will be wrapping it up tomorrow.... #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose

daddy's 6-year anniversary of his "one more time" lunch that caused the 3-year anniversary of his rock-bottom. music is short burn by mr. smith, available on freemusicarchive.org  #nobadkarma #givechoicespurpose #sugardaddy #sugarbaby #karma