Sip of Humanity

So many of us dream of perfection. The perfect life, career, family, partner, you name it. But have we ever stopped to ask ourselves what perfection actually means and what the pursuit of perfection entails?  While we are naturally drawn to images and ideas of perfection, we often overlook the damage that overly perfectionistic behavior and goal setting can cause to our well-being and relationships. Join Jahsana in this episode as she discusses some tell-tale signs of what to look out for in perfectionistic tendencies that may be actually causing more stress and less overall productivity, and lastly some tips for how to start practicing imperfection. Enjoy!

We all have habits. Good and bad. And let's be honest, after two years of pantless zoom meetings, #MargaritaMondays, and people wearing buckets with eye holes cut out to the grocery store, I’m sure we have all developed some other habits that we may not be so proud of and are feeling the need to do something about. If you can resonate with that, then this episode is for you! Listen in for some realistic reassurance that you are not alone in the struggle of maintaining healthy habits, and getting rid of bad ones, followed by some reading recommendations and tips for how to work on some of those habits in a way that will work for YOU. Resources: https://jamesclear.com/

As promised, we discuss all things human. The good and the bad. Sometimes the awkward.  Today, we're going to be giving some background on the bad stuff happening in the world as well as spill the tea on some ways to understand our own emotional reaction to it and some tips for maintaining self-care and a sense of calm in the face of uncertainty. Also as promised, here is the charity watch website link; https://www.charitywatch.org

You're speaking my language! Or... are you? This week, to finish off the month of February, we dive into the 5 love languages and touch on the importance of understanding how we as humans will differ in the ways we both give & receive love.  Take the love language quiz and find out what language you speak best. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

It's still February, and as promised, we are still talking about love. Today we're talking attachment, specifically attachment styles. There are four different attachment styles; Avoidant, Anxious, and Dismissive attachment styles are considered to be "insecure" attachments, with the fourth style being a Secure attachment. Listen in to this episode for a little insight into each of these styles and how you can get a little reflective on how your style may be playing out in your relationships. Here is a link to the Attachment Style Quiz as promised:  https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/

The great Rue Paul famously said, "If you can't love yourself, How in the hell you gonna love somebody else?"  This episode is all about helping you manifest a deeper sense of self love without indulging in spending sprees, chocolates or bubble baths.

Whether you are going through it, have gone through it, this weeks topic is something that you inevitably will go through. Grief. Todays episode covers the stages of grief, discusses misunderstandings surrounding the grief process and lastly some ways to help yourself as well as others move forward through the experience of grief.

Who's tired? Tired of the unknown, tired of the changes, tired of the arguments, the politics, the fear, the isolation... Are you just straight up tired of being tired? I know I am and I'd say join the club, but membership isn't all that exclusive these days... With the resurgence of a new variant, continuous social and political turmoil, and a growing sense of exhaustion, it's hard for anyone, regardless of what you believe about COVID-19 and the actions being taken in response, to not just throw your hands up in the air and say "I don't even care anymore" and wish we could go back to the days when we only had the weather to reference when a conversation fizzled out. If you're sick and tired of being sick and tired, today's episode is for you. Listen in for some tips to apply in your life to manage the current crisis humans are living through as well as your own personal crisis as they pop up at the most inconvenient times.

It's a new year! Some humans like to immediately start the process of purging, others prefer to enjoy their holiday decorations and hold off. Regardless of when you want to purge your shit, this weeks episode has some tips for being realistic in how to purge in ways that are adaptive to your life and advice that highlights the benefit of minimizing to not only you but how it can be beneficial for others.

Ready for 2021 to be over?! Let's discuss ways that you can throw out your resolutions with 2021 and set intentions for a better year and overall life instead

Holiday stress getting to you? Join Jahsana for tips on how to recognize some signs that you're beginning to fall into the holiday blues and sip of some tea for how to manage the snowglobe swirl of emotions many of us experience during this time of the year. 

Happy Holi...I want a day off! But seriously...This week we're sipping on the unrealistic social narrative that people actually get to take a holiday during the holidays. And while it would be great if that was the reality, we'll come back to earth a bit and discuss the benefits of taking vacation time. Including tips and science-based suggestions on how how to optimize that time, whether you have 24 hours or 24 days of Christmas. And, regardless of when you actually get to take some time off, these tips can help you both optimize and extend the health and wellness benefits that come from taking some time for ourselves. *Dislaimer: I apologize for not including the breadth of end-of-year holidays. I am always interested to learn about new cultural celebrations and would love to hear about any important holidays that I missed or I should be attentive to during this time of year!

Have you seen influencers posting those cringe videos of them sticking their camera in someone's face to record the person's "Thank you" for their "good deed" or service? Maybe it bugs me more than anyone else... but I couldn't keep my mouth shut this week about this one. *Disclaimer: this is not a jab at those who are doing good deeds and want to spread the feeling of joy throughout the holidays and show how heart-warming it can be to give to others, this is directed at those acting gratuitously with the PRIMARY goal of receiving likes and social praise or status as a result of their behavior.  Gratitude Studies: For anyone wanting some ideas on how to give back this holiday/any time of the season, I've listed some great organizations to get involved with. Feel free to share and I will be sure to give any that you humans feel strongly about a (quick look-over) and shout out :) https://www.charitywatch.org

Are you looking forward to some holiday time off, but not so much the people you may be forced to spend that off time with… or maybe you are looking forward to it but you are already dreading some of the conversations that are bound to come up, like they do EVERY YEAR. Well, todays episode is for you. If I had to guess, I would say that even Mother Theresa and Ghandi got fed up with peoples $hi*. We are no exception. So here are some tips to keep all the humans alive and well at the dinner table. If you're interested in looking at various family system roles here's a good resource! https://www.newhavenrtc.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/3.6-Family-Roles.doc.pdf

Have you always had motivation/drive issues, or are you recently experiencing it more than before?  Today I will be introducing the podcast, myself and starting off the first episode of Sip of Humanity by sipping tea on the issue of Motivation and Productivity Fatigue. We'll discuss some of the science behind what that's all about and reflect on some ways that we can optimize our motivation and avoid productivity fatigue. Check out the links below for additional information about what was discussed in this episode! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vA50EK70whE https://podcastnotes.org/huberman-lab/episode-12-how-to-increase-motivation-drive-huberman-lab/ https://www.bravermantest.com/ *Please write in the Q&A box or send DM's to @sipofhumanity of Instagram to let me know what you're interested in sipping on next!

Join mental health professional, Jahsana Banks M.A., for some tea, as she explores the nuances and complexity of being and living among other humans. I will explore mental health and social justice topics as well as current events and real life stories/experiences in an effort to provide a psychology-based perspective on strategies to better acknowledge, accept, and cope with the differences, limitations and contradictions that make us all human.