Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sameena Rahman — board-certified OBGYN, sex medicine Gynecologist, and menopause specialist — to have the conversation most women never get to have with their doctor. We cover whether hormone level testing actually matters, how to tell the difference between hormone imbalance and hormone optimization, and why a woman's libido is almost never just about one thing.Dr. Rahman breaks down the biopsychosocial framework she uses in her practice, explains why so many women in long-term relationships experience responsive — not spontaneous — desire, and gets specific about the treatments available right now for women with low libido who are bothered by it. That includes testosterone, flibanserin (Addyi), bremelanotide (Vyleesi), and a promising new topical sildenafil being prescribed at leading practices. I share my own experience with testosterone and Wellbutrin, we talk about the gender double standard in sexual medicine, and Dr. Rahman makes the case that women deserve the same range of options men have had for decades.Timestamps:00:00 - Welcome & Introduction01:35 - Who Is Dr. Sameena Rahman?02:50 - Should You Measure Your Hormone Levels?05:20 - Hormone Imbalance vs. Hormone Optimization07:10 - Why Women's Libido Is Never Just One Thing09:30 - Responsive Desire & the Incentive-Based Model11:20 - What Is Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder?13:10 - Testosterone for Women: Does It Work?15:25 - Flibanserin (Addyi) — The Pink Pill Explained17:55 - Bremelanotide (Vyleesi) — The On-Demand Option19:45 - Topical Sildenafil: The Newest Treatment for Women21:20 - Key Takeaways & Closing Thoughts Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Sameena Rahman is a board-certified OB/GYN and certified Menopause Practitioner with over a decade of expertise in midlife care, sexual medicine, and concierge gynecology. After training and practicing at leading institutions including USC, the University of Chicago, and Northwestern, she founded The GSM Collective in downtown Chicago to deliver a more personalized, patient-first model of women’s healthcare.Nationally recognized for her leadership in sexual and menopausal health, Dr. Rahman serves on the Board of Directors and as Scientific Committee Chair for the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health (ISSWSH), where she is also a Fellow (IF). She is a Menopause Certified Practitioner and active member of The Menopause Society’s Education Committee, frequently speaking at national and international conferences on culturally informed care and sexual health.Connect with Dr. Sameena Rahman:Website: https://www.thegsmcollective.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gynogirl/Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more!🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. 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In this episode, I'm going straight at the myth that has quietly wrecked the confidence of more men than I can count: how long you're supposed to last in bed. Spoiler — the benchmark most men are measuring themselves against isn't based in reality. It comes from porn, locker room exaggeration, and years of silence between partners who never actually had the conversation. I break down what the science actually says (the average is about five to six minutes, not 20 or 30), share a real client story, and explain why the real problem isn't your body — it's your benchmark. I also cover what women genuinely want from sex, why performance anxiety starts in your head long before you get anywhere near the bedroom, and practical steps to feel more present, more confident, and more connected with your partner.In this episode:00:00 Hook & Podcast Introduction00:55 The 20-Minute Myth — Where It Comes From01:55 What the Research Says About Sex Duration02:50 Why You're Struggling With Pressure, Not Performance03:35 Real Client Story: Shame, Avoidance, and Breakthrough04:20 What Women Actually Want in Bed05:10 Ad: Firm Tech Max PR05:35 Redefining Good Sex From Scratch06:20 Practical Tools for Control, Presence, and Connection07:10 When to See a Doctor or Sex Therapist07:35 Final CTA and Outro Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Want to enhance intimacy and confidence? Check out my curated products page at https://www.taboototruth.com/shopGet 15% off the Max PR from Firm Tech with code TABOO15 at myfirmtech.com

In this episode, I'm talking with Natalie Davis — former DOJ trial lawyer, polyamory advocate, and author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory — about what it actually looks like to build a life that doesn't follow the relationship script most of us were handed.Natalie has been with her husband since they were teenagers. They have an adult son. And over the past two decades, they've navigated swinging, open relationships, and fully polyamorous partnerships — together and separately. Today, she lives in a home with her husband and his long-term girlfriend, her metamour, while also dating outside the house. It works. And she's here to explain exactly how.We talk about the moment her husband first suggested opening their marriage, why her initial reaction was a hard no, and how she moved through fear and structure-loving resistance into something that genuinely expanded her world. She breaks down the differences between swinging, open relationships, and polyamory, shares what jealousy actually looks like when it shows up (and when it doesn't), and explains the safer sex elevator speech that everyone — monogamous or not — should be using.We also get into the real stuff: how her marriage stays strong when both partners are emotionally and physically connected to other people, what she told her son, how coming out as polyamorous affects friendships and family, why she's now fighting for legal protections for non-monogamous people, and what it's like to date much younger men after decades of marriage.This is not a conversation about blowing up your life. It's a conversation about questioning what you were taught, being honest about what you want, and realizing that love doesn't always have to look one way.In This Episode:00:00 What If You Were Never Taught Monogamy Was Optional?01:50 Meet Natalie Davis: DOJ Lawyer Turned Polyamory Advocate04:20 How Her Husband First Brought Up Opening Their Marriage07:40 Natalie's Arc: From Hard No to Saying Yes11:30 Swinging vs. Polyamory — What's the Actual Difference?16:00 Dating Separately for the First Time After Decades of Marriage19:15 Her First Real Poly Relationship — and What She Didn't Expect22:45 Inside a Swingers Club: What It's Actually Like26:25 The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Everyone Should Know30:00 Living with Her Husband's Girlfriend: The Resident V Setup33:35 Does She Ever Get Jealous? Honestly?36:15 What Her Son Knows — and How He Feels About It39:00 Coming Out as Polyamorous: Friends, Family, and Strangers Online41:45 Dating Much Younger Men After 4044:05 Is Polyamory an Orientation or a Choice?46:50 Fighting for Legal Protections for Non-Monogamous People48:20 Where to Find Natalie and Her Book Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Natalie Davis is the author Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory and the editor of the online publication Polyamory Today. Her work has appeared inHeart Affairs, Discovering Polyamory, Monogamish, and The Memoirist, and her opinions about polyamory have been published in The Washington Post.She has been interviewed on relationship podcasts and has presented workshops on communication and non-monogamy across the United States.A recovering DOJ trial lawyer, she lives in the Washington, DC, area, with her partner and her marvelous metamour. You can find her on Instagram, Medium,and her website as nataliedavisadventures.Connect with Natalie Davis:Website: https://www.nataliedavisadventures.comBook: Saying Yes: My Adventures in PolyamoryInstagram: @nataliedavisadventuresAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com

In this episode, I'm handing you the dating dictionary I wish I'd had years ago. If you've ever felt confused, blindsided, or just plain crazy after a date or relationship fell apart — you weren't imagining it. The behavior has a name. And once you can name it, you stop second-guessing yourself and start making better decisions.I walk through 10 modern dating terms — ghosting, zombieing, future faking, ghost lighting, micro-cheating, benching, banksying, breadcrumbing, love bombing, and situationships — what they look like, why they happen, and how to respond. I also share my 3-6-9 rule for checking in on compatibility at the right moments without over-investing too soon. The goal isn't to memorize a list. It's to trust yourself faster.In This Episode: 00:00 - Introduction & Why Naming Behaviors Matters00:48 - Ghosting: They Disappear With No Explanation01:35 - Zombieing: Coming Back Like Nothing Happened02:10 - Future Faking: Big Promises, Zero Follow-Through02:52 - Ghost Lighting: Ghosting + Gaslighting in One Toxic Move03:42 - Meet Lem From Nancy04:12 - Micro-Cheating: Is It Really Cheating?04:48 - Benching: You're On the Roster But Never In the Game05:14 - Banksying: The Slow Fade That Goes Nowhere05:40 - Breadcrumbing: Just Enough to Keep You Hooked06:15 - Love Bombing: Intensity Followed by Disappearance06:50 - Situationships: Emotionally Involved With No Clarity07:25 - The 3-6-9 Rule for Checking Compatibility08:05 - Final Thoughts & How to Trust Yourself FasterWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur

In this episode, I'm back with emotional intimacy expert Allana Pratt for Part 2 of a conversation that went places I never expected. We pick up where we left off — moving through self-forgiveness, the grip of self-loathing, and why judgment from others is actually an invitation to look inward. Allana shares a raw piece of her own story — six years estranged from her son, and the horrendous self-hatred she had to sit with and fully feel to finally reach wisdom. We get into soul embodiment, what it really means to be an anxious attacher, and why trauma is finite — not a life sentence. And because this is Taboo to Truth, we close it out with my three questions: her definition of sex, her best orgasm ever, and a fantasy she's never checked off the list. Buckle up — this one goes deep in every direction.In this episode: 00:00 - Welcome Back & Intro00:30 - Part 1 Recap: The Three Relationship Mistakes02:10 - Why Forgiveness Is Harder Than Acceptance04:30 - Self-Hatred Is the Last Thing to Go in Healing07:45 - Real Client Story: Stop Blaming Yourself for How Others React11:00 - The Teflon Method: Receiving Judgment Without Taking It On14:15 - How to Actually Sit With Self-Loathing Until It Transforms17:30 - Allana Opens Up: Six Years Without Her Son20:00 - Soul Embodiment & Body Wisdom21:45 - Can You Have a Real Relationship While Still Doing the Work?23:00 - Anxious Attachment, Rejection & Why Trauma Is Finite24:20 - The Three Questions: Sex, Orgasms & Unfulfilled Fantasies25:10 - Where to Find Allana & Scholarship CodeWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those ready to transcend heartbreak, live unapologetically and cultivate a soul-shaking relationship. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Actress Whoopi Goldberg, Musician Alanis Morissette and Physicist Nassim Haramein. She Hosts the edgy Podcast Intimate Conversations: Season 14- Dark Night to Divine Light, where listeners learn that intimacy is an inside job.A Certified Master Coach with over 7M viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. Interviewed over 850 times, she’s been chosen as an Icon of Influence and featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC, FOX, TLC, iHeartRadio and more.Connect with Allana Pratt:Website: https://allanapratt.com/connect (Allana is offering a scholarship for listeners to connect with her one-on-one at a reduced rate — ask her about it!)Podcast: Intimate ConversationsYouTube: /AllanaPrattPatreon: Allana PrattInstagram: @allanaprattAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur

In this episode, I'm introducing one of my favorite concepts for couples who feel like the spark has quietly gone out: sex snacks. Not whipped cream, not grand gestures — tiny, pressure-free moments of flirtation, touch, and attention that keep intimacy alive throughout the day. I break down why desire in midlife doesn't work like a light switch, why spontaneous desire often fades during perimenopause and menopause, and how responsive desire — the kind that builds once it starts — can still be very much alive. Sex snacks are designed to lower pressure and raise connection, and I walk through exactly what they look like in real life, why they work for both men and women, and how one small daily habit can shift the entire emotional tone of your relationship.In This Episode:00:00 If Your Partner Pulls Away From Touch, Listen to This First00:30 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 Why Couples Treat Sex Like a Three-Course Meal02:00 Desire Isn't a Light Switch — It's Momentum02:45 What Responsive Desire Means During Menopause03:15 What Exactly Is a Sex Snack?04:05 Real Examples: The 6-Second Kiss, the Back Rub, the Midday Text04:55 Flirtation Is the Most Underrated Aphrodisiac05:30 Touch That Communicates Warmth, Not Negotiation06:10 A Note for the Men Listening06:55 Sex Snacks Go Both Ways — Women Too07:30 Your Challenge: One Sex Snack Today08:00 Hotter Wiser Wilder & Men Meet Menopause Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur

In this episode, I sit down with emotional intimacy expert and certified master coach Allana Pratt to expose the relationship mistakes most of us are making — quietly, repeatedly, and often without realizing it. Allana breaks down three major patterns that keep love from going deep: withholding the full truth out of fear of rejection, abandoning ourselves and our communities the moment things get hard, and mistaking cognitive awareness of anger for actually processing it. Through raw client stories, her signature "Little You" practice, and the powerful Theater of Redemption process, Allana reveals what it really takes to show up vulnerably, keep your heart open even when you're furious, and finally break the cycles that have been running your love life. This is Part 1 — and you won't want to miss what's coming next week.In this episode:00:00 - Introduction & Welcome00:45 - Meet Allana Pratt: Emotional Intimacy Expert02:45 - Relationship Mistake #1: Only Telling 85% of the Truth07:00 - The Couple Who Almost Lost It All (And the Real Problem Behind It)11:15 - Core Wounds & Why We Attract the Same Pain14:30 - Relationship Mistake #2: Quitting When It Gets Hard17:50 - The "Little You" Practice: Building an Inner Foundation21:00 - Relationship Mistake #3: Unprocessed Anger Coming Out Sideways23:15 - The Theater of Redemption Process24:40 - Subscribe & See You Next Week Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Intimacy Expert, Allana Pratt is a global media personality and go-to authority for those ready to transcend heartbreak, live unapologetically and cultivate a soul-shaking relationship. This Ivy League grad is the Author of 6 books, has interviewed Actress Whoopi Goldberg, Musician Alanis Morissette and Physicist Nassim Haramein. She Hosts the edgy Podcast Intimate Conversations: Season 14- Dark Night to Divine Light, where listeners learn that intimacy is an inside job.A Certified Master Coach with over 7M viewers on YouTube, Allana was asked by Leeza Gibbons to coach her during Dancing with the Stars. Interviewed over 850 times, she’s been chosen as an Icon of Influence and featured on Huffington Post, People Magazine, Forbes, CBS, ABC, FOX, TLC, iHeartRadio and more.Connect with Allana Pratt:Website: https://allanapratt.com/connect Use code READYNOW for a scholarship to connect with Allana one-on-onePodcast: Intimate Conversations YouTube: /AllanaPratt Patreon: Allana Pratt Instagram: @allanaprattAbout the Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. 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In this episode, I'm joined by certified sexologist and Love Lab Podcast host Kevin Anthony for the most thorough — and most honest — sex toy review I've ever done. We pulled out everything: vibrators, pumps, prostate massagers, masturbators, depth limiters, positioning pillows, and more. We break down what each toy does, who it's really for, and whether it's worth buying. We also go deep on the health angle — because a lot of these tools aren't just about pleasure. They're about erectile health, pelvic floor function, blood flow, and the real changes that happen to our bodies in midlife. No brand deals swayed us. Just two sex educators giving you the full, unfiltered truth.In This Episode:00:00 - Intro00:22 - Welcome Kevin Athony01:51 - Mystery Vibe Tenuto 2 & Crescendo 204:04 - Dr. Joe Kaplan Penis Pump — Manual vs. Automated07:02 - Does Penis Size Actually Matter?09:15 - The O-Nut Depth Limiter11:28 - The Taboo Prim Positioning Pillow13:19 - Hello Nancy Clitoral Toys: Berry, LEM & Avo15:32 - FirmTech Smart Cock Ring17:45 - Kiru Lux Couples Toy19:36 - Kiru Kiron & The Handy Masturbators22:34 - Pjur Lube — Why Water-Based Matters24:03 - Aneros Helix Prostate Massager26:16 - Anal Plugs & The Safety Story28:07 - Bathmate Water Penis Pump29:36 - Luand Vibrators & Rabbit Vibrator31:49 - Glass & Stainless Steel Dildos33:18 - Dr. Joe Kaplan Vulva & Clit Suction Pump35:31 - B-Vibe Strap-On & Pegging37:22 - Final Thoughts & Where to Find Products Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. 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(includes Power Up Your Erections & Master Your Ejaculation) The most complete Men's Sexual Mastery Course: Get Rock Hard, Last As Long As You Want, Become A Sexual Master! → https://www.powerandmastery.com/a/6994/nrFEtLQu🍆POWER UP YOUR ERECTIONS! →https://www.powerandmastery.com/a/6112/nrFEtLQu💦MASTER YOUR EJACULATION! →https://www.powerandmastery.com/a/6113/nrFEtLQuKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Kevin Anthony is a Certified Sexologist by the American Board of Sexology, a Certified Tantra Counselor, Certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, and a Sex, Love & Relationship coach. For over 10 years I have worked with men, women, and couples to help them have stronger, happier, more loving relationships, and the best sex of their lives!He is also the host of “The Love Lab Podcast”, co-founder of the popular YouTube channel with Kevin Anthony & Céline Remy, and the co-creator of the online course series “Power and Mastery”; which is a complete Men’s S//xual Mastery Training to develop a man’s stamina, boost confidence, and enhance his s//xual abilities.Connect with Kevin Anthony:Website: https://www.kevinanthonycoaching.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kevinanthonycoachingTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and...

In this episode, I continue my conversation with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman. We cover what actually brings people — of all genders — to see a pelvic floor PT, from pain and constipation to erectile dysfunction and urinary urgency. Rachel breaks down what a prostatectomy really does to sexual function, whether men can get sensation back after prostate removal, and why erectile dysfunction is almost always multifactorial. We also get into how the pelvic floor behaves during orgasm, why some people experience cramping or pain afterward, the fascinating jaw-pelvis connection, and the nerve link between your feet and your pelvic floor (yes, really). And Rachel shares her top tips for maintaining a healthy pelvic floor — including why she prescribes masturbation and vibrators far more often than Kegels.In this episode:00:00 - Podcast Intro & Show Hook00:30 - Welcome Back & Part 1 Recap01:10 - Why Vulva & Penis Owners Visit a Pelvic Floor PT02:40 - Pain, Constipation & Gender-Neutral Symptoms03:50 - Erectile Dysfunction, Urinary Urgency & More05:00 - Diastasis Recti — Not Just a Women's Issue05:40 - What Is a Prostatectomy & How It Affects Sexual Function07:30 - Can You Get Sexual Function Back After Prostate Removal?09:00 - Erectile Dysfunction: Is It Ever Just a Pelvic Floor Issue?10:30 - How the Pelvic Floor Functions During Orgasm12:00 - Why You Might Feel Cramping After Orgasm12:50 - The Jaw-Pelvis Connection You Never Knew About14:30 - Feet, Nerve Roots & Toe-Curling Orgasms — Explained15:40 - Tips for a Healthy Pelvic Floor — Starting with Bowel Health17:00 - Why Rachel Prescribes Masturbation & Vibrators Over Kegels18:15 - Vibrator Recommendations for People with a Penis19:20 - When & How to Find a Pelvic Floor Specialist20:00 - Where to Find Dr. Rachel Gelman, Outro & Wrap-UpWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Dr. Rachel Gelman PT, DPT, CSC (she/her/hers) is a clinician, writer and educator. She received her Doctorate in Physical Therapy from Samuel Merritt University where she completed her clinical internship in pelvic floor rehabilitation. She has a special interest in sexual health and has received a certificate in sexuality counseling from the University of Michigan and is an AASECT certified sexuality counselor. She is a member of several sexual medicine associations including the International Society of Sexual Medicine and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She is the owner and founder of Pelvic Wellness & Physical Therapy in San Francisco. She is also an adjunct instructor at Samuel Merritt University where she teaches the pelvic health curriculum in the Doctor of Physical Therapy program.Connect with Dr. Rachel Gelman:Website: https://www.pelvicwellpt.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pelvichealthsfAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more!🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

In this episode, I'm tackling one of the most persistent — and medically inaccurate — myths about women's bodies: the idea that a woman becomes loose based on how much sex she has had and her body count. I break down the actual science of vaginal elasticity, explain why body count has zero impact on vaginal tone, and get real about what actually does change things over time — spoiler: it's pelvic floor health, not how many partners she's had. This myth has been used for decades to shame and control women, and it's time we replace it with facts..IN THIS EPISODE:00:00 - The Question That Went Viral00:50 - Welcome + What We're Debunking Today01:20 - Where the Loose Woman Myth Comes From02:10 - How Vaginal Elasticity Actually Works02:55 - What Arousal Has to Do With It03:35 - Ad Break (Firm Tech)04:05 - Pelvic Floor Muscles and Vaginal Tone05:00 - The Real Emotional Cost of This Myth05:45 - What We Should Be Talking About Instead06:10 - Final Thoughts + Resources Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

In this episode, I sit down with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel Gelman to uncover the one part of the male body that almost no one talks about — the pelvic floor. From erection strength to ejaculation control and orgasm intensity, Rachel breaks down exactly how these muscles work in men and women alike, why most people are walking around with a pelvic floor that's too tense (not too weak), and why Kegels may be the most over-prescribed exercise in sexual health. We also get into male incontinence, what a pelvic floor internal exam actually looks like, how consent is handled in the clinical setting, and why trauma plays a bigger role in pelvic floor treatment than most people realize. This is Part 1 — and trust me, you don't want to miss Part 2.In this episode:00:00 - Podcast Intro & Show Hook00:30 - Welcome & Karen's Introduction01:15 - Meet Dr. Rachel Gelman – Pelvic Floor PT02:40 - Women Are Learning About Pelvic Floor PT — But What About Men?03:45 - Half of Rachel's Patients Are Men04:30 - The Pelvic Floor Is Gender Neutral05:15 - Pregnancy & the Pelvic Floor — The Common Misconception06:10 - How the Pelvic Floor Works: The Muscular Hammock Explained07:50 - Sexual Function & the Pelvic Floor (For All Genders)09:30 - Karen's Tight Pelvic Floor — And Why Kegels Were Wrong for Her10:40 - Why Most People Have a Tense, Not Weak, Pelvic Floor12:00 - The Kegel Myth & Over-Prescription12:45 - Pelvic Floor Machines: Do They Help or Hurt?13:30 - Male Incontinence — How It Works & What Causes It15:10 - Prostate Surgery & Its Impact on the Pelvic Floor15:50 - The Internal Exam — Consent, Comfort & What to Expect16:55 - Trauma, Body Language & Knowing When NOT to Proceed17:25 - Wrap-Up, Part 2 Teaser & Outro Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the guest: Dr. Rachel Gelman PT, DPT, CSC (she/her/hers) is a clinician, writer and educator. She received her Doctorate in Physical Therapy from Samuel Merritt University where she completed her clinical internship in pelvic floor rehabilitation. She has a special interest in sexual health and has received a certificate in sexuality counseling from the University of Michigan and is an AASECT certified sexuality counselor. She is a member of several sexual medicine associations including the International Society of Sexual Medicine and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She is the owner and founder of Pelvic Wellness & Physical Therapy in San Francisco. She is also an adjunct instructor at Samuel Merritt University where she teaches the pelvic health curriculum in the Doctor of Physical Therapy program.Connect with Dr. Rachel Gelman:Website: https://www.pelvicwellpt.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pelvichealthsfAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🪄 Head to Mystery Vibe for award-winning devices that deliver precise vibrations to support erectile function and more!🛒 Link: https://tidd.ly/4mePTpF🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

In this episode, I'm addressing one of the most common — and least talked-about — causes of erectile dysfunction in midlife men: porn-related ED. If you or someone you love has noticed that things work just fine alone but shut down with a real partner, this isn't about age, hormones, or anything being wrong with you. It's about your brain — and how repeated exposure to high-stimulation content has recalibrated your arousal system. I break down exactly what's happening neurologically, why midlife men are particularly vulnerable, and walk through three clear steps to stop the cycle, rewire your brain, and rebuild real-world intimacy. This is not about shame. It's about understanding a pattern — and changing it.IN THIS EPISODE:00:00 Introduction — The Problem No One Talks About00:25 Podcast Intro00:58 What Porn-Related ED Actually Is01:38 What's Happening in Your Brain02:35 Why Midlife Men Are Especially Vulnerable03:10 Step 1: Stop Desensitizing Your Brain04:00 Step 2: Rewire Your Brain04:48 Step 3: Resensitize Your Brain to Real Pleasure05:42 You're Not Broken — Patterns Can Change Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss outKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

In this episode, I'm joined by comedian, writer, and viral content creator Matt Hyams, whose hilariously honest videos about life with a perimenopausal wife have racked up millions of views. What started as a way to process his own reality quickly became a platform that has resonated with husbands and wives everywhere.Matt opens up about the moment he realized his marriage wasn't falling apart — it was hormones. He shares how IVF gave him a surprising frame of reference for perimenopause rage, why he walks a delicate line between validating his wife and not setting a precedent he'll regret, and what it's actually like to work from home with the woman who is also your boss.We talk about role reversals, the mental load, hormone therapy, keeping sex alive in a long-term relationship, and the surprising ways humor can — and can't — save you in the bedroom. Matt also shares the practical advice he now gives other men who message him completely lost. Spoiler: it starts with boiling eggs before you're asked.This is the conversation every couple navigating perimenopause together needs to hear.In this episode:00:00 The Smell Test: A Perimenopause Comedy Intro01:30 Meet Matt Hyams: The Husband Who Went Viral02:50 How's the Marriage Actually Holding Up?05:00 IVF, Rage, and That Familiar Feeling06:45 Do Men Even Talk to Each Other About This?08:15 How the Word Perimenopause Entered His House10:15 The Holiday Blowup That Changed Everything13:15 She Said She Was Done — Then Forgot She Said It15:45 Hormone Therapy: She's on the Patch17:30 How Men vs. Women React to His Content18:45 Role Reversal: She's the Breadwinner21:45 Working with Your Wife and Disappointing Her Twice23:30 Did Going Viral Actually Make Things Better?25:00 Humor in the Bedroom: Where It Helps and Where It Doesn't27:15 Keeping It Spicy After 13 Years28:45 The Advice Every Man Needs When Perimenopause Hits Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout The Guest: Matt is a comedian, comedy writer, and husband to a perimenopausal wife.He's the winner of Stage32's 4th Annual TV Comedy ScreenwritingCompetition; he's performed in stand up festivals around the country; and his satire writing has appeared in McSweeney's (and some sites you've never heard of).Connect with Matt Hyam:Website: https://www.matthyams.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthyamsKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause🥰 If you want her to want you more — start by understanding her body better. Free resources → https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F

In this episode, I'm breaking down five practical secrets that can completely transform your sex life in a long-term relationship. If your sex life has gone quiet, predictable, or nonexistent, you're not alone — and you're definitely not broken. I walk through how to start having real conversations about sex, why desire doesn't start in the bedroom, the power of novelty and curiosity, how to expand your pleasure toolkit in simple ways, and a mindset shift around what sex even means that takes the pressure off and brings desire back. This one is equal parts practical, playful, and honest — and Secret #5 might change how you think about sex entirely.In this episode:00:00 Introduction — the one goal nobody puts on their list01:14 Secret #1: Upgrade how you talk about sex02:46 The sex menu tool — appetizers, mains & desserts03:35 Secret #2: Desire doesn't start in the bedroom04:52 Touch without an agenda — why it changes everything05:40 Secret #3: Interrupt the routine06:28 Secret #4: Expand your pleasure toolkit07:56 Praise kink & the types of orgasms nobody taught you08:43 Secret #5: Redefine what counts as sex09:41 The 5 shifts summarized + Hotter, Wiser, Wilder courseWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser🔥 Ready to spice things up? This Yes/No/Maybe list is your permission slip for pleasure. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/yes%2Fno%2Fmaybe%3F🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur

In part two, we go deeper into what actually drives mismatched desire and why so many couples get stuck in toxic patterns.I sit down again with Coral Osborne to unpack the psychology behind attraction, fantasy, and connection. We break down why you can feel intense chemistry with the wrong partner and disconnect with the right one. It comes down to understanding your erotic blueprint and the meaning behind your desires.We talk about fantasy analysis, why shame distorts sexuality, and how to start rebuilding intimacy in a real, practical way. If you have ever felt confused by your own desires or your partner’s, this episode gives you the language and tools to understand what is really going on.Timestamps:00:00 Intro: Going Deeper Into Desire00:45 Why We Misunderstand Attraction02:10 Toxic Chemistry vs Real Connection04:05 Why Men Outsource Desire05:40 The Language Gap Around Sex07:05 Fantasy Analysis Explained09:10 What Your Fantasies Actually Mean11:00 Why Sex Without Meaning Feels Empty12:30 Simple Tools to Rebuild Intimacy14:10 Why Fantasy Disclosure Builds Connection15:30 The Truth About “Vanilla” Sex16:50 Common Sexual Issues Men Face18:05 Why We Suppress Parts of Ourselves19:30 Sex as Expression and Identity20:50 Why Sex Matters More Than You Think21:40 What Men Really Need in Relationships22:40 Why Attraction Patterns Keep Repeating23:30 Outro and Where to Find Coral Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!About the Guest:Coral Osborne is a certified Intimacy & Identity Coach for men. She works with high-performing men who’ve built success everywhere except in their relationships, helping them reconnect with their authentic desires, emotional depth, and confidence in connection. Before becoming a coach, She spent years immersed in environments where men felt free to drop their guard and speak truthfully about what they were struggling with, performance anxiety, disconnection, loneliness, and the unspoken pressure to always have it together.Connect with Coral Osborne:Website: https://www.coralosborne.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborneKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: https://myfirmtech.com🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

If you want a better sex life, you need to learn how to talk about sex. In this episode, I break down why most couples avoid these conversations and how that silence creates distance, resentment, and confusion. I walk you through exactly when to bring it up, what to say, and how to say it in a way that builds connection instead of triggering defensiveness. You will learn how to lead with curiosity, ask better questions, and express your needs without blame. I also explain the real reasons desire shifts in midlife, from stress to hormones to body image, so you stop taking it personally. This is about turning sex from a source of pressure into a shared experience that brings you closer.Download my free communication tips for midlife couples below to get the exact language to open this conversation without making it awkward. https://www.taboototruth.com/free-resources-1/communication-tips-for-midlife-couplesIn This Episode:00:00 Why Communication Matters More Than Technique00:32 Why Talking About Sex Feels So Hard01:10 The Biggest Mistake Men Make01:45 When To Bring Up Sex The Right Way02:20 What To Say To Start The Conversation03:00 Questions That Open Her Up03:45 How To Express Your Needs Without Blame04:30 What Affects Her Desire In Midlife05:20 Shift To A Team Mindset05:50 Why Ongoing Check Ins Matter06:05 One Sentence That Changes Everything Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: https://myfirmtech.com🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Low libido and mismatched desire are not just about hormones. In this episode, I sit down with Coral Osborne, former escort turned intimacy coach for high-performing men, to break down what is really driving disconnection in relationships.We get into what men are not saying, why performance anxiety is rising, and how shame shapes desire. Coral shares what she learned from working with men in both sex work and coaching. The patterns are the same. Men feel pressure to perform, hide their needs, and avoid vulnerability.We talk about why sex is rarely just about sex. It reflects how you communicate, how you handle rejection, and how safe you feel expressing your truth. If you or your partner are dealing with mismatched desire, this episode gives you a deeper lens and practical starting points.In This Episode:00:00 Intro00:42 Why Low Libido Is Misunderstood02:10 Coral’s Story From Sex Work to Coaching05:20 What Men Really Wanted Behind Closed Doors08:10 Why Sex Is Rarely About Sex10:05 The Shame Driving Male Desire12:00 Performance Anxiety Explained14:10 Porn, Pressure, and Unreal Expectations16:05 Why Men Struggle With Vulnerability18:00 Erectile Issues and the Nervous System20:10 The “Nice Guy” Trap in Relationships22:10 How to Start Fixing Mismatched Desire23:50 What to Expect in Part TwoWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Coral Osborne is a certified Intimacy & Identity Coach for men. She works with high-performing men who’ve built success everywhere except in their relationships, helping them reconnect with their authentic desires, emotional depth, and confidence in connection. Before becoming a coach, She spent years immersed in environments where men felt free to drop their guard and speak truthfully about what they were struggling with, performance anxiety, disconnection, loneliness, and the unspoken pressure to always have it together.Connect with Coral Osborne:Website: https://www.coralosborne.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborneKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: https://myfirmtech.com🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopauseIf you love a woman and lately you feel like you are walking on eggshells around her, I made this episode for you.Many men were never taught what menopause really does to a woman’s body, brain, and sexuality. When these changes show up in a relationship, couples often feel confused, rejected, or disconnected.In this episode, I break down eight things every man should understand about menopause. I explain why menopause is a full body neurological and hormonal transition, why emotional reactions may feel sharper, and why libido often shifts from spontaneous desire to responsive desire in midlife.I also talk about vaginal dryness, painful sex, and why dismissing those symptoms can damage intimacy. When sex becomes uncomfortable, avoidance is not rejection. It is the body protecting itself.I also remind men of something important. Midlife is happening to both partners. Men experience hormonal shifts, changes in erections, and stress responses too. When couples acknowledge these changes together, intimacy becomes collaborative instead of defensive.Menopause is not the end of intimacy. With the right understanding, it can become the beginning of a deeper connection and a better sex life than you had before.In this Episode: 00:00 Why You Feel Like You’re Walking On Eggshells00:27 Why I Made This Episode For Men00:49 Menopause Is More Than Hot Flashes01:28 How Hormones Affect Her Brain02:02 Why Libido Changes During Menopause02:48 Vaginal Dryness And Pain During Sex03:38 Why Men Are Changing Too04:12 Confidence And Body Changes In Midlife04:43 Sleep Disruption During Menopause05:14 Treatment Options And Hormone Therapy06:03 Why Menopause Is A Couple’s Transition06:30 Men Meet Menopause CourseWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: https://myfirmtech.com🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

What do you do when the relationship is good, but the sex is boring?In part two of my conversation with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacey Friedman, we talk about what really happens to sexual relationships over time. We move beyond the idea of “dead bedrooms” and dive into boredom, communication, novelty, and the evolving nature of intimacy in midlife.We explore how to talk to a partner about disappointing sex without damaging their ego. Dr. Stacey Friedman explains why many couples lose desire simply because their sex life becomes predictable. And she shares practical ways to bring novelty back into the bedroom without pressure or shame.The conversation also explores topics many couples are curious about but rarely discuss openly. Alternative relationship structures, sexual exploration later in life, and how to redefine sex as connection rather than performance.If part one opened the door to rebuilding intimacy, part two shows how curiosity, communication, and creativity keep desire alive long term.In this episode:00:00 Welcome Back And Part Two Overview00:35 Karen’s Story About The “Lazy Lover”02:05 How To Talk About Bad Sex Without Hurting Ego03:30 Curiosity Instead Of Criticism04:40 Why So Many Couples Are Bored In Bed05:45 The Importance Of Novelty In Long Term Sex06:55 The Roller Coaster Analogy For Predictable Sex08:00 Simple Ways To Add Variety And Playfulness09:05 When Couples Consider Opening Their Relationship10:30 Why Alternative Relationships Sometimes Work11:55 Ad Break. Lem By Hello Nancy12:55 A Real Example Of A Couple Who Opened Their Relationship13:45 Navigating Midlife Changes In Sex And Desire14:40 The Daily Question That Strengthens Relationships15:25 Dr. Stacey’s Definition Of Sex15:55 Best Orgasm And Sexual Exploration16:15 Final Advice. Curiosity Keeps Desire Alive Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!🚨 If you are a man navigating your partner’s menopause and feel lost, check out my NEW course ‘Men Meet Menopause’! AND to celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopause Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified intimacy coach, and the unapologetically fierce voice behind The Purple Passion Project podcast. With decades in medicine and sexuality work, she helps people awaken desire, reclaim pleasure, and ignite passion through coaching, curated pleasure essentials, and provocative e-books. Known for making sex talk feel like your most daring friend, she turns taboo into tantalizing—zero shame, all heat. Dr.Stacy's motto: My passion is to help you create yours.Connect with Dr. Stacy Friedman:Website: https://drstacyfriedman.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstacyfriedmanPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-purple-passion-project/id1825458840Tease me, touch me, Talk To Me:https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/6960f9e9612364ee5873c8c9Reigniting passion in Long-Term Relationships:https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/69419a1f19a5c70271d8df18Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25 🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25 🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25 🛒 Link: https://lewand-massager.sjv.io/OYB9dQ💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

In this episode, I share a personal story I have never told in detail before. It begins in my early 50s after separating from my husband of 25 years and rediscovering sex in a new relationship. My libido was strong, my excitement was back, but something unexpected started happening. I suddenly could not orgasm.That experience sent me down a path that completely changed how I understand hormones, sexual health, and midlife sexuality. I talk about the appointment at a sexual medicine clinic that opened my eyes to the role of clitoral stimulation, vibrators, and something most women never hear about. Testosterone.I explain how low testosterone affected my ability to orgasm, how doctors evaluate hormone therapy for women, and why testosterone treatment must be carefully monitored. I also share the surprising moment in a doctor’s office that changed my relationship with pleasure forever.If your desire is still there but your body does not respond the way it used to, this episode explains why that can happen and what options exist.In this episode: 00:00 Why I decided to share my testosterone story01:02 Separating from my husband and rediscovering sex02:12 When orgasms suddenly became difficult03:15 The doctor visit that changed everything04:28 What I learned about clitoral stimulation05:20 Why women also have testosterone06:23 How doctors test hormone levels07:30 The vibrator moment that shocked me08:36 How testosterone therapy works for women09:33 Why some doctors avoid testosterone pellets10:31 How I take testosterone today11:25 The risks of taking too much testosterone12:27 Why testosterone has been a game changer for me13:00 My advice if you are struggling with sexual changesWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur 🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25 🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25 🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25 🛒 Link: https://lewand-massager.sjv.io/OYB9dQ🪄 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25 🛒 Link: https://lewand-massager.sjv.io/OYB9dQ🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Are you ever going to have sex again?It is the question so many couples in midlife are quietly asking. Sex has become obligatory. Or it has disappeared. Hormones have shifted. Resentment has built. Communication has broken down.In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with clinical sexologist Dr. Stacy Friedman to talk about how couples move from duty sex or no sex back to real desire. We break down spontaneous versus responsive desire. We explain why sex starts to feel like a chore. We talk about what happens after the lust phase fades and oxytocin replaces testosterone.We also cover:Why many women need arousal before desireHow long term relationships shift biologically and emotionallyWhat to do if you have not had sex in months or yearsHow removing the expectation of intercourse can rebuild intimacyHow to handle mismatched libidos without resentmentWhy collaboration works better than compromiseIf you feel stuck in the friend zone with your own partner, this conversation will give you a practical roadmap back to connection.And if you are a man trying to understand what menopause is doing to your relationship, my NEW course Men Meet Menopause is built for you! To celebrate the launch, iI am giving you 20% off with code MMPLAUNCH20 https://bit.ly/MeenMeetMenopauseTimestamps: 00:00 Men Meet Menopause Course For Men01:05 Welcome And The Question No One Wants To Ask02:10 When Sex Becomes An Obligation03:30 Responsive Vs Spontaneous Desire05:15 Why “Once We Start It’s Good” Happens06:45 The Lips Nips Below The Hips Problem08:05 From Lust To Dead Bedroom09:30 The Biology Of Testosterone And Oxytocin10:40 Sex Snacks And Daily Micro Connection11:45 Rebuilding After Years Without Sex13:05 Baby Steps Back To Intimacy14:20 Removing The Expectation Of Intercourse15:40 Redefining Sex Beyond Penetration16:30 Mismatched Libido And Collaboration17:30 Why Anger And Pressure Kill Desire18:00 Part Two Preview And Call To ActionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, certified intimacy coach, and the unapologetically fierce voice behind The Purple Passion Project podcast. With decades in medicine and sexuality work, she helps people awaken desire, reclaim pleasure, and ignite passion through coaching, curated pleasure essentials, and provocative e-books. Known for making sex talk feel like your most daring friend, she turns taboo into tantalizing—zero shame, all heat. Dr.Stacy's motto: My passion is to help you create yours.Connect with Dr. Stacy Friedman:Website: https://drstacyfriedman.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstacyfriedmanPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-purple-passion-project/id1825458840Tease me, touch me, Talk To Me:https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/6960f9e9612364ee5873c8c9Reigniting passion in Long-Term Relationships:https://e.drstacyfriedman.com/product-details/product/69419a1f19a5c70271d8df18Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comLINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: https://myfirmtech.com🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Half of men over 40 will experience erectile dysfunction.In this episode, I explain why ED is rarely only about sex. I walk you through what erections actually reveal about cardiovascular health, metabolic function, hormones, pelvic floor tension, and fertility.I break down why urologists call the penis a barometer of heart health. The blood vessels that support erections are smaller than the ones that support your heart and brain. That means they often show damage earlier. In many cases, ED appears years before a heart attack or stroke.I also talk about diabetes, high cholesterol, nitric oxide, testosterone shifts, excess body fat, and sperm quality after 40. We cover pelvic floor tension in men and why many men struggle with tight muscles, not weak ones.I share evidence informed tools some men use while they work on underlying health. These are not cures. They are supports.Most importantly, I reframe ED as information. Not shame. Not failure. A signal.In This Episode: 00:00 MaxPR From FirmTech And 15 Percent Off00:45 Why Erections Are About More Than Sex01:30 ED As An Early Health Signal02:20 Erections, Blood Flow, And Heart Risk03:15 Diabetes, Cholesterol, And Nitric Oxide04:00 Tracking Erections And Using Objective Data04:45 Wearable Devices And Pelvic Floor Support05:40 Pelvic Floor Tension In Men06:20 Medical Grade Pumps And Penile Health07:00 Fertility, Testosterone, And Lifestyle Factors07:40 The Real Risk Is Avoidance And SilenceWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES⭕️ Save 15% off on the MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: https://myfirmtech.com🚨 Save 15% on Tenuto using code T2T15🛒 Link: https://mv.health/products/tenuto💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Dating after divorce in your 50s can feel exciting, terrifying, and exhausting all at once. In this episode, I share 10 powerful questions you need to ask yourself before you get emotionally invested.These questions help you stop chasing chemistry and start choosing peace. We talk about nervous system safety, emotional consistency, authentic self expression, and why you should never date someone’s potential. I also break down the difference between chaos and connection, and why midlife is the time to stop auditioning and start being chosen.If you are tired of walking on eggshells, second guessing every text, or shrinking to keep the peace, this episode will help you recalibrate. At this stage of life, love should steady you. Not stress you.In This Episode:00:00 Intro. Dating After Divorce in Your 50s00:32 Question 1. Does This Relationship Make My Life Easier or Harder01:00 Question 2. Do I Feel Calm or On Edge01:30 Question 3. Am I Chosen or Still Auditioning02:00 Question 4. Can I Be Fully Myself02:30 Question 5. Do I Feel Safe Speaking Up03:00 Sponsor Break03:40 Question 6. Do Their Actions Match Their Words04:05 Question 7. Am I Growing or Shrinking04:30 Question 8. Would I Choose Them If Nothing Changed04:55 Question 9. Does This Feel Steady05:20 Question 10. Am I Truly At Peace05:50 Chemistry Versus Peace in Midlife Love06:10 Final Takeaway and Call to Action Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Hot flashes. Vaginal dryness. Sleepless nights.If menopause has made you feel disconnected from your body or from sex, you are not alone. In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down what really happens to your sexual health during perimenopause and menopause and why your sex life is not over.I share my own experience, including the reality of hot flashes interrupting intimacy, and explain how hormonal shifts in estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone impact desire, arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction.You will learn why pain during sex is common but treatable, why lubricant is essential, how vibrators support vaginal health, and what the research from the Kinsey Institute reveals about pleasure after 50.Menopause changes the conversation around sex. It does not end it. This episode is your invitation to approach pleasure differently and reclaim it on your terms.In This Episode:00:00 Hot Flashes And Lost Desire00:42 Why Menopause Changes Sex01:28 What Happens To Hormones02:15 Vaginal Dryness And Painful Sex03:05 Why Sex Still Matters For Your Health03:55 What The Kinsey Institute Found04:45 Solo Pleasure As Symptom Support05:35 Tools That Help. Lube And Vibrators06:20 Reclaiming Pleasure On Your Terms07:08 Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🍋 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💦 Shop my favorite lube from Pjur🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

In part two of my conversation with Venus O’Hara, we go beyond toys and into power. Venus shares the beginner anal toy she designed for absolute first-timers and the triple-motor toy created for layered external pleasure without pressure to penetrate. We talk about new tech in sex toys, from thrusting and tapping to air stimulation, and what actually feels different versus what is hype.Then we shift into something deeper. Venus explains orgasmic manifestation and how she used sexual energy to transform her life. We unpack sex magic, intention setting, affirmations during arousal, and why sexuality is powerful rather than shameful. We close with my signature questions, including her definition of sex, her most impactful orgasm, and the fantasy she still wants to experience.This episode is about agency, curiosity, and using your pleasure as power.Timestamps: 0:00 Why we had to go deeper 1:05 Beginner anal design and safety basics 3:15 The triple-motor toy and layered stimulation 5:40 New tech beyond vibration 7:30 AI and the future of sex tech 9:05 The three levels of sexuality 11:20 Discovering sex transmutation 13:30 How orgasmic manifestation works 16:00 Intention setting and affirmations during arousal 18:20 Definition of sex and sacred energy exchange 19:45 Her most impactful orgasm 21:00 Fantasy still to be explored 22:10 Where to find Venus and final thoughtsKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout Venus O'Hara:Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast.Connect with Venus O’Hara:Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-oharaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F53LZ6BYKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.LINKS, EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🌟DUOGLOW Thrusting Beaded Vibrator with Pulsating Stimulator🛒 Link: https://www.svakom.com/products/duoglow?srsltid=AfmBOopyPTlJoXEXEId3ooRUp6ygnH7ZtSIxpFgCLIPhPwc42oIxsBD4🔴 🔴 🔴 SATISFYER Tri Ball 1🛒 Link: https://us.satisfyer.com/us/satisfyer-tri-ball-1🚨 Save 35% off at svakom.com using code Venus35🛒 Link: http://svakom.com🚨 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

If you love her but feel like you are one wrong sentence away from a blow up, this episode is for you.In this Valentine’s Day special, I speak directly to men who want to support their partner through menopause without making things worse. Mood swings. Withdrawal. Irritability. Low libido. Exhaustion. These are not signs your relationship is failing. They are signs her hormones and nervous system are under pressure.I break down five practical tips that help you show up steady, calm, and supportive. You will learn how to regulate instead of fix, how to stop taking it personally, how to bring back touch without pressure, how to ask better questions, and how to reframe Valentine’s Day around relief instead of performance.I also share thoughtful gift ideas that say “I see you” without implying sex is expected. Cooling tools. Nervous system support. Body safe lubricants. Comfort focused intimacy.Menopause does not ruin relationships. Misunderstanding does. When you show up informed and grounded, she feels safe. And safety is the foundation of desire.In this episode:00:00 One Wrong Sentence Away From a Blow Up 00:26 Show Intro and What This Episode Covers 00:55 Substack Community Announcement 01:28 What Menopause Is Really Doing Behind the Scenes 02:05 Tip 1 Stop Fixing and Start Regulating 02:50 Cooling Tools and Smart Valentine’s Gift Ideas 03:20 Tip 2 Don’t Take It Personally 04:05 FirmTech Sponsor Message 04:45 Tip 3 Bring Back Touch Without Pressure 05:32 Tip 4 Ask Better Questions 06:05 Lubricants and Comfort Focused Intimacy 06:20 Tip 5 Make Valentine’s Day About Relief 06:45 Men and Menopause Course and Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!🔥Exclusive VIP Products & Discounts 🔥Get the toys and products I actually recommend. Use my personal discount codes!🧊 Shop my favorite Cooling Tools! Cooling Sheets https://amzn.to/3O2zyHWCooling Pillow Cases https://amzn.to/4rCfhajPersonal Air Conditioner https://amzn.to/4ttkDquCooling Necklace https://amzn.to/4ttkGTcCooling Bracelet https://amzn.to/4qjsrIfHandheld Fan https://amzn.to/4qjsrIfBra Inserts https://amzn.to/3O9s3yH🕯️ Shop my favorite massage candles🛒 Link: https://www.eyeoflove.com/collections/massage-candle?source=aw&sv1=affiliate&sv_campaign_id=2661196&awc=100459_1770841541_f93e5a416535be534c557d25c95deaab💦 Shop my favorite sub from at Pjur 🛒 Link: https://www.pntrac.com/t/8-10991-371921-141081?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.babeland.com%2Fsearch%3Fst%3Dproduct%26q%3Dpjur🍆 Save 15% off MaxPR using code TABOO15🛒 Link: myfirmtech.comKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastDISCLAIMER: This episode may include discussion of products, including affiliate links. That means I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. All opinions are my own. Please consult your healthcare provider before using any product discussed, especially if you have medical concerns, pain, or are using prescription medications.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I sit down with Venus O'Hara, one of the most trusted voices in pleasure education, to talk about sex toys for midlife bodies. We break down what makes a toy worth your time, how to spot safe materials, and why novelty alone does not equal pleasure. Venus shares how her standards changed after reviewing over a thousand products and what consistently delivers real orgasms in midlife. We also talk about boundaries, nervous system safety, and why confidence matters more than hype. This is a grounded, practical conversation for anyone who wants better sex without embarrassment or guesswork.In this episode: 0:00 Why I listen to professional sex toy testers0:36 What this show is really about1:15 Substack announcement and community invite2:00 Welcome to Taboo To Truth2:42 Introducing Venus O’Hara3:55 What makes a sex toy worth reviewing5:30 Why Venus avoids realistic toys6:55 The rabbit vibrator and external use9:10 Why penetration is not always the goal10:45 Toys as tools for couples and connection12:10 Erotic manifestation and fantasy14:00 Testing toys alone vs with partners15:20 Vibrators, insecurity, and partner dynamics16:55 Panty vibes, humor, and playful teasing18:30 Toys for menopause, dryness, and ED19:55 Wands, massage, and slowing things down20:50 Part two teaser and closing remarksPart 2 drops next Tuesday! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Raising orgasmic awareness. Author. British expat in Spain. Sex toy tester & designer. Brand Ambassador for Satisfyer. YouTuber. Fetishist. Feminist. Vegan. Yogini. Zen. Creator of The Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast.Connect with Venus O’Hara:Website: https://www.venusohara.org/about-venus-oharaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/venusohara/Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F53LZ6BYKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES🚨 Save 35% off at svakom.com using code Venus35🛒 Link: http://svakom.com🚨 Save 25% off on the Lem using code Taboo25🛒 Link: Hellonancy.com/discount/TABOO25🚨 Save 25% on Le Wand using code Taboo25🛒 Link: https://www.lewandmassager.com💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

In this episode, I break down anal sex without hype, fear, or pressure. I explain why curiosity shows up in midlife and why it has nothing to do with identity or performance. You learn how pleasure works anatomically, what safety really looks like, and why pain is never the goal. I cover common myths, real risks, emotional blocks, and how to talk about curiosity without turning it into pressure. This episode gives you information so you decide from choice, not shame or fear.In This Episode: 0:00 Anal feels less scary than you think0:30 Podcast intro and what this episode is really about1:10 Curiosity, fear, and why anal feels taboo2:05 Why curiosity shows up in midlife2:55 Why anal pleasure exists anatomically3:55 Clearing identity myths and penetration misconceptions4:45 Safety, condoms, and basic preparation5:45 Mess anxiety, prep myths, and expectations6:35 Pain myths, lube, and pacing7:20 Psychological blocks, shame, and consent8:20 Choice, communication, and closing messageWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!🔥 b-Vibe Best Butt Plugs and Anal Sex Toys for Solo & Couples🛒 https://bvibe.pxf.io/YRr3oPKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.EXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES👉 Save 20% at Kiiro using code KAREN10🛒 Link: https://www.kiiroo.com🚨 Save 20% at Ooyes using code TABOO20🛒 Link: https://www.ooyes.love⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Hormone therapy helps. But it does not fix everything.In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Diane Mueller to break down why libido often fades again after the initial HRT boost.You learn why desire is multi-layered, why lab work often misses real problems, and how blood flow, thyroid health, nervous system overload, pelvic floor function, and relationship dynamics all shape your sex drive.We also talk about erotic repair, redefining sex, rebuilding safety, and why pleasure is a health practice, not a luxury.If you feel frustrated, broken, or confused about why hormones did not solve your libido, this episode gives you clarity and next steps.Timestamps:0:00 Celebrating 150 episodes and why none of us are broken1:22 What Taboo To Truth is really about2:30 Why HRT feels great. Then libido disappears5:05 Chronic problems need more than one fix8:10 Why standard labs miss real issues11:05 Thyroid testing mistakes and energy loss13:30 Blood flow inflammation and nervous system disruption16:10 Pelvic floor myths women and men get wrong18:40 Blood sugar and numbness in arousal20:20 Desire mismatch and getting back on the same team22:55 Erotic repair and redefining what sex means25:40 Presence pleasure and why women dissociate28:10 Orgasms stress regulation and vibrators30:30 Libido as a health warning and where to start Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Diane Mueller, ND, DAOM, Board-Certified Sexologist (American Board of Sexology), is your go-to libido expert who’s been through the trenches herself. With dual doctorates in Naturopathic Medicine and Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, she founded MyLibidoDoc.com and hosts The Libido Lounge podcast to help women rediscover their pleasure and feel alive again.Connect with Dr. Diane Mueller:Website: https://mylibidodoc.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mylibidodocKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comEXCLUSIVE VIP DISCOUNTS, COURSES & FREEBIES👉 Save 15% at Arya.fyi Intimacy Concierge using code TRUTH15🛒 Link: https://www.arya.fyi🚨 Save 20% at Ooyes using code TABOO20🛒 Link: https://www.ooyes.love⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

You were probably taught to fear masturbation. I see this every day in my work with men and women. The problem is not self pleasure. The problem is guilt, misinformation, and nervous system disconnection. In this episode, I break down the biggest masturbation myths and explain what actually supports sexual health, erections, confidence, and pleasure after 50. I talk about porn use, erectile dysfunction, testosterone fears, technique, frequency, and shame. I also explain why orgasms act like pelvic floor training and why mindful self pleasure strengthens partner sex instead of replacing it. This is a no shame conversation about choice, awareness, and reclaiming pleasure as part of wellness.In this episode: 0:00 You were lied to about masturbation0:28 What masturbation is really linked to1:10 Why people feel guilt and anxiety around self pleasure1:55 Orgasms and pelvic floor health2:35 Why masturbation supports sexual function3:05 Myth one porn is the problem3:55 Myth two masturbation causes erectile dysfunction4:40 Myth three guilt is harmless5:15 Myth four technique does not matter5:55 Myth five masturbating too much6:25 Testosterone fears and final reframing of pleasureWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Mindful Masturbation For Men: Last Longer, Feel More, Perform Better with Kevin Anthony | Ep. 129 https://youtu.be/abRZQbLYaJ0Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.com🔥Exclusive Pleasure Discounts 🔥Get the toys I actually recommend. Use my personal discount codes!👉 Save 10% on Keon products at Kiiro using code KAREN10 🛒 Link: https://www.kiiroo.com/search?options%5Bprefix%5D=last&q=Keon🚨 Save 20% at Ooyes using code TABOO20🛒 Link: https://www.ooyes.love

In this episode, I sit down with Jim Benson to break down what multi orgasmic pleasure really means for men and why most men never learn it. Jim explains the difference between ejaculation and orgasm, why pleasure does not need to end with climax, and how presence, relaxation, breath, and body awareness change everything. They explore how men learn these skills over time, why partners play a powerful role in success, and how aging does not signal the end of sexual growth. This episode reframes male pleasure as something expansive, learnable, and deeply connected to emotional safety and presence.In This Episode:00:00 Why men believe orgasm equals ejaculation02:10 What multi orgasmic pleasure really means04:05 Why relaxation creates more sensation06:20 Breath and body awareness explained08:30 Orgasms without erection or ejaculation10:40 How partners support the learning process13:00 Practicing alone versus with a partner15:10 How long it takes to feel real change17:25 Aging, presence, and deeper pleasure19:40 Why sexual growth does not end with age21:10 Final thoughts and resourcesWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out! Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Jim Benson has dedicated his life to helping men of all ages and backgrounds love themselves more fully.For the past 20 years, he has been coaching guys to “breakthroughs in the bedroom.” His Awakened Masculine program blends best practices across disciplines to create a powerful transformative environment for men to experience more personal pleasure and relationship satisfaction.Connect with Jim Benson:Website: https://awakenedmasculine.com/Use code KBIG50 to save $50 off The Multi-Orgasmic Lover course https://awakenedmasculine.com/program/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

If you want a clear breakdown of your choices, download the ED Options Cheat Sheet with links and exclusive discounts here: https://www.taboototruth.com/ed-options-cheat-sheetIn this episode of Taboo To Truth, I talk honestly about erectile changes in midlife and beyond. I explain why ED happens, why it often starts with blood flow and heart health, and why silence and shame delay real solutions.I cover what most men are never told.Why Viagra and Cialis stop working for some menWhy guessing and self adjusting doses backfiresHow lifestyle shifts protect erections instead of punishing youWhat actually works when pills failThe truth about pumps, rings, shockwave therapy, hormones, injections, Botox, fillers, and implantsErectile dysfunction is not a moral failing. It’s a health signal. And there is no stage where options disappear.In This Episode:0:00 Erectile changes are normal and treatable0:58 Why erections change with age2:05 Blood flow, heart health, and ED3:10 Why pills stop working4:05 Pumps and rings explained5:00 Shockwave therapy and hormones6:05 Injections, Botox, fillers, implants7:30 The real takeaway and next stepsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Pre-order 'The Bedroom Gap' here: https://mariasophoclesmd.com/bookIf you think menopause is tough. Wait until it collides with andropause. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Maria Sophocles to talk about what she calls “The Bedroom Gap”. I wanted this conversation because I see how often couples drift apart in midlife, not from lack of love, but from lack of understanding and communication. We talk about what really changes in women’s bodies during menopause and in men’s bodies during andropause. We dig into pain, erectile changes, loss of desire, and why avoiding sex often creates more damage than addressing it directly. We focus on how couples can stay connected by redefining sex, learning together, and talking honestly.In This Episode:00:00 Menopause Meets Andropause02:10 Introducing the Bedroom Gap05:40 How Midlife Body Changes Affect Sex09:15 Why Couples Stop Talking About Intimacy13:00 Pain, Erectile Changes, and Sexual Avoidance17:10 Redefining Sex Beyond Intercourse20:45 Pleasure, Health, and Longevity24:20 How to Start Hard Conversations About Sex28:10 What Supportive Partners Do Differently31:40 Overlooked Menopause and Andropause Symptoms34:30 Final Takeaways and Book MentionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Dr. Maria Sophocles has been a leader in women's healthcare for nearly 30 years, specializing in menopause management and female sexual health. She founded Women’s Healthcare of Princeton, a progressive gynecology practice, and has been a visiting professor and NIH researcher in Switzerland. A board-certified ob/gyn and Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, she has pioneered innovative treatments, including CO2 laser therapy for vaginal atrophy. She serves as CMO of EMBR Labs, Director of Women’s Health Services for Curia Health, and is an advocate for women’s health policy. Dr. Sophocles is also an author, TEDWomen2023 speaker, and frequent media contributor on women's health topics.Connect with Dr. Maria Sophocles:Website: https://mariasophoclesmd.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mariasophoclesmdBook: https://mariasophoclesmd.com/bookKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Today I’m talking about a topic people whisper about or judge from the outside. Cuckolding. And no, it’s not what you’ve been told. In this episode, I break down what cuckolding actually is, how it differs from hotwife and stag vixen dynamics, and why the women drawn to it are not insecure or desperate. I explain the psychology behind it, the role of power and consent, and why this dynamic only works inside emotionally healthy relationships. This is a conversation about sexual autonomy, confidence, and telling the truth about desire.In This Episode: 00:00 Why this topic makes people uncomfortable00:40 What cuckolding actually means01:25 Cuckolding vs hotwife and stag vixen02:10 The stereotype versus the research03:05 The traits women in this dynamic share04:05 Sexual autonomy and power05:00 The question we should be askingWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

You think you know how to please a woman. Most men miss the basics.I sit down with Certified Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner & Somatic Intimacy Guide and & Virgin Island TV Expert Andre Lazarus to talk about what men misunderstand about sex, connection, and their own bodies. We cover emotional vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and why performance pressure kills pleasure. Andre shares what actually helps men reconnect with sensation, desire, and confidence in bed. This conversation goes deeper than technique. It starts with presence.In this episode: 00:00 Why most men miss the basics of intimacy01:10 Welcome to Taboo To Truth02:05 Introducing Andre Lazarus03:40 From U.S. Marine to intimacy work05:15 The biggest misconception men have about intimacy07:40 Why vulnerability feels dangerous for men10:10 Midlife dating and emotionally unavailable men12:45 Masculinity, culture, and emotional shutdown15:20 The little boy behind the tough exterior17:40 Masculine and feminine energy in relationships20:30 Who seeks this work and why22:45 What surrogate partner therapy really involves25:10 Attachment, endings, and rejection27:30 Sexual challenges men bring into sessions29:40 Practical tools to reconnect with the body31:45 Rapid fire questions and closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andre Lazarus:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/comingcloserwithandreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandreAndre Lazarus is a somatic intimacy guide and trusted voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. A former U.S. Marine, he brings a grounded perspective to vulnerability and desire. He is known for his work as a professional surrogate partner on the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped participants navigate intimacy with safety and presence. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre works with individuals and couples to move beyond performance and reconnect with their bodies, emotions, and each other.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

🩸Head to ProDx and use CODE: TABOO12 for 12% off! https://prodxhealth.com/products/full-10-home-collection-kit?variant=42594726838374&uid=9&oid=1&affid=44A herpes diagnosis does not end your sex life. I break down what herpes really is, how it spreads, and why shame has no place in the conversation. I explain HSV-1 and HSV-2 in plain language, talk through real transmission risks, and share how antiviral medication and honest communication protect both partners. We tackle the biggest myths head-on and redefine what fulfilling sex looks like after a diagnosis. This is about facts, agency, and staying connected without fear.In this episode: 00:00 Welcome and the lie about herpes00:28 What Taboo To Truth is about00:55 The initial fear after diagnosis01:25 Herpes is a virus, not a moral issue01:55 What herpes actually is. HSV-1 and HSV-202:40 Asymptomatic shedding and why many people do not know03:15 Outbreaks, triggers, and how common symptom-free cases are03:45 Antiviral medication and risk reduction04:20 The big dating truth about herpes04:55 Why herpes scares people so much05:20 Common misconceptions explained06:05 Antiviral treatment options and daily suppressive therapy06:55 Testing, sharing the episode, and closing message Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

💗 For her pleasure, head to https://www.goodvibes.com/sex-toys/c/gv004/vibrators💓 Use code: TABOO10 for 10% off at https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/3000/vibratorsIn this episode, I sit down with Ana Ornelas to dismantle everything we were taught about pleasure. We talk clitoracy, real anatomy, and why penetration alone leaves most women disconnected from orgasm. We break down the clitoris as a full internal organ, explain why arousal time matters, and expose the myth of the vaginal orgasm. This conversation closes the pleasure gap with facts, empathy, and practical guidance you can use immediately.In This Episode:00:00 Welcome and why clitoracy matters02:45 What clitoracy really means06:10 The clitoris versus the penis anatomy truth10:05 Why position changes pleasure14:20 Clitoral erections and arousal timing18:30 The vaginal orgasm myth explained22:40 Real orgasm statistics women never hear26:55 Context, stress, and desire30:40 How to learn what turns you on34:20 Communicating pleasure with a partner37:20 Closing the pleasure gap and final takeawaysWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Ana Ornelas, known as Pimenta Cítrica, is a Brazilian erotic writer, s//x educator, and pleasure activist based in Berlin. She wrote her first erotic story at twelve and never stopped. Growing up queer in Brazil, she absorbed deep s//xual shame. That experience shaped her mission. She chose to become the voice she needed earlier in life.Since relocating to Berlin in 2016, she has created s//x positive content across different formats, including scripts, audio and video for different brands, workshops, live experiences and public speaking.She co created I Am The Clitoris, a project dedicated to clitoral anatomy, pleasure, and education. Her work now extends into advocacy, where she challenges censorship and pushes s//xual wellness into the public conversation.Connect with Ana Ornelas :Website: https://pimentacitrica.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pimentacitricaKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Flirting after 50 is not subtle. It is intentional. It is confident. It is clear.In this episode, I break down how women over 50 signal interest without spelling it out. Flirting after 50 looks different. It is clearer. It is more confident. I walk through real world cues men miss every day. Eye contact. Touch. Humor. Questions that are not random. I also share subtle lines women use to open the door without chasing. If you are dating in midlife, this helps you read the room and respond with confidence.Timestamps:0:00 How Women Over 50 Signal Interest0:35 Why Flirting After 50 Is Clearer1:05 Eye Contact That Is Intentional1:40 Playful Teasing and Real Listening2:15 Touch and Body Language Cues3:00 The Hint Dropping Men Miss3:40 Fishing Questions About Your Status4:10 Flirty Lines That Open the Door5:15 Texting Signals and Compliments5:55 The Truth About Midlife Flirting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserThis episode is the best of 2025 and pulls together the moments that defined Taboo To Truth this past year. Let’s revisit the conversations that sparked the most reactions, the questions listeners were afraid to ask, and the truths that changed how people think about sex, desire, and relationships in midlife. This year we discussed why intimacy breaks down, why communication matters more than technique, and why owning your pleasure changes everything. This is a fast paced reset for anyone who wants better connection and more honest conversations about sex.Thank you for being with me and for being part of Taboo to Truth this year. These conversations work because you show up ready to learn, ready to question, and ready to talk about the things everybody else avoids. If one of these moments today stood out for you. Share it with someone who needs it.Timestamps:00:00 Why these moments mattered01:25 Desire versus obligation03:10 The orgasm gap explained05:05 Why communication fails06:55 When intimacy starts to fade08:40 Pleasure changes with age10:20 The advice listeners needed most12:00 What to take forward from 2025Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserDo you fall fast and then feel abandoned when they pull away? You are not broken. In this episode I explain the anxious and avoidant attachment cycle and why it feels so intense. I walk you through what is happening in your nervous system and how early patterns replay in adult relationships. You learn how to soothe yourself, set real boundaries, and redefine attraction so secure love stops feeling boring and starts feeling safe. This episode is for anyone tired of chasing connection and ready to choose consistency.Timestamps:0:00 The relationship pattern that keeps repeating1:45 Anxious and avoidant attachment explained3:30 Why avoidants pull away when things get real5:10 What anxious attachment feels like in the body6:55 Familiar pain and childhood wiring8:30 Why answers from them never bring relief10:00 How to calm your nervous system before reacting11:45 Redefining attraction and chemistry13:20 What secure love actually feels like14:20 Closing reflection on choosing safety Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserSex feels like work for many women. Desire fades. Resentment builds. In this episode, Annette Benedetti explains why this happens and how intimacy breaks down over time. She unpacks the orgasm gap, the damage of performance driven sex, and why penetration centered intimacy leaves women disconnected. You hear why foreplay throughout the day matters, why aftercare changes desire, and how owning your own pleasure transforms relationships. This episode gives men clarity and gives women permission to stop performing and start feeling.In this episode: 00:00 Why sex starts to feel like work03:40 The orgasm gap and why it matters07:50 How sex becomes performative for women12:30 Why desire fades in long term relationships16:45 Foreplay happens all day21:30 Why penetration centered sex fails women26:10 Aftercare and emotional safety30:40 What men want and why they feel unwanted35:20 How to talk about sex without blame39:10 Owning your own pleasure and reconnecting Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Annette Benedetti is an intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette, the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment.From k*nk to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expertise, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure.Connect with ___:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannettePodcast: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserDating apps promise connection, but for many midlife daters they deliver frustration, confusion, and burnout. In this solo episode, I share why I stepped away from dating apps, what repeated dead-end conversations taught me, and how honesty, boundaries, and self-awareness matter more than chasing matches. We talk about pursuit, ghosting, who should ask first, who should pay, and why rejection is information. If dating feels exhausting, this conversation is for you.Timestamps:In This Episode:0:00 Intro and why dating apps felt different this time1:05 Frustration, negative energy, and attracting the wrong matches2:20 Why app conversations stall and go nowhere3:35 Moving from texting to phone calls and what silence signals5:00 Who should pursue, ask first, and pay6:35 Politics, dealbreakers, and dodging bullets earlyWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser is now 75% OFF! Use code HOLIDAY2025 at checkout! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserSuzanne Noble joins me for a raw, funny, direct conversation about dating, sex, kink and honesty after 50. You hear what dating looks like in the UK versus the US, why so many men think they are going to be the one to “fix” your orgasm, how porn shapes expectations, how women think about body image as we age, and why younger partners are on the rise. Suzanne breaks down the UK’s kink culture, why dominatrixes are fully booked, and how to explore safely. We also talk about jealousy, non-traditional relationships, safety on dating apps, catfishing, and why so many of us refuse to shave our pubic hair for a man. This episode is candid, smart, and packed with insights about midlife dating and sexual confidence.Timestamps:In this episode:00:00 Holiday masterclass offer00:35 Welcome intro and episode setup01:18 Are Brits more open about sex02:22 The UK’s kink history and boarding school culture03:58 How early life stages shape sexual dynamics05:20 BDSM clubs and the UK Femdom scene06:35 Why kink is built around control, not intercourse07:40 Are Brits really more open than Americans08:32 Dating men who listen to the podcast09:48 Younger men and orgasm expectations10:42 Why people hide their curiosity about sex11:30 Porn influence, squirting, and sexual performance myths12:45 The rise of sexual repression in America13:40 Dating younger partners and why it appeals to women14:55 Midlife relationships, jealousy, and complexity16:05 Opening relationships and personal boundaries16:58 How to stay safe while dating after 5018:10 Spotting catfish and bot profiles19:22 When a profile is too good to be true20:15 Shifting into body image and aging21:00 Feeling confident naked as you age21:48 When men do not match their claimed fitness22:25 Grooming norms. Pubic hair expectations in the UK23:05 Saying no to grooming requests you do not want23:42 Early experiences with kink24:30 Why experience matters for safety in kink25:10 Learning impact play in community spaces25:35 Closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Suzanne Noble is the Co-founder of Startup School for Seniors, co-host of Sex Advice for Seniors, and jazz & blues pro singer. Connect with Suzanne Noble:Website: https://suzannenoble.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexadviceforseniorsSubstack: https://www.sexadviceforseniors.com/Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

Many people fantasize about exploring intimacy with three people, but very few know how to talk about it or where to begin. In this episode, I walk through communication steps, boundary-setting, and five setups that help people feel grounded instead of overwhelmed.In this episode, I break down what people over 50 are most curious about when it comes to trying a threesome. You get clear guidance on communication, consent, emotional grounding, and five practical positions that make a threesome feel exciting instead of overwhelming. This episode gives you structure, safety, and real world tips you can use to talk with your partner before anything happens.Timestamps:In this episode: 00:00 Intro. Why group intimacy is a top fantasy00:20 What makes a three person experience different00:45 Welcome to Taboo to Truth01:05 The reality of trying a threesome in midlife01:32 The question no one asks. What do you do with three bodies01:55 Five setups to make things feel comfortable02:05 The disclaimer on dynamics02:18 Why talking before touching matters02:52 Boundaries, desires, and clear agreements03:18 Position 1. Lounge chair03:45 Position 2. Tandem touch04:15 Position 3. Side by side connection04:42 Position 4. Double rider05:15 Position 5. The bridge05:55 Essentials. Consent, protection, and sharing the spotlight06:25 Laughing off the awkward parts06:48 Final thoughts on curiosity and exploration07:00 Closing Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode of Taboo To Truth, I sit down with surrogate partner and intimacy coach Brian Gibney to talk about what happens when touch, sex, and therapy meet. We walk through the origins of surrogate partner therapy, how it supports traditional talk therapy, and why it sits inside the world of sex work while still holding clear ethical boundaries. Brianan explains who seeks out this work, what sessions look like in real life, how attachment and feelings show up, and why sex itself often turns out to be a symptom rather than the real issue. We also talk about non-monogamy, money, how to vet an ethical surrogate partner, and Brian’s very expansive definition of sex.Timestamps:In This Episode:00:00 - What if sex was part of your therapy01:08 - What surrogate partner therapy is and why talk therapy hits a limit03:42 - Masters and Johnson and the birth of surrogate partners06:05 - Sex work, the “whorarchy”, and where surrogates sit in it09:18 - How surrogate partner therapy differs from full service intimacy work11:52 - The therapeutic triad: client, therapist, surrogate13:40 - Who seeks this work: trauma, pain, cancer, disability, shame17:05 - First sessions, nerves, and why the work starts with “hello”19:40 - When clients expect something more and run the “checklist” for access22:15 - Entitlement, hard conversations, and repeating old patterns24:05 - Attachment, feelings, and why the “box” stays small26:10 - Brian’s non monogamy and protecting his own relationships28:30 - Boundaries to this work30:35 - How to vet a legitimate surrogate partner and red flags32:10 - Brian’s expansive definition of sex and why PIV is not the gold standard34:00 - Final thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Over the course of his life, Brian has worn many hats: research scientist (BA, Molecular biology; Masters, Microbiology), teacher, professional artist, performer, and parent.  The common thread that has run through all of those vocations has been his joy in learning, discovery, and improvement. In parallel with his professional life, He has also been keenly interested in interpersonal interactions, intimacy, and authenticity.  These two facets have merged in his practice as a Surrogate Partner.  He received his training in surrogate partner therapy from IPSA (the International Professional Surrogates Association) in 2016 and co-founded the Surrogate Partner Collective and Chair of AASECT’s Somatic S//xuality Professionals Special Interest Group.Connect with Brian Gibney:Website: https://www.briangibney.orgInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/brian_gibney_intimacyKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.

In this episode, I react to  a provocative cultural shift highlighted in Vogue’s viral piece “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?”. Straight women are hiding their partners online. Faces are blurred. Fiancés are cropped out. Entire relationships are reduced to a hand on a steering wheel. The fear is that posting a boyfriend makes a woman look less independent and less culturally relevant. I  compare this to myr own experience as a boomer who grew up with the belief that partnership was an achievement. I explore how this shift affects men, why younger women feel pressure to appear single, and what it says about the evolving politics of heterosexual relationships. The episode asks listeners to rethink why sharing a romantic partner feels risky now and whether avoiding visibility is about independence, superstition, image, or something deeper.Timestamps:00:00 Intro00:22 The purpose of breaking taboos00:45 Why women hesitate to like or share sex content01:15 Introducing the episode and today’s question01:33 The Vogue article and the rise of “boyfriend embarrassment”02:05 How age and upbringing shape views on partnership02:40 The clash between independence and being partnered03:15 How shifting gender roles impact men03:45 Why posting a partner feels risky for some women04:20 The 70 year old who feels odd saying “my boyfriend”04:48 Why Karen sees partnership as joyful, not submissive05:15 The fear of judgment and the pressure to appear independent05:48 Why some women reject men after negative experiences06:20 Karen’s final questions about posting your partner06:45 Closing message and sex positive reminderWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout The HostKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Menopause does not wait until you feel “old,” and it does not only live in your hot flashes. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Lauren Streicher, one of the leading experts in menopause and sexual medicine, to talk about sexless relationships, painful penetration, and why so many women suffer in silence when solutions exist.We break down what really happens to your hormones, blood flow, muscles, nerves, and brain during perimenopause and postmenopause and how all of that shows up in your sex life. Dr. Streicher explains why painful sex is never something you should push through, why lubricants on their own rarely fix the problem, and why local vaginal estrogen is one of the safest and most misunderstood treatments in midlife.We also talk about access to care. Who helps you when your doctor shrugs, you live outside a big city, you are on Medicare, or you survived cancer and nobody ever mentioned sex in your follow up. Dr. Streicher shares what a real sexual medicine consult looks like, why pelvic floor physical therapy often changes both back pain and bedroom pain, and why there is no expiration date on your vagina, even after years of a dry spell.If you are in a sexless relationship, scared of hormones, or confused about where to start, this episode will give you language, options, and hope, plus a roadmap to Dr. Streicher’s new deep dive audio course, “Come Again,” for women and professionals who want real data, not fear.In This Episode:00:00 – Welcome and show intro.00:32 – Why sexless relationships link to menopause.02:10 – Menopause is not an “old woman’s” issue.04:20 – Sexual problems that start before menopause.06:30 – What a normal sexual response needs.09:25 – How estrogen loss affects sex and desire.12:40 – What happens in a sexual medicine consult.15:20 – Why doctors rarely refer to sexual medicine clinics.18:05 – Telehealth for menopause and its limits.21:30 – Why menopause never fully “ends.”25:05 – Painful sex and the need for accurate diagnosis.29:10 – Vaginal estrogen use, placement, and safety.33:15 – Partners, pain, and the “use it or lose it” myth.36:40 – Pelvic floor pain, SSRIs, and low libido.38:40 – Wrap up and closing message.Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastAbout the Guest:Lauren Streicher, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, a certified menopause practitioner of The Menopause Society, and the founding Medical Director of the Northwestern Medicine Center for  Sexual Medicine and Menopause. She is  a Senior Research Fellow  of the Kinsey Institute of Indiana University.  In addition to her academic appointment at the Feinberg School of Medicine, Dr. Streicher is on the faculty of Northwestern University’s Graduate Program in Reproductive Science and Medicine for students pursuing a Master of Science degree in medical research.She is also the Faculty Advisor for The Medical Student Forum on Female Sexual Dysfunction, an organization to facilitate Chicago area medical students to collaborate, learn, and educate their academic peers about female sexual medicine. Dr. Streicher serves on many advisory boards including The Kinsey Institute, Let’s Talk Menopause, Let’s All Talk Menopause, Tell, LUWI, and Midi Health. Read more: https://www.drstreicher.com/aboutConnect with Dr. Streicher:Website: https://www.drstreicher.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstreichSubstack: https://drstreicher.substack.com/Podcast:: https://www.drstreicher.com/podcastLimited Podcast ‘Come Again’: https://www.drstreicher.com/comeagainAbout the host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

Part 2 of my interview with Dr. Tara goes deeper into erotic solutions for long term relationships, techniques that rebuild desire and the practices couples use to reconnect without penetration. Dr. Tara breaks down yab yum, sexual meditation, mutual masturbation and the role lube plays in midlife pleasure. You learn why women respond differently to pressure, why adoration matters more than appreciation and why most couples never speak honestly about kink. Dr. Tara also explains sex parties, sex cruises, female ejaculation, squirting technique, cuckolding, hot wifing and how non monogamous couples build trust. This episode gives you practical tools to increase intimacy, try new experiences and communicate without fear.Timestamps:00:00 Part 2 intro00:18 Why couples need more than toys00:40 Erotic solutions for sexless marriages01:05 Yab yum explained02:02 How yab yum builds intimacy02:45 Breathwork and skin-on-skin connection03:20 Removing pressure and responsive desire04:05 Why midlife women shut down sexually04:42 The role of lube in midlife pleasure05:20 How to give a yoni massage06:10 Slip and slide technique with lube06:45 Why receiving is hard for many women07:20 Why hand jobs are powerful for connection08:02 Using a vibrator while giving a hand job08:40 Why giving can boost intimacy09:20 Appreciation vs adoration10:15 Why women need adoration to feel sexy11:00 Emotional safety and sexual openness11:32 How to ask for kink without scaring your partner12:10 Using the media mention method for kink12:52 Dr. Tara’s sexual profile13:33 What “kinky” means for different people14:10 What erotic parties are really like15:02 Why sex parties are safer than nightclubs15:45 The age differences at sex parties16:12 Female led sex parties and sex cruises17:05 Dr. Tara’s first sex party experience17:40 Understanding squirting and female ejaculation18:15 The technique that triggers squirting19:02 Can you make yourself squirt19:40 Cuckolding and hot wifing explained20:10 How open couples build trust and connectionWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!About the Guest:Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.Connect with Dr Tara:Website: https://www.luvbites.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.coKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE Ohttps://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure! https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

In part 1 of this episode, Dr. Tara joins me for a conversation about sexual repression, sexual expression, mindful masturbation and why communication shapes every satisfying relationship. You learn how cultural conditioning shapes your sex life. You learn why exposure therapy helps you rebuild confidence with sexual pleasure. You learn how to restart sexual conversations in long relationships without shame or pressure. You also learn why non penetration activities often bring couples in midlife back to desire. This episode delivers practical tools you can use tonight. And be sure to come back for part 2 on Friday! In this episode:00:00 Intro00:26 Why orgasms trigger emotional release02:15 Dr. Tara’s background and early sexual repression04:55 Culture shock and body confidence in Finland06:45 Moving to the US and studying relationships08:24 The moment she shifted into sexuality research09:32 Divorce, shame and rebuilding sexual identity11:05 Ethical non monogamy and communication skills12:14 How exposure therapy builds sexual comfort13:28 Mindful masturbation and sexual meditation14:42 How to restart sexual conversations with your partner15:51 Erotic solutions for sexless or low desire marriages17:10 Part two coming soon! Want a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today’s discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don’t miss out!About the guest: Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (received her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, columnist on Women’s Health Magazine with her own column 'Sexplore with Dr. Tara’ and the host of Luvbites Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. She’s also the new co-host of LOVELINE, the iconic radio show. Her work has been featured in ABC News, KTLA, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and various media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.Connect with Dr Tara:Website: https://www.luvbites.coInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.coBook: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) - https://a.co/d/1XloTnjAbout The Host: Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.🩷 Head to https://www.arya.fyi for 15% off - An Intimacy Concierge for couples⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiser

🩷 Head to https://www.arya.fyi for 15% off with coupon code: TRUTH15 - An Intimacy Concierge for couples⏩ FREE: 10 TIPS EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THE FEMALE O https://www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook🚨 Head to https://www.ooyes.love and use code TABOO20 for 20% off at checkout!💋 Hotter, Wilder, Wiser | You’ve mastered everything else in life — now master pleasure!https://www.taboototruth.com/hotter-wilder-wiserIn this episode of Taboo To Truth, I break down the four techniques I teach men who want to turn their partner on with confidence. I explain why old moves fail with a new partner. I show you why bragging about your skills shuts a woman down. I walk you through the steps most women respond to. You learn why slow kissing matters, why touch needs intention, how oral sex shifts with hormones, and why toys increase pleasure for women at every age. This episode gives you a simple plan to become a more attentive and more satisfying lover.Timestamps:00:00 When old moves stop working00:32 Why bragging about your skills backfires01:06 Why slower sex increases arousal01:50 The four techniques women respond to02:10 Deep, slow kissing03:00 Touch that builds tension04:03 Oral sex based on her cues05:12 Why toys boost pleasure06:30 Why penetration rarely leads to orgasmTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastKaren Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: [email protected]: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastSubstack: https://karenbigman.substack.comTake control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.Take control of your pleasure with my Pleasure Playbook, filled with tips to help you connect with your body and enhance intimacy. Download it now at www.taboototruth.com/pleasureplaybook.