Permission To Be Human

125: We Loved It Enough to Let It End: Andrea & Janelle's Conscious Final Episode This final episode is less a goodbye and more a mic drop on three years of evolution, experimentation, and radical honesty. Andrea and Janelle close out Permission to Be Human NOT because they ran out of things to say—but because the podcast served its purpose, teaching them how to figure out what they want and ask for it. What started as processing relationships in real time became an accidental roadmap for anyone willing to question everything, and a massive return on their own life investment. There's a nod to LVDY, Sophie Howell and We Can Do Hard Things. You'll hear: -Why ending "on a high note" can be a radical act -The arc of the becoming and the gratitude for bravehearts -Why it was never about their way, but an invitation to find yours -The vital shift from external validation to internal alignment -A recap of Seasons' 1-6 -How building a relationship with self is always the first move -About their next big adventures -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 2: Question Everything, Especially Your Mothers' Advice What have you questioned lately? In this episode, we cover how questioning everything--including formats for marriage, religion, birth, parenthood and  matching outfits  has led to aha moments. You'll even hear some Billy Joel.  Some key points in this episode:  -A review of our mother's advice! -The power of social conditioning -How questioning your own rules can lead to epiphany Additional resources:   Natalie Goldberg's" Long Quiet Highway" -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

124: Part 8/8, Relationship Death Doulas Talk Repair, Intimacy & Rebirth: Designing a Relationship that Works Series What if the problem isn't your relationship… it's that you won't let it die? In this episode, Andrea & Janelle interview relationship death doulas Yana Rumi and Cari Caldwell, who don't just "work on" their relationship—they burn it down on purpose. No catastrophe required. Just a willingness to stop pretending, drop the roles, and meet each other again from zero. Truth: most relationships don't fail because of conflict—they suffocate under unspoken agreements, stale identities, and quiet resentment. Like computers, relationships require a defrag and a restart ;-). You'll hear: -About the flatlined nature of "Happily Ever After" -Why you should schedule sex without intercourse expectation -How predictability can be such a cage -Truth: Repair isn't a failure, its a gym where the intimacy muscles get stronger -How jealousy, desire and curiosity are all just sensations Why they're NOT committed to forever, but to each other's fullest expression -The beauty of choosing each other again after brief separation -Validation about the "weight of survival" Learn more at relationshipdeathdoulas.life -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

123: Part 7/8, Legally Married, Personally Single: A Radical Family Experiment: Designing a Relationship that Works Series In this episode, Andrea and Janelle sit down with Nitsan Mesika, a wilderness therapist and psychedelic practitioner who has spent 25 years legally married to her partner… while both consider themselves single. Instead of divorce, they designed something new: a shared home, separate bedrooms, fluid parenting roles, independent romantic lives, and a fierce commitment to the family rather than a formula. Nitsan's story is a reminder that relationships aren't static agreements — they're living ecosystems. There's a nod to Non Violent Communication. You'll hear: -How she explained it all to her kids -Why Nitsan and her partner don't strive to be the same -The difference between conflict and rupture -When texting is better than talking -How Nitsan parented in her non-traditional setting -Why a relationships don't have to follow norms to be stable, loving, or ethical. -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

122: Part 6/8, Polyamory, Parenting, and the Art of Staying Yourself: Designing a Relationship that Works Series What if the real secret to a lasting relationship isn't the structure — monogamy, polyamory, swinging, or anything else — but the willingness to approach with love? In this episode, Andrea and Janelle sit down with John Holle and Katie Wise, a Boulder-based couple married for 17 years who have experimented with nearly every relationship format imaginable. From open play and live-in partners to raising teenagers inside a radically honest household, their story is less about labels and more about curiosity, growth, and choosing each other again and again. It's messy, tender, funny, and surprisingly wise. There's a nod to play therapy, the book "Polysecure", Tamera and the documentary, "The Village of Lovers." You'll hear: -How their childhoods--chaotic divorce and big-time care--impacted their own choices -About the Burning Man that began their foundation -The intense chapter of a household with three adults and two kid -Navigating jealousy, attachment styles, and the myth that one person must meet every nee -Why community, coaching, and conscious conversation have been essential to their marriag -Why the structure matters less than the love residing inside Learn more about John's mediation practice at consciousfamilyfirm.com. Katie's band can be found online at Katie Wise + Bhakti Explosion -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

121: Part 5/8, Why Clean Devotion & DS  Dynamics = Orgasms and Freedom: How to Design a Relationship that Works   In this episode, Andrea and Janelle sit down with Adam and Emily, partners in their 50s who are crafting love with intention instead of default settings. After marriages, monogamy, and open relating, they've chosen a dynamic they call monogamous with a dominant/submissive current. They speak candidly about unlearning self-sacrifice, dismantling "happy wife, happy life," and replacing conflict avoidance with courageous truth. What if structure, commitment and focus actually led to freedom? What if being with another helped you meet yourself? You'll hear: -About the orgasms that await on the other side of the fire -How to confront geographic challenges with fluidity and ease -The value of an intuitive "fuck yes" policy -About Adam's devotion without self-abandonment -How Emily has reframed "submission" -Why you should "excavate" early and often -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

120: 4/8, Ali Katz Married Herself: Why We Should Stop Waiting to be Chosen; How to Design a Relationship That Works Series Andrea sits down with Ali Katz — entrepreneur, community builder, mother, and self-marriage pioneer — to explore her journey of box-checking success, internal disconnection, discovery of the warring selves within and the need for identity death before birthing a new soul. If you're waiting for the one, if you're healing from heartbreak, if you're seeking belonging without self-abandonment, or if you're looking to dismantle the traditional relationship script, this is for you. You'll hear: -How Ali fell in love with who she is -All about her proposal, ring, vows and Costa Rica wedding -Why magic rituals (and a Ketubah!) create reality -Why we need not WAIT to be chosen -How she built internal safety instead of outsourcing -All about an ayahuasca journey vision -Her mid-life shift from the beaches of LA to the fields of Boulder -How self-devotion prevents future partner resentment   Find Ali's wedding online (!!!) at www.thealikatz.com/marry-yourself -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

119: Part 3/8: Monogamous, Sleeping Apart & Growing Together: How to Design a Relationship that Works Series Twenty-four years, one marriage, separate bedrooms, and zero regrets—meet Jonathan and Angela, the monogamous couple proving that "traditional" doesn't have to mean boring AF. From their "let's put all cards on the table" first date where they basically arranged their own marriage, to their eight-month pandemic deep-dive that finally let them fine-tune 19 years of functional-but-not-optimized coupledom, these two are rewriting the relationship rulebook one shower date at a time. The secret sauce? Radical independence with devotion, love languages as tacos (yes, really), and understanding that intimacy isn't just about sex—it's about being each other's biggest cheerleader while also knowing when to meow it out and go to your separate corners. Spoiler: sleeping apart might actually save your relationship, and you don't need grand gestures when Post-it notes and offering a water bottle speak volumes in the right love language. You'll hear:   -How they created their own 'arranged' marriage on the first date -Separate bedrooms = less resentment = relationship gold -Why re-learning the 5 Love languages as tacos changed everything -"What makes the whole work" beats "what makes me happy right now" -Why little things beat the grand gestures -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

118: Ep 2/8, Andrea & Kevin's Blueprint for Modern Love: Saturday CheckIns are So Hot Right Now! : How To Design a Relationship That Works Series Hey Bravehearts, curious how to start a romantic relationship at 50? After divorce, polyamory, therapy, personal growth and years of unlearning cultural BS, Andrea and Kevin share the actual tools, conversations, rituals, and agreements they use to create emotional safety, embodied intimacy, a sense of freedom and a relationship that doesn't require self-abandonment. This is about two grown humans stay AWAKE and choosing each other from a place of wholeness. There's a nod to Susan Cain's "Quiet", Betty Martin's "The Art of Receiving and Giving", Jack Morin's "The Erotic Mind", Attachment Theory, Brené Brown and Esther Perel. You'll hear: -Why five weeks of Zoom calls set a beautiful stage for a first date -About Saturday check-ins, eye-gazing and a suggestion box (Yes!) -About a mealtime prayer is better than a gratitude journal -How wrestling and rough-housing is part of their intimacy -Why catching tension early is the secret to a beautiful relationship -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

117: Part 1/8: Janelle's Evolution from Catholic Monogamy to Solo Poly, D/s and Unicorn: How To Design a Relationship That Works Series Holy shit, are you ready to have your relationship rulebook completely obliterated? In this season six premiere, Janelle pulls back the curtain on her unconventional love life that includes being solo poly, in a DOM/sub container, a unicorn, AND a comet relationship. From scheduled sex to sleeping solo to discovering she's actually happiest as the "second woman," Janelle's journey from Catholic-raised monogamy to radical self-permission is proof that designing your own relationship format isn't just possible—it's fucking liberating. This isn't about advocating for any particular setup; it's about giving yourself permission to unlearn everything you were taught and discover where you actually thrive. Spoiler alert: it might look nothing like what you imagined, and that's exactly the point. For more relationship format ideas, Janelle recommends Designer Relationships, by Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson. You'll hear: -What enmeshment means and why it pertains to solo poly -Unicorns are real… Janelle is a living example -Scheduled sex > spontaneous sex -How off-duty nights could save marriages -When jealousy was Janelle's gateway drug to truth   Learn more about Janelle at feelwildlyalive.com -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

Season 6 Announcement: How to Design a Relationship that Works -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

116: Janelle and Her Dad's Journey into a Death Portal... and Came Out Thriving! Honey, buckle up. This isn't your typical "aww, aging parent" story. This episode is a wild ride through the liminal space between worlds, where Janelle's 95-year-old dad Jack decided to take the scenic route through death's waiting room—and then said "nah, I'm good" and came back thriving. What started as Uncle Jim's passing turned into a 12-day hospital odyssey that had Janelle saying goodbye to her father approximately 47 times (okay, maybe not that many, but who's counting when you're in a death portal?). Between the delirium, the catatonic states, the Catholic prayers, and her dad confessing to crimes that never happened, Janelle got the spiritual initiation she didn't know she signed up for. Along with a nod to Atul Gawande's book, Being Mortal, you'll hear: -Three different states of consciousness (delirious, catatonic, and normal—dad was really showing range) -Medical fraud confessions that weren't actually confessions -A divine denial from rehab that turned out to be the best thing ever -Christmas miracles involving stairs and walkers -The realization that your desires and everyone else's are part of the same cosmic fabric -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

115: Andrea's Update: Letting Go, Falling In Love, and Realizing the Answer Is Not in Your Phone What if everything you thought defined you… dissolved? Your marriage. Your business. Your income. Your identity. And instead of panicking — you felt more alive? In this raw, funny, deeply human episode, Andrea talks about what happens after you burn the old blueprint to the ground--at age 50! This is less about "how to glow up" and more about how to let go without losing your soul. You'll hear: -How her new partnership makes no time for TV or phones -Why she wants to go sell books or bake bread now -How she feels less anxious and more ALIVE….with LESS money -How your flaws might be mismatches instead of defects -Why being busy is not the same as being alive =Her confront mass consumption head on -Hidden writer-grief about the reality of AI -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

114: Janelle's Update: "It's selfish if I don't ask for my desires." Janelle shares personal updates and insights on her lift at the moment; she discusses her new living arrangements and the impact of her housemate, Arianna, on her creative expression. She discusses the significance of homeopathy and her experiences with ancestral connections during Samhain. The conversation also touches on grief, family dynamics, and the importance of asking for help in pursuing one's desires. Shout outs to John Wolfsone, Dãmsa Germiane and Sophie Howell. You'll hear: -How Janelle sees people as keys that unlock parts of her -The magic of homeopathy as a vibrational approach to healing -Why remembering our ancestors can help us feel more stable -How everyone is connected to her desire to go to New Zealand -Language shapes our reality and can influence our outcomes Learn more about Janelle at feelwildlyalive.com -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 32: Your Evil Twin vs. Your Inner Witch: Who Do You Listen To? Janelle interviews Andrea about the five ways to discern the voice of your Ego (what Andrea calls her Evil Twin) from the voice of your Calling (what she calls her Inner Witch). So juicy. You'll hear why your Evil Twin is all about anxiety, attainment, doing and burnout, while your Inner Witch is all about silence, journey, being and fulfillment. Includes a reference to spirit crowns, Fight Club, 3-5 Club, and a story about white water rafting down the Nile.You'll hear:   -What it means to appreciate the Bliss of the Blur -How to develop a better relationship with your Inner Witch -Why it's all a practice and not a one-and-done lesson -How a goal you can never reach is actually fulfilling -Why receiving isn't selfish -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 21: How to Ask for What We Want: Consent, Courage & AirBnB Checkouts What if you could ask for exactly what you wanted? What if you could trust and value your own yeses and nos? What if you could articulate exactly how you wanted to be touched? Andrea interviews Janelle on a framework that has helped her give and receive everything (compliments, apples, touch, rides to the airport! ) from a centered and grounded place. Includes a When Harry Met Sally reference and some parenting tips. You'll hear: -It's as important to receive as it is to give. -Why consent is way more than a yes or a no -Why taking a long pause after a hard question is a good idea -How a 3-minute game will change your sex life -Why the question "Who's it for?" is so important -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 49: Art is Our Favorite Thing: Museums, Meaning & Freedom Janelle and Andrea love art--especially mixed meda. They live within it, they travel to see it and it makes them feel free and alive. From pussy willow branch curtain rods to birthing chairs and Indonesian doors to dramatic outdoor murals, they give permission to love what you love, and create with wild abandon. So many nods! Everything, Everywhere All at Once, Ann LaMott, Museum of Contemporary Art, Tracey Barnes, Meow Wolf, James Turrel, Christo, Shakespeare's Ophelia, Meow Wolf, Clyfford Still, Denver Art Museum, Waldorf Schools, Bobbi MacGee Lopez, Boombox Design, ARTMA. You'll hear: -Why doll-faces put a cap on creativity -How art can be a lived experience -Why Andrea thinks art is the meaning of life -Weird things that happened at the MCA Denver -Good reasons to start painting a mural in your house -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

113: Part 13/12: Derik Says "Turn Down the Volume": How to Build a Relationship with God Series Janelle and Andrea interview Derik, a yoga instructor who offers a majorly meta-view on spirituality. They discuss the difference between religion and spirituality, why "we're only human" is a phrase with the wrong idea, the concept of "Pancha Kosha," the five layers of human existence and the paradox of it all. He asks: Who would we be if we turned the volume down on everything we're told? You'll hear: -Why yoga is a user's manual for realization  -When the personality equation stops working -The dissolution of self in the collective -Why we are both the wave and the ocean -Spirituality isn't always about that "aha" dramatic moment -How his spiritual journey started at Elephanta Island near Mumbai -Derik's resonance around the word "God" -How America is less moored from spirituality than so many cultures Find Derik Eselius online at Denver Yoga Underground - Yoga Teacher Training & Workshops -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

  112: Part 12/12: What if God Sounded Like Music? Bibles, Motorcycles & Love with Keith Major: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this episode, Andrea and Janelle drop into a soul-level conversation with Keith Major — once a pastor, now a happiness coach who traded doctrine for embodied joy. Keith shares the gritty truth of his spiritual evolution: the music that was his connection to God, the role the Bible played in his life (a big one) and how a college teacher and a motorcycle accident shifted everything. They explore what it means to talk to God in your own language — to sing your prayers, dance your devotion, and trust yourself. -Exactly how Keith chose truth over titles -About smuggling bibles into Russia -How Keith claimed himself, but kept God too -Why you should dance with your shirt off! -How to stop outsourcing your worth to religion and relationships -How to tap into the divine. Every day. On Venice Beach.   Find Keith online at Major Change   -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

111: Part 11/12: Tantra After Mormonism: A Late-Life Awakening with Rich Priddis: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this provocative episode, Janelle and Andrea sit down with Rich Priddis—a conscious intimacy guide and sexual healing coach whose life story reads like a sacred jailbreak. Raised inside the rule-bound, externally dependent world of Mormonism, Rich didn't begin reclaiming his erotic and spiritual freedom until 49. And once he cracked the door open, the entire universe rushed in. You'll hear about sacred self-pleasure, embracing uncertainty, following sensation, practicing gratitude and how its never too late to change your mind. There's a nod to ISTA, Quodoushka and Rich's morning drink: Kauai coffee, chocolate, muscle milk, cayenne, cinnamon and MCT oil. You'll hear: -Why God and technology ares sisters in uncertainty -An invitation to link spirituality and sexuality -Why Rich recites an intention every time he gets in the car -How self-love has been a pre-req for Rich to serve the world -Why God does NOT require a middle-man -All about exploring the forbidden and how it led to Rich's truth -How Mormonism broke down his ability trust his inner self Today's guest can be found online at RichPriddis.com -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

110: Part 10/12: Greg Kelly Says Grace is a Springboard for Transformation: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this episode of Permission to Be Human, hosts Janelle Orion and Andrea Enright sit down with investor Greg Kelly for a conversation that refuses to play small. They dive into the messy, mystical, utterly human process of building a relationship with God—one that's less about dogma and more about direct experience, curiosity, and love in motion. Greg, raised Catholic, opens up about his encounters with the divine, the healing tension between skepticism and faith, and how a simple postcard project became a quiet revolution of compassion. It's an unexpectedly rip-roaring good time. There's a nod to Les Mis, siritual consultant Kristin Bredimus and The Emerald podcast. You'll hear: -Why if we make space, a relationship with God is always available. -An encounter with a witch, Jesus and spirits in Boston -A new take of the "placebo" effect -How faith can unlock dormant human potential. For real. -Why logic vs. mysticism is part of the spiritual path. -Greg's definition of Grace--a springboard for transformation -About the day a pedestrian ran out in front of his car -How spirituality and mental health are often playing together -Why playing your little part in peace might be enough -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

109: Part 9/12: Crafting Christianity Your Own Way with Dani: How to Build A Relationship with God Series Janelle and Andrea sit down with psychotherapist, Ashkenazi and spiritual fire-starter Dani Grace to unravel the tender, tangled, and often taboo terrain of faith, godliness, and what it means to rebuild Christianity on your own terms--no culture war rhetoric included. This conversation dives into the Universal Christ, and how Dani went from atheism to a reclaimed, rebuilt, curiosity-fueled faith, but didn't leave her intellectualism behind. This is a conversation for anyone who has been burned by institutional Christianity….. someone who misses God, but not the rules. There's a big nod to Internal Family Systems and The Big Bang. You'll hear: -How the Universal Christ peeks into personal awakening =How community curiosity (and volleyball) led Dani home -The difference between self-knowledge and God-knowledge -How suffering can give God space to speak\ -A new lens on WWJD bracelets 2.0 -How therapy can clear the debris between you and God. -Why IFS works WITH Christ consciousness Learn more about Dani Grace at sacredlightjourneys.life -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

108: Part 8/12: A Brandi-Carlisle-Loving Jewish Mom on Community, Guilt, Rabbis & the Superbowl: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this episode of Permission to Be Human, Andrea Enright and Janelle Orion sit down with dedicated mom, wife and Jewish-born Denverite Tara Zucker for a dear and down-to-earth conversation about modern-day Jewish life and what that means for a spiritual relationship. They touch on how the greater community, the Torah, the structure and the teachings fuels Tara's sense of belonging., and how ancient traditions and family rituals have helped her navigate a world of conflict and suffering. There's a nod to Brandi Carlisle, and Dansko clogs ;-) You'll hear: -Why her connection to God is less prayer, more practical life -All about Judaism's take on the afterlife -The absence of recruitment in the Jewish faith. No saving required. -How community, gathering and ritual helps Tara feel held -Why tuna fish is an important contribution for her particular temple -How Judaism (and two female rabbis) help Tara relate to the world -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

107: Part 7/12: Ancestral Magic and Modern Devotion with Sorceress Juliana: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this episode, Janelle Orion and Andrea Enright sit down with Juliana Luna — self-proclaimed sorceress — to explore what it really means to live in devotion. Luna invites us into her Afro-Brazilian lineage, where spirit and ancestry aren't abstract ideas — they're living, breathing forces. Together, they unravel the dance between suffering and peace, the breath as a bridge to Shakti, and the rituals that root us in integrity. Luna reminds us that nature — especially trees — are not resources, but relatives. That helping others means serving, not saving. And that real peace isn't a mood — it's a practice. You'll hear: -Why she ran away from home at age 8 -Exactly what an ancient and modern sorceress embodies -Why honoring our ancestors can help guide our life -How suffering and peace aren't opposites — they're teachers trading places. -Why the term "less fortunate" doesn't work for her. -An explanation of why peace is active, not passive. -How to connect to nature--today. -How to ensure service is sourced from integrity--not ego -How Luna hears divine wisdom above the sound of cultural noise Find her online at www.julianaluna.live and @‌julianaluna on Instagram -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

106: Part 6/12: Losing Yourself & Finding Spirit: Devotion over Discipline with Breath-worker Claudia Nanino: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this episode of Permission to Be Human, hosts Andrea Enright and Janelle Orion sit down with Claudia Nanino, a master breathwork facilitator who's learned to make peace with change by breathing straight through it. Claudia opens up about a childhood of Roman Catholicism, leaving behind polished identities, mothering while awakening, and realizing a relationship with God is a "reconnection" and that it can look however works best for you. They talk about how to nurture a beautiful connection to spirit, why self-forgiveness is essential, her intentionality in giving back and how verything she thought she was supposed to be had to die before she could breathe. There's a nod to 'The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz, "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Dr. Brian Weiss and the Ho'oponopono Prayer. You'll hear:   -Claudia's journey of choosing devotion over discipline -Why she eventually traded control for communion -How rituals can keep us anchored to spirit -Why Claudia believes everything is God, even you -Her story of how releasing old identities set her free -Claudia's go-to phrase when she's in conflict -Why vulnerability builds muscle where armor used to be. -Some insight on raising teenagers in a spiritual setting (hint: just model it) -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

105: Part 5/12, Love & Honesty from a Woman on a Traditional Catholic Journey: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this soft-spoken episode of Permission to Be Human, Janelle and Andrea sit down with the earnest Melissa Detwiller for a conversation about Catholicism and how she finds guidance in God every day. Melissa opens up about her faith journey—how God helped her navigate a lonely path as an immigrant at 14, and continues to keep her centered amidst her community and family of five. Together, they dive into her consistent practices of faith, her preference for religion over spirituality and the quiet rebellion of choosing love in a loud, divided world. This episode isn't just about belief—it's about belonging, becoming, and being brave enough to listen when God speaks in whispers. You'll hear: -Why faith doesn't need a formula--you can meet God in the mundane or the mess. -A reminder that YouTube is a totally viable resource for sermon -How God became a "person" to Melissa -Where she ends and God begins. -The power of shared beliefs, especially in today's world. -Why Melissa's relationship is practice and process rather than performance -A redefinition of "confession" and how it might be the meaning of life -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

104: Part 3/12, Priestess & Rabbi Sarah Bracha talks Non-Duality, Joy, Oat Lattes & Hot Sex: How to Build a Relationship with God Series What if God isn't a bearded sky-dad, but a pulse of presence running in and out through every moment—every heartbreak, every art project, every awkward conversation? In this episode, we sit down with Sarah Bracha Gershuny—freelance rabbi, professional priestess, and all-around mystic renegade—to explore what it really means build a relationship with spirit in a messy, modern world. Sarah speaks to the importance of presence (really another name for God) and drops deep wisdom on listening to your inner voice, navigating religious baggage, and how what you know and love (Sarah refers to these as breadcrumbs and her own include hot sex and oat lattes) can help you find your way. You'll hear: -A little Non-Duality 101 (we are literally all in this together) -How the divine is in the details too (dirt, dishes, dentist appts) -Why the act of prayer can be the transformation in itself -How community can replaces OR compliment the idea of God -Sarah's "yes and" journey of retaining her Jewish roots and adding her own ideas -What if spiritual belonging isn't about belief…but presence? -How the "way opened" for Sarah (hint: devotion, creativity) -A bit about the collective consciousness & Jewish Renewal Follow Sarah on Substack: https://substack.com/@priestessrabbi -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

103: Part 2/12: Andrea on Faith, Feet Washing, Nike & Nick Cave: How to Build a Relationship with God Series In this luminous convo, Andrea traces the wild arc of her evolving relationship with God — from a routine Catholic childhood to meaningful moments in the woods, Jerusalem, Bucharest and Buddhism--and then finally to Rumi's field, where she found her intuition. Together, they ask: what happens when we stop trying to find God and instead feel God within? This dialogue is both pilgrimage and permission slip — an invocation to question, to trust, to unlearn. If you've felt the pull between devotion and doubt, and sense the sacred might be nearby, listen up. There's a nod to Nick Cave's "Faith, Hope & Carnage", Natalie Goldberg's "Long Quiet Highway" and Marcus J. Borg's "Meeting Jesus Again for the First Time" as well as Elizabeth Gilbert. You'll hear:   -Why Andrea cried so much at the Garden Tomb -Reasons to be grateful for a Catholic upbringing -The two books that changed the course of her spirit journey -How a Zoom meeting is like a Catholic mass -How Andrea's prayer has evolved from begging to being in the now -Why feet-washing reminds her to be kind -Why every version of God points to the same love. -Where Buddhism and Christianity meet for her -Why she thinks Nike was right----there's no finish line, only the next unfolding. -How a relationship with God makes her feel more like herself -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 45: Wanna Feel Less Alone? Ask for Help Do you know how to ask for help? Is it a challenge for you? In this sweet, bite-sized episode, Andrea and Janelle break down very simple human experience, offering personal stories, useful steps and a convincing argument for why asking for help makes the world a more connected place. Includes a nod to the movie "Enough Said" and the book "The Field Guide to Getting Lost" by Rebecca Solnit and Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent. You'll hear:   --Why asking for help is a skill and a gift --A framework for anyone who might be afraid to ask --Why you shouldn't always be helping your child --The difference between requests and demands --Why trusting someone's yeses and nos is required

102: How Janelle Found Spirit in Loss, Tantra, Deep Listening and Logistics: How to Build a Relationship with God Series What does a relationship with the divine really look like? And how can it help us thrive in this double-dumpster-fire world? In this episode, Janelle details her journey from former-nun-and-priest-for-parents childhood to discovering spirit through tantra and psychedelic retreats. She reminds us that God doesn't necessarily live in ritual--but instead in the resistance of our conditioning and the surrender to our deepest selves. Ultimately, she says, there is no one way to eat a Reeses have a relationship with the divine. There's a nod to Human Design and Janelle's church, Witness Sisterhood. You'll hear: -How Janelle's spiritual awakening started with loss -How to find spirituality in the mundane---even moving cross country. -Why TRUST is the beginning of your relationship with God -All about the tussle between the mind and the heart -The difference between the human self and the spirit self -Why resisting your inner voice is the surest path to suffering -How spirit lives in feelings, not words and sentences -What your intuition and a very loud concert have in common -A new definition of the less fortunate -The power of decisions to demonstrate our deepest listening -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

Season 5 Announcement: How to Build A Relationship With God --------------  We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

101: Andrea at 50: Ease, Flow & Dom/Sub Dynamics in Everyday Life What happens when you start asking for exactly what you want? Relief! Andrea says relief! Janelle interviews Andrea and they cover dom/sub dynamics, anti-depressants, conscious endings, why she stopped saying "I don't know", and how monogamy is working for her. This isn't just a milestone—it's a midlife metamorphosis, and it comes from a softer, less ruthless place than ever before. And she gets passionate about helping women with mid-life meh do the same. There's a nod to Florence and the Machine, Trader Joes, Sophie Howell's spirit crowns and language empowerment, as well as Andrea Gibson's poetry. You'll hear: -The wild art of asking for what you actually want -The bizarre relief of letting someone else decide -Her release of shame around anti-depressants -How Andrea stopped saying "I don't know", because she DID know -Why she really does love to be told what to do -Her seasons of polyamory and monogamy -Celebrations of Florence, Trader Joe's, silent discos and rocky mountain trailrunning -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

100: Janelle Talks Soul Love, Romance, Galactic Beings, and The Art of Receiving at Burning Man Pop the champagne (or light that sage)—Andrea and Janelle are hitting triple digits! In their 100th episode, and on the cusp of their FIFTH season, your favorite duo covers the last 9 months of Janelle's life. We're talking Burning Man dust storms, ineffable teachings, the birth of a church and how FOMO got kicked to the curb. This is a full-blown joyride through divine feminine chaos, galactic embodiment, homeowner woes, poetry on the playa and more. There's a nod to Mary Oliver, Bruce Lyon and Winter Jade Icely. You'll hear:   -Why receiving is not weakness—it's a damn art form -The difference between soul love and human love -Why romance doesn't have to look like a RomCom -How Janelle's thumb turned green -The hair extensions and acid-dropping hoopla of her 10th Burn -How building a website can crack you open (who knew?) -About the Goddess Temple and why you need to visit -Janelle's liberation from health insurance -------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

REPEAT:  83: Part 10/12, Sexual Exploration After 50 Years of Monogamy: How to Talk About Sex Series Andrea and Janelle engage in a deep conversation with Braveheart and former emergency physician Doug Yeakel about his journey navigating the complexities of love, communication and vulnerability in relationships. He reflects on his own bravery and curiosity to share what's on his heart, explores the idea of love beyond traditional boundaries and the significance of body awareness in understanding one's sexuality. There's a nod to Sam Harris, the book "Cosmo Genesis", RBDSM, full body orgasms and agelessness as well. You'll hear: --Why naming your sex conversation with humor helps you own it (Doug calls it Book Club) --How Doug put his vulnerability on a platter --Why bodily presence is so critical for the hard conversations --Why sharing the last 10% of your desires is so fucking important --How different types of togetherness can help you feel  loved in new ways --Why aging does not have to limit capacity for love and exploration --How sexuality, plant medicine and mountain biking can lead to new states of consciousness --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

REPEAT: 82: Part 9/12, The Repair is Where the Juice Is: How to Talk about Sex Series Janelle and Andrea interview intimacy and relationship coach Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates about their own REPAIR process. Bravehearts, here's the holy-shit-this-is-it, articulate culmination of navigating difficult shit! Hazel Grace explains how Resourcing, Empathy, Permission, Acknowledgement, Impact and Restore create "safety and scaffolding" so you can arrive at complex shared realities, and restore integrity and deep connection. There's a nod to the Esalen Institute, where Hazel Grace is a teacher. --Empathy isn't just for others--you need it too. --How to avoid scope-creep and contain the conversation (yes, those are PM words!) --Why "story hygiene" matters--clean, update, renew! --The significance of curiosity and reflective listening (I heard this, did I get it right?) --How to get beyond "agreeing to disagree" to deeper understanding --Why restoration helps the brain rewire and rebuild trust Learn more about Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates at Dr. Hazel-Grace --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 10: Butt Plugs, Tantrikas & Pleasure Pillars: It's an  Inside Job, He He Nope, we're not talking about your favorite type of fellatio. "Pleasure Pillars" are what Janelle requires to ALLOW her to get curious about pleasure. We'll share several juicy parts of her journey as she summoned her own orgasmic spirit from within. Includes stuff about a choir and Brene Brown, a celebration of spirit crowns and an 80s commercial reference. Some key points in the episode include: -An experience with a Tantrika -The mind-body-heart connection -The beauty of butt-plugs -Opening the throat chakra -Why YOU are the Source of your pleasure --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

#99: Part 12/12, Domination, Surrender, and the Delicate Art of Not Lying to Yourself with Adam: Building a Relationship with Yourself Series Andrea and Janelle sit down with Adam—a man who's navigated and busted his ass through the minefield of marriage, identity, spiritual kink and inner truth without turning into a self-help meme. Together, they talk about what happens when you stop pretending, start feeling, and still somehow try to be sexy while setting boundaries. Warning: A lot of this is counter-intuitive and…you'll likely recognize yourself or your man or your brother or your Dad here. Somewhere. Bravehearts, this episode is a lot like eye gazing, at a tantra workshop with your ex: Pretty intense, uncomfortably honest and deeply moving. You'll hear: -Why self-love starts with telling the truth, even when it's hideous. -How alone time changed Adam's life -Why masculinity may not manifesting without self-surrender -How honesty could wreck your life, but in a good way. -Why domination and submission are spiritual practices, not just category tags. -The freedom is in vulnerability, even though it feels like you're dying --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

98: Part 11/12: Holy No, Sacred Yes: Rewriting Your Inner Narrative with Sophie Howell: How to Build a Relationship with Yourself Series In this episode, spirit-crowned firestarter and language alchemist Sophie Howell drops in to dismantle the narratives that keep us playing small. If you're done self-sabotaging to your own internal past trauma patterns, , Sophie breaks down the real talk on the damage that words can do, the idea that enthusiasm is your birthright and why its all up to you. Apparently, your your inner world is the most badass revolution you can lead. Sophie doesn't just hand you insight—she dares you to change your life. Get ready to burn the old script and write one that stops your existential kink in its tracks. You'll hear: -Why eliminating "not", "can't" and won't" from your script changes your life -The power of the FEMMifest vs. the MANifest -How rupture isn't failure, its the invitation for change. -When it comes to questions you ask, tone and energy matter. -You don't need to hit rock bottom to wake the f*ck up. -How you can be the muse and the maker of your reality Learn more about Language of Empowerment and Spirit Crowns at SophieHowell.com. --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

REPEAT: 3: Being Alone: Honey, I Can't Miss You if You Don't Leave Yes, that's a quote from Married with Children! No, we don't condone Ed's misogynistic behavior. But alone time is dramatically underrated (even for extroverts). You'll hear our own stories about how we never wanted it….until we got it….and now we love it. When you build a relationship with yourself, your relationship with others gets BETTER.    Some key points in this episode: -Revisiting the HA model; how to add independence to a relationship structure -How alone time can benefit extroverts  -Using alone time to tap into creative potential -Discussing how the capacity to be alone is the capacity to love   Additional resources: -"Man for the New Millenium" by Osho   Get ready for some real-time relationship woo and wisdom--from the front lines about how breaking rules, blurring boundaries and tossing tradition--along with polyamory and plant medicine--have been catalysts for finding our truth.   The Permission to Be Human Podcast debunks the myths we were told about fairytales and forever, so we can create a new map for life, love, and conscious relationships.    Freedom is, in fact, the new F word. We can do hard things!   If you're seeking permission to choose your own path, and want to feel less alone along the way, we've got you.   With heart-shaped sunglasses,   Janelle & Andrea   Follow, subscribe, share and download wherever you get your podcasts!   Learn more about us at: permissiontobehuman.live   Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY   Shout out to SpiritCrowns.com

97: Part 10/12, Get In Your Body, Mama: Self-Discovery Through Somatics: Building a Relationship with Yourself Series In this juicy and soul-stirring episode, Becca Dollard dives deep into what it really means to have a relationship with yourself—especially when you're navigating the identity-melting, heart-expanding rollercoaster of motherhood. Because here's the truth: knowing yourself isn't optional—it's your superpower. Motherhood can crack you wide open in the most glorious (and sometimes messy) ways, and that's where the growth lives. Becca shows us that the journey back to self isn't linear—it's embodied, emotional, and wildly personal. Through the power of somatics, you reconnect not just to your body, but to your truth. Boundaries become acts of love, not just protection. Relationships stop being formulas and start becoming sacred dances. You get to love what you love, ditch what doesn't fit, and let your emotions be the fuel that moves you. Growth isn't a destination—it's a ride. And you're worthy of enjoying every twist, turn, and revelation. You'll hear: -Why most of us don't actually know who we are (hint: society's been messing with us) -Why the sacred power of somatics helps us reconnect with our bodies -How contrast and chaos in relationships are actually pure gold for personal clarity -Why boundaries are the ultimate act of self-love—and not just buzzwords on Instagram -Plus, some simple-but-potent homework to help you find out what lights you up (and what's gotta go) To reach Becca, find her on IG Becca•Somatic Practitioner•Life Coach (@themotherhoodmentor) or email her at [email protected] And as promised, here is a list of Somatic Sensory Words: Temperature Sensations Warm Cool Hot Cold Burning Icy Tingly warmth Chilled Feverish Movement/Flow Sensations Buzzing Tingling Fluttering Pulsing / Throbbing Vibrating Wavelike Swirling Expanding / Contracting Floating Trembling Twitchy Quivering Rippling Undulating Density/Weight Sensations Heavy Light Dense Airy Weighted Sinking Floating Pressured Buoyant Grounded Hollow Empty Full Swollen Bloated Tension & Release Sensations Tight Tense Gripping Clenched Bound Braced Knotted Aching Sharp Cramping Stiff Locked Loose Relaxed Soft Open Melting Unwinding Energetic/Emotional Somatic Qualities Numb Charged Electric Alive Activated Buzzing Spiky Smooth Radiating Tinged (e.g., "tinged with sadness") Jittery Grounded Solid Fragile Leaky Dissolving Effervescent Other Unique Somatic Descriptors Prickly Crawling Sticky Dry Wet Slippery Velvety Rough Gritty Levitating Collapsing Shimmering --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

96: Part 9/12,  Fashion Freedom - Koya Nyangi's Guide to Bold Self-Expression: Building a Relationship with Yourself Series Janelle and Andrea feel the vibration and joy that Koya Nyangi brings to clothing. With the CEO of Let Me Show You Different, get ready to dive into a world where fashion meets self-discovery. This episode is a vibrant exploration of how clothing can be a powerful tool for self-expression and personal growth. She takes us a on journey showing us how are clothing - and past versions of ourselves - may be behind us, but our closet is in front of us - and how we can get into alignment. Full of joy, surprise and rule breaking, get ready to receive permission to embrace your unique style!   -Discover how your wardrobe can reflect your inner self and evolve with you -Permission to Play: Learn why playing dress-up isn't just for kids -Break the Rules: Ditch fashion norms and wear what makes you feel alive. ----Closet Therapy: Tips on how to reimagine your wardrobe and find joy in your clothes. Learn more about Koya on IG @‌letmeshowyoudifferent --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

95: Part 8/12, Amelia Broughton Talks Human Design: Building a Relationship with Yourself Series In this episode, we interview Human Design guide Amelia Broughton to add crystal-style-clarity to one of the most misunderstood systems of self-awareness out there. They cover our own lack of self-trust, how culture trains us to override our instincts, and how to come back to our own internal compass. Amelia breaks down the Human Design types—not as labels, but as living archetypes—and shares how HD is less trend, more tremendously insightful mirror--even for logic-leading peeps. If you've taken too many quizzes, are exhausted by self-doubt, and remain cautiously curious about the woo, this episode's for you. You'll hear: : -Why our decision-making style isn't random—it's wired in -How it helped Janelle buy a car -Exactly how it can help you love better. Yes. Seriously. -Why Human Design is where judgment fades and collab begins -Self-trust is not a mindset—it's a strategy. -Gasp! A way to recognize the BEAUTY in our differences -Learn more about Amelia at Amelia Broughton or reach out to her on IG @‌broughtonconnect --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

94: Part 7/12, Ariana Macartney's Shroom & Pussy-Driven Path to Coming Home: Building a Relationship with Yourself Series   This is not your average self-help chat. In this episode, Andrea and Janelle sit down with Arianna Macartney—artist, naturopathic doctor, psychedelic somatic guide, certified AF spiritual badass—for a raw and rich conversation. We're talking sacred sexuality, microdosing as medicine, and healing through creative expression and intuitive sobriety. Ariana is where textbook wisdom meets deep, personal descent and wild re-emergence. She makes awakening to all your inner parts--like they're sacred guests at your soul's dinner party—more playful, smutty, empowering and real. You'll hear: -Arianna's story of addiction and how Intuitive sobriety saved her -How letting her pussy DOM her worked out really well -Your "inner chaos" isn't a problem—it's a map to who you are. -Why the part you're hiding could be your most powerful ally. -Psychedelics explained--no drum circle required -When to DIY and when to call a guide -How to harness creativity as medicine for your soul -How you can't outrun fear or grief, but you can alchemize them. To learn more about Ariana, find her at www.sacredfreak.com or @‌dr.arianamacartney on IG --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

93: Part 6/12, An Academic Braveheart Talks Lostness, Longing & Discomfort: How to Build a Relationship with Yourself Series Ever gotten intentionally lost? In this episode, Janelle and Andrea sit down with the inimitably honest Michael Scott Overholt for a conversation that will touch you in surprising ways. Expect Greek philosophy, truth bombs, a Bay Area breakthrough, the indirect benefit of knowing yourself and why getting totally lost might be the best way to find out what you actually need. There's a nod to Plato, Socrates and Rebecca Solnit's book "A Field Guide to Getting Lost". You'll hear: -How self-care is foreplay for being fully human -Why Michael got intentionally lost in a forest -How to reframe uncertainty as an invitation -Why the longing is actually the THING -The way curiosity can be the best kink ever -Why honesty doesn't make you a hero, but does set you free --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/

92: Part 5/12 Dãmasa Doyle on Touch, Trauma & Ancestral Wisdom:  How to Build a Relationship with Yourself Series Welcome to the episode where we strip self-help down to its naked, sacred roots. Our guest, Dǎmasa, dives deep into shamanic healing, ancestral wisdom (yes, your grandma's trauma might live in your hips), and why belonging feels like both a birthright and an epic hero's journey. Trauma? Oh, it's here. But so is the medicine. You'll learn why healing is sometimes more intentional ritual than a self-care spa day, and why "indigenosity" isn't reserved for a select few. You'll hear: -How to honor your ancestors suffering and claim your own freedom -Plenty more proof about why your body keeps the score -Why you belong. Even when you think you don't. Especially then. -The definitions of "shamanic" and "elemental wisdom" -Why awakening is a group project -How your ancestors can help you build a better relationship with yourself -Practical rituals and steps to connect with your mind, body and past mentors Learn more about Dãmasa's Sacred Ancestral Pilgrimage at Donate to Support Dãmasa's Sacred Ancestral Pilgrimage to Gabon&Ghana, organized by Damasa Doyle Find her on IG @‌damasoul_sacred --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

91: Part 4/12, The Rise of the Real Andrea: How to Build a Relationship with Yourself Series   In this poignant, and touching episdoe, Janelle and Andrea wade into the gritty glorious impact on your relationships, family, boundaries, and even choir potluck, when self-relationship blooms. Spoiler alert: The ultimate judgement she had to overcome was her own. No filters. No fake smiles. Just two women talking truth, power, and what it means to come home to yourself. Grief and gold here Bravehearts. There's a nod to Glennon Doyle and Steve Enright. You'll hear: -How Andrea's ex-husband saved her from her dishonesty with herself -Why "letting go of form" can open the floodgates to love -Important! How to honor your parents as you grow and change -Why Andrea started reading less school emails (score!) -A cheat sheet for when you forget (and you will!) -About an Easter brunch where the hosts refuesed to abandon themselves to save the "holiday plan" -Where Andrea still tells white lies! (Damn it! She can't stop!) -A 20th wedding anniversary celebration with….her ex-husband. -Why lack of presence really does ruin the collective --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

90: Part 3/12, Andrea Says: Your Roles are Not You: How to Build a Relationship with Yourself Series In this soul-baring episode, Janelle sits down with the unfiltered, fire-hearted Andrea Enright to discuss the tears, truths, spirit and confessions (I'm terrible at letting things go!) involved in building a relationship with yourself. Apparently, her intuition was so tired of being ignored, it threatened to pack up and move out. If youve checked the boxes, but still feel off, this is where to start. You'll hear:   -Why motherhood, polyamory and feeling "empty" at 29 cracked her open -How she stopped mistaking control for love—and the brutal wake-up calls that came with that -Why being honest with yourSELF is the big hurdle -The wild power of listening to your body when your brain is lying -What happens when you realize a ROLE is not an IDENTITY -How making space for spirit is part of the path --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

89: Part 2/12, Janelle's Messy AND Magical Journey to Self-Love: Building a Relationship with Yourself Series   What happens when you stop outsourcing your worth, get radically honest with yourself, and finally become your own damn soulmate? This episode is a warm slap in the face (with love) for anyone who's tired of self-abandoning and ready to live heart-first. Janelle dives into the raw, real, not-always-attractive terrain of building a relationship with… you. From sacred (not selfish) spiritual and personal growth and emotional faceplants to listening deeper and saying "no" without guilt, this convo will crack you open and piece you back together—with more clarity, compassion, and a fierce sense of self. You'll hear: -Why self-love isn't a bubble bath (but also... sometimes it is) -The spiritual AF side of solo decision-making -How body awareness is your internal compass, not just a wellness buzzword -What happens when you stop being your own emotional bulldozer -Why self-forgiveness is the gateway drug to real growth. -The power of the pause---you don't have to decide right now! -Why Your 'yes' means nothing if your 'no' isn't real. --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

88: Part 1/12, Janelle Says: We'll Never Break Up: How To Build a Relationship with Yourself Series Andrea interviews Janelle about building a relationship with herself. They cover the catalysts, the crises, the discomfort, the tools and the deep courage required. She was scared to look at stuff! Her optimism actually prevented self-honesty! It's NOT neat and tidy! There's a nod to Glennon Doyle, Human Design, The Gene Keys, Michael Pollan and Jamie Wheal. You'll hear:   -Just how many baths Janelle takes! -How your productivity gene may turn relaxation into a "to-do" -Why the mind should be a tool--NOT the truth. -How to discern between true pleasure and instant gratification. -The importance of the elusive morning ritual -How clothing (!!) supports Janelle's inner state -Why you gotta spend time alone. No, really. No excuses. -The difference between caretaking and genuine affection --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/  

Season 4: How to Build a Relationship with Yourself --------------- We're Andrea and Janelle--two midlife mavericks sharing openly about our own experiences--messy AF and no regrets----with marriage, divorce, polyamory and pleasure. You'll hear from relationship experts, meet real life Bravehearts and get intimacy skills.  Truth: When we're brave enough to ask for what we want, honor our  boundaries and have the hard conversations--with partners, friends, family and, most importantly, ourselves--magic happens and happiness ensues. If you're seeking permission to create a new map for relationships and want to feel less alone along the way, we got you. With glitter and radical acceptance, Janelle & Andrea. Follow, subscribe and share!Learn more about us at: https://www.permissiontobehuman.live/ Music: "Running Wild" by LVDY https://www.lvdymusic.com/