Self-Led Besties!

In this episode, Christine shares a Needs-Based Protocol she's been working on. David and Hallie experiment with what emotions feel like in their bodies and how their emotions can be valuable messengers pointing to unmet needs. Then, Christine leads Hallie and David in an exercise to assess a relationship, environment, or activity by scoring how well they support each of the 9 Universal Human Needs. Then we discuss brainstorming creative strategies to meet those needs ourselves as well as specific requests to make of others. We welcome you to follow along in these experiments and offer feedback or questions in the comments. As we develop this protocol, your input is highly valuable. 0:00 Intro0:10 Theme Song0:37 Exercise Overview4:45 Noticing Emotions9:06 The Level Of Suffering12:30 David's Emotions15:21 Hallie's Emotions18:47 The Nine Human Needs23:29 David's Unmet Needs25:04 Hallie's Unmet Needs26:30 Meeting Our Needs30:29 How Emotions Relate To Needs35:34 Partner, Place Or Profession?40:40 Rating Needs Being Met44:50 High, Medium & Low Scores50:05 Personally Meeting Our Needs50:45 Specific Request Of Another Person52:08 Creating Distance53:30 Strategy Examples1:02:34 Outro & Goodbyes1:04:12 Theme Song1:05:16 Like & Subscribe

In this episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Christine, Hallie and David speak for their active parts around the exclusion of non therapists from the IFSI training (yes, we still have parts processing the decision made 2 1/2 years ago!). We reference an article entitled "The Ethics of Using IFS in Coaching." Here is the link, if you'd like to read the article yourself: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching A main point in the article is that IFS is unique in its understanding that it is NOT the practitioner but the client's Self who is the healing agent in their system. So the question is NOT "Who is allowed to facilitate IFS?", but "Who does IFS assert is the healer?" We discuss our distress over the conflict between therapists and non-therapists created by the exclusion and our desire to be united in the unique hope of IFS. We also discuss how much of mainstream therapy can end up reinforcing client's core wounds such as, "I am helpless," "something is wrong with me," etc. and how anyone with Self energy - a coach, friend, family member - can be supportive of our own Self tending to our parts, and that, ultimately, it is always Love that heals. 0:00 Intro0:12 Theme Song0:38 Discussion Intoduction2:33 How Christine's Parts Responded4:28 How David's Parts Responded5:46 How Hallie's Parts Responded10:42 Article Introduction12:46 Article Reading23:21 How Therapy Can Reinforce Wounds29:59 The Importance Of Self-Energy36:58 The Importance of Relationship40:50 The Importance of Inner Work43:26 The Importance Of Self-Led Friends52:16 IFSI & Christianity55:09 How Love Heals59:53 A Beautiful Poem By Hallie1:00:48 Closing & Goodbyes1:01:34 Theme Song1:02:35 Like & Subscribe!

In this episode, David leads Hallie and Christine (and you) through an exercise based on a beautiful gardening metaphor to bring curiosity and awareness to the relationships in our lives. In the exercise, we imagine four flower beds - one each for seedling, deeply rooted flowering, withering, and dying relationships. We assess the time and energy we put into each type of relationship as well as listen to parts' fears and needs around the various stages of our relationships. After the exercise, Christine and Hallie share about the insights they gained, and Hallie extends the metaphor in many wonderful ways. If you participate in the exercise, we'd love to hear about your experience in the comment section! 0:00 Intro0:10 Theme Song0:34 Exercise Overview2:01 Parts Check-In3:17 Imagining The Garden5:32 Noticing Four Flowerbeds8:59 Energy & Effort Percentage10:52 First Flowerbed - Seedlings & Saplings13:42 Second Flowerbed - Evergreens16:03 Third Flowerbed - Wilting & Withering18:18 Fourth Flowerbed - Composting 20:42 Part's Insights?21:15 Energy & Effort Change?23:02 Bonus Question23:44 Exercise Ending24:20 Christine's Experience35:54 Hallie's Experience56:43 Relationship Discussion1:10:36 Closing & Goodbyes1:11:49 Theme Song1:12:53 Like & Subscribe!

In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine (and you) through an incredibly helpful exercise to get to know parts around a polarization and then to bring them together to find a Self-led consensus. Hallie starts with the prompt, "What is something you/parts of you have been putting off?” and leads us to get to know the parts who want to do the thing and the parts who block/resist it. She guides us toward gentle inquiry of each part/set of parts to find out their fears, needs, values, and requests. At the end, we all share for what came up for us in the experiment/experience. Feel free to join us in doing the exercise and share your experience in the comments or just listen to our experiences. You cannot get it wrong! 0:00 Intro0:11 Theme Song0:35 Exercise Preview1:51 Exercise Overview6:54 Finding a Trailhead8:17 First Part's Questions P111:33 First Part's Questions P212:39 First Part's Questions P313:21 Second Part's Questions P116:18 Second Part's Questions P216:45 Second Part's Questions P317:24 Spending Time With Vulnerable Parts20:23 Bringing Parts Together21:54 Sharing Part's Perspectives24:43 Inviting a Consensus25:54 Exercise Conclusion27:53 David's Experience36:01 Christine's Experience48:05 Exercise Reflection56:40 Hallie's Experience1:00:14 Closing & Goodbyes1:02:23 Theme Song1:03:23 Like & Subscribe!

In this episode, Christine leads Hallie and David (and you) through an exercise in which we express our parts' concerns by journaling with our dominant hand and then respond from Love/Spirit/SELF with our non dominant hand. Christine gives an overview of the many sources which use a similar method to access wisdom from Divine Source - Liz Gilbert's Letters from Love, The Morning Pages encouraged in The Artist's Way, Journal Speak developed by Nicole Sachs to heal chronic pain, Conversations With God by Neal Donald Walsh, and Spirit by Bob Falconer. Christine also talks about the influence of Jill Bolte Taylor's ideas in her book "Whole Brain Living," which made Christine wonder if our Self exists, or is at least channeled by, our right brain. She talks about the parallels between the parts and Self in IFS and JBT's "4 Characters" of the brain in this video. Christine, Hallie, and David all do the exercise and share the responses they got from Love/Spirit/SELF as well as their experience using the exercise in the recent past. Check out our SLB Instagram account if you'd like to see the writing that came out of it for us.  Please feel free to try the exercise and let us know how it went in the comments below. 0:00 Intro 0:18 Theme Song 0:42 Exercise Overview 1:52 Exercise Influences 11:32 Exercise Preview 16:08 Step One - Parts Writing with Right Hand 18:00 Step Two - Parts Question and Left Hand Reply 20:08 Christine's Experience 24:45 David's Experience 38:24 Hallie's Experience 48:17 Past Experiences with Exercise 57:24 Outro & Goodbyes 57:57 Theme Song

In this episode of The Self Led Besties Podcast, David gently leads Hallie and Christine through three groups of exercises that act as inroads to Self Energy:1.⁠ ⁠Presence2.⁠ ⁠Awareness3.⁠ ⁠Qualities of Self You are welcome to join us in these experiences/experiments or just listen. At about the 46 minute marker, Christine and Hallie share for their parts' reactions to the exercises. If you participate in the exercises, please share about your experience in the comment section. We'd love to hear from you! 0:00 Intro 0:17 Theme Song 0:42 Exercise Overview 4:38 First Path To Self - Presence P1 9:28 First Path to Self - Presence P218:09 Awareness Overview 20:57 Second Path to Self - Awareness P1 25:22 Second Path to Self - Awareness P2 35:36 Qualities Overview 37:46 Third Path to Self - Qualities 46:38 Christine's Experience 56:38 Hallie's Experience 1:13:03 Outro & Goodbyes 1:17:22 Theme Song

In today's episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Hallie beautifully leads David and Christine through a meditation and journaling exercise of listening to activated parts and receiving compassion from a Self energy surrogate and our own future Self before offering compassion out to others. After the exercise, Christine and David share about their activated parts and the messages they received from Self. Christine shares for parts activated by events in Minnesota and David shares for parts polarized around healing. In the spirit of experimentation on which our podcast is based, we tried offering just an audio experience with no edits for this episode. There will be large gaps of silence in this video/audio so that you can follow along in the exercise with us. You are welcome to join us or forward and just listen to our experiences. This is an exercise you can come back to repeatedly whenever parts feel activated (see chapters if you'd like to access a specific part of the exercise). If you do the exercise and would like to share what came up for you, please do that in the comments section. In this way, we can all be a community of compassionate with-ness for one another. 0:00 Intro 1:48 Theme Song 2:28 Exercise Intro 5:01 Finding Trailheads 9:32 Writing About Trailheads 16:25 First Flow Of Compassion 21:55 Second Flow Of Compassion 26:36 Third Flow Of Compassion 32:38 Exercise Summary 35:29 Christine's Experience 45:42 David's Experience 55:38 Outro & Full Theme Song

Welcome ​back to the pod, besties! ​In this episode, we're experimenting with out first ever Activation Station segment!   Chapters 00:00 Intro01:04 Parts Check-In13:19 Activation Station01:01:59 Self-Led Consensus01:15:36 See You Next Time! (Hello Brian!)01:15:45 Full Theme Song!   Links to things we mentioned: ​   Not Nice (Book): https://shorturl.at/v8cDw  ​Mayam Bialik's Breakdown Podcast: https://www.bialikbreakdown.com/​ Marshall Rosenberg: https://www.cnvc.org/about/marshall ​Enemies Project: https://www.enemiesproject.org/ ​Telepathy Tapes: https://thetelepathytapes.com/ David Hilton: Instagram David's Website - https://www.mindfulnondualtherapy.com...  Hallie Shapiro: Instagram  Hallie's Website - www.youarewiseinside.com Christine Dixon: Instagram Christine's Website: https://www.theordinarysacred.com/  Self Led Besties Pod: Instagram

Welcome to the Pod, Besties!  You’ll find us chatting about all things Self-Leadership, parts, self-compassion, nonviolent communication & so much more. Chapters 00:00 Welcome!02:03 Our Connection To Each Other16:55 Parts Check-In29:14 Everything As An Experiment32:42 They Love You They Really Love You37:15 Our Podcast Name40:16 Self-Energy Surrogates57:52 Until Next Time!59:12 Special Brian Appearance!59:27 Full Theme Song :) Show Notes: Martha Beck Wayfinder Life Coach Training Ordinary Sacred IFS Meditation for Grief Outshining Trauma by Ralph De La Rosa  Ordinary Sacred YouTube Videos on Outshining Trauma (found within Come to the Library Series) Self Energy Surrogates video Christine Dixon: Instagram, WebsiteDavid Hilton: Instagram, Website: Mindful-Nondual Therapy Hallie Shapiro: Instagram, Website: Wise Inside Self Leadership Coaching SLB Podcast: Instagram